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Before you start celebrating the win of your favorite team, JIM ALRED says that you had better wait until the “W” is in the bag. V3 Magazine welcomes MONICA SHEPPARD to the fold and she hopes to encourage more women to put down the Tab and live a life of strength and purpose.
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our first home with the intention, barring a major life event, of it being our last. We wanted to skip the starter home and find something we could grow into, but we also didn’t want it to be a remodeling project. That last part was extremely important because I am not the do-it-yourself husband. My limited tools are unorganized and my knowledge of how to use them doesn’t help when I can find the ones I need. So we bought a house that, O W N E R & C E O Ian Griffin while not exactly as we would have done it, had been revamped to our liking. For a little over five years it has held up quite well. Considering the three children and two dogs that reside there it’s held up remarkably well…other than the white carpet that is. White carpet…I’ve often asked myself why? Why would anyone put down white carpet in a home suited for a family? Fair question… and one we asked ourselves upon our first tour of the then vacant property, but unanimously decided to overlook the awaiting disaster because we could always change the flooring down the road. That is where the Griffin Family is today. It’s time for updates. Flooring, paint and a few other items have to be taken care of and preparing for those renovations has led to the our version of “The Purge.” No, we won’t be taking part in a 24-hour lawless killing spree designed to decrease crime in America, but the process might be more painstaking than that when it’s all said and done. When we started to access the changes we wanted to make we realized just how much stuff we have accrued in five years and diving deeper, just how much stuff we both had held on to, mostly for reasons unknown, for much longer than that. We vowed that before we started the work, we let go of anything that we didn’t absolutely love or need…like the first suit my parents bought for me my senior year of high school. That ensemble is the perfect example of the kind of things we all hold on to that when you really think about it, are just taking up space. It’s dated, doesn’t fit but is still in good enough condition for someone to actually wear and enjoy. I just horded it for sentimental reasons, but when I put it in the donation bin, it was quite liberating. The purging process is still in progress as of our press date for this issue, as we go room by room, closet by closet and box by box in order to sell donate or recycle these items we no longer need or want. It’s tedious, but therapeutic in many ways as we unearth old pictures, letters and other treasures that were put into safe keeping for a reason. Other items leave us scratching our heads as to why they weren’t thrown out years ago. It’s inadvertently attached me to the renovation project as well, connecting the changes being made to our home with this release of belongings. This rummage and removal has helped me to feel a little do-it-yourself pride in making our home a little more “us” with a little less stuff.
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DON’T SAY IT. Don’t you dare say it. Because the minute you do, the second you put those words out into the universe, I guarantee you they will come back to haunt you. A few years ago when Ohio State toppled Alabama in the college football national semifinals, I penned a column wondering if Bama’s coach, Nick Saban, might be fading while the Buckeyes’ Urban Meyer might be on the rise.
Four years later, Saban has added two more national titles, while Meyer has added none and has left coaching again. I guess I was less than prescient. But I also knew better. It’s why when a certain publisher of a local magazine kept telling me the Rome Wolves would definitely win a third-straight state title, I shook my head. Not because I didn’t think the Wolves capable, but because I’ve seen so many great teams get tangled up along the way. I wasn’t happy that Warner Robbins knocked the Wolves off, but I wasn’t surprised either. More than a few pundits began throwing around the greatest ever tag for this year’s Alabama football team. I cringed, and I didn’t agree. I thought they were great but not the best ever. Clemson agreed with me, as they manhandled the Tide in the national title game. But before anyone says this loss might mark the beginning of the end of the Alabama dynasty and the start or continuation of Clemson’s - hold your tongue. One game doesn’t spell doom or disaster, but it can be a signpost along the way. For some reason we have to keep anointing teams as the best ever and predicting when the teams on top will begin to fall. I continue to wait for the Patriots’ run in the NFL to falter, but I’ll be nice and not mention a certain Super Bowl a couple of years ago where we all thought it finally happened. I can’t stop laughing at pundits and ultimate fighting fans who seem to have the never-ending penchant for throwing around the term greatest ever. Few years ago, they put Ronda Rousey on that pedestal. She fell hard after two jaw-dropping losses. In fact, I could put a long list of MMA fighters who at one time got the label.
We’ve seen the same thing in boxing. Legendary fighter Mike Tyson looked unbeatable for several years dismantling foes with reckless abandon. And then a guy named Buster Douglas pounced. Tyson never recovered. Sometimes injuries on and off-the-field, or in this case course, issues take an athlete down. Tiger Woods had a stretch where he seemed to win almost every tournament he entered and even had a long string of victories where if he entered Sunday with the lead, he didn’t lose. Then his body began failing him and his poor life choices caught up with him. Woods will still go down as one of the bests of all time, but he doesn’t have the same lofty spot most predicted a few years ago. Don’t even get me started on performance enhancing drugs, which have also crashed a few careers. I loved watching and rooting for Lance Armstrong as he was collecting yellow jerseys in France. I even woke up early during the summer to be able to watch his rides live and celebrated and cheered as he passed rider after rider and seemed to be truly inhuman with his efforts. Turned out he was. Armstrong cheated every which way he could to win those events. Maybe he is the greatest cyclist of all time, but that comes with one heck of an asterisk considering all of his titles came with a heavy dose of pharmacology on the side. Growing up, I idolized Bo Jackson. I followed his every exploit and cheered along as he performed remarkable feat after remarkable feat at Auburn, with the Kansas City Royals and with the Oakland Raiders. I still think he is the greatest all-around athlete of all time. But a freak hip injury robbed him of his world-class speed and the chance to have a long career in professional sports. It applies for teams as well.
