Trinity-Pawling Fall 2018 Magazine

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THE FOUNDER’S PHILOSOPHY THE LEGACY OF DR. GAMAGE THRIVES IN TODAY’S TRINITY-PAWLING

THE MAGIC OF LIVE THEATER A 360-DEGREE VIEW

PRIDE VARSITY HOCKEY 2018 FOUNDERS LEAGUE CHAMPIONS

SHAYNE SKOV ’09

FINDING IKIGAI

Headmaster’s Message

Leaping and Learning At particularly stressful times in my life, times where the path forward seemed uncertain, my father would always remind me that “things will work out the way that they should.” At the time, I did not often find this passively optimistic advice to be particularly helpful. In hindsight, however, I grew to realize that his advice was almost always accurate and deeply wise.

William Shakespeare, in Julius Caesar, writes, “on such a full sea are we now afloat, and we must take the current where it serves or lose our ventures.” The words of Shakespeare, and those of my father, serve as a reminder that life is meant to be active.

When we engage life, we grapple with uncertainty. Yet, it is the creation of uncertainty that leads us to growth. Grappling with uncertainty is the stuff of healthy

risk-taking.

At Trinity-Pawling, students are challenged to take healthy risks. Try something new. Get out of your comfort zone. Do something different for the first time. See where things might lead you. Allow yourself to see how “things work out” when you take a healthy risk.

Healthy risk-taking involves engaging in something that is new with outcomes that may be uncertain. Certainty is comforting and familiar.

Uncertainty can be scary and daunting. Most of my own personal and professional growth has come as the result of risks that I have taken that have invited uncertain outcomes: marriage, parenthood, career changes, etc.

Healthy risks often involve leaps of faith. Soren Kierkegaard created the image of a leap of

faith in his philosophy and his theology. For Kierkegaard, the leap was one of action toward something other than just thought. The impetus for the leap was faith in God. In the context of education in general and Trinity-Pawling in particular, a leap of faith occurs when a student takes the chance to do something that involves uncertainty. It occurs when a student takes a healthy risk and grows as a result. Sustaining an environment that nurtures and celebrates leaps of faith is a critical objective for TrinityPawling School. Furthermore, an essential component of such an environment includes a rich fabric of relational trust that is both predictable and dynamic.

As I continue to face opportunities for leaps of faith in my life, I am reminded of the simple wisdom of my father.

Much more often than not, things tend to work out the way they should. With this faith, I will be prepared to leap again when the opportunity presents itself.

Onward!

Follow Headmaster Bill Taylor’s blog: www.trinitypawling.org/headmastersblog

table of Contents fall 2018

Features DEPARTMENTS

2 THE SCROLL Let’s hear it for the Class of 2018! …14th Annual Golf Outing … ESPN anchor Scott Van Pelt and ESPN VP Mike McQuade '83, P'18 on campus

5 A VIEW FROM THE QUAD Taking chances with Gyuri Dragomir ’13 …

Capturing the natural beauty of the land with Michael Melford ’68 … All in with Chiz Umunakwe ’18

20 The Founder’s Philosophy THE LEGACY OF DR. GAMAGE THRIVES IN TODAY’S TRINITY-PAWLING

In the Classroom: Katie Allen Berlandi takes a leap of faith Faculty Minute: The Reverend Michael E. Robinson fosters a culture of service learning The Big Picture: Pride Varsity Hockey wins 2018 Founders League Championship

30 PRIDE ATHLETICS Sports Recap Pride Spotlight: Shayne Skov ’09 – Focused On Football And The Future Braedon Bayer ’14 – You Can’t Count Anyone Out

24 The Magic Of Live Theater A 360-DEGREE VIEW

6 Bill Staby ’71 - Harnessing the Ocean’s Power 10 Rob Duryea ’96 - From Luddite to Leader 12 Ted Pryor ’88 - Chef of World Cuisines

36 CONNECTIONS Roland “Porky” Lakin gives 50 years of service to the School … Bill Pettit ’67 is a pioneer of senior housing communities … the Temple Family Scholarship Fund Upcoming Events Class Notes

56 END NOTE Rachel Kellogg

the scroll T W I T T E R : F A C E B O O K : I N S TA G R A M

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“Great group of Prefects who have done a fabulous job this year @TrinityPawling. #Onward #EthosofEffort #Senior #graduation2018”

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“Congrats to all! A fine group of young men!”

— EHAIMS

“Congrats! I vividly remember the day I was named a prefect. What a beautiful day for @trinitypawlingschool.”

— JAYMIKE88

Congratulations to these rising seniors who were voted Prefects for 2018-2019! Well done, gentlemen.

We look forward to your leadership on campus, John Garvey, Head Prefect; Robby Phillips, Junior Prefect; Jack Haims; Nolan Laplante; Ryan McBeth; Will Rickert; Evan Ruschil!

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Let's hear it for the CLASS OF 2018! Congratulations, gentlemen! #trinitypawlinggrad #Onward!

"Pink and bold!!!"

— NOTDARRENPALMER

“How was Skov?”

— NOTDARRENPALMER

“Well done gents. Great speeches by great leaders.”

Middle School Lacrosse is on a roll! The Pride took home a 6-3 victory over Dutchess Day School yesterday, improving their overall season record to 5-1. Way to go, boys...keep it up! #TPshoutout #ROLLPRIDE “Awesome!”

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Congratulations class of 2018!”

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“Best Wishes to all! You will always have this brotherhood.”

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“@notdarrenpalmer@shayneskov spoke?”

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“@patrickleary I dropped some knowledge on em.”

— SHAYNESKOV

“@shayneskov I believe it. You were dropping knowledge on me in Dunbar circa 2009.”

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“Congratulations!”

— MOMARA3

Congratulations to the cast, and the crew of William Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream.

Act V, Scene 1, Puck's Monologue PUCK: If we shadows have offended, Think but this, and all is mended, That you have but slumber'd here While these visions did appear.

And this weak and idle theme, No more yielding but a dream, Gentles, do not reprehend: if you pardon, we will mend: And, as I am an honest Puck, If we have unearned luck Now to 'scape the serpent's tongue, We will make amends ere long; Else the Puck a liar call; So, good night unto you all.

Give me your hands, if we be friends, And Robin shall restore amends.

Thank you to the full field of golfers who joined us for the 14th Annual Trinity-Pawling Golf Outing, in support of TrinityPawling School and the Miles H. Hubbard Jr. ’57 Scholarship Fund. #TPshoutout #adayinthelifetp It was a beautiful day to reconnect and celebrate the brotherhood on “@wdepalma17 stole the show!”

— CHRIS_CONNOLLY10 the links! Check out our Flickr album for more! #TPtraditions “Congratulations! Amazing!” #TPshoutout — LINDENBST “Glad you at least look the part Dad - apologies to those that had to witness the swing.”

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“@bryan.powell15 Wow made it to the big leagues!”

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ON CAMPUS

On the evening before the 14th Annual Trinity-Pawling Golf Tournament, these gentlemen from the Class of 1964 stopped by campus to check out the progress of the 1964 Alumni Room in the Smith Field House. It was so nice to see you all! The Alumni Room will be officially dedicated in the fall of 2019 when the Class of 1964 gathers to celebrate their 55th Reunion. #TPshoutout

POPULAR POSTS

FACULTY SPOTLIGHT: Ned Reade won two ribbons at the annual All Island Art Show We are thrilled to have our leadership in Martha's Vineyard this week! He claimed donors, volunteers, and prefects join blue ribbons for his water color scene of Main us on campus today for our inaugural Street Vineyard Haven and his painting of Leadership Summit. Keynote speaker three wicker rockers on a porch overlooking Dr. Jean Morrison, University Provost the Vineyard Sound. Bravo Mr. Reade! As and Chief Academic Officer of Boston always, you make us proud. #TPshoutout University, kicked off the day with a fantastic talk on "Being A Responsive “Good job Mr. Reade! Congratulations!!!”

— MICHAEL KOVNER Institution".

“Family friend, favorite teacher, Best “The Leadership Summit is just advisor! Ned Reade” another great example of the forward — IAN LYONS thinking leadership at Trinity“Great talent! T-P so lucky to have him.”

Pawling, making the world a better — ROBERT VERMES place one boy at a time!”

“Renaissance man! Congrats!”

— COLLEEN DOHERTY FOLEY

— KATHERINE FREDERICK GALARZA

“Have always loved his artwork - even before becoming part of the TP family!”

— LUCIA CSASZAR

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As part of Trinity-Pawling's Spring Family Weekend, the School hosted ESPN anchor Scott Van Pelt and ESPN VP Mike McQuade '83, P'18 for a roundtable discussion with Headmaster Bill Taylor. Van Pelt’s advice to students: “Be where your feet are. Be present.” #tpshoutout

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STUDENT SPOTLIGHT: Nolan MacLear ’21 & Willie Ackerman ’21 completed their final project for Physics First: building a rail cart that can travel on abandoned rail tracks! In the video, Nolan starts the cart for the first time! #EthosOfEffort

FACULTY IN THE NEWS: Congratulations to Coach Dave Coratti for being elected to the NEPSFCA Coaches' Hall of Fame! Thank you for your hard work and dedication to Trinity-Pawling, Coach! #TPshoutout @NEPSAC

Joint Advisor/Advisee Dinner at the Little League field always makes for a fun evening! #adayinthelifetp

A VIEW FROM THE QUAD

Gyuri Dragomir ’13 TAKING CHANCES

BY KATE VENGROVE

Wise risk-taker. These three words describe not only Gyuri Dragomir’s current business planning, but they accurately reflect his life in general. Dragomir came to the United States from Hungary when he was 12, in search of better opportunities and a chance to play hockey. He didn’t speak English and had many other hurdles to cross, but he had faith that his decision was the right one and that his path would lead to success.

“I’ve been taking chances my whole life—I look at everything and see ways I can improve upon it all, whether that is in relation to my own circumstances, a product, or my business,” comments Dragomir.

Certainly Dragomir is a constant innovator. Case in point, the solution-based app he created while at Hobart and William Smith College, “Deals en Route,” which connects people to coupons in their immediate vicinity through AI technology and the power of geofencing.

“Businesses would visit our campus and give out coupons, which quickly made their way to the nearest trash can,” Dragomir joked. “It wasn’t working for the business or the consumer, so I created a way for college students to find discounts electronically in a convenient form, tailored to their preferences and at the right time and place—when they are in front of the store!”

After only one year on the market, the app is now gaining national attention. National Wholesale Liquidators (NWL), a brick and mortar coupon distributor, has reached out to Dragomir to partner with Deals en Route, so they can use a more effective platform in the distribution of their deals. Additionally, one of Deals en Route’s original angel investors, also one of the original investors of the fourth largest cryptocoin, “Ripple,” is proposing to invest $10 million if Dragomir adopts Ripple efficiently into the app’s payment structure.

“We’re at a critical point,” states Dragomir. “In order to grow, we need to expand our customer and retailer base. Partnering with NWL allows us this opportunity in a big way—we’d be adding over 20,000 users to our list.

And the infusion of seed money will make the scale that much easier.”

When asked how his time at Trinity-Pawling has served his future success, Dragomir comments, “I will forever be grateful to the School and its community.

Because of the things I learned at T-P—time management, the value of effort, and “safe” risk-taking—I have been able to create and build something that will soon be on everyone’s phone. As an entrepreneur, the days are long and often very challenging, but I’ve learned that when you put in the time and hard work, you will be rewarded.

You never know where that return may come from, but it is out there.”

We see a lot more risk, and reward, in Dragomir’s future!

