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PACKING A PUNCH R.A.D. SELF-DEFENSE CLASSES ARM FEMALES WITH TECHNIQUES AND CONFIDENCE Writer / Christy Heitger-Ewing Photography Provided

Navigating the world is different for females when it comes to safety and security. They learn at a young age to be cognizant of surroundings, travel in pairs or groups, and be ready to defend themselves should the worst occur. Thankfully, programs exist to help, such as the R.A.D. course (which stands for Rape Aggression Defense). R.A.D. Systems, the largest network of its kind, has instructed more than 900,000 women across the country, teaching them basic physical defense moves and strategies.

The Plainfield Police Department (PPD) offers this course periodically throughout the year. It’s free to the public for females 12 and older.

“In the past we’ve had females as young as 12 and as old as their 70s take the class,” says Detective Taylor Wilson with the PPD

investigations division. “It attracts a wide variety of people.”

The 12-hour course is spread out over a four-day period, with each class lasting three hours.

“I’ve tried to do three days in the same week and it’s exhausting, so now we do two classes one week and two classes the next,” says Wilson, a relatively small female. That doesn’t mean, however, that she’s incapable of protecting herself in the event of an attack.

“I think it’s important that females are aware of their own power,” Wilson says. “Time and again, females are told they are the weaker sex, that they are not strong enough and that they can’t do what guys can do. I don’t believe that. Obviously there are certain things you may need help with depending on your body, but the goal is to build that confidence to get females to the point where they feel they have the ability to defend themselves.”

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The R.A.D. self-defense program, supported by the International Association of Campus Law Enforcement Administrators, National Academy of Defense Education, and National Self-Defense Institute, imparts basic selfdefense moves including strikes, kicks and other techniques to help one get away from an attacker. First the moves are demonstrated and then students have a chance to practice them on mats. On day four of the class, students are presented with a practical, hands-on scenario in which they utilize the maneuvers they have learned on a male instructor in a padded body suit.

In addition to techniques and maneuvers, the instructor goes over general safety tips, such as being sure to pay attention when walking to your vehicle rather than looking down at your phone or daydreaming. The instructor also goes over ways to make your home safer or less likely to be invaded.

For females who exercise outdoors, Wilson recommends that they only put in one earbud to better monitor surroundings.

Wilson suggests that women carry pepper spray or a Birdie alarm, which can be attached to a keychain or hooked onto clothing. Both are lightweight and easy to hold. Pepper spray burns the eyes, and the Birdie creates a loud and obnoxious sound when pulled.

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“Unfortunately, the reality is that you can do everything right and something bad can still happen,” says Kyle Prewitt, Plainfield’s chief of police. “The R.A.D. course is about personal protection and getting comfortable with interpersonal violence so that in the event of an attack, you are not afraid to fight back.”

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She developed diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, tendonitis, and gout.

All these ailments added up to her taking eight different medications. Linda, a pharmacist at Indiana University Health, knew better and wanted to do better.

Linda McElhiney was never heavy as a kid or young adult. It wasn’t until she began taking fertility drugs when she was 30 that the pounds started to creep on. Then, after giving birth to her son, Steven, the “Here I am telling people to get healthy weight didn’t come off. She remained and I’m not taking care of myself,” she between 220 and 240 pounds until her says. One day, she was at a pharmacy mother got sick in 2011. conference and was seated beside a man who told her he had undergone weight “That’s when everything imploded,” loss surgery. He went from 450 pounds to Linda says, a Hendricks County resident.

180 pounds. Linda began researching the “The stress of all that really took a toll on differences between gastric bypass and my health.” gastric sleeve surgery. The gastric sleeve is a relatively new procedure that didn’t start JANUARY 2023

taking off until 2006.

Both surgeries reduce the patient’s stomach from its regular size to a small pouch. In a gastric bypass, doctors make a little pouch out of the patient’s stomach, leaving the stomach in that is not attached and then rerouting that pouch lower in the intestine. In gastric sleeve surgery, the surgeon permanently removes 80% of a patient’s stomach.

