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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life

The ABCs of a SHEnergized Life ISBN 978-0-9960317-0-7 Copyright Š 2014 by Vanguard Solutions Consulting LLC Jacksonville, Florida

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Introduction The Lifestyle Behind the Letters The Equal Pay Act of 1963 requires that employees be given equal pay for equal work regardless of sex. It is illegal for employers to pay women less than men for the same work.

Over fifty years later, in 2014, women still lag behind men and earn seventy-seven cents for every dollar made by men. The projection is that it will be year 2045 before women receive equal pay at this current rate of change. This is only one of the many challenges faced by the women in America. The journey of a thousand miles has proven to be very difficult for even the wealthiest, the most prominent and the most powerful women in this country. What is the answer? Women cannot overcome these seemingly insurmountable obstacles in our lives alone.

This challenge leaves many women with unmet needs.

SHEnergy offers her the solution. Synergy is defined as the results of the collective are greater than the individual sum of its parts. SHEnergy is defined as the results of women working together, connected as a team, are far greater than the results of an individual woman working alone. We are a

SisterHood for Empowerment. The mission of SHEnergy is to energize, educate, emotionally engage and empower women to take their businesses, careers and lives to higher levels of excellence through building mutually beneficial alliances with like-minded women of excellence. SHEnergy’s mission is reflected throughout each letter of the ABCs of a SHEnergized Life.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life For the past twenty years, I have shared the ABCs of Life as a signature close to the speeches I’ve given. I saw how women across the country were motivated into action, as my rendition of the ABCs impacted their lives.

Many would have tears flowing from their eyes as they asked me to send them a copy of the ABCs. I quickly realized that if my speaking the ABCs left such an indelible mark on the lives of so many, I needed to share with them the lifestyle behind the letters. This passionate feeling motivated me to create SHEnergy. I wanted to offer women something more. Women are struggling all over this country and are looking for something to help them improve their lives and their circumstances. I established this organization for women whose founding principles are based on the tenets I energetically rendered to thousands of women through the years. The ABCs of a SHEnergized Life is the lifestyle behind SHEnergy.

In order for a woman to gain the most benefit from being a part of SHEnergy, she must bring her best self to the table.

Every woman is at a different place in her life’s journey and there is room for each of us to grow and improve, no matter where we are. The Personal Empowerment Experience of the SHEnergized ABCs to Life is a tool to help guide you through the process of self-discovery and personal development. We are a team, you are not alone. As you are changing you, you are changing us. Your success is our success.

This is not just a book. A book only provides you with something to read. This is an empowerment experience. It provides you something to do. There are some things others can do for us, but there are some things we must do for ourselves, and this is one of them.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life

You will have many emotional experiences as you proceed through the pages ahead. You will find yourself laughing out loud, clapping your hands and dabbing your eyes. I know because I experienced each of these powerful emotions as I penned the words you are about to read. My family did not know what was going on behind these closed doors, but they left me alone to enjoy and relish my experience. However, they did rib me about it later.

We encourage you to embrace and share your emotions. Don’t be afraid to be emotional. We need to embrace our womanhood and our emotions. We are proudly different from men in this way, but that’s a whole different book! You are invited to share your experiences, revelations, and testimonies with us. Remember, we are a team. When you are isolated, you take your power and hold it back from your teammates.

Please visit our Facebook page at SHEnergized ABCs or email us at rhall@eventsbyvsc.com to share your SHEnercheers,(your accomplishments and victories through this self-discovery process) and SHEnertears, (the moments that brought tears to your eyes during this discovery process) You should always be your biggest cheerleader, but allow us to cheer along with you. We are also here to share and wipe away your tears. You are free to be open and honest. There will be SHEnertears and SHEnercheers, but there will be no SHEnerjeers!

Take this book to SHEnergy meetings and read some of your excerpts to the group. Your personal insights can be a source of encouragement to another woman. Keep this book with you in your purse or in the car. You never know when something inspirational may hit you and you may want to write it in your personal reflections section.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life You are encouraged to read the commentary over and over again.

As you grow as a person, you will see the changes in your answers and reflections. The writing space provided is minimal. Begin your reflections using the space provided, then utilize the ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Journal notebook or some other paper to continue your writing. It’s all up to you.

This personal empowerment experience is designed to take you as little as fifteen minutes daily. It is up to you how much time you spend reflecting on the questions and the commentary. There are a few things you must understand as you embark upon this journey. These four explanations will help guide you through this process: 1. The lifestyle behind the letters commentary provides powerful sentiments and expressions that offer you insight to use as a reflective lens to take an introspective look into yourself.

2. Interpersonal communication is communicating with others.

Intrapersonal communication is when a woman speaks to herself. Each day you are encouraged to spend about fifteen minutes in quiet meditation and reflection as you practice intrapersonal communication. Internalize the message you received from the lifestyle behind the letters sentiments that day. There is profound power in meditation. Steal away and find a quiet place and allow the provocative questions to guide your conversation with yourself.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life 3. A call to action will be given with each day, to help you actualize the lifestyle behind the letter. We will encourage you to engage in some type of activity to put the lifestyle behind the letter into immediate practice in your life. Some of these activities will be fun, touching, exciting, motivational, difficult, and much more. You must be willing to embrace the challenge and complete the entire process of going through this journey.

