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Nancy Forrest

Dr. Joyce Nations

Martha Hynson

Patrick Snider

Joyce Hordan

John P. Vansant, MD

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Aaron Snider

Vaness McBrayer

Beth Snider

Bob Merritt

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From the Editor...

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s you read this, we will be a few days into 2011. It is hard to believe that another year has gone by—and so quickly. For most of us, 2010 was a hard year, but I feel blessed that we got through it as well as we did. Some were not as fortunate. We have a prayer chain at our church and it seems to get longer and longer. Many people are sick, some are out of work or fearful they will lose their job, there are problems within homes—financial, emotional, or spiritual. There is a lot of sadness and room for improvement, both in our state and in our country. We just need to keep a positive attitude and always remember that God is still in control.

We hope you enjoy our Bridal/Wedding issue. If you are planning a wedding, perhaps there are some helpful tips somewhere in our articles that will save you some time and energy. You are starting a wonderful chapter of your life and need to enjoy every moment of the planning. There are so many beautiful places in North Georgia to have your wedding, reception, and honeymoon.

Take extra precautions while driving this winter. It looks like we are going to have our share of ice, snow, and temperatures that dip into the single digits. Our curvy roads make this extra dangerous, especially for those who

have to be out in the early morning hours.

Always have a flashlight and a warm heavy coat in your car. And boots would come in handy if you had to walk for any distance in an emergency.

Have a happy 2011. Make an extra effort to love more; laugh several times a day; never go to bed mad at someone or something; be nice to folks you meet in passing; give more hugs because a lot of people need them; lend a helping hand to someone in need; and don’t be critical of others, because words can cut deeply. If we do all these things, we will most definitely have a good year.

Until next month…stay happy!

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hanks to Keith Key for our front and back cover this month. A Southern photographer and media professional for 25 years, Keith’s work has captured life’s essence with images of families, children, seniors, couples, and professionals in a legendary way, with style reminiscent of a family with a century of quality experience.

Sandy, Keith’s wife and first choice as a second photographer and assistant on shoots, has become invaluable in her ability to manage the details of photography as a business.

The centerpiece of Key’s decision to excel in photography is seen in his world-class wedding photography. Key has photographed weddings of both the well-known and the not-so-well-known, and the demand for his work is exemplified by his assignments to photograph weddings in the world’s two premiere wedding locations, Hawaii and the Caribbean.

As a visionary photographer, Key is widely traveled, from yachting in the Caribbean to kayaking on the Gold Coast of Maui. He knows the importance of setting in his stylish photographic creations, and it shows in his passion for the world’s finest wedding portraiture.

As the father of eleven-year-old twins and an eight-year-old, he understands the challenges of photographing children, and the sensitivity needed to capture the desired images. His eight-year-old son is following in the footsteps of the family photographic legacy, and already has emerged with a style of his own.

Key’s diverse and respected work can be seen at keyphotography.com, where art meets legacy, where creations become legends.

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Contents

January 2011 Volume 7, Issue 8

2011 Bridal Issue

Columns

6 Reflections

11 Say “I Don’t” to Wedding Stress

8 Shades of Scarlett

12 Say “I Do” in a Fairytale Setting

10 Mind & Heart

5 Wedding Trends

14 Catering Q & A

13 To Your Health

16 So...You’re Getting Married

17 Health Matters

21 A Wedding Reception to Remember

18 Comma Momma 22 Knowing Wine 23 Good Eating – Bobber’s

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Reverse Mortgages: An Important Financial Option

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here are many factors in today’s society that have made reverse mortgages more popular— and more necessary. People are living longer than ever before and spending more time in retirement.

At the same time, they tend to underestimate their retirement savings needs.

“When it comes to retirement, you need to be ready for anything and everything. A reverse mortgage can possibly help many people remain in their home, be more financially independent, and live a more fulfilling life,” says Tony Cusumano, reverse mortgage consultant for MetLife Bank.

Reverse mortgages: the facts

So, what exactly is a reverse mortgage? Simply put, it’s a loan that allows homeowners aged 62 or older to tap into the equity that’s been built up in their home.

The homeowners can then use the proceeds in a variety of ways— such as covering monthly living expenses, making improvements to the home, or paying for prescriptions and healthcare.

There are other important benefits as well:

• The borrower continues to own and live in the home—even if one of the co-borrowers passes away. Of course, the homeowners must continue to pay property taxes, have homeowners insurance, and maintain the home—but the proceeds from the reverse mortgage can be used to pay for these routine expenses.

• No repayment is required until the borrower sells the house or does not live in the house for more than 12 months. When the house is sold, the loan is repaid along with accrued interest. If the borrower leaves the house for more than 12 months, such as for a stay at a nursing home facility, then the loan also becomes due.

• There are no monthly payments required. Although there are no monthly mortgage payments, interest accrues on the portion

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of the loan amount disbursed.

And while the funds received from a reverse mortgage do not impact regular Social Security or Medicare benefits, certain needs-based benefits, such as Medicaid and Supplemental Security Income (SSI) may be affected. Prospective borrowers should contact their tax professional about their specific situation.

• A prospective borrower can still qualify, even if he or she is still paying on a conventional mortgage. The proceeds from the reverse mortgage will be used to first pay off the existing mortgage.

• Closing costs can be rolled into the reverse mortgage itself, so there’s no immediate financial impact to contend with.

• Borrowers have a choice of how they receive their proceeds, based on their needs and preference. They can choose: • A single lump sum payment • Monthly income for as long as they live in the home, or, if they prefer, for a specified period of time • A line of credit they can draw on as needed • Any combination of these options MetLife Bank offers free educational materials, including a comprehensive information kit and video to consumers who may be interested in taking a reverse mortgage or would like more details. For more information about a MetLife Bank reverse mortgage, contact Tony Cusumano at 678-393-9588.

“A reverse mortgage can make all the difference, and help you to live better today and be more prepared for the future,” notes Cusumano.

All loans are subject to property approval. Certain conditions and fees apply. Mortgage financing provided

by MetLife Bank, N.A., Equal Housing Lender. © 2010 METLIFE, INC R0310096957[exp0311][All States][DC

Wedding Trends Delicious and Affordable Ways to Say “I Do”

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pringtime ushers in the glitz and glamour of wedding season, which lasts into late fall. This year, economizing is foremost on everyone’s minds, but betrothed couples want their weddings and the events leading up to them to be as special as ever.

These wedding trends are how brides and grooms are turning bridal showers, couples’ showers and, of course, the wedding itself into priceless yet affordable experiences for everyone involved.

—Revisiting food classics that are guaranteed to please the palate but don’t break the bank, like the Sizzling Mini-Sliders featured.

—Choosing fresh and flavorful wines that present incredible value for the price but don’t compromise a smidge on quality.

—Serving food in smaller portions, a restaurant trend, is a hit for guests and a boon for the budget.

—Conserving resources with 3L Premium Wine Casks, a convenient, nowaste way to serve a crowd.

Here are some stylish, budget-friendly food and wine options that allow happy couples to have their cupcakes and eat them too.

Bridal Shower

To create an elegant and festive party atmosphere, decorate the event space with fresh flowers and set aside a table where gifts can be presented. A buffet table lets guests serve themselves and also provides a tableau for food and wine selections to be artfully displayed. Arrange an inviting layout of fresh seasonal salads and bite-sized desserts, with a delectable angel hair pasta dish as the centerpiece. Pair with the delicious Angel Juice Pinot Grigio, quintessentially Californian with delicate peach notes and a refreshing finish.

Couple’s Shower

A couple’s shower is the ideal way to informally celebrate the upcoming marriage. Commonly known as a Jack and Jill party, the event can be a luncheon, a laid-back barbeque or a party at a local park. A couple’s shower is a prime opportunity for everyone to take a break and enjoy spending time together. Mini-burgers, or gourmet

sliders, have universal appeal and offer up a new twist on an old favorite.

Paired with the vibrant Big House Red, a California blend bursting with ripe red fruits that costs less than $10 a bottle, they will easily satisfy guests.

Wedding Reception

As an alternative to the traditional wedding cake, a cupcake wedding tree is a sophisticated way to end the momentous occasion on the sweetest of notes. Paired with the luscious, foodfriendly Cupcake Chardonnay from the prized Central Coast winegrowing region, this spectacular dessert and the creamy, fruit-forward wine are a match made in heaven.

