San Diego Veterans Magazine April 2025

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Welcome to San Diego Veterans Magazine!

SDVM is a veteran-focused magazine throughout ALL San Diego & Southern California. It serves to assist all veterans, active military as well as their spouses and families.

It is the leading veteran magazine emphasizing resources & support and focusing on topics and issues facing today’s veteran community. SDVM focuses on resources, support, community, transition, mental health, inspiration and more...

The content is the driving force behind our magazine and the connection it makes with our veterans, service members, military families, and civilians.

The magazine is supported by the city of San Diego and a distinguishing list of veteran organizations & members, resource centers, coalitions, veteran advocates, and more. We are honored to share the work of so many committed and thoughtful people.

Despite all the challenges, our team has upheld their focus and let not one opportunity go to provide resources and support to our veterans & military personnel.

On behalf of our team, we wanted to take this moment to say THANK YOU to the readers and our military-veteran community for supporting our magazine. With that support we aim to make a difference and continuing to make a profound impact on the quality of life for our veterans, military personnel and their families.

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Monthly Columns

What’s Next In Transition

Eve Nasby

Human Resources

Paul Falcone

Franchise Dreams

Doug Dwyer

Successful Transitioning Stories

Dr. Julie Ducharme

Veterans in Business

Barbara Eldridge

Risky Business

Hadley Wood

Real Talk: Mental Health

Hope Phifer

PTSD: Reclaiming Control

Robert ‘Bob’ Cuyler, PhD

Legal Eagle

Kelly Bagla, Esq.

Veterans Chamber Commerce

Joe Molina

Midway Magic

David Koontz

Veterans Chamber Commerce

Joe Molina

Contributing Writers

Wounded Warrior Project

Disabled American Veterans

(In-House) Correspondents

Holly Shaffner

CJ Machado

Lori Noonan

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The Making of a Midway Docent

Wanted – people with positive attitudes, strong interpersonal skills and public speaking experience who can communicate clearly and concisely, and, as a bonus, have a flair for diplomacy. In other words, those who possess the “gift of the gab.”

The USS Midway Museum’s docent corps ticks all those boxes, and then some. This outgoing cadre of volunteers, nearly 500, are the collective face of the museum to more than 1 million guests every year. The initial interaction they have with each visitor sets the tone for the entire guest experience on board the ship.

Prospective docents, however, don’t just walk aboard and put on their yellow hat. A very detailed training program is in place to ensure that their knowledge of the ship and the Navy matches their extroverted personalities.

“I am responsible for the overall conduct and content of the docent training program,” said Mark Pugh, a docent since 2007 who wrote the museum’s current docent training manual. “I’ve been involved with 58 docent classes over the last 18 years and have an ingrained ability to create and manage a training program. I did it in the Navy as a flight instructor and as a civilian ground school instructor preparing students for FAA tests. It is rewarding.”

Pugh, a former Navy F-4 Phantom pilot, and his team of trainers just graduated docent class 77. After two months of comprehensive instruction, 14 new docents took to the deck plates of Midway.

"I first came aboard the Midway about five years ago with my daughter and family and thought that a great thing to do when I retire would be to volunteer,” said Patrick Poarch, a U.S. Marine Corps veteran who spent six years as a Marine security guard at multiple U.S. embassies in Central and South America.

“What a great history we have docked in San Diego. Once I started my training, I soon found there is a lot more to volunteering. The amount of education and history of the ship to pass on to guests is vast.”

The Docent Candidate Training Program is divided into three categories that include classroom instruction, museum tours, and on-the-job training. Prior military experience is not required, in fact, several candidates in each docent training class have not served in the armed forces.

“At first blush, one would assume that military veterans would have an enormous advantage, but the reality is that every candidate, including civilians, learn a great deal during the training,” said Todd Hyde, a senior docent instructor and mentor who has been volunteering for Midway for nearly 14 years. “We address the whole ship and more importantly the museum’s exhibits, facilities and operations. So there no significant advantage for a veteran with military experience compared to a someone with only a civilian background.”

Maryna Kuziakina immigrated from Ukraine 11 years ago. Shortly after Russia invaded Ukraine, Maryna was asked to teach a conversion course from Russian to Ukrainian for military officers at San Diego State University. As part of her immersion course, she began bringing her students to Midway, and fell in love with the museum.

“I became a U.S. citizen a year ago and volunteering at the Midway is my way of giving back to the country I am so proud to call home,” said Kuziakina, who holds a Ph.D. in education and has more than 20 years of teaching experience. “I enjoyed the docent training course. It is incredibly well-organized, with outstanding instructors who make the learning process truly engaging. It’s amazing how much I learned in just eight weeks."

The standardized training program ensures that all new docents share the same accurate information with museum guests. Becoming a docent also provides a unique esprit de corps experience that the docents find just as valuable as being representatives of Midway.

Currently, nearly 25 percent of Midway’s docents come from the civilian sector, and the percentage is growing.

“It wasn’t too long ago that close to 90 percent of our docents previously served in the military,” said Jack Gale, Midway’s docent director who joined the museum family in 2010. “However, we are continuing to see more and more interest from those wanting to volunteer who have no military experience.”

One of Midway’s newest docents is not only a civilian but was born outside the United States.

“I was always attracted to working on the ship and was actually gearing up for the docent track just before COVID hit and I had to put volunteering on the shelf,” said new docent Jim Trump, a former Navy helicopter pilot who landed on the USS Midway (CV-41) several times while assigned to his Japan-based squadron. “It’s sort of a closure thing and I find the fellowship and camaraderie afforded on the ship to be very cool.”

Comprehensive training coupled with enormous enthusiasm keep Midway’s docents and other volunteers the life’s blood of the museum.

Midway docent trainer, Todd Hyde (r), discusses the docent program with Patrick Poarch, Maryna Kuziakina and Jim Trump.

Midway docent mentor, Bob Hartman, conducts training with Maryna Kuziakina.

From the Battlefield to the Homefront: The Veteran Struggle for Belonging

By Chris Flaherty, CEO of Nation’s Finest https://nationsfinest.org

Each year, over three million people visit the Vietnam War Memorial in Washington. Relatives of service members, tourists, and veterans walk alongside its 200-foot-long granite walls, their faces reflected in the polished black stone, engraved with the names of over 58,000 fallen soldiers. Families trace the names of lost loved ones, veterans stand in quiet reflection, and wreaths are laid in remembrance. It is a solemn tribute to those who never returned.

Upon reflection during last month’s observance day, I realized we must do more than mourn the dead — we must confront a difficult truth. Many veterans who survived never truly felt welcomed home, a lingering reality that persists today. General William Westmoreland, the commander of U.S. forces during Vietnam said, “When the soldiers came home from Vietnam, there were no parades, no celebrations. So they built the Vietnam Memorial for themselves.”

For many Vietnam veterans, returning home from the war meant stepping into a different battlefield. Unlike the heroes’ welcome given to World War II veterans, the men and women who served in Vietnam were branded as criminals rather than patriots. They were spat on in airports, shunned in their communities, and ignored by the very government that sent them to fight.

After almost 28 years on active duty in the Navy, I watched the perception change. It began during my freshman year in college on the eve of Desert Storm, the first major conflict since Vietnam. As a ROTC midshipman, we were supposed to wear our uniforms to class the next day. Instead, I was told to keep my uniform out of sight for fear of backlash. Back then, the ghosts of Vietnam lingered, and concern arose that military service would be a target, not a badge of honor.

By the time I retired in 2021, the arc of my story changed — from name calling to yellow ribbons and “thank you for your service.” While public attitudes have improved, a deeper issue remains: veterans still feel like outsiders in their communities.

Have we learned from the past? In many ways, yes. Today, veterans of Iraq and Afghanistan receive more public support, and a wide range of programs exist to aid their transition. However, there is always more we can do to ensure that no veteran feels isolated.

Veterans bring leadership and a strong work ethic to the workforce. Employers can take an active role in hiring veterans by participating in veteran employment programs, offering mentorship opportunities, and recognizing the value of military experience in job recruitment.

Community members also play a vital role in welcoming veterans home. Volunteering with veteran support organizations can provide meaningful ways to give back. Hosting networking events, supporting veteran-owned businesses, and simply reaching out to the veterans in your neighborhood can foster a sense of belonging.

Additionally, local communities can invite veterans into broader civic engagement by encouraging them to share their experiences through public speaking events and mentorship programs. Creating spaces where veterans can connect with civilians helps bridge the gap and strengthen our communities.

Vietnam veterans had to build their own memorial to ensure their sacrifices were not forgotten. Today’s veterans should not have to build back alone. Veterans are the fabric of our communities — they are our neighbors, coworkers, friends, and family members. It is our responsibility to ensure they are supported and treated with the respect they have earned. True gratitude is more than a “thank you” — by our actions, let us say to veterans of every generation “you are welcome.” Only then can we fulfill the promise that no veteran will be left behind.

Chris Flaherty is the CEO of Nation’s Finest, a nonprofit dedicated to providing vital support services for Veterans across California, Nevada, and Arizona. Since retiring from active duty in 2021, he has remained a steadfast advocate for veterans, serving in key leadership roles to advance their well-being and success.

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How a Nexus Letter Can Help Veterans Secure Their VA Benefits

For many veterans, securing VA disability benefits can be a challenging process, often due to a lack of sufficient medical evidence connecting their condition to their military service.

This is where a nexus letter becomes crucial. A nexus letter is a medical document written by a licensed healthcare provider that explicitly links a veteran’s current disability to their military service. The strength of this letter can significantly impact the approval of a veteran’s claim.

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A Decade of Military Storytelling: GI Film Festival San Diego Turns10

The 2025 GI Film Festival San Diego is May 7-9, screening 16 films for, by, and about service members and veterans.

Enduring the challenges of military service-or supporting a loved one who has—can be overwhelming. Hearing the stories of those with similar experiences offers profound healing and understanding. For a decade, KPBS has provided the military community with this vital connection through the GI Film Festival San Diego—a unique event that fosters reflection, resilience, and a deeper sense of belonging.

“We believe in the power of storytelling to bring people together,” says Nancy Worlie, Chief Content Officer at KPBS. “At the GI Film Festival San Diego, service members, veterans, and their families can share and hear stories in powerful and deeply personal ways. Over the past decade, the festival has become an outlet for these voices, and we are honored to amplify their stories.” Worlie was part of the core KPBS team that brought the GI Film Festival to San Diego from Washington, D.C. in 2015.

This year, the GI Film Festival San Diego, the largest military film festival in the U.S., marks a major milestone: its 10th anniversary. Scheduled for May 7-9, 2025 at the Museum of Photographic Arts at the San Diego Museum of Art (MOPA @ SDMA) in Balboa Park, the three-day event promises to continue honoring military experiences through film.

A Film Festival With a Mission

Since its debut in San Diego in 2015, the GI Film Festival has been dedicated to authentic military storytelling. Unlike Hollywood blockbusters that can glamorize war or misrepresent service, this festival offers a nuanced and intimate look at military life—told compassionately by those with lived experience or a special connection to it.

Lisa Marcolongo, a longtime festival advisory committee member, has supported the festival since its inception.

"As a military spouse and ally, I know firsthand that service doesn’t end when a deployment does. The GI Film Festival San Diego brings to light the experiences of families like mine, showing what we go through and helping us feel seen,” she shares.

Over the past decade, the festival has presented hundreds of films and received thousands of guests. It has also welcomed influential figures including documentarians Ken Burns and Ric Burns, General (Ret.) Richard Myers, former Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff; the late U.S. Senator John McCain; actors Gary Sinise, Glenn Close, Lou Diamond Phillips, and many others.

A Look Back: Stories That Matter

One of the festival’s greatest strengths is how it captures the full spectrum of military life—not just the battles, but also the quiet, personal moments of service and sacrifice.

Through the years, films have explored:

• Historical military milestones from the Civil War, WWI, WWII, the Korean War, Vietnam, the Global War on Terror, and the fall of Afghanistan.

• The impact of service on families, including the experiences of spouses, children, and caregivers.

• Mental health struggles, such as post-traumatic stress, reintegration, and the hidden wounds of war.

• Underrepresented military stories, including those of deported veterans, LGBTQIA+ service members, and women trailblazers.

The festival challenges preconceptions about military life by offering multidimensional portrayals of service members, veterans, and their families. This helps bridge the military-civilian divide, giving civilians in attendance an authentic glimpse into their experiences.

In addition, the GI Film Festival San Diego features films by service members and veterans, showcasing their voices and talents while providing a platform to launch or establish their filmmaking careers. These films span military and non-military themes, including comedy, horror, romance, and more.

