I Don’t Give a Shit About Your Ghosting Updates by

Resident Meddler

following:

“Hooked on my toxic boy, confused as to whether he likes me or not. Going on a walk with him wish me luck. XOXO keeping you updated.”

It’s perplexing to see people who openly and unapologetically perceive the campus (and its Facebook pages) as a canvas to smear and shape

immoral to submit confessions about X person

Update 2: “He’s asking me if I want to go back seeing him again! CANCELLED” think they’re entitled to others putting up with their ghosting documentary. Don’t make me a witness to your toxicity and failed girlbossing. The page does not exist for the purposes of benot wish to become informed about others’ in which we hold no stakes?

Confessions like these one (and the many that followed by the same author) are far from rare. A quick search through UCU Confessions will produce numerous search results entailing some form of update - about meeting people on can, about buying a sex toy, etc., etc.

Sharing developments of one’s personal life is one of the most customary rituals on our campus. When we verbally exchange sensitive information, we reinforce a sense of trustworthiness between us and those around us. This timeless social practice explains the tradition of submitting to UCU Confessions. But since my annoymatter, I must extend my uncalled-for opinion about these confessions: I don’t give two shits about your ghosting updates.

"Is it not immoral to submit confessions about

I recognise that when submitting confessions (or a series of them over a period of time) we may be seeking a sense of community we feel we lack. Maybe the people around us fail to listen to and sympathize with our joys and right channels through which to voice our frustrations and/or receive validation elsewhere. Many of you might suggest simply not reading the confessions if they bother me so much, but I can’t overlook their potential for damage. While routinely crafting an update about a man in your life is not inherently akin to writing gossip or falsifying accusations about him, is it not

Yes, I am aware that asking for their consent would have undermined the saga’s sense of mystery and that the guy in question seemed relatively unharmed by the confessions about him (judging by the confession he submitted in the end). Neither party experienced long-lastthat someone in my close circle had been detailing our encounters, calling me “a bitch”, “an ass” (irrespective of my gender identity) or recounting back-handed compliments they gave me, I would feel betrayed. Would you want to have a series of posts about your interactions displayed on a gossip page? Taking on the perspective of the two people involved in the confessions, things I might share with you in secreWhether or not our interactions were characterized by toxicity, it would not be up to either of us to broadcast it as a spectacle for others.

This critique seems like an unnecessarily bitter one, so I admit the shortcomings of my judgment. My point is that not everything that unfolds around you needs to be shared, especially at such violations of privacy. In a place where bit of secrecy and intimacy really don’t hurt.