Mid Valley MOM | Oct / Nov 2022

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HANNAH DARLING

FROM THE PANTRY

Mid Valley | Oct / Nov 2022

TALKING WITH KIDS ABOUT CANCER

Is Pelvic Floor Therapy Right for You? The pelvic floor plays a crucial role in bladder and bowel control as well as sexual health for both women, men, and children of all ages. If you or a loved one live with urinary disfunction, painful intercourse, or pain in the pelvic area, you may benefit from pelvic floor physical therapy. It can be used to treat many uncomfortable, painful, or disruptive conditions involving the pelvic floor.

Conditions commonly include: • • • • • • • •

Bladder pain Bowel incontinence Constipation Frequent urination and urinary incontinence Groin, lower abdominal, pubic, or tailbone pain Pain in the sacroiliac (SI) joint Pelvic asymmetry Pelvic organ prolapse

If you live with any of these conditions, our Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist, Sarah Webb, PT, DPT, PRPC can help! She provides treatment for all orthopedic conditions, with specialized training in women’s and men’s pelvic health and specialized training in trauma-informed care, post-natal rehabilitative care, and rehabilitative ultrasound imaging.

Learn more at CorvallisClinic.com/Physical-Therapy (541) 754-1265

Sarah Webb, PT, DPT, PRPC

It’s what‘s

Cooking from the pantry

inside that counts

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Prep your pantry for the season 21

They know what they’re

Cover MOM: Hannah Darling ...............10

Talking with kids about cancer.....................18

talking about.

This mom gets real.

Guidance for tough

Because I said so............... 5

Cooking from the pantry...........................16

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Meet the MOM experts ... 4

A message from MOM

conversations

We’re in the mood to

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save on food.

Future you will thank past you.

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meet the

experts

[They know what they’re talking about] Smile

Learn

Something to Smile About with Dr. Jay Vaikuntam, page 6

Partners in Education with AnnaMarie Gosser, page 26

Natural

Say Cheese

Style

Health Let’s Talk Health with Samaritan Health Services, page 8

Natural Choices with Jasmin Woodside, page 14

Pets

Focus

Pets are Family with Dr. Jilinda Lewis, page 20

Focus on MOM with Dr. Michelle Lee, page 30

Thrive Helping Kids Thrive with Karen Swanger, page 24

Support Support for Families with Mandy Martin, page 22 4 mommag.com

Say Cheese with Dr. Wade Haslam, page 28

“Accidentally asked my coworker if they needed to go potty before a meeting...

I have to find a new job now.

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About Home Style with Heather Van Eyk, page 7

— Professional Worrier @pro_worrier

Because I said so!

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This is 50 Tell me again why I thought 50 was so old?

Oh that’s right: Rose, Dorothy and Blanche on The Golden Girls were in their 50s.

Salem Advertising Representative Kim Leighty kim.leighty@mommag.com 503-510-9036

Funny thing: I keep resetting my interpretation of aging at each decade, because I remember thinking how old 30 and then 40 sounded. But here I am, at half of a century, and it doesn’t feel that old at all.

Mid-Valley & Lane County Business Development Manager Linda Blair linda@mommag.com 541-231-7250

This year, my birthday collided with the first day back to school. I volleyed between constantly checking the time — did I have the kids’ schedules right? — to enjoying a house so quiet I could hear the dog snore.

While out running errands, I decided to treat myself to a car wash. I’ve always loved automatic car washes. When those big roller brushes pirouette around my car, and the lazy fettuccine noodles drag over the hood, it puts me in a meditative state.

Designer Sean Carver

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As I sat mesmerized by the water droplets making my windshield look like I’m traveling at warp speed, I thought, should I have planned something more exciting for my birthday? The big ones bring a certain amount of pressure to do something big.

But then I quickly remembered how much effort and expense it is to fete myself, especially in a busy back-to-school time and geez, in this economy. Plus, I’m better at planning things for other people.

A few days later, there was a knock at my front door. Fully thinking it was the pesticide guy who zooms around my neighborhood on one of those motorized skateboards, I opened the door to find…

My sisters!?! My two older sisters who should be in their respective states of Wisconsin and California were on my doorstep, yelling surprise!

