REAL TALK

REAL TALK WRITTEN BY YOURS TRULY

If there is one thing that comes naturally and easy is complaining when you are hurting . When you are going through a heart break because of failed relationships or losing someone close to you or being cheated in a business transaction , you feel like this is the end of the world and nothing good can come out of this . One will get to feel like God has turn His back against you because what you are going through . The funny thing about a heart break is it comes as a shock , it does not show signs or you choose to turn a blind eye to the signs . All of us have experienced heart break one way of the other , others early in their lives when some people experience it later . The pain is still the same , what is different is the stages of life you are experiencing the heart break . We need to know and understand the below about painful situations ;

SOMETIMES HEARTBREAK IS THE GREATEST INSPIRATION

It ' s part of the process

You can never be ready for a heart break . We should normalize knowing that going through the valley of shadow of death is still the same plan that God has for you in Jeremiah 29 : 11 of not harming you but to prosper you . Try to make peace with your loss so that you don ' t stay long it the heartbreak which can cause depression and anxiety . Accepting that you are

hurting , admitting that you have lost something / someone , and crying it out might help . We waste time being angry and planning to retaliate against people that have caused us pain . The energy and time you are using to devise a plan to inflict ( if not more pain ) pain to whoever or whatever caused you pain could be used at reading about anger and pain in the bible to better equip yourself with the process you are going through .

Closer to God

It ' s natural to try things on your own before letting go and trusting God . Giving God way happened when you get to a place when you don ' t know what to do anymore but to turn to God . The best time of my Christian journey and growth happened and still happens when I am pressed but not crushed . Heart breaks brings us closer to God as options runout .

It doesn ' t last forever

We should know that whatever we are going through , whatever we are going through will not last forever . There is an expiry date on your problems so instead of mopping around confessing that you are a victim and have been done wrong . Know and prepare for life after the heartbreak because there ' s one on the other side and it looks amazing . See yourself past the pain .

Growth

Pain has a way of maturing your view of certain things . Heartbreaks tricker that growth in the mind , body and spirit . If you have been divorced or break up of a relationship , there is that 6th sense that you have when in people that are lying to you regarding relationships like if some want to take you for a ride . It ' s like you have the 6th sense is alert . When you have lost someone , you start to treasure people more and make time for them .

WHAT TO DO

Get yourself up by waking up and get dressed in honour . This could be looking good and not showing the world that your sad face because everybody is facing some private battles of their own . I am not saying be in denial of your heart break . Spend time with God and enquire from Him what His plan is in all of this ? I believe that you are not going through the heartbreak for fun but to learn something out of it and God knows what .

You can find purpose in your pain because I can testify that this publication was started after a heartbreak. I had to go through a divorce for me to realize my purpose. I have been leaving comfortable with school issues but crying to God to use me (dangerous prayer). He used me even though it was painful. I got to hear the voice of God for the first time clearly when I was hurting and understand what the verse Hebrews 13:5 of I will never leave you no forsake you really means and see it in action.

Trust God because you have nothing to lose but everything to gain .

Who is God in the life of a Christian?

In 1st John 4:7-9 we learn the nature of God as “Love” and because He is love, we are compelled to express love to everybody in order for us to be worthy to be called Children of God. Further, the bible tells us that love is the greatest rule of them all, that, if we do not have love then all that we do is in vain. However, this is not the only nature of God that we learn about, in fact, today we can learn of three more ways to describe God’s identity.

·The second form is that God is “Spirit”, John 4:24 reads thus; “God is spirit, and those who worship Him must worship Him in spirit and truth”.

·While 1st John 1:5 professes that God is “Light” and that in Him there is no darkness. ·Lastly, Hebrews 12:29 describes God as “Consuming Fire”.

In order for us to understand God in our lives, we need to be able to relate to Him in all these different personalities. In our everyday lives as Christians, we must be able to know God who is in love as well as be able to emulate His love. It is only when we are able to love like He does that we will make the world a better place, that we will be able to understand each other and care for each other despite all the challenges and circumstances we face on a daily basis.

We must be able to connect with Him spiritually, be able to know when He converses with us, when he instructs us to do something as well as recognize when He requires that we keep quiet, to sit still and listen to His still soft voice. Sometimes in order to give a fitting response to situations surrounding us, there is need to sit back and observe then allow Him to give proper direction. On our own we are not able to understand a lot of things that happen around us, it is only when we allow Him to intervene that we are able to figure out a way forward. We should be able to see God as the light shining in our lives, illuminating the way for us to see clearly. Not just the way, but when God is the light of our lives, we will be able to see the terrible things to avoid and hidden unpleasantries planned by the devil and his agents for our harm and or downfall, we should be able to avoid all the dangerous

As we continue to fight the invisible enemy (Corona Virus) amongst us, do we know who God is in our lives, what He is capable of and how He can protect us from the imminent danger? How much do we trust in Him and are we able to continue believing that He is in charge of our lives? This is the time for us Christians to stand up and claim what God has freely given to us, which is life in its fullness, it is time to fight the devil with God who is the consuming fire. It is time for us to engage with Him and seek His guidance, wisdom and power in this fight. The word of God tells us to seek Him while we still can, this is the time. We are now seeing our loved ones being attacked by this virus on a daily basis, even ourselves we are fearful of what lies ahead of us as the numbers of those infected and affected continue to rise, as the virus continues to mutate and multiply. We wonder how we will survive as we hear of the fourth wave. There is only one answer, one doctor and one hope, that is our God who loves us dearly, who loved us even when we did not deserve to be loved by giving us His only begotten Son to die for us on the cross. This is the time to invoke God the spirit who lives in us to unleash the consuming fire to come and destroy this virus. For the spirit to release knowledge and understanding to the doctors and scientists to study this virus well enough to develop effective medication and for the spirit to inspire us in our everyday attempts as we continue in the fight against this virus. May the God who is our light shine through all our adversities so that we may truly understand who we are, what we stand for and protect ourselves with the full armor of God.