From the Editor Welcome to Wheel of Life Magazine! The Wheel Of Life Magazine is in a category of its own. It combines lifestyle with a twist of spirituality. The Wheel Of Life Magazine shares stories from people that are dealing with the current day issues and how they overcame them. These stories are intended to inspire you, motivate you, and empower you, helping you to live the life you are seeking. Like the Wheel of Life, this magazine will cover all areas of life ranging from (yet not limited to) grief, healthy eating and living, gender roles and gender issues, balancing career with family life; with all articles being inspiring, motivating, and empowering. Our world is changing at an exceptionally fast pace and thus life is also changing. The issues we deal with in current times are heavier and very different than any other time in history. The result though, is very positive. More than ever before, people want to discover the meaning of life, make a positive impact on the world, and make conscious changes and improvements to their life. At the same time, we are coming to understand there is more to our world than what we can see and touch. We are understanding there are forces that work with us, help us, guide us, and we want to know how to connect with them. The Wheel of Life Magazine will link real life issues with understanding these unseen forces,
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Searching For Solace Rediscovering My Soul
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Words Of The Wise Voices In Time The Magic Mala, A Review
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The Evolution of Consciousness How To Teach Children About Energy Unsung Hero
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It’s Time For A Change
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Embracing Change
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The Toxic Parent Breathing Tips Wheel Of Life, A Poem
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Dear Angela, When you said you wanted to talk to me about a project you were working on, I was already intrigued. When you said you were launching this magazine, I knew this was the result of many things aligning at just the right time, in just the right way for this to come together. Of course, when you asked me if I wanted to be a part of it, I immediately said yes!
has been crafted with so much purposeful intention and love. I think that is the one thing that has impressed me the most in the process – Angela, you have been focused on making sure this magazine has the best quality of articles and will deliver the best advertising value for our sponsors. Each step of the way, you and Amanda Salsman have been looking at every single detail and saying, “That’s good; how can we make it great?” I think when you have a group of people who approach work with that kind of focus, it makes everything better.
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Dear Angela, As you know, I’ve been focused on self care for a while now and have been writing about it on my blog. But recently I have been shocked by how many people, women particularly, understand the importance of it, yet think they are truly taking care of themselves when are actually dragging themselves through their lives. They are in survival mode. There’s a disconnect happening. So my focus has shifted to answering this question – What are we missing? To my surprise, as I began to answer the question, I realized I was missing it too. My self talk stunk! I caught myself saying things I wouldn’t say to anyone else. I’ve been working on this for years, how can I still be thinking the same things?? So I returned to the basics, have learned a cool, “new to me” technique, and am determined to take my self care to a whole new level (the truly inward one)! Thanks for the opportunity to share my experience with your readers! Love, Tess Adams
Dear Angela, magazine, I jumped at the chance. I’ve written articles before, so I’m no stranger to that. Years ago, I wrote for an online lifestyle magazine (now defunct) where I covered music and wrote articles on human interest; but, to be substance in a while.
I am thrilled and honored to be a part of this new adventure and hope everyone enjoys this debut launch as much as we enjoyed putting it together for them!
So, why not? I soon realized that writing for Wheel of Life meant I had to get out of my comfort zone: the contents of the articles are about real people and real issues, and this time the readers are from a wider demographic; I imagine all walks of life. As a fairly introverted and private person, there’s only so much I share with people online. I had to reevaluate how much I want to share with you. So, having said that, I hope you enjoy my article where I write about how I got out of my comfort zone to become who I really am.