The minute you say your team is unbeatable something happens. A way-too-late pass interference call robs Miami of a second-straight national title after some started giving them the best-ever tag. Maybe your field goal kicker misses on the final second of the game only to have your archrival grab the errant ball return it 100 yards for the gamewining touchdown halting the chance at a national title three-peat. You knew I was waiting for it. Perhaps your vaunted gold medal winning machine of a hockey team runs into a crew of plucky collegiate kids from the United States and somebody forgot to let them know they were supposed to lay down and lose instead of manufacturing one of the greatest upsets in Olympic history. Or maybe you’re celebrating your team about to clinch a spot in the World Series only to watch a back-up player lash a picture-perfect single to left field and the slowest man on the opposing baseball team go from first to home and beat the throw by inches. Take a cue from Arthur Blank who refused to begin heading to the field until the final minutes of Atlanta United’s championship game. He had left his box in the third quarter of the Super Bowl with his Falcons holding a big lead and we all now how that ended. So save the talk of best ever, hold on to the celebrations until the clock runs out and never, ever say a certain team, coach, players or dynasty is through, because the minute you do the universe hears you and it’s ready to prove you wrong, often times in the most excruciating way possible. *The views expressed in this column are those of the writer, and do not represent the opinions of V3 Magazine.
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IMAGINE THE TINKLING of harp strings, a beautiful young woman frolicking through a bucolic lawn or giggling with her little girl. A saccharin-sweet voice begins to sing the lines above, then the gentle voice of a man speaks them, cajoling you to understand just how important it is for you to stick in his mind as you see a man at his desk, closing his eyes because he can’t help but think of his well-shaped woman at home. Doesn’t it make you want to drink a Tab, girlfriend? This was an actual commercial from the 1960s, though it feels straight out of a scene from Mad Men. You know how it goes, they’ve just screened the prototype of the commercial for the client and Peggy Olsen, the token woman in the room is asked, “So, Peggy, does that make you want to drink Tab?” While Peggy struggles through her own inner conflict about how to answer, all the men at the table are thinking about how perfectly it depicts Don Draper’s wife, Betty, the lucky duck. “Why can’t my wife be more like her?” they are thinking. Cue the harp trills to the present day and, “Whew!” Aren’t we glad we’ve grown beyond that way of thinking? Ok, ladies, we know that we are still inundated with cues to perfect ourselves: diets, diet drinks, hair products, magical skin elixirs, fitness regimens, “medical” interventions and so on. But we have at least reached the point that
we can feel free to be whatever shape we want to be, and our friends and significant others will generally (hopefully) support us in that truth. So, what is it that makes a woman “mind-sticking” today? When my daughter was born, I knew that job number one for me, as her mother, was to teach her to feel strong and confident in herself, regardless of the myriad of perspectives I knew would surround her. We were ravenous readers and I was constantly searching for children’s books with strong female characters. “The Paper Bag Princess” by Robert Munsch, in which the princess rejects the prince she is betrothed to marry when he insults her paper bag attire after she goes to great lengths to rescue him from the dragon, was one of our favorites. As was “Miss Rumphius” by Barbara Cooney, which tells the story of a woman who lives out her childhood goal to travel the world, live in a house by the sea, and do something to make the world more beautiful. But, our favorite one of all was “O’Sullivan Stew” by Hudson Talbott. Kate O’Sullivan is a clever and spunky young girl who lives with her father and brothers in the village of Crookhaven in Ireland. When the king’s guards take the local witch’s beautiful stallion to cover her taxes, none of the villagers come to her aid, as they find her to be a little odd. In her rage she curses the town to horrible circumstances, so Kate decides that she must travel
to the kingdom to get the horse back and save her village. She ends up imprisoned by the king, along with her father and brothers, and offers to tell the king tremendous stories of grand adventure in exchange for releasing each of them. The king is captivated by her tales, as is the reader, and in the end he falls in love with her, releases them all and escorts them back to Crookhaven along with the beautiful stallion. The witch gives her the stallion in gratitude, and when the king asks her to marry him, Kate tells him she might do that but first she must see the world on her new steed, and she rides off into the sunset. Something tells me that she stuck in his mind, and the minds of her neighbors, for a long time to come, and it had nothing to do with her shape. These were the kinds of women that I wanted to be, and the kinds of women that I wanted my daughter to emulate. I had done my share of adventuring before she came along, mind you. With her father, I had hiked most of the Appalachian Trail and traveled the length of the Chattahoochee and Apalachicola Rivers, from the spring to the ocean, by canoe. And we even took her, at the age of three, on a monthlong journey following the Etowah River from its source to its end where it joins with the Oostanaula River in the heart of Rome to form the Coosa River. By the end of the trip she knew how to sleep in the woods, how to bail rainwater from the canoe as we
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ALKING INTO THE store, Olive Tree and Vine (26 West Main Street, Cartersville) feels like stepping into a specialty shop from a small village in the U.K. It’s a hidden gem of the city that offers world-class liquid consumables in a homegrown, Southern way. The warm wood tones of the interior are contrasted nicely with the sleek metal olive oil and vinegar depositories in the front of the shop. In the back, oversized leather furniture and tables invite guests to not only peruse the merchandise, but also sit, reflect and even enjoy a weekly wine and cheese tasting, hosted every Friday and Saturday night by the store’s founders and owners, Mark and Jennifer Smith. The idea for Olive Tree and Vine first began for the Smiths in 2014, as the couple began to brainstorm ideas to own a small, local business. Originally a Construction Manager for AT&T and a stay-at-home-mom respectively, Mark and Jennifer always shared an entrepreneurial desire. They even tried their hand at selling beauty products, but discovered that type of shop was not for them.