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Bill Staby ’71 Harnessing the Ocean’s Power

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Bill Staby has always been drawn to the ocean and after a prestigious twentyyear career on Wall Street, he found a way to combine his passion for the water with his business acumen. Staby founded Resolute Marine in 2006, a company that is developing a technology for harnessing the power of ocean waves to provide power to desalination plants in developing countries and island nations.

Water is the new oil, and the world needs visionaries like Staby who can provide solutions to a global crisis that is expected to dramatically worsen in coming years.

Staby and his wife Anne, a landscape architect, moved from Brooklyn to Boston in 2006. With time on his hands to scratch his entrepreneurial itch, he made connections and tapped into the considerable research underway at the academic powerhouses in nearby Cambridge. “A grad student from MIT joined me and our research into harnessing wave energy intensified. By 2010, we decided to

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focus on developing a wave-powered desalination system as an alternative to the electricity generation systems that everyone else in our industry was working on.”

Typical desalination projects require access to a strong electrical grid, entail huge investments in capital, and take many years to construct. Resolute’s unique technology addresses the need for smaller-scale, less-expensive desalination systems that can be set up in a matter of weeks and displace diesel-driven desalination systems that are prevalent worldwide. “Our goal is to provide an

“ Our goal is to provide an environmentally-friendly water production solution for customers who couldn’t otherwise afford desalination as a solution to their water shortage problems. ”

environmentally-friendly water production solution for customers who couldn’t otherwise afford desalination as a solution to their water shortage problems,” Staby notes.

Take the Cape Verde islands. 85% of its water supply comes from diesel-driven desalination plants, which means that the country must cope with extremely high water costs due to the high price of imported diesel.

“The islands can’t afford to produce sufficient water to support local agriculture so they’re forced to import more than 50% of their food supplies,” Staby explains. “With easier and less expensive access to clean water, they can reduce balance-of-trade deficits and build a more resilient local economy.”

In Indonesia, Resolute Marine’s system creates another benefit. “Establishing water production systems in outlying areas helps prevent migration to urban centers, which allows citizens to remain in their native region.”

Staby sees this as a social justice issue. “The wealthy tend to get first access to water. By leveling the system, we’re giving people the opportunity to lead more healthy and productive lives.”

Staby is quick to admit he’s not an engineer; his forte is project and business development. Resolute Marine has a dozen employees focused on technology development, and the team plans to have a desalination plant fully functioning in Cape Verde by 2020. “It’s been ten years since we started down this path, but my business partners and I are in this for the long haul.

There’s no short term, overnight solution.” In keeping with his strong commitment to sustainability, Staby also serves on the board of the World Ocean Council, the international business alliance committed to corporate ocean responsibility.

Staby views this as his capstone career experience. “In contrast to the transaction-oriented world I worked in for so many years on Wall Street, I wanted to invest my time and energy in something related to the ocean and that will make a positive contribution to the world…and it’s been well worth the effort.”

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Michael Melford ’68 LANDSCAPE PHOTOGRAPHER AND CONSERVATIONIST

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Shimmering solar farms in the desert Southwest. A pair of grizzly bears dancing on the Russian tundra. Otherworldly dragon blood trees in Yemen. Coral red sockeye salmon spawning in Alaska’s Bristol Bay. Through 40 years as a landscape photographer with Life, National Geographic, and every big name travel magazine, Michael Melford has explored all seven continents and captured the natural beauty of the land and wildlife that inhabit them. Ten years ago, he landed a steady gig with Nat Geo Expeditions, teaching photography workshops aboard luxury cruise ships and private jets that span the globe.

“I want to make people aware of the nature that surrounds them, even on simple walks. Every sunrise and sunset is heaven on earth. Take the time to see, slow down, and pay attention to what surrounds you. I still have to remind myself after I capture the scene, to step back and drink it in.”

Since his goal is to celebrate the beauty of this earth, Melford doesn’t manipulate his images. “I’m just patient and record what’s already there. Once you manipulate an image, it becomes an illustration, not a true photograph.”

After Trinity-Pawling, Melford went to Syracuse University to study engineering but the calculus “pretty much did me in. Fortunately it was a liberal arts school, so I decided to take an art history class and fell in love with it. And that led me to taking a photography course. Photography proved a perfect marriage of engineering with the chemical, mathematical, and art. I became obsessed.”

Melford traveled west in the mid-1970s and then ended up in the Catskills on a commune. “I had put the camera aside for several years but one morning, I took a photo of two maple trees in the fog. That image spoke to me and reminded me what direction I should be pursuing.” He moved to New York in the early 1980s and within

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a year landed a job as a photographer for Life Magazine.

“I shot whatever they needed: celebrities, landscape, agriculture, wildlife. That breadth of subject matter made me a better photographer. I started shooting for travel magazines and eventually got in at Nat Geo in 1983.”

In 2003 National Geographic tapped him to do a feature on Acadia National Park. That led to 18 additional spreads over the next decade. Melford captured Yemen’s varied topography, Alaska’s pristine Bristol Bay, solar energy, Russia’s Kronotsky Nature Preserve, the Holy Land, the Adirondack Park, and the Great Smoky Mountains among others.

As a global traveler with a keen eye, how has Melford seen the world evolve? “The world has gotten a lot smaller, and digital has revolutionized photography the way the Brownie camera did in the last century. It put a camera in everyone’s hands and anyone with a phone is a ‘photographer.’ Places that had once been remote are now common destinations. 30 or 40 years ago, I would land somewhere and be the only one with a camera. Now you share sunrise at Angkor Wat with 500 other people. On one hand, it’s such a good thing that people are traveling and discovering how beautiful the world is. But so many of these places are in danger of being loved to death.”

Similarly, he’s deeply troubled by the impact of climate change, particularly in the Arctic. “The pace of change is visible and dramatic from one year to the next. These should be incremental, one hundred year changes, not annual.”

Melford relished the challenging nature of his photographic assignments. “I learned that people are essentially the same everywhere, from Yemen to Yosemite.

If you treat people nicely, they’ll reciprocate. The best time to travel is right after a country has had trouble because the security will be high. The last time I traveled to Egypt, I had the pyramids to myself. The only time I’ve felt danger was when I got swamped in shark-infested waters in Costa Rica.”

At his home along the Connecticut coast, Melford recharges himself by enjoying the wildlife that seeks out his grassy knoll above the rocky shoreline. The foghorn drifts across the bay as orioles and swallows dart among his many feeders. Melford has just returned from Fiji and Tahiti and will depart for Namibia and Tanzania in a few days. But for now, this simple cottage remains the center of his world.

WEBSITE: MICHAELMELFORD.COM INSTAGRAM: @MichaelMelford

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Ted Pryor ’88 CHEF OF WORLD CUISINES

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

We’re always influenced by our roots. Ted Pryor ’88 grew up in Bedford, New York with a mom who immersed herself in French cuisine and a dad who loved to garden in his spare time. After graduating from Trinity College with a degree in American history and art history, Pryor landed a job at a Belgian restaurant in Bedford, starting as a dishwasher before moving to salads. He was sous chef within a year. A year later, he was executive chef at Dudley’s in Ossining. “I had no idea what I was doing,” he laughs. “I had to call my mom for recipes!”

In 1995, Pryor teamed up with classmate Drew Donahue ’88 to open Zebo’s, a fusion brew pub in Charleston, South Carolina. After two years of Low Country cooking, Pryor packed up his knives and spent a year in Paris at the Ritz Hotel, where he gained intensive training in classical French cuisine. “My French was okay—for about a minute…”

Then it was back to Manhattan for the next 15 years, honing his skills at classical French establishments. “I spent two years as sous chef at La Goulue on Madison.

That was the hardest job ever but it taught me to deal with high volume intensity.” Pryor later served as executive chef at the Sea Fire Grill in Midtown.

In 2016, Pryor hung up his white chef ’s coat and headed off for six months, this time to Southeast Asia through Workaway, a program that connects volunteers with international opportunities. “You can search for countries that have opportunities to match your skill set.

In exchange, you usually get free room and board.” Pryor volunteered as a chef for various eco-lodges in northern Thailand, Cambodia, and Malaysia. “I learned about southeast Asian ingredients and cuisine. It was a fantastic way to get around the world and spend no money.”

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Pryor now serves as executive chef at Vox, an intimate Provencal restaurant in North Salem, New York. “It’s a perfect 360. I started at a Belgian restaurant in Bedford in 1993, and now I’m back here in North Salem at a family-run French bistro where I can stay true to classic technique and flavors. I’m truly thrilled to be here working with Jean and Sophie LeBris. ”

“ John Merrill’s history, Ted

Kneeland’s English, Ned Reade’s art history, and Maria Reade’s French classes all served me well.

Chefs need to understand the origins of a dish or a cuisine, and a liberal arts grounding taught me how to ask the right questions and find the answers.”

What appeals most to Chef Pryor? “I love creating experiences for our guests, and I get to build something fresh and unique in the kitchen every day. T-P alums often come through my restaurants, and sometimes they even pay,” he jokes. “We all support each other and when we get together, I’m the one cooking for everybody.”

Reflecting on his Trinity-Pawling years, Pryor credits his well-rounded education as fundamental to his off-the-beaten path career. “John Merrill’s history, Ted Kneeland’s English, Ned Reade’s art history, and Maria Reade’s French classes all served me well. Chefs need to understand the origins of a dish or a cuisine, and a liberal arts grounding taught me how to ask the right questions and find the answers.”

Similarly, Pryor never attended culinary school, opting instead for full immersion in restaurants where he could gain broad and deep training. “Learning by doing always works best for me.” His advice to aspiring chefs? “Spend two years working in the kitchen of a restaurant you believe in, and do whatever they ask. You’ll find out soon enough if you have a true passion for cooking and food.”

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Rob Duryea ’96 From Luddite to Leader

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Even through college, Rob Duryea ’96 admits he was a Luddite in terms of technology and was more interested in music, art, and philosophy. But after touring nationally as a drummer for three years and then briefly attending art school, it dawned on him during a photo shoot that the people having the most fun were the techies.

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“People who understood tech always had work. I realized there was much more demand for techies than for photographers. Those jobs paid cash, and the nerds called the shots.” Having that latitude and freedom appealed to Duryea, who put aside his camera and began to educate himself in all things tech. “I started asking questions that bordered on interrogation, reading manuals, watching ‘how to’ videos, and just clicking around until I found solutions.”

In today’s world, you can teach yourself almost anything by digging around the internet—it’s a golden age of learning.

Duryea landed a job in Washington, D.C. and worked on data security projects for the State Department. That led to five years in Indonesia and then in East and North Africa doing bank security. However, he decided to return to New York as he saw the rise of religious extremism.

“I’ve always insisted on doing interesting things with smart people, so I tracked down a position in a public school for gifted students.” What drew him to teaching? “A roomful of computers, a bunch of gifted students, and no road map!” He became a certified substitute teacher and was hired to teach coding for the year while he pursued his Masters and other teaching certificates. “I absolutely loved working with these kids. Most were first generation immigrants who truly valued education. The school had no curriculum for coding, so I created it. I just taught them what I saw in the workplace in bite-size pieces.”

He encouraged a group of sixth and seventh graders to participate in the Guppy App challenge, a ‘shark tank’ style contest. “The kids developed an app, prototyped, and defended their pitch to a panel of techies and educators.

They made a speech-to-text app that went through Google Translate and then was sent as a document. My kids won, and I was bursting with excitement!”

Duryea is now in his third year in the New York City public school system, although now in a school with one of the lowest performance records on testing. “I teach math and logic through robots. I run around the school with my laptops and robots and work with kids from kindergarten through eighth grade.” And the difference in pay from tech consultancy to teaching? “My old hourly rate was higher than what I make in a day of teaching

these kids. But teaching means being Mommy, Daddy, detective, psychologist, and coach all at the same time. I haven’t had a boring day yet.”