In anticipation of new beginnings, Sudie Crouch
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LGBTQ at 14
How To Support Your LGBTQ Teen I was 14 years old and my best friend in the world paused as she looked up from the diary I had handed her as my means of “coming out”. I knew no other way. She was my closest girl friend, and though I had never felt romantic feelings about her, my deepest concern was her taking it personal. I feared she might feel violated but push away. I have always been a writer and these pages, the ones she remained quiet through reading, were as personal as it gets. My very soul felt naked, raw, and open to her judgement. Luckily for me, she simply closed the cover to my most private thoughts and hugged me. I grew up in an almost oppressively religious household, the kind where television shows deemed too secular and popular movies were often banished from our view. We were hidden from sex, drugs, and rock and roll. None of that existed in the secluded world of my youth. When I asked about things like
AIDS, my parents reassured me, “Oh honey, you will never need to worry about that.” this approach could somehow shield me from sickness of the real world. However, when I found myself questioning my sexual identity as a teenager, it made it all the more to me. I had done what I was “supposed” to do. I did well in school, I attended church, I volunteered at a Christian bible camp every summer. I tried to date boys, but it always felt wrong. I actually was so shielded I did not even know that there was such a thing as being gay, or bisexual, or any spectrum of the rainbow in between. It did not occur to me that women could love women, that men could love men. Above all this, when I found out about the elusive and exotic existence of same-sex love in the natural world, I certainly did not know it was okay to be gay. Spring 2018
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Coming out to my mother and sister went very different than I had prepared myself for. My mother likes to say she always knew. I was always drawing rainbows, and had always preferred the company of females as opposed to males as a child and into my teenage years. Though I would play with the boys and run around, a typical tomboy, when it came to relationships, I was drawn to women in a very obvious way. My sister’s response still rings in my head to this day, she looked at me unshaken and very matter-of-factly and said, anger, no big emotional showdown. I remember the next year of my life, making friends with (literally) the only other gay teen in my entire small town. Seneca Falls, ironically the site of the Women’s Rights movement, was unusually conservative when it groups of bullies who physically threatened him, and emotionally tried to disparage him at his roots. With his feisty personality remaining un-phased this only seemed to fuel the resolve of the herd to continue to attack. I found myself in many precarious situations standing between him and an angry mob to protect him. They never passed through though I was always trembling underneath the surface. Long before the time of the internet and access to the outside world, I remember thinking I was the only person in the world who felt like this. Until an unforgettable summer picnic which changed my world picnic of Rochester NY in the summer of 1995. I was 15 years old and I could barely believe my eyes. Hundreds, holding hands, men kissing, women dancing together. My world exploded with color and love. I was not alone! Maybe I had it easy, there were challenges faced but ultimately I found I was proud, not embarrassed of
higher rate than heterosexual youth. These are young adults who are at high risk for violence, assault, abuse, the traditional status quo.
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In a national study, 40% of transgende attempt. 92% of these individuals reporte of 25.
to attempt suicide than those less reject Every instance of abuse and harassme behavior on an average of 2.5 times.
minorities. What this means is that young adults, like children, are highly susceptible to subtle or actual abuse, and lack of acceptance, especially in the case of close family. As a caregiver, parent, or custodian, we are asked to love unconditionally. This means loving our children, our teenagers, and our young adults whether or not they follow the same path we would wish for them. Whether or not they hold the same belief systems, or “values” as we do. Whether or not we “agree” with their choices. It is our job to guide and support children as they grow up, but as they transition into developing a sense of who they are and make independent choices, our role becomes one of love, compassion, and support. How can we achieve this? It is simple, if you are the you can ask them a simple question, “How can I best support you?” Remind them they are not alone, there is nothing wrong with them, and most importantly that they are loved, deeply loved no matter what. This is the most essential thing we can do to promote a healthy journey into a thriving and loving adulthood. Offer to learn more with them, join groups together with other parents to make sure your struggles with acceptance do not translate onto how your teenager feels about themselves. Listen to them and their struggles. Be a sounding board; refrain from personal judgements. Understand that this is not a choice any more than preferring rock music over country music is a choice. It is who your child is. The best thing you can do is be present with them, hear them, validate them, love them this life changing experience.
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If you have a transgender or transsexual teenager avoid trying to push them “back” to their born gender role. These subtle and noticeable prods are a form of non-acceptance. Address them by their preferred gender. This is not for you to decide, or even agree with. Understand, not all of us were born into a body that feels right to us. There is nothing that steals the validity of your own identity away more than being intentionally mis-gendered. not punishment, it is a gift of learning how what love can do to heal, to transform, and to build bridges, not walls. Ultimately how you react, how you choose to support and accept your child will determine how they will inevitably love, support, and accept themselves. Understand that 20 years ago we did not have the same progressive many people remained in a kind of closet into their late adult life. But now, the world is certainly changing, and more and more of gender roles. Love is the most important thing, a love that transcends all barriers.
