Habits that Could Ruin Your Relationship

10 Habits that Could Ruin Your Relationship

BY MARY CAMPBELL 311DIVORCE.COM

When relationships start, there are lots of butterflies and romantic emotions. There is enough emotional high to keep the relationship mutually exciting and fulfilling. At the time, you feel your partner is just perfect. But after weeks and months together, the emotional high begins to dip, and you start to see that your partner is not so perfect. Successful relationships are not just butterflies and rainbows. It takes deliberate effort from both partners to have a mutually satisfying relationship. Both partners must be committed to making each other happy. Sometimes, one or even both partners might be selfish and unbending. They might be unwilling to make compromises for a happy relationship. Other times, one or both partners might succumb to bad habits that slowly ruin the relationship. In this article, we will look at 10 toxic habits that could make your relationship take a turn for the worse and show you how to avoid them.

1. Trying to be Right All the Time

For many couples, this is a toxic trait that can ruin everything. When arguing, avoid trying to prove that you are right or that your opinion is superior. Pay attention to your partner and allow them to express their opinion. Keep in mind that the aim is not to be right, but to come to a point where there is love, peace, and mutual understanding.

2. Comparing Your Partner to Others

Comparing your partner to other people can create unrealistic expectations and even lower their self-esteem. Avoid comparing your partner to people around you. Learn to appreciate your partner for who they are. Instead of comparing them to others, inspire them to become a better version of themselves.

3. Not Expressing Love to Your Partner

It is easy to believe that you love your partner the way they want to be loved. The reality is that most times, we express love to our partner based on how we like to be loved. For example, you might understand love to be receiving words of affirmation. But on the other hand, your partner may understand love to be acts of service or receiving gifts. Learn your partner's love languages and express love to them in the way they want to be loved.

4. Bottling Up Your Feelings

Avoid assuming that your partner should understand how you think and feel at every point. The truth is, your partner can't read your mind or understand everything about how you feel. So speak up - communicate your feelings with your partner. This will help your partner understand you better and will create a stronger bond between you two. Also, create an atmosphere where your partner feels comfortable expressing their feelings towards you.

5. Holding Grudges

The most successful relationships are made up of two forgivers. Your partner will step on your toes at some point. Holding grudges will only lead to anxiety, insecurity, and stress. So forgive your partner, and avoid holding grudges.

6. Spending More Time on Your Phone

When having a conversation with your partner, try to listen to them without fiddling with your gadget. Give them all your attention. Create special activities that can help you and your partner bond better. This will make them feel like they are a priority in your life.

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7. Criticizing Your Partner

Avoid constantly criticizing your partner. Avoid snide remarks about their appearance or personality. Instead, appreciate the positive traits in your partner. Learn to give positive and constructive feedback and encourage them to do better, rather than dragging them down.

8. Spying on Your Partner

Trust is essential for any successful relationship. Avoid snooping around your partner's phone or belongings. Respect each other's privacy.

9. Telling lies

Avoid telling lies or keeping things from your partner. This is one way to break their trust in you and ruin your relationship. 10. Taking Your Partner for Granted Never take your partner for granted. Appreciate the little efforts your partner makes. Reinforce their place in your life and remind your partner why you love them. Relationships are a blessing. However, maintaining a happy relationship is not easy. It takes sacrifice, commitment, and deliberate effort from both parties to make it work. Avoid these bad habits and commit to improving yourself and your relationship. l

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21 Five Ways to Get Out of a COVID Funk

BY MARY CAMPBELL

Due to COVID-19, mental health has been a widespread issue as people find themselves confined to their homes. This drastic change of pace, along with social isolation, is naturally stoking anxiety and squandering motivation. Here are five suggestions to help create a healthy and enticing daily routine.

