Today's Woman October 2020

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contents OCTOBER 2020

spotlights

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ENCOURAGE

4 Manifesto INFORM

6 Today’s Woman In The Now 10 Pandemic pursuits 6 Who is hiring in this area 2 30 Hiring the perfect match for your business

33 Before you give your heart

36 28 Things

Happenings, news, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month

INSPIRE

34 A Louisville heart

LIFESTYLE

35 Start October with chocolate

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features

16 PowerHouse Women Learn from local female powers and find out how they are helping the city.

24 A PowerHouse Steps Up

to Be Chief

She walks into the most heated position in the city to bring some law and order.

32 Wings of Hope Cancer Supplement, sponsored by UofL Health 42 Excellence in

Education Honorees

These women inspire those they teach and reach.

46 49 Today’s Family • Raising Changemakers (p. 50) • Three Ways to Celebrate Halloween at Home.

No Trick! (p. 56) • Girl Scouts special section (p. 56) • My Mother-in-Law is Unlikeable (p. 57) • Independent Living: Connecting Socially During COVID-19 (p. 58) • Becoming the Village: Local Organizations Supporting Students (p. 64)

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October 2020 Today’s Woman Manifesto

OCT. 2020 | VOL. 30 | NO. 11

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I N T H E N OW inform

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YOUR WORDS

What’s your favorite part about fall?

• Going to a pumpkin patch.

• Gallrein with the kiddos followed by soup and cornbread for dinner.

• Making something with pumpkin.

• Decorating my house, and accompanying my family on a trip to Huber’s.

• Watching football.

#TodaysWomanLove Relax. #Repost @ZIGANDCOMPANY

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UPCOMING EVENTS OCT. 15 | 6: 30- 7: 3 0 P M M ISTE RS FOR MS Join the Misters Mixer virtually!

Catch Misters on camera, play in a high-end bourbon pull, bid in the silent auction, and have lots of fun! misters.givesmart.com

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O CT. 1 6 | 1 2 - 2 P M S E N I O R C AR E E X P E RTS H E R O E S O F H E ART Honoring the wonderful volunteers that enable SeniorCare Experts to provide programming for seniors in the Louisville area. facebook.com/SeniorCareExperts

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O CT. 16 | 8:30AM-12P M LADI E S I N LE ADE RS HI P Hear from four panelists who will offer fresh perspectives and inspiration. derbymuseum.org/girlboss

O CT. 29 | 8-10AM 100 W I S E W O MEN Hear Judge Erica Lee Williams speak about her journey. leadershiplouisville.org

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Pandemic Pursuits

What job seekers need to do differently in the pandemic economy

By Lorri Malone

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find myself glancing at my phone constantly, nervously checking for texts, posts, IMs, emails … anything ... any sign of connection. I admit to having fragile feelings when things don’t work out. I console myself with thoughts like:“It’s just as well. There was no chemistry.”

“I’m better off.”

“It’s their loss.”

“The right one will come along.”

Am I dating? No. I’m job hunting.

I lost my job at a nonprofit organization at the beginning of June, laid off as part of a national downsizing, a direct result of the economic impact of COVID-19. I’m 28 years into my career, but job hunting in this economy has left me feeling like I’m in middle school again in the early 1980s, passing a handwritten note with instructions to check one: Yes or No. Does [prospective employer] still like Lorri and want to be friends? Follow up: Does [prospective employer] “like like” Lorri?

Gosh, I need something to occupy my time … you know, like a full-time job.

And I’m not alone.

The pandemic has affected many areas of life, including the economy and job market. Looking back on the summer months, Kentucky’s unemployment rate in July was 5.7 percent. In Indiana, where I live, that rate was 7.8 percent for the same month. Both stats, while higher than the previous year (4.3 percent and 3.2 percent respectively), were still lower than the national average for that month of 10.2 percent, according to each state’s Department of Workforce Development.

Back in the old days (you know, 2019), we job seekers would need to hit networking events with a resume in hand to work the room for job prospects, introduce ourselves to key contacts over coffee and close the deal with a firm, confident handshake. Those methods aren’t going to work in the socially-distant market of 2020.

So, what does?

Networking.

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NETWORKING IN A VIRTUAL WORLD Tried and true, networking is still a thing — a big thing, actually — for job seekers in a saturated market. But like so many other facets of life, it has gone virtual.

Networking organizations had to scramble last spring when the guidance for social distancing affected the size of crowds that could gather, with many canceling or postponing events in hopes the guidance would be short-lived.

It didn’t take long for organizations to see they would have to pivot to other options.

“I think we were just naïve in March in thinking we would just take a two-week break,” says Ann Marie Maldini, executive director of the Young Professionals Association of Louisville (YPAL). “So we went virtual right away.”

She said the YPAL board of directors, made up of 18 volunteer members, sprang into action immediately, helping reimagine networking events and rework sponsorship proposals to help the organization shift to serve its members. “I have been blown away by my board,” Maldini says. “They all have full-time jobs, families, and their own worries about COVID-19, but they’ve been so great, so creative.”

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YPAL offered its traditionally live Speed Networking event in a virtual format via Zoom within weeks of the changing guidance and immediately received positive feedback from members. Buoyed by that success, and with the continued support of sponsors, the board decided to suspend fees for all events so members and non-members, many of whom are new graduates in the job market for the first time, could take advantage of networking and professional development opportunities to have a fighting chance in the COVID-19 economy.

“People who are furloughed or laid off don’t want to spend money on events,” Maldini says.

in a virtual environment can be done and be done well. “We were able to recreate as much of a traditional networking event as possible in a virtual format,” Prather says. “We got great reviews.”

Prather recommends job seekers not be shy about signing up for events to make a social connection. “Social distancing — let’s stop using that word — we need to stay physically distant, but we need to stay social,” she says.

“With so many free, virtual events going on, I would definitely be a joiner.

You just never know where it might lead.”

Betty Fox, director of workforce development for Louisville Urban

“Take your skills and your talent and connect with companies.

Be visible.

Keep your face in the place.”

- Betty Fox

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE RESOURCES Holly Prather, vice president of Leadership Louisville, echoes that sentiment, noting job seekers are looking for a valuable experience without a significant investment.

“People today need to access highquality leadership content, so we decided to make it more accessible,” Prather says.

Leadership Louisville also offers free virtual events for both networking and professional development, using virtual breakout sessions within Zoom so attendees can easily participate in small group sessions, traditionally called “table sessions,” that were led in a live format. While the switch seemed risky at first, Prather says the overwhelmingly positive feedback from participants affirmed that networking

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League (LUL), agrees. “Take your skills and your talent and connect with companies,” she says. “Be visible. Keep your face in the place.”

BE FLEXIBLE Fox recommends job seekers do their research on the job market, possibly exploring other opportunities outside their established field in the spirit of reinvention. “With job hunting, you have to be flexible and you have to be adaptive,” she says. While overall unemployment rates have been high, Fox points out some areas — construction, health care and logistics, for example — have been hiring during the pandemic.

“Especially during this pandemic, it can be looked at as the worst time to be job hunting, or it can be the best time to be job hunting, depending on your

mindset,” Fox says.

LUL offers several free virtual programs for job seekers, including weekly resume writing workshops and twice-monthly Workforce Wednesdays led by hiring professionals. Fox recommends job seekers take advantage of free programs to update their resumes so they can not only reach out to existing contacts but also diversify their network with new connections.

“With networking, you have to keep your net working. Cast your net wide. If you stay with the same people, you’re going to catch the same fish,” she says.

Fox recommends staying focused on the big picture, while doing the seemingly small things necessary to position yourself for success. “The big is in the little,” she says. “All those little things — doing your research, networking, updating your resume, diversifying your network — get you back to where you were … and maybe even beyond.”

USE LINKEDIN Be sure that updated resume is visible on LinkedIn because, according to Kayla Schaeffer, corporate recruiter at Atria Senior Living, that’s where recruiters are looking for job seekers. “LinkedIn is more important than ever before. If I were in the job market now, I’d want my resume on LinkedIn to be perfect.”

Schaeffer recommends job seekers update their LinkedIn profile to include not only the most polished version of their resume, but also a green band around the profile picture with the hashtag #OpenToWork so they are readily visible to recruiters. (You can do this on your profile under Edit Job Preferences/Add the #OpenToWork Photo Frame.)

She also recommends job seekers follow the companies to which they applied on LinkedIn and proactively reach out to staff — especially human resources — at that company and ask to connect, even if they don’t actually know the person. Moreover, she recommends job seekers send that recruiter a direct message to let the recruiter know they’ve applied for an open position and are interested in the company.

“It doesn’t hurt to ask,” Schaeffer says of networking through LinkedIn. “You messaging one person on LinkedIn could change the whole trajectory of your career. You have to be willing to get out of your comfort zone.”

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VIRTUAL INTERVIEW And if your networking efforts pay off and you land an interview, Schaeffer says treat your virtual interview like you would an in-person interview, but … different.

“Wear exactly what you would wear to your normal, in-person interview … at least from the waist up. It’s OK to be in PJs and house slippers from the waist down,” she says with a laugh, but quickly emphasizes, “Dress for the job you want.”

Schaeffer says having your home in the background is fine — interviewers know you are at home, so there’s no need to use fake backgrounds provided by the video chat platform, but you want to be sure to have someone else tend to your young kids and pets so you can focus during the interview.

You also need to be sure, ahead of the interview, that you are comfortable using the video chat platform the company uses, such as Microsoft Teams, Google Hangouts, or Zoom. If you can’t unmute yourself to answer a question, for example, ”it can be detrimental to the productivity of the interview,” Schaeffer says.

And while a handwritten thank you note might be impractical nowadays — you’d likely have to mail it to the interviewer’s home address — a follow-up email thanking the interviewer for their time is a classic way to make a good impression.

More than anything, Schaeffer asks that candidates be patient with the hiring process.

She says hiring managers are dealing with a lot of uncertainty, such as budget changes, and can have difficulty prioritizing interviewing candidates.

Even when an offer is made, the usual candidate screenings — background checks, drug tests, and now, COVID-19 tests — are taking longer because of pandemic-related delays to the court system and laboratories, which can mean delays for eager candidates ready to get back to work. “PreCOVID-19, we’d say, ‘Here’s your offer; here’s a great start date,’ but that’s changed,” she says.

“We’re just asking people for a lot of patience.”

PERSPECTIVE And finally, a little advice from me: If you lost your job and are thrown back into the job market, be sure to give yourself time to process your feelings. When I lost my job, I felt shocked, hurt, mad, sad, bitter, embarrassed, relieved, guilty — all emotions that come with an undesired life change. I eventually came to a place of peace, renewed confidence, even excitement, and it made my job search — and resulting interview process — that much more fruitful.

After all, you don’t want to be that girl who goes on a first date and blathers on about her ex the whole time because she’s still carrying baggage. Giving yourself a little time for a healthy perspective on the experience will help you move on in a positive way toward your next great career adventure.

As Fox puts it, “This is not doom and gloom. It’s a revitalization of yourself. It’s all in how you look at it.”

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#OpenToWork

HOW TO NETWORK IN A VIRTUAL WORLD • Stay on top of professional development. Look for free or reduced-priced events and professional development programs that are offered virtually.

• Be a joiner. Take advantage of professional memberships by asking if membership fees are reduced or suspended. Join professional membership committees. Volunteer for nonprofit organizations to connect with others, learn a new skill, or lend a hand.

• Get that LinkedIn profile in top shape. Recruiters are looking for you on LinkedIn. Be sure they can find you.

• Check out these resources for job searches, programs for job seekers, memberships, and free networking and professional development events: • kycareeredge.com • Focuscareer.ky.gov • kentuckianaworks.org • leadershiplouisville.org • ypal.org • lul.org

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POWER HOUSE WOMEN

By Megan M. Seckman Photos submitted

Power, like women, is not a monolith; it comes in many forms. How women harness their power is as complex as the female species itself. Some lead by example, some take risks, some are not afraid to show their strength, others stay humble and behind the scenes. What all these PowerHouse Women have in common, however, is passion and the uncanny ability to turn a dream into a reality. They all believe in what they do and use that sense of purpose to become the best in their industries. Meet five PowerHouse Women from the Louisville area who work to inspire others, cultivate change in their fields, and blaze trails wherever their leadership gifts guide them.

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k KATHY PLEASANT If you need a small business loan in Louisville, you will probably hear Kathy Pleasant’s name. She is, after all, vice president and director of Small Business Association (SBA) lending for Republic Bank &Trust. However, apropos to her name, Kathy Pleasant is not only a PowerHouse in the field of small business lending, she is also quite pleasant. Kathy’s ability to showcase her expertise by helping budding businesses achieve the financial backing they need to grow stems from her philosophy that, in business, you should always be accessible and willing to work hard.

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m (JULIE) VALLE JONES You can’t experience downtown Louisville without experiencing something that Valle Jones helped to create.

From the Whiskey Row Lofts to 111-119 West Main Street, to most recently the ambitious project aimed to revitalize the Russell neighborhood, Valle has left her mark on the grid of Louisville. She is, without a doubt, a PowerHouse Woman in the commercial real estate industry with her 35 years of experience and leadership in the revitalization of our city.

Her work is tangible in our city’s skyline, so it is par for the course that Valle believes firmly that success is measured by the vision of the end result, not in the recognition you receive from completing a task.

n LARA COLLETT For the past 27 years, Lara Collett has been running Aebersold Florist, a family business that was started in 1908 by her great-grandfather Alfred Aebersold, a Swiss immigrant. To Lara, being a PowerHouse Woman means continuing the family legacy and brightening up her community one bouquet at a time.

l ANGIE M. EVANS After earning her Juris Doctor of Law degree from the University of Kentucky, Angie M. Evans spent over 25 years leading others in the public and private sectors.

Before her current position as vice president of corporate responsibility and community affairs at LG&E and KU Energy, she was vice president of community leadership at the Community Foundation of Louisville. Before that, she served as director of planned giving at the University of Louisville and spent eight years in the financial industry as a vice president and private banker at National City Bank (now PNC). Evans’ career began in the public sector, where she worked as special assistant to Louisville Mayor David L. Armstrong and as the director of Affirmative Action.

k RENEA SAGESER In 2007, as a stay-at-home mother of two, Renea Sageser noticed a deficiency in speech services for children older than three in her community. Using her passion for speech pathology and her servant’s heart, she began taking pediatric clients into her home — for free. After several months of juggling two small children and a full house of clients, her husband suggested that perhaps it was time to separate family and business. That year, she rented a space and began Associates in Pediatric Therapy.

Today, she runs eight locations in Kentucky and Indiana and employs over 150 people. Renea believes in the power of family, and that tenet fuels the relationships she builds with her clients and employees. In fact, APT offers daycare to employees in their Shelbyville office and has been voted one of the Best Places to Work for three straight years.

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HOW DID YOU REACH SUCCESS?

WHAT BRINGS SUCCESS IN YOUR INDUSTRY?

Angie: My success has been a long winding road, and the commonality has been my commitment to building positive relationships and helping others.