Wine Planning Checklist for Parties —Use 3L Premium Wine Casks for large groups, as each cask will serve up to 20 guests, each guest with a standard five-ounce glass.

onion (about 1/2 onion) 4 teaspoons minced garlic 3 teaspoons seeded and minced serrano chile (about 1 chile) 2 teaspoons finely chopped fresh rosemary and sprigs for garnish 2 cups Angel Juice Pinot Grigio 3 tablespoons fresh lemon juice 24 large shrimp, peeled and deveined 4 tablespoons butter 1/4 cup pine nuts, toasted in a 350°F oven for 10 minutes until lightly browned Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste.

1/2 cup Big House Red 1 1/2 pounds ground chuck 1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt 12 3-inch dinner rolls

1/2 cup thinly shredded radicchio

—Open and decant red wines about 30 minutes before guests arrive to allow the flavors to open up and breathe.

16 ounces dried angel hair pasta

2 teaspoons minced garlic

1/2 cup loosely packed watercress

—Chill white wine for at least three hours before guests arrive.

Serves 6 Prep time: 30 minutes

1 teaspoon onion powder

Caramelized onions (sauté in olive oil, very slowly, about 20 minutes)

—For evening parties, serve approximately one glass of wine per guest every hour.

Angel Hair Pasta With Shrimp & Rosemary

Serves 4 Prep time: 30 minutes

Condiments

—Guests at daytime parties usually drink less wine. Serve approximately one glass of wine per guest every 90 minutes.

—Be a responsible host and offer special non-alcoholic beverages and plenty of water for thirsty guests.

Sizzling Mini-Sliders

Cook pasta according to package directions. Set large saucepan over medium heat and add olive oil. Sauté onions, garlic, chiles and rosemary about 4 minutes or until soft.

Add wine and lemon juice, raise heat to high and boil until liquid is reduced by half.

Add shrimp and cook until pink, about 2 minutes. Remove pan from heat, stir in butter and pine nuts, and toss with drained pasta. Add salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste.

In medium bowl, combine onion powder, garlic, wine, beef, salt and pepper. Shape into twelve 1/2-inchthick patties. Grill until browned, 3 to 4 minutes per side. Grill dinner rolls until slightly toasted. On bottom of each roll, place caramelized onions, patty, watercress and radicchio. Top with roll top.

1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil 3/4 cup chopped

All materials courtesy of Underdog Wine Merchants. For more information about these wines, please visit www.UnderdogWineMerchants.com.

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by Bob Merritt Life is a mirror. We look forward, that’s the future. We look back, remember and learn—that’s a reflection.

Tractor Time

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would like to dedicate this article to my good friend, Harley Sutton. Harley departed this world a number of years ago but left a legacy that will last as long as signs adorn the fronts of most Cumming, Georgia, businesses. Harley did his sign painting the old-fashioned way, by hand. Harley was well known for his sign painting skills; but I remember him particularly because he valued me as a friend.

I regret, very often, that I did not

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set aside as much time for him as he allowed for me. Harley had a sense of humor, and once a month he would call me with an invitation to stop by and pick up a packet he had for me. The packet always consisted of a couple of pages of jokes he had rewritten to make them more humorous; a couple of his favorite magazines he wanted to share with me were Good Old Days, Reminisce, and a reprint of his favorite newspaper, Old News.

Harley and I had a similar sense of humor and liked things old, like historical articles, old jokes, and our favorite, old tractors. Harley never missed a tractor show in the state of Georgia. A tractor show was like homecoming week to Harley. I was invited to them all by him, but unfortunately I didn’t have as much free time as he did. A couple of times a year a tractor show was held in Cumming, at the Fairgrounds, and I always met Harley there. A couple of times he had his grandson with him. He shared a lot with that boy and truly left him a legacy. Now I attend Cummings tractor shows alone, but I know that if it is at all possible, Harley is there with me.

I like to think so.

This year I saw a big increase in the size and number of tractors and other farm equipment at the show. Most of the tractors just sat there for us to gawk at, while others were being used to demonstrate their various functions from a time long ago.

The demonstrations ranged from log milling to shelling corn; from ice cream makers, to one designed and modified to cut firewood-sized logs using a crosscut saw. All this proved that our grandparents were inventive and did all right with what they had. As the smoke filled the air, the released steam sent a loud shrilling sound for at least a mile. That sound is fairly common in Cumming, especially a week before the Fourth of July and during the annual parade of tractors that tour through the city

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from west to east until they find a resting place at the Cumming Fairgrounds.

At the Tractor Show there is no lack of color, but most of it is green, blue, red, and orange.

From one end of the midway to the other I walked, never missing a chance to gaze at the oldies but goodies, and dream of owning one of those new big boys. I learned a lot just by examining the different plows, their sizes and shapes, all the time wishing my little tractor had some of those plow attachments. Even old men can dream. There was no shortage of old men strolling around in their overalls checking things out. Some of the men were there with their wives, and while most of the spectators were lookers, some were there to buy.

If you needed a part for an old tractor, the odds are it could be found there.

As I made my way toward the exit I felt a little sad that it was a trip ending for me; but I realize that Cumming’s Mason Tractor will be sponsoring another tractor show this year. Thanks to them, some of us older men can join those young whippersnappers in remembering and wishing.

And…thank you, Harley, for the memories.

Shades of Scarlett

appy 2011 to you! Now that we’ve thrown out the old and rung in the new, we can look both ways, for a short time.

Then we’ll be immersed in the new year and before we know it, July 4th will be here. That’s how fast time goes now. It has nothing at all to do with my age, mind you. Life has accelerated even though we have exactly the same number of seconds, minutes, hours, days, and months I’ve always lived in and with.

Growing up in the south held a lot of traditions, and I love them all. Good traditions provide a solid background to life. That’s why I still hold on to lots of them, in some form or other. New Year’s Day dinner (at midday, for us) consisted of collard or turnip greens; black-eyed peas, which Mama declared meant 1,000 good things in the new year; hog jowl, or some more desirable part of a hog; and cornbread. These were the staples, and there were all sorts of additions, plus desserts.

We drank milk or buttermilk (these lips only tasted buttermilk once and that was enough for me), or coffee. I don’t remember anyone drinking water with meals, and sweet tea was reserved for warmer weather, and I didn’t know anyone who drank hot tea, either.

The Blackwell and Abernathy families didn’t often get together on New Year’s Eve as I recall; perhaps Christmas was such a celebration that it lasted a while.

Some folks in the neighborhood had firecrackers, and they just went BANG and/or POPPOPPOP, and there was nothing to see except smoke. Here and there you could hear at midnight a church bell or the sound of a hunting rifle or shotgun being shot toward the sky. And then we’d go back in the house and go to bed, and I would look out the window to see if the new year looked different.

The New Year’s Eve tradition I hold in my heart occurred as my baby sister and I got old enough to stay up till midnight.

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by Joyce Jordan

Our church had a Watch Night service. There were hymns and prayers, hopes and promises and commitments to God, and then, at midnight, the real, authentic church bell tolled the hour. That’s when, as a child, I remember feeling that the old year was walking out of sight and the new one was here, fresh, with a clean slate to be filled. We actually took stock of our lives and resolved to make the new year better in every good way.

Resolutions have evolved down through the years, but I like the way a friend described her aim for 2011. She said she was not making any resolutions this year. Instead, she was going to set some goals, accomplish certain things. I think that’s a great idea.

Resolutions are usually broken the first week or so, especially the age-old one concerning weight loss. Whatever 2011 holds for you and yours, cherish each moment and live in it with thankfulness, optimism, and joy, despite the obstacles. I’ll meet you here this time next year and we will see how it all turned out.

Bring on 2011: I’m ready.

Joyce Jordan is a native Georgian who enjoyed a 30-yr. career as a journalist and radio personality, working in Forsyth and Lumpkin Counties. She’s now a freelance writer, living happily in Dawsonville,GA.

The Chestatee Zoo Welcomes the AWANAS

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his Christmas season found the meetings of our AWANA group cancelled because of other church programs, especially the annual Christmas Cantata.

As the teacher of the third and fourth grade boys, I hated to lose the momentum of their learning; so to reward them, I made arrangements to share a passion of mine, the Chestatee Wildlife Management Center, Jake Dilmore known as the zoo.

Arrangements were made, parents were recruited, Garrett Dilmore and reservations made.

The zoo owner welcomed C.W. Wathen and our small group and Shelby Dilmore promised them all a special day.

Linda’s and my fascination with the zoo began back around 1994 quite by accident.

During a drive through a new advertiser’s subdivision, Wellington in Dahlonega, we journeyed on up Red Oak Flats until we came to another blacktop road. In unfamiliar territory, it was destiny that caused us to take a left turn. As we drove up the road, Linda suddenly shouted, “Oh my!” I asked, “What’s the matter?” She said, “You aren’t going to believe this, but I just saw some zebras in the addition, sickness or woods.” other parental plans I dismissed her report, blaming it on her kept most of the kids lack of farm animal knowledge, especially in from showing up at North Georgia. Suddenly she shouted, “Lions, the scheduled time.