“ I’ve always insisted on doing

interesting things with smart people, so I tracked down a position in a public school for gifted students. ” He knows coding is the language of the 21st century.

“If I had a magic wand, kids would learn coding in addition to two or three foreign languages.” Duryea explains that the first language is the hardest to acquire but others come more quickly after that. “Once you learn French, it’s fairly easy to make the jump to Spanish or Italian because you understand the roots and the connections. It’s the same with the coding languages.”

Duryea’s advice to people cowed by technology? Don’t panic, ask questions, read the manual, watch the ‘how to’ videos. “A lot of smart folks put time and thought into creating those free resources. But it takes humility to ask the questions, curiosity to seek the answers, and persistence to solve the problem.” The best techies admit they don’t have all the answers, but they know how to find them.

“Having the growth mindset is crucial in technology because the landscape changes so rapidly. If you’re inquisitive, confident, and persistent, you can learn anything.”

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Maria Reade and Josh Frost ’04 At The Intersection Of Teaching And Farming

BY EMMA CHRISTIANTELLI

It was a fall weekend in 2008 when longtime Trinity-Pawling faculty member Maria Reade made her way over to Cascade Farm in Patterson, New York. At the time, the farm was operated by Josh Frost ’04 and his family. “I brought a group of students to volunteer for the day. We were there to help break down a tomato field,” Reade shared, grinning. “I came home covered in mud and goop and was just incredibly happy.”

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Working in the tomato field that day was Reade’s first hands-on farming experience—an experience she had wanted to dive into for some time. Now ten years later, Reade is a working partner at Someday Farm in Dorset, Vermont. Without Frost, she says, she would have never realized her calling to farm.

“Our paths first crossed in my Honors English class when Josh was in tenth grade,” explained Reade. Frost graduated from Trinity-Pawling in 2004 and moved on to study Spanish at Hamilton College—coincidentally, Reade’s alma mater. Upon graduating from Hamilton, Frost returned home to run Cascade Farm with his soonto-be wife Ashley. Without fail, from the fall of 2008 into 2010, Reade and her students were there nearly every week, eager to tackle any job.

“Volunteering at the farm with Josh and Ashley provided amazing learning opportunities for all of us,” Reade shared. What she remembers most fondly is the student-teacher role reversal. “At Trinity-Pawling, I was Josh’s teacher. On the farm, he was my teacher,” she explained. “It was so refreshing to be the student, and Josh was an excellent educator—and still is.”

Frost returned to Trinity-Pawling in 2010 as a Spanish teacher and, luckily for the School, he brought his farming expertise with him. Together, this trio of farmers—Josh, Ashley, and Maria—alongside several zealous students, revived the biology greenhouse, started seeding vegetable plants, and eventually built raised beds on the edge of campus. In 2011, the team raised funds to build a professional greenhouse and by early summer, Gamage’s Greenhouse and Gardens came to fruition. “Alex Ros ’12 was our right hand man. Every piece of produce that we grew that year went straight to the dining hall,” shared Reade. “We can’t thank Culinart enough for their support from day one.”

The greenhouse and gardens provided the perfect venues for active learning, and while it was just an afterschool activity and not yet a recognized program, the

concept was gaining traction on campus. “Learning how to grow your own food is pretty powerful,” shared Frost.

“The gardens gave the boys lessons they could never learn in any classroom. Real, hands-on life skills that they carry with them.”

Frost continued to lead the greenhouse and garden initiatives as Reade braved the world of organic farming outside of Trinity-Pawling. “Working with Josh all those years had given me the tools I needed to follow my newfound passion,” Reade explained. “I started living a double life—teaching during the week and farming on the weekends. In 2013, I finally made the leap and fully transitioned to farming and freelance writing in Vermont.”

Frost, too, took a brief hiatus from Trinity-Pawling and re-entered the farming world full-time, managing an organic vegetable farm in Bedford, New York from 2011 to 2017. For both Reade and Frost, farming is a way of life and when it calls, they answer.

In the summer of 2017, Frost returned to TrinityPawling’s language department. Since arriving, he has reinvigorated the greenhouse and gardens and propelled the School’s farming program forward once again. Varsity Farming centers on sustainability, stewardship of the land, composting, and renewable energy. Membership on the farming team is open to students in place of a sport during the fall and spring terms. Better yet, the team’s produce continues to appear at the salad bar in Scully Hall.

As he takes on this new school year, Frost’s main vision is growth. Growth of the program, growth of the farm itself, and growth of appreciation on campus for sustainable living. As for Reade, she looks on from Vermont with heartfelt pride and gratitude. “I started the farming program here at T-P as a passionate neophyte. Josh brought a deep knowledge and lifetime of experience,” she concluded. “It’s amazing what can happen at the intersection of teaching and farming.”

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A VIEW FROM THE QUAD

Better, Faster, Stronger CHIZ UMUNAKWE ’18

BY EMMA CHRISTIANTELLI

“I saw the camaraderie and brotherhood on the football field and I wanted to play,” began Chizurum Umunakwe ’18. “I could see myself out there.”

Umunakwe was only eight years old when he moved from Nigeria to the Bronx, New York with his family.

It was a difficult transition for the timid third grader taking on a new language and country—and it only became more challenging as he grew older.

Discovering the game of football, he says, made it a little easier.

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Originally a soccer player, Umunakwe first encountered football from the seats of a Bronx movie theater during a showing of When the Game Stands Tall. It was the summer before his sophomore year at Kennedy High School, six years after moving to the United States. “The movie really spoke to me,” Umunakwe shared. “Before I knew it, I was at JV tryouts, introducing myself to the coaches.”

Despite having never even held a football, Umunakwe was a natural at the game. After his

“ THE ENVIRONMENT CONSTANTLY MADE ME WANT TO BE BETTER—A BETTER STUDENT, PLAYER, AND PERSON.”

first JV game that year, he was asked to move up to a starting position on the varsity team, led by Coaches Andrew Lanceberg and Augustine Tieri.

“I wouldn’t be where I am today without Coach Tieri. He pushed me even when I gave up on myself and taught me how to be a leader,” explained Umunakwe.

It was Coach Tieri who also introduced the idea of a postgraduate year to Umunakwe, leading him to join the Trinity-Pawling Pride. “It was the right move for me,” Umunakwe explained. “The environment constantly made me want to be

better—a better student, player, and person.”

Umunakwe’s indomitable drive to improve was obvious at the School, both in the classroom and on the football field. Nick LaFontaine, Head Varsity Football Coach, saw Umunakwe’s drive firsthand.

“Chiz fully embraced his experience here at T-P, academically, athletically, and socially,” shared LaFontaine. “He is tremendously self-motivated.

He became an integral part of the community and achieved so much in just a year’s time.”

Last fall, Umunakwe stood with his TrinityPawling brothers as they received the 2017 Mike Atkins NEPSAC Bowl Game championship title. At Commencement this past spring, he also received the Creighton E. Gatchell, Jr. Sportsmanship Award, given to a senior who exemplifies a passion for sports and the highest regard for sportsmanship.

The experience, he said, fueled him. “I’ve always believed that when it comes to hard work, what you put in is what you get out,” Umunakwe explained.

“My parents taught me that. Their hard work and sacrifice over the years gives me purpose.”

Fast forward to the present-day and you’ll find Umunakwe’s grit and determination at Towson University in Maryland, where he received a fullride scholarship to play Division I football. “It’s such a blessing to be here,” he shared. “I couldn’t have done it without my family—and that includes my T-P family, especially Mr. and Mrs. Kellogg.

They took me under their wings and supported me through every minute. They are such a big part of my success. I’m so grateful.”

Even with his many accomplishments and bright future at Towson and beyond, Umunakwe stays grounded—and motivated. “My motto is ‘go all in or don’t go at all’. If I push myself, I know I can always work a little harder. And I plan to keep doing just that.”

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IN THE CLASSROOM

Katie Allen Berlandi TEACHING STRATEGIES FOR STRESS

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith.

Katie Allen Berlandi had been doing crisis intervention assessment at Danbury Hospital’s psychiatric emergency room in 2015 when the opportunity to serve at TrinityPawling arose. Trained as a clinical social worker, Berlandi realized the offer would allow her to continue to support adolescents. So she signed on as Dean of Counseling and teacher of psychology and has never looked back.

“Coming in as a new teacher gave me empathy for the students who also feel pressured to succeed.

It was a steep learning curve but we survived,” she chuckles. As Dean of Counseling, Berlandi helps young men work through whatever struggles they face, from homesickness and family issues to stress and anxiety.

“My role is to assess the situation and ascertain ways the School and I can provide support and guidance.”

Berlandi’s goal is to help the students develop strategies for dealing with stress. In both the classroom and counseling settings, she educates about the physiology of stress, or how it affects the body. “Teenage boys actually care about their bodies, so knowing the long term impact of stress empowers them to manage the anxiety.”

She also discusses the value of stress, a concept some find surprising at first. According to Berlandi, research indicates that those who view a potentially

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stressful situation as a challenge rather than a threat tend to be more successful. “Certain stressors can energize and focus you and open your mind to problem solving, creative thinking, and collaboration.” She adds that when we feel threatened, however, we resort to the classic responses of fight, flight, or freeze.

“Changing the way you think can change your behavior. My goal is to empower the boys to develop life-long skills to handle stress.” Helping the young men understand what they can and cannot change encourages them to become more constructive as they take ownership of their actions.

Berlandi teaches a year-long introductory psychology class to seniors. “Students are fascinated by psychology and often come in with suppositions. We wrestle through those, which helps the boys realize that psychology is the study of the mind and human behavior, evolving from biology and physiology, nature and nurture, and social relations.” Whether in the classroom or in her office, Berlandi strives to teach empathy and compassion, both for others who struggle and for oneself. “I firmly believe that empathy can be a powerful elixir to stress.”

Berlandi relishes her time in the classroom and says it helps her to be seen as not ‘just’ the counselor. She sees herself as a conduit, a resource for faculty and staff as they search for strategies to assist the students. “I am grateful to be engaged in a community so dedicated to helping these young men evolve.”

FACULTY MINUTE

Faculty Minute with The Reverend Michael E. Robinson

BY EMMA CHRISTIANTELLI

Across a career in education and ministry spanning 28 years, The Reverend Michael E. Robinson has held many roles, including teacher, coach, Chaplain, and Head of School. He joined Trinity-Pawling as School Chaplain in the fall of 2017, delighted to return to the pastoral role in a school community. As Chaplain, he focuses on one particularly important mission: fostering a culture of service learning.

During his first year on campus, Robinson has propelled the Trinity-Pawling service learning program forward, building partnerships and service opportunities with organizations like Habitat for Humanity, Special Olympics, Brewster Emergency Shelter Partnership, and the Pawling Resource Center. Participating in service projects, he feels, gives the boys the opportunity to engage with the world around them and make a tangible impact.

On giving students real-world, out-of-classroom service experiences: “The world needs what our boys can uniquely offer. It’s those authentic, real-life experiences where a student discovers his resourcefulness, talents, and capabilities that can make a meaningful difference to others.”

On the importance of service learning: “Service learning is about becoming aware, compassionate, and willing. It’s learning to be conscious of those around us and embracing opportunities to do things for others. Taking care of one another—that’s what it’s truly all about.”

On teaching compassion and empathy: “For me, any educational experience begins with empathy. Making an effort to go outside of ourselves and understand the other—be it a person, culture, or situation. I try to design each service opportunity around that posture of understanding. It’s not so much teaching compassion and empathy as it is creating the conditions that awaken the boys’ innate capacity to be their best caring selves. We learn to care by having opportunities to care.”

