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Empowerment & Possibilities

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Celebrate Mom & Dad

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Debra K. Collins Publisher/Managing Editor

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Women2Women Michigan Magazine’s mission is for women to inspire women for good. Encouraging women to take control of their lives, to stand up for what they believe, to feel confident and empowered.

Many women feel that they are victims of their circumstances. Whether that be in age, health, financial or relationships, it is important to realize we hold the power to make changes. One bold choice to empower yourself, leads to another bold choice. When you look back on the changes you have made, you will feel empowered by your progress.

Anne-Marie Ooman, our cover girl this issue, exemplifies a life lived from empowerment and possibilities. She has gone from small town farm girl, to successful literary artist.

She gives us insight into her transformation from one to the other.

“Boost Your Success in 60 Seconds a Day”, by Lori Nash Byron, is a must read as she speaks of how your self-image is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Jennifer Whipple, owner of Prana Yoga, shares her story of how she went from experiencing back pain to becoming an instructor of Ashtanga-Vinyasa Yoga and eventually opening her yoga studio in Grand Blanc.

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As always, we have worked with remarkable talent to bring you an inspirational publication. We hope you will find encouragement to make even a small positive change in your life. There are so many more possibilities when you work from a place of power and joy. Love yourself, believe you are worthy, and stand in the power of your own truth.

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Growing up in rural northern Michigan somewhat prepared Anne-Marie Oomen, this month’s cover girl, for a life filled with memories to memoirs. Anne-Marie is a writer of many genres. She has tackled nonfiction, poetry, plays, as well as essays.

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Letters from the Publisher & Editor

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Celebrating Mom & Dad

Calendar of Events

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Flint Women’s Forum Annual Celebration of Women

Books, Bytes & Beyond

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Shades of Faith

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How Powerful do I Feel When I Stand in my Own Shoes?

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Recipes

Ask Shuntai

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Boost Your Success in 60 Seconds a Day

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Dancing with the Local Stars

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Paint Our Town Blue

The Gifts

Empower Yourself

Ask Dr. Nandi

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Colon Cancer: How to Stop a Killer!!

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Shameless Moxie

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Are You Evolving?

Simply Living

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Prana Yoga Center

Art@Work

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Spring Forward

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Don’t Tell My Wife I Wrote This

Cute Shoes Are Required

Running in the Shadow of Grace

Writers Retreat

Leslie’s Learnings

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Ask The Experts

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Debra K. Collins Publisher/Managing Editor

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Calendar of Events

May

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Tux and Tennies Gala and Auction Grand Blanc Motorcars

May 10 Mother’s Day

May 15

Cadette Overnight-Night Owl Longway Planetarium

May 16

Cub Scout Workshop Science at Longway Planetarium

May 21

After Dark at The Whiting Lobby Rock and Roll, live band 8pm (cash bar and free food)

May 23

The Scoop on Poop Sloan Museum

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Mamma Mia The Whiting- 2pm and 8pm Junior Workshop Gardener at Longway Planetarium

May 30 & 31 Weekend of Wonder Longway Planetarium

June

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Growing Up Artfully Presented by Flint Cultural Corporation.

Progressive party at Whiting, Sloan Museum and Longway Planetarium5:30-9pm

June 6

Family Science Day Genesee Conservation District at Longway Planetarium- 1-4pm Ryan Bellows Bluegrass Bazaar Kearsley Park

June 12 ~ 14

Summer Theater Festival – Shakepeare’s Twelfth Night at Kearsley Park

June 13

Wildlife Safari Genesee Valley Center Library

June 15 ~ July 27 Young Planetarians Camp Longway Planetarium

June 15, 22 & 29

Folklore for Adults with Special Needs Davison Library

June 16 ~ Aug 21

Juneteenth Celebration Riverbank Park and Max Brandon Park

June 18

After Dark The Whiting Lobby- 80’s Night (cash bar and free food)

June 20 & 21

Flint Art Fair at Flint Institute of Arts

June 21 Father’s Day

June 22 ~24 Kinderscience Camp Longway Planetarium

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Camp Alpha Omega STEM Camp for Girls Astronomy at Longway Planetarium

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Free Jazz Concert Straight Ahead Headquarters Library

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Free Family Concert Gemini (folk music extraordinaire) Clio Area Library

June 27

Flint LGBT Pride Festival Riverbank Park

June 27 ~ 28

Sloan Museum Summer Auto Fair Sloan Museum and the Cultural Center

June 29

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July

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Flint July 4th Festival

July 9

Summer Theater Festival Kearsley Park- Children’s Theater presents Jack and the Beanstalk

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In this heartwarming story about coping with loss, Minnesota-based motivational speaker Cece Ross re-evaluates her safe, quiet existence after her best friend, Penny, dies of cancer.

Penny always wanted Cece to live more fully. But, middle-aged Cece is not confident she can make a fresh start. She takes the crucial first step by moving into a house with three other women who also want more satisfactory lives. But as she persuades them not to let their hesitations keep them from pursuing their dreams, can she also convince herself to take the necessary risks to realize her own? Spurred along by bestselling author Berg’s sparkling wit and poignancy, readers will gladly join Cece on her quest for a more rewarding destiny.

Those of you who’ve been regular readers of Women2Women Michigan know me as the guy who writes the fluffy humor article (yes, it’s supposed to be funny). But I’ve also been chasing my longtime dream of being a novelist lo these last fifteen years.

Recently, I published my first novel, Now I Knew You. No, I did not write a 300 page account of my marriage and why a goat farm is an acceptable alternative to children.

Now I Knew You is the story of Josh Baker, a northern Michigan high school track star solidly focused on his bright future at the college of his choice. The only other thing that matters more to him is Lindsay, his long-time girlfriend. But when Lindsay breaks up with him and Josh nearly dies in a car accident, everything that was important to him is stripped away.

But a short glimpse of the afterlife reveals to Josh clues to what he’s been missing. Now he must decide whether to pursue his college goals or salvage the relationships he’s so long taken for granted.

Now I Knew You tackles issues such as friendship, family, and teen abortion. It does not preach right or wrong, but challenges the reader to view his or her life choices based on the joy that we steal from ourselves when our vision is shortsighted.

I hope you all will check out Now I Knew You. You can search Ron Estrada on Amazon or simply go to my website at RonEstradaBooks.com.

And thanks to all who have e-mailed me over the years. A special thanks to those of you who didn’t threaten violence against my person. As always, don’t tell my wife I wrote this. Well, maybe this time would be okay.

God bless—Ron.

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Moore affirms the value of lifelong friends in this captivating novel about three African American women living in Plainview, Indiana. Fearless Odette, no-nonsense Clarice and vulnerable Barbara Jean have been nicknamed the Supremes since forming their fabled friendship in the 1960s while attending high school and meeting at their favorite hangout, Earl’s All-You-Can-Eat diner. Now in their mid-50s and still frequenting the only local landmark to last as long as their devotion to each other, the Supremes suddenly face their greatest challenges. Readers should prepare for an unforgettable emotional roller coaster ride as they speed through Moore’s mesmerizing narrative to see whether the Supremes’ singular bond can help them overcome disease, addiction, infidelity and other serious issues to remain their hometown’s most harmonious threesome.