I just saw some lions down there!” I replied, Linda had already assured me we would go if “Sure you did; now would you kindly pour me only one kid showed up.

We were lucky, because some of whatever you’re drinking?” Suddenly we one complete family met us. Rodney and Jennifer came upon the iron gate that had a sign reading Dilmore met us with their two boys, Jake and Zoo. Intrigued, we pulled over and slowly walked Garrett, and their two-and-a-half-year-old daughter, through the gate and down the road until we were Shelby.

It was a great mixture, and we enjoyed met by a gentleman who introduced himself as C.W. the family, especially their automatic love for the Wathen, the zoo’s owner and director. From that animals.

We walked pass the cages holding bears, day to this we have had a love affair with the zoo. It tigers, and more tigers.

There were llamas, camels, was our pleasure to introduce one more family to ducks, geese, wolves, buffalo, and one strange this terrific place. beast that was a mixture of a donkey and a zebra.

As luck would have it, the day of the AWANA It is called a zedonk.

It is quite rare.

Visitors from all trip was a dreary day and the forecast of rain over the world come to see it.

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from India that day. Many of the animals were in their shelter out of sight, while others made an appearance in their cage or pen. I was amazed at how much the grizzly bear had grown—what a beautiful animal. And when C.W. let the snow tigers out, they romped like kids at recess. They put on a show for all the visitors.

Just as the rains came, the kids and other visitors were sitting in the theatre, ready for our venture into the wild. It was show time at the petting zoo. Guess who stole the show? You guessed it: the Dilmore boys’ little sister, Shelby.

Onlookers were amazed as she followed her two brothers’ lead and handled the two-foot-plus alligator and a variety of snakes. We all delighted in her bravery, but the thing we delighted in the most was the fun these kids shared with us on this dreary day.

As we left the zoo, we adults walked a little lighter and we felt great.

We took a lot of pictures and wish to share them with you, and extend an invitation to all you kids, and the young at heart, from C.W. and his staff of volunteers. Come see the animals and handle a few. It may be the best day and gift you could share with those you love. I guarantee they will love you for sharing the experience with them. (By the way, the gator’s mouth was wrapped with tape.)

I imagine God’s instruction to Noah was to “feed my animals.” Today it is the intention of C.W. to carry on that command, but he needs your help.

Go by and witness for yourself how well the animals are kept and cared for. The entry fee is $5.00 for kids 11 and younger, and $10.00 for others. Leave knowing that what you just paid was a small price for what you are taking away. Tell others. The zoo is open seven days a week from 11:00am until 5:00pm. Feeding time is around 11:00am.

The address is 469 Old Dahlonega Highway, Dahlonega, GA 30533; phone 678-637-6765.

Take a look at their web site (www.chestateewildlife. com); there is a good map to the zoo.

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Blending Families: Do Your Homework First

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ith the theme of this month’s issue focusing on brides and weddings, I thought that it might be appropriate to address issues related to marriages (or remarriages, as the case may be) involving children.

While much has been written over the years about blended families, the usual point of reference is “after the fact”; i.e., how to identify and address issues that develop among the family members some time after the marriage takes place. However, I believe that it is just as important to examine factors that play into the decision to marry someone with children from a previous marriage or other relationship, particularly when one already has his or her own children. In my experience doing family therapy over many years, I have come to believe that many difficult marriages and blended family situations could probably be avoided if the adult participants really took the time to objectively evaluate the complex relationship needs and dynamics involved in such unions.

A preventative approach to avoiding blended family conflicts starts with being honest and realistic about one’s own needs and feelings.

For example, marrying or re-marrying at age 40 to a partner with children when one has never before been a parent can be a particularly difficult adjustment, even if a personal and unfulfilled firsttime parenting “need” is simultaneously being met in some way. As such, this prospective step parent should spend enough time beforehand around the child or children in question, preferably within their natural life circumstances, to make sure that he or she would really want to be part of a childcentered scenario over time. For many parents, particularly mothers with physical custody of their children, the children come first (as they should), yet for a previous non-parent this can be a

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difficult reality to embrace. Many divorced fathers nowadays exercise regular and frequent visitations with their children, and during such paternal visitations a new, previously non-parent wife may be (or, at least feel) apportioned a smaller share of her husband’s attentions. While the age of the children can often be a moderating factor here, in that younger children typically tend to require more of the birth parent’s time and attention, older children and teenagers bring their own set of needs and issues into the mix as well. For example, older children can be more resistant, at least initially, to the presence in the home of another adult authority figure who has not been with them in their earlier formative years and may be seen as a threat to the non-custodial parent’s authority.

This can be a particularly difficult adjustment process for older boys and new stepfathers.

Clearly, when two adults marry who already have their own children from earlier unions and therefore have previous parenting experience, the blended family adjustment process can often be easier as a result. Nevertheless, conflicts about differing parenting philosophies and trying to balance the needs and interrelationships among children from different family histories can create other formidable challenges.

If the foregoing discussion sounds a bit discouraging or pessimistic, it is not intended to be so. In actuality, I have personally witnessed many blended family marriages that have worked out beautifully and were usually, in many ways, healthier and more loving than the earlier unions from which the participants originated.

The true central point of this discussion is that it is important to honestly examine one’s own feelings about creating a blended family situation through marriage or remarriage. As I have professionally told many prospective partners

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Mark P. Feinsilber, Ph.D.

in these circumstances, there is no shame in acknowledging that such a situation may not be suitable for you, despite how much you might care for your adult partner, or even for their children.

For those (parents, or non-parents) who are more certain about their desires to marry partners with children, it is still often recommended that they have frequent and open discussions with their prospective partners prior to their marriage, or even formal engagement, about the potential issues that may emerge concerning the children. In some cases, pre-marital counseling is recommended to provide a forum for these feelings and concerns to be addressed in a more structured and professional atmosphere. I have found this process to be very useful to responsible couples who are motivated to try to prevent difficult and painful relationship conflicts from developing around their children after the couple marries, by heightening their awareness of the potential challenges in store.

Mark P. Feinsilber, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist with over 20 years’ experience treating adults, children, adolescents, couples, and families; and is a founding member of the Behavioral Health Association of Forsyth (BHAF). His practice is located at 6030 Bethelview Road, Suite 401, in Cumming.

Appointments or other consultations can be arranged by calling the administrative office at 770-205-5760, and more detailed information can be found at www.APSDoc.com.

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tomach aches, headaches, sleep problems, poor concentration, moodiness, irritability, racing thoughts…Getting married is supposed to be a happy time, right?

So why are so many brides-to-be completely stressed out?

Having to take care of endless details, manage vendors, handle family demands, and meet the emotional needs of the groom—and fitting it all into an already busy schedule—can turn any sweet-natured woman into either a blubbering mess or the dreaded bridezilla.

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way. Wedding consultants and planning experts agree that there are some ways to manage the stress and make the planning process more enjoyable for everyone involved.

Expect stress. If you accept the fact that this is a stressful time, you can let go of guilt about it and take some precautionary measures to deal with it. Talk with your fiancé and a close friend about helping you chill out when things get too tense. Come up with a non-judgmental code word they can say to let you know it’s time for a break. When you hear the code word, stop, take a deep breath, and then set the planning aside for a while and do something nonwedding related.

Be realistic. A lot of brides set their expectations so high that they drive themselves (and everyone around them) crazy trying to meet them.

But unless you have unlimited access to money, you’re going to have to adjust some of your plans.

There are a lot of resources (web sites, books, magazines, friends) that can help you pull off a lovely wedding on whatever budget you have.

Don’t try to please everyone.

It’s just not possible. Nor is it reasonable to try. The wedding is

about the bride and groom. You two need to decide what is meaningful to you and what will express who you are. If his mother wants Cousin Jennie to play her bagpipe as you march down the aisle and you don’t care for the idea, it’s ok to say no. Come up with a polite response such as, “Thanks for your suggestion, but we’re going in a different direction with the plans.”

Feelings may get bruised, but ultimately it’s your day and it only has to please you and your fiancé.

Delegate, delegate, delegate. No matter how capable you are, no matter how nifty your organizer is, you can’t do everything by yourself.

Nor should you, so stop feeling guilty. It’s ok to ask friends, family, and the groom for help—as long as you do it nicely. Some churches or reception halls have a wedding coordinator available to help with details. They’ve done this hundreds of times, you haven’t. Use them!