On chaplain life at Trinity-Pawling: “I enjoy engaging the School in an ongoing dialogue about what it means to be a community. Creating that sacred time and space to reflect on our purpose here is so important.”

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The Big Picture

FOUNDERS LEAGUE

CHAMPIONS For the first time in School history, Pride Varsity Hockey won the the 2018 Founders League Championship with a record of 5-0-2.

Athletic Director Brian Foster ’79 presented the varsity hockey team with their Founders League Championship banner following their 4-2 victory over Hotchkiss. The Pride went on to win the 2018 Empire Cup after defeating the Millbrook Mustangs 5-4.

“We are incredibly proud of this team, especially our seniors,” shared Coaches Bobby Ferraris ’93, Chris Gillman ’05, and Scott Harff. “Seniors #10, #13, #14, #15, #16, #24, #33 – you guys left your mark on the Trinity-Pawling hockey program!”

Roll Pride!

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The legacy of Dr. Gamage thrives in today’s Trinity-Pawling

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

hree words permeate the ethos of founding headmaster Dr. Frederick Luther Gamage: courage, love, and faith. He demonstrated the courage to stand up for his convictions, break away from the helm at St. Paul’s School in Garden City, Long Island, and establish a new school in Pawling. His love for the boys and belief in their potential was legendary. He viewed them as his sons and treated the entire school as a natural extension of his family. And his deep faith compelled him to pursue ordination upon retiring as headmaster in 1932, at the age of 71. Why? So he could serve as minister to his Pawling boys, current and past.

Dr. Gamage strove to instill these three traits in “his boys,” and every decision Dr. Gamage made revolved around one question: What is best for the boys?

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Gamage dedicated his life to serving their needs and helping to shape their character. He surrounded himself with people—faculty, parents, alumni—who shared his vision and steadfastly supported his mission. Even as a young teacher fresh out of Brown University, Gamage hewed to the belief that a school should “prepare young minds for college or business, [providing] fundamental training in manly qualities which are so necessary to the development of character.” Gamage honed his principles first as a teacher of Greek at Delaware Academy in Delhi, New York, then as head of Oxford Academy for five years. He was hailed to lead St. Paul’s School in 1893, where he remained until he departed to establish the Pawling School in 1907.

Dr. Gamage built his school on the triumvirate of academic rigor, spiritual training, and athletic development.

Gamage believed a Pawling fellow should possess a “manly Christian character that fits a boy to be trusted at all times. … Along with this, there must be a correspondingly welldeveloped body, strong in every part, and a mind in which the ability to create is second only to the ability to think.”

Cultivating Effort and Confidence Gamage had an unshakable faith that a combination of personal effort and God-given endowment shaped one’s character. He is often quoted as saying: “The only time a boy fails is when he fails to try. Effort invariably yields success.” According to Rutgers Coles who compiled an elegant tome in 1922 on the history of the Pawling School, “Gamage realized that deficiency in scholarship, the cardinal deterrent to academic success, did not, in itself, indicate a lack of character. On the contrary, experience taught him that the backward student was backward not, necessarily, from an inability to learn, but because no subject in his daily course of study awakened in him a

genuine response.”

Gamage’s quest was to take the reluctant student, spark his interest, and show him the path to success. Student handbooks from the 1920s reveal that weekend privileges were based even then on ‘scholarship and diligence,’ including the struggling but striving student. “Any boy passing his work who, in the opinion of the faculty, is doing his best may have one weekend at home at the end of the second month.” According to Coles, Gamage was more intent on “making earnest students out of the slothful rather than rendering the naturally brilliant even more precocious.” Dr. Gamage—and his successors—held fast to the conviction that personal effort was the key to success. He surrounded himself with faculty who upheld this belief through their approach to cultivating the young men in their charge. An alumnus recounts that “Each did more than just teach—each tried to mold the malleable human material he worked with.”

A 1927 student handbook explains the theory behind the practices. “The intimate association of master and boy provides for the careful study of each individual. Purity of thought, consideration for others, courtesy in deportment, confidence in the masters, and a high sense of honor in all relations, are the social and moral aims of the School.”

Another alumnus from the Pawling School noted that “Dr. Gamage had such a capable mind, powerful and personal magnetism, he could have been a leader in any business organization had he had the desire. He declined because that was not where his heart lay. While he firmly believed in scholarship, he was especially eager to bring out of each boy qualities of character, moral consciousness, and high ideals.”

Gamage exuded warmth of personality and a wonderful sense of humor, and he maintained lofty

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without losing that element of personal supervision over each individual boy which has been the cornerstone of Pawling’s success.”

The Well-Rounded Pawling Man

standards without being stiff or stern. This behavior set the tone for the faculty and the young students. A graduate from the 1930s reflected that “I suppose it was the sense of responsibility engendered in the individual boy by Dr. Gamage and the wise and friendly faculty that gave most of us the desire to perform as well as possible in any undertaking.” Gamage’s belief in the capacity of boys to rise to any occasion encouraged them to believe in themselves.

In October 1935, Dr. Gamage as Chaplain delivered a Sunday address centered on this very notion. “If one does not believe in himself, he will become a burden to the world, for no one else will believe in his possibilities.”

He posited that a lack of self-confidence impedes us from believing we can achieve our goals. “The largest part of one’s ability may be hidden, as the largest part of an iceberg lies out of sight below the water’s surface. It requires only confidence to bring out these qualities.”

As “Gam’s School” in Pawling became increasingly popular­(within several years, they were already exceeding capacity) the good Doctor could have continued to pack the School which would have filled the coffers. But what was best for the boys? The headmaster and faculty decided to cap student enrollment at 120. “In this way, the growth is controlled and made commensurate with the School’s ability to handle the largest possible number of students

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“Every Pawling man is expected to support the organizations of the School to the best of his ability, whether they are athletic, literary, or otherwise.” This exhortation from the 1912 student handbook reflects Gamage’s belief in a stimulating blend of intellectual pursuits, athletic challenge, and extracurricular opportunities.

The handbook continues, “Each student is urged to devote some time to the promotion of one or more branches—literary, dramatic, forensic {debate or oratory}, musical, or athletic. Doubtless this accounts for the enviable record which Pawling has made in every sort of interscholastic or interannual contest, and for the success of its publications, its musical clubs, and its dramatic society.”

Gamage understood the value of physical education, having competed in football and track while at Brown and serving as the official scorer of varsity baseball. “Outdoor games and sports cannot fail to give good results [and develop] erect, strong, healthy boys.” An advertisement for the Pawling School in 1911 addresses the benefit of athletics. “In the belief that systematic exercise is as necessary for the full development of boys as mental drill, no effort will be spared in physical culture. Athletics will not be allowed to have first place but will be used as a means to true education.”

Even in those inaugural years, the fundamentals were in place. “No boy is required to represent the School on its teams but everyone, unless physically incapacitated, is required to take part in some organized sport. … Games are not permitted to take precedence over scholarship, or to interfere with scholastic discipline.”

The Pawling School also placed emphasis on studentrun literary publications which “have served to direct the efforts of many Pawling graduates to success in the

wider literary fields of college life and beyond.” Gamage recognized that these publications provided ‘real life’ skills for the cultivation of thought and the power of expression. In the early part of the 20th century, Pawling had a higher percentage of college editors at Yale, Princeton, Brown, Cornell, and Williams than any other prep school in the East.

Moreover, Gamage encouraged debate and oratory as vital to the development of critical thinking and public speaking. “Every boy will receive training in the art of speaking” which he believed of “…inestimable value for a young man to express his thoughts clearly and forcibly.”

And of course, drama and music provided opportunities to tap into other areas of creativity and foster lifelong appreciation for those arts.

Finding A Moral Compass “Honor is the criterion of school spirit. Moral character counts for more than scholastic achievement. ‘My honor as a gentleman’ means more than all the promises and vows that anyone can make.” This passage from the 1921 handbook captures the heart of Gamage’s philosophy, the nexus of love, courage, and faith.

The boys appreciated that they had a leader with a strong moral compass and dedicated the 1917 Scroll to Dr. Gamage. “Throughout the ten years of its remarkable existence, Dr. Gamage has guided the School with everpresent insight and fairness. A strong advocate of the honor system, he has developed it broadly throughout the School. He has taught every Pawling boy ideals which he will remember all his life. His love and devotion for us is answered by our love and devotion for him.”

Horace Henderson, one of the School’s three original masters and subsequently Secretary of the Alumni Association, wrote in a 1936 letter to Jack Burnham ’18: “You know the good Doctor from your six years under his guidance: his unfailing interest in the boys; his complete sympathy with them in all their troubles; giving them advice; trying to develop such character as might help them to be clean college men, and wearing himself out in their service.”

The Impact of Legacy Schools are enriched by legacies. They are bridges of continuity from the past, through the present, to the future.

In the case of Trinity-Pawling School, the educational philosophy of Dr. Gamage is a legacy that weaves its way throughout the School’s 110 years of history, as well as its

seven Headmasters. The newly instituted Practicum for Civic Leadership, for example, reflects the focus Gamage placed on awakening the potential of each student’s individual gifts and talents. Headmaster William Taylor says, “Trinity-Pawling is remarkable in its continuity of philosophy, even through the closing of one school to the opening of a new one. Dr. Gamage’s forward-thinking educational philosophy continues to support a studentcentered approach to teaching and learning, one that puts the needs of the students at the center of everything. Such an approach invites both tradition and adaptation. As such, it is timeless.”

Gamage’s belief in the capacity of boys to rise to any occasion encouraged them to believe in themselves.

Dr. Gamage died peacefully at his brick home on campus on September 10, 1947, less than two weeks before the School was to reopen as Trinity-Pawling. A tribute to Dr. Gamage that appeared in the New York Times, penned by Argyll R. Parsons, included this encomium: “For over fifty years, no year has passed without my having the joy of feeling the firm warmth in the grasp of his hand, hearing the cheery welcome in his voice and enjoying an intelligence attentive to everything worthwhile that transpired in the world, but above all his interest in you, your thoughts, and your well-being.”

Another passage from the 1921 handbook should resonate with every Pawling alumnus from 1907 to the present. “You live only once upon this earth; you go to boarding school only once; so make the most of it while it lasts. Be perfectly natural in what you do, enjoy everything you are able to enjoy, greet your friends with a smile, try not to dislike your enemies, and try to help the less fortunate. Everything you do reverts to you in the end.

Get into the Pawling spirit. It is not the faculty alone, it is not the buildings, it is not the athletic victories that make Pawling a great school. The greatness of a school lies in the hearts of its fellows.” Or, as the students today would say, “It’s about the Brotherhood!”

With love, courage, and faith, Dr. Gamage built a school that has endured for more than 110 years by remaining true to one tenet: Do what is best for the boys.

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TH E MAG IC OF

T H E AT E R A 3600 VIEW

BY EMMA CHRISTIANTELLI

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“THERE’S A PLACE FOR EVERYONE IN THE THEATER,” SAYS KENT BURNHAM, TRINITY-PAWLING’S DIRECTOR OF THEATER ARTS. “THAT’S THE TRUE BEAUTY OF IT.” Backed by a career of acting, directing, and teaching on stages and in classrooms across the country, Burnham arrived at Trinity-Pawling in the fall of 2017, taking the lead on the School’s theater program. His vision, he says, is to ignite a passion for all aspects of the performing arts, be it acting, directing, playwriting, improvisation, production, or set design. “There’s nothing more exciting than a 360-degree view of the theater,” Burnham shared.

“The opportunities for creativity, self-discovery, and exploration are endless. I want all students at Trinity-Pawling to feel that excitement.”