The sheer volume of thoughts that raced through my working memory in that

That button is worn with irony, and the goofy glasses are a birthday tradition. moment made my brain short-circuit. I screamed, I laughed, I cried, and then I repeated the cycle again. In a flurry of squeals and shock, they told me they were whisking me away for a weekend featuring a spa massage, dinner with my girlfriends, and zero responsibilities on my part. It turned out that my husband and friends were all in on the surprise.

All I could spit out in the moment was, HOW?! Later in the weekend as we retold the story, I explained that I was gobsmacked at the sheer logistics of such a surprise: the flights, the scheduling, the numerous people involved. My girlfriend pointed out that this was the most mom-reaction ever: of course a mom thinks of all of the work and details that go into such a feat. Moms are the ones always doing the planning for everyone else.

The birthday weekend was the biggest, most joyous surprise of my life thus far, and the depth to which I was touched is boundless. I hope that every mom out there gets to feel a similar sense of love and appreciation. I’m grateful to have two fabulous older sisters who made it happen.

They literally traveled down a road and back again, threw me a party, and invited everyone I knew…clearly, they are the biggest gift of all.

Audrey Meier DeKam Editor-in-Chief

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Is fluoride safe for kids?

Many parents are unsure if their child would benefit from a fluoride supplement. It is a well-known, evidence-based fact that fluoride, when used appropriately, is one of the most effective ways to reduce a child’s risk of experiencing dental cavities.

Drinking fluoridated water and brushing twice a day with a fluoridated toothpaste are the most effective and easiest ways early childhood cavities can be prevented.

Children who consume mostly well water or unfluoridated city water may benefit from a fluoride prescription that can be obtained from your pediatric dentist. Other options would include store-bought mouth rinse or a prescribed fluoride gel for at-home use.

Brought to you by:

Dr. Jay Vaikuntam

Children are especially susceptible to cavities, so don’t skip those six-month dental check ups. If you have concerns or questions about fluoride use, the best thing to do is ask! Your pediatric dentist can be a useful resource.

pediatricdentistoregon.com 155 NW Hickory St # A Albany, OR 97321 (541) 928-1509

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piefivepizza.com 541-286-4394 @piefivecorvallis Come check out our new menu items! | Located in the Corvallis Timberhill Shopping Center 6 mommag.com

TRENDS I’M LOVING IN 2022 NEUTRAL COLOR PALETTES WITH PUMPED UP TEXTURES

If you crave the effortless look of a neutral room, there are a few tips to follow for maximum impact. Choose a variety of neutrals, tans, creams and black for contrast. Add multiple wood tones as well as metallics to have the same effect. Find natural textures from jute, linen in woven blankets, rugs, pillows and wall hangings.

TONE-ON-TONE ROOMS

When you can’t get enough of your favorite color, use it twice! Tone-on-tone kitchens, bathrooms and laundry rooms have a sophisticated feel. It’s a great way to surround yourself with something you love while showcasing your color coordinating prowess.

LARGE SCALE PATTERNS

Block print comes and goes, but what we’re seeing in 2022 has such a comforting organic feel, you’ll want it for every rug in your house.

K ALLU NA kalluna.com / 541-497-8509 133 Broadalbin St SW Albany @kallunadesignstudio

CURVES

Go ahead and call me a romantic, as I just purchased a Tudor style home. Romantic curves are popping up everywhere: rounded waterfall edges on end tables, pill-shaped mirrors and coffee tables, curved back sofas and chairs, oh my! Put these items in a neutral color room to make a huge design impact.

SUSTAINABILITY

I would be remiss if I didn’t mention the progress toward a more earth-friendly design industry. Gone are the days of replacing your interior fashion every five years. Nature-made materials and more durable fabrics such as Crypton® offer interior fashion longer life with less maintenance.

Heather Van Eyk is a mother of two and founder of Kalluna Interior Design, established in 2014.

New name and location Northwest Design House is now Kalluna Interior Design, relocated to historic downtown Albany.

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Let’s talk health

QA

Have a question you forgot to discuss at the doctor’s office or are too embarrassed to ask? The experts at Samaritan Health Services are here to help.

Q: I’ve been breastfeeding and recently noticed a lump. What is considered normal and when is there cause for concern?