What to Expect at the 2025 Festival

The 10th-anniversary edition of the festival will feature 16 powerful films, including:

• “Triumph Over Prejudice: The Montford Point Marines” tells the story of the first African American men to serve in the U.S. Marine Corps, who overcame racial segregation to fight for their country.

• “Filming Under Fire: John Ford’s OSS Field Photo Branch” highlights how legendary Hollywood filmmakers contributed to the war effort through intelligence and propaganda films.

• “SHEEPDOG,” the festival’s Opening Night narrative feature, follows the decorated U.S. Army combat veteran Calvin Cole on his journey to trauma recovery.

• Films by returning filmmakers, including Spring Valley residents Devin and Jeanne Scott and Daniel Bernardi—all of whom have been part of the festival’s history.

For Nico Marcolongo, Lisa’s husband, senior manager at Operation Rebound with Challenged Athletes Foundation, and a U.S. Marine Corps veteran, the festival offers a platform for veterans to see their experiences reflected on-screen.

“After transitioning out of the military, it can be hard to find spaces that truly get what we’ve been through,” he shares. “The GI Film Festival San Diego is more than a series of movies—it’s a place where veterans can connect, share experiences, and see themselves in the stories being told. These films remind us we’re not alone in our struggles.”

After the film screenings, audience members are invited to engage in panel discussions with filmmakers, actors, and subject-matter experts.

How to Get Involved

The GI Film Festival San Diego is open to all. Tickets start at $15 per screening and $10 for military, veterans, students, and KPBS members. Multi-ticket packages are available. Those interested in sponsorship or volunteering can contact GIFilmFestivalSD@kpbs.org

As the GI Film Festival San Diego celebrates its 10th year, it remains a testament to the power of storytelling in the military community. Ten years in, the festival’s mission remains unchanged: to honor, educate, and inspire through film. And with each new year, the stories continue.

To learn more, visit GIFilmFestivalSD.org

2025 GI Film Festival San Diego is May 7-9, screening 16 films for, by, and about service members and veterans.

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“Women Veterans in Film” panel discussion during the 2024 GI Film Festival San Diego. (From left to right) Alicia Buckner, Paige Compton, Sheila Ivy Traister

April is designated as the Month of the Military Child, underscoring the important role military children play in the armed forces community.

Sponsored by the Department of Defense Military Community and Family Policy, the Month of the Military Child is a time to applaud military families and their children for the daily sacrifices they make and the challenges they overcome.

The Month of the Military Child is part of the legacy left by former Defense Secretary Caspar Weinberger. He established the Defense Department commemoration in 1986.

San Diego Veterans Magazine Department of Defense and the military community in celebrating April as the Month of the Military Child.

In DoDEA communities around the world, our most essential strategic imperatives are: establishing an educational system that progressively builds the college and career readiness of all DoDEA students; and establishing the organizational capacity to operate more effectivelyand efficiently as a model, unifiedschool system.

We aim to challenge each student to maximize his or her potential and to excel academically, socially, emotionally and physically for life, college and career readiness.

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The Month of the Military Child: Honoring our Youngest Heroes

Lori Noonan, Female Veteran, Chief Growth Officer, Veterans Bridge Home

April marks the Month of the Military Child, a time to recognize and honor the resilience, sacrifices and unique experiences of children growing up in military families. While service members take an oath to defend our country, their families, especially their children, also serve in their own way, navigating frequent relocations, parental deployments and the challenges of building stability in a life that is anything but predictable.

Military children face a childhood unlike any other, shaped by experiences that foster independence, emotional resilience and a sense of community. However, these same experiences also present challenges that require understanding, support and resources from the broader community.

The unique challenges military children face

There are more than 1.6 million military children who face unique challenges as a result of their parents’ service. Military children move an average of six to nine times before finishing high school. Each move brings new schools, new friends and a new environment to adjust to. While many develop remarkable adaptability, frequent transitions can also cause academic disruptions, social difficulties and emotional stress.

Deployments are another defining aspect of military childhood. Having a parent away for months, or even years at a time can be an emotional rollercoaster. Children must learn to navigate birthdays, holidays and milestones without one of their biggest supporters physically present. Studies show that military children experience higher levels of anxiety compared to their civilian peers, making it critical to provide them with mental health resources and supportive communities.

Beyond relocations and deployments, military children must also learn to navigate cultural differences, as many are stationed overseas at some point in their upbringing. Living in foreign countries provides an enriching experience, exposing them to diverse customs and languages, but it can also add another layer of adjustment stress.

How communities can support military children

Recognizing the sacrifices of military children is just the first step—actively supporting them is what truly makes a difference. Here’s how communities can get involved:

• Educators: Schools play a crucial role in helping military children succeed. Schools can implement military-friendly policies, such as flexible enrollment, counseling support and student ambassador programs to welcome new military-connected students.

• Employers: Military families sometimes face financial instability due to frequent relocations and deployments. Employers can support military parents by offering flexible work schedules or remote work opportunities. Businesses can also offer military discounts or sponsorships for programs that benefit military children, such as summer camps or other extracurricular activities.

• Neighbors & friends: Something as simple as extending a warm welcome to a new military family in the neighborhood can go a long way in helping children feel a sense of belonging.

How organizations like Veterans Bridge Home support military families

At VBH, our mission is to connect, lead and advocate in communities to ensure service members, veterans and their families thrive. We believe that supporting military families means investing in the well-being of military children.

Transitioning out of the military doesn’t just impact the veteran — it affects their entire family. By connecting veterans and their families to the right services and resources, we help create a strong support system that enables military children to thrive.

Some of the ways we do this include:

1. Mental health resources: Ensuring access to counseling and support groups specifically tailored to the needs of military children.

2. Community Integration: Providing opportunities for military families to build networks, find mentorship and engage with their local communities.

3. Recognition and appreciation: Celebrating the achievements and contributions of military children through special events. Honoring military children this April and beyond

The Month of the Military Child is an opportunity to shine a spotlight on the resilience of these incredible young individuals, but our commitment to them shouldn’t end on April 30th. Supporting military children is a year-round effort, one that requires understanding, advocacy and action from all of us.

This April, let’s celebrate military children, listen to their stories and commit to creating a more supportive and inclusive future for them. Because when we support military children, we strengthen military families—and in turn, our entire nation.

Military Child Poem

My hometown is nowhere.

My friends are everywhere.

I grew up with knowledge that home is where the heart is and the family is.

Mobility is my way of life.

Some wonder about roots, yet they are as deep and strong as the mighty oak.

I sink them quickly, absorbing all an area offers and hopefully giving enrichment in return.

Travel has taught me to be open.

Shaking hands with the universe, I find brotherhood in all men.

Farewells are never easy.

Yes, even in sorrow comes strength and ability to face tomorrow with anticipation.

If when we leave one place, I feel that half my world is left behind, I also know that the other half is waiting to be met.

Friendships are formed in hours and kept for decades.

I will never grow up with someone, but I will mature with many.

Lori Noonan, A U.S. Navy veteran and active-duty Army spouse, has spent over 15 years advocating for and serving military families, veterans and their communities.

As Chief Growth Officer at Veterans Bridge Home, (https://veteransbridgehome.org) she leads efforts to expand the organization’s impact, ensuring veterans and their families successfully transition to thriving civilian lives.

Be it inevitable that paths part, there is a constant hope that they will meet again.

Love of country, respect and pride fill my being when Old Glory passes in review.

When I stand to honor the flag, so also do I stand in honor of all soldiers, And most especially, to the parents whose life created mine.

Because of this, I have shared in the rich heritage of military life.

~ Anonymous

As a parent in a military family, you get to choose your words, actions and behaviors. What option will you choose?

Written by Cindy Grossman, LCSW, Executive Director, Kids’ Turn San Diego

Serving in the military is oftentimes perceived as an act of service by an individual. As true as this is, when the member is married and has children, at Kids’ Turn San Diego, we see this honorary service as one by the entire family. With this view and the statistics on divorce in military families (did you know that the divorce rate is about 50%, but in military families it is estimated to be 75%?), we want to offer perspective to all those who bravely serve and all those who bravely hope in honor of April being the Month of the Military Child and the National Month of Hope.

Same situation but different hopes and feelings. No one can get inside our head or bodies and take control of our thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. Only we have the choice on how we think, feel, and behave. So, if you find yourself stuck in this dynamic, you have selfawareness and self-awareness is the first step towards change. The next step is to consider how your child may feel about the situation, then make the change to choose peace. We empower children to share their feelings in a healthy and safe way because it can make a difference in their home life and is a lifelong skill. When children share their feelings, they are more likely to do well in school and less likely to choose drugs or alcohol to self-medicate childhood pain or family drama.

We recommend “I Feel” statements which often look like “I Feel ____ When ____, Please ____.” For example, “I Feel scared When you argue, please stop fighting over me.”

Since you get to choose your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, what if you decide to let the argument go? What if you decide that your children are more important than the dislike you have for their other parent? Investing in your child is a skill that may be applied here. Investing in your children is when you give them your attention in an age-appropriate way. For younger children, imaginary play may be best. For an 8–11-year-old, they may want to do an art project, bake or play video games together.

Teens would probably prefer a trip to get coffee, boba or frozen yogurt. When we invest in our children, they feel listened to, heard, and important. This is one strategy to bring peace into your home.

Another strategy to bring peace into your home is to remember that mean words stick. For example, in military families, we have heard some parents blame the service member’s duty or commitment for the breakdown of the family unit or to even take it a step further and say that the service member is more committed to their “job” than to the family or the children. These words are hurtful to children and can be confusing too.

Imagine you are the child of a service member about to be deployed. You attend an event with a bouncy house, face painting, and fun games. The child is probably having fun, despite the circumstances.

The parents may be experiencing stress amid this transition filled with creating plans to stay connected during deployment, signing forms, and handling the emotions of saying goodbye for now to their family. Sometime after the event, the pending stress of the separation may lead parents to say negative things in front of their children. It is important to remember that your children are a blend of you both. When you say bad things about a child’s other parent, it can hurt the child’s feelings and leave them to wonder if you feel that way about them too. This is especially common when a child looks like or resembles their other parent.

As a parent in a military family, you get to choose your words, actions and behaviors. Imagine this Event: Your spouse or co-parent is leaving for a 6-month deployment What option will you choose?

One event, three ways to look at it, you get to choose! At Kids’ Turn San Diego, we encourage you to live in optimism and hope, choose peace over power and to be the best parent possible. To learn more about our programs, please visit www.kidsturnsd.org or call 858-521-0027.

Support Beyond Service: Helping Veterans Provide for their Children

For many veterans, the transition from military to civilian life presents unique financial and family challenges. San Diego Department of Child Support Services (SD DCSS) plays a crucial role in ensuring veterans can meet their obligations while accessing the resources they need. Whether navigating modifications due to income changes, understanding support adjustments based on VA compensation, or seeking assistance with employment services, SD DCSS offers tailored solutions to help veterans provide for their children while maintaining self-sufficiency.

One of our key qualities is our commitment to personalized attention with access to case workers who are trained to understand the unique circumstances, including military service-related income and benefits of veterans. Our case workers take the time to explain the child support process, help veterans understand their rights, and guide them through any necessary modifications, ensuring that their child support payments reflect their current financial situation. Whether a veteran is experiencing a significant life change, such as a new job, disability, or integrating into civilian life, SD DCSS ensures that their case is handled with attention to their specific needs. For those struggling with past-due debt, we can provide information on programs that help reduce outstanding balances, preventing undue financial hardship.

A major benefit to engage with us is the ability to modify child support orders when circumstances change. We assist veterans in requesting modifications when necessary, ensuring that their child support payments reflect their current financial situation. This process is especially important for veterans who may experience fluctuations in income due to pension adjustments or child custody changes. By working with SD DCSS, veterans can avoid unnecessary financial strain and ensure that their contributions are fair and sustainable.

Beyond financial obligations, we offer access to various supportive services that can help veterans regain financial independence, connect them with employment assistance, housing resources, and legal aid. These services can be crucial for veterans seeking stability for themselves and their families. By collaborating with partner organizations, SD DCSS ensures that veterans are not just fulfilling their child support responsibilities but also gaining access to resources that can improve their overall quality of life.

We believe wholeheartedly in a proactive approach of reaching veterans at key community events such as Veterans Village Stand Down and the North County Veterans Stand Down. These initiatives provide critical support to veterans experiencing homelessness or financial hardship, offering them a space to connect with essential services. During these events, we interact directly with veterans, offering guidance, answering questions, and reviewing cases to ensure they receive the help they need.

Additionally, SD DCSS opens its doors every second Saturday of the month at its National City office and the Vista County Library with virtual meetings also available. This initiative provides an opportunity for individuals who cannot visit during regular weekday hours to receive assistance with their child support cases. These outreach efforts provide immediate assistance and help establish trust with veterans who may be hesitant to seek help due to past experiences or concerns.