Tapestry of Fortunes

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Memories toMemoirs Her writing philosophy is “Butt in chair, fingers on keys. Go.” Meet our cover girl for this issue, Anne-Marie Oomen. Her life is incredibly busy with important things, and also incredibly distracting with unimportant things. Maintaining her philosophy is what is key to her success.

Although she hates deadlines, she says they actually save her. This steadfast attitude helps her maintain her obligations.

In her newest book, and third memoir, she completes a trilogy of growing up in the fifties and sixties. Love, Sex and 4-H shaped her memories into stories that speak to all age groups. Oomen hopes that this book will inspire the wise to feel young again and the younger audience to feel wiser.

In Love, Sex, and 4-H, she sets the wholesomeness of her domestic lessons in 4-H club from 1959 to 1969 against the political and sexual revolution of the time. Between sewing her first dish towel and finishing the yellow dress she wears to senior prom, Oomen brings readers along as she falls in and out of love, wins her first prize, learns to kiss, survives her first heartbreak and makes most all of her clothes.

Love, Sex, and 4-H begins as Anne-Marie struggles to sew a straight seam and works hard to embody the 4-H pledge of loyalty, service and better living. But even as she wins her first modeling competition and masters more difficult stitches and patterns, she finds that she is not immune to the chaos of the outside world. After the Kennedy assassination, the Cuban Missile Crisis, and her own short stay in a convent, Anne-Marie encounters her biggest change, an all-public school. In this new world of school dances, short skirts, and raging hormones, Oomen’s orderly life is complicated by her first kiss, first boyfriend, first store-bought dress and finally, first love. All the while, she must negotiate her mother’s expectations, her identity as a good 4-H girl and her awareness of growing social and political unrest.

Anne-Marie brings an insightful and humorous eye to her evolving sexuality, religious beliefs and sense of self. Fans of memoir will appreciate the honest portrayal of growing up between rebellion and tradition in Love, Sex, and 4-H. Growing up in rural northern Michigan somewhat prepared Anne-Marie Oomen for a life filled with memories to memoirs. Anne-Marie is a writer of many genres. She has tackled nonfiction, poetry, plays as well

“I was a farm girl, but I always felt a need to discover an identity out in the world because I didn’t quite fit into country life.”

friends) outside of Empire, Michigan near Sleeping Bear National Lakeshore. Even though the house is not large, it feels spacious with the memory of their physical labor and innovation; it’s a real place to call home. Today, because she is travelling for the new book, she is also living on the road and her car has it’s own sense of wonder and displacement.

Anne-Marie’s biggest struggle is finding time to work two jobs, keeping up with freelance work and helping care for her mom. She describes herself as having a thousand ideas a week, a hundred or so a day and only has time to pursue and bring to fruition about one good idea a week. The battle between the creative time and business time is ongoing, and always fraught with internal conflict. She combats this by keeping calm and to simply focus on what she can do.

Anne-Marie has discovered and encourages the Women2Women Michigan Magazine audience, that if you can do one thing that you truly love each day, your creative spirits will be full and life will be a little easier. She says that she is absolutely filled with gratitude every time someone picks up one of her books and accepts that gift. She wants readers to know that she loved writing her books, and has a personal connection to all her readers. She gives the gift of words to her readers, because words are the things she loves best.

You can meet Anne-Marie in person at the Alcona Writers Retreat on June 4 – 7. She will be telling her story through memoirs in beautiful Alcona that is sure to be a relaxed atmosphere, filled with wandering wildlife and a tranquil lake view. Visit www.inspirationalalcona.org for further information.

You can also visit Oomen’s website at www.anne-marieoomen.com.

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as essays. She is the author of five books, the writer of seven plays, one of which is the award-winning Northern Belles (inspired by oral histories of women farmers), and most recently, Secrets of Luuce Talk Tavern, 2012 winner of the CTAM contest. She is founding editor of Dunes Review, former president of Michigan Writers, Inc., serves as instructor at the Solstice MFA in Creative Writing at Pine Manor College, MA, Interlochen College of Creative Arts, and appears at conferences throughout the country.

Anne-Marie is the oldest of five children and her family loved telling stories. This is where she learned how stories could make the world a little better. That listening to each other could bring understanding and happiness.

Growing up and working on Oomen Farms, located south of the tiny village of Crystal Valley near Hart, MI, she loved the farm and farm life, but not farm work.

“I was a farm girl, but I always felt a need to discover an identity out in the world because I didn’t quite fit into country life.”

So how did she go from sheltered farm life to being a successful literary artist? Believe it or not, the farm was an incredibly creative environment for her. Even though she felt she was a creative thinker; she started writing late, not having true confidence until her thirties. So began her journey.

She met her husband, David Early, later in life. His wedding vow promised to make life easier for her and with this concept came ease in her creative writing and in her life.

The two built their own home on a ravine (with the help of

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The Gifts

Shades of Faith 

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Jeanne Makym, PhD has two gifts: Keeping her home immaculate and changing lives through her teaching.

The first benefits only herself. The second has changed the world.

For 58 1/2 years, Jeanne Maksym taught young children.

Her first assignment was in 1955, the year she would marry the love of her life, Anthony. Her last assignment was almost 60 years later at a small parochial school called Our Lady Queen of Peace. During those many years she taught Preschool, Kindergarten and 1st grade. Those were her favorite classes because the children were eager to learn and so open to being creative and curious. There was never a day that she was anything but excited to teach her boys and girls how to sound out letters and put them together to read. Her career which included teaching at public and parochial schools was one of the highlights of her life.

Now at the age of 89, Jeanne has gone back to cleaning her home.

One day is sheet washing day – another is dedicated to the bathrooms.

There are days when the moldings are wiped with Murphy’s Oil Soap and the kitchen floor is scrubbed on her hands and knees. Retirement and the aging process haven’t slowed this retired teacher a bit.

But every now and then, when the mail carrier arrives, she remembers a child who remembers her back. Throughout the course of a year, Dr. Maksym receives about 30 to 35 cards. Some are just letters to say hello or to brag of a personal achievement – like the brain surgeon who was once a scrawny boy who loved to read. Others are wedding invitations or birth announcements. And recently, when she visited a local Emergency Room, the x-ray technician turned out to be “little Amanda,” who couldn’t stop hugging her former Kindergarten teacher and telling her how much her teaching had changed her life.

When Jeanne turns 90 this year, her family will gather and lift her up for being a great mother and grandmother. Throughout the world, in corners we will never know, are adults whose successes can be attributed to a woman, to a teacher, who was patient, dedicated, thorough and committed – whose arms were never too full for a hug and whose hands were always ready to guide even the most insecure child.

Her house is clean and the world is changed.

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 Helen Hicks is an award-winning administrator and motivational speaker living in the Detroit area.

You can reach her at helenk7306@hotmail.com.