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In Good Company
I won the jackpot! No, I didn’t win money, I won the employment jackpot. I was recently hired by Nickel Belt Camping and I cannot stop talking about how lucky I am. This company treats their employees with respect. They use kindness and humour to lead, and there is never any fear of reprisal. Talk to any employee there and they refer to each other as family. Employees also treat each other with respect because that is how they are treated. Nickel Belt Camping rewards their employees throughout the month with extended potluck lunches, rewards for achieving certain goals and closing a bit earlier on long weekends. I have heard helped employees with personal situations and how grateful they are. The employees spend a lot of time together outside of work hours and I enjoy listening to the funny stories they have accumulated over the
years. I also look forward to creating some new memories with them. I have worked with other employers in the past that have shocked me as to how abusive they are towards their staff. I quickly decided I would never work for anyone like that again and I haven’t. It is refreshing to see a company focus so much energy on making sure their employees are happy. home smiling with great stories about my wonderful co-workers. Not only am I happy, want to do my best every single day I am at work. Thank you Nickel Belt Camping for being an inspiration to other companies, oh, and also for hiring me! Service Writer for Nickel Belt Camping www.nickelbeltcamping.ca
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Searching
For Solace
I wasn’t keeping my husband from his sleep since he had to get up early the next day. As I dabbed him why. I wondered if I was being foolish again: Letting myself sink into that space I didn’t like to linger; not too long. But it had been several days of pulling myself out of the muck only to slowly slide back into Some day. In some way. I’d remember that sometimes the seed must be planted and buried for a long time before you see any fruit. It is a good life. This was true. Every material need I had was met. My beautiful and amazing children rested in their rooms. My husband’s arm casually slung over my waist, reminded me of the love we share. Yet, I still found myself wondering, “Why can’t I just be content with what I have?” that to whom much is given, much is required. However, it seemed that aside from my immediate family, my existence didn’t seem to matter to anyone else. Why would the Universe have given me all of these gifts if it didn’t matter if I used them?
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“As you go along your road in life, you will, if you aim high enough, also meet resistance… but no matter how tough the opposition may seem, have courage still – and persevere.” - Madaleine Albright I felt like giving up on my purpose and trying to be content as a stay-at-home-mom. I tried to make myself believe that I could be happy only in that role. The following night, still feeling like the walls of my home were pushing in and trying to squeeze the creative will out of me, I took a Afterwards, I started using the basic tool of going on with me. How could I have all of sad when I had so much to look forward to and to celebrate? Perhaps I was being dramatic and extreme. I recently had great interviews and channeling sessions on two shows. I’d released my debut single and had several pieces published a couple weeks before. One book had been on a bestsellers list the week before and another book was accepted by a few festivals. Where was this discomfort and dissatisfaction coming from?
That night as I reasoned with myself, I came to three conclusions. One was that the idea of me being content solely as a stay at home mom was about as likely as my now six year old being content reading a book without stopping after every other sentence to make a comment or ask a question. It’s just not in his nature. As much as I love my children and family, it isn’t in my The second thing I concluded was that I was planting seeds and I had to keep doing that. I love the song Planting Seeds by Nimo Patel (Empty Hands CD) which says how we plant seeds and what grows will grow. I can’t stop. I am here for a reason and whether I’m feeling high or low, the reason and purpose for my life doesn’t change. I’ve been high. In fact, my emotional low was happening within a matter of days of being interviewed. The third realization I had was that I needed
How could I tell those I meet to create their heaven when I felt like the sky itself was crushing my will? And I didn’t understand why.
friendships and the average person would
The closed door of my bedroom and the late hour, as evidenced by the moon hanging high outside the window, let me escape momentarily from the demands of motherhood. I’d been having good things happen in spurts, but I needed to grow something that sustained and allowed me get my message out. Even as I acknowledged this, I had to turn myself over to witness other truths.
a move across town.
needed to get out of my box (house) and meet people and build friendships that had
It had to get better than this. Something had to change. I couldn’t keep on this emotional roller coaster and feeling like my work and my purpose didn’t matter come on. Don’t give me an assignment and then leave me hanging. I needed help.