In addition to in-person support at community events, we also provide digital tools to make services more accessible to veterans. Online case management tools, virtual appointments, and digital resources allow veterans to manage their child support cases from anywhere, reducing theneed for in-person visits and streamlining the process. These digital solutions

provide a critical lifeline to support, information, and available assistance programs.

Veterans who need assistance with child support issues are encouraged to reach out to us to explore the range of services available. Whether through inperson meetings, community gatherings, or digital platforms, SD DCSS is dedicated to making the process as seamless and supportive as possible. By providing individualized attention, access to critical resources, and proactive community engagement, SD DCSS continues to be a reliable advocate for veterans navigating the complexities of child support while striving for a stable and successful future.

For more information, visit the San Diego Child Support Services website at: www.sandiegocounty.gov/content/sdc/dcss.html or call (866) 901-3212 to speak with a representative

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National City Office: 401 Mile of Cars Way, Suite 310, National City, CA 91950

Kearny Mesa Office: 3666 Kearny Villa Road, San Diego, CA 92123

Escondido Office: 649 W. Mission Ave., Escondido, CA 02025

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SEALKIDS

By Dr. Gretchen McIntosh Executive Director, SEALKIDS, Inc.

The national nonprofit SEALKIDS exists to provide additional team members and support for Navy SEALs and their families, specifically helping their children who struggle with learning disabilities. Even our most elite warriors need help.

SEALKIDS serves the children of Naval Special Warfare from active-duty and veteran families supporting:

• Children with learning disabilities who are left behind by the school system

• Children requiring necessary therapies unavailable through Tricare (military insurance.)

SEALKIDS is the only organization that provides effective in-person, individualized academic intervention for K-12 special operations children with learning disabilities, tracking impact, and maintaining progress. Our proven programs have helped over 1,200 children across the nation since 2011.

No matter where the child lives or how many times they move across the country during their school career, SEALKIDS is a trusted partner to help these children reach their academic goals.

A SEALKIDS STORY

Keith, a retired Navy SEAL, shares the impact of SEALKIDS on his family and the services provided to his son, Kai:

I was in the Navy for 28 years and darn near all of it was in the SEAL Teams. I was at SEAL Team ONE, THREE and FIVE. I loved being in the Teams and was grateful to the Navy and to America for giving me an opportunity to serve and have a career.

We learned that our son Kai was severely autistic when he was three years old. That was a severe blow to us. Like a lot of families, we tried all kinds of things to help him, but nothing really met the mark. We were very fortunate to connect with SEALKIDS. The help we received from SEALKIDS was a critical element of me being able to continue to serve our country during a time of intense and enduring conflict.

Kai is largely nonverbal, but he can do his schoolwork, and he absolutely loves school. Sometimes it’s a challenge to teach him and it can be a challenge for him to learn, but he’s a very bright and engaging young man who wants to do his best! His two favorite subjects are reading and math. He’s actually very good at math. We are also extremely grateful that Kai is able to have social interaction with other children and that he is learning. When we see and hear him read and work through math problems, it gives us great hope because there was a time when we thought he would not be able to do any of those things at all.

As a direct result of the help that we are getting from SEALKIDS, Kai is not only progressing, but he is also thriving and learning! As many parents with children who have special needs know, going it alone is too heavy of a rucksack to bear. Sometimes the hardest thing to do for a Special Operations family is to ask for help. If you try and go it alone, you’re going to exhaust yourself and it’s going to tax your marriage, your life, and will adversely affect your performance and career as well.

The help that SEALKIDS gave us was instrumental in our success, not only in Kai’s care and education, but also in our marriage. When we found SEALKIDS, I was in between deployments to Iraq. By this time, I had lost many Teammates and the OPTEMPO had taken a toll on us. It was an incredibly stressful time for our family. We had exhausted all of the existing opportunities in the public school system to help Kai, and we had tried many other programs outside of the school system as well. Additionally, these programs were very expensive, and I was working two other jobs outside of the SEAL Teams to pay for all of it. It was physically and mentally exhausting, and it was putting a tremendous strain on our marriage. It was very difficult because my wife had to carry a lot of this herself with me being deployed and working extra. I was failing as a father and husband because I simply wasn’t physically present anymore and she had to face the lion’s share of it alone. Our oldest son also suffered because so much of our time and effort was on Kai.

SEALKIDS literally pumped new lifeblood into our lives. The support from SEALKIDS enabled us to continue to serve this great country and keep our family together. Most importantly, it really helped Kai develop and learn. We are so grateful! The hardest thing for us to do was to ask for help. It took us years to accept the many challenges that we had as a family. We are incredibly fortunate in our community that we have SEALKIDS. The resources and assistance we as well as hundreds of other Special Operations families have received has been transformational.

Supporting SEALKIDS is a truly noble endeavor. For whatever reason, there are special needs kids out there. And some of them are the children of people who defend this country and defend our freedom and risk death and go overseas, which is stressful and hard enough.

By supporting SEALKIDS, you are supporting some very dedicated and very highly trained people who love their family and love this country and want to continue serving, as well as our spouses. Most importantly, you’re helping our children, whom we love.

Thank you so much to everyone who supports my family and every other SEALKIDS family!

HOW TO HELP

SEALKIDS is able to stay on mission due to generous donors who sacrifice for those that sacrifice for us.

Ways to Get Involved With SEALKIDS:

• Learn about SEALKIDS

• Attend local events - www.sealkids.org/calendar

• Reach out to gmcintosh@sealkids.org a partnership with SEALKIDS IN NEED OF SERVICE?

MILITARY CHILD

If you are in a SEAL family or know a SEAL family that could benefit from SEALKIDS services, please go to - https://www.sealkids.org/request-help to request service.

SEALKIDS has big news to share coming later this spring!

Follow us on social to be one of the first to hear how our mission will continue and how you can partner to help us support even more military children. Don’t miss out on our big announcement!

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legal Eagle

Straight-forward legal tips for Military and Veteran

Business Owners

By Kelly Bagla, Esq. www.BaglaLaw.com

HELPING YOUR KID START A LEGAL BUSINESS

Lemonade stands and lawn mowing are popular ways for kids to earn pocket change, but could they get in legal trouble for their entrepreneurial activities?

Kids just want to be kids, but kids also want to be grown-ups. That’s why letting kids have a neighborhood lemonade stand, yard sales or lawn mowing businesses is a great way for them to learn responsibility and the value of a dollar.

However, child-run businesses can sometimes run into problems if they are not legally compliant with the local laws.

Cities, counties and states have laws that require businesses to secure permits and licenses to operate. Those rules can extent to just about every business, including those owned by a child.

Having a business is a great way for children to focus their energy and efforts on something positive and learning from a young age what entrepreneurial means.

An increasing number of states and communities have started to make it easier for young entrepreneurs to make money, but in many communities, children and teens need to secure the right paperwork to lawfully run their businesses.

It is important to note that a business is a business, no matter the age of the person in charge.

Businesses must adhere to certain legal requirements, and parents must understand these requirements to make sure their kids’ businesses are legal. In addition to completing paperwork, such as obtaining a permit, they may have to pay taxes on the money the business earns.

GETTING YOUR KID’S BUSINESS LEGAL

The first step is to search for more information on the website of the city and county where the business will be located. It’s important to make sure your kid’s business is up to code because anyone can decide to report the business to the authorities. City and county officials in the jurisdiction where the business is located can outline the requirements, explain penalties for noncompliance and provide the proper paperwork to get the process rolling.

You might be asking yourself, “Why go through all of this if it’s just a lemonade stand? What harm could be done?” In some cases, neighbors may feel inconvenienced because customers lining up for lemonade could be blocking driveways or adding more noise or traffic to their usually quite residential street. In addition, competitors have snitched on kid-owned businesses. A landscaping company, for instance, could report a teen-run lawn mowing business for noncompliance to weed out cheaper competition. Yes folks, this actually happened!

It’s important to be aware of the legal risks and liabilities if your child’s business is not legally compliant. Kids who run their businesses without the correct permits or licenses can face closure and other penalties, including but not limited to fines.

Furthermore, a run-in with regulators is almost never a fun experience, especially for a young entrepreneur who is dreaming big.

KID OWNED BUSINESSES

Here are some fun business ideas that your kids can start explore:

• Lemonade Stand

• Mow Lawns

• Paper route

• Academic Tutor

• Artist

• Babysitter

• Pet Sitter

• Dog Walker

• Baker

• Candy Maker

• Summer Camp Counselor

• Parks and Rec Employee

• Lifeguard

• Golf Caddy

• Car Washer

• Actor

• Podcaster

• YouTuber / TikToker

• Author

• And more...

You’ll agree that there is so much potential for your kid to make money, and the best time to learn valuable business lessons coupled with hands-on experience is now.

Therefore, encourage your young entrepreneur to start any of these kid businesses that make money with the right permits and licenses. You will have given your child a head start in life.

For more information on how to legally start and grow your business please visit my website at www.BaglaLaw.com

Disclaimer: This information is made available by Bagla Law Firm, APC for educational purposes only as well asto give you general information and a general understanding of the law, and not to provide specific legal advice. This information should not be used as a substitute for competent legal advice from a licensed professional attorney in your state.

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Real Talk: Mental Health

By Jenny Rodriguez, LMFT, Clinician, and Emily Paddock AMFT, Clinical Fellow

The Steven A. Cohen Military Family Clinics at VVSD

Supporting Our Mighty Military Kids

A military child can be described in various ways: strong, resilient, adaptable, puissant, and the list goes on. Yet, our mighty military kids are often forgotten in the whirlwind of the military world.

From inconsistent homestead to uncertainty of caregivers being present to “always being the new kid,” it is without doubt that our military children face unique challenges that are often misunderstood. When we lay out the experiences that a military child must endure, we can make parallels to the challenges that our foster youth face. Although not one of the same, the analogous comparison of inconsistency garners insight into the complex world that our smallest heroes face with an active-duty caregiver.

The unfortunate reality is our smallest ones are often left behind due to the limited resources provided to children and the collective family by the greater facet of the military. Although every child’s experience is a unique one, it is not rare for children to be visited by bouts of anxiety, fear, sadness, and anger as a result of the tough challenges of being a part of a military family.

So, what can we do to support our military children? Here are a few tips:

• Family Meetings. Stead and true, from both a personal and clinical perspective, unity and connection can be maintained with simple additives such as weekly family meetings. Family meetings can provide an opportunity for the whole family—even a potential service member that may be away via facetime—to share their weekly celebrations, grievances, or needs. It provides a sense of consistency when consistency may not be a commodity. To add in a little extra fun, the weekly meetings can swiftly roll into a family game night, where each family member can choose a game for everyone to participate in. It’s an uncomplicated way to build connection and foster closeness, despite the potential of being during physical disconnection and a complicated situation.

• Storytime. Children’s books discussing the reunification process, deployment, and emotional regulation are very powerful when reading these to

such population. Military children tend to make various connections across these books.

• Transitional objects included during the process of deployment and reunification seem to be an effective intervention that assists military children with coping through such process. For example, there might be a favorite blanket or other meaningful item or chosen possession that can be carried from one home to the next.

• Practice routines and encourage coping skills, among other things. Transitions are very challenging for military children, therefore interventions that involve using timers, alarms, prompting ahead of time, giving breaks or break cards, teaching/modeling/practicing coping skills and emotional regulation techniques with children and their families have shown to be very effective, especially during the deployment and reunification process.

Additionally, professional mental health care can be a key part in coping with military life for children. For example, military children can be receptive to play therapy interventions grounded on a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) approach by demonstrating ability to express safely feelings, thoughts, and behaviors impacting them when parents are deployed or returning home. Military children also tend to respond positively to deep breathing exercises, count downs, grounding exercises to manage feelings of anger, sadness, and other strong emotions linked to such adjustment and changes when parent is deployed.

Behavioral modification interventions, such a token economy and positive reinforcement could be a useful tool for helping military children find healthier ways of coping, making transitions, adjusting to changes, and finding a motivational factor to keep going. For example, a child will be asked what they would like to work for at the start of session and will earn tokens (i.e., stickers, or stars) each time they complete a preferred (i.e., playing a chosen game) and a non-preferred task (i.e., reading a book on regulating emotions, relaxation exercise etc.).

Also, through dollhouse play therapy intervention, military children seem to be able to “play out” the struggles home might be giving them with the deployment and reunification process and learn healthier ways to address or manage such challenges.

Having conjoint sessions with military children’s parents and/or with their family unit can also be very effective when working with these children and can strengthen their support system and not feeling alone in the process.