Lara: I believe that consistency is key. We want our customers to be happy and to order from us again for other occasions. A large part of being consistent with our flowers is making sure we have a great product. Most of our employees have been there 10+ years. The group we have has really made an impact on our success as a business.

Renea: I look at success in terms of who I am, not what I have or have not accomplished. I am a Wife, Daughter, Mother, Sister, Friend, and CEO. With each of these titles comes different responsibilities, and each has shaped me into the woman I am today. I sometimes just show up at one of our offices and sit in a waiting room and look at the big picture of APT and am reminded of the journey that brought us where we are today and the journey we continue to be on to impact the families we serve. I feel so blessed to be a part of this organization that is truly changing lives.

Kathy: I owe a lot to God for putting the right people in my path to support me.

I have created strong and supportive teams everywhere I went.

Lara: The pinnacle of success was being able to let my parents retire by me fully taking over the family business.

This has not only been a success in my professional life but also personally.

I would also say just being able to continue a family business past the 100-year mark and further the Aebersold legacy is a huge success.

Renea: Flexibility and adaptability are key factors in any industry but especially when working with children. Things change, life happens, and we have to adapt.

Pairing my passion for children with the dedication to meeting the needs of our patients has brought opportunities of success for our company.

Kathy: Power is having the ability to influence. I always focus on the positive and try to make a positive and immediate impact on my clients and community.

Renea: The definition of power actually means “energy.” As a leader, you have to exalt energy within your company. It takes energy to keep your company alive.

Valle: Power is the ability to find the right team in order to make great change.

POWER HOUSE WOMEN VALLE’S INTEREST IN NON-PROFITS Valle has helped to connect the corridors of the Waterfront to Main Street, but she attributes her success to the ability to connect her diverse skill sets. In the 1970’s, she helped to found My Sister’s Place, a domestic violence non-profit in Washington D.C. This was before she returned to school and earned an MBA from Yale University. Upon graduation, she moved to Boston, where she could merge her non-profit skills with her business acuity; there she met a husband-wife architect team who saw the crossover between the two worlds. From that point on, Valle has been focusing on historical revitalization and affordable housing developments in urban areas, known in the industry as “infill.”

OVERCOMING YOUR MOST CHALLENGING MOMENTS? Renea: Toxic people, fear of failure, and constant negativity have been a few of my challenging moments as a leader. It is important to feel your feelings. I realize that it is OK to feel pain, be sad, angry, or frustrated. I know that everyone struggles, and no one is perfect.

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Angie: While I’ve never considered myself as “powerful,” I know that I have the power of influence and impact at this point in my life and career. That is purposeful.

Valle: I respect the tradespeople on the construction site. I talk to people doing the actual work — they will take me aside and tell me the truth.

I want to be respectful of their work and not ego-driven. It goes a long way to seek everyone’s perspective and build a community. People feel part of the team and want to be a part of the hard work it takes to complete the project.

Valle: Business school and non-profit work taught me that you will never have all the info you need. Well, too bad.

You have to gather what you can and make an informed decision. When I first started out, I didn’t know what I was doing, but I have learned to problemsolve, think on my feet, do my research, and self-correct. I’ve learned that no one has to have all the skills — you just have to learn how to form a good team.

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POWER HOUSE WOMEN WHY RENEA HAS A SPECIAL INTEREST IN SPEECH As a child, Renea Sageser was not expected to go to college. She struggled in school due to a severe speech disability that impacted her verbal expression and reading comprehension. But three life events changed her path and laid the foundation for this PowerHouse Woman.

From the age of 3 until fifth grade, she participated in speech classes, an experience that forever changed the trajectory of her life. Years later, as a senior in high school, her mother was in a severe car accident that left her with speech problems. Renea said that was when God called her to become a speech therapist and help others overcome their disabilities.

ADVICE TO THOSE SEEKING A CAREER PATH?

HOW TO GET BETTER AT YOUR JOB?

Kathy: Find your niche and do it really well. Others will begin to see your hard work, but it may take time. It won’t happen overnight — sometimes it takes years — but hard work will always pay off. If it means you have to stay until 8pm, then that is what you have to do. I started to get recognized as an expert in my field because my bosses realized how hard I worked. It took three years, but my reputation was built in the community, and that changed my career.

Lara: Stay educated on new products, designs, and the latest floral trends. I also believe we need to stay up with the latest technology. The way we are able to reach people has changed significantly since I first started here.

Lara: Find something that you enjoy and are passionate about. Once you decide what that is, educate yourself as much as you can about it and get to know people in that field to make connections. Take constructive criticism and feedback and use it to improve yourself.

Renea: What is your passion? How can you be the change? Do what you love to do and don’t do it for the money or to get noticed. That is just an extra bonus if it happens.

Valle: Women tend to be task-focused, not ego-focused, so women and minorities need to be careful in how much credit we allow others to take for our work.

Renea: I have been mentored by incredible leaders who challenge me and are sounding boards during the highs and lows of business. I also think that as leaders we must continue to invest in learning and developing both personally and professionally.

Valle: Understanding the needs, learning to make quick decisions, and knowing how to manage a team.

DEFINING MOMENT? Angie: I serve on the boards of two foundations and am a member of the One Louisville Fund, which raised and deployed $11 million since March in response to COVID-19.

Kathy: My children are very important to me. I taught them how to transfer skills and run a business (we once owned a Baskin Robbins). One of my sons has followed in my footsteps and now runs a CDFI (Community Development Financial Institution).

I’ve always taught them the proverb that if you give a man a fish, he eats for a day. If you give him a rod, he feeds himself for a lifetime. My son is helping to feed a multitude of folks, and I taught him everything he needs to know.

Renea: My father expressed that when I was a child, he wasn’t sure that I’d ever go to college, so to see how proud they were of me and being a testament that a disability doesn’t have to be a deciding factor in how far you go in life.

Valle: I don’t choose projects that don’t benefit the community. Whiskey Row fills the hole in a donut between Main Street and Waterfront Park. I helped to save the historic legacy of those buildings and fill the space, and that was a gift. I am also thrilled to have been a part of Sadiqa Reynolds’ Louisville Urban League project — the Sports and Learning Complex in the Russell neighborhood. This complex is a critically massive, pivotal gamechanging development in the West End. This will change people’s lives!

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POWER HOUSE WOMEN HOW KATHY GOT INTRODUCED TO BANKING Kathy began working two jobs after graduating from Western Kentucky University — one at WHAS and another, part-time position at the Chamber of Commerce. The latter introduced her to the world of banking, and she was soon recruited by the bank across the street from her office. She became intrigued by the world of banking and community development through small business lending. In the 90’s she began working at the Louisville Community Development Bank, where her charge was to make loans for low- to moderate-income neighborhoods such as Smoketown, the West End, Germantown, Clifton, and Phoenix Hill. She has transferred these skills across a 30-year career and has built the SBA program at many banks across the city.

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HOW TO HELP EMERGING PROFESSIONALS? Kathy: Be present and be accessible. I am always accessible, and I will always pick up the phone the first time. I call everyone back, and you don’t know how that has changed my career. People are shocked — they aren’t used to that type of attention. I don’t care if you need a loan for $5 million or $5,000, I will always return your call and help you get what you need.

ANGIE IN THE COMMUNITY Angie serves on several boards including Centre College’s board of trustees, Actors Theatre’s board of directors, American Printing House for the Blind, Bates Community Development Corporation, Community Foundation of Louisville, James Graham Brown Foundation, and Women Influencing Louisville.

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Renea: Give back and mentor others. Get involved in the community. We offer mentorship programs at our offices. APT has been blessed to have hired many emerging professionals who have gone on to become therapists and leaders within our company. Even as the CEO, I have always tried to take at least one new graduate under my wing to develop skills as a therapist and leader.

Valle: Teaching young professionals how to build a good team is key. When I started out, I thought I had to know everything, and you don’t. You have to learn that you are the coach; you don’t want a prima donna or another coach on the team.

POWER HOUSE WOMEN HOW LARA’S CAREER STARTED After attending Indiana University, Lara worked at Walt Disney World, where she learned the delicate art of customer service in “The Most Magical Place on Earth.”

After a short stint at WLKY, she felt that something was missing and wanted an opportunity to showcase her creativity, so she decided to return to her roots and become a florist. She uses a mix of previous experiences, continuous learning, and “Aebersold family intuition” to continue the New Albany business’ success. She is most proud of giving her parents the ability to retire with the peace of mind that the family business, over 100 years in the making, is in capable and loving hands.

HOW DID YOU GET TO THIS POINT — WHAT DID IT TAKE TO MAKE IT THERE? Renea: My mom took me to therapy when I was a child for a severe articulation disability. Later our roles were reversed when she was in a car accident. It was at that time I felt called to be a therapist. Our company was founded on the biblical principles of putting God first, family second, and then everything else will fall into place. It has taken lots of faith and dedication to get to this point. God is good.

Valle: I have learned to translate my experiences into the business sector.

Most women in business didn’t start there — they took more of a nontraditional role. They were teachers or worked in nonprofits first. Men get the degree, get mentored, and they are off to the races. Women and minorities have to be creative and resourceful in how they gain access to the industry. I had to learn to translate my passion for nonprofit work into real estate, and I saw that they were connected. I know how to cross-over to different tracks, and that makes me well rounded.

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HOW DO YOU USE YOUR POWER FOR GOOD? Angie: I live by the words of Luke 12:48: “To whom much is given, much is required.” My current professional and community work allows me to be a decision-maker around community investment and social capital. I currently serve on seven boards for organizations that are important to me. My voice and perspective are important around those board tables.

At times, I must be the voice of the underrepresented, and I take that responsibility very seriously.

Kathy: I share my resources and see my primary role as an educator. I tell people how to prepare and get the financing they need. I use my background and network of referral sources to help build the financials that will help small businesses become successful.

Lara: The first few weeks after COVID-19 hit, we had our drivers randomly deliver hundreds of azaleas to people in Floyd and Clark counties. It was just a little something to brighten their day and for them to be able to plant in their yards. In addition to small things like that, we donate to schools, churches, and other charities. Not only do we donate, I also attend many events and auctions to support local charities and organizations. Some of these include Personal Counseling Services, Rauch, Indiana University Southeast, The Carnegie Center, and New Albany Floyd County Animal Shelter.

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A POWERHOUSE STEPS UP TO BE CHIEF l YVETTE GENTRY

By Megan M. Seckman Photo submitted

From the small pulpit of Louisville, the echo of “Say her Name” can be heard around the world. With daily protests now in their fifth month and a police force under a microscope, Yvette Gentry, interim Police Chief, has essentially walked into the eye of a storm.

Before Chief Gentry took a leave of absence from her job in philanthropy at Metro United Way to accept this interim appointment, she had retired as deputy police chief in 2014 with a 20-year career in law enforcement. With the experience and community relationships she built on and off the force, she’s poised to be just the woman to help mend our fractured city. For now. Make no mistake, Chief Gentry walks into this position with a sense of duty to all of Louisville’s citizens — those in and out of the uniform — until it is time for her to pass the baton to Mayor Fisher’s permanent hire. Her goal until then is simple: Leave Louisville better than how she found it.

WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO JOIN THE POLICE FORCE YEARS AGO? HOW OLD WERE YOU? In 1990, at the age of 20, I became a dispatcher. That was my mother’s line of work, and I respected the work she did, so I followed in her footsteps. Later, my best friend and I became interested in law enforcement, so we took the test. This line of work was a natural progression for me in my life of public service, but I didn’t set out to become a police officer. I thought I was going to be a teacher — and I still want to be a teacher when I grow up.

WHAT IS THE NUMBER ONE ACTION ITEM YOU HAVE ON YOUR LIST?

To hear from the community and start working on a shared agenda that incorporates looking for ways to improve the police department and the city overall. There needs to be systemic change, not just in law enforcement, but in many policies and practices within our city.

I want to be crystal clear that my responsibility is to have a strong police department, examine our policies, and support our officers so that they can keep the community safe, but I also look forward to working and standing shoulder-to-shoulder with people throughout the community to address our needs.

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WHAT PREPARES YOU FOR THIS POSITION? WHAT HARD AND SOFT SKILLS MAKE YOU THE RIGHT PERSON FOR NOW? I am prepared for this position because I have so many experiences with government and non-profit work: recreation, the zoo, the health department, the mayor’s office… I have developed many skills across all areas of government and have built lots of relationships across the community. That, coupled with my desire as a citizen to make this a better place, is what makes me the right person for right now. I gave up a lot of comfort to be here — to help others experience a better quality of life with the violence and unrest we are experiencing.

My goal is just to leave the city better than I found it.

WHAT TYPE OF A LEADER ARE YOU? WHAT IS YOUR SKILL SET? That is always a hard question for me to answer. Every position I have had, I give it my best. I am thorough and a hard worker.

People use the term “servant leader.” I am a servant at heart. I am transformational, and that is what I want to be at the end of this.

HOW WILL YOU ADDRESS THE TENSIONS AND DISTRUST MANY BLACKS IN LOUISVILLE FEEL TOWARD THE POLICE? WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO MEND THESE RELATIONSHIPS?

It is interesting because the relationship is fractured. Many of the men and women who are out here protesting daily in the streets are not necessarily from Louisville. We don’t hear all the facts, and we need to start telling all the truths.

Reform is about holding the right people accountable. One of the challenges of law enforcement is that we always hold the front person accountable without examining the entire system. There is a whole system of people who are supposed to support, hold the officers accountable, etc. But we only want to cast stones at the front person. In education, the teacher is right in front of the student, they are the face, but the teacher can’t be blamed for every issue happening in their class. That teacher may have asked for support and tools that they didn’t receive — and the teacher can’t fix every problem in society.

The community needs to understand that systemic change is needed, not narrow the focus of responsibility.

The community has to decide that they are open to authentic engagement with law enforcement. I can hold an officer accountable for being courteous. But the community has to give law enforcement a chance to build relationships — the same bricks you use to build a wall can build a bridge. We have to build up trust and tell the truth. Most people respect their local beat officer. The leaders in the system also need to work to build that trust.

A lot of trust comes from leadership. I have to accept responsibility for my part in that system.

WHAT DO YOU WISH CIVILIANS KNEW ABOUT BEING A POLICE OFFICER?

People don’t realize the magnitude of work put on the shoulders of patrol officers without the proper training they need. The 30 hours of training about the law and a gun are not enough.

Most calls after 4pm are addiction and mental health calls, and the only ones who respond to a call to the scene are police. Holding officers accountable for outcomes they aren’t trained for is irrational and unfair. We need other professions to mobilize as well.

You wouldn’t accept a podiatrist to do the work of a heart surgeon. It is the same thing — police need other professionals to assist with their calls. This is happening all across the country. We need to build the stadium for this, and it is going to take time, but we are laying the foundation now.

WHAT TOOLS AND RESOURCES DOES LMPD NEED IN ORDER TO DO A BETTER JOB OF PROTECTING AND SERVING THE COMMUNITY?

Partnering with other entities. Divesting and defunding is about taking some of the responsibilities away from law enforcement.

We need to figure out ways to decrease public contact with the police. Once we do that, we will decrease negative and fatal interactions and will be able to provide the time it takes to build a relationship.