You will cheat yourself from a positive life-changing experience if you don’t go from start to finish.

4. We want to hear from you. When you have major epiphanies or want to share your stories, send us your SHEnercheers and SHEnertears. You can share SHEnertears and SHEnercheers as often as you like. In order to complete the process fully, you need to share at least one SHEnertear and one SHEnercheer at some point during the process.

Day 1 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation on the ABCs of a SHEnergized Life and The Lifestyle Behind the Letters. What type of benefit would you like to receive in your life as a result of going through this personal empowerment experience? __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ 7

ABCs of a SHEnergized Life A – Accept the Challenge Personal affirmations are powerful components of any woman’s life. When we decide that we will Accept the Challenge, we are answering in the affirmative that we will undertake the responsibility of dealing with any situation confronting us.

We are saying, “Yes, I am capable and ready to make a positive impact on my life, despite the circumstances or conditions.”

We are saying, “Yes, I welcome this call to battle because it gives me the opportunity to strengthen my character, fortify my resolve, and enhance my intellect.”

We are saying, “Yes, I have decided to establish a mission for my life that I will accomplish with a determined attitude and a committed work ethic.”

Accepting the Challenge, is the first and necessary step in realizing your dreams. This acceptance is a total affirmation of your unyielding desire to experience a productive and successful outcome in every aspect of your life.

Day 2 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the challenges you have accepted in your life presently and how they have empowered you as a woman of excellence. What are some of the challenges you have accepted in your life? What is your personal vision? What are your goals in life? What actions will you take, starting today, to realize your aspirations?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 2 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergized.com.

Call to Action: Think of something you have always wanted to do, but let something or someone hold you back from doing it. For example, giving a speech, skydiving, running a marathon or teaching a class are just a few suggestions. Accept the challenge and complete that activity sometime in the next 30 days.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life B – Be Your Best Being Your Best is experiencing life at your personal excellence. It is an inspired state of being. We all must seek to live each day realizing our “Personal Excellence.” Educating ourselves is an important tenet of the SHEnergy mission and has relevance in our lives as it relates to being our best.

There are too many women who live their lives in abject mediocrity. These are the women who have decided to do just enough to get by. Life is not about just getting by, it is about living out our destiny in excellence.

We determine our outcomes in life by the manner in which we live our lives. We must reach within the depths of our being to pull on our inner strength and power in order to find and liberate our excellence. Once we have liberated our excellence, we can experience an existence filled with hope and promise. We are no longer afraid of failure, living a liberated life, begets excellence.

When we live life according to our personal excellence, we encourage the women around us to strive to put forth their very best. When we embrace and accept our personal excellence, we are not threatened by another woman’s excellence.

Day 3 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the life you are living each day. Are you realizing your “Personal Excellence?” Is your life a positive model for the women around you? What are some of the things that may be holding you back? What steps can you take to begin living within your “Personal Excellence?”

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 3 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergized.com.

Call to Action: Think of a subject you want to learn more about to improve your current skill level. Register for an online or community college course to develop yourself in that area so that you can Be Your Best.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life C – Combine Your Words into Actions There is power in our words. There is even greater significance and relevance when mere words are followed up with action and energy.

Action can be characterized by physical or mental activity. It is important for women to think about the words we say. We will find ourselves in a better state when we spend constructive time in mental activity as it relates to the words that proceed from our lips.

Many times we speak negative things into our world and reality. As women of excellence, we must understand that our words matter. The words we articulate represent who we are.

We must follow positive and proactive words with positive and proactive activity. SHEnergized women of Excellence are energized. It is one thing to say that we want to make a significant change for the better as it relates to our health. It is another thing to put those affirmative words into action and start eating a healthy diet.

Words alone will not help us accomplish our desired goals.

Saying what we mean to say, and living what we say are two totally different realities.

Day 4 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the words that you speak. Are you following positive words with positive activity? Are you spending positive mental energy reflecting on the words that you utter?

What can you do, starting today, to combine your words into action?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 4 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergized.com.

Call to Action: Think of someone that you say “I love You” to on a regular basis. Do something this week to put that love into action. (Cook a special meal, purchase a tank of gas, wash their car, etc.)

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life D – Dedicate Your Life to Your Dreams Dreams represent a feeling of hope and excited anticipation in our lives because they represent our major unattained goals that we are passionate about. They are often our B.H.A.G.s, Big Hairy Audacious Goals. Our desire to accomplish these goals burn in our belly.

We can use these dreams to set vision for our lives. We must be wholly devoted to ascertaining our dreams. We must work to move our dreams directly into our reality.

Vision gives us direction. It helps us to conceptualize a plan of action. It is very difficult to get where we want to go without first knowing our desired destination. Vision can help us actualize our dreams and set a course toward fulfilling them.

Purpose gives us the internal fortitude and emotional engagement that will provide us with the fuel we need to drive through whatever terrain is placed in our path. When a SHEnergized Woman of Excellence is Dedicated to her Dreams, she is living her life on purpose. Life is not just happening to her, she is making things in her life happen and making her dreams come true! Her purpose directed life is creating purpose in the lives of her family, friends, and the people she has influence over.

Day 5 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation as it relates to your life’s purpose. What are your dreams, your goals, and your vision? Are you dedicated to realizing these things? Are you living your life on purpose?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 5 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergized.com.