Since taking the reins last year, Burnham has propelled the theater program forward with a focus on that 360-degree view. While showstopping numbers and brilliant monologues are important in the theater, Burnham aims to dive deeper and expose his students to the many layers of the performing arts industry and the opportunities inside. He started with the classroom experience.

Burnham has introduced a range of new theater course offerings at the School, from public speaking and playwriting to directing and stage combat. The only prerequisites, he says, are open-mindedness and a willingness to try.

“It’s important to me that, as a School, we are providing opportunities for every young man to discover his creativity and explore a side of himself that he may not have found otherwise,” Burnham shared. “The idea is to offer classes that appeal to every student, whether that’s acting on the stage, writing the script, or building the set. Above all, it’s about stepping out of their comfort zones. That’s a pillar of this program.”

Just ask Ira Conklin ’17, a Trinity-Pawling

Kent Burnham, Director of Theater Arts

theater program alumnus. Conklin came to Trinity-Pawling as a sophomore and at the time, was unaware of his love for performing. Now a rising actor and stand-up comedian, he attributes much of his confidence and drive to the theater program at the School. “I knew I wasn’t going to be a first-string football player when I came to T-P,” he began. “Joining the theater pushed me to try something new. It allowed me to find not only a talent, but a true passion.”

Three years and five productions later, Conklin moved on from Trinity-Pawling knowing wholeheartedly that he belonged in the performing arts industry. The most exciting part, he says, is the array of opportunities it has to offer.

“When you’re in the world of theater, you can try every road out there. I’ve used what I learned in theater to perform stand-up comedy, act in an independent movie, and even entertain patrons at a restaurant.” And at only 19 years old, Conklin is just beginning.

Stories like Conklin’s keep Burnham looking back as he drives Trinity-Pawling’s theater program forward. “When inheriting a program like this, it’s important to honor the past and recognize what worked well,” shared Burnham. “I combine those standout parts with my new ideas to keep the program accelerating.” One aspect of the program that immediately piqued Burnham’s interest was the Broadway Series Pass—established as an opportunity for students to experience some of the most dynamic theater performances in the world. It stems from the School’s proximity to New York City.

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Ira Conklin ’17 our fingertips,” Burnham shared, excitedly. “It is the perfect avenue for live theater exposure. And Broadway only scratches the surface.” Burnham hopes to expand the Broadway Series Pass to include more off-Broadway productions and smaller, innovative plays. Doing so will increase the students’ exposure to all types of live theater—and perhaps spark an interest that they may have not discovered otherwise.

William Wood ’00 can certainly attest to that.

Originally a lacrosse player at Trinity-Pawling, Wood credits the Broadway Series Pass with launching him into the world of technical theater. “Seeing Titanic on Broadway with T-P was my first exposure to professional theater,” he explained. “Technically speaking, the show was fantastic! I remember the lights, set, and movement and wanted to know how they did it all. It inspired me.”

That same year, Wood suffered an injury on the lacrosse field that put him on the sidelines before the first game of the season. He shifted his focus, ventured over to the theater department, and never looked back. “I worked on set design and construction, light design and cues, and even took on the role of stage manager, calling each show,” Wood shared. “I fell in love with the theater at T-P that year.”

Now almost two decades later, Wood’s love for technical theater is stronger than ever. Following his graduation from Trinity-Pawling, Wood dove into summer stock theaters, freelance stage handing, and national tours. Currently, he works as Spotlight Operator for Cirque du Soleil’s Zumanity. In June, he celebrated his ten-year anniversary with the Cirque crew.

What has kept Wood in the business for so long? “It’s the company’s creative ambition,” he shared. “Cirque creates these incredibly epic productions and is never afraid to push the envelope and try new things, which is

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so important in live theater. That, and the adrenaline rush that comes with lighting each performance!”

It’s that exhilaration and rush of adrenaline Wood describes that Burnham hopes to introduce to every student in Trinity-Pawling’s theater program. “I want to keep the program exciting, collaborative, and dynamic. I want to shine more light on how impactful live theater can be from any perspective,” Burnham stated. “As a director and educator, it’s my responsibility to foster the next generation of theater makers, theatergoers, and theater supporters.”

Traditionally, Trinity-Pawling’s theater program presents three main stage productions each year. For Burnham, this structure lends itself well to offering a variety of theatrical genres, styles, and themes. “Putting on three productions a year allows us to explore contemporary and edgier plays while also honoring the classics, like Shakespeare,” explained Burnham. The winter musical, he noted, is another great opportunity for the boys to experience a different genre and try something new.

Burnham also hopes to introduce a black box theater experience at the School, for more experimental works.

“It goes back to stepping out of their comfort zones and tapping into the energy that surrounds them to take risks and try anything safely.”

At the very least, Burnham’s goal for the program is for every student to gain an understanding and appreciation for all that the industry has to offer. He is backed by alumni like Conklin and Wood, who are grateful for the theater program and the passions it inspired. Marc Schwarz ’88, too, thanks Trinity-Pawling

William Wood ’00

“ T-P EMPOWERED ME TO TAKE RISKS—AND FOR THAT, I AM SO THANKFUL.” — MARC SCHWARZ ’88

Marc Schwarz ’88 for giving him the skills and confidence to leap into the theater industry. “T-P empowered me to take risks—and for that, I am so thankful,” Schwarz shared.

Schwarz dove headfirst into the theater industry after attending Manhattanville College for two years and discovering his love for the performing arts. He moved to New York City intent on self-exposure, aiming to closely study the industry and hone his craft. “I took as many classes and workshops as I could prior to any auditions,” Schwarz explained. “I made it my focus to train, study, and observe. No matter how discouraging it was at times, there was no piece of me that wanted to leave.”

A few years into the industry, Schwarz saw the doors begin to open. Commercials, off-Broadway plays, voiceovers, improv shows, and independent film gigs in both New York and Los Angeles propelled him forward. He even booked a pilot and thirteen episodes of an action-packed television show, Van-pires. “I found my true sense of joy in the arts,” Schwarz stated. Fast forward several years and Schwarz continues to spread that joy and love for the arts, surprisingly enough, in the corporate hospitality industry.

“It just goes to show the immense opportunity that exists in the world of theater, even where you least expect it,” he shared. Schwarz currently works as the Director of Guest Experience for Hersha Hospitality Trust. The

company owns 49 hotels throughout the United States; in his role, Schwarz works with operational leaders and associates to improve the guest experience and deliver exceptional hospitality. His work, he notes, is all performance-based. “I work with our teams to help them understand how to deliver true hospitality,” he explained.

“Like my work in the theater, it’s about affecting people, making them laugh or smile. It’s a training program where our associates have a place to develop, mature in their craft, and strengthen their understanding of the business. I may not be on a movie set or stage, but I’m still creating and connecting with people every day—and teaching them how to do the same.”

Much like Schwarz, Burnham’s sights are set on building a theater program that fosters empathy and human connection, resulting in an even stronger school community. Because the theater, he feels, is the best place to come together. “In the theater, we can forget time, lose ourselves in the performance, and just be. It’s that moment where everyone’s heartbeats sync up—on the stage, behind the scenes, or in the audience—and experience the magic that is live theater. It’s a built-in practice of mindfulness.”

With a solid foundation beneath him, an inspiring teaching philosophy, and big plans in the making, Burnham is thrilled to be leading Trinity-Pawling’s theater program into its next chapter. Perhaps most importantly, he looks forward to seeing new sparks of inspiration in his students each day as they realize their potential, embrace their passions, and share their gifts and talents with Trinity-Pawling and the world.

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by the numbers

How to begin your legacy START WITH WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU People often say that they’d love to make a significant gift to Trinity-Pawling, if only they could. Planned Giving might be the answer. In fact, it could be the easiest and best opportunity to make the largest gift of a lifetime.

What is Planned Giving?

It is the process of planning charitable gifts, whether current or future gifts, that meet philanthropic goals and balance personal, family, and tax considerations.

How Does It Work?

There are many ways to make a Planned Gift. The most common, and easiest, is made in the form of a bequest.

This is a provision in your will indicating your intention to leave the School a specific dollar amount, a percentage of your estate, a gift of stock, or other appreciated securities.

Individuals can also list Trinity-Pawling as the beneficiary of all or part of their life insurance policies or retirement plans. This can be an option whether the individual has just started working, is in the middle of a career, or is retired.

Who Makes Planned Gifts and Why? Anyone can make a Planned Gift! The reasons can be as individual as the donors themselves. Key motivators are not usually tax incentives, but the relationship the donor shares with Trinity-Pawling. While some of the decision making process might be guided by tax benefits and logical estate planning, planned gifts are motivated by a feeling that comes from the heart. Those who leave planned gifts indicated the importance Trinity-Pawling has played in their lives. With their gift, they leave a permanent legacy at the School.

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THE

PAWLING Circle We celebrate and honor those who have let us know that Trinity-Pawling is part of their estate plans by including them in The Pawling Circle, the School’s planned giving society.

$2,197,592 FUNDS RECEIVED FROM BEQUESTS IN THE PAST FIVE YEARS

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PAWLING CIRCLE

MEMBERS

35 NEW BEQUEST NOTIFICATIONS RECEIVED OVER THE PAST FIVE YEARS

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$3.9 trillion

AVERAGE AGE OF SOMEONE WHO MAKES THEIR FIRST CHARITABLE BEQUEST COMMITMENT

THE TRANSFER OF WEALTH EXPECTED TO PASS TO THE NEXT GENERATION OVER THE NEXT DECADE—EXPECTED TO BE THE LARGEST WEALTH TRANSFER IN HISTORY

For more information on Planned Giving, please contact Director of Major Gifts Colleen Dealy.

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pride athletics

SEASON HIGHLIGHTS VARSITY LACROSSE The 2018 varsity lacrosse team finished the season with a record of 6 wins and 9 losses. Playing in one of the toughest leagues in the country took its toll, as the Pride faced three teams throughout the year who at one point ranked in the Top 10 nationally. The boys played hard all year, losing all but three of their games by three goals or less. Highlights of the season include an opening win against a good Loomis team and some dominating performances against Kent and Hotchkiss. Anchored by NE West 1 All-League selections Tom Harkin ’18 and Scott Stensrud ’19, as well as senior captains Will DePalma ’18 and Marc Welch ’18, the defense was certainly the strength of the team this year.

Offensively, the squad was led by starters Ryan McBeth ’19 and Brenden Lundy ’18. The team will look to compete again next year with some new additions under second-year Head Coach Andrew Kirkaldy.

VARSITY BASEBALL The varsity baseball team ended the season with a record of 8 wins and 6 losses. Anchored by a trio of post-graduate pitchers Ryan Smith ’18, Marc Maestri ’18, and Alex Kohlhagen ’18, and some strong bats, including All-League selection Jaz Burton ’18, the Pride competed with the best teams in the league and compiled a solid record once again.

The season was highlighted by back-to-back wins over Taft, as well as wins over Kent and Westminster. Rain delays and rescheduling made the season difficult, but the boys handled it well. The baseball team is eager to compile a winning record again next season.

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ROLL PRIDE! VARSITY GOLF Led by senior captain Kyle Miller ’18 and #1 Max Levine ’20, the Trinity-Pawling golf team had some outstanding individual efforts throughout the year but were unable to come up with many team wins. The team had some tournament finishes over Millbrook, Berkshire, and Canterbury, but had a tough time in head-to-head and 3-4 teams matches. With some young, talented golfers returning next year, the Trinity-Pawling golf team will look to improve upon this year’s record.

VARSITY TRACK The varsity track team had some excellent individual scores from some talented athletes. Chizurum Umunakwe ’18 placed 2nd in the 100M at both the Founders League Championship and New England Championship, as well as placing 3rd in the 200M and 5th in javelin at New Englands. Other strong competitors for the Pride included Eddie Gonzalez ’19 in the shot-put and Aaron Armitage ’21 in the discus. Being short on competitors for certain events made it tough for the team as a whole to come away with victories, though the boys showed well in the events they competed in.