The beauty of the Cohen Clinics with Cohen Veterans Network is that our clinicians understand the uniqueexperiences of military children and their families and can cater to every child’s individualized needs. With some clinicians who are children of servicemembers themselves, they can appreciate both the challenges and opportunities that come from being in this anomalous position.

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Blue Star Families

By Maggie Meza, Executive Director, Blue Star Families of San Diego

Blue Star Families is Military Families

Blue Star Families San Diego: Strengthening Military Families, Strengthening Our Community

Military life is filled with unique challenges— frequent moves, deployments, and the ever-present strain of separation. In San Diego, home to one of the largest concentrations of military personnel in the nation, these challenges impact tens of thousands of service members and their families. Blue Star Families of San Diego stands at the forefront, ensuring that no military family feels isolated or unsupported.

Our Mission and Impact

Blue Star Families of San Diego is dedicated to empowering military families by providing resources, community connections, and vital support systems that help them thrive. Our programs address critical areas such as education, financial literacy, outdoor recreation, cultural enrichment, and military spouse employment, ensuring that families not only survive but flourish.

One of our primary goals is to address the inequities faced by military families, especially within San Diego’s diverse military community. According to Blue Star Families’ annual Military Family Lifestyle Survey, more than 48% of military families report financial stress as a major concern. Through strategic partnerships and targeted programming, Blue Star Families of San Diego is working to mitigate these hardships and improve overall family well-being.

Programs Making a Difference

Blue Star Welcome Week

Relocation is a constant reality for military families, and Blue Star Welcome Week ensures that newly stationed families find a sense of belonging. Through regular Coffee Connects, networking events, and cultural outings, we provide military families with opportunities to integrate into the community and build lasting relationships.

Outdoor Explorers for All

San Diego’s beautiful landscapes provide the perfect backdrop for Outdoor Explorers for All, a program that encourages military families to engage in outdoor activities, from hiking to water sports, fostering mental

and physical wellness. This program is especially vital for military children, offering them opportunities for recreation and resilience-building.

Military Spouse Employment

Military spouses face significant challenges in securing stable employment due to frequent relocations. Blue Star Families of San Diego hosts Military Spouse Employment Workshops, providing career development, networking opportunities, and resume-building support. These workshops help spouses gain meaningful employment and financial independence.

Month of the Military Child & Military Spouse Appreciation

Each year, Blue Star Families of San Diego honors military children and spouses, recognizing their resilience and sacrifices. Our annual Dandelion Festival during the Month of the Military Child provides familyfriendly events, resources, and entertainment, while Military Spouse Appreciation initiatives focus on employment support, self-care, and networking.

Driving change:

If there’s one thing we’ve realized in the last 16 years, it’s that we cannot do this work alone. To see real change for military and Veteran families, we are developing solutions and clear pathways for everyone to Do Your Part to ensure the future and sustainability of the AllVolunteer Force.

As we move forward, Blue Star Families of San Diego remains committed to bringing data-driven programs, expanding resources, and strengthening partnerships that benefit military families.

We invite the community to join us in our mission. Whether through volunteering, corporate sponsorships, or donations, your support makes a tangible difference in the lives of military families who sacrifice so much for our country. Together, we can build a stronger, more connected San Diego where military families not only serve— but thrive.

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Meet Our Executive Director: Maggie Meza

Maggie Meza, Executive Director of Blue Star Families of San Diego, is a dedicated advocate, nonprofit leader,

and military spouse with more than 30 years of firsthand experience navigating the military lifestyle. Having relocated multiple times and raised her children in a military environment, she brings a deep understanding of the challenges and triumphs military families face.

Under her leadership, Blue Star Families of San Diego has expanded its reach, strengthened community partnerships, and secured critical funding to support innovative programming. Across Southern California, Maggie facilitates engagement opportunities that foster crosssectoral dialogue between military and civilian communities.

She is also a recognized voice in military advocacy, serving on multiple advisory boards and military affairs committees within the community.

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RISKY BUSINESS

By Hadley Wood www.hlinwood-insurance.com

Working with Kids is Not All Fun & Games

If your business works with children in any capacity, don’t play around with your risk management. Whether it’s sports teams, day care, tutoring, photo sessions, hair stylists, and more – if your business involves interacting with children on a regular basis you will want to take extra precautions to ensure your business is protecting the children from bodily injury and/or abuse and molestation, and itself from costly legal harm.

A typical General Liability insurance policy for a business would not include coverage for abuse and molestation. This would be something you would want to add coverage for and there may be additional premium for this. Many business owners may think they do not need this, BUT in the event there is a claim against you or your employees (or even a third party onsite in your location space), legal defense and coverage would be denied due to this not being a “covered cause of loss” on your policy. So even if it was an accusation that was false, you could be left defending yourself out of pocket – which is costly!

The dynamics of working with children are different than working with adults and precautions should always be made from the business owner to create a safe space for them. Some considerations include:

• Encourage the parent/guardian to be there onsite while the child is at your business.

• Keep a daily sign in/sign out log and make sure the parent/guardian signs it.

• Set up cameras around the public locations to have a visual record of activities.

• Have a comprehensive emergency kit onsite.

• If a child has to be accompanied to the restroom or any private space, make sure there are 2 adults present withthe child (of the same sex as the child).

• Make sure at least one employee/team member is trained in CPR.

• Run through a mock emergency drill to make sure everyone knows what to do in the event of an emergency.

And as a parent or guardian, you will want to make sure that the activities your child is involved in are doing their due diligence to ensure child safety.

• Visit the location and take note of the site security systems including working smoke alarms, fire. extinguishers, door lock system, trip/fall hazards, etc.

• Ask to see a copy of their current General Liability certificate.

• Ask about the ratio of adult to child supervision.

• Ask for references of current clients AND former clients and call them for feedback.

• Ask them about their emergency preparation and crisis procedures.

• Ask them about their disciplinary technique.

• If appropriate make sure the outside doors have an emergency bar to prevent children from leaving the premises unnoticed.

• Look the company up online for any unsavory comments or business infractions.

• If something feels off – always trust your instincts!

Claim Scenario

An after-school daycare center has 15 children in its program and 2 onsite supervisors. One of the supervisors goes to the backroom to get some snacks and the other is talking privately with one of the children. One of the children sneaks out the front door unnoticed. After more than an hour, the child’s disappearance is noticed resulting in panic. The child is finally found 1⁄2 a mile down the road walking alone. This could easily have been a very tragic scenario and one that happens more than you think. I know – it happened to me when I was 4!

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The Military Child

By Kie Copenhaver CSA, RHIA, SHSS, RCFE

My neighbors down the street are a military family Dad is active-duty Navy and holds very high rank within the aviation division. His wife, a retired Navy veteran, stays home with their three children ranging from 8 years old to 18 months old. Every day I see him drive down the street, off to work at what sounds to be a very demanding job. And every day I see his wife, kids and dog in tow, walking around the neighborhood. Mom is likely trying to tucker them out so she has a somewhat compliant “troop” when bedtime rolls around.

The military child, often referred to as a military “brat”, experiences a childhood that is much different than their non-military counterpart. And before anyone gets too flustered with the word “brat”, allow me to explain that the word originated with the British almost 100 years ago. According to Military.com, British Regiment Attached Travelers or BRATs were those members of a family traveling abroad with a soldier. And the name stuck for military children everywhere.

A few statistics about the military child. Military children, since the early 1970s, have outnumbered active-duty military by 1.4 to 1. This group of children and young adults have a higher rate of mental health issues, namely depression and anxiety, than non-military children likely due to multiple moves and the myriad of emotions felt when a parent is gone for long periods of time.

On the upside, these children have been found to be more resilient and resourceful as they move into young adulthood, adapting to change with greater ease. Finally, this special group of children and young adults are twice as likely to become members of the military once they are of age.

I would not be considered a military child by any stretch of the imagination, even though my father served in the Army. His time in the military was over by the time I came along and now that he is in his mid-80s, it is my turn to care for him in much the same way he cared for me growing up. The military child will, in turn, become an adult and may end up caring for the very parent or parents that gave them the distinction “military child”.

If you find yourself caring for an aging veteran – or anyone really – in addition to caring for their daily needs, ensure their documentation is in order. Make sure they have Power of Attorney documents, an Advance Directive, and perhaps a trust or will in place. Preparation today makes for a smoother tomorrow. Blessings to military children everywhere.

Veteran Resources & Support

Navigating the resources available to veterans can be confusing, but San Diego Veterans Magazine believes no veteran should have to go it alone. At San Diego Veterans Magazine you can find Veteran organizations and private nonprofits with resources for veterans that can help ease the process of attaining earned benefits, coping with the lasting effects of service-connected injuries and finding programs and services that meet your specific needs.

Engaging Future Leaders in Aviation History!

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We are thrilled to share some exciting news from the Flying Leatherneck Aviation Museum as we prepare for our upcoming opening at the Great Park Irvine. Even before our doors officially open, we are actively engaging with our local community, particularly with schools and school districts across Orange County.

Recently, we had the pleasure of hosting students from Portola High School, located just a stone's throw away from Hangar 297. Portola News Network is an award-winning, biweekly high school broadcast that informs students about school and community events and entertains an audience of over 2500 people with various student features and other stories. These bright young minds have been using our facilities to produce promotional videos as part of their Portola News Network practice sessions. It has been truly inspiring to see their enthusiasm for aviation history and their dedication to honing their skills in media production.

This partnership exemplifies our commitment to fostering STEAM education (Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, and Mathematics) and supporting the next generation of leaders in our community. By providing access to our artifacts and resources, we aim to educate and inspire these students, helping them develop a deeper appreciation for aviation and its historical significance.

As a valued member of our community and a supporter of the Flying Leatherneck Aviation Museum, we wanted you to be among the first to hear about this exciting initiative. Your continued support makes it possible for us to create meaningful educational opportunities like these.

Stay tuned for more updates as we approach our grand opening. Thank you for being a part of our journey to preserve and celebrate Marine Corps aviation history.

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Cybersecurity and Service: Navigating Education and Career with Military Precision

By Carly Donner

Cybersecurity & Service

Getting into cybersecurity has been a rewarding but challenging journey for me, especially while balancing a full-time career in the military. My role involves overseeing various support functions—everything from admin to legal, facilities, and IT—across six states and 265,000 square miles. Yet, despite the heavy responsibility, I found myself drawn back to the technical side of my primary Military Occupational Specialty (MOS) in Communications, which I hadn’t been able to practice much in my current billet. That’s why I decided to pursue a master’s degree with a focus on cybersecurity.

For anyone looking to enter the field of cybersecurity, credentials are key. My program at Western Governors University (WGU) embedded industry-recognized certifications into the curriculum, which was invaluable. For instance, earning the EC-Council Certified Ethical Hacker certificate was part of my program, and it not

only gave me new skills but also renewed my existing CompTIA certifications. These kinds of credentials are essential for staying competitive in the job market, whether you’re aiming for a role in the military or the civilian sector. I’d recommend students pursuing cybersecurity prioritize certifications like CompTIA Security+, Certified Information Systems Security Professional (CISSP), and Certified Ethical Hacker (CEH). These are recognized across the industry and give you a solid foundation on which to build your career.

Balancing work and school can be challenging, especially with a demanding job like mine. That’s why I went with a competency-based program that allowed me to work toward my degree at my own pace. With constant travel and unpredictable hours, fitting in homework often meant late nights in hotel rooms or long weekends spent studying. Since I didn’t have to attend scheduled lectures or group projects, I could carve out time to study based on my other commitments.

Since completing my degree, a lot of doors have opened. The certificates I earned during the program keep me competitive in my current MOS and will be a huge asset when I return to the fleet. I’ll be able to step back into collateral billets like Information System Security Officer or System Admin, making me more valuable to my unit. Beyond the military, this degree has set me up for a smooth transition into civilian cybersecurity roles whenever I decide to leave the service.

The need for cybersecurity professionals is growing, and having both practical experience and academic credentials makes me feel confident about my future.

“For military members and veterans considering continuing education, I’ll say this: it is hard, but it is also easier than you think even with the demands of service life. Plus, the payoff is so worth it. Not only will you gain knowledge and skills that make you more effective in your current role, but you’ll also be preparing yourself for life after the military. Take advantage of educational benefits like Tuition Assistance and the GI Bill and keep pushing yourself—you’ll be amazed at what you can achieve.”

- Carly Donner

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Military Life Is Unpredictable. Your Education Shouldn’t

Earn Your Degree Anytime, Anywhere. Flexible, Affordable, and 100% Online!*

Military life comes with constant changes—deployments, PCS moves, and unpredictable schedules. But your education doesn’t have to wait. At Los Angeles Pacific University, we understand the unique challenges military members, spouses, veterans, and dependents face. That’s why our fully online programs offer the flexibility you need to study at your own pace, no matter where life takes you. Whether you’re on base, deployed overseas, or at home, your degree moves with you!