Take care of yourself. It’s always important to eat right and get enough sleep and exercise; but it’s especially important during times of stress. You’ll feel more energized, you’ll be able to think more clearly and make better decisions. Besides, who wants to see a bride with dark circles under her eyes drag herself down the aisle?

Keep things in perspective. The most important thing to remember is that the wedding is only a one-day event. It’s just a party to celebrate the beginning of a life together. Too many brides feel enormous pressure to make the wedding perfect, and they forget about building a solid marriage. Don’t lose yourself in the details of this one day. You have a lifetime of new memories to create; this is only one of them.

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Say “I Do in ” a Fairytale Setting T

ucked away in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Georgia, Barnsley Gardens Resort’s love-inspired history and English garden setting make it the perfect wedding location. From December 2010 through February 2011, brides who reserve six or more rooms can have their dream destination wedding and reception at this luxury resort for free.

Brides who book a free winter wedding will have their ceremony in Barnsley Gardens Resort’s picturesque Alpine-style Chapel. With its heart pine walls and vaulted ceilings, it is the perfect site for an intimate wedding.

Located in the center of Barnsley’s English-style village, it is essentially the heart of the property. Following the ceremony, guests will gather in one of the resort’s enchanting, intimate reception sites featuring grand wood-burning fireplaces that create a romantic and cozy setting for an evening of dancing and dining with friends and family.

Additional amenities depend on the number of rooms booked but may include a private venue for reception, complimentary cake cutting, wedding coordination services, and choices between a minister for the ceremony, bridal bouquet and boutonniere, wedding cake, or a complimentary honeymoon suite.

Overnight guests of Barnsley Gardens Resort are housed in woodland cottages that are arranged in a style to mimic a European village. Each cottage boasts luxurious bedrooms and cozy living rooms for gathering friends and family. Perfect for housing the entire family, Estate Cottages are a popular choice for weddings because they feature five, six, or seven bedrooms with an oversized great room, a dining area, fireplace, pantry kitchens, and private porches. Each well-appointed separate bedroom boasts 32-inch LCD TVs and spacious bathrooms with tile showers.

Free wedding amenities are based on the number of rooms reserved and include the following:

With reservations for six rooms, free wedding amenities include: • Wedding Chapel for an afternoon ceremony • Private venue for reception (15-30 guests) • Complimentary cake cutting • Wedding coordination services • A choice of ONE of the following: a nondenominational minister for the ceremony OR bridal bouquet and boutonniere OR two-tiered wedding cake OR a complimentary honeymoon stay in a suite

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With reservations for 11 rooms, free wedding amenities include: • Wedding Chapel for an afternoon ceremony • Private venue for reception (30-50 guests)

• Wedding Chapel for afternoon or evening ceremony • Private venue for reception (50-100 guests) • Complimentary cake cutting • Wedding coordination services • A choice of THREE of the following: a nondenominational minister for the ceremony OR bridal bouquet and boutonniere OR two-tiered wedding cake OR a complimentary honeymoon stay in a suite With reservations for 24 rooms, free wedding amenities include: • Wedding Chapel for afternoon or evening ceremony • Private venue for reception (101-150 guests) • Complimentary cake cutting • Wedding coordination services • ALL of the following: a nondenominational minister for the ceremony, bridal bouquet and boutonniere, three-tiered wedding cake, complimentary honeymoon stay in a suite Food and beverage costs are not included in the offer. The food and beverage minimum for this offer is reduced to $70 per person; tax and gratuities are additional. For additional information on hosting a winter wedding at Barnsley Gardens Resort, call 770-773-7480.

• Complimentary cake cutting • Wedding coordination services • A choice of TWO of the following: a nondenominational minister for the ceremony OR bridal bouquet and boutonniere OR two-tiered wedding cake OR a complimentary honeymoon stay in a suite With reservations for 18 rooms, free wedding amenities include:

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In the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains just 60 miles north of Atlanta, Barnsley Gardens Resort welcomes guests into a storybook romantic setting of incomparable service. Encompassing 3,300 acres, the historic Barnsley Gardens offers a unique getaway experience. Originally built as an opulent estate in the 19th century, the grounds have been transformed into a world-class resort. All guests are lodged in private rooms, suites, or cottages, all luxuriously appointed with a mix of old-world charm and modern convenience. Whether looking for a site for a relaxing weekend, a strategic meeting, or an elegant wedding, guests will discover a retreat of privacy and perfection. Amenities include gourmet dining, immaculate gardens, historic ruins, a European-style spa, and exciting recreational choices such as world-class golf, wingshooting and hunting at Springbank Plantation (Georgia’s most unique hunting preserve), and horseback riding along scenic trails. See www.barnsleyresort.com.

NORTHSIDE HOSPITAL

To Your Health

Helping Your Teen Become A Good Babysitter

by Sharon Breunig, RN, MSN, operations coordinator, Northside Hospital MothersFirst, Atlanta

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abysitting is often one of the first jobs a preteen or teen will have. If she is responsible and is good at working with children, it can be a great way to earn a little extra money, as well as learn and practice important life skills. As a parent, you can help prepare your teen to be a successful babysitter.

• Encourage your teen to take a babysitting class. Find out if a babysitting course is offered in your community and encourage her to enroll. These courses can equip the future babysitter in first-aid and CPR, as well as help her develop skills in discussing money with clients, organizing schedules, and protecting against a wide range of unsafe-sitter situations including strangers, severe weather, fire, and dangerous employers.

• Help your teen practice skills she learned in class. Many teens start out babysitting younger siblings or helping out relatives with babies. This can help her make sure she is comfortable working with children, and help you determine if she is responsible enough to babysit others.

• Help network.

You have connections.

Offer referrals to relatives, neighbors, and other parents and family friends. Don’t advertise in public places or on the Internet, and only pursue requests from families that are recommended by people you know well.

• Provide transportation. Offer to drive your teen to and from jobs. When she is old enough, this will broaden her

job opportunities outside the neighborhood. It will also give you time to talk about what she liked and didn’t like about the job. Did she feel scared or unsafe at any time? Does she seem stressed, or energized, by the experience?

• Be available for questions. Be available by phone, should your teen need to contact you for advice or assistance, especially during her first few babysitting jobs. Make sure she knows to call 911 first in case of any emergency.

• Guard your teen’s time. It may be hard for your teen to decline jobs, especially from parents who are in desperate need of someone last minute. If she seems to be overbooked or has little free time in her schedule, step in and offer guidance. Make sure she knows that babysitting is not a full-time job. Depending on her schedule, particularly during the school year, you may want to restrict babysitting to weekends only.

Safe Sitter

Northside Hospital offers monthly babysitting preparation classes for young adults, age 11 years and up. Safe Sitter includes role-playing games, hands-on manikin practice, topics in teen care, and tips for setting up a babysitting business.

The full-day course was designed by a pediatrician and has received national recognition by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

The enrollment fee is $64. For more information or to register, call (404) 845-5555 or visit www.northside.com.

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Catering Q & A Ten Questions for Your Wedding Caterer

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great caterer will do more than just make good food. He or she will pay great attention to details, making sure the presentation is just right, the food and wine are served at the right temperature, the servers are well-groomed and attentive, and that clean-up is efficient and thorough.

So how do you make sure the caterer you hire is a great one? By asking the right questions.

May I have references?

Most caterers get their business by word of mouth.

Ask for at least ten former clients, and call as many as you can. Ask them questions like these: • Was the caterer easy to work with?

• Was the service efficient and non-intrusive?

• Was the food delicious, and did it arrive hot?

• Were there any problems that came up, and how did the caterer deal with them?

Do you have a business license and liability insurance?

Caterers should be licensed by the state. Usually licenses are displayed in the office, but if you’re not positive, then ask to see it. Make sure you see proof of liability insurance as well.

Can we sample from a typical wedding menu?

Catering can be a large part of your wedding budget. Make sure you know what it is you’ll be getting for your money. Take your spouse-to-be and a friend with you to the tasting, so that you can get varied opinions. Some caterers will charge a tasting fee, but it’s worth it.

May I see photographs of your table displays?

Some caterers who provide buffets or food stations include floral arrangements and other

decorations. It’s also a good idea to discuss your color theme, so that decorations and floral arrangements coordinate.

What does the price per person include?

Is the cost strictly for food, or does it cover tables, chairs, linens, tableware, punch service, table displays, etc.?

What other fees do you charge?

Are tips and taxes included in the price? Some caterers will charge a cake-cutting fee or corking fee for wines. Make sure you get all fees in writing up front.

Do you handle special menu requests?

