A MARRIAGE AS BEAUTIFUL A S Y O U R W E D D I N G D AY
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WHITE LOVES a graceful pairing Katie Waltman began her range of stunning jewellery after being inspired by her grandmother’s bead collection. She set up shop in 2002, and has now expanded her brand to include clothing, homewares and skincare. Pick up these simple yet elegant aqua jewels at katiewaltman.com
tie the knot Country Road’s Teneille Knot Heels are timelessly styled, making them perfect for guests or bridesmaids alike. They can even be worn beyond the wedding day with work attire. These versatile shoes feature a sturdy heel, soft suede upper and tie ankle. Shop more of Country Road’s range at countryroad.com.au
hidden gem This emerald Lena Dress by BHLDN takes elegance to the edge, with its daring slit, high neck and exaggerated flutter sleeves. It is beautifully draped and available in four additional colours, including Navy, Port Wine, Blush and Black. Find out more at bhldn.com
elegant invitations check it out Sage x Clare’s sister-line, PLAY, has come up with this delightful Peony Woven Throw, with a playful check design in Merlot, Magenta and Coral. Enter to win this modern blanket at whitemag.com/win, or see more of their designs at sageandclare.com
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Graphic artist, Aileen Fretz, specialises in handwritten invitations and stationery made from organic, handmade materials. Her designs are semi-customisable to meet any theme with ease. plumecalligraphy.com
stylish staples Status Anxiety creates classic, timeless pieces in an industry that thrives on following the latest trends. With an ethos that speaks of obsessing over ‘clean, minimalistic design’, their premium leather goods are a must-have. See more at statusanxiety.com.au
artistic flair The work of fashion illustrator, Jeanette Getrost, is both elegant and awe-inspiring. Generating images and representations of high-fashion pieces, she is helping retain the beauty of design in an ever-changing industry. jeanettegetrost.co
go for gold A practical yet luxurious travel accessory designed by Parisian perfumer Francis Kurkdjian, this sophisticated gold perfume case is a necessity for the frequent flyer. Buy this and shop a fragrance to match at mecca.com.au
dream in colour Suzanne Harward’s Kaleidoscope Dream collection showcases complex couture elements emphasising feminine design, luxe fabrication and signature silhouettes. Check it out at suzanneharward.com
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modern treasures Two worlds collide at Grew & Co, where ancient techniques and contemporary methods combine to create unique and dreamlike jewellery designs. Explore their pieces at grewandco.com.au
Founded in Australia, Sofi Spritz offers a range of wine cocktails inspired by the Italian-style of ‘aperitivo’. The concoctions are balanced with sparkling water, citrus and herbal extracts, and they are the perfect beverages to get your reception started! Head to sofispritz.com
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B E B R AV E “LOVE, MARRIAGE, RELATIONSHIP, FAMILY … IT’S ALL A RISK. LOVE IS AN ACT OF COURAGE.” Words: Lizzy Milani—Pocket Fuel | Photography: Irena Balashko
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y mum once told me that just weeks before her wedding, her father took her to Fiji to reflect and
be sure she was marrying the right man. And that on the morning of her wedding day, he told her, “It’s not too late to back out.” It was just weeks before my own wedding, and I thought that perhaps she was about to whip out tickets to Fiji, Bali, maybe even Europe, so I could be afforded the same reflection. I thought, “Is she asking me in some passive aggressive manner if I’m making the right choice?” Love, marriage, relationship, family … it’s all a risk. Love is an act of courage. When you’re committing yourself to love a person through all the different seasons and circumstances of your life, you’re saying, “I do”, to the unknown, the attachments, the experiences past and present, the family and friends, the dreams and hopes of another human. That kind of vulnerability and openness can be intimidating. The wedding itself can sometimes stand as a welcome distraction to the melding of two lives. You have seating plans to make, a cake to choose, a dress to find, a honeymoon to book … it’s easy to get lost in the details of a single day rather than
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true colours
When we were engaged, I had this recurring nightmare that my middle-aged youth leader was my only bridesmaid, and that I was aiming to walk the aisle on trestle tables covered in satin, wearing stilettos with socks. Horror, right? Now, I see it for what it was: the doubt in my mind. Thoughts paraded my headspace, “Who is really celebrating with me? We are so young and we have nothing.” We were young, so young. But in that moment of insecurity and doubt, I decided to let the light in and let honesty talk. Everything starts with a decision; for us, for me, my future started with that single decision. I spoke honestly to Rye about what I was thinking and it made me really nervous to bring all of my private thoughts out and share them with the man of my future. What I found in that moment was the beginning of something that has
~ “WHEN WE ARE FACE TO FACE WITH OUR
continued to serve me well throughout our marriage and life. When we are face to face with our companion, when we are truly honest, finally our souls can speak truthfully. If you are insecure, you really need to pluck up the guts to be honest
COMPANION, WHEN WE ARE TRULY HONEST,
with the one you love. Honesty will pull the thorn of doubt out.
