Stall Seat Journal '22-23

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Finding Your crew

a Helping Hoof

We look out for our Ramily by taking action if we see something harmful. Remember the 6 D’s of being a good bystander:

Directly address the situation. If someone says a hurtful joke, you can directly ask them why they think it’s funny, or let them know it’s hurtful.

Draw attention elsewhere. Your friend might want another drink, but you can distract them by taking them out for pizza!

Weeks of Welcome

August 15 - September 4

VCU's official welcome program features dozens of events to help you get connected. Come meet other students and discover campus resources. Check out our QR code for the WoW website to see all events!

There’s no one-size-fits-all way to be well. Take quizzes and find customized resources unique to your goals! Whether you’re working toward something new, managing stress or finances, or looking for resources on campus, You@VCU is here for you! Go to you.vcu.edu

Distract Have You Herd?

Delegate

Ask someone to help. Ask a friend to call 911 while you check on someone who is passed out.

Are you Ram Ready? Whether this is your first time at college, you are transferring, or you are returning after some time off, find an orientation experience that works for you at the link in our QR code below.

9 out of 10 Rams who drink watch out for friends' safety when they go out.

*The Well's UCelebrate Survey 2019, n=554

RamsConnect

Here’s what Rams have to say about it:

"

I love it. It’s a great resource. Very straightforward."

— Cameron

Delay Defend

Check on the person impacted. If a friend seems down during a group outing, you can pull them aside later and check on them 1:1

Document

Record the incident. Take photos or a video to share with the impacted person. Never share it without their consent.

Support those already intervening. If someone is already helping, them using one of the previous 5 Ds!

The strategy we use changes based on the situation and identities of those involved. Choose what works for you, keeping your own safety first.

Want to get connected on campus? Check out ramsconnect.vcu.edu for info and upcoevents with WoW, RecWell and beyond!

Alcohol EDU

As a part of our Ramily, we're asking all first-year and transfer students to take AlcoholEdu, an online course with info about safety and supportive resources around alcohol use. Log in with your VCU eID at the “AlcoholEdu” link at our QR code.

Do you or another Ram want nonjudgmental support regarding substance use? Check out Rams in Recovery at recovery.vcu.edu

Mental Health Module

By learning our own needs and how to support others, we can create a healthier place for all. In our mental health training, you'll learn to identify personal challenges and support friends and loved ones. Find the link at our QR code below.

I like using the self-checks. They made me think more about my habits and goals. It was nice to see my strengths and resources for growth.

— Nicole

"It looks really clean and clear so it's easy to navigate."

— Chandler

Need help?

Not sure where to go for support and guidance with yourself or another student? The Dean of Students office is here to help. Go to dos.vcu.edu

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GUIDE

Relationships 101

Healthy relationships are those in which everyone feels safe physically, emotionally and spiritually as their authentic selves.

Relationships are healthier when:

• Time is spent both together and apart

• Communication is open and honest

• We can give each other the benefit of the doubt

• Mistakes can be admitted

• Big decisions are made together

Boundaries 101

Boundaries are limits a person creates to identify what they’re okay and not okay with. With healthy boundaries, we can say “no” to others, as well as receive and respect others’ boundaries.

• “I’m down with going down as long as we use a condom.”

• “Tonight I’ll be with friends, let’s get together tomorrow.”

Consider what’s important to you and jot down likes, dislikes and “want-to-knows.”

•I like: having my hand held in public.

•I don’t like: when friends choose a restaurant without me. I have dietary restrictions.

•I want to know: how my partner feels about trying an open relationship.

Everyday Consent

When you hear “consent,” you might think of romance and sex, but really, we ask for and negotiate consent all the time! It might look like...

“Wanna go get pizza tonight?” “I’m actually in the mood for sushi. Wanna switch it up?”

“Is it okay if my boo sleeps over?” “Actually, I have an 8 a.m. exam. Do you mind sleeping at their place?”

“Hey, I was sick and missed class. Do you mind sharing your notes?”

“Sure! Let’s grab lunch and catch up!”

Affirmative consent is a

Freely given

Reversible

Informed

Enthusiastic • Specific... YES! When in doubt, talk it out!

find your herd

Friends are a key part of well-being. Here are a few tips for meeting new people.

• Residence Halls. Get to know your neighbors! Look out for activities and events hosted by your halls or RAs.