VARSITY TENNIS The varsity tennis team had a tough year, finishing with 1 win and 11 losses. Led by #1 William Yau, the tennis team fought hard all year but could only come away with a win against Canterbury. The squad ended the year with a number of very close matches and showed improvement throughout the season. The boys hope to build on their improvements and momentum next season.

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pride spotlight

SHAYNE SKOV ’09 Focused on Football and the Future

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

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A few hours after the last senior rolled off campus, diploma in hand, Shayne Skov ’09 sat on my porch and expounded on the notion of ikigai, a Japanese concept that refers to a reason for being, or the source of value in one’s life.

“Ikigai means discovering what you’re good at, what you can get paid for, what you love, and what the world needs. In other words, the merging of passion, mission, profession, and vocation. If I can find that by the time I’m 40, I’ll be pretty content.”

Welcome to Shayne’s world. After graduating from Trinity-Pawling as head prefect and captain of football and track, Skov spent four years at Stanford, where he earned All-American honors as a linebacker and majored in management science and engineering. The scholarathlete won the University’s prestigious Senior Excellence award, then played nearly five years with the San Francisco 49ers, Tampa Bay Buccaneers, and the New Orleans Saints. Skov is currently a free agent.

During our conversation, Skov reflected on literature, history, economics, philosophy, the value of relationships, and service. Hours earlier, he had delivered the Commencement address in which he shared the three tenets that guide his life: Discipline equals freedom. Be brutally honest with yourself. Treat failure as fuel.

In that speech, Skov acknowledged that he had arrived in Pawling as a reluctant and under-motivated sophomore but credits the steady guidance of the faculty for turning him around. “Prior to coming to Trinity-Pawling, I treated school as a voluntary endeavor. I even managed to get a D in Spanish, a language I’m fluent in. But the faculty here both nurtured me and held me accountable. The harder I worked and the more invested I became in my learning, the more independence I gained. Their unfiltered honesty forced me to acknowledge my shortcomings and change my approach.”

This internal tenacity serves Skov well as a professional athlete. “Frequently we convince ourselves to take the path of least resistance, or quickly distract ourselves from that which we consider most important.

We seek things that are immediately gratifying. However, if you are able to enact discipline not only in your actions but in your thinking, you unfetter yourself from the chains of limitation.”

“I’ve been a captain and an All-American,” Skov continued, “but I’ve also been the fifth guy on the depth chart. I’ll never forget the day I watched 275 other

players get drafted, and I was not. Yet those are merely challenges and I never let them dishearten me. Sport is simply a microcosm of the struggles life presents us.

There isn’t anything overtly romantic or appealing about the repetitive daily grind of working towards your goal.

But believing that discipline equals freedom will help you zero in on your goals and pinpoint the exact steps that will help you achieve them. Having a growth mindset allows you to view obstacles as opportunities for growth.

As Abby Wambach, former captain of the U.S. women’s soccer team says, ‘Failure is fuel.’”

According to Skov, the hardest thing about the NFL is the looming fear that an injury could end your career at any moment, and the constant pressure that someone better than you is training hard to take your job away. “I love football and will probably never find the emotional rush in anything else. I love the depth of dependence and camaraderie among the players, and having the opportunity to compete against some of the best athletes on the planet. But I’m also a realist and know that I can’t play football forever.” In addition to intense physical training, Skov is currently studying for the GMAT and may pursue business school at Stanford, or delve into the defense industry or green technology on the venture capital side.

Skov’s football career traces back to playing Pop Warner in his boyhood home of Guadalajara, Mexico.

He has created a foundation called Diviertete, Aprende, y Convive (DAC), a yearly series of three youth sports camps that focus on the values of discipline, effort, and sportsmanship. Skov invites top NFL players to come to Mexico each year and share the story of their own career paths. “I wanted to give back to the place and the people who gave me my own start.”

It sounds like Shayne Skov is already discovering his ikigai, and he’s not even 30 yet.

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pride spotlight

Braedon Bayer ’14 ON THE BASKETBALL STAGE

BY JUDY REDDER

Originally from Lagrangeville, NY, Braedon Bayer ’14 was attending Arlington High School before joining Trinity-Pawling his freshman year. “I knew I wanted to play basketball at the next level after high school and I knew the best chance of achieving that would be to attend prep school. Coach Casson came to a few of my public high school games and he liked what he saw. From there, attending Trinity-Pawling was a done deal in my mind.”

Bayer matriculated to Grinnell College in the fall of 2014, eager to play guard in Division III and leave his mark on the team. Bayer scored 20 points his first game as a freshman and ranked Top 10 in assists after a year and a half,

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but he realized that the school wasn’t for him. “I just wasn’t happy at Grinnell and didn’t adapt to the Iowa culture too well. I wanted to have a better college experience and if that didn’t include basketball, then so be it.”

During Grinnell’s 2015-16 season, Bayer applied to four schools. One longshot was Syracuse. Bayer applied in December, was accepted by New Year’s Day, and arrived at Syracuse in January 2016. Pursuing a better college experience, Bayer transferred from Grinnell, with or without basketball. “Fortunately, I did have a few options to transfer to for basketball, but ultimately I took the risk in going to Syracuse where the basketball aspect was up

“ The camaraderie amongst the students in the air,” explained Bayer. “But when the coaching staff saw me play, they decided I could help, and they eventually put me on the team—it was the best feeling of my life.”

Determined and goal-oriented, Bayer set out to attend Syracuse, and explore his options with the basketball team. Next goals: be a walk-on, and be a scholarship player. With those goals accomplished, Bayer is determined to never forget his trek from Division III. “Throughout my two years on the team, I learned a great deal about myself and the game. I never worked harder than in those two years because I knew the opportunity to play on that stage was real and I didn’t want to miss my big chance to succeed.”

During the 2018 NCAA tournament, Bayer had the opportunity to shine as a surprise hero, helping the Syracuse University men’s basketball team make a run in their 55-53 upset of No. 3 Michigan State. Bayer entered the game for the first time with 6:29 left on the clock— Syracuse trailed, 46-42. Bayer, with only 11 Division I minutes to his name, did not hesitate to seize the moment.

With nine seconds remaining, Bayer helped the No. 11 seed Syracuse’s unlikely march to the Sweet 16. “The best lesson I learned [in the tournament] is you can’t count anyone out. We were the last team admitted into the tournament and yet we made our presence heard on the biggest college stage. If you keep pushing and persevering, then opportunity will be created.”

As Bayer said to himself during that game, “the time is now,” so he has set his sights on some new goals. “Next is the chance to further my career in basketball even more.

I have one remaining year of eligibility and I am taking a grad transfer year. I will attend Siena College for my final year, while I pursue my MBA.” Bayer’s life is basketball, but he is also very dedicated to spending time with family and is grateful for the positive influence they’ve had on him. “They have taught me from a young age that if you want to achieve something, hard work, perseverance, and dedication are the keys.” He also reflects on his time spent at Trinity-Pawling as “a place like no other.” Bayer says, “the vigorous academic curriculum,

and teammates, and the connection to teachers is amazing at T-P. ”

the assistance of faculty with real college experience, and the resources of the school really prepared me for college.”

He continues, “personally, my college career was ten times easier than Trinity-Pawling!”

“The camaraderie among the students and teammates, and the connection to teachers is amazing at T-P. Coach Casson was not only my coach, but he was also a friend to me in times of need and doubt. I also had a great relationship with my AP Biology teacher Dutch Keel—he helped me earn a 4 on my AP Bio exam! Even as a day student I would hang with all of my friends in their dorms and would always have great laughs and many memories were shared in those rooms,” Bayer concludes.

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connections Judy and John Temple P’91, GP’16 Creating A Family Legacy

BY COLLEEN COWAN DEALY

Judy and John Temple invest in education. Their commitment is evidenced by the endowed scholarships they have established at various academic institutions.

Their children and their grandchildren have also attended private boarding schools, colleges, and universities.

The Temple’s son Jason and their grandson James are Trinity-Pawling graduates of the classes 1991 and 2016, respectively.

Recently, Judy and John reflected on the enormous benefit both Jason and James received as Trinity-Pawling students and decided to honor their appreciation by

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including the School in their estate plans. "Trinity-Pawling is at the top of our list of schools that have had a lifechanging impact on members of our family."

Their gift will be directed towards the recentlyestablished Temple Family Scholarship Fund set up by their son Jason. Together the Temples' gifts strengthen the School’s endowment and help to secure the opportunity for other young men to attend Trinity-Pawling.

We applaud the multi-generational support and the legacy created by the Temple family.

Roland “Porky” Lakin GIVING 50 YEARS OF SERVICE TO THE SCHOOL

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Roland “Porky” Lakin joined the Trinity-Pawling maintenance crew on January 2, 1967.

Snow was already waist-high so the 22-year old had his work cut out for him from the moment he arrived. And he kept working hard for the next 50 years.

“My father-in-law was working in the kitchen in the basement of Cluett (the dining hall was in Cluett's north end at the time) and he said a job had opened in maintenance. I had spent five years on the crew at Hotchkiss and was working on a farm in Connecticut at the time. So I interviewed with Mr. Dunbar. A couple days later, I met with Mr. Dann. Once he heard I had been at Hotchkiss and then on the farm, he said ‘That’s good enough for me­­—I can tell you’re a hard worker.’”

Later that first winter, Rudy Helbeck was running the Zamboni and between periods of a game, he got the tip of his finger cut off as he cleaned the Zamboni. “Someone from maintenance called me back to campus and said, ‘Roland, jump on.’ It was my first time on that Zamboni, and one of my buddies said I looked like Ricochet Rabbit out there on the ice.” A week later, Helbeck turned the Zamboni over to Lakin who operated it for the next half century. “We patched it together over the years but we’re still only on our second machine.”

Plowing, shoveling, running the Zamboni. Carpentry, plumbing, boiler and water main breaks, emergency repairs, power outages, snow and wind storms­—Lakin has helped with it all. “In the October 1987 ice storm, I was the only maintenance person here so I put the plow on the truck and pushed the limbs and trees off the campus

roads and paths so the kids could get around.” He was also present when the Cluett fire occurred in February 1969. “I was in the library trying to stem the water flow while the boys emptied all the books from the shelves and ran them over to Barstow. Thanks to the kids, we didn’t lose a single book.”

And 150 acres means no shortage of grass. “Come high summer, I would start mowing on Monday morning and work my way across campus all week. The following Monday, I would start right back where I began.”

Lakin enjoyed watching the antics of the students as they grew up (or didn’t…), and he loved seeing many return later as faculty members or trustees. He’s also proud of how the campus has evolved over five decades. “When I started, there were very few trees and no plantings. Now the campus has really nice gardens and everything is so well-tended.”

Lakin has served under four headmasters: Matt Dann, Phil Smith, Arch Smith, and Bill Taylor, and physical plant directors Mike O’Rourke, Ed Hauser and Andy Baker ’00.

“I gave what I could to the School, and they always took care of me in return. Trinity-Pawling was a great place to work.”

Well done, good and faithful servant. Thank you for being a steadfast member of our community for 50 years.

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connections

BILL PETTIT ’67 A Pioneer of Senior Housing Communities

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Bill (left) with his brother Don Pettit ’72 at Reunion & Homecoming Weekend 2017 As a senior at Princeton, Bill Pettit was on the typical track of business school and work for a Fortune 500 company in a major U.S. city. However, he had spent his college summers working in Manhattan and had watched his father commute into the city every day for years. Pettit opted for a non-traditional path.