A: Taking care of baby plus breastfeeding are big jobs. Because of that, sometimes there is a tendency to put your own health care needs on the backburner. While lumps and bumps can form when breastfeeding

Q: I’m pregnant and have been diagnosed with cancer. Is it safe for me to seek treatment?

A: Absolutely seek treatment. Treatment

options vary widely, depending on the type and location of the cancer. There are many types of cancer, all of which have special considerations for both the mother and unborn baby. As a medical physicist and radiation safety officer, I can only speak to the radiation therapy aspects of possible treatment.

Let’s talk health

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due to blocked ducts or mastitis, they should always be taken seriously. Even though it may be viewed as one more thing to juggle, it’s highly important that if a new breast mass or lump is discovered — breastfeeding or not — to have it evaluated by your health care provider.

— Clara Stone, PA-C, Samaritan Medical Group Breast Center – Corvallis

Technology for radiation therapy has advanced greatly so that cancer can be targeted while sparing healthy tissue.

Targeted radiation treatment to an extremity or the upper torso, like breast, lung, head or neck, is unlikely to impact fetal development.

Many other treatment options exist, so regardless of your diagnosis, your OB/GYN should work closely with your cancer care team to determine the best treatment options going forward.

— Elizabeth Shiner, medical physicist, Samaritan Radiation Oncology

Call Samaritan Health Services Find a Doctor line at 800-863-5241 to find a provider who is right for you.

Now, you and your children can be even better protected against COVID-19! The updated vaccine provides stronger protection against Omicron!

COVID-19 vaccines are now available for the whole family! Children 6 months and older – and any adult – can receive a COVID-19 vaccine.

www.co.benton.or.us/covid19 Info: 541-766-6120

Let’s make the park worthy of his legacy. Together.

Fundraising for major improvements to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Park is underway. Get involved or donate to this exciting project at MLKParkCorvallis.org. Your gift of any amount helps support green space, recreation and social justice in our community.

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• Animal welfare programs & free pet food pantry heartlandhumane.org | (541) 757-9000 398 SW Twin Oaks Circle, Corvallis

Find home goods, toys, clothing & more.

Make a year-end donation today!

All proceeds benefit the animals.

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Hannah Darling PHOTOS BY: EMILY HALL PHOTOGRAPHY P ROF E S SION: Business owner/entrepreneur PA R T NER: Fritz Darling CHIL DREN: Isla, age 7; Cailan, age 17; and our son Oliver would be 9 if he were alive today.

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THIS MOM’S OUTLOOK IS SOMETHING WE CAN ALL GET ON BOARD WITH: CELEBRATE LIFE FULLY, AND WHEN THE PRESSURE GETS TOO MUCH, PRESS THE EASY BUTTON.

Family comes first.

All families are unique. Tell us about yours.

I had my oldest daughter when I was 22 and I raised her completely on my own for six years. During that time I found out that I had a congenital heart defect, and I had to undergo open heart surgery at age 26 which was really scary because I was the single mom of a four-year-old. Two years later, I met my husband online. He lived in Wisconsin, and I was living in Idaho at the time. I was really cautious about dating so it took me almost a year to meet him in person (which we did on the Space Needle in Seattle). After several trips back and forth to meet each other’s families, we got married in June of 2012 and he moved out here and finished grad school at OSU. The year after we got married we had our son, Oliver.

Oliver was diagnosed with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome in utero and passed away while we were in Stanford waiting for a heart transplant when he was three weeks old. Although that was incredibly hard on us, it also brought us a lot closer as a family.

In 2014, we had our daughter, Isla. We’ve lived in Albany for a little over 10 years now.

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Tell us about one of your proudest mom moments. My older daughter really struggled during middle school and high school. She lost her brother when she was eight, then our family experienced another tragedy when she was 12 and it was hard for her to focus on school. Then the pandemic hit her freshman year of high school. We decided to have her try to recover some of her credits at Albany Options (which is such a great school) and she still struggled. This year she decided to get her GED, and she passed every single test, with really high scores, on her first try. I’m so proud of her for pushing through and not giving up.

We’re all moms so we know that no one is perfect all of the time, or even some of the time.