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Empower Yourself Dear Shuntai My twin girls are about to graduate from high school. While I am excited about this next chapter in their lives, I am equally fearful of my next chapter. I have focused so much time and energy on my girl’s education and I have enjoyed every moment of it. Fortunately, I have empowered them to be independent, fearless and passionate young women. The problem is that I was so busy preparing them for the future and I have never really focused on preparing myself. I would love to go back to school and my husband and girls are very supportive. I guess I fear failure and the unexpected. Please help me.

Dear fearful, Congratulations on raising independent, fearless and passionate young women. I am sure you have been a great role model for your daughters. It sounds like you have invested a lot of time and energy into preparing them for the next stage of their lives. As mothers, it can be easy to momentarily sacrifice our wants and dreams to raise our children. Now, it is time to focus on your next chapter.

It’s okay to be a little fearful of failure or even fearful of the unexpected. However, you must not allow fear to stop you from moving towards your dreams. Think about it. What would the world look like if everyone allowed fear to stop them from pursuing their dreams? Today, you will release yourself from the invisible bondage of fear.

Empower is defined as giving (someone) the authority or power to do something. You have the power to not only empower your girls but to empower yourself. Give yourself permission to use your power to thrust yourself beyond fear and into the land of educational possibilities.

The future is yours. Take your time and enjoy the journey.

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Dr. Partha Nandi, MD Colon cancer is a killer! It is the second leading cause of cancer deaths in the United States and the 4th most common cancer in the world. The American Cancer Institute estimates there will be 93,090 new cases of colon cancer diagnosed in 2015. Annually, over 1 million cases of colon cancer are diagnosed worldwide.

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I never understood why women, and some men for that matter, are completely head over heels in love with shoes. Watching Carrie’s fascination with Manolo Blahnik shoes on Sex in the City never started a shoe revolution in me. While listening to my girlfriends gush about high heels over lunch, I would change the topic to discuss the dessert menu because the chocolate lava cake was more fascinating. Even my mother’s fetish for shoes and boxes neatly lined up in her closet by color and functionality didn’t wear off on me. Truly, how many pairs of black shoes does one really need? She would argue at least ten.

One enlightening conversation changed everything.

Last week I was listening to an interview with Holly Getty from Calvin Klein, on the power behind the right pair of shoes. As Holly spoke about the necessity of fabulous shoes, it finally clicked why they are so important. It’s not about the shoes at all; it’s about stepping into your possibilities. Why do you think they put ruby red slippers on Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz? Arguably those red slippers didn’t even match her blue and white gingham dress. Would Dorothy have been just as prepared for her journey in a pair of dusty espadrilles? I think not.

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“She packed up her potential and all she had learned, grabbed a cute pair of shoes and headed out to change a few things.” – Anonymous

Shoes are powerful. Shoes have the ability to transform your body language, confidence and attitude. They lift you physically and emotionally. Agreed, to command any room your megawatt personality, smile, and brilliance is required. Beyond that, stack the deck by adding shoes that scream, “I am master of my destiny!” It is said that a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, wearing fabulous shoes. And while we are at it, Cinderella is proof that one pair of incredible shoes can change your life.

After the interview I braced myself and bravely opened my closet to take stock of my shoes. It didn’t take very long because I only owned eight pairs. It was a rude awakening looking at my scuffed heels and blah colors. One that forced me to ask myself, “Is this who I am?” Really, how many pairs of taupe flats does one need? I quickly threw out five pairs leaving my leopard print flats and sequin studded cowboy boots on the top shelf. Those are keepers because they definitely speak to who I am!

I am happy to report this past Saturday I went shoe shopping. Not just shoe shopping, but shopping for my potential. Not just any shoes will do for this journey; these are shoes that prepare me to step into my greatness. I hope our paths cross soon and you can check out my red, peep toe wedges for yourself. And believe me, I will be checking out your shoes too.

Because girlfriend, it is all about the shoes and more importantly, stepping into your possibilities.

 Beth Bryce, MS, CMCC, is a Career Strategist, Author and Founder of

Girls2Women Coaching. Beth is a featured Co-author in the newly released book, “Women on Fire Book 2” by Women on Fire Press.

To find out more about coaching or workshops with Beth, visit www.bethbryce.com or email beth@bethbryce.com

SUMMER CAMPS AND PROGRAMS 2015

This summer Sloan Museum and Longway Planetarium have almost 40 science, history, and geography activities for kids age 4 through 8th grade.

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Simply Living 

Running in the Shadow of Grace A lesson in kindness and generosity all began with a pair of running shoes.

I took my son Jordan to a local shoe store to buy his annual pair. Good running shoes aren’t cheap, but they’re worth it. By the hole-y looks of the ones he was wearing, it was time.

Since a good pair costs over a hundred dollars, we planned for the purchase. Jordan tried on a few styles, and we walked out of the store holding shoes that my 14-year-old thought would make him fly.

We made a few stops on our way home and went about our business in the early evening. By the time my husband Brad had asked to see Jordan’s shoes, six hours had passed. Jordan went to his room to get them and, ~Carol Burnett inexplicably, they were gone.

We searched every place they could possibly be (bedrooms, living area and car) and places they could not (the back yard, cedar chest and freezer). We were deeply frustrated and yelled a bit. Jordan cried. It wasn’t our best family moment.

Although I remember leaving the store with the shoes in hand, I called the store the next day as a last resort. After all, we had checked the freezer for the shoes; perhaps I had lost my mind and carelessly left them at the counter.

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“I’ve been helped by acts of kindness from strangers.

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The employee, listened and searched the store and the stock room. She double-checked her inventory counts just in case.

No shoes.

Brad and I wisely let go of our frustration, although we still searched for the missing shoes in odd places (under the couch, in the dog food bin). We talked numbers and pay dates and planned to purchase a second pair while Jordan silently admonished himself.

A week later, I received a surprise call from the running store. No, they hadn’t found the shoes, but expressed how the staff felt bad that they had been lost or stolen. She said there was a pair of similar shoes in Jordan’s size that the store would like Jordan to have. For free.

Stunned, I argued a little. After all, we were the ones that had lost them or made it possible for them to be stolen. Even so, she insisted. Within hours of her call, Jordan had a brand new pair of Nikes on his feet.

“I can’t believe it, Mom,” Jordan said as he jogged around the house. “I mean … it’s not their fault, it’s mine.”

This is where grace slips in. When we accept it, realizing that we’ve been given a gift we neither expected nor deserved, it transforms into gratitude and a desire to extend grace, kindness and generosity to others.

Sometimes that grace costs us nothing more than offering understanding or kindness. And sometimes, in the case of a great little running store, choosing grace costs a bit more.

This simple act of generosity extended toward my family made a deep impact on Jordan. I expect it will help to influence who he is and the person he becomes. “Be easy on people; you’ll find life a lot easier … generosity begets generosity,” the scriptures read. And so it does.

 Eileen Button is the author of The Waiting

Place: Learning to Appreciate Life’s Little Delays.

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What is Plantar Fasciitis?

Plantar Fasciitis is a condition causing heel pain in as many as 2 million Americans per year and 10% of the population over their lifetime. Supporting the muscles and arch on the bottom of the foot, plantar fascia is a thick, fibrous band of tissue that connects the heel to the ball of the foot. Plantar fascia can become inflamed or can tear. Plantar Fasciitis is more common in women but affect people of all ages, both athletes and non-athletes. People who are diagnosed may also have bone spurs, tiny bone growths that form on the heel bone.