Pettit and his wife, Kathy, decided to pick a great place to live—they chose the Pacific Northwest—and then find a job. His dream was to start his own company in a beautiful part of the country. It just took him a while.

“18 years, to be exact. I had a stimulating and rewarding career as president of a regional bank, yet I’d lost touch of my original vision to build something. I was going from meeting to meeting but didn’t have much connection with my customers. So when I was given this unique opportunity to build a business in 1992, it was perfect timing. Now I can comfortably say I have achieved my dream.”

Pettit was tapped to serve as president of the R.D. Merrill Company, a 140-year old family timber business based in Seattle. The plan was to expand the company beyond forestry and develop a new venture. As Pettit explains, “That first year, we bought a HUD-foreclosed senior housing community in Seattle. The building had a lot of deferred maintenance and was only 70% occupied.

So we challenged ourselves to see what we could do with that space.” As a banker, Pettit had backed several senior housing projects in the Pacific Northwest and understood the growth potential.

From 1993 to 2007, the company built 100 senior living communities, known as Merrill Gardens, in 16 states.

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team scrutinized their holdings and decided to tighten their focus. “Over the next six years, we sold 68 of the properties and developed the next generation of non-traditional senior communities. We currently have 30 properties in eight states offering independent living, assisted living, and memory care, and 11 more communities are underway.”

Proper housing can profoundly impact an elder’s quality of life, and well-executed visions transcend global borders. “In 2011, we were invited to analyze senior housing in China. We studied the market for five years until we could assure proof of concept. We started to build our properties in 2016 and are prepared to scale the business. We have several coming on line and another half dozen in the pipeline.”

The senior population in China is ten times greater than in the U.S. However, Chinese seniors have fewer options so it’s an industry where Pettit feels his company can really make a difference. “A sizable middle class is emerging that’s looking for residential options beyond the state-run facilities. China is about 30 years behind the U.S. in this field, and we’re able to provide a more graceful way for seniors to enjoy their elder years.”

Working for an established family company provides a fresh perspective on business values and investing. “A private company is able to make decisions free of the pressure of quarterly earnings for shareholders, and that’s a reward publicly-owned companies don’t get to experience.”

Pettit has no immediate plans to retire. “I enjoy my work too much. I find it energizing to work with young people and enjoy their passion and vision for the future.

I’ve shifted from being mentored to mentoring, and that keeps me engaged and anchored.”

50 years after graduating, what lesson sticks with Pettit?

“Trinity-Pawling gave me purpose, direction, and selfconfidence. Those four years changed my life, and I learned that if you have the self-discipline to invest in preparation, success will follow.”

Gil Lamb ’53 “WHY I GIVE THROUGH MY IRA.”

“In our first house, my wife Linda and I only had a sofa, an end table, and a lamp in the living room. The end table and the lamp had been wedding presents. Today, while I have other concerns, I am thankful that my day-to-day finances are not one of them.

My father was a Pawling School graduate from the Class of 1923 and I am a Trinity-Pawling graduate from the Class of 1953. I do not give to [my alma mater] Cornell. I do give to Trinity-Pawling and shall continue to give as long as I can.

I make my gifts through my IRA. Why a Qualified Charitable Distribution (QCD) from a Tax Deferred Plan?

This method of gifting works for me because I do not need the tax-deferred funds from my savings. The IRS rules require me to take a Required Minimum Distribution (RMD) and this Distribution is fully taxable unless it is paid directly to a non-profit. Each financial institution has its own respective form authorizing a QCD, which must be completed. This ensures that the distribution is made directly to the 501c3 institution.

Every year I reduce my Annual Gross Income (AGI) and my tax payment when I direct my QCD to Trinity-Pawling.

Because of the new laws, 2018 and the following few years, the standard deduction is $24,000 so this type of gifting may be even more advantageous.”

If you have questions about making a gift through your IRA, please contact Colleen Dealy at 845-855-4831 or cdealy@trinitypawling.org

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upcoming events

The Pride Is Everywhere—Join Us! Parents’ Weekend October 12-13, 2018 Trinity-Pawling Campus

Boston Reception December 4, 2018 The Harvard Club

Washington, D.C. Reception May 2, 2019 The University Club

Admissions Open House November 10, 2018 Trinity-Pawling Campus

New York City Reception December 10, 2018 The Union Club

TO LEARN MORE ABOUT UPCOMING EVENTS, VISIT WWW.TRINITYPAWLING.ORG/EVENTS

Candlelight Service December 9, 2018 All Saints’ Chapel

Spring Family Weekend April 26-27, 2018 Trinity-Pawling Campus

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POWER THE POSSIBILITY

Supported every step of the way by a dedicated community of mentoreducators and buoyed by a brotherhood of peers, Trinity-Pawling students discover their own GREATNESS, each and every day.

Your gift to the Trinity-Pawling Fund is the anchor—providing for all the daily needs of this top-notch educational experience.

Through your generosity, you support the culture of TRANSFORMATION—where a boy’s highest POTENTIAL is DISCOVERED and UNLEASHED. With your partnership, there’s no limit to what can be achieved. Make your gift today at www.trinitypawling.org/giving or via the reply envelope in this magazine.

Thank you for your investment.

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class notes | 1942 | Chauncey Armstrong, Jr. turned 94 years young on January 16, 2018. He retired from his insurance agency on August 1, 2015 in San Clemente, CA.

friends, and strangers is our lifeblood.

For the 2018 graduates I recommend you watch this 2014 commencement talk at the University of Texas located at https://youtu.be/pxBQLFLei70

| 1959 | | 1952 | John T. McDermott Good to hear about former classmates and friends...other than those listed on the memoriam page (no 1952 entries this issue but some from same time period, e.g. Pete Foster & Tuck Noble).

Only news (good or bad???) fully retired from faculty of Loyola Law School. TOO much free time with nothing to do!!! Read a lot: check out 3 new books every week from local library. Have a new great grandchild to brag about...more on the way.

| 1958 | Ken Rudolph Beautiful new field house. Where were you all in 1958 when I graduated? Cheers, Ken. Webster Russell Well, we went around the world again. This trip, like our others, is not only to learn but also to write.

We have finished our third book and it will be published this fall. We are looking at and researching our 4th book over this next year. As I approach my 78th year in this world I realize that we must never lose the desire to learn something new every day. That wisdom not shared is lost. That leadership continues past your working years, and that communication between family, 44 T R I N I T Y - P A W L I N G M A G A Z I N E

Thomas Parnell (Submitted by wife, Polly) Wanted to alert you as to the passing of my husband, Thomas F. Parnell on May 4, 2018, leaving his wife Polly and a son, daughter, and four grandchildren.

Ben Nelson was inducted into the New York State Public High School Athletic Association’s Hall of Fame Class of 2018! Nelson, a respected veteran administrator and coach, was honored at the NYSPHSAA’s summer meeting in July 2018, in Lake Placid.

and now enjoying the monsoon.

The biggest topic wherever I go is MY AGE.

| 1963 | William Norton On October 16, 2017, I received a kidney transplant. Life is looking a great deal better.

| 1966 | Tom Slocum Tom is married to Myra Slocum. Both are retired. Myra is a former school teacher and Tom sold his company, Slocum and Sons. Tom has three sons with his former wife Mary Jane: Toby, John, and Josh. John and Paige have two sons, Jake and Aidan. Josh and Tina have a one-year old son, Josh.

Tom and Myra are residents of Florida and have a home in New Hampshire to be closer to the children.

| 1970 |

| 1960 | Richard Tolle

Carlos Ballantyne I'm not getting the link to work on my 'smartphone' here in Kathmandu, Nepal where I was trekking some

Richard Tolle ’70 and his wife Joie stopped by campus on their way up to Lake Placid! While visiting, Richard shared some of his fond memories of Trinity-Pawling, including his time playing thirds lacrosse and learning how to skate on the School ice rink.

| 1971 |

Rob Bruce Teresa and I were married in Beverly Hills and honeymooned briefly in San Francisco.

I recently legally changed my name back to my given name of Bruce. I'm from a long lineage of Scots and my dad is the 12th Baronet of Stenhouse. My brother and I were legally adopted by our stepfather and took the name Ross when we were kids. TMI! We were back at T-P for the 45th reunion and hope to attend the 50th, which is creeping up fast!

| 1973 | Les McMillen (Submitted by wife Barb) Les fought a very hard battle with Multiple Myeloma cancer for the last four years and passed away on February 28th. Les was the Athletic Director at the New York Military Academy for 30 years and loved coaching three sports. He coached varsity football, varsity basketball, and varsity baseball. Baseball was his favorite sport and he played three sports while at Trinity-Pawling.

I miss him so much. Les was the greatest husband, father, grandfather, and coach to so many athletes. Les and I have four children: Jenny,

Chris, Brock, and Craig. We have five grandchildren: Jordan, Jayden, Kayleigh, Josiah, and Claire. He taught his grandchildren so much about sports and they are following in his footsteps. Josiah is a baseball player and loves it. Jayden is 15 years old, 6'4, and at 290 pounds plays high school football at Newburgh Free Academy. Jordan plays lacrosse, Kayleigh, age 15, plays varsity soccer and runs track. Our Claire is only three years old and a ballet dancer.

| 1985 |

| 1983 |

| 1990 |

Herb Case recently met Headmaster Bill Taylor in Albuquerque, New Mexico.

Chris Cutler Retiring from the U.S. Army after 24 years of service as an ISR Aviator. Still residing in McLean, VA, and is Head JV Coach boys lacrosse at McLean High School.

David Von Ancken Director and producer David Von Ancken stopped by campus after taking a red eye from Vancouver, where he's working on a film for Netflix.

| 1984 | Scott Seckel Scott Seckel's novel is being published

by Pulp Hero Press this year. Arizona Time: A Novel & Five Shorts will be available on Amazon in the fall. He is dedicating it to Theodore Kneeland and John Lloyd Owen.

Tommy Seitz P’15 returned to campus (along with son Taylor) as the alumni speaker at Trinity-Pawling's inaugural Senior/ Parent Dinner, wishing the Class of 2018 all the best.

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class notes | 1995 |

JP Burlington Former faculty member Gaspar Epstein stopped by campus for a visit while on his trek north on the Appalachian Trail!

It's always great to reconnect and catch up with members of the community, including alums Josh Frost ’04, Chris Gillman ’05, and Brian Foster ’79.

| 2006 |

Mike Giannone was recently hired to run the East Coast office for a real estate debt fund based out of Los Angeles. www.calmwatercapital.com.

Andrew Foley Nothing too major going on with me. Working at ShopperTrak (retail traffic counting) and playing hockey in my free time out here in Chicago.

Drop me a line if you plan on visiting - I need a reason to go back on the architectural boat tour (full bar).

| 2009 |

| 2002 |

| 2000 | James O'Neill After 3.5 successful years in the Enterprise group at Microsoft, I've transitioned back to my former employer, SoftwareONE. I will lead the expansion of our Enterprise account base locally here in NYC and I couldn't be more excited about the opportunity. SoftwareONE helps clients govern and manage their software estate – be it licensing optimization, procuring effectively, or deploying a cloud-based solution. We work with clients of all sizes, across all geographies to manage software locally or remotely, in the data center or in a multi-cloud environment.

Grant Stolz Grant won an Emmy Award as the Director of Photography and lighting on a project with the United States Marine Corps.

| 2005 | Sean Hopper Currently planning the Rugby World Cup Sevens this July at AT&T Park.

I'm also getting married in October.

Adrian Sorichetti Congratulations to Adrian and the Saskatchewan Rush on winning the 2018 National Lacrosse League Championship!

| 2001 |

Andy Jacknick Andy and Christine welcomed their second child, Alexei Reese, on April 16, 2018.

