Single With Purpose

While the church places great emphasis on “marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled” more than ever the divorce statistics rises within the church. Why?

We spend much time teaching on marriage but skim over teachings on being single until God’s time of placing a mate in our lives. Thus, more and more singles experience feelings of failure and deprivation. Too often the question is asked, “what’s wrong with me?” NOTHING. Acceptance of this mindset is what has caused many unsuspecting singles to hasten to the alter needing to fit into the just married and blessed community. In one of every two cases, this quickly turns into the married and distressed club.

Nothing is wrong with you. “To everything, there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven” (Ecc. 3:1) “Your singleness is not a state of failure or deprivation: it is your time in an exclusive relationship with God. A time of connection and purpose. In this single time of your life, God is jealously keeping you to Himself. He longs for His time with you, just as you would for time with a loved one. Before He releases you into a relationship of trust and relying on someone else, He has to solidify His relationship with you. Thus you may know Him as your provider in every area of your life.

God does not want us codependent on anyone or anything.

Singleness (singlehood) in Christ Jesus is a unique and beautiful place to be if you wholly embrace it.

Let us take the example of Adam, man’s first single person. We find him in Genesis chapter two. Having made creation in all its perfection, God created the world’s first single, Adam. We all know the story. God did say it was not good for man to be alone. But notice that God only said “ it’s not good for Adam to be alone” after a time of singleness! A time of trusting in God; relationship with God; and working for God. Also, pay attention to the fact that it was God that saw and decided. Not Adam. Let’s take a closer look at Genesis 2:8-22.

* In verses, 8-15 God prepares a place for Adam. This man who’s trust rested entirely in God to supply all of his needs.

* In verses 16-17 we find that God talks to Adam signifying that they communicated with each other (RELATIONSHIP!).

* In verse 18 God makes a notation of Adams' singleness, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help-meet for him.”

* In verses 19 and 20 we see that God, having observed Adams singleness does not resolve it right away. Instead, God gives Adam an assignment. A task God needed Adam to complete before other responsibilities were added to his life.

In verse 22, After Adam had completed the tasks assigned to him in this single season of his life, God then makes him a help-meet. He took time and created every inch of her inner and outer being/person. While He did so, Adam rested.

Now contrary to popular belief, living single in Christ, as a happy, healthy and complete person, fulfilling a purpose and reaching destiny, is possible. There is nothing wrong with you if you are not married yet. Consider this. Perhaps God is not through developing you in Him, or maybe you are yet fulfilling your purpose (s) assigned to your singlehood, and before other responsibilities are added to your life. Be sure of one thing; God knows about your aloneness long before you realize you are alone. Trust God to be GOD and stay focused on your purpose busy doing what He has assigned you! Remember, “He hath made everything beautiful in his time:” Ecc. 3:11

To everything, there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven”. Whether never married, divorced, widowed, single parent, NOTHING is wrong with you when your life is in God’s hands; God’s time.

Dr. Andrea D. Gollop Editor In Chief

Global Link Magazine / 4th Qtr. 2018 4 www.wlcm.org