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09.27.17-10.04.17
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I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU Each morning on my way to work, I am drawn in by your quiet beauty, your charm. You stand poised, confident and headless, in the window. I’ve been watching you for quite some time. I think about you often. I think you’re a woman I could get along with. You seem serene and kind, like me. When: Friday, September 15, 2017. Where: near Church and Bank streets. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914108
BARNES & NOBLE BIKER You were in the music section, holding a helmet and buying a record. I didn’t catch the name of the artist. I was in line in front of you, learning which Zeppelin DVDs I should purchase. I don’t have much to say other than: Want to hang out? When: Thursday, September 21, 2017. Where: Barnes & Noble. You: Man. Me: Woman. #914119
FRIENDLY AT FLATBREAD IN MIDDLEBURY Spiky-haired smiler behind the bar! So down-to-earth and always friendly. My kids think you’re great, and so does everyone in town! Thanks for being awesome, Kim. When: Tuesday, September 19, 2017. Where: American Flatbread, Middlebury. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914112
LITTLE DOG AT LITTLE RIVER About 6 p.m. You: working hard to get your SUP secured to your roof while your little man entertained himself. Me: doing much the same with my canoe and talking to your little man. You said “See ya” when I departed. Will I? When: Wednesday, September 13, 2017. Where: canoe put-in on Cottonbrook Road. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914107
SAM, CALL ME STEVE I was trying hard to focus on all the AT set-up information you were giving me, but your smile was too distracting. Grab a beer before you head to New Hampshire? When: Thursday, September 21, 2017. Where: OGE. You: Man. Me: Man. #914118
CITY MARKET WATER REFILL You: 1.5 gallon. Me: five. You: nice tie-dye T. Spoke briefly. I stumbled on words but wanted to introduce myself and ask you out. I liked your vibe. When: Sunday, September 17, 2017. Where: City Market/Onion River Co-op. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914111
ARTSRIOT ANGEL You: black, backless bodysuit at the Pinegrove show. Multiple nose piercings, beautiful eyes and a glowing smile. Me: breathless when I managed to catch your eye for a fleeting moment. I am not even looking for a response — just wanted to let you know that dancing in your presence made my night. When: Wednesday, September 20, 2017. Where: ArtsRiot. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914117
AFTER ALL THESE YEARS J: After all these years, you must know I’m crazy for you. It kills me not being able to tell you how I feel. Maybe I’ll get lucky, and you will read this post. When: Sunday, August 13, 2017. Where: in the night sky. You: Man. Me: Woman. #914110
PIXIE-CUT YOGA CUTIE I saw you walking to yoga class, mat under your arm and a pixie cut on your head. I never knew it could look so good. I’ll be in Boston a lot these next few weeks, but maybe I’ll be back in town. I know you said your birthday was coming up. So happy birthday, sweet thing. When: Friday, September 1, 2017. Where: North Street. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914106
MEET CUTE, MONTPELIER COOP SALAD BAR 6 p.m. You: sexy, sweet, spunky woman with short light-brown hair and a smile to write an iSpy about. Caught me off guard as you complimented my really red hair and “coordinated outfit.” I said “thank you” three times. In my mind we should have broken out into song and dance. I think we should play dress up and do anything fun. When: Tuesday, September 19, 2017. Where: Hunger Mountain Coop, Montpelier. You: Woman. Me: Woman. #914116 BLONDE AT ZERO GRAVITY Afternoon. Me: tall guy with shades. You: beautiful blonde. I saw you and asked about your name. I apologized because I thought you were someone else. You seemed really nice, and I should’ve asked for your number. When: Saturday, September 16, 2017. Where: Zero Gravity Craft Brewery. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914115 STOWE AND ASPEN Your Tinder profile says “divides time between Stowe and Aspen.” I slipped and swiped left, but I have friends in Aspen and ski Stowe! Are there second chances? When: Wednesday, September 20, 2017. Where: Tinder. You: Man. Me: Woman. #914114 PRIUS TO THE RESCUE! Generously, you offered to jump-start my Suzuki with your Prius. Your blue eyes and smile jump-started my heart! Though you had to go, I would like to enjoy your company and return the generosity. Will I look into your blue eyes again? When: Monday, September 18, 2017. Where: Exit 7 Travel Center. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914113