Call to Action: Write down two B.H.A.G.’s. (Big Hairy Audacious Goals) Research online to find someone who has accomplished those goals you have written down. Call and interview them on how they were able to accomplish these goals. Be sure to tell them why you are doing this activity. Use the information to assist you on your journey.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life E – Expect Little if You Give Little When we work to realize a desired outcome, when we couple determined activity with persistent passion, and when we give every fiber of our being to realize our goals, we are justified in expecting a great positive end result. If we give forth little effort, there is no justification in expecting a great outcome.

That is simply wishing or hoping.

Life is all about the process and the plan. As discussed before, in order to stay focused in life there must be a structured plan of action. If we fervently and vigorously follow a well-ordered and constructed plan, favorable results will follow.

If you put forth an insufficient amount of your time, your energies, your resources, your passion, your talents, and your excellence, you should expect a result that is in alignment with the effort you put forth. What we get out of life, is determined by what we put in. If we want spectacular results, we must be willing to do the things necessary to achieve them.

We must be willing to contribute of ourselves generously to “the process.” Giving requires sustained devotion. We can look forward with great anticipation to reap the bountiful results of our faithful and fearless efforts.

Day 6 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering your life’s expectations in direct relation to your personal efforts. Are you expecting great results without putting forth great effort? Are you willing to give freely of your talents, resources, and your whole self in order to accomplish the desired end result?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 6 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergized.com.

Call to Action: Go to your nearest store and buy a seed. Plant that seed and monitor its growth. Take the necessary steps to care for it. This plant or flower will be your symbol of growth through this process.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life F - Feel Good about Yourself It is often said that your attitude determines your altitude in life. A positive self-image is vitally important to a woman striving to accomplish her goals in this very competitive global marketplace.

We all suffer sometimes from occasional self-doubt and that is normal. If we are not careful, that occasional self-doubt can become an ongoing self-fulfilling prophecy for failure.

We should and must feel good about ourselves. Think about it; you have overcome many challenges in your life. You have probably been counted out more than once, but you are still here and still pushing forward!

You have done far more good in your life than you give yourself credit for, and you are far more talented than you give yourself credit for. Many lesser women would have quit by now, but not you. There are more than seven billion people on the planet, but there is only one you. You are supremely unique and your sisters in SHEnergy value you.

There are times within our lives and even our days, when we need a cheering squad. Sometimes that squad is only one person, and that one person should at least include you.

Day 7 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering your feelings about yourself. Do you have a positive self- image? Do you ever experience self-doubt?

What do you do when those times of self-doubt happen? Are you your biggest cheerleader? Why or Why not?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 7 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergized.com.

Call to Action: Reach all the way back to your middle school or high school days and think of a favorite cheer or chant. Rewrite that cheer as a personal cheer for you. Stand in front of a mirror and do the cheer for yourself. Then perform your personal cheer in front of a sister friend.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life G – Get Going A busy woman takes care of business. A busy woman is diligent, engaged, active, and engrossed. Action and activity produces action and activity. Inactivity produces inactivity. A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence realizes that in order to propel ahead in life, she has to Get Going.

We will not move forward in life, if we are standing still.

Many times fear, regret, anger, guilt, complacency, hurt, and so many obstacles hold us back from advancing in our lives.

Many women pile on negative emotions that cripple their movement. We must all let go of every negative weight that is keeping us stagnant.

Courage allows us to go even when we are unsure of what lies ahead. If we never step out, we hinder the bountiful blessings we may experience in our families, our business, our careers, and our lives in general.

Remaining in our current circumstance is easy and risk free.

Propelling forward toward our dreams requires fearlessness, tenacity and audacity. Time is ticking away, we must make the calculated decision to move forward in our lives, and Get Going!

Day 8 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering your current position in life. Are you engaged in activities that propel your life forward? Are there negative feelings and emotions you are allowing to hold you back in life? What are you going to do starting right now in order to Get Going in your life?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 8 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergzied.com.

Call to Action: Connect with a friend in your city that you consider a success in her business or organization. Ask her if you can spend a day with her at work and at home observing how she goes about her day. Do not ask her questions or disturb her day, only observe. Think about the things you can implement in your life, based on some of the positive things you noticed during your day with her. Then take her out to dinner to thank her for her time.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life H –Have a Helping Hand The acronym T.E.A.M is often listed as Together Everyone Achieves More. This philosophy permeates SHEnergy. The act of mentoring is vital to helping others develop and achieve more.

Within most of our lives there have been those people who took us under their proverbial wings and provided a helping hand through guidance, support and mentorship.

There is a quote that states that “older women should help and mentor the younger women”. Mentorship can take many forms from casual and informal to structured and formal. It can be as simple as just “being there” for someone else. It can be as casual as being a “sounding board” for a woman as she contemplates significant decisions. It can also be a targeted routine involving structured activities and scheduled communications.

Spending time helping our sisters can provide amazing benefits to our lives as well. We are sharpening our skills and opening the doors to greater connections and possibilities when we offer ourselves to others. The knowledge that we have gained throughout our lives is not just for our own benefit, it is also a seed that can and should benefit the lives others.