How do I know if it is Plantar Fasciitis?

Most suffers experience pain at the bottom of the foot where the heel and arch meet when: • Taking their initial steps getting out of bed in the morning • Standing for long periods of time • Standing up after sitting for a while • After intense activity such as running • Going up/down stairs • Walking barefoot or in un-supportive shoes Your physician will provide a physical exam feeling for damaged ligaments, inflamed tendons, and displaced bones. An X-Ray may also be taken to rule out a stress fracture or identify bone spurs.

What is the treatment for Plantar Fasciitis?

Treatment that you start when you first notice symptoms is more successful and takes less time than treatment that is delayed. There are many methods of treatment available to achieve the following goals: relieve inflammation, allow small ligament tears to heal, improve strength / flexibility, correct biomechanics of the foot for proper foot placement / gait, and allow pain free return to activities.

Treatment may include: • Rest / Elevation– avoiding activity that reproduces discomfort • Ice / Oral anti-inflammatory or steroid • Night splints • Proper fitting shoes or orthotic inserts • Steroid injections • Physical Therapy • Manual Stretching / Deep Tissue Massage • Joint Mobilization / Scar Mobilization • Anti-inflammatory modalities such as iontophoresis / phonophoresis through ultrasound to promote healing • Taping to correct foot in-balances / support arch • Strengthening -using correct body mechanics • Gait / Balance training • Issue home stretching / Strengthening program • Education to prevent re-occurrence • Surgery • Most health care professionals agree that non-surgical treatment for plantar fasciitis can be a slow process. If symptoms do not improve within 6-12 months surgery may be indicated. The most common type of surgery is: • Plantar Fascia Release: through a regular incision or as endoscopic surgery.

How can I prevent Plantar Fasciitis?

• Wear comfortable, supportive shoes (replacing shoes regularly) • Use care when starting or intensifying your exercise program • Stretching before and after activity • Stand on a thick mat if you must stand in one place for prolonged periods of time • Keep your weight under reasonable control

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Celebrate The “Mom” In Your Life

Mother’s Day is right around the corner and celebrating that special woman in your life is a wonderful thing. Here are a few ideas to help you cultivate a great day for the woman you call your mom.

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Plan a day out with her.

Shopping, getting a bite to eat or taking her to a place she has always wanted to go are great places to start.

Help her out with a chore she has been wanting to get done. Help her get her garden started, clean out the cupboards or go through her clothes.

Having company and helping hands will make the chore faster and more enjoyable.

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Write a letter to her. Tell her some of the memories you have of the two of you from when you were a child. Write about some funny moment the two of you have shared. Let her know how her influence has molded the type of person you are today.

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Interview your mom. Ask her about what it was like to find out she was becoming a mom, some of the things she learned the along the way, how it changed her as a person.

Record the session. You could even write a small memoir for your mom.

Don’t Forget Dad!

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Father’s Day comes shortly after Mother’s Day, so don’t forget to celebrate the man you call dad in your life. Here are some ideas for celebrating.

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Take him out on the town.

When was the last time you took your dad out? Maybe a visit to his favorite restaurant, museum or park is in store for this holiday. Does he have a favorite activity the two of you can enjoy together?

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Make him his favorite meal or treat.

Do a project together. Bring the materials needed to him and have him show you the ropes. When the project is done, surprise him and give it to him!

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Has he been complaining about not having something done around the house? Surprise him by getting it done for him.

The most important thing to remember when celebrating our loved ones is that any time spent together is always too

short and always welcomed. Just spending the day enjoying each other can be celebration enough.

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Finding the perfect gift for our parents can often be challenging. We want them to be heartfelt and not too cliché, and sometimes it feels like they already have everything! With Mother’s Day and Father’s Day right around the corner, use The Gift List to find the perfect gift from Genesee Valley Center!

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Finding the perfect outfit for mom can be tough. So, brighten up her existing wardrobe with a pop of color from fashion jewelry at Francesca’s.

SWEET TREATS

Declare your love for Mom, in buttercream icing. A cookie “Cakie” from Mrs. Fields should do the trick.

PAMPERING

It’s simple, mom can use a little “me time”. Merle Norman Salon and Spa offers a variety of services including; manicures, pedicures, facials and complete hair services.

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Let mom add a new custom piece to the china cabinet (next to your handprint from 1st grade). Consider signing mom (and maybe yourself) up for a class at Fired Up Ceramics.

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Fill all of those frames you’ve given her over the years with new family portraits. Portrait Innovations provides a variety of settings for family photos and they print your images on-site, same day!

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Secretly, dad wants the living room to shake while he watches his Westerns.

Surprise him with a sound bar from Sears.

Fill his “World’s Best Dad” coffee mug with specialty coffee from Coffee Beanery, they carry ground and whole bean varieties.

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He’s probably emptied his wallet for you a time or two. Give him a fresh start with a personalized money clip or wallet from Things Remembered.

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If dad didn’t have the foresight to save his original Wayfarers, you’re in luck! Lenscrafters carries prescription and non-prescription sunglasses.

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Celebration of Women Flint Women’s Forum for our Annual

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As The Flint Women’s Forum (FWF) celebrates its 35th anniversary, it is pleased to announce its speaker for the 2015 annual Celebration of Women was Colonel Kriste Kibbey Etue, Director of the Michigan State Police, the first woman to be elected to the position. This year’s event was held on April 24, 2015 at The Flint Golf Club.

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Col. Kriste Kibbey Etue was appointed Director of the Michigan State Police in January 2011 by Governor Rick Snyder. Colonel Etue is the 18th Director in the 97 year history of the department and the department’s first female Director. During her 27-year tenure with the Michigan State Police, Colonel Etue has held several executive positions focusing on emergency management and

homeland security, budgeting, facility management, training, human resources and public affairs. Today, Colonel Etue serves as State Director of Emergency Management and Homeland Security. She also chairs the Michigan Homeland Protection Board, Michigan Public Safety Communications Interoperability Board, Auto Theft Prevention Authority, and Michigan Intelligence Operations Center Advisory Board

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How Powerful do I Feel When I Stand in my Own Shoes?

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I believe “when women are at the center of change, anything is possible.”

Yet, how is this possible when girls often lose their selfconfidence at earlier and earlier ages; women are paid less than men for the same jobs; and women, by a 3 to 1 margin, have primary responsibility for their home, family and job.

How do women have the time or energy to change the world when we don’t have time to take a nap?

I believe women are agents of change because we are the ‘cultural mothers’ of our communities. It’s been proven over and over for centuries - when you empower a woman, you empower a village.

Women, in particular, cultivate power through connection - not competition or domination. We strengthen others by helping them create a more meaningful life. We empower others by our very nature and are more powerful as a result. We just might not realize it.

We know leadership emanates from a person and not from a position, role or hierarchy. The qualities generally attributed to women - collaboration, sharing and mentoring - are the very qualities many long for in leaders.

In our work and families, we tend to focus on the growth and development of employees, students and children.