WHICH CITIES DO YOU LOOK TO AS A MODEL POLICE FORCE FOR LMPD TO ASPIRE TO? There are a lot of positive models in social work. Part of my job is that I have to reimmerse myself in the research. I have been overwhelmed with people reaching out with ideas and best-practices, but I need to spend some time with the community and the officers to reach all parties who haven’t had their voices elevated. No one has a lightning in a bottle approach. My priority is making citizens and officers — officers are citizens, too, we can’t forget that — feel safe in their communities.

“My goal is just to leave the city better than I found it.”

WHAT DO YOU HOPE WILL DEFINE YOUR LEGACY? She came. [Yvette laughs] Again, I just want to leave the city better than I found it.

WHAT ARE YOUR PLANS AFTER THIS POSITION? WHAT IS NEXT FOR YOU?

To go home and enjoy seeing LMPD in a better place. To sit on my back deck with my granddog and kids, in peace, knowing that Louisville is a safer city. I want to sit... Then I’ll go back to my nonprofit work.

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THE JOB SEARCH:

WHO IS HIRING IN THIS AREA?

By Carrie Vittitoe

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istorically, some years have been harder than others to find a job. For example, the bursting of the housing bubble in 2008 wreaked havoc on job seekers for a time. In 2020, COVID-19 has changed everything, including the industries that are hiring and the ways in which people find and acquire jobs.

WHICH INDUSTRIES ARE UP AND DOWN Most people are fairly aware of the industries that have been hardest hit by COVID-19 as a result of physical distancing restrictions: restaurants, hotel management, resorts and travel, event planning, and the performing arts. But there is another hidden part of the economy that has also been impacted. “Industries that cater to those [industries] — their distributors and suppliers, the whole supply chain — [has been] hit as well,” says University of Louisville Associate Professor of Economics Joshua Pinkston, Ph.D. While it is clear that bands and musicians have been impacted by COVID-19, the individuals and businesses that support bands and musicians, such as stagehands, merchandise vendors, and stadium custodial staff, have also been negatively impacted by the lack of live shows.

Tammy Meredith, an executive career coach based in Louisville, says despite the hard-hit industries, there are some sectors of the economy that are doing well and hiring. “It’s not all doom-and-gloom. Anything cloud-based technology is number one. Even market research is big,” she says.

Mary Ellen Wiederwohl, chief of Louisville Forward, says Kentuckiana’s strong base of legacy industries, such as health care, logistics, and business services, is holding its own even in the pandemic.

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Of course, rates of COVID-19 can and will continue to impact businesses, including the ones that are doing well now. “The disease is driving the bus when it comes to long-term impact at this point. One of my concerns is that the U.S. has wasted its lockdown. We opened up in ways that we knew were bad ideas,” Joshua says. “I don’t have a crystal ball, but I’m not hugely optimistic going into the fall or winter.”

GETTING TECHNOLOGY-SAVVY As everything has moved online in the wake of physical distancing, the key to finding a job lies a great deal in the skills job seekers bring to the business. “The key is you’ve got to have your technology skills, [but] it doesn’t mean you have to be a programmer or developer,” Tammy says.

For the past several years, there have been a number of groups and businesses focused on helping individuals get the credentials and badges they need in order to find and retain technology jobs. Code Louisville is one such training program.

Another is Louisville Work Initiative, which in partnership with Microsoft, offers information to interested job seekers and career changers. At futurelou.com, individuals can find free online training for data analysis, digital marketing, software engineering, and user experience design. “I am so thrilled how far ahead we have been as a city,” Mary Ellen says.

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WHERE AND HOW TO LOOK FOR JOBS Now job hunters utilize CareerBuilder, Indeed, and Glassdoor. And just having a LinkedIn profile might not be good enough.

“Especially for management level and above, you’ve got to be really active on LinkedIn,” Tammy says.

KentuckianaWorks.org is a great resource for anything job-related in seven Kentucky counties, including Jefferson. For residents on the sunny side of Louisville, One Southern Indiana (1si.org) and the Indiana Department of Workforce Development (https://www. in.gov/dwd/) can be helpful for those looking to network and find employment information.

Tammy also says job boards need to be used as research tools. Reading job descriptions can help those seeking employment to figure out what specific skills they need to acquire or improve. “[You might see a business that says] they’re looking for someone with Advanced Powerpoint or Amazon Web Services (AWS),” she says. It is an employer market right now, Tammy says, so if a job description includes a requirement for certain skills, a job applicant isn’t going to get very far without them.

In addition to having certain skills, applications and resumes need to specifically state those skills. “Most companies scan resumes into an applicant tracking database.

If you don’t have key words, even if you may have that skill, your resume won’t go to the top,” Tammy says. Job hunters who have researched job descriptions, acquired the needed skills, and use those keywords (like skilled in Powerpoint or AWS) on their resumes are more likely to get a call from a potential employer.

Being strategic about job hunting is also essential. “The worst thing you can do — and what a lot of people do — is sit in front of job boards and do what we call the ‘spray and pray.’ They spray their resume out to 100 people and they pray somebody is gonna call, and that’s the least effective way to job search,” Tammy says.

THE GOOD AND BAD OF NETWORKING It isn’t just what a job seeker knows or the transferable skills he or she has. It is also who that job seeker knows, and Mary Ellen notes that this is problematic because who we know can be fairly limited and even exclusive. Tech employees have historically been predominantly white and male, so a woman or minority may have trouble networking in these fields if they are just starting out. While networking will continue to be important in job hunting, “we have to figure out how to make that more inclusive,” she says.

STAYING FLEXIBLE If any word sums up 2020, it is unpredictable, which means job seekers need to be as flexible as possible. This might mean relocating for a job if you are able. It might mean taking a short-term contract or consultant position to build experience and network with people. It might mean taking a different shift than you’d prefer in order to get your foot in the door. It might mean changing your expectations at least temporarily.

The most important thing job seekers can do, though, is keep themselves and their loved ones healthy, because ultimately this is what is needed to get and keep a job. “The thing that can’t be said enough is that the best thing for the economy is controlling the spread of the virus. Ultimately, our economy is built on human capital.

To have human capital, we need healthy and productive people,” Joshua says. “The virus is the key economic issue to focus on.”

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“MOST COMPANIES SCAN RESUMES INTO AN APPLICANT TRACKING DATABASE. IF YOU DON’T HAVE KEY WORDS, EVEN IF YOU MAY HAVE THAT SKILL, YOUR RESUME WON’T GO TO THE TOP.” — TAMMY MEREDITH

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HIRING THE PERFECT MATCH FOR YOUR BUSINESS

By Tonilyn Hornung

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inding the perfect match for a position in your company doesn’t have to be a daunting process. Whether you’re looking for someone with a flexible schedule, excellent computer skills, or the ability to problem solve and tell a good knock-knock joke, there are solid steps to take while searching for that singular employee to complement your company’s vision.

Sometimes it’s the simple things that make a good first impression. Marketing your company with an up-to-date website is a wonderful way to engage a potential new hire. “If the company has a website, that’s the first thing people will go to,” says Tiffany Cardwell, a principal advisor on MCM’s HR Advisory Services Team, with over 20 years of experience in human resources. She suggests doing a once-over of the company’s website to make sure contact information and links are active and up to date.

A good way to maintain your website and keep your webpresence relevant is to be active on social media. “It’s so easy for a possible applicant to Google Search right now,” Tiffany says. She also suggests getting a little creative when you’re ready to write your job description so your ad will stand out from the crowd in cyberspace.

Cindy Read, deputy director with KentuckianaWorks — an organization that engages “employers, educators, and job seekers with resources to build a stronger community through the dignity of work” — says to remember to include the deeper mission of the open job position. “Make sure that the person knows they have the opportunity to feel good about what they’ve accomplished at the end of the day,” Cindy says. Another tip Tiffany gives is to keep your post “industryspecific versus general,” and think through the “qualifying things they want in the role.”

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AFTER FINDING THAT PERFECT MATCH, THERE’S A LOT THAT CAN BE DONE TO KEEP PEOPLE ENGAGED. Toni Clem, president and CEO of Scoppechio, one of the largest private marketing and media firms in the country, says, “We believe online marketing is an absolute inclusion in our plans. With over 90% of job seekers going to Linkedin, Glassdoor, Indeed, Monster, Facebook, etc. to search for a job, we include it automatically.” Applicants are looking across all channels to partner with a business model that suits them. Once they’ve discovered the great benefits your company offers, the resumes and applications will begin to flow.

After you’ve assembled your most-liked applicants, it’s time for the interview process. While preparing for this, Tiffany says, “It’s important to have some direct questions that will show you if that person has had the experience you’re looking for.” Then, make sure the questions you chose are relevant — just like the panel of co-workers you’ll be assembling to ask them. “When you put the interview panel together, put together a group of people who the candidate could see themselves working with,” Cindy says.

This interview panel will be working together to discover a possible new team member. “The best way to conduct a candidate experience is to have a lead interviewing team who interviews the candidate on different performance competencies,” Toni says. She suggests the interview be structured in this way so your potential new hire won’t be asked the same question multiple times depending on who’s interviewing. This also illustrates that you value your candidate and their time. This can set the early groundwork for mutual respect and a professional level friendship to develop.

So once you’ve found the “perfect match” for your company, how do you tell them? A snail-mail letter might take too long, and do people still phone one another anymore? Yes, Cindy says, calls are made when the offers are finalized. Each organization has its own standard offer, and Toni says this offer can include a number of “incentives” like “a strong benefits package, which would include medical, dental, vision, 401K, long term/short term, life, and disability.”

This sparkling new contract and benefits package, blended together with your exceptional work environment, will bring your new team member to their very first day of work. “A strong positive onboarding experience is critical.

It’s important that new hires have a seamless integration experience with their manager and team,” Toni says. On that first day, this can look like walking them through schedules and/or having key personnel take them to lunch. “Continue to have someone be the point person to keep them in the loop for their first week,” Tiffany says.

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You’re off to a rousing start and a healthy working relationship. Now it’s all about strengthening that relationship. There’s a lot that can be done to keep people engaged in a work environment. “Along the path is always managing their expectations,” Toni says. Establishing a habit of honest communication can extend trust so that your working partnership can grow. “It’s all about radical transparency in regards to what we’re doing right and what we can do better,” she says.

Should the channel of communication fall to the side and your employee decide to move to another job opportunity, don’t fret. First, speak to them to assess why they’ve decided to leave, and see if perhaps adjustments can be made. “Sometimes you’re in a place to offer a different position or give a raise, and then sometimes this isn’t an available option,” Cindy says. If adjustments simply aren’t an option, Toni says, “Be true to yourself as a company.

Our team members that leave, we want them to be happy wherever they go.”

Hiring the best match for your company means finding your most compatible team player. Once that goal is scored, keeping the lines of communication flexible and open can make your working relationship a partnership that thrives for the long term.

BEFORE YOU GIVE YOUR HEART

By Joyce Oglesby

Q: “I’ve been involved with a

wonderful man for two years. I love him and he loves me, and we are now talking engagement. But before I say yes, I’m wondering if my concerns are valid. We communicate, but we don’t. He says he wants to hear my point of view, but then anytime I share it, I’m always wrong, I disappoint him, and/or I never meet his expectations. I feel chastised like a child and find myself recoiling.

He doesn’t want to hear how “I feel” because he looks at things more black and white and believes emotion is a wasted effort. I was not quite honest with him once in the beginning of our relationship because I wanted to avoid a recurring argument about an issue, and he continues to throw it in my face. I’m looking for a different approach for handling these issues. Can you help?

Joyce’s FIX: Perception is a double-edged sword. It is quite the friend when it keeps us on the winning side of right, but a dreadful enemy when it blinds us from the truth.

I’m sure there may be a wonderful man who has captured your heart, but the one you describe is likely the one who will break it in time. My good sense is telling me to talk you out of saying yes. My understanding behind the power of love will attempt to offer a different strategy to the issues facing you. I am pleased, however, that you are asking these questions on this side of the altar. You have recognized some caution flags that, if left unaddressed, could wave red in your future.

1. Communication. There is an art in communicating — listening. It seems as though he is predisposed to knowing you will always be wrong, a failure, and not enough. Talking down to you as if you are a child does not sound like a partnership as much as it sounds like a dictatorship. I am going to encourage you to challenge him. I get it — you don’t like confrontation. Sometimes, however, it is necessary for survival. It is time for you to draw a line in the sand for yourself. Allowing his negative input about your opinions, giving him permission to discredit your efforts as disappointing, and accepting that you fall short of accomplishment will serve to eradicate the value you see in yourself. Next time, don’t recoil. If it evokes an argument, so be it. Dismiss his criticism lightly, and let him know you disagree with his assessment of you as a person of worth. This new attitude will not only embolden you, it will cause him to assess whether he needs to adjust his behavior or move on to someone who will tolerate his insolence.

2. Feelings. His denial of the significance of emotion is more than a caution flag.

He appears to be someone with a cookie-cutter mentality for whom people should only react in a certain manner and think a specific way. It must be within the realms of his cold, impassive logic. Take the next opportunity presented to ask him to look at your feelings, regardless of how little emphasis he places on them. Present him hypotheticals, talk about them, make him hear you out, and simply consider that people are unique and distinctive. If you are unsuccessful in having him look, much less step, outside of his box, imagine this mindset instilled into the hearts and minds of your children. It’s a 50/50 chance they would think like him rather than feel like you.

3. Integrity. I’m sure you wish you could take the white lie back. I feel quite certain you have asked him to forgive you, and he probably has said he does — he simply can’t forget it. Trust is a critical foundation in every relationship. “Communicate” to him that you have given him no cause to distrust you since that time. Get him to agree that it is never going to be mentioned again. If he can’t let it go now, he never will.

You cannot communicate in silence. Nor can you connect for a lifetime of love, happiness, and fulfillment, which is what marriage should look like, with you feeling put down, chastised, or devalued. Today is the time to address these troubling issues. If he loves you, he needs to adore you, not control you or tell you how to think and/or not feel. If you feel weighed down when he’s around, once he pops the question, the answer should be emphatically “no.”

Struggling with a relationship issue? Write Joyce Oglesby, Family Life FIX-IT Pro at justaskjoyce@gmail.com and find a solution for life.

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A Louisville Heart

“It gives me all the good feels…”

By Tami Pyles Photo by Erika Doll

Abica Dubay brings her life lessons from L.A. back to Louisville to help individuals and the community through YOGAST8.

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bica Dubay, owner of YOGAST8 (pronounced Yoga State), is a woman with a self-proclaimed “L.A. soul and a Louisville heart.” She is pouring that heart and soul into bringing a new offering to the Louisville yoga scene.

Her studio, which opened in June, is the only Vinyasa flow studio in the city to use all infrared heating panels.

Abica, the daughter of two teachers, grew up in the Highlands, but she had a dream that took her away from her beloved Bluegrass State. As an aspiring actress and graduate from the Youth Performing Arts School (YPAS) at Manual, she embraced the chance to head to L.A. to attend the California Institute of the Arts. While in L.A., she honed her acting skills and began her yoga journey.