You may have guests with special menu needs, such as food allergies, vegan, or kosher requirements. Make sure your caterer will accommodate these needs. Some couples want to have a special family recipe at the reception— grandma’s meatballs, or foods from the family’s ethnic traditions. Find out if your caterer will personalize your menu with these kinds of items.

Do you offer cakes?

Ask if your caterer offers wedding and groom’s cakes, and find out if they are included in the price.

Will you pack us a “doggie bag” for after the reception?

Cirque du Soleil Thrills Atlanta Crowds Again

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irque du Soleil was in Atlanta again and that means that those attending this show were in for an evening of entertainment that was hard to beat. Cirque du Soleil always manages to pack in thrills, laughs, poignant drama, and incredible physical feats by gymnasts and other performers.

This show is entitled “OVO” (Portuguese for “egg”). As the story of a mysterious egg unfolds amidst a colorful ecosystem teeming with life, we see insects work, eat, crawl, flutter, play, fight, and look for love, all with nonstop energy and movement.

The insects’ home is a world of biodiversity and beauty filled with noisy action and moments of quiet emotion.

The set, music, lights, and compelling characters featured in OVO grab your attention and don’t let go.

If you’ve been to Cirque

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du Soleil performances in the past, OVO will not disappoint you. If you’ve never been to a Cirque performance, fasten your seat belt and get ready for quite a ride.

The cast of OVO comprises 54 performing artists from 16

Sometimes the wedding couple is so busy at the reception that they have very little time to eat anything.

Attentive caterers will prepare small boxes of food for the couple to enjoy when they are finally alone.

What are the payment arrangements?

You need to find out how much deposit is required, and whether or not it’s refundable. Ask when the final payment is due and what the caterer’s preferred form of payment is.

When you finally settle on a caterer, make sure you have a written contract to sign. This guarantees that they will provide the food, timelines, and details you discussed.

Asking these ten questions will help you choose the right caterer to help make your wedding a truly special celebration.

Courtesy of Family Features; Photo courtesy of Dawn Weber

by Richard Daigle

countries, and director Deborah Colker, a renowned choreographer and the first female Director at Cirque du Soleil, has integrated dance movements into many of the numbers in the show.

OVO features many acrobatic acts, including a stunning flying trapeze act: Six flyers fly as high as 40 feet, making this act the biggest of its kind ever presented under a Grand Chapiteau by Cirque du Soleil. This act is the most difficult in the world to execute in terms of the distance between stations. It combines many circus disciplines: banquine, Russian swing, and swinging chair. Every Cirque show

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features at least one act that will make your jaw drop. OVO is no different. When you see these trapeze artists perform, you will be amazed.

The finale features 20 artists running; jumping, and leaping straight up a 24-foot vertical wall.

Before the evening is over, you will become enthralled by characters such as Ladybug, the Foreigner, and Master Flipo, as well as the incredible assortment of gymnastic acts. From its humble beginnings in 1984 as a group of street performers, Quebec-based Cirque du Soleil has grown into an international act that thrills audiences time and time again. The mission of Cirque du Soleil is to “invoke the imagination, provoke the senses, and evoke the emotions of people around the world.” With OVO, Cirque has definitely accomplished its mission.

“Twilight at the Terraces” 2011 Concert Series Twilight at the Terraces is a concert series presented by Big Canoe Chapel, Big Canoe, GA. The 2011 offerings: May 7 - The 7 Bridges Eagles Band. Comprised of six talented musicians, each one bringing his own style and flair to the group, 7 Bridges is intent on delivering an almost exact replica of a live Eagles performance that is so precise, if you close your eyes, you could mistake them for the masters.

May 21 - Banks and Shane makes another return to Big Canoe. This is one of our alltime favorites. They promise an all-new show this year. You will remember their tribute to the Kingston Trio at last year’s Concert Series. This will coincide with Big Canoe’s annual Tour of Homes. You don’t want to miss this kick-off to the summer season.

June 4 - The Live Bait Band performs a tribute to the Jimmy Buffett Band. Traveling out of Hudson, Florida, they promise to bring all their beach music for your listening and dancing pleasure. Make sure you bring your dancing shoes and beware of flying beach balls.

June 17 - The Del Baroni Orchestra. Del brings his ninepiece band on a Friday night to play ’30s, ’40s, and ’50s Big Band jazz. He has a master’s degree in music from the University of Miami and sings better than “Old Blue Eyes” himself. He is the bass player in the band. Also included in the band will be trumpeter Cecil Welch from the Henry Mancini Band.

July 2 - The Atlanta Concert Band, directed by Mr. Paul

Scanling, will bring 60-70 musicians to the Terraces to kick off the July 4th weekend of events with some rousing patriot music. Bring your red, white, and blue for what should be a tremendous concert.

July 16 - The Holmes Family Trio will make a return visit to The Terraces. These talented siblings have been well-known entertainers in North Georgia for many years. From Broadway to gospel, their blending of voices provides some of the most beautiful music you will hear anywhere. Be ready for a wonderful evening, and arrive early, as they will pack the house.

July 30 - Martha Ann Brooks brings her Nashville band to Big Canoe for the first time. She is a graduate of the University of Georgia and sings and writes original folk songs. Martha Ann has been nominated for Female Vocalist of the Year by the Atlanta Society of Entertainers.

She has a crystal clear voice and plays acoustic guitar. You will enjoy an evening with Martha Ann. August 13 - The Hotlanta Dixieland Jazz Band makes its first Terraces appearance in our final concert of the year.

Hotlanta sets your feet firmly on Bourbon Street in Old New Orleans. They have made club appearances all over the world.

They promise to keep your toes tapping throughout the evening.

Don’t forget to bring your requests.

Advance tickets $15.00, ticket sales at the gate $20.00, children under thirteen free. Season tickets $100.00.

Big Canoe Chapel, 10455 Big Canoe, Big Canoe, GA, 30143. www.bigcanoechapel.org

Happy New Year from all of us at 400 Edition to all of you!

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So...You’re Getting Married W

eddings are one of the most beautiful traditions of the human race. Those in love express that love with a lifetime commitment made to each other in front of friends and family. It is not stamped on our foreheads when we are born that we must do this. Still, it must be stamped in our hearts.

However natural it may seem to find a mate and marry, some animals are far better at monogamy than we humans. The bald eagle represents faithfulness far better than does

the country it symbolizes. At the current divorce rate of 55%, the U.S. could take a lesson or two from this majestic bird and its distant cousin, the less attractive black vulture. These birds mate for life and are known to attack other vultures caught in the act of infidelity.

Commitment often comes naturally to those in love, and a wedding is the perfect celebration of that commitment. It is the perfect start to a life partnership. However a couple decides to celebrate their big

day, this is a sixstep wedding planning guide that can be very helpful to those in the midst of making the transition from I to We. 1. So the proposal was a success. Now what? First you must sit down and decide on the budget. Take into account who will be helping with finances.

Traditionally the bride’s parents paid for the wedding while the groom’s parents paid for the honeymoon; but today many couples go it alone.

Wherever the funds come from, the budget must be the first decision after making the BIG decision to get married.

2. Whether it will be an elaborate event at a castle in Switzerland or an intimate ceremony at a nearby hillside church, the venue is the next decision to make. Couples must consider out-of-town guests, weather (for outdoor weddings), and availability—which brings us to the next topic.

3. The date. Now that you’ve chosen the place for your special day and found out when it is available, it’s time to begin the daunting task of choosing a date. Typically June has been the most popular month for weddings because of its sunny weather, but October is coming in a close second place. Couples are tending to go for more natural “Fallish” colors for their weddings rather than the petal pink of typical June weddings of the past.

4. Get organized. Create a timeline (or checklist) of when to accomplish tasks such as hiring the caterer, florist, and band; picking out a dress; and buying the rings. Stay on schedule with a calendar of important dates. Get a small filing cabinet to organize all receipts and documents. Take notes and keep them in a journal.

5. The guest list. This can be one of the hardest parts of even the simplest weddings. A couple must decide who will be a part of their special ceremony and who will be invited to attend. Usually, the more guests and wedding attendants, the more expensive the wedding, so the budget definitely comes into play here. Hurt feelings are what most couples worry about. How can we invite Aunt Betty but not cousin

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by Vanessa McBrayer Suzy? This problem usually solves itself because out of every 100 guests invited, an average of 75 will RSVP with a “yes.” The sooner a couple decides on who will be a part of their special day, the sooner they can begin the dreaded task of acquiring addresses for invitations and attire for the attendants.

6. Don’t get overwhelmed with making all the choices yourself: Delegate duties to loved ones.

Most of the time, they genuinely do want to help, and it makes them feel important that you trust them.