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That was freeing. I admitted to myself that I had to do something differently and that I needed help. Those realizations that I need more, that I’d been planting seeds and they take time, and that to return to myself. The person I am - that spiritual and creative person. I knew what I wanted and needed and how having them would feel to me. I let myself be open to receiving and didn’t need to know the how. The next day I committed to trying three simple tools for three weeks. Now, six months later and last as long or get as dark. I’d like to share with you two of the tools because I believe that if you use them consistently, this spring you will plant those seeds for your own new life.
Asking the Question All of life comes to me with abundance grace, honor, ease, and joy. Thank you. When you say repeatedly, “All of life comes to me with abundance grace, honor, ease, and joy. Thank you,” you are saying that you are grateful that the totality of every aspect of your existence, without exception, comes ample quantity, bringing a comfort of body and mind that is without effort, bringing a feeling of happiness and a sense of wellbeing, and bringing respect and recognition. Now, that is a powerful statement!
How powerful can asking a question be? There is a Universal law that says if you ask, you shall receive. That you can ask and then don’t have to worry about the answer. You go about your business and watch as change happens. You don’t have to know how or where it’s coming from. You simply need to allow yourself to be open to the possibility. The beauty of this question is that it can be used whether you’re doing great or awful. If you’re not doing well, there are lots of opportunities for the Universe to show up and make it better. Ask the question three times during your dedicated time.
You can begin shifting your mindset and thus your life immediately when using these tools on a daily basis. I was quickly reminded that we really do have the power to create our own heaven now, bring it into being. The storm is real when you are going through it. The chaos can feel disorienting and render us immobile, unable to move forward, and unwilling to go back. Whatever you are going through, you aren’t alone. Draw strength from wherever you can. If you need support, get support. If you need to revisit your priorities, your dreams, goals, and vision for your life – do it. I’d be lying to say everything was perfect and everything I thought I wanted happened. You’d be foolish to believe that, even if I did say it. It doesn’t work that way. Still, despite the challenges that come with change, be encouraged. Use the tools as a jumpstart. It’s a new season for you and the planet. Dive in. We get this particular lifetime only once. We can crawl, walk, run, skip, or dance through it. That is up to you. But you have to be willing to move through your life the best way you can, so you can claim the life you really want. By Bernette Sherman www.BernetteSherman.com 11
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Rediscovering My Soul By Maria Morales There are moments in life, when you realize an epiphany so life-changing, that you can never go back to the innocence of who you were. I recall, as a child, my obsession with time. That and the reality of my life on this earthly plane. I realized it was absolutely necessary for me to understand death. I recall dreams, my untimely and violent deaths in past lives. I also remember how helpless I felt knowing my family would eventually die and once again I would have to say good-bye. My only consolation were the conversations Perhaps I could negotiate different terms for my life. Looking back, I see how odd this must have been for my parents, whose ethnicity was Philippine heritage. My mother, who had never left her country before, traveled to the United States with me, as a toddler, and my brother in tow. We were to join my father who was commissioned by the U.S. Navy to work at the White House under the Kennedy Administration. There were many times when I told my father I was not supposed to have landed in this life. Somewhere along the way, my soul took a detour, and this is where I landed. As I grew older and became more engaged
in the daily activities of a child, dismay gave way to curiosity, and I began to embrace this life I was given. I immersed myself into a culture that was ever changing. I knew, and felt, that I would be part of a generation that would witness and experience changes at lightning speed in society and technology. Throughout my life, I found myself drawn to the metaphysical arts of Astrology, Tarot, Numerology, and Hypnotherapy. My curiosity and hunger for as much information as possible as I could receive was boundless. Edgar Cayce, Nostradamus, Pythagoras, and Houdini were people that fascinated me. It is through Hypnotherapy, that I entered a portal of deeper understanding of where I came from, where we all came from. It gave me comfort in knowing that I am timeless. We are all timeless. This realization occurred during a Hypnotherapy session in which I was exploring an emotional block. I went back to my earliest recollection as a child through Age-Regression. Then, hypnotherapy session took me further back, I traveled back into two lifetimes. The 1500 A.D. who became pregnant and died in childbirth. The despair and the sadness I experienced in that lifetime was very
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emotional. The second life was of a young boy who lived a simple life on a farm and died in an accidental drowning. It was the experience in between the two lives that impacted me the most. Before I came out of my session, I asked my soul if I could review these two lives. What did I need to understand so that I could live my life with purpose? As my soul essence lingered between the two lives, I felt, then embodied, the energy of a light-being that was exceptionally beautiful and breathtaking. It was my own soul! The beauty and the power of that moment was all encompassing. It was at that moment, any fear I had of my mortality, or for that of anyone I loved, disappeared. I was given the gift of reclaiming and knowing who and what I am.