“L.A. is in my soul. I feel like I really grew up there,” says Abica of her twenties in the City of Angels. After completing college, she pursued her acting dreams full force, heading to audition after audition. When she wasn’t acting, she was working other jobs to make ends meet. One such job was as a nanny, for whom she referred to as a quintessential L.A. couple. They were such a great family, she remembers, “but so different from how I grew up.” Her experiences highlighted the difference from her own upbringing. “There is a sense of groundedness that Louisville and Kentucky have. L.A. is so wonderful but so chaotic and crazy.”

Her practice evolved, and she began teaching yoga classes in L.A., spending more and more time on her mat. After more than a decade of L.A. life, Abica felt it was time for a change.

She had chased her acting dream and given it her all but says, “I eventually started to want to be on my mat more than going out to auditions. That was really telling for me.”

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Just as her mat was calling to her, so was Louisville. She was longing for home. However, love kept her in L.A. just a little longer as her fiance had just opened a restaurant. She and now-husband Rob Rice, executive chef at Grassa Gramma and director of operations at Belle Noble, made the move back to Louisville two years ago, with their two dogs and cat in tow.

The couple tied the knot in 2019 at the Faul Family Riverside Farm. Embracing her Kentucky roots, they invited their L.A. friends for what Abica said was “a good ol’ Kentucky barn wedding.

“Louisville gives me all the good feels,” Abica says. After such a long time away, she had to get to know the city again.

“So much had changed, and I fell in love with Louisville all over again,” she recalls. She immersed herself in yoga locally, started teaching at various studios, and got to know the fitness scene. She met her business partner, Deanna Durrett, and through their connection YOGAST8 was born.

“L.A. made me the woman I am today. I am so excited to now settle in Louisville as that woman and let things grow,” Abica says. The studio is already planning events and fundraisers with the intent of making Louisville a better place.

Ultimately, Abica says,

“We hope that we can help people find a little more peace of mind, a little more clarity, and a little more hope.”

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WITH CHOCOLATE Story and Photo by Madeleine Dee

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ay hello to the perfect double chocolate cookie! These are crispy on the outside, soft and chewy on the inside… simply irresistible. You can use any combination of chocolate chips that totals 12 oz. (one standard bag), but I love this “tuxedo” combination that uses 4 different types of chips, each one playing a part in a deep, dark chocolate symphony. These are fantastic! What are you waiting for??

DOUBLE CHOCOLATE TUXEDO COOKIES INGREDIENTS: • 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, softened • 1 cup granulated sugar • 1 cup packed light brown sugar • 1 tsp. table salt • 1 tsp. vanilla extract • 2 large eggs, room temperature • 2 tsp. baking soda • 1 cup Hershey’s Special Dark Cocoa Powder • 2 cups all-purpose flour • 3 oz. white chocolate chips • 3 oz. semisweet chocolate chips • 3 oz. bittersweet chocolate chips • 3 oz. Ghirardelli caramel baking chips INSTRUCTIONS: 1. Heat your oven to 350 degrees F. 2. Cream butter, sugar, light brown sugar, salt, and vanilla until light and fluffy.

3. Add in the eggs until combined.

Scrape down the sides and mix for a few more seconds.

4. Add the baking soda and cocoa powder into the bowl. Wrap a clean kitchen towel around the outside of your mixer and put it on low speed for a few seconds. The towel will prevent the cocoa from flying out everywhere!

Turn the mixer up to medium and let it go for a few seconds, until you start to hear it slow down. Stop the mixer and pat the towel to loosen any cocoa that tried to escape, then remove the towel and set it aside. Scrape down the bowl and give the dough a quick mix to incorporate all the cocoa powder.

5. Add in the flour. Use the towel again to surround the mixer, then start low and work up to medium until you hear it slow down after a few seconds. Remove the towel. Scrape down the bowl and mix on a low setting until the white flour disappears.

6. Incorporate the various chips evenly.

Madeleine Dee (AKA The Seasoned Cynic) is a chef, writer, world traveler, and filmmaker who lives in Louisville @TheSeasonedCynic, TheSeasonedCynic.com

7. Scoop the dough onto a parchment paper-lined cookie sheet and bake for 11-13 minutes. Allow the cookies to rest for 5-10 minutes before enjoying!

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28 THINGS (Why 28? Because we are 28 years old!)

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Follow us at @TodaysWomanNow for contests and connections.

Candace Oliver was inspired by her young daughter to launch C&C Boutique, which recently opened at 154 E Main Street in New Albany, Indiana. Cai’Lee, 6, has her own lip gloss brand.

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They offer finelycrafted cheese boards, charcuterie, and a dynamic selection of carefully-curated wines and beer. culturedcheeseshop.com

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Let’s stop and cheer for those who are opening or expanding businesses right now. Here are some of the new places to stop and shop.

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3 NEW PLACES TO CHECK OUT

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7 Local Instagram Accounts that Caught Our Eye

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Happenings, news, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month

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12WOMEN ON THE FIELD! Are you excited about our new women’s soccer team?

The Racing Louisville Football Club is selling tickets for the 2021 season right now at racingloufc.com.

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As a fan, another group you might want to join is The Lavender Legion, an Official Racing Louisville FC Supporters Group.

We sat down with Leigh Nieves, president of Lavender Legion, to ask a few questions: HOW DID YOUR ORGANIZATION GET STARTED? We began organizing a supporters’ group back in October 2019 with the purpose of garnering some more excitement around the arrival of Racing Louisville FC. We quickly realized that the level of hype regarding this team was astronomical and that we needed to start an official supporters group ASAP.

HOW CAN MEMBERS PARTICIPATE? Joining the Legion is really simple and can be done by visiting our website (lavenderlegion.com). We've hosted virtual watch parties for the current NWSL season and have a Lavender Legion Group going on Facebook that anyone can participate in. Racing Lou FC has also been really great with organizing some supportersgroup-exclusive Q&As with our new head coach. We are really looking forward to hosting some in-person events hopefully sometime next year!

WHAT CAN YOU TELL US ABOUT THIS NEW TEAM? Our excitement for this team is through the roof! A top tier women's soccer team is going to be here in Louisville, and we get to watch them play live week in and week out! We truly can't wait to cheer on this team.

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What are you grateful for?

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Share things you are grateful for so we can include you in our November issue.

Send your grateful message to editor@todaysmedianow.com or message us on Instagram @TodaysWomanNow.

Briania Nicole Davis, MSMFT, and the owner of Open Arms Wellness, a private mental health practice that focuses on anxiety, depression, trauma, and mood disorders, says gratitude is essential to our lives because “it helps focus the mind on the things we do have rather than the things we do not.” Bringing your mind to a place of gratitude in the present can refocus that bad day or those competitive feelings of lack. “It’s easy to get wrapped up in arriving at one’s destination rather than taking stock of the journey along the way,” Briania says.

“By appreciating the gifts of the moment, gratitude frees us from past regrets and future anxieties. By cultivating gratefulness, we are freed from envy over what we don’t have or who we are not. It doesn’t make life perfect, but with gratitude comes the realization that right now in this moment, we have enough, we are enough.” — Bob Mueller Bob Mueller is the Mission & Stewardship Officer at Hosparus Health www.bobmueller.org

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7 HALLOWEEN EVENTS STILL HAPPENING 19. Boo at the Zoo is offering Halloween fun for kids 11 and under. Buy tickets in advance at Louisvillezoo.org/boo.

20. The Jack O’ Lantern Spectacular is returning for the eighth consecutive year to South Louisville’s Iroquois Park as a drive-through event, where 5,000 artistically TWENTY-ONE carved pumpkins will Jack O’Lantern Spectacular 2020 will also be a donation greet visitors from drop-off location for October 1-November 1. #FeedTheWest, an initiative Purchasing tickets spearheaded by Change Today, Change Tomorrow. in advance is change-today.org/ strongly encouraged. feedthewest/ jackolanternlouisville.com

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22. Danger Run is a scavenger-hunt-style game played while in the car that leads you to some of the area’s spookiest places.

You will solve rhyming clues to crack the puzzles and unlock the mystery of some of Louisville’s spookiest places. From October 2-31. dangerrun.com 23. The Macabre at the Mansion, a creepy tour, will happen every Friday and Saturday night in October at the Culbertson Mansion at 914 East Main St., New Albany, Indiana. 812.944.9600 24. Ultimate Halloween, at 4002 S Pope Lick Rd, is an immersive Halloween show: spectacle stage show, scary characters and scare zones, scary movies, festivalstyle vendors, and fall food. Experience the folklore of the Pope Lick Monster until October 24. Legendatpopelick.com 25. Join in with the Spooktacular Soiree, a drive-in gala at The Olmsted, on October 31, to benefit the American Lung Association. bofakya.org

Sarah Young is a literary artist-inresidence at the NoCo Arts Center in Jeffersonville, Indiana.

27 Project Uplift When her poetic proposal for Project Uplift, a collaborative art endeavor between the Jeffersonville Public Art Commission and Clark Memorial Health, was accepted, it wasn’t just another in a series of art projects getting the green light. “This is my first ever solo art exhibition,” Sarah Young says.

Her two-directional symmetrical poem, which was installed near the Behavioral Health entrance of the Clark Memorial Health campus, was meant to be meditative. Sarah intended for the two center lines of the poem, “Recall your purpose/Recite your blessings,” to be the most thought-provoking.

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HONORING A FRIEND “I wrote Burn Your Fears for a dear friend, Marisa Wittebort, after she was diagnosed with a rare form of lung cancer (ROS-1) as a 30-year-old nonsmoker. After her diagnosis, Marisa wrote down her greatest fears and threw them into a fire. I wrote the song as an anthem for her. It’s about facing something incredibly difficult in your life, allowing yourself to completely embrace and feel every emotion it brings your way, and deciding to find beauty and live your life fully in a different way than you had planned.” — Carly Johnson

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E D U CATI O N AL H O N O R EES

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...push for excellence.

...empower students.

...change lives.

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They are changing the educational landscape through their innovative ideas and dedication to seeing every student achieve academic success. Read on to find out how these educators are bringing joy into the classroom.

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Assistant superintendent for middle schools at Jefferson County Public Schools CATEGORY: Education Administrator Michelle Dillard is empowering educators with the knowledge needed to help students achieve academic success in spite of any barriers they may face. “Failure is not an option. No excuses, just results,” she says. Michelle has been working in education for 24 years, which includes a background in special education. Currently, she is teaching middle school principals how to improve their leadership skills and is encouraging them to share what they’ve learned with other educators within the district. This fall, Michelle is teaching the Jefferson County Public Schools Six Systems and Pillars at the University of Louisville as part of their teacher residency program.

She says collaboration and “learning by doing” are important aspects of her teaching method.

Defining moment: I was a principal at Seneca High School, and it was a low performing school in the 5th percentile in the state in 2011. I worked hard to teach my teachers, staff, scholars, and parents they are somebody. Within three years of being the principal we worked hard and went from the 9th to the 12th to the 42nd percentile in the state. I left Seneca to be the assistant superintendent for the district.

What students need now: They need someone to believe in them and encourage them to move forward with learning no matter what and not to be afraid to ask for the tools needed to learn. Parents must know their rights and what to ask for.

Dealing with virtual learning: I suggest that school districts put committees together to help tease out all the things needed for teachers for virtual learning. I would then suggest that teachers have time to plan virtually or in person following the CDC guidelines weeks before it is time for the virtual learning to start. Give teachers and schools some guiding principles and then let them make the experiences their own to fit their classroom.

“Fire safety is so much more than showing off our trucks and firefighters.”

“I would like to see education be changed to allow for more innovation, deeper learning, and having more culturally responsive teaching in classrooms, with everyone respecting the different cultures.”

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Sergeant, Fire Inspector 1, Public Education at the Louisville Fire Department CATEGORY: Creative Education

Ashby Anderson spent nearly 10 years as a frontline firefighter, but now she is using her skills and knowledge to stop the fires before they start. She is teaching fire and life safety to kids, college students, older adults, healthcare workers, businesses, and school administrators. Ashby says it is important for people to understand how to make responsible decisions regarding fire safety. “It is so much more than showing off our trucks and firefighters. It’s finding who needs what in terms of safety information and providing that information on a level that it is well received and promotes a behavior change,” she says.

Teaching technique: Conversation paired with relevant data references supplemented with a lot of visual aids.

Most of the time I have one opportunity to get the information across, so I engage them with discussion and relevance. Our high risk groups have learning barriers so I use visual aids to reinforce messages.

Changes she hopes to see: It makes sense to integrate fire and life safety into science and math lessons at primary and middle school levels. Fire is a chemical reaction, and by capitalizing on this we could kill two birds with one stone. I’m currently working on piloting a common-core-aligned fire safety program centered around smoke alarm awareness for the Metro’s elementary schools in high risk areas.

Sound Off With The Home Fire Safety Patrol has enormous value because it teaches smoke alarm awareness, importance, and purpose. It is also common-core-aligned and meets various math, language arts, and national health education standards as well as offers free smoke alarm installation for students whose homes are without.

Best Icebreaker question for students: Introduce and be myself. The uniform can be intimidating, and it’s important I bring us to a place of mutually comfortable conversation. If there is a relevant piece of data that surprised me, I use that for the shock factor. I encourage participation from the beginning by asking questions like, “Does anyone know how hot sparklers burn?” or “How many of you have ever burned yourself cooking?”

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Special Education Teacher, Best Buddies Advisor at Butler Traditional High School CATEGORY: Special Needs Dawn Foley discovered her love of teaching while interning as a college student at a community center. “I was a peer tutor in my very classroom when I was a senior at Butler and remembered how much joy the students brought me. I knew I wanted to work with the special needs population but never imagined I wanted to be a teacher. I took the plunge and applied for grad school, realizing that inclusion in education was my passion.” Dawn also manages the school’s peer tutoring program, which selects senior students who apply to work in their classrooms. The tutors assist the students with their learning and create a socially inclusive atmosphere for them within the school. “I want all of my students to have a place they feel that they belong in, that they can relate to, that they can trust,” she says.

Defining moment: I had a peer tutor who looked at me and said ‘thank you.’ Before she became a peer tutor in my class, she had other desires for what she wanted to be when she grew up. Her heart and passion changed when she saw the joy that her job brought her every day and how she was changing the lives of her students and peers.

“I want all my students to have a place they feel that they belong in, that they can relate to, that they can trust.”

Changes she hopes to see: I would like for education to be respected. Not by one group or another in particular but by society as a whole.

Best thing: I think we have done a very good job of rolling with the punches and figuring out how to make NTI work. I had zero experience creating an online classroom and teaching remotely. Now we are taking what we have learned that works and does not work and making it even better. Virtual classrooms are thriving, and students are continuing to learn, despite this crazy virus.

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Director of Student Success and Student Affairs at University of Louisville, JB Speed School of Engineering CATEGORY: School Leadership Dr. Heidi Neal creates abundant opportunities that cater to the needs of every type of student. Heidi oversees the college’s academic counselors, leadership development, diversity [program], enrollment management, and retention initiatives, which serves nearly 2,000 undergraduate engineering students. She and her team developed partnerships with the West End School, Nativity Academy, and Central High School, which included installation of makerspaces within the schools. These makerspaces are equipped with electronics, tools, and engineering kits students can use to work on projects.