Bridesmaids and groomsmen are typically given duties, but other friends and family members should help as well. For example, Grandma and Aunt Susan can attend the cake and wine tasting while the bride and groom are busy with honeymoon details. This is a fun treat for your “delegates,” you trust their opinions, and it gives you one less thing to worry about.

The most important thing to remember when planning a wedding is to not let all the details cloud the true meaning of what a wedding represents: The establishment of a bond meant to never be broken, and the beginning of a lifetime of togetherness. Like the albatross that faithfully returns to the same mate after long ocean flights, humans too can soar through a happy marriage long after the wedding is over.

Vanessa Jane McBrayer is a writer and account manager for 400 Edition and Salon Director of Lava Hair Studio. She is married to Michael McBrayer and both are lifelong residents of Dawson County. Her philosophy, “It’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey.”

Health Matters: Speaking from the Heart F

requently referred to as the “silent” disease, osteoporosis is a common disorder characterized by fragility and weakness of the bone, potentially resulting in bone fracture.

Osteoporotic fractures (fragility or low-trauma fractures) are those which occur following mild to moderate impact. Such an impact force under normal conditions would not result in the fracture of a bone.

Approximately one in two women over the age of fifty will suffer from a fracture due to the presence of osteoporosis. Over 1.5 million fractures caused by osteoporosis occur annually in the United States alone. Of these fractures, 1.0 million occur in the hip or the spine (vertebral body).

Of all fractures, hip fractures have the greatest adverse effect upon the individual’s general health and carry significant socioeconomic impact. One in five (20%) patients will die within one year following the hip fracture. Fifty percent will no longer be able to walk without assistance, and 28% will require long-term assisted care. The burden of the health-care costs due to osteoporotic related fracture(s) in the United States is between $10

and $15 billion each year.

Identifying Clinical Risk Factors  Gender (female > male)  Advanced age  Family history of fragility fracture in 1st degree relatives  Low body weight (less than 130 pounds) in the adult  Cigarette smoking  Excessive alcohol intake  Certain medications: Glucocorticoids, antidepressants, anticonvulsants…  Carbonated beverages during adolescence  Existing medical conditions:

Rheumatic diseases, hyperthyroidism, diabetes…

For the assessment of fracture risk, the most predictable cause-andeffect relationship is defined by the measurement of one’s bone density. In 1994, the World Health Organization (WHO) established a classification of bone mineral density (BMD) according to the standard deviation difference between a patient’s BMD and that of a young-adult reference population. A score that is equal to or less than -2.5 is consistent with a diagnosis of osteoporosis.

In clinical practice, the DXA (DuelEnergy X-ray Absorptiometry) is the technology used for diagnostic classification purposes.

Prevention and Treatment Three basic principles should be applied to the prevention and treatment of osteoporosis:  Eliminate / treat other existing health factors and medications that contribute to bone loss.  A “nondrug” treatment emphasizing diet, exercise, and cessation of smoking.  A pharmacologic treatment plan utilizing drugs which specifically target the metabolic process of decreasing bone resorption (loss) in excess of bone formation.

The major category of drugs currently used that inhibit bone resorption are the bisphosphonates.

The past decade has witnessed a rapid expansion of this type of drug for the treatment of osteoporosis.

The most frequently recognized and used drugs in this group would include the following:  Alendronate (Fosamax) oral (daily / weekly)  Risedronate (Actonel) oral (daily / monthly)  Ibandronate (Boniva)

by John P. Vansant, MD, FACC

oral (daily / monthly)  Ibandronate (Boniva) intravenous (every 3 months)  Zoledronic Acid (Reclast) intravenous (once every 12 months) All these agents have demonstrated efficacy in the treatment of osteoporosis. However, this benefit does not come without potential and sometimes significant adverse effects. Prescribing physicians and patients alike must acknowledge the risk/benefit ratio when taking these agents. A non-inclusive list of potentially severe adverse effects would include the following:  Gastrointestinal: Oral agents may induce esophagitis or esophageal ulcers. Recent studies, although currently inconclusive, point toward a potential increased incidence of esophageal cancer.  Musculoskeletal: Bone/joint/ muscle pain of varying duration and severity are reported. Such symptoms have been reported to continue after discontinuation of the therapy.  Cardiovascular: Typically present as rhythm disturbances in the heart rate. A rhythm called atrial fibrillation has been seen, especially with the use of treatments given intravenously.

In summary, we have an expanding occurrence of osteoporosis of epidemic proportions that will likely become more prevalent in the coming years.

The medical and financial burdens of this disease are enormous, demanding that we focus upon prevention while continuing to seek more selective, effective, and safe forms of treatment.

John P. Vansant, MD, FACC, is Board Certified in Internal Medicine, Rheumatology, and Nuclear Medicine.

Among other appointments, he formerly served as Associate Professor of Radiology, Director of Nuclear Medicine, and Chief of Nuclear Cardiology services at Emory University Hospital. He is nationally recognized for his achievements in the clinical advancement of Nuclear Cardiology.

 Osteonecrosis of the jaw: A rare occurrence that more frequently occurs in patients with existing dental problems.

A promising new drug recently approved by the FDA and not of the bisphosphonate family is denosumab (Prolia). It is administered by subcutaneous injection once every 6 months.

The current reported incidence of adverse effects appears more favorable than those seen with bisphosphonates.

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Comma Momma “L

ook at the green odd plastic coffee square old little table.”

Anyone who grew up speaking English will recognize that something’s badly wrong with that sentence.

The awkwardness comes from a couple of directions. One is that there are too many adjectives strung together in front of the noun “table.” In standard English, three adjectives are usually considered the limit. You could use more—after all, a uniformed officer wearing a sidearm isn’t going to show up at your door to give you a ticket for using five or six—but you’ll get funny looks that say, “You’re not from around here, are you?”

But even if we arbitrarily chop off the first four adjectives to deal with the quantity issue, the sentence still sounds off, because the order in which the adjectives appear is not what the native speaker of English expects to hear.

Let’s rearrange the adjectives, all seven of them, and see what we get: “Look at the odd little old square green plastic coffee table.” Ah. Slightly more idiomatic, even with the adjective overload. And if you read the sentence with any three of the adjectives, it sounds even more normal: “odd little coffee table” or “square green plastic table” or “little old coffee table” all sound fine.

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Order, Order!

I don’t recall ever being explicitly taught a “proper” order for adjectives. Granted, after many decades of reading and hearing the language, my ear has come to recognize what doesn’t sound right. But I was chagrined to learn recently that there are in fact some guidelines about the order of adjectives in English.

Googling the phrase “order of adjectives in English” yields several web sites that deal with the issue, and although the lists I found don’t match each other exactly, there’s more agreement than I expected.

Here’s what I’ll call the consensus order, and the relevant adjective (if any) from our sample sentence: • Opinion (odd) • Size (little) • Age (old) • Shape (square) • Color (green) • Origin • Material (plastic) • Purpose (coffee) But why isn’t the order the same on all the web sites I looked at? After all, isn’t there only one right way to use our language?

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by Nancy Wright Actually, no. There is no One Right Way, no matter what you may have been taught. There is no official governmental organization that controls English usage. There is no Cabinet position of Secretary of English. There is no Supreme Court of Language. There is no constitutional amendment governing grammar and spelling.

Much to the distress of many of us, the thing that determines the standards of our language is the usage of our language. And the folks who created the adjective-order lists on these web sites based the lists on their usage, or what they were taught.

For example, one of the web sites swaps the positions of Age and Shape in the order. That would have us saying “little square old” instead of “little old square.” That sounds funny to me; maybe it comes from a non-native speaker. Or maybe it just comes from a native speaker who grew up hearing an order that was different from the order I grew up hearing.

But given the ungoverned—and ungovernable—nature of our language, it’s amazing that the lists match as well as they do.

Nancy Wright formats technical books for a specialty publishing house in New York. She and her husband live in White County; you can contact her at adairmill@windstream.net.

Events!

Tip: Keep in mind that 400 Edition is now released on or about the 1st of each month. Your event needs to be submitted via our web site 30-45 days prior to your event date and no later than the 20th of the month. We have to have all the information requested on the submission form, so be sure your form is complete. Just go to 400edition.com and click “Submit an Event” on the home page.

January 1, New Year’s Day January 10, Inauguration Day January 17, King Day

Blairsville

Friends of Union County Library

January 19, 2:00 to 3:00pm. New location: North Georgia Technical College board room; parking in back of building. Admission: Annual individual membership fee: $8.