• 100% Online & Flexible: Learn from anywhere, on a schedule that fits your life.

• Maximize Your Benefits: Use GI Bill®, tuition assistance, and spousal benefits.

• Earn Credit for Your Experience: Take advantage of CLEP, DSST (DANTES), and AARTS/JST to turn your military training and knowledge into college credit.

• Fully Accredited: LAPU offers fully accredited associate, bachelor’s, and master’s degrees through the WASC Senior College and University Commission (WSCUC).

• Faith-Based & Supportive: Dedicated military-friendly success coaches who care about your journey.

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*At this time, LAPU is unable to offer distance programs or courses to students residing in the following states and districts: Alabama, Arkansas, Connecticut, the District of Columbia, Indiana, Kansas, Maryland, Minnesota, New Mexico, New York, North Carolina, Oregon, Wisconsin, and Wyoming.

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Unlock Your Academic Potential with Warrior-Scholar Project

Ease the transition from military service to college with dynamic, immersive academic boot camps that set veterans up for success in the classroom and beyond.

For many enlisted veterans, attending college is a necessary next step in transitioning to civilian life and securing a fulfilling career after serving. While this is an exciting new chapter, adjusting to college can be challenging, especially without the support and camaraderie found in the military. If you’re planning to return to school or are already enrolled in college, Warrior-Scholar Project can help ease the transition and bridge the gap from service to higher education.

Just like military boot camps instill essential skills, Warrior-Scholar Project’s (WSP) academic boot camps prepare veterans for success in higher education. WSP is a national nonprofit that helps enlisted veterans excel at four-year universities through immersive academic boot camps at some of the nation’s top colleges.

During a WSP academic boot camp, participants learn from university faculty at the partner institution and receive mentoring from highly successful student veteran fellows who have completed the WSP program. Students engage in analytical reading, writing, and other academic and practical skills critical to academic success.

These experiences help veterans adapt to campus culture and participate in the classroom. Additionally, participants gain insight into the challenges many student veterans face during their transition to college, including navigating the complex university application and admission processes.

WSP also provides workshops tailored to address the unique needs of veterans attending community colleges. All WSP programming is free for enlisted veterans and active-duty service members.

The WSP impact makes a difference: 100% of WSP participants recommend the program, and of the more than 2,500 WSP alumni, 88% have completed or are on track to earn a college degree, which compares to 54% of enlisted veterans using the Post-9/11 GI Bill and 61% of full-time civilian students.

“WSP was the perfect opportunity for me to learn vital academic skills in preparation for my transition back to higher education. I have grown in confidence and academic competence, and I am excited to use what I’ve learned to succeed at my new school this fall!” – Deborah Haddick, U.S. Army veteran and WSP Yale University alumna.

“WSP was more influential than I could have ever expected. I was pretty anxious on my way here, but the entire process fostered and reinforced such a motivating and positive mindset that I will carry throughout my entire academic journey. I would do it again a million times over.” – Adam Sherman, U.S. Navy veteran and WSP University of Illinois, UrbanaChampaign alumnus.

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WSP’s academic boot camps are designed exclusively for current and former enlisted service members who want to pursue higher education. In-person boot camps are one weeklong and occur from June through August, with online boot camps in December. During in-person boot camps, student veterans immerse themselves in the college experience, including staying in dorms, eating in the dining hall, and studying in historic campus libraries. Courses are offered at no cost to student veterans except for travel expenses.

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Healthcare Careers: A Perfect Fit for Military and Civilian Life

By Stephanie Lee, Air Force Veteran & Enrollment Manager, CareerStep

Sometimes, the sense of division between life in the military and life as a civilian feels like a vast chasm. In fact, for military families, this sense of division joins a long list of challenges that specifically impact the men and women who sacrifice so much for the country. These challenges couldn’t be more apparent than when it comes to finding a post-military career or one that is flexible enough to align with military spouses’ unique needs—a career that checks all the right boxes: satisfaction, security, and stability.

Finding industries and employers that understand the skills of veterans and their families can seem like an uphill climb at times, and it shows. For example, the unemployment rate for veterans rose to 6.5% in 2020, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS). Reasons for this vary, but one contributing factor could be that lessons learned under the harsh conditions of combat don’t always translate to private-sector jobs. And for military spouses—60% of which say they’re looking for full- or part-time work—finding a profession that’s both portable and in-demand is increasingly difficult.

However, there is hope and there are opportunities. First, it’s important to consider key reasons why a career in healthcare—the fastest-growing sector in the U.S. economy according to BLS data—might just be what bridges that expansive gap between military and civilian life.

1. Meaningful Work

Most who enter the military are looking for fulfilling work—an opportunity to make a difference. A real difference. But few civilian careers allow veterans to make as much of a difference as those found in healthcare. That’s because working in this particular field, regardless of the role, provides the opportunity to impact peoples’ lives in profound ways. From mending wounds and healing minds to saving lives, the difference healthcare workers make is undeniable.

2. Transferable Skills

There’s a reason healthcare is an overwhelmingly popular career choice for veterans and their spouses: it’s an industry in which military-specific skills are undeniably relevant. Creative problem solving, adaptability, and effective communication— they’re all valuable skills that healthcare organizations can’t ignore if they want to provide the best possible service and care to their patients. And they’re all skills that veterans and their spouses already possess.

3. In-Demand Careers

People need healthcare. In turn, the industry needs people willing to step up to the proverbial plate.

Economic and labor experts believe we need to hire 2.3 million new healthcare workers by 2025 if we’re going to keep pace with the needs of our aging population. But a persistent shortage of skilled workers with exceptional knowledge and training means hundreds of thousands of positions will remain unfilled. Home health aides, medical assistants, lab technicians, and more are all in high demand.

4. Portable Jobs

For a working military spouse, it can be difficult to cultivate a strong professional network, and when the time comes to pack up and move to a new city, the wrong vocation can leave even the most talented pro scrambling to start over. That’s why job portability is so important. Healthcare training provides the skills and certifications that employers are looking for in highgrowth, high-demand fields in virtually every city in the entire world.

Supportive Training for Success

These days, there are multiple training options for learners to pave their road to success. These organizations often have hiring network relationships, so it’s important to keep in contact and inform them when certification is achieved. It’s especially important for members of the healthcare sector to be fully qualified and properly trained. An early step is to start by choosing a specific discipline and then find a provider that can help learners develop the concrete job skills employers are looking for.

The good news is that there’s a significant amount of trusted providers who specialize in transforming entrylevel learners into high-performing, certified healthcare professionals. And they all do this with expansive catalogs of fully online career training programs that are fast, portable, and eligible for military education grants—often covering up to 100% of the cost.

Finding the right fit takes a little time and it is important to explore the possibilities. Doing the research is crucial as it can improve the learning experience—and potentially lead to faster employment. Deciding to pursue a career in healthcare is a fulfilling and viable option for veterans and their spouses.

About the Author:

Stephanie Lee served in the Air Force for 11 years as a Munitions Systems Craftsman. She now serves as an Enrollment Manager for CareerStep, (www.careerstep.com/military/), the Allied Health training division of Carrus. (www.carruslearn.com)

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The Impact of AI on Veteran Workforce Development

By Maurice D. Wilson National Veterans Transition Services, Inc. aka REBOOT

AI is transforming the workforce in several ways, including automation of routine tasks, reshaping hiring processes, and enhancing job training. For veterans, these changes present both challenges and advantages.

Job Automation and Displacement

AI-driven automation will significantly impact jobs that involve repetitive, administrative, or data-driven tasks. Many clerical logistics, and even cybersecurity monitoring roles could see reduced human involvement as AI takes over routine functions. This means some job opportunities may shrink, requiring veterans to pivot towards AI-resistant or AI-enhanced careers.

Additionally, the recent firing of federal workers—many of whom are veterans—is accelerating workforce shifts, much like the impact of COVID-19. This disruption highlights the urgent need for better job-matching tools to support displaced veterans in finding sustainable employment.

Emerging Career Opportunities

Despite the risks of job displacement, AI is creating new roles in areas such as:

• AI-driven cybersecurity and threat detection

• AI system maintenance and programming

• Data analysis and digital operations

• AI ethics and compliance

Veterans with leadership skills, adaptability, and technical expertise are well-positioned to thrive in these growing fields.

Enhanced Training and Upskilling

One of the greatest advantages AI offers is improved training methodologies. AI-driven learning platforms and virtual reality (VR) simulations allow veterans to engage in personalized, skills-based training that mirrors real-world scenarios. These tools can enhance everything from leadership training to hands-on technical instruction, helping veterans transition more effectively into civilian roles.

Improved Job Matching and Career Support

AI-powered job search platforms can help veterans translate military experience into civilian job qualifications. AI-driven career coaching tools can also assist with resume building, interview preparation, and career mapping, ensuring that veterans find roles that match their skills and aspirations.

NVTSI foresaw these challenges and took proactive steps to address them by implementing Job-Set AI, the nation’s only app-based veteran AI job matching system. Job-Set is uniquely designed to analyze a veteran’s skills, experience, and career goals, providing tailored job recommendations with precision unmatched by traditional job search tools. Available and free for military personnel, veterans, and spouses, Job-Set ensures a seamless transition into the workforce by offering personalized career pathways and direct employer connections. You can download and install Job-Set for free from the Apple Store or Google Play.

How Veterans Can Prepare for the Civilian Workforce (2025 and Beyond)

To succeed in an AI-driven job market, veterans should focus on:

1. Upskilling & Reskilling for AI-Augmented Jobs

• Obtain certifications in IT, cloud computing, cybersecurity, and project management (AWS, CompTIA, PMP).

• Develop proficiency in AI-enhanced tools and digital platforms.

2. Developing Soft Skills

• Strengthen leadership, communication, adaptability, and problem-solving abilities.

• Leverage networking platforms like LinkedIn to build professional connections.

3. Using AI in the Job Search and Career Growth

• Utilize AI-powered job search engines and resume optimization tools.

• Take advantage of AI-driven career counseling programs designed for veterans.

4. Exploring AI-Resistant Careers

• Hands-on trades, including mechanics, electricians, and healthcare roles, will continue to be in demand.

• Leadership, operations management, and strategic planning positions will require human expertise and oversight.

Job Losses Due to AI: What the

Numbers Say

According to the World Economic Forum, AI and automation could displace 85 million jobs globally by 2025, but simultaneously create 97 million new roles. In the U.S., estimates suggest that 25% of jobs will be significantly impacted by AI, particularly in manufacturing, customer service, and administrative sectors.

Kai-Fu Lee, a leading AI expert, predicts that AI will automate nearly 40% of all jobs globally within the next 15-25 years. However, he also emphasizes that new opportunities will arise, especially in creative industries, AI supervision, and human-centered professions. He argues that soft skills such as empathy, adaptability, and emotional intelligence will be more valuable than ever, as AI lacks human intuition and creativity.

For veterans, the key to remaining competitive lies in embracing AI-driven changes, pursuing continuous learning, and positioning themselves for emerging opportunities. While some traditional jobs may disappear, those who adapt and develop in-demand skills will find themselves at the forefront of the evolving workforce.

At NVTSI (National Veterans Transition Services, Inc.), we are committed to helping veterans successfully transition into meaningful careers in this new era. By providing access to training, mentorship, and job placement support, we ensure that our nation's heroes remain competitive and thrive in the modern workforce.

Final Thoughts

AI is not something to fear but rather an opportunity to embrace. Veterans have always been adaptable, resilient, and skilled problem-solvers. By leveraging these strengths alongside new technologies, they can not only secure jobs but lead the charge in shaping the future of work.

For more resources and support on veteran workforce development, visit NVTSI.org. You can download and install Job-Set for free from the Apple Store or Google Play.

Maurice D. Wilson, MCPO, USN (Ret) Pres/ED National Veterans Transition Services, Inc. aka REBOOT

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Why Veterans are Perfect for Cybersecurity

By: Stephen Patrick, Marketing Coordinator

Veterans are mission-driven, protectors, and ready for action at a moment’s notice. They are respectful, dutiful, and have integrity. An estimated 55% of people transitioning to civilian life want to do something different than they did on active duty. This is according to LinkedIn’s recent Veteran Opportunity Report.

Are you on duty or a veteran seeking a meaningful new career after serving your country? If so, explore a fast-growing field for an urgent demand for many of the skills you have developed in the military — cyber security. This growing field requires many of the strengths often gained through military service and presents an opportunity to continue to serve your country in a new context: combating the widespread and ever-growing threat of cybercrime. Cybersecurity is a high-stakes field with a critical mission—protecting civilians and businesses from cyber-attacks. There are over 700,000 openings in America (www.statista.com) and 3.5 million worldwide. Cybersecurity is one of the highest-paying industries as tech has taken over our lives.