Day 9 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the power of lending a helping hand. Who is someone that has offered you assistance in your personal or professional life? When was the last time you helped another woman who was not a family member?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 9 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergzied.com.

Call to Action: Identify a woman who you have a professional relationship with who could benefit from a mentorship relationship with you. Invite that woman to lunch and offer yourself to her as a mentor.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life I – Inspire Somebody The gift of inspiration lies within each of us. Our personal issues hold us back from sharing of ourselves. Many times feelings of doubt and insecurity bind us. Being an inspiration to others, opens a door to your soul that swings both ways. It stimulates feelings of encouragement and enthusiasm within us and the women we inspire.

Each woman has a story, it’s called “herstory”.” Our stories shape and influence who we are and how we operate day-today. These stories are lived out in front of the people we come in contact with. We must embrace our stories and realize that they may be the spark that ignites a flame in another woman’s existence.

We are often disillusioned about our current position or status in life, as it relates to our careers, families, finances, or any number of conditions. Never stopping to think about how our lives can serve as motivation to someone who is striving to get where we currently are. There is amazing power in that revelation.

Living a life that is an inspiration to others can make a tremendous impact on the world. Many women are searching diligently for inspiration in their lives. We can give freely of ourselves and positively impact that life of another woman.

Day 10 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the implications of inspiration. Are you an inspiration to the people you come in contact with on a regular basis? Who serves as an inspiration for your life? How can you be more inspirational?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 10 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergzied.com.

Call to Action: Contact a local women’s shelter or support center this week. Find out how many women are currently staying in the facility. Buy a box of inspirational cards. Complete a card for each woman, and drop by the shelter to hand deliver the cards. Be sure to get the approval from the facility’s management before you complete the project.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life J – Join the Team SHEnergy is defined as the results of women connected and working together are far greater than the results of one woman working alone. In order for women to move ahead as a whole in this country, we must band together.

Women can do so much more together than we can ever do a part. When we combine our talents, our resources, and our energies, we can move forward at lightning speed to accomplish our individual and team goals.

A dynamic energy is created when women are joined in synergistic activity; the feeling is palpable. When working together as a team, individual accomplishments fuel and excite everyone. Personal achievements encourage others to seek and experience success. Success breeds success.

Aligning ourselves with like-minded women of excellence is a critical step in the process. We must release ourselves from any barriers that hinder us from collaborating with other women. Despite what society tells us, women can work together collectively to reach excellence. It is up to us to make a connection. In order to experience the amazing and powerful benefits of teamwork, you must Join the SHEnergy Team.

Day 11 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the benefits of being connected to a team. Do you have a synergistic relationship with any women in your life?

What is holding you back from connecting with other women of excellence? How would making connections with other women benefit your life?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 11 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergzied.com.

Call to Action: If for some reason you are not a member of SHEnergy, visit us at SHEnergize.com and join SHEnergy today. If you are a member of SHEnergy, become more active on a SHEnergy committee.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life K – Keep On Keeping On Obstacles will assail us each day. A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence must have the tenacity to Keep on Keeping on. We must maintain the course in accordance with the plan we have outlined for our lives.

Staying on track can seem to be an insurmountable task when we are confronted with circumstances, conditions, and people who seem determined to take us off track.

Perseverance is a key element in assisting us in staying on track. We must stay true to our plan if we want to be victorious on our journey. In order to lose weight, we must consistently follow our meal plan. In order to send our children to college, we must consistently follow our savings plan. In order to grow our businesses, we must consistently follow our strategic plan. Establishing an effective plan is an essential step in remaining consistent!

We must display strength of character, a determined mindset and a persistent spirit. These attributes allow us to Keep on Keeping On. The storms may rage and winds may blow, however a woman of excellence remains on-track, steady and unwavering in her desire to obtain Excellence for her life.

Day 12 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the need to stay on track in your life. How do you define perseverance? What are some things that easily derail you in your life? Do you view yourself as a consistent person?

What are some things you can do to help keep yourself on track?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 12 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergzied.com.

Call to Action: Think of a healthy or beneficial habit that you would like to have in your life. (Exercising 20 minutes per day, eating three servings of fruit per day, drinking 8 glasses of water per day, etc.) Set a 30 day goal based on your selection. Monitor and record your progress.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life L – Let Your Light Shine Everyday A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence serves as a beacon of light in a world that is often filled with darkness and uncertainty. When you Let Your Light Shine every day, you are offering a sense of clarity and guidance to others around you.

Light in its very essence penetrates darkness. It makes things that were formally not seen, visible to the naked eye.

Symbolically, light makes thoughts and ideas that were never even imagined, visible to the heart and soul of a woman. It ignites a clear vision in her that can direct her toward ascertaining her dreams.

When we allow that light that is created by our positive energy to radiate freely, we open the door to endless possibilities. Our light creates a clear path that can provide direction to a woman who is looking for a path to realize her dreams.

Our light draws people in so that they experience the benefits of our personal and professional resources. We then have the opportunity to use our talents and abilities to assist in the growth and development of another woman. This selfless act provides mutual benefit to us. When we provide light for others, the more clarity we receive in our own lives.

Day 13 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the necessity of letting your personal light shine.

What is the meaning of light from your perspective? What areas in your life help light the way for others? How do the women you look up to allow their lights to shine for you?

What can you do to be more like them?