That’s when, in August of 2014, while discussing what could come next for their family, the Smiths discovered an olive oil and vinegar store in Woodstock that inspired them to create their own shop, Olive Tree and Vine. Their first location was in West Cobb, but after three years, and opening a second location in Cartersville, they decided to close the West Cobb store and focus solely on their Cartersville location. “I don’t want people to think I’m crazy, but [the decision to start a shop in Cartersville] was a feeling that I had. One November morning the Lord said, ‘Go to Cartersville,” and I found this location on that same day. And within a few days, we got in touch with the owners and decided to expand our oil and vinegar store to Cartersville,” says Mark. “You know, on this side of Highway 75 there’s not really an olive oil and vinegar store like this. So we are the only shop that serves Marietta and Cartersville.” The move to Cartersville and the following decision to focus solely on this location proved to be the best choice for the Smiths. With extra virgin olive oil from Chile and specialty balsamic vinegars from Modena, Italy (and other locations depending on which hemisphere has the freshest produce at the time) Olive Tree and Vine has established themselves for housing world class oils and vinegars.
Our wine tastings offer a social event where people can meet, chat and connect with our community. So that’s why we do this. We want to support the community. Specifically, there are over 50 selections of vinegars and both fused and infused olive oils. The difference between the oils is subtle but distinct. Infused means added to while fused means crushed with. This means that infused oils have fruits and flavors added to it, while fused oils have had the olives literally crushed with the added fruits and flavors.
After such success with their olive oil and vinegar department, and with a space over 150 feet deep, in 2016 the Smiths expanded their business to also sell over 100 different wines and something more surprising, coffee. The back wall of Olive Tree and Vine leads visitors to explore further, with a lighted sign leading the way to a coffee shop. This coffee shop is Southern Muggs, affectionately known to the regulars as “Smuggs,” providing patrons with a full-service coffee and pastry experience. “We sell coffee, olive oil, vinegar and wine. As a small business, we're not just one thing; we’ve found more success being unique and diversified,” explains Mark. Two things that are consistent through all of their products are clear: the quality of the products and the efforts to find products that are locally produced whenever possible. In Smuggs, the coffee is fresh from Cool Beans Coffee Roasters in Marietta and the pies, quiches and handmade New York bagels sold are also locally produced. Olive Tree and Vine sells local honey and jams from Jake’s Produce off Highway 20, and is an exclusive distributor for Big Door Vineyards’ wines 24
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and Brushes,” a ladies event that involves painting wine glasses while sipping delicious wine. As for what is coming next, the Smiths are already in the process of expanding their liquid consumables to include craft beer, starting in March of 2019, with the goal of reaching more people in their community. “It’s the coolest shop in Bartow County,” says Jennifer with a satisfied smile. “Our goal is to make everyone feel welcome and at home.” “And I think what sets us apart is our quality. We have the finest olive oil and vinegar, some of the finest wines and the finest coffee you can get locally. That, coupled with our innate desire to be hospitable is what makes us special,” says Mark. “This is our living room,” he continues. “We invite people into our living room every single week to join us for wine tasting and to just be part of the community. So if you want to experience true Southern hospitality, come to Olive Tree and Vine in Cartersville.” JENNIFER AND MARK SMITH
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E ALL KNOW that the heart is a very important organ. Essentially, the heart is what keeps us alive by serving as the engine behind a complex delivery system: our bodies. Someone even thought the heart was important enough to dedicate an entire month to the awareness of its health, as February is also known as American Heart Month. Here in Rome, we are fortunate enough to have several of the best heart care facilities and knowledgeable physicians who educate themselves about the latest treatment options in cardiac medicine. For an area of practice that is vital to ensuring we have a healthy and thriving community, it is great to know our physicians take extra special care of the patients they serve. One of Rome’s most celebrated cardiothoracic surgeons has made it his life-long duty to serve the residents of Floyd County and beyond in order to keep their motor running smoothly and efficiently. Dr. Daniel Goldfaden, Physician at Harbin Clinic and Cardiothoracic Surgeon at Redmond Regional Medical Center has been fine tuning this vital muscle for patients in Rome since the very beginning, totaling almost 32 years. Born in 1951 in Detroit, Mich., Dr. Goldfaden knew the only thing he wouldn’t grow up to be was a doctor. “Growing up, my dad was a general practitioner,” explains Dr. Goldfaden. “He had been in WWII as a pharmacist. He enlisted as a private but ended up loving medicine instead. When he got out, he went back to medical school and transitioned into general practice where he delivered babies, performed minor surgery, saw patients in the office, etc.” Watching his father spend long nights at the office, having little to no free time and witnessing just how hard he had to work, he decided that was not the path he would like to pursue. “When I went to college, I knew the only thing I wouldn’t do was medicine. That was not for me,” says Dr. Goldfaden. Of course, things change. “By the time I got to my third year of college, I decided that medicine was the best option for me. I completely flip flopped,” laughs Dr. Goldfaden. Dr. Goldfaden attended the University of Michigan for undergraduate, which is also where he completed medical school a few more years down the road. Unlike his decision to not study medicine, he knew as soon as he entered medical school that he wanted to study cardiology. “When I got into medical school, I already kind of knew and had somewhat of an interest in cardiac medicine,” says Dr. Goldfaden. “I focused mainly on cardiology and cardiac surgery and applied to both FEBRUARY 2019
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“I still wasn’t convinced, but I decided to travel down to Rome again, and this time they kind of put the full-court press on. I also brought my wife down with me. She fell in love with the town, and essentially decided we were moving here. That was in 1986.”