“Veterans bring a special breed of leadership and experience to the workforce, an unflappable presence during times of crisis and uncertainty,” said Dan Verton, Director of Content Marketing at Cybereason.

Ethical hackers actively work to ensure the security of their information systems, ensuring no outsider can gain access. In any information security job environment, your knowledge and a mindset of perseverance can put you ahead of the curve.

Whether it is a data breach, ransomware, or another form of systems attack when fighting cyber threats, every moment counts and could make the difference between success and failure.

Your training prepared you to be always ready to confront and neutralize a threat! Fighting any adversary means being able to think as they do. In combat, this means anticipating the strategy and next steps of the enemy. In cybersecurity jobs, it means doing the same against thousands of hostile organizations.

As a veteran, you know the success of a mission is always more important than one person. In the cybersecurity industry, teamwork is essential. This applies to the prevention of cybercrime and the need for ethical hackers.

Your military mindset, mentorship, and focus on outcomes, not excuses, will help other civilian employees to do better as you lead by example. Veterans are used to adapting to new orders, circumstances of living, and colleagues regularly. Cybersecurity is also a field that requires an adaptable work style. The University of Maryland reports that hackers attack every 39 seconds, and no matter where you end up working, your organization could become the next target. That means the long-term project you planned to work on that day may take a back seat, but then you will pick up right where you left off once the immediate threat is resolved.

If you think cybersecurity might be the right next move for you, your next step is to explore learning options and gain the foundational skills needed for the technical side of the job. Government agencies are intensifying their efforts to recruit military talent to fight the war on cybercrime.

The University of Louisville’s Cybersecurity Workforce Certificate Program offers several learning options to upskill the workforce in cybersecurity. The program partners with other universities across the country. This is not an academic program but a workforce development program. The certificate includes cryptography, database, artificial intelligence, analytics, blockchain and internet of things (IoT).

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WHAT’S NEXT

Transition to Civilian Life

By Eve Nasby & Kristin Hennessy

Suck It Up, Buttercup!

Woah, isn’t that aggressive? Stay with us. The phrase “Suck It Up, Buttercup” is a response to someone complaining. It bears hints of irony and sarcasm, The phrase stuck because it rhymes, it’s memorable, and has a enough sweet in it to combat the sourness. Essentially it means, “ just get over it.”

Wondering how on earth a column intended to help someone transitioning out of the military could start off this way? Well, you’re going from a strict military mindset into the corporate civilian world where people may be kum-bay-ahhing. Again, stay with us.

Enter “Operation Insta Biotech Exec”

Meet Jim Gruny, a retired Colonel in the United States Marine Corps. He inspired the title of this column. Gruny recalls his transition era. After many years of exceptional service as a Marine with a family, he realized it was time to take his experience and apply it elsewhere. (Well, not really elsewhere - only San Diego. But we’ll get to that shortly. It’s relevant.)

When Gruny decided to take on the next chapter, he put a few priorities in order. First, was location. He had his wife, their two kids, and even a grandchild. They were all in San Diego. When considering the question of where to look for his next career, he knew that if he wanted to KEEP this lovely family, he was keeping his wife’s needs top of mind. San Diego, it was.

So far, he’s following everything we recommend! Location, check! Industry-focused, down, check! Type of role, check!

Gruny started his transition preparation in earnest about 4-5 months out. He felt he had a head start. He knew a few people that he thought would help him get his foot in the door and had a lot of transferable leadership experience. He expected he’d jump right into biotech at the level and role he wanted. Slam dunk? Not as-is. Not yet.

Spoiler alert.

Gruny kept running into the same problem. The leadership role he wanted (Director or above) required 5-10 years of industry experience, which he didn’t have. His expectations were high, and he didn’t want to start at the bottom. After 5 months of this, he got frustrated and gave up the biotech dream.

While he did pursue a rewarding career connected with the Marine Corps, he does wish he spent more time researching biotech as a career. In retrospect, he offers this invaluable advice to you.

1. Suck it up, buttercup and find a job.

If you have to start at the bottom, do it. Even if you’re the best leader the Navy or Marines has ever seen, no one hiring in corporate America really cares if you don’t have the transferable and applicable industryspecific skills.

2. Networking Naturally.

People tend to network to find people that will help them. But Gruny recommends to network differently. Instead of looking for people who can help you, focus your networking on how YOU can help people. He calls it “networking naturally”. And it’s worked for him to build mutually benefitting and lasting relationships.

3. Accept PTSD.

If you get injured, you get the injury fixed. Treat PTSD like any other injury or ailment. Don’t run away from it or ignore it. Just fix it. There are a ton of helpful resources throughout this month’s magazine that can help.

4. Start the transition process EARLY.

Most people, including Gruny, started too late. As a result, you don’t know what you’re getting into

until once you get into it. Then you realize how long it actually takes to do what you want to do. Give yourself 1-2 years to get it right.

5. Ask yourself a couple of fundamental questions. A lot will impact your decision. Make sure you are clear on these personal questions! What’s most important to you? Where do you want to be or what do you want to do after you retire?

6. Set reasonable expectations.

Even if you were an outstanding leader in the military, you won’t have what they’re looking for to start at the top in a sector outside of the military. You’ll need to suck it up and start lower down to get that experience. Setting realistic expectations results in less frustration.

7. Treat transition like a job. You can’t half-ass it and think your new career will come to you. Work at it every day and structure yourself like you would for any other project you worked on while on active duty.

Jim currently serves as the Community Liaison Officer at Marine Corps Recruit Depot, San Diego, where each year 17,000 young men and women are trained to win battles, become better citizens, and earn the title...Marine.

We hope this no fluff advice is helpful.

Questions, looking for resources or answers?

Need help with your transition? Have questions?

Contact Eve at eve@infused.work

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Finding a job in the civilian workplace may seem easy at first. After all, you have learned skills, practiced leadership and demonstrated initiative that will make you successful wherever you go.

The reality, though, is that it can be difficult. In fact, it can be downright depressing demotivating and you may feel totally disillusioned. We can help.

In our Veterans In Transition archives you will find helpful and informative articles about what’s next in transition, veterans in business, career, advice, tips, workshops, transition to education, entrepreneurship, veteran franchises, legal tips & resources for veteran businesses and much more...

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Transition to Business HUMAN RESOURCES

By Paul Falcone

Family-Friendly Workplace Benefits

April is the Month of the Military Child. What better time is there to discuss family-friendly health and wellness benefits in the workplace? Once you transition from the military to the private sector, you’ll likely have some questions, concerns, and ah-ha moments about how benefits work at different companies.

Accommodating families is actually a key focus for many organizations, primarily to recruit and retain workers and achieve higher levels of employee engagement and satisfaction. But healthcare expenses weigh heavily on company budgets and are often regulated by the state, so finding the right mix for the employee population is always a challenge for the employer.

With parents making up 40 percent of the workforce, offering a benefits package that supports employees in different life stages is essential. If a private sector employer offers any particular family-friendly benefits, they’ll typically advertise them broadly in their recruitment advertising campaigns and career portals, especially benefits that are designed to be advantageous to career-oriented working mothers—a segment of the working population particularly hard hit by the pandemic and not returning to the workplace as quickly as other segments of the population. This may include paid maternity and paternity leave, alternative career paths, extended leave, flextime, job sharing, relaxed dress codes, summer hours, elder care flexibility, and telecommuting.

Some organizations provide take-home meals for those working overtime, subsidize babysitting, or offer jobfinding assistance for spouses of employees who are relocating. Requiring workers to shut off their mobile devices after hours is another perk that organizations are increasingly giving to their employees. All help recipients balance career and family. All square with Gen Y (Millennial) and Gen Z’s (Zoomers) desires for greater work-life-family balance, harmony, and control. And all help organizations raise the support they can provide to working parents while their employees raise their little ones or care for their elders.

Let’s take a bit of a deeper look into what some of these benefits are and how they work. . .

• Paid Parental Leave

• Flexible Work Schedules

• Childcare Assistance

• Dependent Care FSAs

• Adoption Assistance

• Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs)

• Wellness Programs

• Financial Wellness Benefits

• Paid Parental Leave

Paid parental leave is a benefit that allows new parents to take time off from work to bond with their newborn child. It is often offered to both moms and dads (but sometimes just for mothers), and companies often follow state law in determining how baby bonding works, for how long, and how it is compensated.

• Flexible Work Schedules

Hybrid work schedules are on the rise; fully onsite and fully remote work schedules are on the wane. While there’s much debate about “productivity paranoia” from CEOs and how “managing the unseen” can be accomplished effectively, hybrid work arrangements are providing the best of both worlds: consistent performance and productivity for employers and a healthy balance of autonomy and accountability for workers. Flexible start and stop times as well as job sharing round out this category, which can return workers who have remained on the sidelines since the pandemic back into the office or onto the shop floor.

• Childcare Assistance

If a company helps with childcare programs, it could include onsite daycare, subsidies for daycare costs, and reimbursement for daycare expenses. Broader benefits are generally found with the largest employers, but small to mid-sized organizations may be competitive in this space as well in order to attract and retain talent.

• Dependent Care FSAs

Flexible spending accounts permit you to set aside pretax dollars to fund eligible dependent care expenses, including daycare, after-school programs, and in some cases, summer camp.

• Adoption Assistance

Adoption assistance benefits, when available, are intended to cover adoption-related expenses and provide paid time off for bonding with the new child.

• Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs)

EAPs offer counseling, support, and referral services to help workers with personal and family problems that may affect their job performance. Services typically cover mental health and depression, substance abuse, legal and financial aid, and other family-friendly services that help balance personal challenges that can sometimes flow over into work performance.

• Wellness Programs

Gen-Z Zoomers (the 25-and-under crowd) are testing out as the most isolated and depressed generation on the planet thanks to their consumption of digital media, among other things. That’s why you’re hearing so much about mental health and wellbeing in the workplace. Programs in this area typically include gym memberships, health coaching, yoga classes, smoking cessation, teletherapy, and similar benefits.

• Financial Wellness Benefits

Inviting guest speakers from local financial institutions to discuss employee financial wellness benefits often begins with leading workshops on household budgeting, investment and retirement savings, and estate planning (e.g., wills and trusts). Speakers and their services help workers gain financial acumen that translates into greater security and peace of mind. Likewise, pay-anyday solutions grant employees access to their earned wages (up to 50%) between pay periods. Keep an eye out for this and other digital solutions that are intended to make your work-life balance that much easier.

Companies offer benefits like these to retain staff and produce a more productive, happier workforce. It’s also the right thing to do in the face of today’s pressing family challenges. Look to these and other solutions that are being developed and rolled out as we speak. The goal is to help workers balance their work and family commitments, reduce anxiety and stress, and ultimately increase job satisfaction and retention. Those are noble goals for any employer and something that workers can leverage to their and their families’ benefit.

You can connect with Paul on LinkedIn at www.linkedin.com/in/paulfalcone1

Paul Falcone (www.PaulFalconeHR.com) is a management trainer, executive coach, and bestselling author on hiring, performance management, and leadership development.

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Veterans Make Great Entrepreneurs FRANCHISE DREAMs

By Doug Dwyer doug.dwyer@dreammakerbk.com

Jeff & Ruth Vargo – Veterans to Franchise Owners

This month, I’d love to share an excerpt from an article written about some of our veteran franchise owners – Jeff and Ruth Vargo. The full article can be found at the following link: citylifestyle.com/articles/making-your-dreamswork

“When was the last time we actually had a dream?”

Jeff and Ruth Vargo, owners of DreamMaker Bath & Kitchen of the Woodlands, TX, talk about their experience leading up to buying a remodeling franchise.

The discussion around starting their own business began with a question, “When was the last time we actually had a dream?” says Ruth Vargo, the co-owner of DreamMaker Bath and Kitchen of The Woodlands (a suburb of Houston, TX). The question set her and her husband Jeff on a journey that included a good deal of self-reflection.

Jeff and Ruth Vargo met at West Point. After graduation, they each deployed twice. As company commanders, they had countless discussions with their troops about the difficulties of deploying with children, so they left the Army when they started their own family. From there, they went to Exxon Mobil’s Major Projects Group, and in a blink, ten years had passed.

In 2019, Jeff, who has always had an affinity for home improvement, felt led to pursue something new, an opportunity to examine life’s purpose, happiness, and fulfillment. “He started asking himself some of those questions and really doing reflection and felt like God was really telling him to make a change,” says Ruth.

He began by looking at opportunities in the residential construction space. A year later, they had decided to buy a franchise. Their DreamMaker location in The Woodlands focuses on interior design and remodeling, and as it turns out, following their dreams is helping others fulfill theirs.