Prior to having surgery, most insurance companies will require the patient to attend seminars, support groups and counseling sessions. They also must commit to dieting for six months and are usually required to lose a certain amount of weight to safely endure the surgery.

Linda was told to get her A1C down to an eight prior to surgery.

“Once insurance approves the surgery, you can’t gain weight,” Linda says. “It’s a test to see if you’ll stick with a healthier lifestyle.”

Linda, now 61, had gastric sleeve surgery in 2015. She dropped weight quickly post-surgery, losing 70 pounds in the first six months. It took a year to lose another 30 pounds. In total, she shed 120 pounds, going from a size 2XL to a size 8.

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She was making great strides finding her groove with a regular exercise routine until tragedy struck in November 2018 when her 29-year-old son, Daniel, died by suicide. The heartbreak rocked her world and, for a time, broke her spirit.

“I quit tracking everything, quit going to the gym and gained back ten pounds,” Linda says.

Though she was mired in grief, she knew she had to get her health back on track,

so she decided to engage in the ‘year in miles’ challenge. In 2019, she committed to walking 2,019 miles between January 1 and December 31. To help her reach her goal, she downloaded an app called RunSignUp to help her find weekend races in the area. For instance, she did the

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During the week, Linda typically walks two miles before work, 30 minutes during her lunch break and then if she’s not met her step goal by the time she gets off work, she’ll walk at the park in the evenings.

“I try to do 7.5 miles a day, Monday through Friday,” she says.

The first mini-marathon Linda ever did was at Purdue University, which was a hilly route.

“I thought it was going to be fun, but it turned on out to be really hard,” Linda says, who came in dead last. “It was so embarrassing. Here’s the policeman following behind me on his motorcycle.

But I finished! And people were still clapping for me!”

The experience didn’t deter her from signing up for other minis—like the Indianapolis Mini-Marathon, which she has now done twice virtually and once live. She’ll participate again in person this May. “The first time I did it I was amazed,” Linda says. “There were people all along the route cheering the whole 13.1 miles!”

This year, Linda has been chosen to be one of the 2023 Indy Mini-Marathon Ambassadors. She was selected not only for having shed 120 pounds, but also for participating in walking challenges and races since 2019. She estimates that she’s completed more than 100 races in the past four years. Though she usually signs up to do them solo, she has gotten to know others who regularly participate in these weekend races.

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“I’ve become more outspoken and outgoing,” she says.

She has, however, been taken aback by how differently she’s been treated since losing weight.

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“When you’re heavy, you’re often ignored,” Linda says. “But when I started losing weight and would walk into a clothing store, salespeople engaged with me a lot more.

Or when walking down the aisle of a plane, when I was heavy, other passengers looked at me like, ‘Please don’t sit next to me.’ Now I don’t get that look anymore.”

Linda estimates that it takes roughly 18 months to two years to figure out what you can’t eat following gastric surgery.

For her, she can’t tolerate potatoes, bread, rice, pop or pasta. If she consumes those things, she feels awful.

“If I eat too much sugar or too much fat, it’s like a mixture of food poisoning and an anxiety attack. I’m sick and sweating,” Linda says.

The best advice she would give to others looking to lose weight and keep it off is to track everything—especially what you’re eating and how much you’re exercising.

“When I’m starting to stray, I can see why,” she says.

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It’s resolution time. It’s the time of year when we look to better ourselves. The attempt to better oneself is a worthwhile pursuit.

People make these attempts through myriad ways. One of those ways is the well-known New Year’s resolution. Is there something magical about making a decision to better yourself on January 1, compared to any

other time of the year? Probably not, but the symbolism behind it may provide a little something extra to help you succeed with your goals.