Our dedication and care inspires passion, courage and creativity. With our commitment to the greater good, we can’t help but nurture vibrant relationships to create a better community for all.

‘Cause that’s what mamas do’ As makers of change, leadership is really a way of life for women.

Whether we are home makers, bread makers, baby makers or widget makers, we nurture others.

As the mamas of our communities, we also face the challenges of religious and racial intolerance and uncivil discourse and divisions which tear apart entire communities.

For ourselves, families and businesses, it is essential that we are prepared to take on those challenges.

“Because our communities are defined by our actions or by our silence, it is critical that we find our voices and empower conversations across difference to create the world we desire.”

As makers of change, women can change the world! We understand talent is strengthened only when it is shared. And the path to a better future lies in exploring those difficult issues that keep us divided. It is no secret that we are a stronger community when we are connected.

So women, take heart! You are a ball full of fire, a gentle soothing balm and a weaver of lives and communities.

Even if we are not the assigned leader of the group, we know: “When we are at the center of change, anything is possible.”

So stand proud in whatever shoes you wear and feel the power! Oh, and don’t forget to take a nap!

 Elaine Stenger, PhD., is

the Author of “Dancing in the Rain” and Co-Founder of Cairn Venture Group which produces Leadership Retreats for Women.

“Connecting women to help change our world.”

Visit: www.elainestenger.com or contact Elaine at estenger2@gmail.com

Women on the Move 

Book Bouquets

by Bev Bonar

This is a work in progress. I want future brides to see the possibilities. This bouquet is being made from an old book, but it could be done with marriage certificates from the groom and bride to be parents, grandparents and great grandparents.

It also could be made from a book that means something special to the both of you or maps from places you’ve been. While the black and white looks vintage, colorful paper could be used.

I’m using vintage buttons in the centers. Also thinking of adding baby’s breath as a filler. The possibilities are endless. Yes flowers are beautiful but they die, this bouquet would last forever and have a history. Please feel free to pass this on. I can also make boutineers and smaller bouquets.

For more information or to order email Bev at bevbonar721@yahoo.com

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Art @ Work 

Alcona Writers Retreat June 4 – 7, 2015

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Anne-Marie Oomen Memoirs

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Three prominent Michigan authors and teachers will lead students through the adventure of telling their own stories through memoirs, poems or short fiction. All three feature Michigan settings and people in their work, so this retreat is especially valuable for those whose ideas are wrapped up in the state’s special characteristics.

And the setting is pure Up North: a lakeside lodge with views of the forest, deer and other wildlife wandering by, a quiet and calm atmosphere perfect for writing.

Each workshop runs for five sessions, two 3-hour sessions on both Friday and Saturday, and a final 4-hour session on Sunday morning.

Other events during the weekend include the opening wine, beer and hors d’ oeuvres party on Thursday night, a music concert Friday night, readings on Saturday night and a farewell lakeside cookout on Sunday afternoon.

This retreat is held in cooperation with the Wayne State University Press, a leading publisher of books about the Great Lakes and Michigan, among other topics. Its high-quality offerings range from popular books to academic treatises. Check its latest publications — including Anne-Marie Oomen’s brand-new book, Love, Sex and 4H — at wsupress.wayne.edu.

Kathleen McGookey Poetry

John Smolens Short fiction

How to enroll How much does the workshop cost?

Each workshop is $225 for the sixteen class hours in one subject, Friday morning through Sunday morning, June 4 through 7. Optional packages that includes the workshop, lodging Thursday through Sunday and breakfast and lunch each day are also available.

Your workshop fee includes a welcome packet with a souvenir T-shirt (please tell us when you sign up what size you’d like), maps and more; a wine and cheese mixer that starts at 7 p.m. Thursday, June 4; evening entertainment Friday and Saturday, and a farewell cookout by Badger Lake on Sunday.

If you elect to buy one of the optional lodging packages, you’ll also get lodging for three nights at the Lost Lake Woods Club lodge plus three breakfasts and two lunches (the Sunday cookout means you won’t need a dining room lunch on Sunday) in the Five Lakes Grille in the lodge. You may elect a private room or opt to share with another student to save money. See details below.

Alcona County has only a few public options for lodging; except for a few rental cabines, all are 25 minutes or more from Lost Lake. Three bed-andbreakfast inns are available: the Lake Huron Inn, the Springport Inn and Churchill Pointe Inn. All three can be found online. A few small motels and cabin resorts are along or near the Lake Huron shore. Campers can rent space at Lost Lake Woods Club, Harrisville State Park or Alcona Park.

Lodging options at Lost Lake Lodge

Both lodging options include your room and five meals, breakfast FridaySunday and lunch Friday-Saturday. (Your tuition package includes the opening mixer and the Sunday farewell cookout.) All rooms have private baths, but no telephone or television. Maid service is daily.

Option 1: You may choose to stay in a room by yourself for $240.

Option 2: You may choose to share a room with one other person for $145.

If you want to share, you and your roommate must each let us know that you have agreed to the sharing arrangement. We will not assign strangers to the same room, but we will keep a list of those who would like to share so that you may find a compatible roommate.

Alcona Writers Retreat June 4 - 7, 2015 Inspired by the woods and waters of

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Poetry in Verse and in Prose with Kathleen McGookey

Memoirs: The Five Rivers with AnneMarie Oomen

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Writing Truth through Fiction with John Smolens

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Recipe 

Get’in Our Summer On!!

Both strawberries and rhubarb are in season in Michigan come late spring. After a long winter, it is so refreshing to be able to eat locally grown fruit. This produce is available at your local farmers market, and grocery store.

In 1 cup of sliced strawberries, you will find no fat, 12 grams of carbs, 1 gram of protein, 50 calories and a great source of vitamin c. As for rhubarb, 1 cup diced offers no fat, 6 grams of carbs, 1 gram of protein and 25 calories. Keep in mind that the green leaves of the rhubarb plant are not healthy and should by discarded.

Strawberry Rhubarb Lemonade Ingredients 3 stalks 2 cups 4 cups 1 pound 1 cup

rhubarb, chopped sugar water strawberries, pureed lemon juice

Directions Place rhubarb, sugar and water in a large pot and boil for 5 minutes.

Remove from heat and add in strawberries.

Allow to sit for 45 minutes.

Strain mixture through a sieve or cheesecloth.

Refrigerate for 1 hour.

Stir in lemon juice.

Serve over ice.

Strawberry Goat Cheese Guacamole Yield: Serves 4 Prep Time: 10 minutes Total Time: 10 minutes

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The goat cheese makes this guacamole extra creamy and the strawberries add nice sweetness! Serve with tortilla chips for a tasty snack or appetizer!

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Ingredients: 3 large ripe avocados 2 ounces goat cheese ¾ cup diced strawberries ⅓ cup chopped fresh cilantro 1⅓ cups chopped red onion 1 small jalapeno pepper, seeded and finely chopped 1-2 tablespoons fresh lime juice Coarse salt and freshly ground pepper, to taste Tortilla chips

Directions: 1. Cut each avocado in half lengthwise. Remove the pit from the avocado and discard. Remove the avocado from the skin, and place in a bowl. Smash avocado with a fork until desired consistency. Crumble in the goat cheese and stir until combined.