“That’s been the most rewarding thing for both of us,” says Ruth. “To have this dream and then actually try to go out and do it, it’s such a gift.”

“It was in construction, remodeling, owning your own business, all of that kind of thing was a reallygood fit,” says Ruth Vargo.

Doug Dwyer is the President & CSO of DreamMaker Bath & Kitchen, a company dedicated to helping its remodeling franchisees achieve Strong Margins and a Quality of Life.

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BUSINESS FOR VETERANS

By Barbara Eldridge www.mindmasters.com

The Power of Clear Business Relationships

Business is all about relationships—whether with family, the government, your doctor, banker, or vendors. As a small business owner, it's easy to get caught up in the rush of getting things done, but this often leads to lessthan-perfect outcomes. I’ve heard many complaints from clients about the lack of accountability in their business relationships. Whether it’s with a vendor, independent contractor, or even within their own team, commitments are often not fulfilled, which undermines trust and leads to frustration.

The Importance of Clear Commitments

A strong relationship is built on trust. Trust grows when commitments are fulfilled to the satisfaction of all parties. One of the core skills in business is being able to articulate your desired results clearly and setting up agreements that ensure everyone is on the same page.

Take a recent experience with a client of mine. They were looking to hire a public relations professional, and three candidates were under consideration. I was invited to sit in on one of the interviews. The PR contractor spoke in broad, vague terms, using general examples from the daily news to suggest where my client might "fit in." But when it came time to make specific commitments about positioning the client, the contractor could not provide a clear strategy or timeline. My client quickly moved on to the next two candidates.

In contrast, the contractor they eventually hired presented a detailed PR program. She clearly outlined the areas she would focus on and identified what my client needed to do to support the program. Together, they developed a document that held both parties accountable for performing the work and achieving measurable results. With this agreement in place, my client now has a roadmap for success—and the confidence that both sides are committed to fulfilling their roles.

How Clear Agreements Foster Stronger Relationships

In all of our business relationships, whether we’re hiring or being hired, the key to success is clear communication and agreement. Too often, challenges arise because expectations aren’t set

clearly from the start. This lack of agreement on both the work to be done and the results to be achieved leads to confusion and unmet expectations.

Here are four essential steps for building stronger business relationships:

1. Define Clear Goals: Know exactly what you want to achieve, and ensure that all parties are aligned on the desired outcomes. This helps prevent misunderstandings and keeps everyone focused on the same objective.

2. Set Realistic Deadlines: Agree on a timeline for completing the work. A clear deadline helps create accountability and ensures that everyone is working toward the same timeframe.

3. Agree on Methods: Establish how the work will be done and who will be responsible for each task. This helps prevent any ambiguity or confusion about who is doing what.

4. Be Prepared to Address Issues: Challenges will inevitably arise. Be proactive about discussing potential problems and have a plan in place to resolve them when they come up. This fosters trust and demonstrates your commitment to a successful partnership.

Building Trust Through Consistency

When you establish clear policies and procedures— and stick to them consistently—people know what to expect from you. This reliability builds trust, which is the foundation for lasting business relationships. The more trust you build, the more likely your business will grow, as clients and partners feel confident that you will deliver on your commitments.

Barbara Eldridge has built a solid reputation as a Results strategies specialist, within industry and business over the past 40 years. Her unique message, since starting Mind Masters 30 years ago for entrepreneurs and small business owners, continually stresses vision, purpose and values as the key elements of business philosophy. Her undying compassion for the entrepreneur’s journey, her tireless capacity to listen, and her sincere enthusiasm for other’s success have insured her growing influence and her own mastery with MIND MASTERS. www.mindmasters.com

7 Tips On How To Deal With A Difficult Boss At A Job You Love

By: Stanley Popovich www.managingfear.com

What can you do if you like your job, but your boss causes you a lot of stress and anxiety?

It can be stressful to be at your place of employment and have your supervisor constantly get on your case.

As a result, here are seven tips on how you can deal with a difficult manager at your current job.

1. Don’t rush to conclusions: Do not be quick to make judgements about your boss. Give it a month or two to see how things work out before getting upset. It usually takes some time to adjust to changes that take place regarding your job

. 2. Improve your work performance: If you get a new boss, try doing some extra work to show that you are a good and dependable employee. A few extra hours of work during the week could impress your manager and could improve relations. Many managers like employees who go the extra mile.

3. Try to reduce any future problems: It is important to make sure you plan ahead to help reduce any potential issues that might occur between you and your manager. Make sure you meet all of your deadlines and talk to your manager if you have any questions about your performance. Doing these things will help prevent future business conflicts.

4. Watch your actions: Be careful what you talk about when hanging out with others in your office. Do not talk about politics, religion, or any other sensitive topics that could get you into trouble. Focus on trying to do the best job you can instead of worrying what everyone else is doing.

5. Focus on what your boss likes to do: It doesn’t hurt to ask your manager what they like to do when they are not working. Show an interest in what your manager likes to do. This will help to get to know your manager as a person rather than just as a boss.

6. Talk to a career counselor for advice: If your still having trouble with your manager, talk to a career counselor who can give you advice on what you can do. Do not be quick to make any career decisions that could cause problems for you down the road.

Remember to take things one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities and that includes learning how to deal with your problems at your job. Have an open mind regarding your current job and be on the lookout in finding ways to maintain the peace with your supervisor.

7. You always have options: Sometimes a person may need to change departments or find another job if they do not like working for their current supervisor. Do not be afraid to change jobs if it means that you will be happier. It is important to enjoy what you are doing and to work with a supervisor who is understanding and easy to work with.

About the Author Stan Popovich

Stan’s mental health advice has been featured on NBC, ABC, CBS, and Fox News. Please google Stan and visit his website at www.managingfear.com for more valuable information advice.

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WHY VETERANS & FRANCHISING ARE A PERFECT FIT

Veterans emerge from service with strong leadership skills and a thorough understanding of teams. Franchisors have long recognized that entrepreneurial veterans are some of the best qualified, motivated and successful prospective franchisees.

Franchises provide training. A franchise business operates on proven systems and defined procedures and has comprehensive training and support built into the franchising process. This means a veteran can enter a completely new field and is more likely to succeed by following the franchisor’s proven business model.

“As a Marine Corps veteran, I know the value of teamwork and dedication. At VetFran, we’re committed to helping fellow veterans turn their skills into successful franchise businesses and achieve their entrepreneurial dreams.”

of franchisees in the United States are veterans. 14%

franchise businesses offer discounts to veteran prospects.

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President Careertopia

Former Captain, USMC

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PTSD: Reclaiming Control

By: Robert ‘Bob’ Cuyler, PhD Psychologist and Trauma Expert

Veterans as First Responders

When our veterans return to civilian life, many civilians view our jobs as first responders. In many ways, this is a natural workplace progression as those who serve the nation in our military continue to find roles to serve their communities when they leave active duty. Estimates are that about 10% of emergency medical technicians, 20% of firefighters, and 20-25% of law enforcement officers are veterans. It also makes sense that the training and experience in the armed forces would translate well to civilian roles in which teamwork, preparedness, courage, and ability to respond to danger and emergencies are of high priority in first responder positions.

However, built into these first responder roles are guaranteed repeat exposure to traumatic situations. Rates of post-traumatic stress in first responder roles are estimated at 30%. This is likely an underestimated figure, as most first responders do not seek help for post-traumatic symptoms because of real or perceived fears of job stability and its impact on the ability to advance in the workplace, in addition to cultural issues. Often, due to social stigmas and prohibitive social norms, veterans and first responders have the perception of someone who should be able to handle whatever comes.

Here are some of the factors that may put first responders with veteran backgrounds at caution. We know that repeated exposure to traumatic events increases risk. Some of those events may have occurred during military service, but reactions did not reach the threshold of PTSD symptoms. Being unmarried increases risk, likely affecting the scope of one’s social support structure. Advancing age makes a difference as well, perhaps associated with cumulative trauma.

The literature on military PTSD also suggests that training as a soldier increases hypervigilance (scanning one’s environment for danger), and this hypervigilance escalates after traumatic events, disturbing sleep, affecting relationships, and leading to high baseline levels of stress. As members of teams, first responders develop intense loyalty and protectiveness to peers. Trauma, therefore, extends to accident or injury to one’s coworkers as well as oneself; this has been termed ‘vicarious trauma.’

In our past columns, we have been outlining a variety of approaches for coping with and treating posttraumatic stress. We know that a variety of approaches are available to meet individual needs and preferences. Seeking assistance sooner rather than later makes all the difference in recovery. One impact of the pandemic was to broaden societal awareness of PTSD beyond military service as well as to recognize the tremendous role that first responders play in protecting the rest of us. Firefighters, EMTs, and police don’t have the option to work remotely from home! The impact of stigma perhaps has lessened somewhat, and during the past five years, we have seen more municipalities and unions develop benefits and specialty resources for first responders under stress.

Now more than ever, veterans have a variety of options to assist their return to life at home. The National Center for PTSD (www.ptsd.va.gov), the First Responder Support Network (www.frsn.org), and the Tug McGraw Foundation (www.tugmcgraw.org)

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*See - (/resources-ptsd-first-responders) are great resources, each adding to the support structure every veteran can build on their own path to PTSD, stress, and panic disorder treatment and recovery. Taking care of yourself comes first before helping take care of us. We thank you for your continued service.

Dr. Cuyler is chief clinical officer of Freespira, an FDA-cleared nonmedication treatment that helps people with panic and PTSD manage their symptoms by learning how to regulate their breathing. www.freespira.com

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Learn “Fight Club” rules

Fight but fight fair. Figure out what works for you and your partner. If Scott can leave the room for a bit, he’s willing to address a resolution when he returns. So now, instead of an argument lasting days, we resolve it in 15-20 minutes.

Learn your partner’s comfort zone

What do they like? What makes them nervous? Scott doesn’t like crowds, and he prefers to sit facing a door. So even now, even though he’s changed and grown, it’s his preferred place, so I will sit with my back to the door so he can face it.

Be mindful of your partner

Be aware of your partner and how he or she may react in certain situations. When you focus on each other –as opposed to watching a movie and scrolling on your phone – you may be able to identify subtle changes that could indicate things are bubbling to the surface.

Try something different

During Project Odysseys, couples are often challenged to try new things that may be uncomfortable for them. The objective is to help people process differently. Getting out of your comfort zone is hard, but that is where you grow and learn. For instance, Scott learned to kayak. I had no desire, as there was nothing about it that I wanted to like, but I tried it. Now, we have our own kayak and take multiple trips to a local lake when the season is right.

Embrace the new normal

We are not the same people we were 25 years ago. Everyone changes, whether through lived experiences in the military or otherwise. You must decide if you will embrace your new normal and how to be most effective.

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Welcome to the Veterans Association of North County

HERE FOR YOU WHEN YOU NEED US

Here you will find several resources, programs, services and opportunities for Veterans, Service Members and their families. Our goal is to be your one stop shop for all things, so don’t hesitate to contact us at any time. Programs and services vary, and include additional information for each. We have two Veteran Services Representatives (VSR) here at VANC, read all about them below in Addtional Services at: (www.vanc.me/services-programs)

OUR MISSION

VANC is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization created and operated by Veterans as a one-stop resource center for all active-duty military, Veterans, and their families. We centralize services from diverse agencies to assist with jobs, education, finances, health, and wellness.

OUR VISION

We seek to honor and support those who have served our country, bridging the past, present, and future. VANC is a vibrant gathering place in North San Diego County, where all Veterans, active-duty military, and their loved ones can reach out for help and community. VANC engages and informs local Veterans organizations, service providers, and individuals, helping them work together. VANC seeks to be a model for other organizations that serve the military community.

JOIN US FOR AMAZING UPCOMING EVENTS

There’s always engaging things happening at VANC and with our partners. Check our calendar here for regularly scheduled events, meetings and opportunities here at VANC (www.vanc.me/events#calendar)

WE LOVE OUR ASSOCIATION MEMBERS AND THEY’RE HERE FOR YOU TOO. VANC is open to all military, veterans and friends of the military. If you would like to become a Veterans Association member, Contact Lori at lori@vanc.me to learn more.

Veterans Chamber of Commerce

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Benefits of Buying a Home as a Family

In an era where financial stability is paramount, buying a home as a family stands out as one of the most impactful decisions you can make. Beyond the obvious advantages, homeownership offers benefits that extend to financial security, emotional fulfillment, and longterm prosperity. Downpayment options if needed can be found here https://leadership.my.canva.site/ downpayment

For families, purchasing a home is not just an investment in property; it’s an investment in a shared future and it could be a way to create Generational Wealth!