Tell us about your most recent “Mother of the Year” moment. You know, like forgetting to pick the kids up from school. My older daughter was at a friend’s house really late one night.

I was exhausted and headed to bed. Without even thinking, I locked the door. She hadn’t taken a key with her so when she tried to

get inside later, she was locked out. She tried calling us several times but we keep our phones on silent at night. I woke up in the middle of the night and checked my phone and saw all of her missed calls and texts and then saw her on our doorbell camera…I don’t know if I’ve ever felt like a worse mom than I did in that moment.

Thankfully her friend’s parent just took her back with them and had her sleep there, but I was wide awake the rest of the night!

You know you’re a mom when you hear yourself say, “______________.”

“Did you put clean socks on?”

No one works harder than mom.

We know that being a mom is a full-time job.

How do you balance (or not) motherhood, activities, work, volunteering, household responsibilities, and life in general? What sometimes falls through the cracks?

I feel like I’m always struggling to balance being a mom, a wife, a business owner, and a volunteer (not to mention all of the other hats we all wear). I think sometimes moms have a hard time recognizing when we need help and then being willing to ask for it.

There’s so much pressure from society to do it all and be everything to everyone, which just is not possible. My husband is good at helping me recognize when it’s time to ask for help or dial back on my commitments. He asks me if it’s time to “press the easy button” which is usually my sign to buy something from the store instead of making it from scratch, ask someone for help, or start saying no to obligations for a while.

Tell us about your work or volunteerism outside of the home. In February of 2019 I started my own content marketing agency, CopyWritten. I have a team of about 15 writers, editors and artists. We all work remotely and write content (blogs, web pages, marketing copy, social media, etc.) for a lot of different industries and companies all over the country.

I started volunteering with the Albany Downtown Association several years ago.

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MOMs Love Local We love locally owned businesses, restaurants, places and organizations.

Share your favorite…

…shop to pick up a gift for friend: Oak Creek Collection, Emma Downtown …coffee spot: The Brim, Margin Coffee …spot to get a good workout: Walking along the Dave Clark Trail by the river. …place to treat yourself to a mani/pedi, massage or other personal service: Pure Beauty in Downtown Albany has the best facials. I also love Level 3. …restaurant to take the kids: The Barn

…take-out, food truck or quick bite: Homegrown Oregon, Pono Bowl Co.

of putting on events like Movies at Monteith and Downtown Unwrapped. Currently, I serve as president of their board of directors and head up 1st Friday Downtown, and I’ll be in charge of the Downtown Twice Around Parade in December again for the third year.

I also won Outstanding Volunteer of the Year for 2022.

…meetup spot for happy hour: Vault 244, The Squeaky Cork

Do you have a goal you’d like to accomplish within the next five years? I would really like to write a book in the next five years.

…boutique to find a new shirt or home décor item: Lux + Lu, The Country Roost

If mom’s not happy, nobody’s happy.

…restaurants for a date night: Sweet Red, Sybaris

…event in your community: Downtown Unwrapped …any other local places you love: The Pix Theatre, The Natty Dresser

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Tell us about your upbringing. How did it shape the mother you are today? I was born in California and then moved to Ohio, Oregon, Maine, Idaho, and then back to Oregon. My dad is a pastor and my mom was a stay-athome mom. I had two brothers and a sister and at one point we all shared a room. I learned how to adjust to new people and places because we moved around so much.

We had a lot of family traditions, and my

mom was so good about making a big deal out of celebrating special occasions…it’s something that has really carried through in my life and the way I parent. I love to celebrate life with my kids.

What do you think is the most important life skill or value your parents taught you?

My parents taught us to be grateful for everything we have. We didn’t have a lot growing up and I think for a long time I rebelled against that, but recently I’ve started realizing what an important lesson I learned growing up that way. I can be happy with very little.

When was the last time you did something for the first time? I try to have new experiences as often as I can, even if it’s just trying a new food or visiting a new place. I grew up in Southern Oregon, but never did the Hellgate Canyon jet boat excursions while we lived there. Last July we decided to make it happen and we had a blast!

What’s your guilty pleasure? Reality TV…I know, I know…but I just can’t help it!

Who is your favorite real-life hero?