programs because I wasn’t sure if I wanted to practice internal medicine or surgery. “I ended up really liking the surgery aspects of cardiology and next thing I knew, seven years later, I had finished my training,” says Dr. Goldfaden. During his residency, Dr. Goldfaden met John Kirkland, who was from Rome and who was doing his Surgery Residency at the University of Michigan as well. “Dr. Kirkland had become a great friend of mine, even taking care of me when I had appendicitis,” explains Dr. Goldfaden. “We got to know each other pretty well. “When I was training, I was planning on going into academic medicine and practice at a University Hospital someplace, whether it be Michigan or another school,” continues Dr. Goldfaden. “The year I was finishing my training, Dr. Kirkland 32
moved to Rome to start the vascular surgery program. He and the hospital had spearheaded an effort to get a cardiac surgery program started here, and he wanted to know if I would be interested in moving. I remember saying, ‘Not me, I’m going into academics.’ But, as a favor to him, I went ahead and visited Rome, and was pleasantly surprised.” For a small town in the South which, according to Dr. Goldfaden, “was probably the last place on earth I would ever move to,” he really loved Rome. What peaked his interest further was the great medical community that already existed, even in 1984. “Even though I liked the town a lot, I didn’t do it. There were too many things that, at the time, I didn’t
want to give up, so I ended up moving to Chicago, Illinois at the University of Illinois at Chicago where I started academic practice for around two years,” says Dr. Goldfaden. Even though Dr. Goldfaden turned down the initial offer, his love for cardiology and wanting to see a program flourish and thrive pushed him to help come up with plans for the vascular surgery unit in Rome such as, how to set up the operating room, what equipment to purchase, medical guidelines and more. While working in Chicago, Dr. Goldfaden got a call from Dr. Kirkland about the certificate of need from the state, and how it did not come through as they had hoped it would. They received the certificate two years later, prompting Dr. Kirkland to call Dr. Goldfaden and see if he was dead set on academia. “‘Are you interested?’” Dr. Goldfaden remembers being asked by his good friend and mentor. “I still wasn’t convinced, but I decided to travel down to Rome again, and this time they kind of put the full-court press on,” jokes Dr. Goldfaden. “I also brought my wife down with me. She fell in love with the town, and essentially decided we were moving here. That was in 1986,” says Dr. Goldfaden. When he and his family moved to Rome, he was working at Redmond performing heart surgeries by himself. “At first, I wasn’t exactly sure how much practice there would be here,” explains Dr. Goldfaden. “I thought if we did at least 100 cases a year, that would be enough to make a pretty good living. The first year, we started off in around October or November and within a couple months, I was doing around five or six cases a week. That was way more than I expected. That amount of work would put me at about 200 to 250 cases a year,” recalls Dr. Goldfaden. Because of the surprising work load, he started looking for a partner pretty quickly. “I hired my first partner after a year and then our third about three years after that; so, it has been about three of us since the beginning,” explains Dr. Goldfaden. At Redmond, Dr. Goldfaden and his team do about 450 open heart surgeries a year. They also do general thoracic cases, pulmonary/ lung cases and some trauma cases as well. And if you count those, the number rises closer to 700-750. “It’s a demanding schedule,” says Dr. Goldfaden, “but it’s a field where you can really help people, so it’s worth it. “Cardiac surgery is a lot of plumbing and mechanical things that you can fix or replace. It’s a gratifying specialty, and even to this day, I still enjoy it. I love my patients and the fact that it is intellectually challenging, and rewarding is great. But it’s a lot of work,” smiles Dr. Goldfaden when talking about his day-to-day. As one can bet, Dr. Goldfaden’s schedule doesn’t differ much from his father’s, which perhaps comes along with being a doctor of any sort. Between the
three cardiac surgeons, Dr. Goldfaden and his team have to cover 365 days a year, therefore leaving one of them on call for 24 hours every third day, year in and year out, which is a big-time commitment. “Most days, I am in the hospital around 6:30 or 7:00 a.m. doing my rounds on my patients who are in the ICU (Intensive Care Unit),” explains Dr. Goldfaden. “I then go to the operating room. Most heart operations take about four to five hours. If I do two a day, that’s eight hours in surgery, plus doing rounds and everything else added. It tends to be long days, so you’re looking at 12 to 16 hours per day.” Even though medicine has changed dramatically in the 32 years that Dr. Goldfaden has practiced in Rome, the one thing that hasn’t changed is his love for the heart.