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Lenny Harrington recently joined the offices of Douglas Elliman Real Estate in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, specializing in sales and rentals in Brooklyn, and also in Manhattan and Queens. Lenny always wants to help a T-P brother out, so call anytime at 914-318-8472.

Chris Gillman Congratulations to this TrinityPawling crew and fellow alum JP Burlington ’95 for competing in the Pawling Triathlon this spring!

| 2010 |

| 2017 |

Darren Palmer As of May 1, Darren officially reached the 600 mile mark on his journey on the Appalachian Trail!

Chris Hattar recently stopped by campus and visited with Coach LaFontaine!

Chris is a two-time Williams College Football captain, who graduated in June.

| 2013 |

| 2015 |

Gibson Drysdale Gibson and his father Rod Drysdale P’13,15 stopped by campus for a visit!

| 2014 |

Chris Drysdale Congratulations to Chris and the Methodist Men's Golf team for taking home the 2018 Division III Men's Golf National Championship!

Jake Verdesi ’17, Kenny McDougal ’17, and Will Estony ’17 Look who we spotted on the Quad at Trinity-Pawling's 111th Commencement Ceremony!

Osuman Imoro went undefeated in his squash season as a first-year at Dickinson College!

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Oliver Sun came all the way from USC to watch Pride lacrosse this spring!

Zef Vataj stopped by campus to catch up with Coach LaFontaine and Coach Coratti! Zef is a recent graduate of St. Anselm’s College.

Danny Hoag caught up with Coach LaFontaine!

Danny is an engineering major at Worcester Polytechnic Institute (WPI) and a linebacker for the WPI Goats.

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from THE archives It All Started With Carleton Gymnasium

BY MEGAN BURLINGTON

Dann Building groundbreaking on November 4, 1963 - from left to right, School Chaplain Rev. Kress, Assistant Headmaster Mr. Dunbar, Mrs. Dunbar, Mrs. Carleton, Mr. Carleton, and Headmaster Matthew Dann

The original structure of our now grand athletic complex was funded by Trinity School graduate, and former board member Robert A. W. Carleton, class of 1900. He and Mrs. Carleton also helped construct the Dann Building and Dunbar dormitory. Mr. Carleton took an interest in Trinity’s "country campus" and soon became more of a champion for TrinityPawling than Trinity. It became a sore subject between the schools that Mr. Carleton omitted Trinity School in his will, naming Trinity-Pawling as a beneficiary instead.

The Carletons were only willing to fund the math-science building if it could be named for the headmaster at the time, Matt Dann. Dann balked at the idea at first—generally a building would only be named for a headmaster after he departed the position—but finally came around to get the new classroom and laboratory space built. According to family legend as disclosed by nephew Harvey Dann, Mr. Carleton and Mr. Dann arrived at an agreement about the naming of the building over martinis one evening.

A civil engineering laboratory at Columbia University’s School of Engineering and Applied Sciences is also named for Mr. Carleton.

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HOMECOMING AND REUNION

SAVE THE DATE: OCTOBER 4-5, 2019 Join the celebration! Mark your calendars now for a weekend that connects Trinity-Pawling—past and present. Come back to campus, reminisce with old friends, and see what’s new at your alma mater!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THE WEEKEND INCLUDE: • Cocktails at Gamage House • Celebratory & Reunion Dinners at Gamage Gardens • Athletic Hall of Fame Induction at Smith Field House • Homecoming Football Game—show your Pride and wear your Blue & Gold!

QUESTIONS? Contact Janet Hubbard P’07 at 845-855-4830 or jhubbard@trinitypawling.org

REUNION CLASSES IN 2019 2014 – 5th reunion 2009 – It’s your 10th reunion!

2004 – 15th reunion 1999 – 20th reunion 1994 – It’s your 25th reunion!

1989 – 30th reunion 1984 – 35th reunion 1979 – 40th reunion 1974 – 45th reunion 1969 – It’s your 50th reunion!

1964 – 55th reunion 1959 – 60th reunion 1958 and earlier – Honor Guard reunion

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in memoriam We extend our heartfelt sympathy to the families of these Trinity-Pawling and Pawling School alumni.

Milton M. Grover, Jr. ’35 May 20, 2017 Gainesville, GA

Peter T. Holman ’55 June, 2018 Naples, FL

Edward J. Giammarino ’68 March 31, 2018 New Milford, CT

Albert A. Fisk ’38 January 5, 2018 Sonoma, CA

Robert Rintoul, Sr. ’55 August 24, 2018 Guilford, CT

Bradford R. Arter ’73 May, 2018 Jersey City, NJ

William G. Mead ’50 October 14, 2017 Brooklyn, NY

Thomas F. Parnell ’59 May 4, 2018 Brunswick, ME

Leslie “Les” R. McMillen ’73 February 28, 2018 Cornwall-on-Hudson, NY

Peter W. Scheinman ’51 February 2, 2017 New York, NY

John M. Davis, Jr. ’62, P’91 August 17, 2018 Raleigh, NC

Robert "Bobby" A. Clarke, Jr. ’77 December 11, 2017 Imbler, OR

John H. Watson, Jr. ’51 September 13, 2016 Lutz, FL

John H. Lotz III ’63 Blairstown, NJ

Joseph P. Gibson ’53 January 27, 2018 Bend, OR Arthur J. Marryatt ’53 July 3, 2017 San Francisco, CA Peter T. Holman ’55 February 1, 2018 Ridgefield, CT

Richard D. Ward ’63 January 20, 2018 Boynton Beach, FL William T. Currie ’65 April 18, 2018 Savage, MN Peter B. Dudley ’65 January 30, 2018 Naples, FL Arturo Lopez-Duprey ’67 February, 2018 Lake Mary, FL

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Robert “Bob” S. Crompton ’81 July 15, 2018 Palm Beach, FL

We extend our heartfelt sympathy to the families of these former faculty, friends, and parents of Trinity-Pawling.

Mr. Sidney S. Appleman GP’11 January 9, 2017 Monroe Township, NJ

Mr. Benjamin D. Holt GP’02 March 10, 2018 San Antonio, TX

Mrs. Jean W. Mohr GP’03 August 9, 2016 Lake Forest, IL

Mr. James L. Bellis P’72 February 11, 2018 Bedminster, NJ

Mrs. Charlotte Anne Horton GP’07 February 2, 2018 Houston, TX

Dr. Casimir Norkeliunas P’89 January 31, 2018 Naples, FL

Mr. Anthony Consoli GP’12 July 26, 2016 Albrightsville, PA Mrs. Dolores E. DeLattre GP’01 July 13, 2017 Southbury, CT

Mrs. Rosalee O'Hanley Isaly P'91 July 24, 2018 New York, NY Mrs. Annette Keiner GP’11 February 14, 2018 Absecon, NJ

Mrs. Frances DiBenedetto GP’06, GP’08 February 18, 2017 Rockaway Beach, NY

Mrs. Patricia A. Kirchner P'87 August 3, 2018 Conway, SC

Mrs. Elaine Donnelly GP’12 May 14, 2017 Fort Pierce, FL

Mrs. Paula Koozin GP’01 July 27, 2017 Arcadia, CA

Mr. James J. Donnelly GP’12 July 1, 2017 Fort Pierce, FL

Mr. Richard K. LeBlond II P'81, GP'07 October 26, 2017 Ponte Vedra Beach, FL

Mrs. Ruth B. Fraser GP’06 September 25, 2017 Hilton Head Island, SC Mrs. Patricia Freitas GP’03 April 20, 2018 Somerset, CA Mr. Thomas F. Geagan P’87, P’88 February 4, 2018 Massena, NY Mrs. Mary Lou Hammer GP’04 April 10, 2018 Bedford, NH

Mrs. Geraldine MacManus P’86 January 3, 2018 Ridgefield, CT Mrs. Edith K. Malone GP’00 May 19, 2018 Atlanta, GA

Mr. Cliff L. Powers GP’02 January 31, 2018 St. Petersburg, FL Mr. Paul Roberts GP’05 December 25, 2017 Pawling, NY Mr. James M. Schell P’88, P’92 March 17, 2018 Siesta Key, Florida Mr. Edward L. Smith GP’02 August 20, 2016 Ann Arbor, MI Mrs. Joanna J. Sutherland GP’00 September 25, 2017 Shaw Island, WA Mrs. Patricia A. Tirrell January, 2018 Bethel, CT Mrs. Helene Triano GP’02 November 19, 2017 Southington, CT

Mrs. Suzanne MacLear GP'21 May 22, 2018 New York, NY Mrs. Rosemarie McKenzie GP’96 February 13, 2018 Danbury, CT F A L L 2 0 1 8 51

end note

Rachel Kellogg Rachel Kellogg has lived on the Trinity-Pawling campus for 23 years, raising her children, guiding boys in the dorms, and teaching and coaching for 6 of those years. These days you will find Rachel honing the skills of the varsity basketball players and boosting the confidence of her students in the LEAD program.

What do you think is the most important thing to teach boys today?

Whether on the basketball court or in the LEAD classroom, I set individual goals for each boy. Whether I am helping them become better overall players or better learners, I start with improving their confidence. When they believe in themselves, they are capable of achieving anything. Often, knowing someone believes in them makes all the difference.

It’s also important to help the boys find balance, and have fun! I want to teach them to celebrate the good moments, and keep things in perspective when they make mistakes.

What is it like to raise your family on campus?

Growing up with hundreds of brothers; making those lifetime connections; learning about diversity from all walks of life; never being without friends; never bored—nowhere would my family have this chance—it’s wonderful. And, the best lesson is learning how important community is—it’s about being part of something larger than ourselves.

What is Trinity-Pawling’s best quality?

Without a doubt, the traditions. The community-oriented traditions are so important in helping the boys feel connected to the School. In all areas of campus life we have opportunities to develop connections with our students.

What do you hope to achieve at Trinity-Pawling?

Now that my children are grown up, for the first time in my life, I am able to focus on my career as an educator. I have truly found my calling as an Executive Skills teacher. I am also learning so much from Coach Bill Casson and enjoy putting my Division I basketball experience to use.

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Trinity-Pawling Magazine is published by the Office of Communications for alumni, parents, and friends of the School.

Headmaster William W. Taylor Director of Advancement Regan S. LaFontaine Director of Communications Judy M. Redder Senior Writer Maria Buteux Reade Class Notes Editor Janet P. Hubbard P’07 Photo Credits Bizzy Amor HWS Office of Communications Tom Kates Nicolle McDougal Connie Rafferty Rebecca Tocci Syracuse University Athletic Communications Copyright © 2018, Trinity-Pawling School Trinity-Pawling School 700 Route 22 Pawling, NY 12564 845-855-3100 www.trinitypawling.org

Trinity-Pawling School admits students of any race, color, creed, sexual orientation, national and ethnic origin to all the rights, privileges, programs and activities generally accorded or made available to students at the School. It does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, creed, sexual orientation, national and ethnic origin in administration of its educational policies, scholarship and loan programs and athletic and other School-administrated programs.

For Parents of Alumni – If this issue is addressed to your son who no longer maintains a permanent address at your home, please notify the Alumni Office with the correct mailing address.

Email alumni@trinitypawling.org or call 845-855-4829.

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Congratulations Class of 2018!

Trinity-Pawling School held its 111th commencement on Saturday, May 26, 2018 and celebrated the graduation of 89 students, each of whom will go on to do great things!

“My challenge for you is a challenge to your future. Stay connected to one another, to your brothers, and stay connected to this place. Find ways to give back by coming back and by being an active alumnus. Doing so will enrich your time in your future years, I promise you.”

— Headmaster William W. Taylor