Heidi says students must learn skills to help them adapt to impermeability of college and life. “I believe it’s important for hands-on activities and learning through doing ... getting stuck and problem-solving and then celebrating the success,” she says.

Defining moment: I knew I was in the right field when I received my first note from a student, which stated that a service learning project I led changed her life forever and made her a better person. It was the moment I knew I could positively impact my community and the next generation of leaders.

“I would like to see college become more accessible to every student who wants to attend college. We as a community should find ways to encourage and assist students who want to attend college.”

Dealing with virtual learning: Our virtual situation has allowed us to think differently and out-of-the-box on everything from supporting each other to intervention programs for students. It’s been a great opportunity to think about how we can expand our support services and programming for students outside of campus.

Best Icebreaker question for students: “What cookie would you be and why?” It’s a great insight into a person’s mindset, and who doesn’t love cookies?

Soft skills you value: The soft skill I value the most is the ability to care and the ability to understand a person’s experience. If a person cares about another person or the situation, this leads to genuine and positive solutions.

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Raising Changemakers

By Megan M. Seckman Photos by Patti Hartog

Sisters Rylyn and Raegan work at the picnic table in their backyard (the table is now a beautiful rainbow of colors thanks to their spray painting). The girls are wearing the shirts they designed for their Be Kind organization.

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ark Twain said, “The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why.”

On the day our children are born, our hearts are filled with hope for their futures. We bring them into the world and wish them to be strong, healthy, happy, intelligent, capable, and good despite the inherent suffering around us. We hope, in the deep pulp of our hearts, for their lives to have purpose. We hope that their tiny hands will help others, and their hearts will be filled with empathy for others. We hope they might change the world.

In this article, you will meet several young change-makers, who have used their power to serve others and the families who nurtured them to find their “why.”

JUST BE KIND We’ve all been there in some shape, form, or fashion. Side of the road. Flat tire. Fiery, frustrated, fuming. Hungry, hot, and tired. This recipe for the classic category five family meltdown, however, sparked an ironically positive change in Raegan (11) and Rylyn (9) Richins’ lives forever.

On a road trip in LaRue County, when tensions and tempers were high, the girls looked up from their iPads and noticed a little sign on the side of the road that read “Just Be Kind.”

Once they opened their eyes to the first sign, they noticed several others that peppered the landscape — and the simple message made them instantly feel better.

“It came when we needed it most,” says their mother Rhonda Richins. “The girls have three siblings with Down

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syndrome, the oldest of which also has autism and other significant issues. That sign on the road helped us in that moment.

“One night, several weeks later, we were having a hard evening with their sister, and the girls brought up the sign,” Rhonda recalls. They wondered if they could replicate this concept in their Oldham County community, sell the signs, and donate the money to charities that help children with special needs like their sisters.

So Raegan and Rylyn started making and selling their hand painted “BE KIND” signs around Oldham County, and in less than a year have cranked out over 1,500 signs that can be seen in front yards, businesses, and schools throughout the county.

The girls have also been featured on the news, were successful in petitioning the Oldham County City Counsel to deem LaGrange as “The Kindness Capital of Kentucky,” and have donated money to Pillar (a non-profit dedicated to helping older individuals with intellectual disabilities), Blessings in a Backpack, and the Oldham County Humane Society.

“The signs make people happy and allow the girls to be creative. Little did we know that just after the girls started this project, their sister was going to be hospitalized for six months. It has been a natural medicine — a true gift for our family,” Rhonda says.

“I might change my mind if we had to do this all over again,” Rhonda says with a chuckle. “It has been a labor of love to make an average of 100 signs a week with a child in the hospital. But when we were having a really bad day, serving others always cheered us up. It has given my daughters a voice.

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Landry Feldmeier became active in Random Acts of Kindness (RAK) Louisville, a non-profit, student-led organization that fills needs in the community by committing random acts of service to other teenagers.

They know that age doesn’t matter when you want to make a change, and that kindness can be shown in many ways. It has made them independent thinkers.”

Rhonda says that the signs seem to soften others’ hearts, and often when they deliver the signs, people will throw in a few extra bucks for supplies, donate old paint, or pitch in for ice cream for the girls.

“It has been more than just two words; it has been a movement,” Rhonda says. “We need that reminder to be kind now more than ever.”

TAKING CARE OF OTHERS, LOVING YOURSELF Before Landry Feldmeier, 16, became 2019’s Miss Kentucky Outstanding Teen and runner-up in the Miss America Outstanding Teen pageant, she was dedicated to a life of service.

A family tradition in the Feldmeier home was to take the mischievous “Elf on the Shelf” and assign a daily mission of service to him once he was found. In addition to adopting children from foster care, the Feldmeiers also had an advent calendar that recommended a daily act of service instead of a cheap chocolate.

This practice inspired Landry to view service as a way of life. Service, to Landry, was seen as an integral part of life satisfaction, not a chore. It is what makes you feel good.

Amy Feldmeier, Landry’s mother, began by teaching manners to her small children and teaching them to notice, with intention, when people are struggling around you. Amy’s

motto was “JOY: Jesus, Others, Yourself” — meaning that in order to truly feel joy, one needs to honor the tenets of Jesus and take care of others, and this helps you to love yourself.

This background led Landry to become active in Random Acts of Kindness (RAK) Louisville, a non-profit, student-led organization that fills needs in the community by committing random acts of service to other teenagers. During the quarantine, RAK noticed a food security issue in Louisville as schools began to shut down. So, Landry and the other RAK volunteers assembled 10,000 snack bags to be distributed as supplements for needy families.

Landry’s personal motto is “Be bold, be kind,” and through her service with RAK and other non-profits like Opal’s Dream (an organization that grants wishes to patients in nursing homes), she has learned confidence in her ability to be a change-maker. “My outlook on life has changed. My goals are now centered on looking out for others. Once I realized the power of giving back, it was revolutionary for finding myself.

I’m now always interested in how I can mischievously “RAK” someone. I’ve noticed when I give back, my bad days become better. It helps me move on,” Landry says.

And what changes has Amy seen in Landry since she dedicated her life to service? Amy says service has helped her daughter with communication and leadership. She has witnessed her daughter’s positive impact on other teens.

“When you meet her in person,” Amy notes, “it is hard not to catch her warmth.”

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BROOKLYN & THE ADVENTURES OF BUDDY LUV

Brooklyn’s book The Adventures of Buddy Luv should be out in the next few weeks.

She has plans to make this a series of 4-5 books and a coloring book. The illustrator of the book is an 18-year-old girl who was a Dream Factory recipient.

Brooklyn Roller will be the first to admit that she is not your average teenager. When school was in session, you wouldn’t find her at football games or social events. Instead, Brooklyn spends her free time in the community volunteering.

And at 17, she has used the extra time at home during the COVID-19 pandemic to write a children’s book inspired by her experiences in community service. The Adventures of Buddy Luv was inspired by her time spent with the Dream Factory, the nation’s largest wish-granting organization for children with chronic or critical conditions.

As a participant in the Miss Kentucky Outstanding Teen pageant, Brooklyn chose this organization as her platform, and she has been helping to grant chronically and critically ill children’s wishes since she was a second grader.

“Making a difference is motivating. It has improved my self-confidence, and I’ve been able to have so many life experiences by helping others. I have learned to be grateful and don’t take anything for granted,” Brooklyn says.

Brooklyn was taught at a young age to lead with a servant’s heart. This concept came to light when she was seven and met Ryan, who had spina bifida. “She always had a smile on her face despite her suffering and constant surgeries. Her dream was granted to see Disney World, and that inspired me to spread the Dream Factory’s mission.”

Since Ryan, Brooklyn has served countless other children and sees the organization’s recipients as family. As an ambassador to the organization, she was tasked with designing a teddy bear with a Dream Factory T-shirt to hand out to Dream Factory recipients. “I struggled with the name of the bear. My dog, Buddy, had recently passed away, so I decided to name the bear ‘Buddy Luv’ because I believe that everyone needs some “Buddy” to love. When we started passing out Buddy Luv, the kids wanted to know the story behind the bear. That is where the idea for my book came from. The Adventures of Buddy Luv is about giving back, and that no matter who you are, or your background, everyone deserves love.”

ARTISTIC STATEMENT As with many Americans, the televised murder of George Floyd by a Minneapolis police officer shocked 10-year-old Sophie Barder on a profound level.

In the Barber household, “no question is off the table,” says Amy Barber, Sophie’s mother. So, the family began some in-depth conversations about the inequalities in our community when it comes to education, resources, housing, and the treatment of disenfranchised groups. “We’ve always taught openness and acceptance to all, but she started asking questions and became so much more aware of the layers of inequality. As parents, you want to keep children in their safe bubble, but we had to discuss these issues, as difficult as they are, in an age-appropriate way. What was going on in the news and in our community with the death of Breonna Taylor, well, we couldn’t not talk about it.”

Sophie’s father, Brian, says that Sophie is a natural empath who has always asked what she can do for those she sees that are suffering. Sophie, raised by two artists, decided the best way to contribute to the cause was to use her artistic abilities.

She decided to hand-paint Black Lives Matter signs and sell them to friends, families, and neighbors, and then donate the money to Play Cousins Collective, a West End non-profit dedicated to strengthening Black families by providing the resources, opportunities, and support systems needed for success.

“When she finds an idea she cares about, she gives 110%.

Sophie is a doer; she is not in it for accolades. It just makes her feel good,” Brian says.

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Sophie Barber paints in acrylic on canvas and she paints her signs to order. You can see that her signs include the names of shooting victims.

Since the inception of “Sophie’s Originals” (a title her friends and family have coined) in mid-May, she has raised over $2,000 for Play Cousins Collective and has also volunteered her time with the organization.

“Police, themselves, killed George Floyd and didn’t stop or do anything about it,” Sophie says. “I just feel like everyone should be equally treated. I just wanted to do something about it.”

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THREE WAYS TO CELEBRATE HALLOWEEN AT HOME. NO TRICK!

By Tonilyn Hornung

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y 7-year-old’s costume bin is filled with possibilities. In the morning, my son can attend a fancy dress party in Neverland as Peter Pan and then in the afternoon fly off to the desert for sandcastle building as Aladdin. Playing dress-up has always been a fun way for my little guy to express his creativity, and every year his kiddie-cosplay excitement spills over into Halloween.

Right after the Easter Bunny drops off his basket, my kid begins planning his Halloween costume. His ideas are discussed and discarded and finally, his outfit choice is stated with a grand proclamation: “Mom and Dad, for Halloween I’ve decided I don’t want to dress up as Buzz Lightyear, or a ghost, or Donald O’Connor. I want to be…Indiana Jones.”

My kid takes this holiday very seriously.

This year, however, this family is serious about bringing Halloween indoors. Our social distancing practices are making our usual door-to-door trick-or-treating adventures look a whole lot different. The change is seriously disappointing my little guy, so we’ve come up with some solutions to keep the spooky spirit of Halloween alive with all the treats and none of the tricks. Here are some boo-tiful activities we’ve come up with so far.

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1. Make a neighborhood scavenger hunt: Get ready for a fun family trip around the neighborhood! Make a checklist (or find a free printable one available online) and look for fake spider webs, spooky decorations, ghostly lights, a scary skeleton, or anything else that your imagination can devise! This is a great way for you and your family to treat yourself to some quality bonding time and a fun way to build up the excitement of Halloween. Hunting for haunting holiday-themed items is also an activity you can use in place of trickor-treating if you’re staying close to home.

2. Create an in-house candy treasure hunt with clues: “Treasure hunts on rainy days are grand, especially when it leads you to where the umbrellas stand.” With the riddle solved, I see a flash of a kid running to our umbrella stand. My son cheers when he finds another hidden clue. This pattern continues until he solves the very last question that leads him to a waiting treasure. My kid loves a classic treasure hunt, and Halloween is the perfect backdrop to bust out a mysterious hunt for ghostly treasure. To create your own quest at home, start with a clue that leads to a location or another item. Then, have a question waiting in that spot. Continue with these fun riddle-like hints until the very end where a large treasure trove of Halloween candy is waiting to be discovered and devoured!

3. Trick-or-treat in your own home: This one is for the little ones — or the big ones who want more candy. Have a parent (or older sibling) stand behind doors in your home ready to give out candy, stickers, or even blow bubbles. Children can practice knocking and saying their “trick-or-treating” line as many times as they’d like. You can set a spooky mood with music and decorations or keep the ambiance light and happy, depending on what works best for your family.

Halloween is at the top of my little guy’s list for all-time favorite holidays.

For one special night, he’s allowed to show the outside world his own inner world and express his individuality while on the greatest of sugar-highs.

I’m trying to keep the fun alive with one-of-a-kind activities so my son’s disappointment won’t haunt us for years to come.

My Motherin-Law is Unlikeable

By Joyce Oglesby

Q: “My son wants to quit school.

Academics is not his strong point, but he’s an extremely hard worker.

He has serviced grass in our neighborhood since he was able to push a mower, and the business has expanded to providing for total lawn care. I stress to him the importance of getting his diploma, but he says that he can get his GED and still become what he has always planned for his career — a landscaper. How do I encourage him to finish his last year without damaging our relationship?”

Joyce’s FIX: I agree a diploma is

important; however, a GED is the equivalent of a high school degree, if that’s as far as he intends to go with his education. It appears he has a plan for his life, he’s good at what he does, and he has a strong work ethic.

Most of us know many people who have been extremely successful as entrepreneurs even with limited degrees. Fighting this decision of his could be an exhausting yearlong battle for both of you. Supporting his natural gifts secures your relationship. As a parent, I would insist in your compromise that the GED be achieved before he disregards his senior-year responsibility.

Struggling with a relationship issue? Write Joyce Oglesby, Family Life FIX-IT Pro at justaskjoyce@gmail.com and find a solution for life.

Q: “There’s nothing about my mother-in-law I like. I tolerate

her because she is my husband’s mother, but we are like oil and water when we get together. She’s not a pleasant person to be around.

She’s had a difficult life and, apparently, is very bitter over the loss of a child and an eventual divorce. My husband feels I should be more sympathetic toward her. We are arguing more because when my baby comes in October, I certainly don’t want his mother’s negative, sour attitude influencing my child. How can I convince my husband of our need to pull back from her?”

Joyce’s FIX: It’s difficult for me to decide whose attitude might be more harmful

to the child — yours or hers. After all, your son belongs to your husband, as well. I’m not dismissing your analysis of your mother-in-law at all. I am wondering, however, if perhaps a little more patience and understanding might be appropriate on your part?

Now that you will be a mother, you should have a keener sense of the gravity on one’s heart when a child predeceases the parent. It is a huge loss. However, it’s not a rite of passage that allows one to become embittered and allow resentfulness to affect others, nor to permit it to destroy one’s peace of mind. Many loving couples have parted ways after the death of a child. Most of us would be challenged in a battle of this magnitude.