“Nothing in life is perfect, and there are somethings that you miss working as much as I do. However, it has been a great specialty and Rome has been a great place to raise a family, has a great medical community, good support from the community and hospitals and more,” says Dr. Goldfaden. “I wouldn’t change anything.” In fact, his most successful memory is simply being a part of the whole cardiology/ cardiac surgery practice at Redmond and simply keeping it going for thirty-plus years. “There are a lot of small towns that have started programs like ours and haven’t succeeded,” says Dr. Goldfaden. “We have kept this place going and have remained state-of-the-art for thirty years. I think that is my most successful feat. And it’s not just me, it’s
the whole team. Just being a part of it is rewarding.” In his spare time, Dr. Goldfaden and his wife love to bike. “During the summer, we usually go out three of four times a week and ride around 10 to 12 miles. We also love to hike. Of course, raising three kids was another job, but now have grandkids that we get to enjoy,” smiles Dr. Goldfaden. Northwest Georgia is very lucky to have a family member and friend like Dr. Daniel Goldfaden. This month, lets join in on the celebration of all doctors who deal in matters of the heart and their love for the place they have called home for so long.
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Bill Collins, now Mayor Bill Collins, will tell you, “I just want to be me.” “I can walk into my meetings with my uniform shirt on. That’s me. I can dress up and sit with foreign consulates or governors of the United States. I have been in all of those lights and I’m still going to be ole Bill.” Mayor Collins has seen a lot, been through a lot and has experienced a lot, and there is a difference between what people have experienced and what they have been through. “At times I sit back and think, God what are you really doing here? Because I find myself not caring what man thinks about where I am, as I know you have to have the proper etiquette to even be in the room. So, I adjust to what’s natural for myself, while keeping etiquette in mind, and know when to do what I need to do.” Being appointed as Mayor of the City of Rome is a historic accomplishment for Mayor Bill Collins who has dedicated his professional career to service. Hearing him recall his beginnings, we are able to see just how far we all have come, while also being thankful for those who have paved the way. V3: What is your connection to Rome and Floyd County? If you spent your younger
years here, can you talk about your experiences with education, community leadership, etc.? Bill Collins: I graduated a Chieftain of West Rome High School in 1974. While in high school, I was in a program that allowed me to attend the Coosa Valley Technical College and I spent some time welding, as well as in the machine shop. Some of my greatest educational experiences came when I was 13 years old. I worked in a fish market and a gentleman told me that he wanted to teach me how to have common courtesy. That included how to conduct a proper handshake, how to speak clearly and looking people eye to eye. He said I needed all of these skills, as I would be making the move to a new position on the job (working the cash register). That training has always stuck with me.
V3: When starting your business, can you discuss some of the things you encountered and how you overcame adversity? BC: Before ever starting a business, I had jobs that paid well. At one of the jobs, UPS, I improved the way the company handled packages by speeding the process up. I also worked for an automotive plant. I was making my way up through the automotive company when a lay-off happened. One of my brothers had a car detailing shop in Ohio and I went up to work with him. I had met my wife, Faith, at this time but we were not married yet. I asked her to rendezvous up North with me and she said she would. A short time later we left and quickly realized the North was not for us. Man, it was cold! (laughs) Thanksgiving came and her parents came up to visit. I asked her dad for her hand in marriage, and he agreed on the condition: he wanted us to come back to Rome and work in his family business. I almost shook his arm off for that offer and back to Rome I came, with a fiancé and some knowledge of the car detailing business. A little later, my brother in Birmingham,
Alabama asked me to come down and take a look at his business working in the beautification of automobiles, so that he could train and teach me the business. It was a one-bay operation. I took him up on an offer to join him permanently and I moved to Birmingham. My wife came a little later and found a job at a bank. We were there a year, developing the business and again, I found myself ready to come back home to Rome. I wanted my kids to grow up around their grandparents. We moved back to Rome in 1979 with our first born, a son. I found a small shop to start my own car detailing business. It was a slow roll at first. I sat for days with little or no cars. Then an opportunity arose. Another shop had made a mistake with a dealership’s vehicle and I was given the opportunity to show what we could do. After capitalizing on that single opportunity, it blossomed into a business of cleaning multiple cars. We had to expand because we outgrew our first location and many other locations after it. We finally settled in to our current location.