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Use the space below to respond to the Day 13 reflection questions and to write a brief explanation of the call to action activity you’ve selected. Use additional space if needed. Share your SHEnercheers and your SHEnertears on facebook.com/SHEnergizedABCs or abc@shenergzied.com.

Call to Action: Charity begins at home. Think of a woman in your family who is presently struggling with a challenge. Give her a call and invite her to spend the day with you. Spend the day in activities that encourage quality time to talk. At the end of the day, present her with a copy of this book and invite her to take the journey with you.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life M – Make Every Moment Count A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence desires for her life to have meaning. She wants to involve herself in things and activities that represents who she is.

Making Every Moment Count leaves no room for ambiguity in our lives. There is little time to involve ourselves in meaningless tasks that do not move us in a positive direction.

We must consider the costs of every single decision we make.

Living our lives on purpose demands that we have a clear plan for our lives. It insists that we carefully consider all of the things that we involve ourselves in on a daily basis. When we truly dissect where we spend our time and energies, it becomes perfectly clear what is actually important to us.

Time is not promised to any of us, therefore we should not spend too much on frivolous activities that do not propel us toward ascertaining our personal victories in life.

Allocating time for meaningful activity is a fundamental element of success. Investing in our personal and professional development, providing loving care to our family and friends, and living every day realizing our maximum potential is how we Make Every Moment Count.

Day 14 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the importance of effective time management.

What are the most important factors in your life? How much time do you spend on the elements that you listed? Do you think you are making the best use of the time that has been allocated to you? How can you make better use of your time?

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Call to Action: Spend some quality time engaged in meaningful activity with each member of your family. A few suggestions include, a

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life N – Never Say I Can’t Living a life of pure and irrefutable confidence is the essence of a SHEnergized Woman of Excellence. She strives to live her life guided by affirmative assurance.

Our outlook determines our destiny. An optimistic point-ofview dictates positive outcomes in our lives. We have to be careful about the words that flow from our lips and the thoughts we welcome into our mind. When we tell ourselves we can’t, we have already written a story of defeat. Negativity creates despair and destruction. Positivity builds character and courage!

Every obstacle must be met with confident assurance of the victory, understanding first that victory comes in different forms. Accomplishing any goal that is set before us and overcoming any hurdle that is placed in our direct path is all determined by a positive and proactive state of mind.

There is no obstacle in life that is insurmountable for a dynamic team filled with women of excellence. Whatever we may not accomplish in life individually, surely we can conquer it together. SHEnergized Women of Excellence must Never Say I Can’t. We will be victorious!

Day 15 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the benefits of having a positive perspective on life. What type of story are you telling yourself about your current circumstance? Have you ever said the words I can’t about something in your life? How could you have changed that situation to an “I can” moment? What are you going to do, starting today, to be more proactively positive in your life?

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Call to Action: Reflect back on something you gave up on in life, because you said I cannot do this. Connect with another woman of excellence and ask her to help you accomplish this task.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life O – Overcome Your Obstacles Things that obstruct our paths and hinder our progress are certain. The question we must ask ourselves is how will I view and handle the inevitable? Establishing a positive and proactive perspective on life prepares us to embrace and overcome our obstacles.

Storms are a necessary and inevitable part of our world.

During a storm, plants and trees are receiving the valuable nutrients they need in order to grow and thrive. They are being watered. If we look at the obstacles in our life as storms that are integral to our personal development and renewal process, we have an entirely different outlook. We will find this obstacle as an opportunity to be watered and receive valuable nutrients, instead of simply just getting wet.

We must be willing to take on the good, as well as the bad in our life. Many times when the good is mixed together with the bad, there will be a positive end result. When you think of the ingredients needed to make a red velvet cake, it paints a vivid picture of this concept. The major ingredients are sugar, flour, chocolate, butter, salt, buttermilk and vinegar. Yes, vinegar! If you were to taste the bitter ingredients by the teaspoon the results would not be favorable, but eaten together as a delicious slice of red velvet cake is an entirely different taste altogether. Our outlook, determines our outcome.

Think of your life’s challenges as “red velvet cake moments.”

Day 16 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the way you view obstacles in your life. What are some of the current obstacles you are faced with? How can you now view them as “red velvet cake moments”?

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Call to Action: Do a google search for a red velvet cake recipe if you do not already have one. Bake the cake, enjoy the results.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life P – Put Your Best Foot Forward Putting Your Best Foot Forward brings a sense of order to the life of a SHEnergized Woman of Excellence. The word “put” is small, yet mighty. Put means to place in the charge of or to subject to the endurance of something, and to set things in order.

There is power in “Put.” When we Put our Best Foot Forward, we are taking charge and control of moving our life forward. Putting our Best Foot Forward indicates we will endure until our successful end. Our worldview is placed in order when we Put our Best Foot Forward.

We often spend an unnecessary amount of time, energy, and resources on things in the past that we no longer have any control over. We focus on situations and outcomes we cannot change no matter how much we want. Putting our Best Foot Forward inspires us to step in an onward and upward direction in our lives utilizing our personal excellence, leaving the past behind.

Learning from past mistakes is an important element to ensure life’s future successes, but living in the past hinders personal growth and development! A SHEnergized Women of Excellence leaves behind past missteps and proudly Puts her Best Foot Forward.

