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Among the tips strangely absent on those “Ways to Keep Your Marriage Alive” lists is, “If you can’t say something nice, scream it at your wife.” However, evolutionary psychologist Todd Shackelford finds that cruel putdowns are actually a “mate retention” tactic – of certain men: seriously low scorers in the What Women Want department. Women prize men who are kind, intelligent, emotionally intelligent, generous and hardworking “providers” (“high mate value” men). These men have the emotional and financial chops to take the mate-retention high road: showing the wife she’s loved, romancing her with trips and gifts, listening to her, making her laugh, and always having her back.

In contrast, a typical lumpen loser “low mate value” man is lazy, selfish, dull and unattractive, and has a low-paying, dead-end job. He lacks the psychology and resources to “provide benefits” (make his wife feel too happy and loved to ditch him). So, he’s prone to resort to “cost-inflicting mate-retention behaviors” – verbal abuse or violence or both – with the subconscious goal of making her too emotionally broken to leave.

When the abuse is verbal, evolutionary psychologist Aaron Goetz finds it plays out in four ways: cutting remarks about a woman’s looks, her intelligence, and her value as a partner and a person, and (often baseless) accusations that she’s cheating. The message – because men evolved to prize beauty, intelligence, kindness and fidelity in their mates: “No other man would want you.” There is a pinprick of light in the gloom. Relationships researcher Jason Whiting reports that most women in abusive partnerships eventually leave – often because they reach “a breaking point when the fear and pain” become “overwhelming.” Ideally, she’ll join that sisterhood – sooner rather than later. Sadly, right now, probably all you can do – without possibly endangering yourself or her – is hope for a brighter future for her: “Hold fast to your dreams, Honey! – unlikely as it is that a random hit man will kidnap your husband and dissolve him in lye in a motel bathtub.”

“I feel ya,” said the gazelle. In a perfect world, lions would carefully inquire about a gazelle’s boundaries and politely skirt them rather than rudely “pressing their own agenda”: chasing her down and turning her into the brunch special. Here in the less-than-perfect world, people, like lions, “press their own agenda,” which is why medieval castles were surrounded by moats instead of welcome mats. Annoying as it must be to kindly but firmly inform a man his interest is unwanted, men don’t – as you put it – “try to” interpret a woman “being nice as something more”; they’re psychologically prone to do it. Research by evolutionary psychologist Martie Haselton suggests we evolved to make protective errors in judgment – either underperceiving or overperceiving threats or opportunities, depending on which error would be the “least costly” to our mating and survival interests. For Joe Loincloth, the possible downside from overperceiving interest – a woman jeering at him in front of his cave bros – would’ve been way less costly than missing an opportunity to go behind a bush with her and maybe pass his genes on to future generations. Since anger changes nothing but your blood pressure, you might consider a rethink. If a guy isn’t doing anything rude or criminal (grabbing your boob or saying he’s gonna do you in the elevator), why not respond as you would to anything else you don’t want: with some version of, “No, thank you”?

Treating a guy with kindness and dignity – being politely firm – costs you nothing and gains you a good deal: keeping the interaction from going ugly. You might also take a historical view: Consider how possibly unwanted remarks – “You’re really pretty. Wanna have coffee?” – have shaped your entire existence. “I think, therefore I am,” is a lovely sentiment, but the reality is more like, “My dad had enough game to get my mom into bed.”

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If you plan to move in the near-term, solar panels are probably not a good investment. First, since they are an investment, it can take time to see a return. It usually takes around seven to eight years to pay off the cost of solar panels. If you’re going to move any time soon, not only will this investment not yet have paid itself off, but you may limit your pool of interested buyers when you hit the market. When your solar system is installed, it is almost impossible to move it to a new location.

If you don’t pay a lot for electricity each month, then you’re not going to save much with solar panels. Residents of some states pay more than others for electricity and therefore may find solar panels have more financial benefits for them.

Weather and, in particular, the sun are the most important things with solar panels. If you live somewhere there’s a lot of cloudy weather or rain, you’re not going to get as many benefits from going solar. If you have long or harsh winters, your solar system is also going to be less productive.

There are flexible options to help consumers afford the initial, upfront costs of solar panels. There are financing options, and there are also state and federal tax credits and incentives available. You should explore what you qualify for. Otherwise, you’re going to pay a lot out-of-pocket upfront and you may not have the cash sitting aside to do that. Many of the solar financing programs are state-based loans. There are also power purchase agreements and leases available.

If you live in a bigger city or near a metro, finding solar panel installation professionals may not be a challenge. However, finding a reputable company can be more challenging in certain parts of the country. You’ll have to do the research and find a company with a strong background, and also one that’s not going to try pushy sales tactics to lock you into a long-term contract that you might not want.

While the above are questions to ask yourself, there are benefits of solar panels including: • Reduced electric bills are one of the biggest reasons homeowners opt to install solar panels. Over 20 years, you could save anywhere from $10,000 to $30,000, depending on where you live and the size of your home. • Solar panels allow you to be energy independent. • You can reduce your carbon footprint when you go solar. • Solar panels are almost entirely maintenance-free. Solar panels certainly have pros and cons. While they don’t work for every family or home, they can have big advantages in some cases, making them a worthwhile consideration.

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Farmers markets, essential for the health of local communities, remain open but are making some changes in response to the coronavirus pandemic. Expect to see wider spaces between vendors, no samples, more gloves, possible waiting lines, and other precautions. As always wear a mask and practice social distancing.