My grandma, Charlene. She was the most amazing person I know and I think about her every day. She was someone who knew how to show people unconditional love, and we had such a special relationship. She died of Parkinson’s several years ago, but not before we got to tell her that we named our youngest daughter Isla Charlene after her.

Outside of your family members, who/ what inspires you to be better? I think just knowing where I’ve been. After we lost our son in 2013, I had a really hard time being happy and it scared me. And then I lost my younger brother four years later and I didn’t think I would ever recover from that. Life is so short and I want to live the best, fullest life that I can. That’s what inspires me to keep reaching for my goals and becoming the best person I can be.

Listen to mom.

Is motherhood what you expected? What surprised you the most? Not at all. It’s both so much more wonderful and so much harder than I could have ever anticipated. I think what surprised me most was just how you can instantly love another person in such an intense way that you would sacrifice literally anything for them…seconds after meeting them for the first time.

Who and what has influenced the mother you are today? This may sound odd, but my kids.

Once I started paying attention to who my kids are and what their needs are, I started parenting really differently.

What message would you like to share with other moms? Remember to tell it like it is.

Being a mom is really hard, but we also make it so much harder than it has to be by not asking for help and trying to be everything to everyone all the time. You don’t have to have Pinterest-ready birthday treats for school. If you enjoy that, then do it, but if you’re doing it for other people, give yourself a break and take some time to be your own person. You’ll be so much happier and so will your kids. It’s good for your kids to see you taking time to do things you enjoy.

Press the easy button sometimes.

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What is your least/most favorite household chore? I hate folding laundry. I would rather do almost anything besides fold a load of laundry and put it away. Thankfully, my husband doesn’t mind it.

MOM s Favorite...

Tell us about your favorite…

…family game: We have an entire hallway of board games, but if my kids get to pick it’s always Clue or Uno. …binge-worthy podcasts: Tim Ferriss, Crime Junkie, Morbid …way to get out of making dinner: My husband does a lot of the cooking, but it’s pretty easy for me to talk my family into walking downtown for dinner. …time-saving app or digital tool: Skylight digital calendar …parenting philosophy: Positive parenting

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Cool preservation ideas KEEP EATING FRESH, EVEN AFTER THE CHILL OF WINTER HITS One of the simplest tools when it comes to preserving is standard in most kitchens: the freezer. Everything you need to make these freezer preserves that doesn’t come from your garden can be found at First Alternative.

Frozen pesto, cubed: Save some fresh, summery flavor with pesto cubes. Make a simple pesto by blending fresh basil leaves, sunflower seeds, garlic, sea salt, and olive oil in a blender or food processor.

Distribute the pesto into ice cube trays to freeze. Once fully frozen, pop out the cubes and store in a freezer bag. They’re great for use in pizza, pasta, or for spreading on toast. Just thaw and add a little extra olive oil and some shaved Parmesan.

Icy hot add-ins: Hot peppers are the ultimate easy-freeze option. Simply freeze whole peppers in freezer bags once they’ve been washed and dried. The oils in the hot pepper mean they won’t freeze as solidly as other veggies. Then, when you want to add some heat to your winter meal, just grab a pepper out of the freezer and start chopping.

Come to First Alternative Natural Foods Co-op for all of your grocery needs. It’s the natural choice.

Two locations in Corvallis 1007 SE 3rd • 541-753-3115 2855 NW Grant • 541-452-3115 Open daily www.firstalt.coop

To ensure life-long healthy eyes and vision, eye examinations should start early and be performed yearly!

In this digital age, a thorough eye examination should not only check for a prescription and assess the health of the eyes, it should also include testing of visual function like eye teaming, tracking and focusing.

Jasmin Woodside of First Alternative Co-op and her children.

Dr. Aaron Salzano

Dr. Stephanie Emmert

Schedule an appointment by calling 541-967-3097 or by visiting rivervieweye.com.

We look forward to seeing you!

Dr. Kelly Batey

Dr. Salzano checks the baby's eye teaming, which is an important part of early vision development.

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609 Hickory St. NW, Suite 160, Albany 541-967-3097 | rivervieweye.com

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Momism #12: Eat your vegetables.

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R A ISN G SOTRNG A M IF L E S THOURG EP R S O N A ILZ D C A ER .

