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3. “I’m not comfortable with that.” ey always communicate their needs in a respectful way. is means they state how they feel when someone treats them poorly. If they feel their boundaries are being violated, they’ll take action to make changes.

Similar phrases:

• “When you say things like that, I feel hurt and angry.”

• “If you treat me like this, I’m going to step away because it’s not healthy for me.”

4. “ is is who I am, and I’m proud of it.” ey are consistent in how they operate in the world. is makes being around them predictable and safe because friends and loved ones know that they are who they say they are.

Similar phrases:

• “What you see is what you get.”

• “You may not like this about me, but I am okay with it.”

5. “Am I like that?”

Emotionally secure people are able to consider criticism without lashing out. If they receive negative feedback, they don’t take it personally. Instead, they see it as an opportunity for self-improvement.

Similar phrases:

• “I didn’t realize I do that so often. ank you for pointing it out.”

• “Wow, I guess I really do say that phrase a lot.”

6. “I will work on that.”

In meaningful relationships, emotionally secure people will make an e ort to change when necessary. ey know that taking action is key to personal growth and strengthening connections.

Similar phrases:

• “I hear that this is important to you, so I’ll work on being more compassionate when I talk to you.”

• “I’m not very good at being patient. I’m going to practice being less pushy.”

7. “I’m sorry you’re struggling.

How can I help?” eir empathic and nonjudgmental nature in relationships makes them great at being supportive. ey also understand that if someone is having a bad day, it isn’t a re ection on them.

Similar phrases:

• “You look upset, and I’d like point indicates the median value and the minimal and maximal range of INDEL frequency of 3-8 nuclei per subject. P values were obtained by likelihood ratio tests using negative binomial mixed-effect model. (CREDIT: Nature

Methods) to help.”

Furthermore, the number of mutations detected in lung cells increased proportionally with the number of pack years of smoking, implying an increased risk of lung cancer. Nevertheless, the researchers noted that the rise in cell mutations reached a plateau after 23 pack years of exposure, indicating a limit to the amount of mutations that can accumulate in lung cells.

• “I see that this is hard for you, but you have my support.”

8. “ is matters to me.”

Having a solid belief system is key to being emotionally secure because it guides our choices. When a value is violated, emotionally secure people are able to take a stance for what they believe is moral and fair.

Similar phrases:

• “I really care about this, even if you don’t.”

• “I don’t think you’re acting in an ethical way, and I can’t watch it happen without standing up for what I believe is humane.”

9. “I will try!”

Emotionally secure people have cultivated a sense of inner safety that tells them they will be okay, even if a new effort fails. is allows them to experiment with new things, such as hobbies, friendships, travels and even personal coping strategies.

Similar phrases:

• “I’ll try that next time.”

• “I may not be good at this, but I’m willing to give it a shot!” cals), into your lungs, blood and organs. e damage caused by smoking can shorten your lifespan signi cantly. In fact, smoking is the number one cause of preventable death in the United States. of this theory until recently. According to Jan Vijg, PhD, a co-senior author of the study, this study was the rst to provide evidence for the theory due to the limitations of the existing methods.

* Dr Cortney S. Warren, PhD, is a board-certi ed psychologist and author of Letting Go of Your Ex. She specialises in marriages, love addiction and breakups, and received her clinical training at Harvard Medical School. She has written nearly 50 peerreviewed journal articles and delivered more than 75 presentations on the psychology of relationships. Follow her on Twitter @DrCortneyWarren.

Pregnant women who smoke put their unborn babies at risk, too. Possible effects on pregnancy include: Ectopic pregnancy, a lifethreatening condition when the embryo implants outside the uterus.

Dr. Vijg, who is also a liated with the Center for SingleCell Omics at Jiaotong University School of Medicine in Shanghai, China, developed an improved approach to sequence the entire genomes of individual cells a few years ago, overcoming this obstacle.

In a study, researchers observed that non-smokers and smokers accumulate mutations (single-nucleotide variants and small insertions and deletions) in their lung cells as they age. However, the lung cells of smokers had a signi cantly higher number of mutations than those of nonsmokers. is observation supports the hypothesis that smoking increases the risk of lung cancer by elevating the frequency of mutations. Dr Spivack highlighted that this could be one reason why lung cancer is uncommon among non-smokers while 10% to 20% of lifelong smokers develop lung cancer.

E ects of smoking cessation on mutation frequency: Median number of SNV and INDEL frequency among former smokers (n = 7) and current smokers (n = 12). a, each data point indicates the median value and the minimal and maximal range of SNV frequency of 3-8 nuclei per subject. b, each data

According to Dr. Spivack, the individuals who smoked the most did not have the highest burden of mutations. is indicates that such individuals might have managed to suppress further accumulation of mutations, allowing them to survive for an extended period despite heavy smoking.

According to the Cleveland Clinic, tobacco use harms every organ in your body. Smoking tobacco introduces not only nicotine but also more than 5,000 chemicals, including numerous carcinogens (cancer-causing chemi-

In addition to its known cancer risks, the Cleveland Clinic states that smoking causes many other chronic (long-term) health problems that need ongoing care. Speci c smoking-related problems that need treatment include:

Decreased HDL (good) cholesterol and increased blood pressure (increasing risks for heart attack and stroke).

Lower oxygen to the heart and other tissues in the body (increasing risks for coronary artery disease, peripheral artery disease, and diabetes).

More frequent routine illnesses like colds, especially in children living with smokers. Poorer lung function (ability to get enough oxygen) leading to COPD, asthma, bronchitis, or emphysema.