2. Add the strawberries, cilantro, red onion, jalapeño, lime juice, salt and pepper to the bowl. Serve immediately with tortilla chips.

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Strawberry Rhubarb Cobbler Yield: Serves 6 Cook Time: 30-35 minutes

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Grand Re-Opening Saturday, May 16 8:00 am 9:30 am

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We will have an Open House from Noon to 2 pm with refreshments, live drummers 2-3pm, mini-facials and 10-minute massages.

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Directions: 1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. In a medium bowl, mix the rhubarb and the strawberries with the sugar, corn starch and orange zest. Let sit for 30 minutes to bring out the juices.

2. In a separate medium bowl, whisk together 2 tablespoons of sugar, flour, baking powder, cinnamon and salt. Cut the butter in with a pastry blender or your hands. Combine until the mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Add in the milk, egg, and vanilla, stir until just moistened. Don’t overmix.

3. Pour strawberries and rhubarb into a 2-quart casserole dish or individual casserole dishes/ramekins. Drop the cobbler batter on top of the fruit. Sprinkle sugar over the cobbler topping. Bake for 30-35 minutes until cobbler crust is golden brown and fruit filling is bubbling. If desired, serve with whipped cream or vanilla ice cream.

Recipe adapted from Simply Recipes

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Leslie's Learnings 

Dieting With My Dog

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am in trouble with my veterinarian. Big trouble.

My Chocolate Labrador, Bear, is overweight. Well, actually, he is fat. Very fat.

The vet gave us a chart to take home, highlighting just how portly Bear really is. The chart has diagrams of dogs, taken from an over-head view, showing varying degrees of canine chubbiness. Suddenly, my doctor asking me if I have a “big appetite” doesn’t seem so offensive any more.

It really hit me when the vet started to go through a list of fat-related health issues my pet may endure if he doesn’t lose weight. I was overwhelmed by the thought of Bear having to live with diabetes, heart disease, arthritis, cancer or any of a number of serious health issues that the vet rattled off.

Sadly, these are the very same diseases my doctor told me I was at increased risk for because of my weight. Why is it that I was able to sort of ignore the threats to my own health, but was willing to go to any lengths to make sure Bear is fit and healthy? “You could die because of your weight,” is essentially what my doctor told me, but there I was an hour later with a box of Ferro Roche and a bag of chips, in front of the tv, shrugging my shoulders.

It hit me, as I was trying to convince Bear that his diet dog treats are just as yummy as the regular ones, that I owe it to both of us to take my weight seriously too. This is no longer just about fitting into my skinny jeans (yeah, they are still on a shelf in my closet waiting for the someday that never seems to come.)

Bear really has no control over what he eats or how much he exercises. That is my responsibility. It shows in our matching waistlines that I am really not being the kind of dog mother I want to be. No more late night potato chip runs to the kitchen for us.

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In all seriousness, my vet may have saved two lives - mine and Bear’s. I can talk myself out of seeing the extra pounds on myself when I look in the mirror. “They are making clothes so much smaller these days,” I will try to tell myself. In truth, they are making clothes bigger these days; have you ever shopped vintage?

Now, Bear is my mirror. I guess I have been ignoring his expanding waistline, too.

I’ve made jokes about both of us in the past. There is nothing funny about heart disease, cancer or any of the diseases linked to being overweight.

Bear and I are headed out for a walk. He draws the line at celery. That works out, because his low-cal chicken snacks do nothing for me.

 Leslie Toldo is a writer and blogger, who also worked on-air in TV and radio

for nearly 25 years. Leslie officiates weddings and funerals. She lives in Fenton with her husband and three dogs. She is an avid runner and serves on the Board of Directors of the Humane Society of Genesee County. You can connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, and at www.leslietoldo.com.

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Boost Your Success in 60 Seconds a Day

Here’s a little known fact: our self-image is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

What we believe about ourselves is our reality. And whether that thing that we believe is actually true or not, our actions and behaviors support the self-image that we’ve created.

Let’s break it down If your self-image is as someone who’s always late, you say and think things like, “I’m always late.

I can’t help it. It’s just who I am.”

And you know what? You are always late.

But not because you can’t help it. It’s because your self-image as someone who’s perpetually late has you practicing behaviors that make it true.

• Like leaving for a destination without mapping out the route first.

• Or allowing exactly zero extra minutes to get somewhere.

• Or planning to leave on time, but then doing “one more thing” before you run out the door.

Boom – your self-image is correct! You, my friend, are always late. (Or freeze up when you speak. Or get too nervous to ask for the business.)

But what do people who have a self-image of always being on time do? What are their behaviors?

• They map out their route to a new destination before leaving the house.

• They leave plenty of extra time for unexpected snafus on the way.

• Maybe they even pack a few things to do, so that they can be productive with their time when they arrive early at a destination.

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What really matters Your self-image, your “I am” statements might be holding you back without you even knowing it.

And that’s kind of a big deal, at least when it comes to creating success. According to research from the Carnegie Institute of Technology, only 15% of your financial success is due to technical knowledge.

Other factors, like your charisma and your ability to motivate yourself outpace any advantage you might get from a few extra points on the intelligence scale.

And that’s why your self-image is so darned important to your success.

You could be spending all of your time and energy taking one more class, inhaling another course or learning the latest technique in your industry, when working on your self-image is what packs the biggest punch.

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Make it work for you When you are intentional about who you want to become, you’ll unconsciously change your behaviors to support that self-image.

You’ll want to “live up” to your own standards. So put your selfimage to work for you. Create “I am” statements that empower and motivate you to achieve your goals.

Here are three super simple steps to put it into action.

1. Flip that script First, choose something empowering, an “I am” statement that describes the person you want to be. Here’s a fabulous one to fuel your fire: “I can do anything I set my mind to.”

2. Prove it to yourself What your mind needs to start believing this new self-image are examples. Using the “I am” (or in this case, “I can” statement) “I can do anything I set my mind to,” make a list of all your accomplishments, big or small.

These accomplishments or proof points are like the legs of a stool.

Each one creates a sturdy support for your new self-image.

3. Make it stick Now, practice repeating your “I am” (or “I can”) statement with your supporting evidence: “I am —– because I did —–.”

You can repeat the same reason every time, or rotate them.

Your assignment Everyday for the next 7 days, say your new “I am” statement. Say it when you wake up. When you go to sleep. Before you eat. Before a meeting. Repeat it until you become it.

 Lori Nash Byron is the founder of FamousinYourField. com, where leaders and professionals build a powerful brand, attract more clients and position themselves as experts in their industries through speaking, publishing and publicity. Go to FamousinYourField.com to get a free workbook, 97 Ways to Build Your Fame Factor.

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Marital Property Division 101 For the past four years, local Chamber in Genesee County have worked together to raise money for First Responders to give teddy bears to children needing comfort during crisis situations. 1000 teddy bears were purchased in 2012 and were given to Local Law Enforcement, Fire, EMT, and State Police Officers in Genesee County. This annual fundraiser will provide funds to purchase more bears for not only Genesee but Shiawassee County as well.