One of the most compelling reasons Unlike renting, where monthly payments contribute solely to a landlord’s income, mortgage payments build equity over time.

This equity can serve as a financial safety net, offering opportunities for future investments, education funding, or even retirement savings.

Additionally, homeownership often comes with tax benefits, such as deductions on mortgage interest and property taxes, which can significantly reduce your annual tax burden. For families, these financial advantages can create a stronger foundation for achieving long-term goals.

Beyond the financial perks, owning a home fosters a sense of stability and belonging. For children, growing up in a permanent home can provide a consistent environment that supports emotional and social development. Studies have shown that children in stable housing situations tend to perform better academically and exhibit fewer behavioral issues.

Another often-overlooked benefit of buying a home as a family is the opportunity to customize and create a space that truly reflects your values and lifestyle. Unlike renting, where restrictions on renovations and décor can feel limiting, homeownership allows you to tailor your living space to meet your family’s unique needs.

Moreover, homeownership can serve as a powerful tool for teaching financial responsibility and planning to younger generations. Involving children in discussions about budgeting, saving, and maintaining a home are valuable life skills. It also fosters a sense of pride and ownership, as they contribute to the care and upkeep of the family home.

If you would like direct assistance, feel free to contact us, we will be happy to help! just send us an email at: veteransccsd@gmail.com

The National Veterans Chamber will be more than happy to meet with you and provide some guidance. Check us out at: www.vccsd.org (Our Chamber of Commerce Membership is FREE for all Military/ Veterans and their extended families)

THE SAN DIEGO VETERANS COALITION IS A COALITION OF OVER 150 UNIQUE NON-PROFITS, BUSINESSES, GOVERNMENT AGENCIES AND EDUCATIONAL ENTITIES ALL UNITED BY THE GOAL OF SUPPORTING MEMBERS OF OUR COMMUNITY WHO SERVED OUR COUNTRY IN THE ARMED FORCES, THEIR FAMILIES, AND THEIR CARETAKERS.

SAN DIEGO VETERANS COALITION

The San Diego Veterans Coalition was organized in 2009 and incorporated as a non-profit on May 24, 2011. Using the Collective Impact Model, SDVC is a premier San Diego County-wide monthly convener of over 150 unique member and participating organizations, businesses, and agencies, as well as convening many of that body in our four action groups, and other activities and events. The Collective Impact Model is based on leveraging relationships with other veteran and family serving organizations so that we may provide veterans and their families with a complete array of services and other opportunities.

Many of the organizations that belong to SDVC specialize in one field (education, housing, employment, healthcare). Knowing what services each other provides, we can offer comprehensive support to our local Veteran community. We are proud to work alongside a wide variety of non-profit and for-profit organizations, as well as governmental agencies and individuals. The SDVC is a catalyst that inspires collaboration and cooperation among service partners to deliver premier support for Veterans in the San Diego region and beyond.

SDVC is proud to have partnered with ONWARD OPS, which has partnered with the Veterans Administration, the Department of Defense, and local communities to support service members through the process from military to civilian life by matching them with one-on-one sponsors in their specific community.

ONWARD OPS Sponsors all complete a VA-Certified Sponsor Training Course and the Community Integration Coordinators are all validated as best-in-class, trusted, and capable partners in their local region. Our national network, working with the department of defense, the department of veterans affairs, and the department of labor, brings a team together in one common mission: to securely provide the information and relationships needed to help every transitioning service member successfully make the journey out of the military and into civilian life.

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OPPORTUNITIES IN LAW ENFORCEMENT

You’ve served your country, now serve your community!

Military and law enforcement have had a longstanding relationship with overlaps in training exercises, equipment, and, most important, personnel.

It is not uncommon for a service member to make the jump from the military to law enforcement as both professions look for the same characteristics; leadership, fidelity, chain of command, and teamwork are all common themes in both professions.

Quite understandably, many American military veterans often gravitate to a career in law enforcement when the time comes to rejoin the civilian workforce.

The two professions have many fundamental similarities; from the uniforms they wear with pride, to the firm command structure they serve under, to great personal risk they endure while protecting those who cannot protect themselves.

VETERANS IN LAW ENFORCEMENT

The following agencies are actively hiring & proudly support our veterans, active military and the families that keep together.

From Navy Sailor to San Francisco Police Officer

By Holly Shaffner

Changing careers can be exciting, exhilarating, and filled with trepidation. Meet Officer Cindy Ovares who has made the transition numerous times – from active-duty service member, to student, massage therapist, teacher, and now police officer.

The life experience she gained in those previous longterm jobs set her up to be successful today. She is doing what she’s always wanted to do – have a career that is challenging and rewarding.

Cindy was like many seniors in high school as she contemplated what she would do after graduation. When the Navy recruiter called the house looking for her brother, the recruiter instead got an eager, independent 17-year-old woman who wanted to find adventure. Just a few months later, she was off to “see the world” and start her first career.

As an Aviation Machinist’s Mate, Petty Officer Ovares was a jet engine mechanic. It was a male-dominated job, and she wanted to prove that anything a man could do, she could do better. She attended military schools in Florida and Virginia to learn her trade, and was later stationed in Lemoore, California. She was attached to VFA-22, an F/A-18 Super Hornet squadron, that deployed on ships. After serving four years on active duty, she earned Post 9/11 GI Bill education benefits, and chose to leave the Navy to attend college.

After completing her bachelor’s degree in Secondary Education and being a fluent Spanish speaker, she was hired to be a high school Spanish teacher. The job was gratifying; but also, under resourced, understaffed, and had little room to grow professionally. She wanted something new and challenging, was drawn to the community where she grew up, so, in her late 30s she applied to be a police officer.

“Being able to talk to people, figure out what they are going through, and what they need is a huge portion of the job. I enjoy interacting with the public, and engaging in what I call verbal judo.”

- Officer Cindy Ovares

Officer Ovares was accepted to the San Francisco Police Academy and has been an officer for the last three years. She is a foot patrol officer working in the Tenderloin District – a 50-block area that has a storied history, and has been known for homelessness, drugs, and crime.

“Being able to talk to people, figure out what they are going through, and what they need is a huge portion of the job. I enjoy interacting with the public, and engaging in what I call verbal judo,” said Officer Ovares.

For Officer Ovares, the parallels between serving in the military and serving in law enforcement made the transition go smoothly:

• Routine – You know what to expect before your shift begins (what time to report, what uniform to wear, the structure of the day).

• Camaraderie – The bond between fellow officers is like the bond between your fellow military brothers and sisters.

• Variety – Every day is different with different assignments and duties, so the job is never boring.

• Benefits – Include a competitive salary, paid vacation days, floating holidays, and sick days, healthcare, retirement, and special pay for certain assignments and being bilingual.

As a Latina giving back to her community, she admits that the job comes with highs and lows. Officer Ovares recommends a career in law enforcement for those military members looking to make a smooth transition to a new chapter.

To learn more about the San Francisco Police Department, or to connect with recruiter, go to: www.sanfranciscopolice.org/your-sfpd/careers

SDPD Ride Along: A Story of Two Marines

By Amber Robinbson San Diego Veterans Magazine

When I asked to go on a ride along with the San Diego Police Department, making a special request for any veterans-turned-cops, I expected a really serious, possibly dangerous, afternoon of shadowing our city’s toughest crime fighters.

What I got was an afternoon of heartfelt service to our San Diego community, honorable humility and a lot of respect.

When I asked whether former Marine Sergeant Major, Mark Wright, and his partner, former Marine Staff Sergeant, Sean Bunch, had rank or titles he said their titles were just San Diego police officers. They are relatively new partners, but act like they’ve known each other for years, which is usually the case when you get Marines together.

Wright is a newer addition to the force, coming on board two years ago, with Bunch only having two years left.

Currently, these brothers-in-arms spend their days patrolling the entirety of Balboa Park.

Although neither men are taking fire or kicking in the enemy’s door on this beat, like during their time in Iraq or Afghanistan, they still work hard to serve their local community. Service which can range from tracking down criminals to answering questions from lost pedestrians, to giving out stickers to kids and never backing down from a chance to turn on those flashing red and blues just to make one of them smile.

Most of our particular day was cruising around beautiful Balboa Park running car tags to see if they were current, from cars not displaying proper plates and placards to those double parked. Bunch says they often catch parole violators or even stolen cars doing just this. I was struck as I watched both officers go out of their way to look in and around vehicles to find plates or disability placards not displayed correctly so as to avoid issuing superfluous tickets.

“We try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt,” said Wright. “We’re not out to get anybody.”

Although, both officers confirm that enforcing even the most basic of park rules can yield large payoffs. During a recent patrol Bunch spotted an individual smoking in the park, which is illegal. As he circled back round, the individual turned and rapidly tried to walk away, which activated immediate suspicion. He was detained and came back with a warrant for numerous kidnapping and child molestation charges.

Both men say a lot of what they do is talk with museum owners and those living in the neighborhoods surrounding the park about their concerns. A shared concern by all is the park’s homeless population.

Bunch says their posture towards the homeless is mostly that of assistance, adding there are many resources available for those who would take them.

Officer Sean Bunch

Officer Mark Wright

The city spends a lot of money on resources,” said Bunch. “The biggest problem we run into is whether or not the [homeless] people want them, and a lot of them don’t.”

Thus, the men tend to run into the same issues with the same people pretty often. Although frustrating, they have learned that respect goes a long way when challenged with these repeat offenders. Bunch recalls spotting one such offender in the park, who was in violation of his parole and wanted on warrant. He was unable to get to the offender immediately, but still apprehended him with a verbal request. The parolee waited patiently to be hand-cuffed and arrested, simply out of the respect he held for the law man.

“Being respectful of everyone despite their lot in life goes a long way in this job,” said Wright.

Both men say a huge part of their work is being able to connect and communicate with the myriad of people they meet daily.

Bunch says he feels he and Wright are lucky to come to the force later in life, given it means they have a wider frame of reference for those they meet and serve daily. “We deal with people who are going through all kinds of things in life,” said Bunch. “And it’s helpful to be able to say, ‘hey I know what you are going through, I’ve been there.”

As the day progressed, I realized that both gentlemen definitely had a long list of tough and unique life experiences to pull from. Both proudly served the United States Marines for years, traveling to war and all over the world, experiences that yield much wisdom as well as many a story.

Bunch, for instance, did not come to the force straight from the Marines, but from Hollywood. Surprisingly, he is a member of the Screen Actors Guild, working as a military advisor on various productions, like Lonestar 911, and appearing in some as well, such as one of the most recent Men in Black movies.

“I grew up outside of LA,” said Bunch. “So, I’ve always just kind of been around the business and found a place for myself there with all my military experience.”

Bunch hopes to return to work in Hollywood after he leaves the force, bringing with him a new level of experience and respect.

Wright, who retired from the Marines as a Sergeant Major never worked in Hollywood, but he does have plenty of stories about being a proud grandfather, father and new amputee. When I entered the Central Division Station and met him, he said he was just getting back to work after some time off after losing his leg.

Wright remained unscathed during his over-20-years in service, overseas deployments and endless combat train ups. It wasn’t until after service that he lost his leg in a motorcycle accident late one foggy night a little over a year ago. Wright says it had been an eventful second watch and he was leaving the station about 2 AM on his motorcycle when it happened.

“It was only about two minutes from work,” said Wright. “I was coming around a curve and entered into what I thought was fog, and as I’m entering, I see a headlight and side mirror in my lane.”

That headlight and mirror became an entire car that was blocking Wright’s entire side of the road.

“I was a heuy crew chief in the Marines and reverted to my training from that, grabbed my shoulders, braced for impact and went flying like a human lawn dart over my handlebars,” said Wright.

Wright landed in the ditch on the side of the road. He says he realized immediately that he had a back and leg issue. He learned that a bystander had called 911, but he requested they call back and state that the injured motorcycle rider was a policeman with the San Diego Police Department and expedite services. This one request would become pivotal in saving Wright’s life.

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“What I didn’t know at that time was that I had severed two arteries in my leg, and I was bleeding out,” said Wright.

What Wright would learn later is his heel had also been torn off on the wrecked car as he sailed past it into the ditch. After much pain and many surgeries, Wright would finally lose his leg from the knee down. says he doesn’t let it get him down, though. He’s proud to continue to serve as one of our city’s finest.

Both he and Bunch take much pride in their time as Marines and as San Diego Police Officers. Each officer comes from strong military stock, with Wright’s grandfather being a World War II veteran and Prisoner of War and Bunch’s father a decorated veteran of Vietnam.

All in all, this Army vet’s afternoon with two Marines was an impressive one. Both seasoned public servants, these honorable men have discovered you must give respect to get it, that violence is often not the answer and the most important thing to keep in mind along the way, is a good, human dose of empathy.

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