Rome City Commission and they wanted to know if they could have my blessing to place my name in the pot of candidates being considered for appointment. An appointment only lasts two to three months and you then must run for election. I agreed to place my name in the pot. In my head, I wouldn’t be chosen for appointment anyway. The Commission met and I was a unanimous selection. From that day forward, I have been involved in city government, laws and helping this community. I had another mentor, the first elected black commissioner in the City of Rome,
they read me right that time, because that’s me. I take great pride in striving to be treated like anyone else. If I treat you right, I wanted to be treated right. That is what I call treating all people with respect. V3: Why did you choose the political arena to try and bring about positive change for Rome and Floyd County? BC: It was and, in some ways, still needed. For example, the parks in the city’s challenged areas were not up par with the county parks. Young people, children, were playing in these parks. Youth players and coaches in the city were practicing on these downtrodden and overlooked parks. All the while, the county parks were nicer and well-maintained. They had water fountains, restrooms, well-manicured grass and even lined parking lots. I went and took pictures of the differences and informed the commission that the city’s tax payers would like similar facilities to those of the county. We finally got it done, with the biggest improvement coming to Banty Jones Park. It has new equipment for the kids to play on, restrooms, mulch, a lined off parking lot with handicapped spots and a covered basketball court. Other city parks have also seen improvement. We fought to have more African Americans in the police and fire departments, and we now have more than ever, including the Rome City Police Department being led by an African American as Chief of Police. The fire department has also had an African American Fire Battalion Chief. Doors have been opened and I hope I played a small part in making it happen. While I’d never beat my own chest, I owe all of my opportunities to help others to God and his infinite wisdom.
“Some people were in my ear about getting into politics and I was very hesitant. I felt as a business owner, I didn’t want to make decisions that could make someone not so happy with me or uncomfortable with me.”
V3: Who are some of the people who were influential to your development as a business owner, a community leader and a politician? BC: One was Mr. Grizzard. Some people were in my ear about getting into politics and I was very hesitant. I felt as a business owner, I didn’t want to make decisions that could make someone not so happy with me or uncomfortable with me. Unhappy people would hurt my business. I shared that sentiment with Mr. Grizzard, who had himself grown a huge business and was serving the community here in Rome and Floyd County in many ways, including helping out with educational programs in the public and private school sectors. He had a vast amount of knowledge. He said to me, “Look, I hear and understand what you are saying about upsetting people and whatnot, but have you considered what you can do for your people and the community as a whole? Have you considered how many people would be glad that you are doing it?” After those words I gave it some strong thought. I did continue to struggle with making the final decision to throw my name into the hat to be elected, so the Final Decision Maker, God, didn’t leave it up to me any longer. There was a knock at my door, and I was informed that there was a new opening on the 40
Mr. Napoleon Fielder. I also had another mentor who was a white gentleman, Mr. George Pullen. George would take me around and teach me all about the city. Once I had been on the Commission for a couple of months, I got wind of a conversation where Mr. Pullen had said, “I would have thought that (Bill) would have gotten on this Commission because of the support of people of color. But with this man, color makes no difference. He appears to be for what is fair for all people. What’s good for you is what’s good for me and good for him too.” I chuckled to myself;
V3: Looking back, did you ever imagine that you would be the Mayor of Rome and Floyd County? BC: I know that, regardless of race, I’m no better than anyone and they’re no better than me. If you put yourself in a position to receive an opportunity, you should receive that opportunity. I feel like that’s exactly what happened in my journey of becoming Mayor of Rome. Over the course of my 22 years on this commission, it hasn’t been all roses. I remember times when we’d travel as a group and some of the commissioners were drinking out of fine china at
their hotel and Mrs. Collins and I were drinking out of Styrofoam cups at ours. As a Black freshman commissioner, I realized a few things. You can’t be afraid to realize that change takes time. Then, you can’t be afraid to speak up. There was an instance when I called the city manager and asked for directions to their hotel because we had different accommodations. He gave me the address, we took a cab over there and hotel staff was at the door to greet us with our very own accommodations at that hotel. A lot of people don’t have a clue that things like that were happening, but they were. There were settings where I was the only Black person there and arguing for change. Changes, much like the hiring practices in our police and fire departments, were ones I wanted to make in our city. Fighting for those changes weren’t easy. I was asked questions like, “Bill, what do you want to do, put them there because they’re Black?” I would respond with, “No, I don’t. But let’s not disregard the fact that there are qualified people applying for these positions.” We started placing ads in other communities announcing employment opportunities in Rome City and sent our people to their job and recruiting fairs. Because of my position, I always have and always will continue working for things to get better. Slowly, it’s improving and I do believe that eventually we will get to where we are trying to go. City Commissioners have the opportunity to get training through the Georgia Municipal Association and I have been attending for years, using that training to help this community. I have achieved the Distinguished Award from the Association, which is one of the Highest Awards you can receive. I have had to watch counterparts, not of my race, come and sit on the bench as Mayor after having served three or so years while I’ve served 15-plus years, and that did not feel good. That’s how it was for me for a long time. Becoming Mayor of this city, after all these years, did not come easy. It was a split vote, a 5-4 vote, but we finally go over that hump.
to happen. I understand that my colleagues have come to accept that, yes, he’s the Mayor now. We want to ensure our team continues to make our city be as great as it can be. V3: How does it feel to be a part of this historical appointment by the citizens and leadership of Rome and Floyd County? BC: I feel as though the start of my term as Mayor is getting off to a great start. I’ve had so many people of all races come to shake my hand and congratulate
you one way or the other, that’s what politics is all about. I mean there were situations right up to my vote being used to try to change things. For myself, there’s really no shame in my game. I just let people know that I’m seeing right through the surface and I’m trying my best to reason. It is all about the blood and muscle. People should always remember this is me, Bill, that you’re talking to and I try to lay things on the line from a true perspective. I don’t want people handing me something if that’s not really what you’re thinking or really what you hope to accomplish. I want them to know that they can talk to me and share with me, so I can share with them what my real thoughts are about the subject. And then, when my wife and I go home in the evening, and eat our supper, we don’t even talk about work. I get a cold drink and watch Andy Griffith and she watches her westerns. I watch some news and some sports, but realizing life is so short, I want to enjoy my time. I don’t even have a computer in my office. I’m a manual guy. You can email me and some days I’ll see it. Other days I’ll have three hundred to a thousand to be sorted through. If a conversation is important enough, it will definitely find me.