Day 17 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering moving your life forward with the power of “Put.” What are some of the mistakes from your past that you have been holding on to? How are you going to begin moving forward and releasing those things today? In what ways does the Power of “Put” work in your life?

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Call to Action: Let’s take a celebration pause. Go out and treat yourself to three new pairs of shoes. A running shoe, a comfortable pair of shoes you can stand up and work in all day, and finally a sexy pair of shoes to celebrate your womanhood. Be sure to take a sister friend shoe shopping with you. It does not matter if you purchase your shoes from Payless or Nine West, complete the activity. These shoes will always remind you to put your best foot forward.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Q – Quit Quitting A SHEnergized woman of Excellence seeks not to quit things that bring a positive end result to any aspect of her life. When you quit on your dreams and aspirations, you cease moving forward in life. When you cease moving forward in life, you become stagnant. When you become stagnant, you stop growing. When you stop growing, you start slowing. In your life, you are either “Growing” or “Slowing!”

Quitting ceases the growth process. Lessons learned from failure can propel our growth and lead to inevitable successes.

Failure and quitting are two different conditions, however many women use them synonymously. They use personal and professional failures as a reason and a rationale to quit. I vehemently disagree with this philosophy. When we fail, at least we have made an attempt. The failed outcome of that attempt can teach us the things we need to learn in order to launch forward into our next successful attempt. An attempt is ALWAYS successful. Little known fact, Thomas Edison failed over 2,000 times before he invented the light bulb.

We must never give-up or quit if we want to “Win” in the end and ascertain our desired results. All of us know the old, yet true, cliché, “Quitters never win!”

Day 18 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the “Attempts” you have made in your life. Have you ever experienced a failed outcome of a successful attempt you’ve made in your life? What did you learn from those successful attempts that ended in failed outcomes? Have you ever quit at something in your life that has left you longing?

What are you going to do about it?

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Call to Action: Think about the things you have quit in your life before completion. If it is feasible, select one of those things and go back to complete the task.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life R – Run this Race with Patience Running a Race with Patience may seem to be an oxymoron or contradictory in nature, yet it is a perfect arrangement. We must keep in mind that it is not about the destination, but the journey.

Running denotes moving with quick dispatch and haste to get where we are going. Practiced patience provides us with an even-tempered diligence that allows us to persevere until we get to our desired destination. Running a Race with Patience encourages us to move toward our life’s ambitions with rapid urgency, as well as, remaining diligent and assured no matter how long the journey takes.

Seeking to achieve our goals in life can be compared to running a race. If we want to win the race, we must constantly run. The speed and rate at which we travel may fluctuate.

Patience with ourselves, others, and the circumstances allows us to keep running until we reach the finish line, regardless of the speed.

Running and walking are two distinctive actions that garner different results. Many of us want to walk the race, but we need to reach within to extract the internal fortitude needed to run.

Day 19 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering your life as a race. In what ways do your life’s situations compare to running a race? At what rate of speed are you traveling towards the finish line? How does patience come in to play for you? Are you on a trajectory to finish the race?

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Call to Action: Sign up for a walk-a-thon or race for a cause in your local community with a team of your sister friends. Prepare for the race together and run the race as a team.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life S – Stand Strong Standing requires a SHEnergized Woman of excellence to be steady on her feet and in an upright position. When we Stand Strong, we exude resolve and determination.

In order to truly Stand Strong, a woman must be self-assured and unwavering in her beliefs. Before we can move forward in life, run a race, or do many of the crucial issues we’ve discussed thus far, a woman must first, stand!

Moral power, courage under fire, competency, and a vigorous spirit are all attributes of strength. A woman must carry these elements in her arsenal and, even more, in order to Stand Strong. Circumstances in life will call on us to utilize these character traits to traverse the difficulties that we will face at different stops along our journey.

We must not allow a lack of confidence, fear or disillusionment to hold us back from taking a stand on what we believe in. Standing represents an upright position. A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence does not have to bend down to be stepped on by anyone. We must remain true to our personal convictions in order to ever reach great rewards.

Stand Strong.

Day 20 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the attributes of strength. What are the attributes of strength that you carry in your arsenal? What are some of the strong personal convictions you have in life? How have those personal convictions shaped your current circumstance?

How are you going to enhance yourself as it relates to Standing Strong?

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Call to Action: Think about a social cause that is important to you as a woman in America. Conduct some personal research on the cause. Write a letter to a political official sharing your feelings.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life T – Trust Your Sister In order for a SHEnergized Women of Excellence to build mutually beneficial alliances, she must first Trust Her Sister.

Often times our individual issues cause us to not build trust relationships with one another, personal insecurities are a leading culprit. When a woman is confident and secure, she is not threatened by another like-minded woman of excellence.

This confidence allows her to align herself with women and build pathways to trust openly and effectively. A woman must be confident and whole within herself before she makes beneficial connections. Your strategic alliances with the right women should propel you towards your goals, not complete you as a woman.

Effective trust relationships allow women to move further in their businesses, careers and personal lives. Our relationships with other women can assist us with the obstacles we face or the challenges we encounter.

The minimal risks we take in order to trust a strategically selected like-minded woman of excellence is worth the amazing gain that the mutually-beneficial relationship can bring to our lives. A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence Trusts Her Sister.