Hypnotherapy, with a trusted practitioner, can be the catalyst for a breakthrough in cases of blockages or trauma. It can also lead you to a path of self-discovery and understanding. Hypnotherapy is the use of hypnosis, where you are brought to a natural state of focused concentration and relaxation. It is through Regression, when your subconscious is open to the suggestion of reviewing your past, that you can be taken back further into past lives. It is because of Hypnotherapy that I no longer have anxiety over my mortality or the mortality of everyone that I love and care about. I have been given the gift of faith and a beautiful message. The message that I received, and feel compelled to share, is “My light is immortal, you are immortal.�
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Words Of The Wise We would like to acknowledge the wisdom of those we love, that are no longer with us, and allow them to live on through their words.
“It’s very simple. Every day, find five things that make you happy and you can become a Happy Person, then you can forget all the other things. Why not!� ~Carla (1939-2018) Born in the Netherlands in 1939, Carla started traveling the world at age 27 and did so for 30 years. She learned many languages and experienced many cultures. With all the challenges and rewards of her life, Carla became a very strong and wise woman. Near the end of her life, this passage was found in one of her books, in her own handwriting, in Dutch of course. Her son and daughter-in-law had it included in the thank you card for those that attended her funeral, so the attendees would remember her strength and positive outlook.
Did one of your family members, mentors or friends, who are no longer with us, have wise words of their own? Would you like to share them with us? Please send us their words, full name, how you want their name shown, with a short bio of who they were, and if you like, a photo. Please note you must own the photo or have permission to use it. Please e-mail to: wheeloflifemagazine@gmail.com
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synchronicity, and manifestation. Dave rediscovers meditation after having given it up for 6 years, after his wife died. Mary happens to have a friend who teaches workshops about setting Source communicates with us. And Robby continues to explore the power of the mala beads. Side characters are introduced to intrigue us, such as a mysterious girl called Tru, (short for Truth), who reinforces the power of the mala. There is also Matt, his friend, who is the example of how intention and manifestation work, with his thriving business. Often, while reading this book, I’m sure my eyes rolled to the back of my head, as I felt the storyline was contrived, obvious, and quite corny. The author uses a lot of clichés, including the famous, “When one door closes…” The storyline amused me to no end as everything was very predictable and truthfully had been done before in other books. In this case the mala beads were the tool to introduce all the other principles…the hook. In fact, as the story progresses the mala beads drop out of the story. BUT…I will say that it caught my attention enough to read to the end. I guess Mr. Olson was capable of getting and keeping my attention. Spoiler alert…everything turns out just great for Robby and his family. I myself, realized I needed a refresher on some of the principles therein. So, all is not lost. This book was also very well laid out and the explanations were very clear. If I were someone new to the metaphysics inspiring. It would spur me to action. It was a great refresher for me and a quick read. It took me less than a day to read it. I guess sometimes you just need a little corny in your life. I’m off to set some intentions now…
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The Toxic Parent These are the last words I received from my mother. They were preceded by, “If I had to do it over again, I wouldn’t.” Most people would be devastated to receive these words from a parent. I was relieved. We are born into and grow up with a family. We accept them automatically; that is what we do. As we become teenagers, our own personalities rise, and differences begin way into the world, the differences become stronger. Many of us wake up one day and realize that our relationship with a family member is just awful. However, we feel obligated to continue a relationship. After all, isn’t family supposed to always be there for you? From my own personal experiences, and those of many of my clients, forcing a relationship with a toxic parent is not healthy. Yet, we continue to force ourselves to do so. This causes a lot of ailments, depression, and feelings of guilt. It causes us to hold ourselves back in many areas of life. It wreaks havoc with our body, our mind, our spirit. The relationship between my mother and I became strained when I was a young teenager. It seemed, the day I turned 14, everything changed. Suddenly restrictions were being put on me for no reason; I was not allowed