“I chuckled to myself; they read me right that time, because that’s me. I take great pride in striving to be treated like anyone else. If I treat you right, I wanted to be treated right. That is what I call treating all people with respect.”
V3: What are some of the goals you have set for our community under your leadership? BC: I want to lead in the fairest manner. I want to be as smart as I can in making positive change continue
me, and tell me how proud it made them. I sat for a picture with a young lady on her 100th birthday, and that made me feel so good. It’s an honor to be the Mayor of this great city. V3: How do you continue to rise above the ugliness sometimes associated with politics and maintain your integrity? BC: You have to realize in politics that it’s not all roses. If people can find an angle to use, and sway
V3: What keeps you motivated to continue to serve the citizens of Rome and Floyd County and offer your leadership? BC: More than anything, it’s not about Bill. Even in becoming Mayor of this city is not about Bill. Not at all. What I take from the people I’m consulting with and talking to is that, it’s not only a great opportunity and an honor, but an inspiration to our young African-American boys that are coming up through the school system. Also to the Latino boys in the community, the Caucasian boys in our community, and all of our children. If they had to read my history they would know I came from a place up in Fourth Ward, that’s not from the historically influential places in this city, and that I’m just an ole boy who believes in fairness and that what’s right for one should be right for the other. I just want to help them to become better and I just want to lend a helping hand. That’s where I come from.
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N SUNDAY NIGHTS, 24 weeks out of the year, Terry and Theta Shank pack their suitcases and move into The Normandy Inn at WinShape Retreat (located on the Mountain Campus of Berry College) to welcome couples for a week of intensive counseling and renewal for couples in crisis. While they are not counselors themselves, Terry and Theta are full-time WinShape intensive hosts who provide pastoral care and concierge services for the couples. WinShape Marriage partners with national ministries who provide licensed therapists to facilitate the program, while intensive hosts like Terry and Theta make sure the couples feel at ease and well-cared for during their experience.
“Our role is really to take away things that are in the way of couples engaging with the intensive process,” explains Terry. Theta nods in agreement. “We’re taking away all excuses. We’ve gotten things at the store the couples needed. We’ve gone to the airport to find missing luggage.” The moment the couples arrive on the property, sometimes together and sometimes separately, Terry and Theta are ready to receive them in the parking lot. As they take luggage and usher them through the large wooden doors of Normandy Inn, there is no stilted formality. Rather, the Shanks strive to provide unconditional love, care and safety for a couple who may or may not be glad to be there. As they guide the spouses to their rooms, Terry and Theta encourage the couple to take a look into the closets. There, lining the walls from floor to ceiling,
are notes from former couples staying at the marriage retreat. Each story and message is distinct. Some are personal and lengthy; others simply encourage the new couples to trust the journey they are about to begin. “We’ve had that transformational or breakthrough moments happen in the closet before the intensive therapy even starts, just by reading the testimonies that paint a picture of the struggle,” says Theta. Whether the couple is receptive to the closet notes or not, the Shanks help to encourage them to stay positive, asking them to trust the process they are about to begin. “I tell them, ‘It’s going to be a good week. Stay curious,’” says Theta. “We want them to enjoy arriving because it helps to lean them into the intensive experience,” shares Terry. “Because if they’ll lean into the process itself, that’s when they’ll begin to see the possibilities.”
