MESSAGE from the publisher
Joy and Sorrow “When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. “When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” —Kahlil Gibran A few years ago, I was on a trail with my then 84-year-old dad in Sedona, Arizona, when he stopped and with arms lifted to the sky exclaimed, “Damn, it’s good to be alive!” He wasn’t walking quite as fast as he used to and the trail was less technical than we once did, but the sky was blue and the air was fresh. We were surrounded by beauty and we were fully engaged in living. It’s a wonderful memory, all the more poignant because I just lost my dad at age 88, on September 26. As if by plan, his heart stopped while walking his favorite urban trail and he just dropped. What a way to go, Dad, we should all be so lucky. I weep for what has been my
delight: Your love of life and mega-watt smile. Being alive means much more than not being dead. And unless we are in the process of actively dying, we should be actively living—a lesson my dad taught me well. Age means nothing. We are limited only by our motivation and imagination. That said, 2020 has been an especially difficult year—we’ve all been knocked off balance by change and challenge and loss. So how do we regain our equilibrium? I think Dr. Eric Larson sums it up best with his Albert Einstein quote (page 22), “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” More than ever, we need to keep moving our bodies, our minds, and our spirits. We need to nurture our curiosity, our wonder, and our connection with each other. We need to forgive but not forget. Let’s enter this holiday season with a spirit of possibilities and optimism. It’s time to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and look ahead. A New Year is dawning, and we have a lot of living and work to do.
How do we regain our equilibrium?
Hank Starr Feb. 6, 1932 – Sept. 26, 2020 Forever in my heart.
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