Regardless of what your resolution may be for 2023, it’s important to realize that there are certain things you can do to increase the probability of success. Maybe your resolution is wanting to eat better, or maybe it is to exercise more often. Maybe it’s

specific to relationships. Maybe you want to be a better friend or parent. Maybe you’d like to learn a new skill, or some other bit of knowledge that will help you live your life in a more productive and meaningful way.

Maybe it’s just a resolution to spend your time more wisely by watching less TV, and to spend more time with friends, more time outdoors, more time reading, and more time doing things that aren’t just an attempt to numb and distract yourself.

WHATEVER YOUR RESOLUTION MAY BE FOR THE COMING YEAR, HERE ARE A FEW SUGGESTIONS AND TIPS TO HELP YOU ACHIEVE THOSE GOALS: SET REALISTIC GOALS.

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Micro-goals that lead to your big goal. If your focus is on a goal that is too big, you’re more likely to give up.

However, if you have a series of micro-goals leading up to a bigger goal, then your likelihood of persevering increases. You’ll eventually reach the big goal by focusing on all the small goals in between. Figure out what those stepping stones for your resolution are and focus on one at a time.

Reside in the present more often. Stop dwelling on past failures. Stop obsessing over how far you have to go.

Make a conscious effort every day to be in the present moment, and meditate daily on what your objective is for that specific day. Don’t lose sight of why you made the resolution to begin with.

STAY POSITIVE. A negative mindset can derail even the most successful people. Be grateful for all the things you have, and for all the opportunities you have. Make the best of every situation as you move forward in the progress towards the achievement of your resolution.

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STRENGTHEN YOUR INTERNAL ACCOUNTABILITY, OR GRIT. Grit is the biggest determining factor for whether you will succeed in your goals. Take steps to learn how to strengthen and develop grit.

BE ACTIVE, BOTH PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY. With more activity comes more focus and more energy.

Move your body and engage your mind. In turn, you’ll be better equipped to reach your goals.

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The joys and excitement of a new pregnancy and becoming a new mom can lead to lots of questions.

Having a supportive doctor and care team can help alleviate stress. Here are a few things to expect as a firsttime mom and how your care team can assist you.

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Childbirth can be one of the most meaningful times in life not only for parents, but for extended family and friends as well. To help prepare for this experience, ask your care team about childbirth programs and offerings designed to educate and enlighten those waiting to welcome new life into the world.

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exchange of that ‘knowing’ that can begin to dismantle the isolation, shame and guilt.”

Turo-Shields spoke about EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), a therapy that helps the brain process memories and reduce negative feelings about the memories. Alli Louthain, founder of Isha Warriors, an online yoga community for teens, talked about the healing benefits of yoga during the grief journey.

“The body benefits from movement and the mind from stillness,” Louthain says.

“Yoga provides a physical space to process past trauma, let go of toxic thoughts and create wholeness—body, mind and soul.”

Brandon Puszkiewicz, Indiana Programs Manager for AFSP, says that when someone dies by suicide, there’s so much emphasis on the individual who died.

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Grief is a difficult journey no matter how and when you face it. But grieving following a suicide loss is deemed ‘complicated grief ’ because there’s so much guilt, shame and hurt wrapped up in the death. This is why the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) supports the annual International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day (ISOSLD).

It’s a day where suicide loss survivors gather at local events throughout the world to find connection, understanding and hope through their shared experience.

AFSP hosted ISOSLD on November 19.

The day involved a combination of panel discussions, breakout groups and support groups.

“For those who are impacted by the shame and guilt of suicide death, which is often so isolating, coming together and looking into the eyes of another who knows the depth of pain you’ve experienced is like none other,” Christine Turo-Shields says, co-owner of the Kenosis Counseling Center. “To know that they know allows for healing on such a deep level without saying a word. It’s an

“What society tends to forget is that there are people left feeling a range of emotions, including guilt, anger, depression, confusion and sadness due to the sudden loss of their loved one,” Puszkiewicz says. “ISOSLD provides an opportunity for discussion, connection, and internal and external exploration to create a new perspective and way of thinking. For many, it’s the start of their healing journey.”