1. Pick a time to go to bed

The body knows when it's being deprived of uninterrupted sleep. It also knows if it's up at strange hours like 3 to 7 in the morning. People who go to bed before 12 a.m. and wake up before 12 p.m. have a reserve of energy that is lost to irregular sleeping patterns. They also have more opportunities to be productive since they have more hours of daylight-the sun is out, essential businesses are open, and people are up and at your disposal.

2. Exercise

Exercise is the quintessential self-help tip. Although it seems cliched and boring, there is an underlying truth to the benefits of daily exercise. At the very least, if the days feel empty and unstructured, a daily exercise goal gives you something positive to do. Exercise shouldn't be boring or dreadful; associate it with fun by listening to music or watching TV. Instead of being cooped up inside, why not enjoy the day by going for a walk or a jog? Take pictures, jot down some notes, explore the neighborhood. Don't let the act of exercise limit your curiosity and enjoyment. Doing only thirty minutes' exercise every day is astronomically better than not doing any at all.

3. Read

Pandemics, depression, and isolation seem contemporarily unique... but are not. There is nothing quite like finding a good book, not as a distraction, but as a tool to help face turbulent times. Though other forms of media address these themes, books require more attention and make you appreciate solitude and quiet.

4. Socialize

Although the pandemic has made it difficult for people to get together in person. Don't give up on family and friends; they probably feel isolated and anxious too. There are also hundreds of online communities currently teeming with active users. Why not take the opportunity to make some online friends? Having someone to talk to makes life a little less stressful, even if they're on the other side of the world.

5. Do "that thing"

Everyone has "that thing" they've always wanted to do but haven't. Well, what better time to explore unrealized passion than in this time of uncertainty? If the downtime during unemployment (or any other circumstances) feels unbearably dull, create a challenge: learn how to play an instrument, explore a foreign language, jot down some paragraphs, buy painting supplies, read the stock market. Find something to get excited about.

Hang in there!

Remember, COVID won't last forever. As the world slowly begins to return to a new normalcy, it's still important to observe social distancing guidelines while maintaining mental health. If you're currently under a soft lockdown and are experiencing monotony, don't forget to go to bed early, exercise, read, text a friend, and explore your whims. This might give your days the touch that they needed.l

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COVID-19 continues to pose challenges for many parents and students. But whether your children are going back to school in a physical classroom or remotely at home, it is important to make sure they get their vision checked. Lighthouse Guild points out that vision is one of the keys to success in school and encourages parents to make sure their children get regular vision screenings. “The most important thing you can do to protect your child’s vision is to make sure they get an eye exam,” says Dr. Laura Sperazza, Director of Low Vision Services at Lighthouse Guild. “An eye health professional can determine if your child needs eyeglasses or contact lenses, or if there is a vision problem that requires further intervention.”

August is Children’s Eye Health and Safety Month

Here are five healthy vision tips to help safeguard your child’s eye health:

•Eat Your Carrots – The old saying still applies. Encourage your children to eat a well-balanced diet loaded with different types of fruits and veggies as well as fish.

•Speak Up – Ask your children to let you know if they notice any vision changes. Examples would be blurry vision, frequent squinting, or general eye discomfort.

•Wear Your Glasses – Help your children understand the importance of wearing their eyeglasses. If they are resistant because they believe glasses are unattractive, try pointing out sports figures and other well-known people who wear glasses. Talk with them about how to clean and store their glasses. Let them choose an eyeglass case with a theme or design they like to make the experience of wearing glasses seem more special. For an older child, explore the possibility of contact lenses.

•Rest Your Eyes – Looking continuously at a computer, phone, or TV screen can tire eyes. Encourage your children to take a break from staring at the screen. Teach them the 20/20/20 rule for computer use. After 20 minutes on the computer, they should take a break for 20 seconds and look 20 feet away to relax the eyes. This is good rule for adults also!

•Wear Safety Gear – Make sure your children wear goggles or other types of protective eye wear while playing sports, using chemicals or tools for school projects, or engaging in other activities. Many eye injuries can be prevented with better safety habits.l

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