Day 21 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the benefits of trust relationships. What personal issues stop you from building trust relationships with other women? How can trust relationships with other women of excellence benefit your life? What are some things that you will start doing in order to build more trust relationships?

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Call to Action: Think about an area in your life where you may need some professional development. Contact another woman of excellence and share your issue with her. Ask her to be your mentor and assist you with this issue.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life U – Use Your Talents Each of us has been gifted with talents, abilities and a skill-set blueprint that is uniquely ours. Every SHEnergized Woman of Excellence must know what it is that she actually brings to the table, before she can Use Her Talents.

We all have different talents and abilities that have a particular function in a business, family, or organization. In any of these units, each member has a particular role to play as it relates to their particular talent.

If that ability is not used at its best or excellence, the unit as a whole will suffer as a result of that talent being unfulfilled through the person of which it was given. We can hinder the growth and development of our families, our businesses, and our organizations when we fail to maximize our talents and abilities.

When we begin to spend more time honing in and perfecting our talents, we will fare better than coveting the talents of our sister. We will not all have the same talents in life. As a matter of fact, if we did, the world would be a very boring place to live. When we effectively Use Our Talents, we can make a positive impact on every aspect of our lives.

Day 22 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering your unique talents and abilities. What are your greatest talents and abilities? How do you use these attributes to advance your goals? Do you spend time perfecting your abilities? How can you be more effective in using your talents and abilities?

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Call to Action: Reflect on things that you are very good at or talents that you may have and are not using on a regular basis. Connect with some local women’s charity and volunteer your talent.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life V – Value Your Time The number of hours in a day, the number of minutes in an hour, and the number of seconds in a minute are all finite values. It is of supreme importance that a SHEnergized Woman of Excellence Values the Time she has been given each day while she lives and breathes and moves on this earth.

These finite increments are not promised to us, nor guaranteed to be at our disposal in the future. A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence must Value Her Time.

Since time is not promised to us, we must make the most of what we have. There is such limited time in a day to accomplish the plethora of things that are necessary in order for our families to run, our businesses to operate, or our lives to move forward. We must be creative in how we make the most of the time we have been given.

We need to know exactly how much our time is worth. When we spend time doing one thing, it is taking us away from doing something else. We need to be strategic in the things we give our time to. Time is a precious, treasured commodity that must be treated with great care and deference.

SHEnergized Women of Excellence Value Their Time and utilize it doing things that will advance their life’s mission.

Day 23 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering effective time management. Are you making the best use of the time you have been allocated? How do you spend your time each day? How would you describe the value of time in your life?

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Call to Action: Purchase a new day planner. Use it to track everything you do for a 7 day period. At the end of the 7 day period analyze your findings and make the necessary changes to make better use of your time.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life W – Work Until Your Work is Done Working Until Your Work is Done requires endurance, discipline, attentiveness and the list goes on and on. It requires your concerted effort, that’s why it is called work and not play. A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence must be a finisher and work until the task at hand is completed.

Work is exertion directed to produce or accomplish something. In order to achieve great things in our lives, we must be willing to put forth the effort and work. The more effort we exert at any task, the better the result.

When we put forth mediocre efforts, we will produce a mediocre business, a mediocre product, a mediocre family, a mediocre home; we will produce abject mediocrity. When you exert amazing effort, it will yield an amazing business, an amazing product, an amazing family, an amazing home; it yields absolutely amazing results.

We must work until the end for the things we say we want in life. No one is going to give it to us. We cannot stop short of our goals. It is essential to complete the task at hand. A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence realizes that she must be ready to roll up her sleeves and never tire. She must Work until Her Work is Done.

Day 24 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the need for an amazing work ethic. What type of work ethic do you have? What are some of the incomplete projects that you have in your life or business? How do you know when your work is done?

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Call to Action: Find a task or project that you have put aside for awhile.

Not quit, but just stop short of finishing what you started. Pick up where you left off and work until your work is done.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life X – X-Ray Your Own Lifestyle The biggest obstacle or challenge that most of us face in life is self-examination followed by corrective self-management. We will never truly understand how we need to improve who we are without true self-examination. A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence must X-ray Her Own Lifestyle.

Spending time in personal reflective meditation is a great first step in effective self-examination. This reflection is meaningless if we fail to understand who we are as a person.

Who we are as a person shapes and determines our actions in life. It dictates who we spend our time with, it dictates the places we go and it dictates how we treat others.

We must live lives that are in direct alignment to who we say we are. If we say we are honest, we must not deceive people.

In order to move forward, SHEnergized Women of Excellence need to take time to examine ourselves to see that we are living lives that measure up to the ideals and values we have as individuals. The focus should not be on someone else, we must be ready to X-Ray Our Own Lifestyles. Our personal improvements will make our home a better place to live and our job a better place to work. When we improve ourselves, we instantly improve our environment.

Day 25 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the need for personal self-examination. How would you describe your character? Do you live a life that is in keeping with your values? How often do you spend time in self-reflection and meditation? What are some of the things you can do to become more self-reflective?

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Call to Action: Write a checklist of ten improvements you want to make in your personal life and ten improvements you want to make in your professional life. Give the personal list to a family member that lives with you and give the professional list to someone who works with you. Have these people monitor you over the next 30 days and make comments on your list. At the end of thirty days, evaluate the results and make necessary changes to your life. Reward yourself for improvements. Give your helpers a gift card to their favorite store or restaurant.