TIPS FOR A SUCCESSFUL Christina Miller, MD SCHOOL YEAR: 541 704 7304

Schedule a well-child visit to catch up on vaccines. This visit can also serve as a sports physical.

Create a consistent bedtime routine to help kids get enough sleep: they need at least 8 10 hours per night.

At Willamette Valley Pediatrics we believe that health care is personal.

Dr. Christina Miller takes the time to develop relationships with her patients and their families to care for their “whole” health.

You and your child’s health are our priority.

We know that health concerns are stressful for moms. We offer same-day appointments and can work with your busy schedule. We schedule sports physicals with minimal wait time, because we know that an active child is a healthy child.

Dr. Miller strives to provide so much more than just a doctor’s visit. She knows that children are a blessing, and she partners with you and your child to help them become their best selves.

Serve healthy breakfasts. If your child isn’t great at eating breakfast, make a protein smoothie.

Get to know your child’s teachers and keep in contact with them to ensure your child’s school success.

Offer healthy snacks after school.

Christina Miller, MD

1123 Hill Street SE Suite B. Albany 541-704-7304

541 704 7304

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COOKING FROM THE PANTRY

The rising cost of food has us in the mood for dishes made from shelf-stable items.

LEVELED-UP COUSCOUS Make couscous a little less bland-bland.

3 1 2 1 1 1 2½ 2

tablespoons olive oil cup sliced almonds cloves of chopped garlic teaspoon sweet paprika teaspoon ground cumin teaspoon ground coriander cups chicken or vegetable stock cups cooked chickpeas, drained and rinsed 1 cup raisins or dried currants, chopped 1¼ cup quick-cooking couscous Salt and pepper to taste Optional: parsley for garnish In a large skillet, heat olive oil over medium heat. Add almonds and stir until lightly golden, about 2 to 3 minutes.

Add the garlic and stir for another minute. Then add paprika, cumin and coriander. Cook until heated through.

Stir in the stock, chickpeas and chopped raisins or currents.

Bring to a boil. Then stir in couscous, cover and remove from heat. Let stand for 5 minutes, then fluff with a fork.

Season with salt and pepper, and garnish with parsley, if desired.

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PESTO PASTA WITH SUN-DRIED TOMATOES & ARTICHOKE HEARTS Feels fancy and looks pretty.

12 1

ounces of your choice of pasta cup of artichoke hearts, drained and chopped 1 cup of sun-dried tomatoes in oil, drained and chopped ¼ - ½ cup of jarred pesto Cook the pasta as directed and drain.

Add artichokes, sun-dried tomatoes. Stir in pesto to your liking.

CATCH-AS-CATCH-CAN SALAD Packs a fiber punch.

15 15 15 ¼ 1/4 1/4 1 11/2 1/2 ¼

ounce can cooked chickpeas, rinsed and drained ounce can cooked kidney beans, rinsed and drained ounce can of corn, drained cup onion, finely diced cup extra-virgin olive oil cup red wine vinegar teaspoon sugar teaspoons cumin teaspoon kosher salt teaspoon black pepper

Optional: garnish with cilantro or peppers for a pop of color.

In a large bowl, combine the chickpeas, beans, corn and onion.

In a small bowl, whisk together the olive oil, red wine vinegar, sugar, cumin, salt and pepper.

Pour dressing over the beans and gently stir to combine.

Refrigerate for 2 hours for best results.

Talking with kids about cancer Guidance for tough conversations

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hen a cancer diagnosis enters your world, it’s worrisome for adults, but for children it can be downright confusing. most experts say talking about the diagnosis openly is important, as children are very perceptive and will know something is wrong.

“If they feel you are hiding something it may cause more fear,” says Holly Almond, MSN, FNP, of Samaritan Hematology & Oncology Consultants.

Starting such a conversation can be overwhelming. Two-time breast cancer survivor Linda Blair and mom of three said, “It’s hard because your instinct as a parent is to want to protect your kids from fear. We made it as clear as possible to our children that while the adults have a plan, it’s okay to be scared, upset or even numb. There’s room for all of those feelings.”

that they are familiar with. You can use dolls or stuffed animals, or draw pictures for general information.”