Such was the case for Teresa Youngen, who has attended ISOLSD three times since her son, Matthew, died in 2017.

“Last year we heard from a young man who assured the survivors that it wasn’t their fault. I so appreciated his words,” Youngen says, who likes the breakout sessions that are divided based on your particular loss (loss of a child, spouse, parent, sibling). “I like the share groups because you don’t have to edit, filter, or pretend anything. This year there was a couple who have been grieving for ten years. The husband had been holding back tears for some time, but the dam broke, and he wept openly.”

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Turo-Shields notes that grief isn’t linear but rather elliptical in nature. It’s like a spiral where you touch the grief repeatedly. When you have these touchpoints, you may feel like you’ve made no progress in the grief journey, but this is part of the healing.

“You’re never back where you started. You’re always at a deeper level,” Turo-Shields says, who recommends the book “The Unique Grief of Suicide” by Tom Smith.

Puszkiewicz hopes that individuals walk away from ISOLSD with a sense of relief and not feeling the weight of guilt they’ve been carrying.

Amy Alt helped organize the ISOLSD this year.

“This day is important for survivors because it connects you with others who have experienced the same kind of loss,” Alt says, whose brother, Rex, died by suicide. “That may not seem important to someone on the outside looking in. However, to a person who lost someone to suicide, it’s vital to begin the healing.”

ISOLSD offers several valuable resources, including literature and support group information.

“After my first survivor day, I left with hope and the realization that I wasn’t alone in this,” Alt says. “I knew my grief wouldn’t go away, but now I had some tools and other people to help me walk through it.”

HRH’s suicide survivor support group meets the first and third Tuesdays of the month from 6-7:30 p.m. For more information, contact Sharon Samsell at 812-494-7783 or text 988 for mental health support.

“People tend to feel so alone in this journey,” Puszkiewicz says.

“But the community that’s been impacted by suicide can offer some help or encouragement for those that are just getting started on this healing journey.”

May the blessings of the new year bring you joy, bring you health and bring you prosperity.

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“Abby was his absolute favorite,” says Beth DeHoff, Kyle’s mom.

The teacher-student bond grew over time as the Hostetler and DeHoff families became friends. In 2018 Hostetler took a break from teaching to give birth to her daughter, Winnie. When she began subbing in the classroom, she brought Winnie with her.

“The kids in the class called Winnie their Life Skills baby,” Hostetler says. “It’s really a family production because my husband, Thomas, who is a Plainfield firefighter, would go on field trips with us.”

When DeHoff was pregnant with Kyle and learned that her baby would be born with Down syndrome, she and her husband, Brad, along with their two other sons, attended the Buddy Walk, a charity walk that takes place every October to raise money for Down Syndrome Indiana.

“It was a life-changing event for us because we saw these normal families who happened to have a family member with Down syndrome,” says DeHoff, who serves on the governor’s council for people with disabilities, as well as the board for League of Miracles, a special-needs baseball league in Camby.

FOUR-YEAR-OLD WINNIE HOSTETLER RAISES DOWN SYNDROME AWARENESS Writer / Christy Heitger-Ewing Photography Provided by Amy Payne & Heather Weiss Gregg

Abby Hostetler has always loved working with special-needs individuals, so she was thrilled in 2016 to take a job at Plainfield High School (PHS) teaching the Life Skills class. There are two special-needs classes at the high school. One is for high-functioning students who assimilate into the general population for certain classes. The other class is for mostly nonverbal students with more severe needs. While they do some academic lessons in reading, math

and science, as the name implies, the class involves life skills such as cooking, grocery shopping and socializing.

Ever since then, the DeHoffs have participated in the annual Buddy Walk. The Hostetlers began joining the DeHoffs on the walk several years ago. This year Hostetler asked Winnie if she wanted to do some fundraising for the event. Four-year-old Winnie asked what fundraising was and how to do it.