FINALLY OUR SOULS CAN SPEAK TRUTHFULLY.”
At every level of growth I have had to face insecurities, those internal and external voices that fed me lies; that created a cloud of doubt. The scenery changed from time to time but the inner dialogue was coming from within, and I was taking it everywhere I went. The lies would whisper to me, “She is brighter, more alluring and capable than me. I am actually small, very small and I do not have anything brilliant or exciting to offer.” Comparison is a beast and it is on a rampage. And you need to tell it to shush. I think it was five years into our marriage that I realised that seventy percent of my mental traffic was congested with stuff like this and I didn’t want to live confined anymore—I wanted to fly high. We all need to fly high.
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~ “WATCH WITH GLITTERING EYES THE WHOLE WORLD AROUND YOU BECAUSE THE GREATEST SECRETS ARE ALWAYS HIDDEN IN THE MOST UNLIKELY PLACES.”—ROALD DAHL
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adventurous souls
F IE R CE LY F E MININE “HER COURAGE WAS HER CROWN AND SHE WORE IT LIKE A QUEEN.”—ATTICUS
PHOTOGRAPHY ELIZABETH MESSINA elizabethmessina.com GOWNS ALEXANDRA GRECCO alexandragrecco.com HAIR + MAKEUP CHRISTINA BURNS cbstylist.com ACCESSORIES LUNA BEA lunabea.com MODELS PHOTO/GENICS photogenicsmedia.com
DRESS WILDER GOWN
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fiercely feminine
THIS PAGE DRESS NICO GOWN OPPOSITE PAGE DRESS LANA GOWN
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DEAR TRENTON You are the other half to my whole, my
and I am looking forward to the rest of our
perfect fit. You complement me in every
lives growing and exploring, creating and
way. I am grateful beyond words to know
laughing. I promise to always put us first, to
you, to love you and to cherish you in all
prioritise your happiness and friendship and
that you are. Over the last eight years you
to show you the same kindness and grace
have shown me the greatest kindness and
you show me. I’m excited for what our
compassion, not just for myself but the
future holds and the places we will travel,
world around you—it’s part of what drew
but mostly I’m excited to get to know you
me to you in the first place. I am in awe of
more every day and to love you with every
your passion, your gentleness and your love
fibre of my being.
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K ATE + T RENTON
WEDDING PLEDGE We will pursue a life together filled with joy, passion and laughter. We will help each other to better understand the world while also looking for ways to see it new. We promise to listen to one another with patience, understanding and generosity so that we may continue to challenge each other and grow together. In a life full of competing demands, we promise to be present and attentive to one another so that we may find sanctuary together. As we face the world together, we will do so in step, with braveness, kindness, grace and a spirit of adventure.
DEAR LIAM My life found meaning when I met you, and now I couldn’t imagine it any differently. I never thought I would actually meet someone that could make me feel so loved and free. You lift me up and allow me to believe that I can accomplish anything. We will travel the world together, and see and experience so many new and exciting things, but what I look forward to most is the quiet moments before we fall asleep at night, the funny jokes we will share and walking in the door after work each day knowing that you will be there. These are the times we should love, cherish and reflect on the most. This isn’t a dream for us, this is our reality. “A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality.”—John Lennon. I vowed to be your companion in life; to always be there for you; to encourage and inspire you. I hope to live by these words I spoke on our wedding day and to be able to show you every day the meaning of them for years to come. We are now in this life together, and we will make it a truly great adventure.
DEAR JESS They say that you don’t marry someone
are my other half. The years we have
you can live with, you marry someone you
spent together and the milestones we’ve
can’t live without, and to me that completely
passed have been the happiest of my life.
encapsulates how I feel about you. I never
I took my wedding vows as both a promise
realised what I was missing out on before
and a privilege. I love being your husband.
I met you, but now life without you feels
Thank you for being my wife. I cannot
empty. In eight years, the longest we’ve
imagine a day where I don’t say, “I love
been apart was 10 days and it honestly felt
you”, and I hope we always continue to
like a lifetime—I wasn’t me without you
find love and happiness in making one
and I couldn’t wait to hold you again. You
another happy. Forever.