• Clubs are great for finding Rams with similar interests. VCU has hundreds! Check them out on RamsConnect.

• Study groups can help your academics and your social life. Plan regular meetings to work or study.

• Sport clubs and intramurals are a great way to meet new people and learn new skills. Visit recwell.vcu.edu for more info.

• Group chats are a great way to make friends on campus. Make them with your classmates, study groups, hall floors and more.

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You might be making new friends. You might also miss your friends and family back home. It’s okay (and normal!) if you’re feeling a little lonely. When we find connection we move beyond surviving to thriving!

Find familiar places. Are you from near a beach? Check out Texas Beach on the James River! Love the outdoors? Try RecWell’s Outdoor Adventure Program! Or find a coffee shop that reminds you of your favorite back home.

Join student groups on RamsConnect! there are a lot of other Rams looking for friends too. It can be helpful to connect to others with similar experiences. You’ve got this!

Check in with your people back home! It might seem a little daunting, but it doesn’t have to be high-stakes! Just send someone a text when they cross your mind.

This edition of the Stall Seat Journal was written in collaboration with Emma Draga (3rd year), with artwork by Sabereh Saleh (4th year).
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CAT'S OUT OF THE BAG!

Everyone reacts differently to alcohol, so the reasons for drinking or not drinking can vary. Some people drink to reduce anxiety and be more confident talking to others. For some, it can make them feel warm and fuzzy or more relaxed after a hard day. And some drink because alcohol is already part of the environment they’re in. We also know that FOMO impacts how much people drink.

DRINKING NOT FOR YOU?

You're not alone. Rams tell us they don't drink because:

• They don’t feel like it

• They want to cut back on their use

• They don’t like the taste of it

• They don’t like the feeling

• Religious reasons

• They are in recovery

Whatever the reason, it’s important to respect people’s choices. Know someone who could use support with substances? Go to recovery.vcu.edu

MEDICAL RAMNESTY

At VCU we look out for our Ramily, and we have a policy to back it up!

Students who seek medical help for themselves or others during an emergency related to alcohol or other drugs will not be subject to discipline by VCU. Students must take action during the emergency. Info at tinyurl.com/VCUAmnesty

Why do vampires seem sick?

DO YOU KNOW BOOZE?

Witch one? Match the type of alcohol with its standard drink size.

They're always coffin!

flu vaccine! Students can get a flu shot from Student Health by appointment health.students.vcu.edu) or at the vaccine clinic Oct 24, 11 a.m.-2

A SCARY SITUATION

You may be in a situation where someone shows signs of alcohol overdose. Remember PUBS.[2]

If you see even one of these, call (804) 828-1234 or 911 immediately.

RECWELL AFTER DARK

October 28, 10 p.m. - midnight

RecWell will transform Cary St. Gym with games, activities and prizes. Play dodgeball or trivia pong, join a group exercise demo, cool off in the pool, or get some late night gym time with your crew. Bring a suit if you plan to swim!

HOW'S MY RELATIONSHIP?

It’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month. We want all Rams to feel safe with their boo(s). Here are a few quick tips:

• You trust your partner(s).

• Forgiveness feels truly peaceful.

• You value each other’s friendship.

• You can comfortably disagree.

• You have fun together.

Make a confidential appointment or learn more at advocacy.vcu.edu

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A. 12 oz B. 5 oz C. 1.5 oz 1. Liquor (~80 proof/40% alcohol) 2. Beer (~5% alcohol) 3. Wine (~12% alcohol) Most Rams who drink have 0-3 drinks when they party. Puking while passed out (unconscious and unable to be awakened) Unresponsive to poking or pinching Breathing is slow, shallow, or they aren’t breathing at all. Skin is cold, blue, or clammy. SOURCES & CREDITS 1. RecWell's UCelebrate Survey, 2019 (n=554) 2. Credit goes to UVA Gordie Center Art for this edition by Emily Leary, 4th year
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THE SNUGGLE IS REAL

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— JOANA, 2ND YR.

A COZIER MIND

You’ve probably heard that mindfulness can help us feel better. But how does it actually do that? Being present with our mind and body helps us practice connecting with our thoughts and feelings without getting overwhelmed. Over time, this calm awareness gives us a better capacity to deal with the hard stuff, and future stress has less impact on our happiness and wellbeing.