I would encourage you that honey attracts more flies than vinegar. Why not make some surprise one-on-one visits to your mother-in-law? Sit down. Share a cup of coffee and a piece of the pie or cookies you bring along. Engage in meaningful conversation. Ask her to share her feelings about her tremendous loss, how she found the strength to walk through the storm, what it did to her emotionally, how she managed to carry on in rearing her other children while going through such a state of grief. Now that you’re going to be bearing one of her grandchildren, you might help her heal after so many years so that she will be an effective grandmother. Encourage her. Assure her that you and your husband’s child — her grandchild — will depend upon her to be a positive force in the child’s life. Work on building a relationship with your mother-in-law rather than dreading time with her. Imagine how this approach could only serve to enhance your marriage. It’s a difficult position to put any man in— choosing loyalty to his wife or his mother. Both deserve it. I know not all moms are stellar examples of parenthood, and we have to look at those on a case-by-case basis. The complaints you have presented, however, do not lead me to believe she doesn’t deserve a second chance at life, and you could be the instrument for helping her step into a newfound peace after many years of pain. It could work; it might not. You will never know unless you try, and it will endear you to your husband for a lifetime knowing you at least put forth the effort.

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Independent Living Connecting Socially during COVID-19

By Carrie Vittitoe Photos by Melissa Donald

Senior living communities have had to learn how to do life differently as a result of COVID-19, and there has been great concern about the emotional stress residents have experienced due to physical distancing from their families. The administrators, staff, and caregivers at these communities have had to double-down on efforts to keep residents engaged socially and still living active, worthwhile lives.

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our experts “We have to be careful and work as a team on this. [Residents] have been awesome; family members have been awesome. Anything that we’ve put in place, they’re all on-board with.”

KELLI TYLER Executive Director Brownsboro Park BROWNSBORO PARK is located at 2960 Goose Creek Rd #2403, Louisville, KY 40241.

“We are excited to have found meaningful ways for our residents to engage with the people they love while also ensuring that our community stays safe.”

MARK CLIFFORD Lifestyle 360 Director The Forum at Brookside THE FORUM AT BROOKSIDE is located at 200 Brookside Drive, Louisville, KY 40243.

“Caregiving is a hard job, and at-home caregivers need a lot of support. When it’s time for them to make a decision to hand over the full-time care of their loved one to a facility, we provide them with support and resources.”

KIM BRAMLETT Independent Living Director The Grand Senior Living THE GRAND is located at 9300 Civic Way, Prospect, KY 40059.

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Independent Living Directory Independent Living communities are for those who need no services and are totally independent. Special services are provided, such as meals in a central dining area. Most people drive, but some transportation is usually offered.

These communities offer no health care services and are not required to be licensed or certified.

Brownsboro Park Retirement Community 2960 Goose Creek, Louisville, KY 40241 (502) 429-7700 • brownsboropark.com

Units in facility: 134 Cost per person per month: studio $2095, 1 BR $2575-$2900, 2 BR $3000-$3400 Minimum age: 62 Special services: Family owned & operated since 1986, several spacious floor plans, located on 14 beautiful acres with a park, walking trail and fishing pond. Warm, friendly residents, spacious apartments with great closets, activities to keep your mind entertained and your body in shape, housekeeping, extensive shuttle program that runs 7 days a week and excellent chef-prepared meals. All-inclusive pricing (includes all utilities, phone, cable, internet & personal alert pendant).

Owner: Bunker Hill Assoc. III, LLC Payment Accepted: private

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USING SPACE DIFFERENTLY Although Brownsboro Park sits on 14 acres, there was probably a time when much of that space didn’t get explored or utilized. But COVID-19 has changed that. Executive Director Kelli Tyler says the wide open space has been a lifesaver for residents. “It’s been a huge saving grace,” she says, not only for individuals to sit outside or take a walk, but for staff to be able to safely distance residents while still being in a common space for socialization.

No one knew how essential parking lots would be in 2020, but they have been used at The Grand for concerts. An entertainer brought a microphone and loudspeaker to The Grand’s parking lot and performed a concert for residents who stayed on their balconies or patios. “It was so incredibly beautiful to watch. Everyone had smiles on their faces. Some of our couples were dancing together,” says Independent Living Director Kim Bramlett.

“Everything we’re doing looks different, but the end result is the same.”

The grounds of The Forum at Brookside are lush and full of trees, and this outdoor space has been used for more events than ever before. “Classical music is played each Monday in our courtyard for apartment residents and each Thursday from the Gazebo for our villa residents,” says Lifestyle 360 Director Mark Clifford. The outdoors are also the site of Sunshine Visits, where family members and friends are permitted to visit with residents outside under canopies, carports, or patios.

The Forum has also transformed its hallways into meeting areas with a program called Hallway Happenings. According to Mark, residents bring their chairs to their apartment’s front door to listen to and participate in interactive discussions and music.

RESERVATIONS Reservations are often for special occasions or big events. You make a reservation to go on vacation or have a fancy dinner. As a response to COVID-19, reservations have become a way of life at senior living communities. Everything from exercise classes to yoga to dinner is done on a reservation system in order to meet CDC and state guidelines on the number of people in a given space. Kim says friend groups at The Grand will sign up for crafts, exercise, or games together so that they can still see each other and chat, even if it is from a distance. While some might mourn spontaneity, there is something to be said about individuals having to be more intentional about nearly everything.

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Units in facility: 58 Cost: entrance fee $215,000-$265,000; 2 & 3 BR patio homes plus monthly maintenance fee Minimum age: 62 Special services: Exquisite patio homes with enclosed porches and attached garages. All appliances included, security system, no property taxes, no homeowner’s insurance, spacious floor plans, all maintenance inside and out, exercise room and a beautiful clubhouse.

Owner: Trilogy Health Services, LLC Payment Accepted: private

Many of the social activities that senior living communities do, such as bingo or movie nights, are still happening. What is different is that they are happening for smaller groups of people more frequently. Kelli says what used to be a one-time showing of a film for a large group of people at Brownsboro Park is now multiple showings three or four times a week for smaller numbers of people. “Everything we’re doing looks different, but the end result is the same,” she says.

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Life remains full and busy at The Forum, but in smaller, more socially distanced ways.

Four exercise classes are offered three days a week to ensure residents are able to get the exercise they enjoy while still meeting public health guidelines. Two book club groups meet once a week at two different times, and a creative writing group has been formed to help residents put ideas to paper. While some people may have felt like their calendar became obsolete in 2020, calendars to keep track of multiple smaller events are necessary at The Forum.

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THE POWER OF PARADES Senior living communities have been experiencing drive-by parades, too, and residents are finding them just as exciting as elementary school kids do when they see a line of cars with balloons, streamers, and posters exploding from the open windows.

Kim says one of The Grand’s personal care residents was the beneficiary of a 100-carlong parade. Not only was this individual delighted to see a huge line of cars slowly driving by the veranda, many of the other residents found the celebration to be equally entertaining and joyous.

THE BEAUTY OF ROAMING It may sound a little dangerous, but roaming has become a bit of a new thing at senior living communities. Kelli says Brownsboro Park has had “roaming musicians” onsite.

“Some of our regular musicians who would come for happy hour will come at a scheduled time and they’ll start in the front entryway outside where they’ll play for about 20

Brownsboro Park (below) Due to pandemic restrictions, Brownsboro Park has had to think differently about how to keep residents engaged and keep regular activities going. Musicians who would have performed for happy hour are now roaming the grounds instead, and residents can open their windows or come outside at a socially distanced location and enjoy the music. “They’ll start in the front entryway outside where they’ll play for about 20 minutes,” says Executive Director Kelli Tyler, and then move on to about four different locations.

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Everlan by Dominion of Louisville 5900 Hunting Rd, Louisville, KY 40222 (502) 512-6834 •everlanliving.com

Units in facility: 56 Cost per person per month: $2450-$3950 Minimum age: 55 Special services: Known as Everlan of Louisville, Dominion Senior Living’s independent living brand was created for adults 55+ who seek to get the most out of life. Everlan fuses luxury with thoughtful design and allows residents to enjoy beautiful aesthetics and premium amenities without all the upkeep.

Everlan provides five-star cuisine, concierge and housekeeping services, tailored wellness programs, cooking, art classes, carefully curated experiences, well crafted designed indoor and outdoor spaces and easy access to retail, restaurant and entertainment choices.

Owner: Dominion Senior Living, LLC Payment Accepted: private

Forest Springs Health Campus 4120 Wooded Acre Ln, Louisville, KY 40245 (502) 243-1643 • forestspringshc.com

Units in facility: 34 Cost per person per month: starting at $2860 Minimum age: 55 Special services: Steps away from our fullcontinuum of care, villa patio homes offer housekeeping; lawn maintenance; fitness center and clubhouse; a full calendar of activities and excursions; Villa Lifestyle Director; pet-friendly.

Owner: Trilogy Health Services, LLC Payment Accepted: private

Let Our Readers Know What Makes Your Facility Stand Out! Call 502.327.8855 to discover more about this opportunity.

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Independent Living Directory The Forum at Brookside 200 Brookside Dr, Louisville, KY 40243

(502) 245-3048 • theforumatbrookside.com Units in facility: 240 Cost per person per month: Independent Living Apts $2300-$3800, Independent Living Villas $3000-$4550.

Carport or Garage Option Minimum age: 55 Special services: Gorgeous patio homes and apartments, gated community, 24 hr security, indoor heated pool, exercise room, chef prepared meals, flexible dining plan, recreational activities, pet friendly, a great staff and management team, full continuum of care.

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minutes,” she says. The musicians then move on to about four different locations, allowing residents to either open their windows to hear music or come sit outside to listen.

Roaming snack carts have also been a highlight of COVID-19 life at The Forum at Brookside. Who wouldn’t love a surprise ice cream treat being offered at your front door each day? Such visits provide not only a taste of sweetness, but are also a way for residents to see a smiling face and have a little conversation.

FAMILIES AND STAFF WORKING TOGETHER The families of Grand residents have tried to think of creative ways to celebrate milestones, whether it be a birthday or anniversary. The Grand was even the site of a very tiny graduation ceremony for a resident couple’s granddaughter. The couple’s granddaughter graduated from college but was unable to have an actual graduation.

Along with her parents, the new graduate stood outside in her cap and gown, while her grandparents watched her from their balcony. Kim made sure “Pomp and Circumstance” was playing on a speaker so the young adult, her parents, and her grandparents could safely have some semblance of a graduation experience.

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The Forum at Brookside (below) The Grand Senior Living 9300 Civic Way, Prospect, KY 40059 (502) 310-1542 • thegrand-sl.com Units in facility: 91 Cost per person per month: $3390-$5690 Minimum age: 55 Special services: Resort style living, luxurious apartments, spacious closets, extra storage available, garage & golf cart garage rental, utilities & appliances included, patios/ balconies, weekly housekeeping, 24-hour concierge, pet spa, salon & barber shop, fitness center, indoor heated pool, sun deck, putting green, club house, recreational activities, theater, cocktail lounge, shuttle service, continental breakfast, chef prepared gourmet meals, easy access to dining, shopping, entertainment, & health care, Signature Passion Program.

Owner: Management, Civitas Senior Living Payment Accepted: private

The green, tree-filled grounds of The Forum at Brookside are being used for more events due to COVID-19 safety guidelines. Here residents enjoy Sunshine Visits, where they can meet with family members and friends under canopies, carports, or patios. Lifestyle 360 Director Mark Clifford says classical music is also played outdoors in the courtyard and gazebo for the residents’ enjoyment.

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“The Road Apple Gang” visited The Forum at Brookside in early summer. It is a group of riders who volunteer to go to different facilities and share their horses with residents via a horse parade. They rode throughout the campus for two hours, giving residents the opportunity to not only see their horses but to get up close and personal with them. Submitted photo

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ADAPTING, SIMPLIFYING, AND HELPING Despite all of the things senior living communities have done to help make COVID-19 changes manageable, it is still a scary and isolating time for some residents. The Forum continues to offer one-on-one assistance with FaceTime, Zoom, or Skype to residents to ensure they stay in contact with their families, but “we have also made licensed or credentialed counselors available by phone or video conference to all assisted living and independent living residents,” Mark says.

No one wanted or wished for COVID-19, but what senior living staff has witnessed is a wonderful ability of seniors to both adapt to change and treasure simplicity.

Seniors have learned to use Zoom for Bible study classes and for help with tax preparation from their accountants. Residents have quickly adopted reservation systems. They are taking great joy in a birthday parade or a parking lot serenade.

“It’s brought the community together in ways we could never have anticipated,” Kim says.

Independent Living Directory Treyton Oak Towers 211 W. Oak St, Louisville, KY 40203

(502) 589-3211 • treytonoaktowers.com Units in facility: 160 Cost per person per month: 1 BR $3167-$3680, 2 BR $4061-$6260 Minimum age: 62 Special services: Serving Louisvillians for 34 years. Affordable spacious 1 and 2 bedroom apartments. Rooftop deck, greenhouse, art studio, fitness center, masseuse; Fleur de Lis dining room. On site dentist, bank, and salon. All in a safe secure continuum of care community. 2019 Deficiency Free State Survey.

Owner: Third and Oak Corporation Payment Accepted: Medicare, Medicaid, private, private ins., LTCi

The Villages at Historic Silvercrest One Silvercrest Dr, New Albany, IN 47150 (812) 542-6720 • villagesatsilvercrest.com

Units in facility: 37 Cost per person per month: $1418-$2363 Minimum age: 55 Special services: Steps away from our fullcontinuum of care, villa patio homes offer housekeeping; lawn maintenance; fitness center and clubhouse; a full calendar of activities and excursions; Villa Lifestyle Director; pet-friendly.

Owner: Trilogy Health Services, LLC Payment Accepted: private

Family and friends stand outside The Grand Senior Living to wave and share happy birthday wishes with a resident they love. Submitted photo

The Grand Senior Living (above) With visitation limited due to COVID-19, The Grand Senior Living and other senior communities have gotten creative with figuring out how residents can still see their families. For special occasions, The Grand has been the location for drive-by parades, with a line of cars filled with balloons, streamers, and posters from loved ones. One of The Grand’s personal care residents was the beneficiary of a 100-car-long parade, which made for a fun day for all of the residents.

Let Our Readers Know What Makes Your Facility Stand Out! Call 502.327.8855 to discover more about this opportunity.

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Becoming The Village:

Local Organizations Supporting Students

By Tonilyn Hornung

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eeping our children safe from the novel coronavirus while keeping them in school is a concern across the country. In order to protect our students, local school districts have made the call to begin the year at home and online. Taking part in NTI (Non-Traditional Instruction), asks that kids have more than a No. 2 pencil and a wirebound notebook in order to participate. What happens to those children and families who are struggling to find access to many essential resources during this transition?

In a learning environment, full stomachs are a resource necessary for children to realize their full potential. This is why Blessings in a Backpack was founded in 2005. Its mission is to provide food on the weekends to kids who qualify for the federal free and reduced lunch program.

When the pandemic first forced schools to rethink their in-person classes due to social distancing practices, BiB continued their calling. “The kids who rely on those free breakfast and lunch meals during the school week oftentimes go home for the weekend without anything to eat,” says Managing Director Kim Holsclaw.