Marital Property is all property acquired during a marriage

regardless of whose name the property is titled. With today’s households comprised of both the husband and wife working, women are as likely to obtain credit and loans to purchase homes, automobiles, and other big ticket items, as well, possess pensions, 401K plans, stock options and acquire additional wealth through an employer.

When either party initiates the filing for Divorce all property is revealed and property subject to 50/50 division identified.

This does not necessarily mean that each and every marital assets is equally divided, but all property is brought to the table, accounted for and then the negotiations begin.

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Initially, pensions, and other financial instruments are evaluated. This begins with calculating the value of these assets at the time the marriage occurred and further, estimating the value at the time the divorce is scheduled to be finalized. The final document for division of these specific assets is referred to as QDRO, or Qualified Domestic Relations Order. This document is sent to the financial administrator specifying the distribution of these funds.

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Although all property is made available for allocation, the parties can agree to an equitable offset. For instance, in lieu of breaching a pension, the parties may elect one party forfeit any interest or equity in the marital home. Division of household items and collectibles of either party will also be determined. Personal property can generally be agreed upon by the parties without attorney or court intervention.

By all property, that includes all property regardless of which party acquired it, even if for their own and sole interest or hobby. For example, if one of the parties purchased an airplane due to their love of heights, that aircraft is also jointly owned. Although, one party may “own” the luxury item, the money dedicated to the purchase, use, and maintenance of such an item is marital income, and therefore this compromised joint income that could have been used to benefit the entire household, be it a family vacation, additional vehicle, extra-curricular activities, or any other bonus the family would partake in, but for this or similar holdings.

Staff and friends of Whaley Children’s Center at the Paint Our Town Blue Pinwheel dedication at the Genesee County Circuit Court.

On the individual family level, programs and services ranging from home visitation, parent education classes, infant nutrition, safe sleep education, and parent support groups must be available and accessible to new or at-risk parents. Other prevention programs, such as wrap-around services and infant mental health programs, have also been found to reduce abuse and neglect rates.

Furthermore, fundamental changes are also needed in the child welfare system. From the referral and screening process all the way through to the family programs and individual services, it’s critical that the Grand Canyon size holes that exist are filled. We need legislation that enhances child protection, foster care, and adoption. Not the other way around. We’re losing too many children.

Every day, I see children whose lives have been disrupted and their dreams broken – children who have survived some of the worst trauma I can imagine, and in most cases, don’t want to. Yet, they survive and become stronger. They understand their life is worth living and better days are ahead. More importantly, with treatment and support, they know just because they were hurt doesn’t mean they will continue to be hurt or hurt others. Change is possible.

Bringing about these changes in our community will not be easy. Yet, at the very least, we owe it to our children to try.

Kevin Roach, MSW Whaley Children’s Center President and CEO

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Hurt people hurt people. Those words haunt the foster care system. More importantly, they highlight the importance of the programs and services that agencies, like Whaley Children’s Center, provide for some of Michigan’s most fragile population.

Far too many children not only experience the pain and suffering of abuse and neglect, but also the turmoil and disruption of foster care. For many children, the foster care system works. Countless lives are saved because children were removed from a dangerous home or a neglectful environment.

Yet, the reality still remains that thousands of children languish in a broken foster care system. There are countless examples of children who were re-traumatized in the very system meant to protect them.

Extensive studies have found the rates of teenage pregnancy, gun violence, criminal behavior, suicide, and homelessness are substantially higher amongst the foster care population.

Rates of engaging in risky behaviors such as substance abuse, smoking, and dropping out of high school are also higher as well as the rates of domestic violence, incarceration, and unemployment. Furthermore, reliance on government aid programs such as income assistance, food stamps, and Medicaid dramatically increases. Lastly, adults who were abused and neglected as children have higher rates of abusing and neglecting their own children.

The cycle is vicious. The cycle is costly. The cost of childhood maltreatment has been estimated by the CDC to be in the hundreds of billions of dollars. Ultimately, we pay for it now or we pay for it later. Hurt people will indeed hurt people.

How do we stop this cycle? How do we salvage and save these children’s future and ensure the legacy of the pain and hurt does not continue?

At the community-wide level, families need access to affordable housing, quality health care, and early childhood education, and employment opportunities.

Community leaders come together to at the Paint Our Town Blue Rally to release 1640 balloons in memory of the 1640 youth who died in the United States as a result of abuse and neglect in 2012. Paint Our Town Blue is a public awareness campaign raising attention to the epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Pictured from left to right are are Genesee County Prosecutor, David Leyton, MSU basketball champion, Mateen Cleaves, Fr. Steve Anderson from Holy Redeemer Church, real estate agent, John Wentworth, Former DHS Community Director, Randy Rauch, Dr. Brian Nolan of Hurley Medical Center, Sheriff Pickell, U.S. Congressman Dan Kildee and Kevin Roach, President/CEO of Whaley Children’s Center.

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Are You Evolving?

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Have you read the book ‘Power vs. Force’ by Dr. David Hawkins? In his book, he lays out a ‘map of consciousness’. This is a detailed scale of how evolved a person is (or a group of people, or humanity as a whole).

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He makes a point that, as we experience challenges, we become more and more evolved. It typically happens slowly over time, but in some circumstances, it can happen in huge leaps forward. According to Hawkins we face two types of challenges that give us opportunity to grow. The first challenges are those that life imposes on us (the death of a loved one, personal tragedies, etc.). The second are those we take upon ourselves (finding a new love, starting a business, etc.).

Unfortunately, we’re all subject to the first type of challenges. And, as painful as they may be we have to remember we have a choice; stay stuck in the pain or grow from them. Even during our darkest moments of personal tragedy we can move out of the darkness and experience acceptance, gratitude, and peace. The choice is ours.

Of course, as a business owner you’ve chased the second type of challenges; those that come from following your personal dreams, goals, and desires. While these can be extremely tough, they are a natural part of the evolution process. However, sadly many business owners give up and abandon their ambitions, because they don’t understand that challenges are a natural part of the pursuit of goals.

So, rather than giving up, I encourage you to embrace the challenge because when you commit to overcoming a problem, you grow and evolve; while surrender only leads to stagnation and weakness. Even if you never reach the goal, you grow in pursuing it.

And that’s where coaching and mentorship comes in. Never before in history has there been so much support available to help people achieve their goals and dreams! That means it’s easier to keep growing one step at a time.

Coaches and mentors keep you on track, help you learn the lessons faster, and support you in making progress. You don’t have to be stuck in fear or frustration. You can keep moving and by doing so continue to grow and evolve.

In essence, the greater purpose of coaching is to speed up the evolution of entire communities. With more people encouraged to stick with their goals and dreams, less will shrink away.

Development as a whole will speed up to move us to a place of deeper connection and happiness.

Of course, I don’t know what the future will look like. But, perhaps if we all became our best selves, more people could have fulfilling careers, families would spend more time together, and retirement security would be a sure thing.

One thing that’s for sure…We aren’t evolving to an ‘end point’.