Mindfulness helps us:

• Notice our thoughts

• Get more aware of our physical and emotional needs

• Grow our compassion for others

• Focus more easily

Join RecWell for weekly, virtual guided meditation Mondays and Fridays at noon while classes are in session. Check out our RamsConnect page to register: bit.ly/recwellrc

SLOW YOUR ROLL

Do you ever panic about something, and then panic because you're panicking and then panic even more because you're panicking about panicking?

Self-compassion is one antidote to this cycle. It means treating yourself with respect and love even when you fail or feel disappointed.

• Try talking to yourself like you would a friend who is having a hard time.

• Remember that everyone struggles and suffers at times, so you're not alone.

• Write it out. Getting your thoughts and feelings onto paper can make things feel more manageable.

• Practice mindfulness! (See the Cozier Mind column to the left.)

NEED CARE?

Thinking about hibernating all winter? VCU has partnered with TimelyCare to bring students, faculty and staff free virtual counseling. Go to timelycare.com/vcu or download the TimelyCare app to access care. University Counseling Services has FAQs at counseling.vcu.edu/ students/timelycare

LOVE RECWELL?

You can minor in it! The School of Education is offering an 18-credit Recreation and Wellness minor in partnership with RecWell. Earn academic credit while gaining important life skills and certifications. Visit bit.ly/recwellminor

BE A P.H.E.

Take Concepts in Peer Health Education Course (TEDU 494) this Spring to be eligible to become a Peer Health Educator (PHE) with us.

COMFORT FOOD

Food is an important part of life! It has a big impact on our physical health, mental health and academics.

EatWell is an online, interactive Google map which connects you with food options near you. Find restaurants, vending machines, grab & go options and free food resources on-campus. Filter by dietary needs, late night options and cheap eats!

Check it out at go.vcu.edu/nutrition (P.S. - We're expanding to MCV campus soon!)

Have you herd?

IPHM

November is Indigenous People’s Heritage Month, a time to celebrate the lives and cultures of indigenous people past and present, and to recognize injustice done to these communities. To see IPHM events at VCU, visit linktr.ee/vcuomsa

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Among the Rams who said they were less likely to call, some had a fear of consequences from the university.

Did you know? VCU has a medical amnesty policy for those who call for help for themselves or others during emergencies. For more info, visit tinyurl.com/VCUAmnesty

RecWell is conducting the National College Health Assessment online survey beginning 2/13.

Selected students will receive an e-mail to their VCU accounts with a survey link. Surveys can take up to 30 minutes to complete.

All who complete this survey have a chance to win one of 5 gift certificates for a RecWell Massage Therapy 3 Session Package or Introductory Personal Training Package, or one of 30 gift certificates for a RecWell 60 Minute Massage or Fitness Consult. Contact trsaunders@vcu.edu for more information.

3 OUT OF 4 OF RAMS WHO DRINK HAVE 0-3 DRINKS WHEN THEY PARTY.[1] 8 OUT OF 10 RAMS WHO DRINK CUT THEMSELVES OFF BEFORE THEY HAVE TOO MUCH.[1] WHEN IT COMES TO OUR HEALTH, RAMS RANK HIGHER THAN YOU THINK!
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86% OF RAMS RATE OUR STATS AS BELIEVABLE.[1] 9 OUT OF 10 RAMS ARE LIKELY TO CALL 911 FOR A FRIEND WHO HAS PASSED OUT FROM DRINKING.[1] You Herd it here first. Most students rely on the Stall Seat Journal for trusted info about their wellbeing. 9 OUT OF 10 RAMS APPROVE OF CUTTING OFF A FRIEND BEFORE THEY HAVE HAD TOO MUCH.[1] CHECK YOUR STATS Every few years, we get new info straight from the Ram's mouth on what VCU students really do when it comes to choices about their health. This year we sent out our survey and you responded! This edition is a collection of some of those answers. SOURCES & CREDITS 1. RecWell's UCelebrate Survey, 2022 (n=518) Comics by Zelda Littlejohn, 4th yr. Ram head & background by Emily Leary, 4th yr. HAVE YOU HERD? HAVE YOU HERD? HAVE YOU HERD? Skeptical about our data? Email wellbeing@vcu.edu. HAVE YOU HERD? HAVE YOU HERD? HAVE YOU HERD? HAVE YOU HERD? HAVE YOU HERD? HAVE YOU HERD? HAVE YOU HERD? HAVE YOU HERD? If holder is damaged or loose, please call RecWell
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