Butternut Creek Tree Planting

January 22, 1:00 to 4:00pm.The Hiwassee River Watershed Coalition is working to restore a section of Butternut Creek at the new Union County Farmers Market. Volunteers have largely completed the task of removing nonnative invasive plants along the nearly 1,000-foot reach, and on January 22 will be planting native trees and shrubs. Bring gloves and a shovel if you have them; if not, several will be available. Drinks and snacks will also be provided. Union County Farmers Market off Old Smokey Road. For more information: Tony Ward, HRWC Restoration Coordinator, 828-837-5414, ext. 203.

Canton

Cherokee Beekeepers Club Annual Bee School

February 19, 8:15am to 4:00pm; registration opens7:45am. Old Cherokee Court House, 100 North Street. Potential beekeepers, gardeners, and families learn beginning beekeeping skills.

Preregistration $35 ($40 at door).

Lunch and handouts provided, club membership included. Door prizes and raffle. Registration form online: www.cherokeebeeclub.com or www. ugaextension.com/cherokee. For more information: BJ Weeks, 770735-3263, or UGA Ext. Office 770479-0418.

Cumming

“Branson On The Road”®

January 13 through 16. The Cumming Playhouse, 101 School

Street. Thursday, Friday, and Saturday, 8:00pm; Saturday and Sunday matinee 3:00pm. All seats $25. In the tradition of the traveling road shows during the glory days of the Grand Ole Opry, the Louisiana Hayride, and the first Branson music shows, the award-winning “Branson On The Road” keeps you tapping, laughing, and smiling. For more information: 770-781-9178 or www. playhousecumming.com.

Mardi Gras “Street Scenes”

January 21 through 23, Friday and Saturday 8:00pm, Sunday matinee 3:00pm. Cumming Playhouse. All seats $15. This year’s show will center on the life of a fictional character of New Orleans, Baroness Michaela Rojas Pontalba, and will feature many local performing groups, including the Dazzlin’ Dames, the Sophisticated Ladies, the Christian Fine Arts of Forsyth Jazz Band and Performing Group, the Cumming Playhouse Ensemble Singers, the Dancing Divas, and the Sassy Seniors of Forsyth County.

Jacqueline Groover (Ms. Senior Georgia 2010), Danny Lee Pendley, and a host of individual performers will sing, dance, and do comedy. For more information: 770-781-9178 or www.playhousecumming.com

“Dearly Beloved”

February 3 through 27, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday 8:00pm, Sunday matinee 3:00pm . Cumming Playhouse. The Gypsy Theatre Company, which has brought you such favorites as “Steel Magnolias,” “The Odd Couple,” “Driving Miss Daisy” and “The Graduate,” is very pleased to be presenting its next production, “Dearly Beloved.”

Perfect for Valentine’s Day or any other occasion, this knee-slapping show will leave you chuckling all the way home. For more information: 770-781-9178 or www. playhousecumming.com

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Events!

Dahlonega

Events at the Holly Theater, 69 W Main Street. For more information: www.hollytheater.com or 706-864-3759.

Movie: The Chronicles Of Narnia: Voyage Of The Dawn Treader

January 1-2, 2:00pm and 7:00pm.

Tickets $6, available at the box office one hour prior to the show.

Movie: The Tourists

January 6, 7, and 9; 6:00pm and 9:00pm Thursday and Friday; 2:00pm and 5:00pm Sunday. Tickets $6, available at the box office one hour prior to the show.

Mountain Music & Medicine Show

January 8, 7:30pm. Main Stage.

Tickets $15. To purchase tickets, call 706-864-3759 or go to www. hollytheater.com

Movie: True Grit

January 13-16; 6:00pm and 9:00pm Thursday, Friday, Saturday; 2:00pm and 5:00pm Sunday. Tickets $6, available one hour prior to show.

The Magician’s Attic

January 22, 7:00pm. Enjoy an evening of comedy, music, and the Magic of Russ Alan. Tickets $12.50 adults, $6.50 children 12 and under.

Dawsonville

Wee Books Leap for Literacy February 19, 10:00am to noon at Thompson Creek Park on Lake Lanier. Sponsor a team for this polar bear competition to support Dawson County’s early childhood literacy program. Celebrity judges on hand to choose winners for most creative costume, funniest routine, oldest leaper, etc. Leap, run, tap your toe, or come out to cheer on your favorite team. Inclement weather date: February 26. Entry fee: $250 for teams, $100 for individuals, Ramp Run $50, Toe Tap $10. For more information contact Dawson County Wee Books at 706-216-0173.

Great Dawson County Scavenger Hunt

January 29, 9:00am to 3:00pm.

The Great Dawson County Scavenger Hunt was created as a fundraiser to support the Dawson County Library while exploring the county, participating in community outreach, and giving awareness to

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local businesses. This is a perfect event for businesses to support the library, gain exposure for their business, and have a great time. For more information: www. chestateelibrary.org or Stacey Leonhardt, 706-344-3690, ext. 21.

Helen

Hogpen Hill Climb and Bike Ride

January 14, registration/check-in 6:00-8:00pm. January 15: 80K Porker Bike Race 8:00am; 5K Piglet Run 9:00am; 17K Potbelly Run 12:00. Awards at the Festhalle 7:00pm. Event benefits Habitat for Humanity and Habersham Medical Center. All runners and bikers receive a moisture-wicking tech shirt. Baggage check for runners, a shuttle off the mountain, chipped timing. Awards for the overall male and female in each race, plus the top three finishers in each age group.

Vendor market at the Helendorf Inn and Conference Center on Friday evening and Saturday morning.

Needed: runners, bikers, volunteers, and sponsors. For more information: runthehogpen.org or Mary Kathryn Tatum, 706-499-9323.

Contra Dance

January 22, 8:00 to 11:00pm. Sautee Nacoochee Community Center, 283 Highway 255 North, Sautee. Join us for an evening of contra dancing (much like square dancing). No experience and no partner necessary.

For more information: 706-878-3300 or www.snca.org/news/contra.html.

Jasper

Red Cross Blood Drive

February 3, noon to 6:00pm. Bent Tree, Club Tamarack. Walk-ins welcome, or call 770-894-4194 for appointment. For more information: Scott Fantz, 770-894-4194 or sfantz@mindspring.com.

Christmas Tree Recycling Event – “Bring One For The Chipper 2011”

January 8, 9:00am to 4:00pm. Park’n Ride across from the Pickens County Chamber of Commerce Building in Newton Park (500 Stegall Street).

Keep Pickens Beautiful reminds you to “Bring One for the Chipper” and recycle your Christmas tree. Your

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old tree will be reused as mulch or wildlife habitat. Drop off your undecorated Christmas tree for recycling. This event allows county residents to put discarded Christmas trees to good use. For more information on the Chipper Program: Keep Pickens Beautiful, 706-2533600; Georgia Department of Community Affairs, 404-679-4940 or www.dca.state.ga.us.

Artist Month

January 29, 1:00pm to 4:00pm.

January is artist month at Lakota Cove! The reception is honoring the newest artists. Some of the these are John Feight, Tara Van Meter, and Susan Friedland. Many of our other artists will be there!

Located at 230 Old Mill White Road Ext. See www.LakotaCove. com or call 770-893-3495 for more information.

Roswell

Roswell Woman’s Club 2011 Showcase Tour

March 10-27. 10:00am to 6:00pm Wednesdays-Saturdays; 1:00 to 6:00pm Sundays. The Providence, a group of classic brownstone homes in Roswell, will be the focus of the tour. Previous tours have allowed the Roswell Woman’s Club to contribute over $1.6 million toward the educational endeavors of local non-profits, grants to schools, and college scholarships to students. For more information: Sharon Lowry, 770-235-9709, or Bonnie Sammons, 770-313-2017.

A Romantic Gala Concert for Valentine’s Day

February 12, 8:00pm. Roswell Cultural Arts Center. Presented by The Ludwig Symphony Orchestra.

The evening’s performance features internationally renowned Hungarian cellist Laszlo Mezo interpreting the popular Dvorak Cello Concerto, and local Atlanta soprano Chelsea Cook interpreting arias of Rossini, Saint-Saens, and Mahler. The music will be gorgeous, and in keeping with the Valentine theme, a fresh rose will be given to each woman attending. For more information: Thomas Ludwig, 770-623-8623 or tludwig@mindspring.com.

A Wedding Reception to Remember

W

hether it’s set in the great outdoors, a lavish ballroom, the couple’s favorite restaurant, or at home, the wedding reception is a special time for newlyweds to celebrate with family and friends.

The signature dessert—cake— is usually the centerpiece for this occasion, a continuing reflection of the wedding theme and colors.