“What the counselors work on is helping each person be whole and healthy, and to learn how to become better equipped emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually”
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While they are not in the room during group sessions, Terry and Theta know what the couples are going through, because they too have attended an intensive in 2011. “We make sure we normalize the idea that there is no perfect person and no perfect marriage on the planet… and we let them know that we too have attended a marriage intensive,” says Theta. While Terry and Theta had a good marriage before the intensive, and had never been to therapy before, the experienced proved far more enriching than either one of them expected. “Going into the intensive, we started to see that there were things that were deeper for us than we knew. Things that affected the way we looked at the world. And those were individual things...and as we
started to get some insight into ourselves, we began to realize just how broken we might actually be. Not broken enough for our marriage to fail, not broken enough for me not be successful in the world; but broken enough that I wasn’t my best,” says Terry. The desire to be the best individuals and to have the best marriage possible is what spurred Terry and Theta onward in their intensive journey. For Theta, the biggest takeaway of that week involved her career and calling. Despite being a part of the WinShape Foundation and its Retreat ministry for years, and a stay-at-home mom for years before that, she felt a draw towards hospitality consulting. “[Before the intensive] I had believed a lie that someone in authority over me had told me. It shut me down...from wanting to work in hospitality consulting business. And God unlocked that in the intensive. And as a result my business came to be,” smiles Theta. Now, everything Theta makes doing hospitality consulting through The OPEN Door Consultant she gives away to different missions and organizations. “Right now it all goes to Haiti. And if I had believed that lie [about myself and my business potential] then a pavilion wouldn’t have been built for widows in Haiti. That’s the power of one moment in an intensive. It changed my trajectory, which in turn is changing the trajectories of about 60 widows and widowers in Haiti,” says Theta. Another thing the Shanks took from their intensive experience was the tools of communication they put into practice every day. “You know, there was a season in our married life where I wouldn’t FEBRUARY 2019
talk about certain things to Terry. I called it my ‘list,’” Theta explains. But through techniques learned through WinShape Marriage ministry, Theta and Terry have learned how to be safe and communicate openly with one another. Since their own transformational moments during the intensive, Terry and Theta have witnessed countless other couples’ transformational journeys through the years. Couples are able to find the space, the time and what Terry and Theta call, “the grace” at an intensive, while doing the work necessary to improve their marriage through group therapy sessions with trained professionals from WinShape Marriage’s ministry partners. Their partners are: The Center for Relational Care, Focus on the Family, Hope Restored and The Hideaway Experience. “Understandably, a good number of people are cautious about going into a group therapy session. A group session looks like about five couples max, sitting on couches next to each other and airing their feelings that they’ve never told anyone else before,” says Terry. “And there can be a lot of fear and anxiety surrounding that, but what couples soon realize is that as one couple begins to share their story, the other couples look at each other and realize, ‘Oh wow, they have the same problems too.’” Even though couples might not be going through the exact same circumstances, group therapy provides a chance for couples to get outside of themselves and see the bigger picture. “We all have opportunities to grow, and we can see it in others sometimes faster than we can see it in ourselves. So [in group therapy] the principles all of a sudden speak louder than the situation,” Terry says. Theta adds, “There’s a momentum to it.” When one couple has a breakthrough the other couples are inspired by hope for their own relationship.” 52
Terry and Theta also emphasized that the trained counselors work hard to make sure there is absolutely no judgment present. “The beauty of the room is that there is no judgment. None. It’s the sweetest, safest environment...It’s just safe. It’s the way church really is supposed to be. It’s like saying, ‘let’s pull off all the facade and let’s just take care of one another,’” explains Theta. “You know, often the same people who said they wanted it to be individual therapy at the beginning of the week, later say that they wouldn’t trade the group portion for anything,” Terry recalls. Now with over 15 years working for WinShape, running their own business, attending WinShape Marriage adventures, serving missions and organizations abroad and raising three children during their 40 years of marriage, Terry and Theta say they have the, “marriage of their dreams.” And they encourage any couples going through crisis or even just seeking strengthening and enrichment in their relationship to consider a marriage intensive hosted at WinShape Retreat. “What most people are surprised to learn is that the marriage itself isn’t really what the counselors work on,” says Terry. “What the counselors work on is helping each person be whole and healthy and to learn how to become better equipped emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. Theta agrees. “Yes, we want the marriage to make it, and yes, we want the couple to move forward. But we also want the individuals to move forward. Because if the individuals don’t move forward in their own health, healing and personal responsibility, then the marriage won’t improve. The marriage is only as good as the two individuals are.”
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24 W Main St Cartersville, GA 30120
Hours: Mon - Thurs: 11:00am - 9:00pm
Fri - Sat: 11:00am - 10:00pm Sun: 11:00am - 8:00pm
Schroeder’s menu includes sandwiches, calzones, soups, salads, potato skins, nachos, wings, and more. And don’t forget our pizza! It’s the best in town... and for a sweet treat, try our Cheesecake Calzone! (Draft and Bottled Beers & Wine also offered) Famous for: Their Roast Beef Relief!
La Scala offers both first-rate service and terrific Italian Cuisine in an upscale casual atmosphere. 50% off cafe menu from 4:00-6:00 p.m.
Hours: Mon-Sat.: 11:00am-3:00pm
Hours: Sun -Thu: 11:00am-9:00pm
Hours: Mon - Tues: 11:00am - 4:00pm
Jamwich - Serving distinctive sandwiches, salads, and soups. Sandwiches built with the finest ingredients: Boar’s Head meats and cheeses, Zelma’s Blue Ribbon Jams and Jellies, fresh sourdough bread, premium Boars Head thick cut bacon and farm-to-table produce.
Fuddruckers catering can help you feed just about any size group, anytime, anywhere. Our menu will please the most discerning tastes and meet the high standards you require. We know how to make your event spectacular with the WORLD’S GREATEST CATERING.
510 Broad Street Rome, GA 30161
595 Riverside Parkway Rome, GA 30161
Fri - Sat: 11:00am-10:00pm
At Maine Street Coastal Cuisine, in the heart of historic downtown Cartersville, we pride ourselves on sourcing seafood from sustainable fisheries. Our passion is to provide a restaurant free of artificial flavors and ingredients.
5 E Main St Cartersville, GA 30120
Wed - Sat: 11:00am - 8:00pm Sun: 11:00am - 3:00pm
Casual counter serve offering sandwiches, salads & American comfort food such as shrimp & grits.
Make it a meal worth remembering. Where to eat in Northwest Georgia. FEBRUARY 2019
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