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I could not understand why; I had never
20 minutes to make and eat something and the school lunch bell rang to make sure I
I attempted to talk to my mother and step father about these rules, but to no avail. There was no budging. I was exceptionally frustrated; so, I ran away. Three times. Each time changes were implemented, however they lasted only a week and old habits made their way back in. I was locked in the proverbial Ivory Tower, at least, that is how I felt. And I still had no explanation. Then, lo and behold, I discovered why I was kept locked up so tight. I learned my mother made a mistake in her teens and she was trying exceptionally hard to prevent me from making the same mistake. She assumed I would walk the same path as she did, she could not allow me to go my own path and trust I would make different choices. As I went through my twenties, I learned a lot about myself. Shamanism became a large part of my life and through that, I came to understand why my relationship with my mother was so rough. I had a new perspective! Strangely, this new perspective gave me a sense of freedom. I could now approach my mother with new eyes. This was going to change everything! Nope. Nada. And it seemed to get worse. I could not understand how or why. And so, I carried on, dealing with guilt trips, criticism over everything I did, always giving into what she wanted. I was an adult on my own now, yet, I was miserable in life. A couple of years later, I went to England, where my mother was born, to visit my family. gained a new perspective once again, learning a lot about my mother’s life at home as a child and teenager. I could clearly see how her upbringing affected her as an adult and why she treated me the way she did. I returned home armed with a new way of seeing and dealing with my mother. They say, if you want to change someone, you must change your perspective of them, not the other way around. I was convinced that now things would be different. Nope. Again, they got worse!
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As I carried on with my life, learning different Shamanic and spiritual paths, healing skills, learning more about who I am and my life purpose, I began to stand up for myself, stopped taking the guilt trips, and no longer gave in to what she wanted. I expressed, for I did not want. This drove a huge wedge between us. One that, no matter what I tried, got larger and larger. Additionally, my Shamanic path was not embraced and became a huge source of criticism. One day, it all came to a head. I received me as a daughter. She went on a tirade of how ungrateful I was and that if she had to very shocked to read this e-mail. After a few minutes, I realized that I was now completely free! The immense relief that came over me was massive. I felt as though the large boulders that were sitting on my shoulders had just rolled off and away. I could breathe, The response of those around me varied. Many were happy for me as they witnessed how suppressed I was by my mother. Others were not so supportive. “What if your mother dies tomorrow?” I was asked once. Hoping I did not sound cold hearted, I responded, “She dies tomorrow.”
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I explained to this person that I had done everything within my ability to make things work with her, including counselling to deal with the guilt. I truly did everything I could, and yet, it always seemed to make matters worse. I felt completely resolved within myself; I had done what I could, I had no regrets. In the 15 years since my last communication with my mother, I have had no regrets. I see too many people suffer, until they hear my story. It IS okay to walk away from toxic family members. We must, to live a happy and healthy life. As my husband puts it, our family are issued to us. Even though they are issued to us, does not mean we are stuck with them. There are a lot more people out there that are able them! Thankfully I have been blessed with my life. I do not feel I am missing out on having a mother, how could I? I presently have three!