An assortment of cupcakes or a tower of layers allows today’s cakes to take almost any form— from square to round, even pillowor heart-shaped. This stunning all-white creation from the wedding experts at Wilton is both simple and elegant. Cake layers are covered in pure white fondant, while additional bands of fondant glistening with white sparkling sugar decorate the bottom of each tier. Dots of sugar pearl sprinkles, resembling perfect pearls, add a hint of texture, while a gemstudded monogram topper adds the finishing touch.

This unique do-it-yourself wedding topper kit can easily be customized, with one initial, two, or a trio. Self-adhesive crystallike gems are used to trace the initials onto the clear disc. Gems

can also be used to create a border or other complementary design. After the reception, it makes a perfect keepsake for the couple that will be treasured for years to come.

Guests will want to raise a glass in honor of the newlyweds with the timeless custom of a champagne toast. Decorated flutes for the bride and groom create a long-lasting memory of this special tradition.

Individual boxes are ideal for truffles or other candies to send home with guests. Tie with ribbons reflecting the color theme of the wedding. Another fun memento is a mini champagne bottle favor that can be filled with small candies. Attach a label with a personalized message.

Make it elegant or simple…and always make it meaningful and memorable.

For more do-it-yourself wedding ideas, favors, and accessories, visit www.wilton.com.

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400 Edition Wining & Dining

Knowing Wine

by Nancy Forrest

Picks for 2010

St. Francis Merlot 2005, CA

Spicy herb and vanilla overtones, black fruit. Round tannins. Spice and herbs, vanilla and chocolate flavors. Long finish.

Irony 2008 Monterey County Pinot Noir, CA

Aromas of red cherry, vanilla.

Earthy with clove and mushroomy.

Soft vanilla and tannins.

Medium-bodied. Drink now.

PerrierJouet Grand Brut Champagne, France

Delicate floral bouquet.

Apple and minerals. Balanced flavors of apricot, butterscotch, and orange. Spicy finish.

The Crusher Petite Sirah, CA

Inky purple.

Aromas of blueberry and spearmint. Soft firm tannins with vanilla

Pinot Noir 2002 Saintsbury Carneros Brown Ranch, CA Big dark black fruit. Earthy.

Educated Guess Cabernet Sauvignon, CA Blackberry and cherry fruit.

Cocoa and creamy. Food friendly.

Freemark Abbey Cabernet Sauvignon Bosché 2002, CA Cherry, espresso, cocoa, and anise.

Wonderful balance.

Should age well.

Apothic Red Winemaker’s Blend California 2008

Blend of Syrah, Zinfandel and Merlot.

Fruit aromas and flavors of blackberry and dark cherry, chocolate and brown spice.

Smooth finish. Full-bodied red blend.

2003 Domenico Clerico Barolo Ciabot Mentin Ginestra, Italy

Spices, menthol, and sweet dark fruit. Rich and ripe. May bottle age 10+ years.

Gascon Malbec Mendoza Argentina

Green, herbal, earthy aromas with black ripe fruits and black pepper. Ripe tannins. An excellent value.

Kick Off Your Super Bowl Party Right Cheeseburger Bowl Dip C lassic commercials, historic plays, and close company are all quintessential elements of the perfect game-day get-together. The biggest obstacle for many Super Bowl shindigs is how to best tackle the menu. Ideal dishes need to be finger-friendly, universally appealing, and well suited to feeding hungry groups. Here are six vital tips for sidelining game day stress, as well as a sumptuous all-American recipe guaranteed to be the MVP of your party planning playbook:

Game Plan Greatness: Plan ahead and prepare as much of the food as possible before the blitzing begins, so you don’t have to miss any of the pre-game fun shut out in the kitchen.

Supe-up Team Spirit: Use colorful team jerseys, posters, and pennants to create a festive field of decorations. Build a little friendly rivalry by decorating one side of the room for each team, or line table tops with green turf in place of coasters and table cloths.

Stock Your Roster With Reserves: Game day parties bring hungry crowds, so when planning for food quantities, think big to avoid a grocery store rush at fourth quarter. In addition to your starting line-up of dishes, you may also want to consider preparing items that you don’t bring out until half-time.

Avoid Penalties, Safety First: Make sure to offer a variety of “mocktails” (non-alcoholic beverages) for kids and designated drivers.

Be Replay Ready: Set up your digital video recorder (DVR) the night before the Big Game so you can be sure to capture close calls and commercials for a second look or laugh.

Simplify the Sideline Set-up: To save time and money, choose shareable favorites like pitchers and punches (rather than complicated cocktails) and bowl dips and finger foods like this hearty Cheeseburger Bowl Dip, provided courtesy of King’s Hawaiian Bakery:

Makes 8-10 servings

2 16-ounce loaves King’s Hawaiian Original Hawaiian Sweet Bread 1 pound ground beef, cooked and drained 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 1 teaspoon seasoning salt 24 ounces American processed cheese 7 slices bacon, cooked crisp and crumbled 1 cup peeled cooked tomatoes, diced 1/4 cup red onion, chopped 1/3 cup hamburger dill slices, chopped Thousand Island salad dressing Carve out center core of bread within two inches of bottom and sides, keeping bread intact. Cut reserved bread and other loaf into 1-inch cubes for dipping.

Cook ground beef; season with seasoning salt and pepper to taste. Cut American cheese into chunks and add to cooked beef; stir until melted. Add crumbled bacon and diced tomatoes; stir to mix well.

Spoon warm mixture into carved bread bowl. Top with red onion and pickles (to taste). Drizzle with Thousand Island dressing (if desired).

Option: King’s Hawaiian rolls for a group meal alternative.

Look for more bowl dip recipes next month.

by Aaron Snider

Restaurant Reviews for the GA 400 Corridor Bobber’s

51 Grove Street North, Suite C Dahlonega, GA 30533 706-867-9151 Fare: Fish and Seafood | Price: Moderate | Atmosphere: Casual

G

rowing up in the South, I spent a lot of time

fishing with my father on the riverbanks, or out in the boat. Now, I have never really cared for fish, but a new restaurant in Dahlonega has done a lot to change my mind. Bobber’s Fish House is a prime example of good southern-style fish and seafood. With a wide variety of seafood to choose from, I went ahead and ordered one of my favorite dishes: fried shrimp. Linda, our editor and my grandmother, ordered the fried catfish. Both were exquisite examples of the simple pleasures of Mississippi-style cooking. The fried shrimp had an excellent flavor, not at all greasy, and with a succulent taste. Linda said the same about her catfish, saying it was cooked just right and was nice and flaky. And if catfish and shrimp aren’t for you, there is a wide selection of other dishes to choose from, including trout, fried oysters, chicken, their famous bison burger, and much, much more.

Their appetizers are worthy of wonder as well, with crab cakes, alligator bites (for a real Cajun feel), and one of Linda’s favorites, fried green tomatoes. Each a different combination of savory flavor, these appetizers will be one of the best parts of your meal.

Serving what I believe to be the best seafood in Dahlonega, Bobber’s offers its magnificent meals at a low to moderate price to everyone. But Bobber’s is also offering a discount especially for our readers, with the coupons here. And in these trying economic times, a little help goes a long way.

The staff at Bobber’s is something to admire as well. Each member is ready and willing to help and serve you to the best of their abilities.

Each time you walk in the door, you’re met with a smiling face that is ready to serve. Owned by Will and Jenny Dobrydnia, Bobber’s is well on its way to leading, not just in the seafood category, but in service as well. I’ve had the time to get to know Will and Jenny, who are two of the finest people that I know.

Will, hailing from Chicago, handles the business end of the restaurant, and very well, I might add.

His undeniable love for his job, and the heart and soul he puts into doing it, makes him the perfect man for the job. Jenny is the head chef of the restaurant, and as Will says, the creative one of the pair. A southern lady, coming from Mississippi, Jenny knows the art of cooking so well. Together, they form a formidable team in the seafood business.

Located off the Historic

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Dahlonega Square, Bobber’s Fish House has a moderate sized parking lot, with room for any type of vehicle. Motorcycles, cars, trucks, even mobile homes and trailers are all welcome at Bobber’s. You can hold meetings, whether business or recreational, in their spacious restaurant.

If you are coming from the square, go two blocks down East Main Street, then turn left at the traffic light onto North Grove Street; go 250 feet or so and take the first left into the parking area. You’ll be right in front of the best seafood experience in all of Dahlonega.

Bobber’s Fish House is open Tuesday through Sunday from 11:00am to 9:00pm. When you do drop in, I can assure you it won’t be your last time. As their slogan goes, “One bite and you’ll be hooked!”

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