Older children may have a wider knowledge base about cancer, but some of it might be off-base.

“For older kids, find out how much they already know so that you can correct any erroneous information they may have learned from television, social media or their friends,” says Almond. Many teens will not want to talk; be patient and remind them that a wide range of emotions is normal.

“Think of that first talk as the beginning of an on-going dialogue.”

Experts advise choosing a time and place where no one feels rushed, as kids need to process the information and ask questions. Younger children may worry cancer is contagious, or that they somehow caused it, so they will need continued reassurance to counter those thoughts.

Customizing the message to the child’s age is key. With young children, Almond says, “Use words for body parts

For moms like Blair, a family history of cancer makes her more attuned to risks.

“With my teen daughter I like using the Daisy Wheel as a self-breast examination tool because prevention and knowledge is powerful.” The Daisy Wheel digital app is available through the Get in Touch Foundation.

Almond and other cancer care professionals caution that kids may not be ready for a big conversation when you have it. Think of that first talk as the beginning of an ongoing dialogue, and seek out guidance from your child’s pediatrician, counselors and other mental health professionals for help along the way.

Sources: American Cancer Society | CancerCare | Cancer Support Community | National Cancer Institute

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pets are family Preventing lost pets …and broken hearts Indoor cats slip out an open door, dogs wriggle out of their collars… becoming lost is one of the biggest risks for our beloved pets.

According to the American Humane Society, 10 million pets are lost each year in the United States. The majority of these pets end up in shelters, and only 10% of dogs and 2% of cats without permanent identification find their way home.

The best form of permanent identification is a microchip.

Microchips are about the size of a grain of rice and placed under the skin. Using radio frequency identification, the chip can be read by a handheld device to show a unique ID number that is registered to you as the owner.

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Should your pet be separated from you and taken to a vet clinic or shelter, they will be scanned and if a chip is found, the staff can access registration information from a national database.

This is why it’s crucial you register your pet’s chip, and keep your contact information updated. Once you are identified, the staff can contact you to arrange the safe return of your pet.

Jilinda Lewis, DVM Ark Animal Hospital

Microchips are an inexpensive way to help ensure your furry family members make it home from an unexpected adventure!

In partnership with Willamette Veterinary Hospital & Eastgate Veterinary Clinic

KIDS DON’T COME WITH DIRECTIONS Parenting is better with support

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FUTURE YOU WILL THANK PAST YOU

PREP YOUR PANTRY FOR THE SEASON There’s regular life, and then there’s regular life plus the holidays. For many moms, it’s like adding an unpaid, seasonal part-time job on top of everything else. Organizing your food supplies for the holidays can help lower your stress, as it’s one less thing to attend to in the swirl of day-to-day life.

The Pinterest-perfect pantries with matching containers and scroll-style font labels…we love them, but we also live in this thing called real life. Aspirational, yes, but realistic, nope.

Still, getting bulk goods out of flimsy plastic bags with fraying wire tags is a good idea. There’s a happy medium to be found.

START WITH CLEANOUT

Compost or toss: Anything past its expiration date, that you forgot to label and might actually be from 2016, or anything that generally looks unfit for consumption.

Take the remaining items out and wipe down the shelves, vacuum out corners, etc.

Put like with like: group together condiments, soups, baking supplies, beans, pasta, etc. Don’t overthink it, just lump things together.

INVENTORY

Take stock of what you have and assemble your list. Take a photo of your pantry. It might feel weird, but when you’re at the store and begin questioning your memory (do we have pancake syrup?) you can look at the pic for a reminder.

PREPARE FOR THE HAUL

Make your list with a timeline goal. About three months feels reasonable, and fall encompasses the holiday season.

Your mission: a shopping trip dedicated only to pantry goods.

But you need cheese! You should pick up something fresh for dinner! Skip that mental clutter and FOCUS. This is all about the pantry.

Don’t be scared to buy in bulk. That said, no reason to go overboard. Again, three month’s worth is your marker.

BRING IT ALL HOME

Again, put like with like and add new stock to the very back of the old stock. Use old stock first. That way, a pack of crackers that’s gonna go bad first gets used first.

Face those labels: turn jars and cans so the labels face out to you, the viewer. Put boxed goods with spines showing at least a hint of what they are.