It’s a never ending process and all of life is part of it. Everything has its place in the evolutionary chain, even as small business owners, we play a part. So, if you’re feeling stuck, get out there and find someone to coach you. You’ll be playing a big part in helping the world move forward!

 Dawn Drozd is an award-winning Certified Coach

and Founder of ClearVision Business Coaching. Her book, The Success Code is available on Amazon.com. Go to UnlockTheSuccessCode.com today to take the free Assessment and learn next steps for more success.

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Prana Yoga Center

Offering the Life-Changing Benefits of Yoga

My yoga journey began in Boston, when I was pregnant with my second son and experiencing excruciating back pain.

Afflicted with thoracic scoliosis since childhood along with lugging a toddler, my back and nerves were compressed. At a loss for how to manage the pain, I called my mom, a labor and delivery nurse, childbirth educator, and yoga devotee since the ‘60’s; she quickly answered, “do yoga!” A longtime aerobics junkie, I was quick to jump in and get started.

Immediately, I began to experience yoga’s benefits: my back felt better and my posture improved. As a result, my labor and delivery were far easier than with my first son.

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“best kept secret that shouldn’t be a secret”

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Fast forward ten years and two more children, I found myself in my first Ashtanga class at the behest of a friend and left feeling like I was floating on air! It was what I had been looking for my entire life! I felt calm, yet energized at the same time. Within the year, I began to plan the opening of my own yoga studio in order to share this “best kept secret that shouldn’t be a secret” with others. In the fall of 2002, I completed my Ashtanga-Vinyasa Yoga teacher training, and opened Prana Yoga Center in Grand Blanc, MI. For 13 years, the Prana Yoga mission has been to offer people the life-changing benefits of yoga. Some of those benefits include: Stress reduction and mood enhancement; Management of chronic conditions such as heart disease and high blood pressure. Healing back pain and injury; Alleviating depression, pain, arthritis symptoms, anxiety and insomnia; Improved strength, mobility and flexibility; Boosts immunity; Eases migraines. Another happy benefit of a regular yoga practice is how it improves the quality of relationships.

Prana Yoga has classes for everyone; Hatha Basics for brand new beginners; Slow Flow for all levels including those healing injuries; Lunar Vinyasa for deep flowing replenishing movement; Prana Vinyasa and Ashtanga for more hot, sweaty athletic movement. We also offer Yin classes for deep tissue stretching, especially important for athletes. Prana also regularly hosts charitable events and donates to Odyssey House in Flint.

We are celebrating our 13th year of business with the Grand Opening of our beautiful new studio at 11225 S. Saginaw St., Grand Blanc, in the Old World Village Plaza on May 16th, 2015. Classes that day will be free to the public and all are welcome to stop in and say hello.

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SpringForward

If you are anything like me, sometimes my intent is better than my initiative. With that being said, I have a somewhat good excuse for this year’s Spring should haves and have not’s.

I just recently moved and have only just begun to realize the potential of my new yard. So, as I begin this year’s Spring belly-aching of “why don’t I have daffodils” I realize that there is still time to achieve my spring flowering desires and plan for a future of flowering possibilities.

Here are a few tips to help you with your yard manifestations.

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Begin a garden journal.

Write down what is coming up and the dates which this happens. Don’t forget to include the colors you have in your beds and borders and areas of shade and sun. Not only will this help you with future additions but can be useful for planning out any container gardening you plan on doing. Also, write down what plants are successful for you.

You may come to find you have favorites time and time again. Stick with what works as well as what pleases your eye.

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Take a walk through your neighborhood. Your neighbors are the best resource for what works in your area. I have stopped and asked about several flowers that I was not familiar with and gained a fountain of information about plants that were new to me. I have also been offered clippings and portions of plants from some really lovely neighbors. Those are always my favorite plants.

Local businesses in your area probably have some sort of seasonal landscaping. Pay attention to what flowers and plants they use as they will most likely be low maintenance and have a big bang for your buck presentation.

As for my lack of daffodils, I haven’t given up hope or completely missed the boat on this year’s possibilities of lovely cups and saucers of gold. I’m just going to cheat just a little. I plan on going and buying some already blooming daffodils and plant them. Happy Blooming!

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Life With a Novelist

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As many of you, my dear and loyal readers, know, life with the male of our species adds a whole new dimension to your existence upon this rock. Before marriage/cohabitation with your life partner, you probably never realized the importance or even the existence of NFL-themed glassware or formal sweatpants.

My own wife, in fact, was taken aback to learn that the cereal milk can be efficiently drank by simply hoisting the bowl to one’s lips. Or that gun oil is a better representation of autumn fragrance than pumpkin-flavored Yankee Candles. Her depth of knowledge is, indeed, richer, having spent these last twenty-five or so years with your humble servant.

For most of you, your understanding of the male world goes not much further than these basic elements. And blessed you are.

Imagine those poor unfortunate singles among you who do not know the wonder of watching a man nap away an entire Saturday afternoon, insisting that the TV remain tuned in to the Golf Channel, despite his unconscious state.

My own wife, however, is doubly blessed. For she is married to a man who has spent over half our marriage in pursuit of a novelist’s life. Now, mind you, an ordinary man or woman who takes up the keyboard to “finally write that novel” gets two or three chapters on screen, and then allows common sense to intervene. If not common sense, then inconveniences like children, day jobs, and food stand in the path of their fledgling writing careers.

I, however, did not allow such trivial matters to discourage my passion. It has always been my dream to invest thousands of hours into a single volume, for which I will receive $40.13 in royalties.

As if this weren’t enough to keep my wife’s enthusiasm for our marriage alive, life with a writer is also cause for stimulating dinner conversation.

For example, just the other night our dog, Copper, became obsessed with a spot under our kitchen door. I theorized that, since

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he also obsesses over our cats, perhaps there is some invisible portal at the kitchen door through which only cats can pass.

Even better, said I, maybe it is even a time-traveling portal, a wormhole in our immediate space so to speak, and cats are the only beings capable of passage.

As I quickly jotted in my handy real-writer’s notebook this wonderful new idea, my wife, bless her saintly heart, attempted to steer the conversation to less intriguing issues of the day, no doubt wishing not to over-stimulate the minds of our children so near bedtime.

My wife and children are also privileged to read the rough drafts of my work. This, of course, not being voluntary. They provide me with my early book cover blurbs. Such gems as “I liked it, Dad, but it was the Cowardly Lion that fell asleep, not the Scarecrow,” and “When are you ever going to learn to spell mannequin?” grace the covers of my latest publications.

So, my dear readers, while you may not enjoy the good fortune of sharing your life with a novelist and listening to detailed plot analysis of every film you ever watch together, consider life with any man an educational experience. And if you, yourself, are the writer in the relationship, you only need turn on the Golf Channel for your uninterrupted creative time.

Until next time, don’t tell my wife I wrote this.

 Ron Estrada resides with his wife, Kelly, two

children, two cats, and a terrier-mix in Oxford. When not pursuing the spiritual gift of napping, he’s at work on his latest novel or some freelance project (he accepts cash, check, PayPal, or smoked pork shoulder). You can email him at rmestrada@ameritech.net or visit his website at ronestradabooks.com.

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