“We googled different ways to raise money for a cause, and when Winnie heard “We focus on the skills you need to function and be a socialized part of society,” lemonade stand, she was sold,” Hostetler Hostetler says. For instance, students deliver says. mail within the school and collect recycling They decided that the Quaker Day Festival items. They also wipe down tables in the would be the perfect time to set up her cafeteria. lemonade stand. Because they live in the The first year Hostetler worked at PHS, she heart of downtown Plainfield, they would met a student named Kyle DeHoff, who was be in the middle of all the action. Winnie set up her stand, selling both yellow and 16 at the time. Kyle has autism and Down blue lemonade, as those are the colors that syndrome, and is mostly nonverbal.

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Kyle & Winnie

represent Down syndrome.

Within moments of the parade ending, a line of 15 people formed. For the next hour and a half, Winnie welcomed a steady flow of customers, including church friends, work colleagues, three Plainfield fire trucks and two ambulances.

Hostetler guessed that her daughter would raise around $300, but she brought in $1,300 for Down Syndrome Indiana.

Winnie has always had a heart for individuals with special needs. Hostetler recalls a time when Winnie was 2 years old

and they were at the local splash pad. A young adult with special needs was sitting on the ground doing repetitive movements because he was overstimulated.

“He was really excited because he liked all the water, so he was rocking back and forth,” Hostetler says. “I stood back and watched as Winnie approached him. She sat next to him, but a good distance away, not in his space, and she spoke to him like she would anybody else.”

Winnie said “Hi,” and the man smiled but didn’t respond. Though he was nonverbal,

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that didn’t stop her or scare her away. She kept interacting in a positive manner, fine with the fact that he wasn’t responding the way that she’s used to. This has always been who she is. Just prior to the Quaker Day parade, Kyle and his family were inside the Hostetlers’ house when DeHoff noticed that Winnie’s little cousin was hesitant to get close to Kyle. Winnie took her cousin into the bedroom and closed the door, whispering loudly to those in the other room, “I need privacy because I’m telling her that she doesn’t have to be afraid of Kyle.”

Last May Kyle graduated from Plainfield High School. His dad, Brad, who had been a middle-school science teacher in Plainfield for years, chose to retire at the end of the school year so that he could become Kyle’s caregiver.

This fall Hostetler began doing respite care with Kyle two days per week. Whenever he comes to the Hostetler house, Winnie is excited to greet him.

“Kyle is 23 and Winnie is 4,” DeHoff says.

“He’s nonverbal and she’s very verbal, but

“At just 4 years old, Winnie is such a little advocate,” DeHoff says. “Because of her mom’s job, she has hung out with people with disabilities since she was a baby. Those with disabilities are just normal people to her, and truly, that’s what they are.”

“You don’t have to be afraid of people with special needs,” Hostetler adds. “Just treat them like you do anyone else. If a 4-yearold can see that and do that, everyone else can too.”

DeHoff stresses that people with intellectual and developmental disabilities have the same feelings as everyone else.

They get excited when people are nice to them and they get hurt when nobody wants to talk to them.

“We’re all born to crave connection with others,” DeHoff says. “That’s not any different for people with disabilities. Even people who don’t speak a lot love it when people want to talk to them. There are ways to communicate with anybody.”

This is why the DeHoffs have always made an effort to involve Kyle in a number of activities. For instance, he enjoys riding horses, playing baseball, swimming and participating in theater. He also loves bowling, watching movies and going to amusement parks - especially riding the carousel.

“He has a lot of interests for someone who doesn’t have a lot of words,” DeHoff says.

“He’s able to let us know what he likes and doesn’t like.”

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they have this cool friendship.”

Hostetler says she wouldn’t be surprised if Winnie chooses to become a specialneeds teacher because she adores these individuals so much. In fact, when Winnie spotted a baby doll with Down syndrome at Barnes & Noble, she fell in love with it.

“Winnie has always sought out the people who aren’t loved on by society as much,” Hostetler says. “She seems to have a knack for finding them and showing them extra love.

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