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Y – Yearn to Achieve Your Goals and Ambitions A SHEnergized Woman of Excellence is earnestly moved by the things that she wants in life. She Yearns to Achieve Her Goals and Ambitions. Establishing goals that are in keeping with who we are as an individual, helps us create internal passion about our personal mission.

Passion fills you with an intense desire to achieve success.

When you yearn for something, you desire it so much that you feel it deep inside your soul.

Digging deep to tap into our inner desires can prove to be very beneficial in helping us find the energy and excitement to realize our dreams. Setting goals that we are passionate about is essential to our success.

Understanding what makes you tick helps you set achievable objectives that matter to your life. When you set a goal that you are passionate about, you will want it so badly that you can actually visualize yourself gaining that victory.

It is exceedingly difficult for a SHEnergized Woman of Excellence to Yearn to Achieve Her Goals and Ambitions, if it is something that she is not passionate about.

Day 26 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering your passion about the goals in your life? What are some of the things in life that you are passionate about?

Do you spend time each day working on those things? Are you excited about what you do every day? What are some things you can do to be more excited about your life?

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Call to Action: Sit down and spend some time reflecting upon how you have developed personally and professionally through this process. Write a letter to yourself that captures the essence of how you are feeling right now. The accomplishments you’ve made, the goals you’ve set, the SHEnertears you’ve shed, the SHEnercheers you’ve experienced and whatever comes to mind. Send two copies of the letter to me at 1650 Art Museum Drive, Suite 18. Jacksonville, Florida 32207. Be sure to include the two copies of the letter and a self addressed stamped envelope inside of the envelope. After thirty days, you will receive a certificate of completion from me.

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Z – Zealously be the Best SHEnergized Woman You Can Be It’s fitting that this journal closes reminding us of the need to live in our personal excellence. We are working to Zealously be the Best SHEnergized Woman of Excellence We Can Be. A zealous woman is enthusiastic, eager, and passionate. Her zeal permeates a room and leaves a lasting impression on all that she encounters. Her mere essence sets the tone in the environment when she walks into the room; she exudes diligence and devotion.

Apathy is in direct contrast to how a zealous woman lives her life. She cares about the things that she is involved in and it shows based on her devotion and commitment, seeking to live each moment at her very best, her optimal behavior.

We must strive to live each day according to our personal excellence, never settling for one moment of anything less than our best. Disappointments will happen, we will have hurdles to cross, and people will hurt us. These things should never diminish who we are or the quality at which we live our lives. We will always seek to Zealously be the Best SHEnergized Women of Excellence We Can Be. Day 27 Spend some time in thoughtful reflection and meditation considering the attributes of zeal. How would you describe a zealous woman? How can more zeal positively affect your life? How are you going to Zealously be the most SHEnergized Woman of Excellence You Can Be? What has going through this journey meant for your life? How do you feel about the progress you have made?

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Call to Action: Kudos to you for investing your time and energies into understanding how to implement the lifestyle behind the letters. Reward yourself for completing this process and share the reward with another woman of excellence. Have a spa date, get a manicure and pedicure, dressup and have a fine dining experience, or go on a girlfriend’s weekend retreat. Whatever you choose, use your imagination and have a blast!

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Day 28 Review the commentary and your personal reflections on letters A – G. Write a personal goal for your life as it relates to the directions given for each letter: A Accept the challenge B Be your best C Combine your words into actions D Dedicate your life to your dreams E Expect little if you give little F Feel good about yourself G Get going __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Day 28 Review the commentary and your personal reflections on letters H – N. Write a personal goal for your life as it relates to the directions giving for each letter: H Have a helping hand I Inspire somebody J Join the Team K Keep on keeping on L Let your light shine everyday M Make every moment count N Never say I can’t __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Day 29 Review the commentary and your personal reflections on letters O – U. Write a personal goal for your life as it relates to the directions giving for each letter: O Overcome your obstacles P Put your best foot forward Q Quit quitting R Run this race with patience S Stand strong T Trust in your sister U Use your talents __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life Day 30 Review the commentary and your personal reflections on letters V – Z. Write a personal goal for your life as it relates to the directions giving for each letter: V Value your time W Work until your work is done X X-ray your lifestyle Y Yearn to achieve your goals and ambitions Z Zealously be the best SHEnegized Woman you can be __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________

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ABCs of a SHEnergized Life About the Author Roxy Hall has been motivating women across the country into action for over twenty years. She infuses high energy, real world experiences, and impacting communication skills together to create a perfect style to reach and lead women toward excellence. She helps women turn passion into action.

Roxy has extensive experience in communications, organizational development, corporate training, educational leadership, and small business consulting.

She has experienced great trials and great success in many areas of her life. Roxy uses these experiences to show women that with faith, diligence, hard work and tenacity they can accomplish their personal, professional, and spiritual goals no matter how difficult the circumstance.

Roxy Hall is available to provide keynote presentations, training workshops and motivational messages for women’s events, organizations, churches, youth groups, small businesses, network marketing teams and more.

To book Roxy for a speaking engagement, send a request to kdixon@eventsbyvsc.com or visit SHEnergized.com to request a press kit.

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