Coping with Loss During the Holidays

Why is it that the holidays stir up such deep emotions?

Well, when we consider the many traditions concerning the holidays – from the food and the music to the decorations and festivities – it is difficult to not be reminded of those who are no longer with us. Those who have touched our lives forever leave their mark in our memories.

Most families have some traditions centered around food. In my family, we always had steaks on the grill on Christmas eve, along with loaded baked potatoes. My mother would garnish the steaks with plenty of garlic. Even though my parents are no longer living, we still carry on the tradition and make a toast to them before dinner.

The silver lining of experiencing loss is often that the surviving family members can become closer. In realizing the preciousness of life, we treasure our time together.

When grief hits you, there may be times you have to give yourself permission to take care of yourself. Saying no to some holiday festivities is allowed. Most will understand if you simply do not have the energy to devote to celebrations. This is normal. Allow yourself a nice balance of time with others and time for yourself. Get plenty of sleep, eat sensibly, and try to avoid overexertion.

Consider fun new activities that you can turn into new traditions. Consult your family to get ideas or activities that they might like to start. Sometimes the grandkids will like to chime in and it makes them feel important that they, too, can contribute to family traditions.

Remember that our loved ones who have passed would want us to find joy and appreciate the magic of the holidays. In this way, we honor their memory.

Beth Hearn Douglas is a marketing communications professional and freelance writer with a passion for quality senior care and health care. Her online portfolio is www.douglasmarketingworks.com.