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JESS + ALEX
DEAR MATT After 10 years of growing and cultivating our relationship, we finally tied the knot! I’m excited to experience a lifetime of magical and transformative adventures with you. I can only hope that our union as husband and wife will bring us nothing but endless love, fun and blessings. I look forward to the day we become parents and welcome a third person in our little group and grow as a family. You are my best friend, my person, my penguin and I thank God that I can wake up and see your face every morning, go on treasure/gold hunts with you and awesome road trips, camp under the stars or just chill at home and watch documentaries on a Friday night. Nothing beats hanging out with you. I don’t know what the future brings but I’m honoured you chose me to walk side by side with you in this lifetime and hopefully the next.
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GEM A + M AT T
AS A COUPLE … Bec: We are best friends! We’ve lived together pretty much from day one. We spend most of our time together, rarely get sick of each other and we always have the best fun. Kirk and I just work better as a team. Where I lack he picks up and vice versa. We are strong believers in honesty and communication—it’s what has kept us so strong for many years! Kirk: We are definitely best mates, and right from the start we had some really good habits. We always had the tough conversations and addressed any issues straight away—I think through that we learnt quickly and it only deepened our bond and understanding for each other. It wasn’t long before we were inseparable. We aren’t perfect people at all, but we are so perfect for each other. I think the way Bec and I had our wedding shows that we don’t shy away from doing our own thing. In saying that, we are certainly in our element with takeaway food and a recorded show on Foxtel (so we can fast-forward the ads), perfectly happy in each other’s company. We very rarely do things apart from each other—I’m just as happy and comfortable having a beer with the lads when I bring Bec along! Why wouldn’t you spend all your time with the greatest person you know?
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THE STYLE We wanted our wedding to be intimate, simple and fun, so we had a party to celebrate our marriage. Nick and I agreed instantly that The Boathouse Palm Beach would be the perfect location for us. We know and love The Boathouse team, and the setting is breathtaking, so there was very little we needed to do when it came to the venue. Jessie at Freesia Kahlo is a floral artist so the brief for our flowers was very relaxed; we wanted to enhance and complement the setting, so we looked at what was in season together to create a romantic, wild and hand-picked feel. From there, Jessie worked her magic and our flowers looked more beautiful than we could have imagined—she even managed to source lotus flowers!
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C helsea + N ick
T HE R E L AT IONSHIP TA L K BE BRAVE AND FACE THESE CHALLENGING QUESTIONS ON ‘COURAGE’. Photography: India Earl Photography
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WHAT DOES OUR MARRIAGE LOOK LIKE THROUGH YOUR EYES?
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DO YOU EVER DOUBT THE LONGEVITY OF OUR RELATIONSHIP?
ARE THERE ANY ISSUES THAT YOU WOULD LIKE US TO RESOLVE?
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HOW DO YOU THINK WE CAN STRENGTHEN OUR MARRIAGE?
WHAT GOALS/ DREAMS DO WE SHARE?
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WHAT DO YOU FEEL IS OUR BIGGEST STRENGTH?
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WHAT DOES A STRONG MARRIAGE LOOK LIKE TO YOU?
WHAT DOES UNCONDITIONAL LOVE MEAN TO YOU?
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DO YOU BELIEVE OUR LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL?
10 WHAT AREAS CAN WE IMPROVE IN OUR MARRIAGE?
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HOW CAN WE SERVE EACH OTHER?
DO YOU THINK WE HAVE A HEALTHY MARRIAGE?
the relationship talk
STILL THE ONE I LOVE
BOB + PAM: UNCONDITIONAL FRIENDSHIP Photography: Jac & Heath Photography
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o look at Bob and Pam is to see the true definition of marriage; a union celebrated with compassion and
kind gestures. 64 years on, and this sweet pair still walk hand-in-hand—Bob even insists on opening the car door for Pam to this day. They are inseparable. On an average day you’ll find the two of them alongside each other in their yard; Pam developing a beautiful garden of colourful flowers and natives, and Bob meticulously tending to the lawn and hedges. Read on to learn how this genuine couple found each other, and what it has taken for them to still be together today. How did you meet? Pam: We met at the dental surgery I was employed at. Bob was a patient having some fillings done and I was the dental nurse. There was an attraction from the start. The dentist must have noticed something because one day he said, “I’ll give you five minutes together before I come in.” Eventually, Bob rang the surgery and asked me to go to the pictures. We went to the Royal Theatre and it all continued from there. Bob: Pam was a dental nurse and I was a patient in that practice. I couldn’t help but notice the beautiful dental nurse with auburn hair.
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