Reaching out to its community of volunteers, BiB continued to deliver meals to those families who depended on their weekend blessings. Kim says she was blown away by the generosity of the volunteers who distributed backpacks to designated schools on Fridays because as Kim says, “How can we expect children to be successful later in life if they don't have their most basic needs of food met?”

After nourishing a child with healthy food, the next best step is to nourish their brain with healthy knowledge.

For some families, procuring computer tablets and the accessible internet needed for NTI studies is an impossible task. This is when local organizations like Metro United Way become a huge support. “We play a strong role in the community to ensure that everyone thrives,” says Adria Johnson, chief impact officer.

Metro United Way is a nonprofit organization that works to align resources to advance “health, financial independence, and education spectrums,” Adria says.

During the pandemic, this group has gone into “crisis response mode” in order to meet the ever-changing needs of the community it serves. When schools initially shifted to NTI, Adria says that Metro United Way quickly looked for “the best way to shore up organizations that have pivoted in this new normal and are supporting the community.” Concurrently, they helped with basic needs like buying hand sanitizer and purchasing thermometers for organizations that needed them.

Another well-loved local organization offering solutions of support is Kosair Charities. Founded in the early 1920s, Kosair has evolved into a charity that enhances the health and well being of children by delivering “financial support for healthcare, research, education, social services, and

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child advocacy,” says Lindsay Wehr, senior vice president of Strategy & Outreach.

One way Kosair has been supporting students and children through the pandemic is by backing nonprofits across Kentucky that are helping kids on the front lines. “This year we supported 80-plus organizations for over $12 million, and that’s definitely our biggest support, because there’s a lot of need for those organizations right now,” Lindsay says.

Kosair Kids Financial Assistance Program also directly helps families who might have an unexpected medical diagnosis.

“Any family can apply, and the application process is located on our website,” Lindsay says.

Making sure our children have the resources needed to thrive is a vital component in maintaining a healthy community. Like Adria says,

“This is a tough time for everyone, and these are not easy issues to solve. We all need to be exercising grace because this is the time for the village.”

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Wings of Hope

By Tonilyn Hornung Photos: Melissa Donald Hair: Krista Nenni, Ninety Seven Hair Studio Makeup: Brooke Spurgeon, Vanity Crew

Cancer. When that word stands alone it conjures up visions of uneasiness and anxiety. For those who have experienced its effects, it can bring up deep feelings of fear, sadness, or isolation.

These four women, however, have sought to redefine what cancer means. When faced with their own cancer diagnoses, these women reached through the darkness of the word “cancer” to find healing and a more constructive path for themselves.

To define their journeys they’ve chosen new words that hold a curative power more motivating than they ever imagined — “support,” “appreciation,” “gratitude,” and “advocacy.”

Aquia Ware3 Aquia Ware had noticed some abnormalities in her body and decided to discuss these with her doctor. After initial testing, at 29 years old and while pregnant, she was diagnosed with small cell carcinoma of the cervix. “I had a four-centimeter tumor on my cervix, and they were concerned because it was growing rapidly,” Aquia says.

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Date of Diagnosis: June 2014 Age Diagnosed: 29 (now 35) Type of Cancer: Small Cell Carcinoma of the Cervix

and newborn needed. It was while juggling all of the responsibilities that medication and motherhood threw at her that she learned the importance of a positive outlook — because at first, she chose the opposite. “I learned how low my mindset can actually go, because I felt like I was going to go to a dark place,” Aquia says.

Seeing that dark place with all its twists and turns gave her the strength to reach for the light.

“That bottom point helped me realize that I’m not the only person who’s ever been through this. And I’m not the only person who has been through this and has survived.”

This was the boost Aquia needed to find her own inner positivity. She felt this outlook was a key component in supporting her through her cancer care. “I think that your mindset has a direct correlation on how you get through.”

Shifting her perception from the negative to positive also created room for her to see great support in the people closest to her — people like her husband. Aquia says he was constantly reminding her of her own inner strength. His encouragement gave her a new appreciation for their family and marriage. “I definitely have an understanding of what it truly means to have a marriage through sickness and health,” she says.

Aquia is now 35 years old and in remission. Listening to her body and then trusting her inner wisdom has helped Aquia make it through.

Knowledge is power, and it’s this insight that she wants to share with those facing their own cancer diagnosis. “Just because you are diagnosed with cancer doesn’t mean you have been granted a death sentence.

There will be obstacles to overcome, but you can come out a survivor.”

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Wendy Hampton It was a surprise to Wendy Hampton when her medical chart read “cancer.” Her doctor assumed a fibroid tumor was to blame for the medical issues Wendy was experiencing and said its removal “shouldn’t be a big deal.” But after testing was done, it was found to be cancerous. At 44 years old, Wendy was diagnosed with high grade endometrial stromal sarcoma, a rare form of cancer. “It woke me up,” Wendy says of her diagnosis. page 6 >>

Date of Diagnosis: October 2019 Age Diagnosed: 44 (now 45) Type of Cancer: High Grade Endometrial Stromal Sarcoma

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For over 19 years, Wendy’s focus had been on her role as a mother. Her two daughters were very active, and their schedule was always packed full which, of course, meant Wendy’s was as well. Keeping up with her kids and going back to work kept Wendy living a busy and overplanned existence, “I kind of floated through life. I lived on the schedule and didn’t have to think,” Wendy says, “Getting cancer completely changed that.”

Realizing she wanted to live her best life in the here and now, Wendy made a conscious choice to change. “I probably missed a lot of moments because I was so busy and stuck in my head,” Wendy says. When she started chemotherapy treatments, she stopped her habit of hurrying and began a new one. “I’m learning to embrace each day. I don’t allow it to pass me by without being able to see it and feel it.”

Learning to live in gratitude wasn’t always a cure for down and tired times. Wendy says her treatments took a toll on her physically. For anyone else going through this process, she encour-

ages them to reach out to friends or family for help. “On certain days, you have to rest. So you have to let people help you,” Wendy says.

Living in the little moments also allowed Wendy to connect on a deeper level to those around her. “I’m a better everything…a better friend and a better mother.” One way her friendships have been bolstered is through cancer support groups. “It’s nice to hear from other people who have gone through what you’ve gone through.”

Wendy found organizations she enjoyed through Facebook and through the Norton Cancer Institute, and she encourages others in her position to do the same.

After completing her medical protocol five months ago, Wendy is attending regular follow-up appointments and scans. “My comeback is going to be stronger than my setback. I have cancer, but cancer does not have me,” she says.

So it won’t be at all a surprise when her chart officially reads “cancer-free.”

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“PATIENTS ARE FACED WITH GOING TO TREATMENT and visits without their loved ones, who are providing needed support. Take photos/videos and document your journey at the cancer center to share with your family support system. I used Caringbridge.com to document my journey for family and friends. Write about your experiences and talk to other patients who might be sitting near you. This can be therapeutic and healing. Ask your doctor to include your spouse or caregiver in any telehealth opportunities so they feel included in your care.”

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Danielle Cory Date of Diagnosis: May 2018 Age Diagnosed: 23 (now 25) Type of Cancer: Stage 3 Breast Cancer

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Cancer can take hold at any age. This is why at 23 years old, Danielle Cory phoned her OB-GYN’s office to say, “I want a mammogram.” Initially her doctor didn’t feel one was necessary, but the lump in her breast told Danielle otherwise. She “pushed harder” and an ultrasound was scheduled. After that ultrasound, and several more tests, Danielle was right to have advocated for herself. She was diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer.

“I had a lump in my right breast that had been growing for quite some time,” Danielle says. At first, she went to a nurse practitioner and talked to her about it. “I told her my family’s history of cancer, but I guess she didn’t put two and two together.” The nurse practitioner dismissed it as pulled muscle. After waiting 6 months, Danielle could ignore the growing lump no longer. That’s when she called her OB-GYN. This experience is why Danielle no longer brushes off the truth her body tells her. “You know your body better than any doctor,” Danielle says. “I think my biggest take-away has been learning to be my own advocate.” Even if it’s as subtle as being more tired, Danielle says she takes note and makes sure her doctor hears her experience. “When there’s something going wrong, you have an intuition because you’re so intune with yourself,” Danielle says.

The satisfaction of learning to support her own health became a lesson while undergoing cancer treatments. During the times when she needs a little extra support, her family is there “working in the background.” But this wasn’t her only back-up system. In 2018, Danielle became a member of Gilda’s Club.

Named after famed comedienne Gilda Radner, Gilda’s Club seeks to “ensure those impacted by cancer are empowered by knowledge, strengthened by action, and sustained by community.”

Danielle says of the group, “It’s not only the emotional support. There’s been a lot of helpful information that’s come out of it.” She joined Gilda’s Club at the end of her treatment but found such strength in its members she wished she’d joined earlier. “I think if people joined right when they were diagnosed, they could have better emotional outcomes. I’d 100% recommended it to anyone.”

Two years out from her original diagnosis, Danielle doesn’t have any evidence of the disease. She’s continuing to stay in-tune with her health and take advantage of every moment. As Danielle says, “I really just appreciate what I have.”

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Date of Diagnosis: February 2017 Age Diagnosed: 51 (now 54) Type Of Cancer: Breast Cancer Stage 0 Kamala King is wearing: Dress, $38, available at Besosandcompany.com.

3Kamala King It was a busy day at work when 51-year-old Kamala King answered the phone from a number she didn’t recognize.

She had a feeling it might be her mammogram results. When the voice on the other end of the phone asked, “Are you sitting down?” her suspicions were confirmed. Kamala was diagnosed with Stage 0 breast cancer.

After speaking with her doctors and doing some cancer research of her own, Kamala settled on a plan of action that best suited her needs. “I met with several surgeons and decided to do a single mastectomy and a TRAM flap surgery,” she says. Breastcancer.org explains this type of surgery to be when “an incision is made along your bikini line and an oval section of skin, fat, blood vessels, and muscle is taken from the lower half of your belly, moved up to your chest, and formed into a breast shape.” page 12 >>

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Kamala’s procedure was a success. Her surgery, in conjunction with taking a prescribed chemotherapy medication, is keeping Kamala healthy. When she began setting up her initial strategy for combating her diagnosis, she wondered what else she might need. “I remember walking in the park and I said, ‘OK, God, what is it that I need to do because I’m walking this journey now,’” Kamala says. After posing that question in the park, the answers began to fill her mind and heart, and one answer appeared to her as a color — pink.

The urgent need to be of service to others inspired her and a fellow cancer survivor to hold their very first Pink Out two years ago at their church. “Everybody wears pink, and we have [people from] organizations come and speak,” Kamala says. Speakers from nearby churches,

combined with different local organizations, join together one day in October to discuss different coping tools and offer encouragement to those touched by cancer. Due to social distancing practices, this year’s Pink Out won’t be held in person, but Kamala’s commitment to the event hasn’t faltered. “We’re still going to have our Pink Out, we’re just going to have it on Zoom.”

From that very first phone call three years ago, Kamala has never once taken her diagnosis sitting down. Sharing her experience and connecting with others going through their own cancer journey has been integral in helping her find peace. “In the end, my journey was there to help other people,” Kamala says. “So that’s what I’ve been doing.”

“THERE ARE A NUMBER OF PRODUCTS that relate to the particular treatment and side effects the person is experiencing.

Things like a soft light fleece blanket can be comforting for many. If it’s a woman who’s lost her hair during chemotherapy, Hope Scarves offers scarves that come with a story of another survivor, which gives hope and comfort.”

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ary Nan Mallory’s cancer journey brought her to The Wig Shoppe in Louisville, where she discovered that wigs come in all shapes and sizes — especially her own. Mary Nan says of her wigs, “I have magic hair. I never have a bad hair day.”

What was it like going to get a wig for the first time?

“When you go to The Wig Shoppe, you see wigs are their passion. I didn’t want my hair to be a distraction once it began to fully fall out from my chemotherapy treatments. I wanted something that would be a seamless transition. I wanted to look the same for myself and for my family. Then when I was in the shop, and they put a wig on my head…it looked like me! I was shocked it could look like my real hair! Later that night, I went to dinner with my husband wearing the wig and he didn’t even notice.”

Did you shop for a wig before the expected hair loss?

“It was suggested to me to go before my hair completely fell out in order to match my hair color and style. Once your hair is already falling out it can be upsetting. As soon as you find out your diagnosis, and you decide you’d like a wig, I’d go and investigate and make an appointment. It gives you security.”

How did you feel during your wig appointment?

“The first time I went there, it was pretty emotional. As we discussed different styles, I felt welcomed and comfortable because at The Wig Shoppe they know all the secrets. They know what you’re going through, so they can help you anticipate what you need.”

Would you recommend the experience to others with cancer and why?

The Wig Shoppe Owner Kelsey Spaulding, right (pictured with co-owner Candy Slade), says consultations and appointments are free of charge. “We always want women to know it’s very laid-back and no pressure. If you find a wig, great. We’re here to show you how to put it on and get it fitted and trimmed. If you decide you don’t want a wig, that’s great, too,” she says.

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“Yes, I want people to understand that there’s hope. You’ll need one or two wigs during your chemotherapy treatments until your hair comes back. I’ve been to other shops, and a lot of times they’re not as focused on cancer related hair loss as they are here. The Wig Shoppe has a great selection and incredible customer service.”

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What a CHANGE A cancer survivor gets to try some wigs.

Which would you choose?

Rickelle Nelson, 50, was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2019 but is now cancer-free. For this shoot, she modeled three wig styles from The Wig Shoppe and was given this wig as a gift.

By Tiffany White Photos: Melissa Donald Makeup: Carrie Lentz

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usinesses like The Wig Shoppe work with clients to determine what type of style fits them best and then customize the wig to suit the look the client wants. â&#x20AC;&#x153;A lot of women believe their hair is what makes them feminine, but it is so much deeper than that. A wig can really help you feel more like yourself. It gives you a sense of normalcy,â&#x20AC;?

Kelsey says.

When searching for a wig, Kelsey suggests buying the wig before you lose your hair, because it allows the consultant to give you feedback based on your existing hairstyle. Also, she says bringing a spouse or friend, who will give you an honest opinion, is helpful during the process.

Prices vary based on whether clients want a synthetic or human hair wig and start at $130.

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What a CHANGE

RICKELLE IS WEARING: Short red synthetic wig, $310 available at The Wig Shoppe.

Hair loss is common for cancer patients who are going through chemotherapy, and it is often a disheartening experience, but Kelsey Spaulding, co-owner of The Wig Shoppe, is helping women regain their self confidence.

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Face Cancer with COURAGE Advice for how you can live a happy and healthy life in spite of cancer Compiled by Tiffany White

“KNOW THE DETAILS OF YOUR CANCER DIAGNOSIS. Find out the name of the cancer, its size and location, where it started. Know if it has spread and if lymph nodes are involved. Learn whether it's viewed as a slow-growing cancer or an aggressive one. Find out your options for treatments before you decide on surgery. Get a second opinion and ask as many questions as needed.”

“EVERYONE'S JOURNEY IS DIFFERENT, I chose to have a double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. Pillows under my arms were the best thing ever! As soon as you are diagnosed, build a support system that includes family, friends, and even online support groups. Ask for help and accept it when offered. Get some books together that you may want to read, or if you like to color, get some adult coloring books. Get plenty of rest.”