If you have a toxic family member in your life, know that you have an option. You can change your perspective to keep that toxicity. Some things you can try are:
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Limit phone conversations to positive comments only. If negative comments enter the conversation, say you must go and hang up.
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Limit in-person visits to family functions where you can give your attention to others. This allows you to still be in the presence of the toxic family member, yet, not only be subjected to their negativity.
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When you are engaged in a phone call or visit, limit how much you tell them about your life. If you know a particular subject is a sore spot, do not bring it into the conversation.
’ Tell the toxic family member, in an assertive manner, what their comments and/or actions do to you. There is a possibility they are not aware they have a negative effect on you. Becoming aware of this could change their behaviour.
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If you are both open to it, seek counselling together. Counselling will allow you both to express your feelings and perspectives in a safe place, and healthy solutions can be found. All families have a toxic family member; some can be handled more easily than others. When it causes health issues and unhappiness, something needs to be done. Know that there is a way out, you do not need to suffer. Find the best solution that you can live with. Don’t feel guilty about it! If I can overcome the guilt, you can too!
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Breathing Tips for Anxiety and Insomnia vvvvv
By Linda Davis
If the usual basics, such as having a fairly regular schedule, not watching/reading stimulating material close to bed-time, having a dark, cool room, limiting protein at dinner and liquids in the evening, don’t work, here are some breathing techniques to try. 1. Breathing Lessons: I’ve found 3 techniques helpful.
2. Speaking of left and right sides, in Yoga wisdom there are channels in the body is more “energetic” and the other more
one on your tummy. To breathe from your diaphragm, you want the tummy hand to rise and fall and the chest hand to
is quite relaxing on its own or you can use a count such as breathe in to a count of 4 and out to a count of 5. •The second method is from yoga wisdom (and recently resurrected by Dr. Andrew
your left or right nostril is more open/less relax and sleep, you want your left to be stronger, so lay on your right side to activate
3. This next one is my own amazing
through your nose to a count of 4, hold for a count of 7, then breathe out slowly through and repeat the cycle three times.
I do is talk gibberish in my mind...just sounds and jumbled up words like, “laoobadoochachamoo” or some other
back and count to 16, roll to your right side and count to 32 (if you’re still awake).
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Nina is an inspirational writer and poet. Bernette Sherman Author of “Heaven is Now: Enough Excuses”, an inspirational book and “Creating Miracles Core Program Workbook“. Find out more at www.BernetteSherman.com
Courses/Workshops Sudie Crouch Online workshops to help you live a life of intention and connect to your inner voice. Topics focus on recognizing personal power and how to set clear boundaries for yourself. Phone:770-744-0488 Offering Yoga and Mindfulness Meditation www.LindaLDavis.net Phone: 706-878-0036
Maria Morales sessions and personal sessions for Past Life Regression, Erasing Phobias, and Health and Lifestyle Changes (i.e. Diet and Exercise), Hypnobirth, Medical Hypnotherapy.
Life Coaching Tess Adams connect with their own truths and create life altering shifts. Email: www.TessAdamsCoaching.com Sudie Crouch Helping introverts, empaths and highly sensitive people navigate an increasingly noisy world with love and compassion. Email and live video coaching available, as well as group/community workshops online. Phone 770-744-0488
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Motivational Speaking Leah Parsons Speaking out on Rape Culture, Trauma & Resiliency, Cyber Abuse and Mental Health. To book Leah for your group or event, contact www.rehtaehparsons.ca
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Bernette Sherman Bernette is an engaging inspirational speaker sharing life principles from personal experiences and her books. She is also a poet and vocalist fusing socially conscious and inspirational messages into her works. www.BernetteSherman.com
Two Drunk Witches Your modern apothecary, featuring uniquely crafted botanical self-care products from soothing herbal salves to replenishing facial serums, see what we’re brewing! From Victoria, BC www.twodrunkwitches.com 250 213-9762
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Shamanism Providing classes on various Shamanic subjects, i.e. Beginner, Soul Retrieval, Psychopomp Offers Shamanic Soul Retrieval Healing sessions and journeys to remove negative energies. www.bluecrowinspirations.com
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