ATTRACTIVE MOM WATCHING PRIDE PARADE I saw a pretty mom watching the parade in front of the mall with her daughter, in a T-shirt that said LOVE, aviator sunglasses, jeans, black sandals and red nails. Me: a black sweatshirt with rainbow stripes on the sleeves, jeans and flip-flops. Our daughters watched the parade near each other. Should’ve said hi there or at Battery Park later. Coffee sometime? When: Sunday, September 10, 2017. Where: Pride Parade. You: Woman. Me: Woman. #914109
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BIKE QUESTIONS Deb, you saw my “May Use Full Lane” cycle shirt and asked me about the local cycling infrastructure. I provided a lot of detail in a short amount of time. I forgot to ask, do you want to go for a ride sometime? When: Monday, September 11, 2017. Where: Old Spokes Home. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914105 HEY THERE, MR. DJ Hey there, DJ Silky Tongue! I just wanted to say I love your beats, and we should get together sometime and really make some music happen. I enjoy hot tubs, long walks in the sun and water sports. You can call me Amelie. When: Wednesday, August 30, 2017. Where: in a fish. You: Man. Me: Woman. #914104 UNDER THE DOME AT HENRY’S You: a tall, adorable, dark-haired, be-spectacled man reading Stephen King’s Under the Dome. Me: the blonde sitting directly to your right having brunch with a friend. I missed my chance to say hello. I’d love to get coffee and discuss the book and other Stephen King/literature-related things sometime. When: Saturday, September 9, 2017. Where: Henry’s Diner. You: Man. Me: Woman. #914103 ATTRACIVE WOMAN, GEORGIA MARKET 6 p.m.-ish. Black top and black shorts. You were with your son. First saw you near the tomatoes. Saw you one last time when you were loading up your car and I was driving by. Me: just a guy in a green shirt and tan shorts. Would enjoy hearing from you. :) When: Friday, September 8, 2017. Where: Georgia Market. You: Woman. Me: Man. #914102 WHERE ARE THE BUTCH LESBIANS? I wish I could spy bunches of butch and/or jocky lesbians out there. Where are you all hiding? If only I were good at softball, maybe I could find you? Perhaps you will find me? When: Friday, September 8, 2017. Where: Burlington area. You: Woman. Me: Woman. #914101
Your wise counselor in love, lust and life
ASK ATHENA Dear Athena,
I’m in love with a guy who has three children and who has had a live-in partner for five years. They broke up, but the family of the girl still doesn’t know that they are not in a relationship anymore, and so they still live together. This girl is still trying to work on their relationship that he says is over. She cheated on him thrice already. Should I continue my relationship with this guy?
Yours truly,
Dear Confused,
Confused and In Love
The first words in your letter are, “I’m in love.” But even being in love can’t always make up for messy circumstances like the ones you describe. In fact, your emotions might be clouding your ability to think clearly and look out for yourself. The fact that your guy is a father shouldn’t be a deterrent to a new relationship, but this whole scenario sounds fishy to me. It does to you, too, or you wouldn’t be writing to me. Even though you love him, I strongly recommend that you give him and this situation some space unless and until their arrangement changes. Ask yourself how much longer you could handle playing second fiddle to this so-called “ex” — and why you should even try. If he’s into you in any sort of serious way, one of them has to move out. Their roommate situation must end if your relationship is to have any future. By the way, are the kids hers? If so, be prepared to see her around a lot, even if she and your man separate for good. And speaking of kids, do you have any relationship with them? If not, have you considered how their existence would affect your life with this guy? Parenthood is a 24-7 commitment, and you need to understand and accept that reality in his life. Children and their needs aside, you deserve a partner who can make you a priority, too. This guy is still living with a woman who’s clinging to the relationship and lying to her family about it. I wouldn’t call this making you a priority. See what I’m saying here? You’ve got a lot to think about. Stay focused on what’s right for you, now and in the long term. Good luck!
Yours,
Athena
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