Organize the loose stuff. Clean canning jars work great for beans and other dry goods.

Labels: make your own, or if it inspires you, get the removable, water-resistant ones online. Be sure to put the expiration and identifying info on each, in the event of a food recall.

Keep a pair of dedicated scissors in your pantry to slice through bulk wrap. Tie those scissors down, too, because kids like to take them.

Same for a permanent marker.

AFTER IT’S DONE, ENJOY THE VIEW.

There’s something primal about having a stocked larder.

Maybe it’s just us, but we think it scratches some kind of cavewoman itch in our brains.

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Support for family

CALMING CORNER

As parents, we seek out safe places when the world feels too overwhelming. Sometimes it’s under the covers watching Is it Cake? on Netflix. Other times, it’s behind a locked bathroom door. Safe spaces and time for reflection are essential to our well-being and sanity.

It’s no surprise that kids need spaces like this, too. Having what we call “calming corners” is vital for children who are overstimulated. It’s easy to create this self-soothing spot, and well worth the effort. To get started:

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FIND A SPACE: Identify a location in the home that can

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MAKE IT COMFY: Add a cushion, bean bag chair, favorite

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ADD VISUALS: Emotion posters and deep breathing

be transformed into a self-care oasis. This might be a corner in the living room, your child’s bedroom or playroom. Ensuring that this space is quiet or low stimulating is key. stuffed animals, or other soothing activities such as sensory tools or headphones for music. exercises are a great place to start. There are numerous items online; have your child pick out their favorites, so they feel part of the process.

4. PERSONALIZE IT: This is your child’s space, so let them

have some control over the decor. Adding their favorite drawings or pictures of the family adds some responsibility and uniqueness, making your child more likely to use the space.

When your calming corner is set up, show your child how to utilize it for practicing deep breathing and identifying emotions. This way, they’ll be comfortable in the space and understand its purpose before big emotions begin.

The long-term goal is that your child will seek out this space and have the tools to self-soothe, giving them important skills to help them grow into a well-regulated adult.

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Yet...is the key to a growth mindset “I can’t do this...yet.”

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It’s perfect, honey!

Actively learning to know your children

Have you ever noticed that we love our children’s artwork, no matter how purple the sky or red the grass they’ve drawn?

We don’t expect it to be perfect, yet we find joy in it anyway.

We find joy in their imperfection, yet we often expect no less than perfection from ourselves or our spouse. When we reflect on our

While culture and trends change and we work to understand their impact on kids, some things remain constant, like the importance of knowing ourwhat children deeply. lives, we see we don’t have. When we look in the mirror, we see In each of development, I have relearn ofwe who our flawsphase instead of the blessings.

Canhad we to take a stepelements back? Can my children remain intentional about knowing their hearts, accept thoseare fewand extra pounds, or scuffed shoes, or not-so-new thoughts and interests.

By making this a priority, I find myto children are car—even with its occasional rattles—and allow ourselves more secure in their relationships with adults and in their feelings about experience satisfaction with what we have and who we are? Peace themselves. A few things I’ve learned along the way… with ourselves liberates us to be our own “best.”

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Fixing bite issues is important Your smile looks great but your dentist tells you to see an orthodontist to correct your bite. But why?

As the upper and lower teeth strike together while chewing or talking, you want an evenly dispersed amount of pressure.

When there’s an uneven amount of pressure, one tooth touches another before the rest of the teeth. This uneven wear can cause a range of problems, including: • Chips, cracks and cavities

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How to stop eye twitching An eyelid twitch (or tic) is when you have a spasm or slight movement of your upper or lower eyelid. For the majority of us, this common eyelid twitch is a brief and minor annoyance. But when it lasts longer or occurs more frequently than usual, there are some steps you can take to make it go away: Settle in for a snooze. Eyelid twitches often happen to people when they are overtired, so get some restorative sleep.

Step back from stress. Being under stress can lead to eyelid twitching. If you can’t eliminate something causing you stress, find stress-reducing activities to help.

Cut back on caffeine. As a stimulant, caffeine can cause eyelid spasms. Limiting your coffee, tea or soda intake may help to reduce eyelid twitching.

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