“IF YOUR FRIEND HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED with cancer and is going through surgery, long cycles of radiation, or debilitating chemo, offer to do chores or cook for them. If they are waiting for a treatment plan, gift cards to restaurants are good. If they are like me and have been going through this for years, make a donation to the charity that is working the hardest for their cancer.”

Gina Kaufman Robinson 11-year survivor

Nevada Eskridge 1-year survivor

Alana Auslander-Price 8-year survivor

“Immunotherapy is the most exciting example of less toxicity and better efficacy in cancer therapy today. This class of drugs is able to harness your body’s natural immune system to treat multiple types of cancers. In some cases, it has taken typically incurable disease and turned it into a chronic illness with little treatment-related side effects. Therefore, patients are living longer and have better quality of lives due to these drugs.”

Beth Riley MD, FACP (Fellow of American College of Physicians)

Deputy Director of Health Affairs of James Graham Brown Cancer Center/ UofL Health

“WHILE IN TREATMENT, TAKE NOTES every day on how you’re feeling. Make note of any side effects you may be feeling. It helps when you go to the doctor a week later for your checkup. Plus log your medication... you can forget if you have taken it. Chemo fog is a real thing.”

Cindy Gregory 2-year survivor

“I WISH THAT I HAD BEEN EMPOWERED earlier in life to advocate for myself with healthcare providers. I had a bump on my forehead for three and a half years that doctor after doctor dismissed as a cyst and the whole time I felt in my gut that it was more. But, you’re supposed to trust doctors when they tell you your worry is unfounded.

I forced myself to suppress those feelings and that gave my tumor almost four years to grow. I’m thankful that it was a slow growing sarcoma, unlike many in that family of cancers. If it had not been, I might not be here today. So, if you feel like something is wrong, or if you feel like something is not working for your body, it is your right to say so and to keep saying so until someone agrees to investigate to find out for sure.”

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“BE SELFISH. You need to put yourself first. Let people spoil you.

You need time to heal. Do not try and do it all by yourself. Do not let anyone make you feel guilty because you cannot be there for them at this time. There will come again a time when you can do for yourself and others but now you come first.”

Bonnie Lichtefeld 31-year survivor

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Jenna Richie and her daughter Madelynn of Troop 1929.

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A Note from Maggie Elder CEO, Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana

Despite looking different during COVID-19, Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana continues its mission to increase girls’ access to the outdoors and opportunities to build leadership skills and confidence, says new CEO Maggie Elder.

Stepping up has been the name of the game since Spring. Every member of the staff at Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana, as well as its 5,000-strong adult volunteer network, has stepped up and offered new ways of thinking about what Girl Scouts mean to members and families.

“Girls more than ever need something to feel good about,” Maggie says, so Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana has done camp, troop meetings, and outdoor activities a little differently so that girls can continue to feel engaged and excited even during a global pandemic.

The Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana has become a strong force in helping girls and young women reach their full potential.

Go to GSKentuckiana.org to register your child or to become a volunteer.

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hen asked what her absolute favorite part of being a member of Brownie Troop 1929 is, 7-year-old Madelynn Richie says, “my friends.” The close bond this group shares is why Madelynn’s mother and co-troop leader Jenna Richie is making safe adjustments to continue meeting during this period of COVID-19. These creative modifications will keep the girls’ friendships a certainty during a time when much has become uncertain.

The Girl Scout Brownies are the second level of the Girl Scout program, which began more than 100 years ago. Their mission is one of building “girls of courage, confidence, and character, who make the world a better place.” This is accomplished by taking part in activities such as earning badges, doing community service projects, and, of course, selling their Famous favorite cookies.

Here in Kentuckiana, this Brownie Troop “goes on

journeys together.” In this way, they’re given the opportunity to pick up on their own leadership skills. Jenna says her girls go “hiking, learn about the community, and about friendship. They get to have adventures together, and this creates a special bond.” This “special bond” is keeping these friends together no matter what the challenges.

“We finished our troop meetings last [school] year virtually,” Jenna says. Having this as a choice was an excellent way for the girls to maintain their supportive connection. “The council has found ways where troop leaders can provide badges in the comfort of their own homes.” This flexible online option gives girls an opportunity to continue to earn badges and participate in activities.

Along with acquiring badges, the traditional bridging ceremonies have also been adjusted.

A bridging ceremony is a ceremony that celebrates moving up to a new Girl Scout level.

Jenna Richie and Sara Yager’s Troop 1929 from Mt. Washington Elementary in Kentucky.

Girl Scouts @ Home Girl Scouts at Home provides engaging, family-friendly activities that girls can complete safely at home or outside while social distancing, with either no supplies or simple items that you might already have around the house.

There’s no need to have experience with the types of activities your girl chooses — at Girl Scouts, both girls and adult leaders learn by trying new things and discovering new skills and interests along the way.

And remember while she may need your support or guidance, Girl Scouts is specifically designed to work best when your girl takes the lead. Those times when she’s “in charge” of a project or activity — with you there to help if needed — making her own choices and bravely testing new skills; those are the moments that will give her the independence, resilience, and sense of self she’ll need later in life.

Making Masks for the Community Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana helped prepare students, faculty, and staff for their return to the classroom by creating and donating masks to Coverings for Kids, an initiative developed by Kentucky First Lady Britainy Beshear and Lt. Governor Coleman.

Jenna Richie and her daughter Madelynn of Troop 1929 work on earning the First Aid badge at home.

Photo and Cover photo by Melissa Donald

Madelynn was part of the Daisy Troop before she became a full-fledged Brownie. Jenna says their bridging ceremony looked a little different this year. “We requested that only immediate household members come, and it took place outside and protective masks were worn.”

“Playing” is Madelynn’s other favorite part of her Brownie experience, and she’s not alone. This is why it was agreed, despite the pandemic, to move meetings off-screen and into the outdoors in order to give the girls more space and personal interaction. To accomplish this safely, Jenna says the troop has used “all the safety measures that our Governor and our council has made available.”

Some of their protocols include temperature checks, wearing masks, and social distancing.

“Each of the girls has their own beach towel and chair, and they sit on those in a circle six feet apart,” Jenna says. The girls even have Girl Scout-themed matching masks to make it more fun. “It has worked out really well,” Jenna says.

Being a troop leader has been a rewarding experience for Jenna. She’s witnessed firsthand the positive and transformative power of the Girl Scout program.

“Being a Girl Scout is the best way to get involved with the community and build lasting friendships,” Jenna says. Madelynn couldn’t agree more, saying “Yes!” to any girl her age who might like to join.

Troop 1929 Troop 1929 is masked up and have begun their new troop year with both outdoor outings and virtual meetings.

Troop 1929 members: Adalyn Yates Avery McConnell Emery Bibee Jane Reibert Kylie Kidwell Lainey Lyons Layla Tipton Madelynn Richie Morgan Hardy Violet Yager Co-leader: Jenna Richie Co-leader: Sara Yager

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How Parents Can Offer

Get Some Fresh Air @ Home Outdoor adventures have always been an important part of Girl Scouting. Beyond helping girls understand and appreciate the need to protect the earth, time spent outside helps girls thrive physically, emotionally, and intellectually.

Get outside with your girl, Girl Scout style, with these easy but meaningful experiences.

• Have a photo scavenger hunt. You’ll learn more about your town and have fun trying different photography techniques.

• Plant something and track its growth. Nurturing a plant takes patience and dedication, and teaches her about her natural environment.

• Stargaze and point out constellations. Thinking about our place in the universe sparks imagination and can put things in perspective.

• Volunteer to walk dogs from a shelter. Helping pups in need teaches girls responsibility and underscores the importance of giving back.

Help Her Soar with STEM Studies show that girls are more likely to go into STEM fields if they have STEM role models — or even just see Mae Among the Stars STEM role models in the media they

by Roda Ahmed consume. How can you help? Think about the books your daughter reads and the movies she watches. What roles do girls and women play? When there are scientists, builders, or tech geniuses in a story, are they

A member of Troop 1220 in Floyd Knobs, Indiana, makes her own terrarium. You can even teach your Girl Scout about recycling by using a two-liter soda bottles as the terrarium container.

YOU can be a volunteer! Here’s how.

Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana offers the option to train on your own time with Digital Chalk! It’s our easy-to-use online training platform where volunteers can

take GSKU training courses. Most videos are 15 minutes or less, its available to all GSK volunteers, and we have a variety of course offerings included, but not limited

to: Troop Leader Essentials, Product Programs, Volunteer Toolkit, Outdoor Trainings and more! We’ll help you with everything you need to lead your troop online.

female? From kid-friendly books about astronaut Mae Jemison and architect Zaha Hadid to documentaries about primatologist Jane Goodall and computer scientist Grace Hopper, there are tons of books, movies, and online videos featuring amazing women in STEM. Need help finding them? Ask your librarian!

Learning Life Skills Starts Now Girl Scouting has a strong focus on civic engagement, wellness, communication, healthy relationships, and other practical life skills. You can help her learn to take care of herself and others through simple and fun family activities at home. Responsibilities like feeding and cleaning up after a pet, helping to plan dinner menus, saving and budgeting for her own birthday party, and learning first aid techniques she could use in case of emergency teach her important skills that will help her live her best life.

Be Her Cookie Champion All Girl Scouts have the chance to learn business skills like goal setting and money management through the Girl Scout Cookie Program, but did you know it’s the largest girl-led entrepreneurial program in the world? Here are a few things you can say to support her as she learns how to be a boss!

• When she says she’s nervous about the cookie booth sale…

“You know what will make you feel better? Practice. Let’s come up with questions customers might ask you — like what your favorite cookie is and what your troop will do with the money earned. Then we can practice answering!”

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Girl Scouts’ Beginnings

Since 1912, Girl Scouts of the USA has given girls the tools to lead, break barriers, and create positive change.

It began with Juliette Gordon “Daisy” Low, who believed in the power of every girl. Today we continue her vision of building girls of courage, confidence, and character who make the world a better place by helping them discover their inner strength, passions, and talents. Everything your Girl Scout does — whether it’s climbing mountains, making her voice heard, or designing new technology — has been created especially for, and is tested by, girls.

• When she wants you to collect orders at work… “Let’s find a way for you to still make the sale, even though you won’t be there. Maybe you could make a poster or a short video to attract customers and tell them about your troop’s Take Action projects.

I’ll take it to the office with your order form!”

• When your older girl says customers would rather buy cookies from “little” girls… “Daisies and Brownies do get a lot of attention — but you have years of experience and business skills on your side! Let’s think about what you can do to make your cookie business stand out from the crowd.”

Go to gskentuckiana.org to register your child or become a volunteer. The Girl Scout membership fee is $40 excluding the price of uniforms.

Financial assistance is available.

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Making Virtual Work

Troop 1017 from New Albany, Indiana, invited the New Washington Fire Department to join its online Zoom meeting and help them complete steps for the Junior First Aid Badge.

First responders, including a female responder, showed the girls the trucks, ambulance, equipment, and talked to them about what to do in different emergencies.

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Family Summer Camps

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Camp In a Box

Summer camp was a family experience in 2020, which allowed families to kayak, do archery, and go on scavenger hunts with the physically-distanced guidance of dedicated volunteers. Maggie Elder, Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana CEO, says this was empowering to girls because they could show off the skills they had learned from Girl Scouts to their moms, dads, and brothers who don’t get to see them in action during a normal summer camp experience.

The Camp in a Box alternative brought girls the fun of camp as well as encouraged them to get outside. Each box included an activity booklet and items the girls needed to complete different badges, whether it was foil to make the box into a solar pizza oven or raisins and peanuts to create Gorp. Girls were also able to have Zoom meetings as a way to meet others and experience some of the fun that can be had at camp, including skits and singing. “We had five different themed boxes, each with a younger girl and older girl [focus],” says Kristin Johnson, outdoor experience manager.

Olivia Botner

Emily Brucker

TROOP 8 - METRO LOUISVILLE

TROOP 2447 METRO LOUISVILLE

Project Title: Sketchings and Actions Preventing Allergic Reactions Troop Leader: Susan Botner Project Advisor: Dr. John Riehm, Family Allergy & Asthma Root Cause: Lack of food allergy education Olivia’s project brought awareness to food allergies.

She became aware of the lack of food allergy education in our community, so she created an activity-coloring book that covers the physical, mental, and social challenges people with food allergies face every day. She distributed the book, as well as a pamphlet she made, throughout the Louisville community.

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Suffragette 100-Year Celebration

It’s been 100 years since the U.S. Constitution recognized women’s right to vote, so for the year 2020, Girl Scouts explored the history of women’s voting rights and civic engagement,which helped them better understand the gender barriers that have been broken and celebrate women who broke them.

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Project Title: Paint for a Change Troop Leader: Tracy Plummer Project Advisor: Laurel Lammers, Jefferson County Public Schools Root Cause: Low self-esteem and bullying Emily’s project involved her painting positive affirmations on bathroom stalls for kids and creating a website that offers positive affirmations, tools, and outlets to children struggling with bullying and its effects.

Olivia’s activity/ coloring book, Sketchings and Actions Preventing Allergic Reactions. Olivia was chosen as the Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana’s nominee for National Gold Award Girl Scout. She has been a Girl Scout in Troop 8 for the past 14 years.

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Emily Gillis

Kavya Koneru

Michaela Newberry

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TROOP 655 - VINE GROVE, KY

Project Title: Wanna Build a Garden?

Troop Leader: Debbie Stephens Project Advisor: Debbie Stephens, irl Scouts of Kentuckiana Root Cause: Food Literacy

Project Title: A Consumer Friendly Guide to All Louisville Farmers’ Markets Project Advisor: Chaitanya Vukkum, Rainbow Learning Center Root Cause: Local food movement sustainability

Emily’s project involved teaching children how to garden. Her goal is to teach children that there is so much that can be discovered outside and that they can learn without an electronic device.

Food deserts are prevalent in Louisville as well as the U.S. One of the main ways to combat these deserts is by introducing fresh foods through farmers’ markets. In order to help more people become informed about farmers’ markets in Louisville as well as other cities, Kavya created a user friendly e-book and website guide to all markets in the area, with a comprehensive description of how to get involved in the local food movement.

Project Title: Girl Possible Troop Leader: Elisa Di Giovanni Project Advisor: Linsey Roberts, Hardin County Schools Root Cause: Lack of Self Esteem Michaela’s project addresses a huge problem in today’s society: low self-esteem in young girls. During this transitional time, low selfesteem is evidenced by drops in grades at school, when girls stop communicating with their parents, depression, and even a rise in bullying and other negative behavior.

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Gold Award Girl Scouts are the dreamers and doers who take “make the world a better place” to the next level.

The Gold Award is the highest achievement within the Girl Scouts of the USA, earned by Senior and Ambassador Girl Scouts. Only 5.4% of eligible Girl Scouts successfully earn the Gold Award.

The Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana are pleased to announce that five Girl Scouts from our Council have received this prestigious award for 2020 by providing sustainable solutions to society’s biggest challenges to make a personal and meaningful impact on the world.

“You don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to step up.” — Maggie Elder, CEO of Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana