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KEMI DASILVA-IBRU PROTECTING VULNERABLE WOMEN

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t a time when gender-based violence continues to shatter lives and communities, few have taken as bold a stance as Dr Anita Kemi DaSilva-Ibru. A specialist in obstetrics and gynaecology, public health advocate, and founder of the Women at Risk International Foundation (WARIF), she has dedicated her life to creating a world where women and girls can live free from fear and violence.

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can’t recall the exact details, but I vividly remember stumbling upon a video on YouTube—something about a march of men walking under banners that boldly declared their commitment to ending violence against women. The image stayed with me. They were marching together, not in competition or protest, but in solidarity, purpose, and accountability. It struck me as such a rare, powerful moment.

This is one conversation we can’t have enough of: how men can actively join the fight against gender-based violence. As the UN marks the 16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence, it feels timely—and urgent—to highlight this issue once again.

If you, too, are interested in making lasting change as regards this issue, the first thing you should do is turn to page 7 for an insightful article titled “Educating Boys: The Key to Ending Gender Violence.”

Why does this matter so much? Because it’s a collective responsibility, and while there’s still a long way to go, I’m heartened by the growing number of men who are stepping up, getting involved, and challenging old patterns. We’ve lived for far too long in a society where patriarchy is celebrated and upheld—its beliefs and values feeding notions of male dominance and devaluing women and girls. At the very root of gender-based violence are these toxic ideas, which tell us that power is something to wield over others rather than share or use to uplift.

Thankfully, things are changing. Slowly but surely.

Some men have begun to listen—truly listen—to women’s stories of pain and survival. Whether it’s a friend, a relative, or a public advocate, these experiences spark the realisation that no one, no matter their gender, should have to endure such suffering.

For others, it’s a sense of justice and fairness that drives them.

They recognise that violence against women fundamentally violates the principles they believe in.

Then there are men whose exposure to feminist ideas—perhaps through their mothers, a progressive school teacher, or university—shifts their perspective. Others grow up with role models who show them respect and non-violence in action: fathers, uncles, or brothers who treat women with dignity and kindness.

And finally, there are men who have been victims of violence themselves, men whose firsthand experience with pain and degradation fosters an unshakable commitment to ending abuse in all its forms.

We’re not where we need to be yet—far from it. But there is hope.

Evidence shows that well-designed interventions can make a meaningful difference. For example, programs that teach boys about consent, respect, and equality have proven effective in shifting attitudes and behaviours.

None of this is to say that working with men and boys is the only way to tackle gender-based violence, nor is it the most important way.

But engaging men is an essential piece of the puzzle. It’s not just a women’s issue; it’s a societal issue, and it will take all of us to dismantle it.

If you’re a man reading this, I urge you to think about what role you can play. Maybe it’s having that difficult conversation with a friend who makes inappropriate jokes. Perhaps it’s teaching your son or nephew about respect and boundaries. Maybe it’s simply listening—really listening—when women share their stories.

This isn’t a one-time march, a fleeting campaign, or a passing moment; it’s a lifelong commitment. And we will keep marching forward.

Love,

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he 15th edition of the Future Face Global Awards was nothing short of extraordinary, transforming the Royal Box Event Centre in Victoria Island, Lagos, into a dazzling hub of fashion, talent, and celebration. Founded by the visionary Elizabeth Isiorho, this iconic event brought together the crème de la crème of the industry to celebrate young talents redefining the global modelling scene.

Stealing the spotlight this year were Moussa from Senegal and Happiness from Nigeria, who emerged as the ultimate stars from a fiercely competitive pool of 20 finalists. Handpicked from thousands of aspiring models across the globe, these two not only claimed the coveted titles but also secured two-year international modelling contracts and a partnership with Beth Model Management, propelling their careers onto the world stage.

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aia Private Members Club in Lagos played host for an evening of sophistication as Olatowun CandideJohnson welcomed an exclusive audience to experience the Glenfiddich 31-year-old Grand Château debut on the 3rd of November. Known for her dedication to empowering elite female leaders, Olatowun infused the event with an air of sophistication, exclusivity and empowerment that brought together a select group of whisky collectors, limited edition seekers, enthusiasts, and close associates — creating an atmosphere befitting the occasion.

As part of Glenfiddich’s celebrated Grand Series - featuring 21, 23, 26, and 29-year-old expressions, the 31-year-old Grand Château embodies decades of mastery and innovation. Beyond the event, guests were treated to a bespoke culinary experience curated by Afrolems, which mirrored the whisky’s refinement, offering smoked octopus salad, marrow crumb, and berry mousse infused with mint oil—each carefully curated to elevate the whisky’s rich flavours.

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HOW TO STYLE BOLD COLOURS WITHOUT LOOKING OVERDONE Bold colours are the exclamation points of fashion— they command attention, make a statement, and exude confidence. But there’s a delicate balance between creating a chic, vibrant look and resembling a walking rainbow. The good news? Styling bold hues doesn’t have to be overwhelming. With a few smart tips, you can confidently pull off brights like a pro.

Here’s how to embrace bold hues while maintaining balance and sophistication.

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1. Start with a Statement Piece

complementary or contrasting colours to create a striking yet harmonious look. A fuchsia top with orange pants might sound loud, but when balanced with minimal accessories and a pair of nude heels, it can be incredibly chic.

Bold colours demand the spotlight, so let them shine by starting small.

A striking red blazer, cobalt blue skirt, or mustard yellow handbag can instantly elevate your outfit without overwhelming your entire 3. Let Neutrals Be Your look. Pair your statement piece with Anchor neutral staples like a white shirt, If you’re nervous about diving black trousers, or denim to keep headfirst into bold colours, use the focus on the colour. neutrals to anchor your outfit. white, black, or grey can 2. Master the Art of Colour Beige, tone down even the most striking Blocking hues. Neutrals also give you room Colour blocking is one of the to experiment without feeling easiest ways to work with overdone. They act as a blank bold colours, but the key is in canvas, letting the bold colour pairing. Stick to two or three shine without shouting.

4. Choose the Right Fabrics

Believe it or not, the fabric you choose can significantly impact how bold colours are perceived.

Matte fabrics like cotton and linen mute the intensity of the colour, making it feel more casual and understated. On the flip side, shiny fabrics like satin or sequins amplify the brightness, adding drama and flair.

5. Accessorise Wisely

When wearing bold colours, less is often more when it comes to accessories. A chunky statement necklace or oversized earrings in bold shades can feel excessive if

your outfit is already vibrant. Opt for simple, elegant accessories that enhance rather than compete with your look.

6. Experiment with Monochromatic Looks

Monochromatic dressing—wearing one colour head to toe—might sound intimidating, but it’s a foolproof way to style bold colours without looking overdone. The trick is to play with different shades and textures of the same colour.

7. Mind Your Makeup

When wearing bold colours, your makeup should enhance your look, not clash with it. Neutral

tones like soft browns, peachy blushes, and nude lipsticks are your go-to for a balanced appearance.

However, if you’re feeling adventurous, you can coordinate your makeup with your outfit for a striking look.

9. Pay Attention to Fit

8. Balance Bold with Basics

10. Confidence Is Your Best Accessory

Balance is everything when it comes to styling bold colours.

If your outfit features a vibrant piece, keep the rest of your look simple.

This rule applies to prints, too. If your bold piece is patterned, pair it with solid, muted pieces to let the print shine.

Ill-fitting clothes can make even the chicest outfit look messy, but this is especially true with bold colours. Bright hues naturally draw attention, so it’s essential that your pieces fit impeccably. If in doubt, a visit to the tailor is always worth it.

Ultimately, no styling tip will shine through if you don’t wear your bold colours with confidence.

Bright hues are inherently joyful and unapologetic—just like you.

Own your look, walk tall, and remember: fashion is all about self-expression.

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Are Vision Boards Still Worth the Hype?

It’s that time again: resolutions, goal-setting, and the inevitable buzz about vision boards. Social media will soon be flooded with aesthetic collages of private jets, beach vacations, affirmations in bold fonts, and aspirational quotes like “Manifest it, and it will come.” It’s as predictable as the January rush for gym memberships.

But here’s the question: are vision boards still worth all this hype? Do they actually work, or are they just another glittery distraction in the self-improvement race?

The Promise of Vision Boards At their core, vision boards are visual representations of goals. They’ve been around for decades, rooted in the idea that seeing is believing. By carefully curating images, quotes, and affirmations that reflect your dreams, the concept is to keep your mind focused on what you want to achieve.

The science behind this is often linked to the psychological phenomenon called “visualization.” Studies have shown that when we vividly imagine achieving something, it activates the same neural pathways as actually experiencing it. This can motivate us to take action. Add in the law of attraction—a belief that positive thoughts bring positive outcomes—and vision boards become a tempting tool for goal-setting.

And let’s admit it: There’s something cathartic about cutting up magazines and creating a roadmap for your dream life. It’s personal and creative and offers a rare moment of reflection in our fast-paced world.

Why Vision Boards Might Feel Overrated Vision boards are often sold as magical tools that promise instant transformation. But for all their Instagram-worthy appeal, they don’t come with a manual for hard work. Sticking an image of a six-pack on your wall won’t miraculously make you exercise or eat better.

There’s also the danger of getting too caught up in aesthetics. Many people spend hours

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crafting the perfect vision board but never take actionable steps to make their goals a reality.

Vision boards can sometimes serve as a false sense of accomplishment—like you’ve done the work by simply pinning your dreams to a corkboard.

Plus, life doesn’t always follow the neat, linear path you envision. Your goals might change, circumstances can shift, and let’s be real: no one plans for setbacks. A vision board that feels exciting in January might feel like a guilt trip by July when life takes an unexpected turn.

A New Perspective Instead of ditching vision boards altogether, what if we reframed how we use them? Rather than seeing them as magical tools or rigid roadmaps, consider them flexible guides.

They’re not there to control your destiny but to remind you of what matters most.

Start by asking yourself: Why do I want this?

The purpose of your vision board isn’t just to list what you want—it’s to connect with the deeper motivations behind those desires.

Want to travel more? Maybe it’s not just about the vacation photos but about experiencing freedom or connecting with different cultures. Want financial independence? It could be about the peace of mind that comes with stability. When you build your vision board around those deeper “whys,” it becomes more meaningful and motivating.

Tips for a Vision Board That Actually Works If you’re sold on giving vision boards another shot—or maybe trying one for the first time—here are some ways to make them more effective: Be Specific: Swap vague goals like “be happy” with tangible ones like “spend more time outdoors” or “take a pottery class.” The more specific you are, the easier it is to turn vision into action.

Include Action Words: Don’t just put a picture of a house—write down the steps you need to take, like saving X amount monthly or researching mortgage options.

Keep It Dynamic: Your vision board doesn’t have to be static. As you grow, update it. Replace goals you’ve achieved or those that no longer resonate with your evolving aspirations.

Focus on Feelings: Incorporate images and phrases that evoke how you want to feel in your future rather than just what you want to have.

Pair It with a Plan: Vision boards are great for dreaming, but dreams need deadlines. Pair each goal on your board with a realistic action plan.

1. Radical Honesty is In Forget polite white lies. With so many of us curating picture-perfect lives on social media, authenticity in relationships has become a prized currency.

Radical honesty doesn’t mean being brutal or unkind; it means being upfront about your intentions, feelings, and even fears. Whether you’re defining the relationship, addressing an issue, or admitting that you need some personal space, clear communication is the backbone of a successful partnership.

2. Digital Boundaries Are Non-Negotiable The digital age has brought us closer, but it’s also created new hurdles. Scrolling in bed, doubletapping an ex’s photo, or obsessively checking your partner’s “last seen” on WhatsApp can breed insecurity and conflict. In 2024, healthy couples are setting boundaries for their digital lives. From agreeing to unplug during dinner to not checking phones first thing in the morning, protecting realworld intimacy from digital distractions is essential.

3. Flexibility in Gender Roles Gone are the days when relationships were dictated by strict gender roles. In modern relationships, equality isn’t just expected; it’s celebrated.

Couples are redefining what works for them—sharing financial responsibilities, swapping traditional domestic duties, or embracing roles that may not align with societal norms. What matters is that both partners feel valued and supported, not boxed into expectations.

4. The Rise of Emotional Intelligence Emotional intelligence (EQ) is becoming the MVP of relationships. More than physical attraction or shared interests, it’s the ability to empathise, communicate effectively, and navigate emotions that keeps relationships thriving. The good news? EQ can be developed. Couples who prioritise therapy, self-reflection, and emotional growth are setting themselves up for long-term success.

5. Prioritising “We-Time” and “Me-Time” In 2024, the best relationships strike a balance between closeness and independence. Couples who thrive know when to prioritise each other and when to step back and nurture their individual passions. Co-dependency is out, and interdependence—a healthy give-and-take where both partners support each other’s personal growth—is in.

6. Financial Transparency is Sexy Money talks have always been tricky, but in today’s relationships, financial openness is a gamechanger. Whether you’re merging bank accounts, keeping separate finances, or figuring out how to split the rent, being upfront about money matters prevents resentment and misunderstanding.

Discussing goals, debts, and spending habits may not sound romantic, but trust us—it’s the ultimate power move.

The Modern Relationship Rules: WHAT WORKS IN 2024

Relationships in 2024 are a different ballgame. What worked a decade ago seems almost quaint in the hyper-connected, fast-paced world we live in today. With dating apps, evolving gender roles, shifting priorities, and a world that feels simultaneously closer and more fragmented, navigating love and partnership has never been more dynamic—or challenging. So, what are the modern rules of relationships? And what actually works in 2024?

7. The Art of Managing Conflict The way couples fight is evolving, too.

Instead of explosive arguments or passiveaggressive silent treatments, the modern rule is to fight fair. Couples who survive the long haul know how to disagree without disrespecting others. Active listening, taking time to cool off before responding, and focusing on solutions rather than blame are key ingredients to resolving conflict constructively.

you” more than showing up, day after day.

8. Intentional Effort Trump’s Grand Gestures While romantic getaways and surprise gifts are nice, what really matters in 2024 is consistency. It’s the small, daily acts of love—like sending a thoughtful text, remembering how your partner takes their coffee, or carving out time for a quick phone call—that keep the spark alive. Effort is sexy, and nothing says “I love

10. Redefining Success in Relationships Finally, modern couples are rewriting what it means to “make it” in a relationship. The measure of success is no longer just longevity; it’s about growth, happiness, and mutual fulfilment. If a relationship ends, it’s not necessarily a failure—it’s often a sign that two people are evolving in different directions.

9. Celebrating Everyday Moments Successful couples in 2024 understand the importance of slowing down and savouring life’s little joys, even as everything around them races toward the next big thing. Whether it’s a lazy Sunday morning, a shared playlist, or a walk after dinner, love grows in ordinary moments.

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KEMI DASILVA-IBRU

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t a time when gender-based violence continues to shatter lives and communities, few have taken as bold a stance as Dr Anita Kemi DaSilva-Ibru. A specialist in obstetrics and gynaecology, public health advocate, and founder of the Women at Risk International Foundation (WARIF), she has dedicated her life to creating a world where women and girls can live free from fear and violence.

As the 33rd anniversary of the global 16 Days of Activism Against GenderBased Violence takes centre stage, Dr. DaSilva-Ibru and her organisation, WARIF, are once again answering the call to action. This year’s theme, “UNiTE to End Violence Against Women and Girls,” aligns seamlessly with WARIF’s mission as the organisation gears up for its 6th annual Global WARIF No Tolerance March (NTMarch). This movement, which began in 2019, has grown into a powerful global symbol of solidarity, with marches spanning continents—from Lagos to Johannesburg, London to New York. With a survivor-centred approach, WARIF has become a lifeline for countless women and girls, offering free forensic medical examinations, psychosocial counselling, and social welfare support at its crisis centres.

Kemi is clear on one thing —this fight requires collective action.

In this exclusive interview, she sheds light on the pervasive issue of gender-based violence in Nigeria and beyond, the transformative work of WARIF, and discusses the solutions that can bring about lasting change.

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The 6th Global WARIF No Tolerance March has become a significant annual event. What inspired its inception in 2019, and how has it evolved over the years?

Thank you very much, Konye. The WARIF No Tolerance March is a global awareness campaign launched in 2019, which has significantly impacted communities across the world by raising an army of men and women in various cities who come out in support of ending violence against women and girls. The March is held on the first Saturday of every December to commemorate the UN 16 Days of Activism and shines a spotlight on the pervasive issue of Gender-based violence. It also celebrates the resilience of survivors and calls for global systemic change. Last year in 2023, ten cities across three continents participated, with over 2,500 participants in the city of Lagos alone and a virtual reach exceeding 15 million. This year, we already have 11 cities across Africa, Europe, and North America committed to participating with Ibadan as our recent addition in Nigeria.

en and Girls,” reflects WARIF’s unwavering mission to advocate for the rights and protection of women and girls in Nigeria and Africa. This call to action underscores the importance of collective responsibility and reinforces our vision of creating a safe and supportive environment free from violence against women and girls.

This year’s theme for the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence is “UNiTE to End Violence Against Women and Girls.” How does this align with WARIF’s mission and objectives?

The theme, “UNiTE to End Violence Against Wom-

So, tell me, what are some key milestones WARIF has achieved since its establishment in addressing gender-based violence in Nigeria?

WARIF has achieved significant milestones since its establishment. These include the provision of

With the NTMarch taking place across three continents this year, how does WARIF ensure the campaign resonates with diverse audiences worldwide?

To resonate globally, WARIF adapts its campaign messages to align with all—from the unique cultural contexts of different regions in the global south to the message alignment with the global north—maintaining a unified stance against Gender-Based Violence.

We strive to achieve strategic collaborations with international and local organisations and all industries in the private and public sectors to amplify the message’s reach and ensure the campaign’s relevance across diverse communities worldwide.

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comprehensive essential support services for all survivors at WARIF Rape Crisis Centres and through the provision of specialised forensic medical examination training to both sexual assault referral centres and primary health care centres across the country. Preventative measures through the implementation of educational and communitybased programs carried out, with the innovative implementation of the first ever online classroom on the prevention of sexual violence in 106 participating tertiary institutions as well as the first training program for traditional birth attendants as first responders on cases of Gender-Based Violence. Over 12,000 of these informal healthcare providers have been trained by WARIF, with 150,000 individuals benefitting from this program in one year alone.

Advocacy through a multisectoral approach, policy change, and awareness creation are also important aspects of the organisation’s framework.

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systemic change that would lean on this collaborative approach between organisations like WARIF and multisectoral stakeholders.

Over the past three decades, my career has evolved on 3 continents from clinical practice to advocacy and social activism, combining my expertise as a specialist physician with my commitment to addressing systemic issues affecting the equality and rights of women and girls.

Gender-based violence is a pervasive issue in Nigeria. What unique challenges do you face in addressing this crisis, and how does WARIF tackle them?

In Nigeria, addressing Gender Based Violence comes with a myriad of challenges, such as societal stigma, traditional practices and societal norms that encourage or ignore the violence perpetrated in various communities, inadequate enforcement of legal frameworks by relevant agencies, as well as resource limitations for the provision of essential services. We try to combat these issues by adopting a multisectoral collaborative approach with governmental agencies, civil society organisations and the private sector. Educational and community-based programs are also implemented with extensive community outreach to challenge harmful norms and promote empowerment.

H ⁠ ow important is public advocacy, like the NTMarch, in shifting societal attitudes toward gender-based violence in Nigeria?

Very important, I tell you. They change societal attitudes. They bring much-needed visibility to the global issue of Gender Based Violence, encouraging open dialogue and inspiring collective action.

These campaigns foster a culture of accountability and build solidarity for survivors.

What role does the government play in supporting organisations like WARIF, and what additional measures would you like to see from them?

The government is vital in the fight against Gender Based Violence. It has been made evident in the recent ranking on the 2024 Global Gender Gap report published by the World Economic Forum that Nigeria is now in the 125th position out of 146 countries on the index. As we live on a continent where we know it will take 130 years to achieve gender parity, we desperately need to close this gap. This calls for an acceleration with innovative structures and ideas and collaborative thinking with multi stakeholders from all sectors especially with the governmental agencies. We need to tackle social norms and harmful practices by breaking the culture of silence through a

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As a physician and public health specialist, how has your medical background influenced your approach to combating genderbased violence?

My medical background has been instrumental in shaping WARIF’s holistic approach to survivor support.

With my passion for obstetrics, this gives me the skills and understanding in providing women with comprehensive, safe and respectful care during childbirth. Over the past three decades, my career has evolved on 3 continents from clinical practice to advocacy and social activism, combining my expertise as a specialist physician with my commitment to addressing systemic issues affecting the equality and rights of women and girls. My medical influence shaped a more holistic lens, going beyond care and treatment to addressing societal and cultural barriers that encourage the gender disparities seen in society, which prevent access to care and a woman’s full agency over her rights, decision making and well-being.

The involvement of men and boys in addressing GBV is crucial. What specific strategies has WARIF employed to engage them in this fight?

We believe men and boys are critical allies in the fight against GBV. The organisation implements the WARIF Boys Conversation Cafes, an educational mentoring program for adolescent schoolboys, and the Men as Allies Program, a community-based workshop that fosters inclusion and community participation in addressing Gender-Based Violence issues. Through our workshops and programs, WARIF fosters conversations and changes the community mindset on stereotypic rigid gender roles, thereby redefining toxic masculinity and promoting respect and equality, paving the way for a safer society.

What are some misconceptions about gender-based violence in Nigeria that need to be addressed for real change to occur?

One prevalent misconception in the gender space is the fact that Gender-based violence is referred to as a private issue or only affects the female demographic. WARIF focuses on educating the public about the fact that the issue is not a ‘woman’ issue but a ‘human’ one, which affect all – both men and women - and so it is our collective responsibility to provide societal support for survivors.

I⁠ n your opinion, what does a future without gender-based violence in Nigeria look like, and what steps are necessary to achieve this vision?

A future where all survivors who are from marginalised communities live in a society free of all forms of violence, where respect, equality, and safety are fundamental and available to all.

As a thought leader and activist, what message do you have for young women and girls facing violence in silence?

To every young woman and girl facing violence, you are not alone.

You matter, your voice matters, and there is a community ready to support you. Speak up, seek help, and know that together, we will fight for your rights, safety, and a brighter future.

These foods are also notorious for impairing circulation, which means your skin gets less oxygen and nutrients, leading to a dull, tired complexion.

Instead, aim for healthy fats like avocado, nuts, and seeds. These are packed with omega-3 fatty acids, which not only reduce inflammation but also strengthen your skin’s natural barrier.

IS YOUR DIET SECRETLY SABOTAGING YOUR SKIN? When we think about radiant skin, our minds often go straight to pricey serums, facials, and a meticulous skincare routine. But what if I told you the secret to your glow—or lack thereof— might not be sitting on your bathroom shelf but rather on your plate? Yes, your diet could secretly be sabotaging your skin, and all the creams and potions in the world might not save you from the wrong food choices.

Let’s get into it.

Sugar We all know sugar isn’t great for the waistline, but it’s also one of your skin’s worst enemies. When you indulge in that chocolate cake or an extra scoop of ice cream, your body undergoes a process called glycation. Essentially, sugar molecules attach themselves to proteins in your body, creating harmful compounds called AGEs (advanced glycation end products). These AGEs attack collagen and elastin—the proteins responsible for keeping your skin firm and supple. Over time, this can lead to wrinkles, sagging, and dullness.

Worse still, sugar can trigger inflammation, which exacerbates skin conditions like acne, eczema, and rosacea. So the next time you reach for that candy bar, think about how it might be aging you from the inside out.

Dairy Dairy products are beloved in many diets, but for some people, they’re a ticking time bomb for skin issues. Dairy can stimulate the production of androgens (hormones) and increase insulin-like growth factor (IGF-1), both of which can lead to clogged pores and acne flare-ups.

While this isn’t a universal truth for everyone, if you’re constantly battling breakouts despite your skincare diligence, try cutting back on milk, cheese, and cream for a few weeks. Your skin just might thank you.

Fried and Processed Foods Nothing says indulgence quite like a plate of fries or a greasy burger, but your skin likely disagrees. Fried and processed foods are high in trans fats and inflammatory oils, which can weaken the skin’s protective barrier and make it prone to dryness, irritation, and breakouts.

Alcohol Let’s not forget our beloved cocktails.

Alcohol is a major dehydrator, leaving your skin parched and lifeless. Dehydrated skin can look dull, accentuate fine lines, and lose its elasticity. Moreover, excessive drinking can dilate blood vessels, causing redness and even broken capillaries—hello, rosacea!

If you enjoy a glass of wine or the occasional margarita, balance it out by drinking plenty of water and cutting back on alcohol-heavy nights. And don’t forget to replenish your skin with hydrating foods like cucumbers and watermelon.

The Glow-Giving Alternatives Now that we’ve tackled the foods that could be sabotaging your skin let’s pivot to what you should be eating. After all, what you consume doesn’t just affect how you feel—it’s written all over your face.

1. Antioxidant-Rich Foods Think berries, leafy greens, nuts, and dark chocolate (in moderation). Antioxidants fight free radicals, which are unstable molecules that damage skin cells and accelerate ageing. Including a variety of these in your diet can help combat environmental stressors and keep your skin looking fresh and youthful.

2. Hydrating Fruits and Vegetables Cucumbers, watermelon, celery, and oranges are packed with water and skinloving nutrients. Staying hydrated internally is just as important as moisturizing externally.

3. Omega-3 Fatty Acids Fish like salmon and mackerel, as well as flaxseeds and walnuts, are rich in omega3s. These essential fatty acids help reduce inflammation, maintain the skin’s elasticity, and promote a healthy glow.

4. Probiotic Foods Gut health and skin health are intricately connected. Foods like yogurt, kefir, kimchi, and sauerkraut can improve digestion, reduce inflammation, and keep your skin clear and calm.

5. Vitamin C Powerhouses Citrus fruits, bell peppers, strawberries, and broccoli are rich in vitamin C, which is crucial for collagen production and overall skin health. It’s like a natural facelift, courtesy of your diet.

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HOW TO NAIL FIRST-DATE FASHION

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The stakes are always high on a first date. It’s your first chance to connect, to laugh, and, yes, to impress. While chemistry can’t be conjured out of thin air, your outfit can set the perfect stage for it to blossom. So, what’s the secret to nailing first-date fashion? It’s about finding the sweet spot between effortless style and intentional thought.

Here’s your ultimate guide to dressing for that all-important first impression.

Dress for the Occasion, Not the Fantasy

The biggest mistake you can make is overdressing or underdressing for the setting. Meeting for coffee? A chic pair of jeans, a fitted blazer, and statement flats strike the right balance. Heading to a fancy restaurant?

Pull out that little black dress (or its modern equivalent), but skip the floor-length gown—this isn’t a gala.

The golden rule? Find out the vibe of your venue beforehand. A well-thought-out outfit shows that you care about the details without going overboard.

TIPS FOR AN UNFORGETTABLE

Comfort is Key—but Don’t Skip the Style

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There’s no charm in wearing sky-high heels that turn every step into a stumble or a skirt so tight you can’t sit comfortably. On a first date, you want your confidence to take centre stage. Choose pieces that flatter your body but also allow you to move, breathe, and, most importantly, focus on your company instead of a wardrobe malfunction.

Let Your Personality Shine Through

First dates are about discovery, so let your clothes give a sneak peek into who you are. Love bold prints?

A floral blouse with tailored pants screams fun and approachable. More minimalist? A monochrome outfit paired with sleek accessories will do the trick. Think of your outfit as an icebreaker—an opportunity to say something about yourself before you even utter a word.

Keep the Accessories Under Control

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Accessories can elevate an outfit, but too many can overwhelm it. Stick to one or two standout pieces—a chunky bracelet, a pair of gold hoops, or a statement bag. And remember, your accessories shouldn’t outshine you. The focus should remain on your smile, your stories, and your killer sense of humor. If you’re someone who loves a pop of color, try it in your earrings or a small crossbody bag rather than a headto-toe neon look.

Avoid Overpowering Scents

Fashion isn’t just what you wear—it’s also what you bring to the sensory table. A great perfume can make a lasting impression, but keep it subtle. Overwhelming your date with a heavy fragrance is a surefire way to distract from your carefully curated outfit. Choose a scent that complements your natural vibe. Think fresh and floral for daytime dates or something warm and woody for an evening rendezvous.

Strike the Perfect Balance Between Casual and Chic IFEOMA ODOGWU

First dates are a delicate dance of effort and nonchalance. You want to look like you tried, but not like you agonized over your outfit for hours. This balance can be achieved with high-low dressing— pairing casual staples with elevated pieces. Think a plain white T-shirt tucked into a midi skirt, or your favorite jeans paired with a silky blouse.

Effortless polish says, “I care, but I’m also cool.”

Keep It Neat and Clean

This seems obvious, but it’s worth repeating: cleanliness is non-negotiable. Make sure your clothes are wrinkle-free, your shoes are spotless, and your nails are tidy. Details matter, and nothing says “I’ve got it together,” like showing up in a well-maintained outfit.

Smile: Your Best Accessory OSAS IGHODARO

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LAILA JOHNSON SALAMI

Finally, no outfit is complete without a warm smile. It’s the ultimate mood booster and an instant way to charm your date. After all, your outfit can only do so much— the real magic happens when you let your personality shine.

SQUAD OLIVIA ARUKWE, SANCHAN ELEGUSHI, ANITA ADETOYE, JEMIMA OYELEKE, MIMI ONALAJA

DETTY DECEMBER

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t’s that magical time of year in Nigeria again—Detty December! A season of non-stop celebrations where good vibes, epic parties, and memorable reunions reign supreme.

From mid-December through New Year’s, it’s all about social gatherings, concerts, and festivities that keep your calendar jam-packed. Whether you’re home or flying in from abroad, one thing’s for sure: you don’t want to be caught off guard. To truly nail your Detty December experience, here are five essential tips for the most epic December yet.

1. Assemble the Squad

The first rule of Detty December? Never do it solo! Call up your crew, text your squad, and let the group chats come alive. December is all about creating unforgettable moments, and nothing beats rolling deep with your nearest and dearest. Whether it’s hitting a concert, pulling up to a street festival, or hosting your own party, everything feels better when you’ve got your people by your side. Plus, group activities make the turn-up even more lit.

2. Book It or Lose It!

Detty December waits for no one, so don’t procrastinate when it comes to reservations. Whether it’s flights, hotels, restaurants, or tickets to that concert everyone’s raving about, lock everything down early. Lagos hotspots and trendy destinations across Nigeria book out fast, and you don’t want to be the one searching for last-minute options while everyone else is vibing. Avoid the heartbreak of “stories that touch” by planning ahead. No reservations = no access. Don’t play yourself— secure your spot and enjoy the holiday stress-free.

3. Serve Looks, Not Excuses

December is the unofficial runway season, and your outfits need to be as on-point as your plans. From beach parties to club hopping and everything in between, plan your wardrobe to match the vibe. Think breathable fabrics, stylish yet comfortable footwear, and pieces that can transition seamlessly from day to night. You don’t want to be caught at a rooftop party feeling overdressed or stuck at a festival wishing you wore flats. Plan smart, look sharp, and most importantly, own every room you step into.

4. Spend Wisely, Turn Up Smartly

Detty December is all fun and games—until January arrives, and your bank account looks like a meme. Yes, it’s the season to celebrate, but don’t blow your entire budget on champagne and concerts. Set limits, track your expenses, and prioritize the experiences that truly matter. Pro tip: stash some cash for unexpected expenses because in December, “plans” change faster than you think. You can still have the time of your life without living on instant noodles in the New Year.

5. Keep Your Energy on 100

The key to surviving and thriving during Detty December is pace and balance. With back-to-back events, it’s easy to burn out by Christmas.

Remember to hydrate (you’ll thank yourself later), eat well, and grab some rest when you can. Even the hardest partiers need a recharge to keep the vibe alive.

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benefits of my service to various stakeholders, including brides, their family members, and wedding planners.

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s the Creative Director of LAVISH, Temitope KayodeOjo has masterfully crafted a brand that speaks to the aspirations of the modern bride while carving a unique niche in the ever-evolving fashion world.

What began in 2014 as Lavish Bridal in the United States— a brand focused tas cout re bridal ringo has new blas boded intice sta,s ly realised ready-to-wear line that’s turning heads. With this bold step, Temitope is expanding her brand’s influence while staying true to the ethos that made it a favourite among brides across five continents: elegance, innovation, and impeccable craftsmanship.

Kayode-Ojo Let’s start from the beginning—what inspired you to launch Lavish Bridal in 2014, and how did the idea of a bridal styling company come to life?

I firmly believe that one’s passions, background, and experiences shape one’s endeavours and presence in the world. My earliest loves have always been weddings, fashion, and making people look and feel good. As a child, I would spend hours watching runway shows and offering to help family members with their hair and wardrobe choices. I was fascinated by clothes, makeup, and fashion and grew up surrounded by people who shared my passion.

My family, in particular, has always been fashion-forward. My parents, despite having their individual styles, had a unique ability to combine fashion pieces and make them look good. They had an eye for fine things and good taste. My grandmother, a skilled seamstress, also played a significant role in nurturing my love for fashion. I remember helping her thread her needle and watching her work with machines, the sound of which was always present in my childhood.

After completing my degree in Economics from the University of Maryland, Baltimore County, I decided to pursue my passion for fashion. I spent countless hours reading about personal styling and helping family and friends with their wedding styling. I was captivated by the joy and excitement of helping people find the perfect attire. I wanted to connect people with great fashion pieces, make them feel confident, and help

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them avoid regretting their fashion choices. I believe that there is something for everyone in the world of fashion.

This passion and conviction led me to launch Lavish Bridal in 2014. My goal was to provide a platform where people could find pieces that exuded their personality and style. I wanted to help people connect with fashion that made them feel confident, beautiful, and authentic. This is how Lavish Bridal began, and I am proud to have turned my passion into a successful venture.

The bridal styling industry wasn’t as established back then; how was the concept of Lavish received when you started?

When I launched Lavish in the US in 2014, I initially helped friends and family on a part-time basis. However, by 2017, I decided to transition into full-time entrepreneurship and establish LAVISH as a formal business.

At the time, the industry lacked an exclusive bridal styling service like mine, which made it challenging to convince people of its value. Even when they recognised the value, many were reluctant to pay for it. They didn’t see the need to financially support a service that was still unfamiliar to them. As a result, I faced a steep learning curve. I had to find a way to balance the creative aspects of my business with the financial realities of running a company. I needed to clearly articulate the

What motivated your decision to expand Lavish to Lagos in 2017? Was it the demand from the Nigerian market, or was it a personal connection to home?

In 2017, I made the decision to relocate to Nigeria, driven by a mix of personal and professional factors. Having recently completed my MBA in the US, I felt an inherent connection to my home country. Growing up, I had always believed that Nigeria was where I belonged, and I was determined to make a meaningful impact there.

Everything aligned in 2017, making it the perfect time for my return. Professionally, the market was also ripe for innovation. The wedding industry was experiencing significant growth, driven in part by the increasing presence of social media. As weddings became more visible online, they began to take on a life of their own, creating a thriving economy around them.

Reorganising this trend, I saw an opportunity to make my mark in the industry and contribute to its continued growth.

This year, Lavish underwent a significant transformation, evolving into a full-fledged fashion house. What inspired this shift, and what does the new LAVISH represent to you?

This year, LAVISH underwent a significant transformation, evolving from a bridal styling brand to a fullfledged fashion house. Although this development may come as a surprise to the public, it has always been part of our internal vision at LAVISH. The new LAVISH is not an entirely new brand but rather an expansion of our existing concept. Our core values remain unchanged: attention to detail, connecting individuals with unique pieces that reflect their personality and providing ease and convenience in fashion. Fashion can often be overwhelming and inaccessible, requiring considerable time and effort to find the perfect piece. In the Nigerian context, this often involves designing pieces from scratch for special events. LAVISH has always aimed to simplify this process, providing effortless access to elevated, specialoccasion-ready pieces.

With our expansion, LAVISH now offers a broader range of products and services. Our commitment to delivering exceptional service, attention to detail, and unforgettable styling remains unwavering.

Why did you decide to introduce ready-towear (RTW) as part of the Lavish brand, and how has the Nigerian market responded to this move?

The Ready-to-wear part of our business is a natural progression for us.

Over the years, we have collaborated with numerous talented Nigerian and international designers to create one-of-a-kind, unique pieces for our brides and clients. As a result, we received frequent requests from individu-

als who admired our designs/creative direction and wanted to purchase them for non-wedding events.

Many people complimented our work, saying, “Your creativity and DNA are evident in this outfit. Can I have one?” They wanted a piece of our creativity for their everyday lives. Since our bespoke approach was highly personalised and not readily available, we recognised the need for a more accessible solution. This led us to introduce ready-to-wear, allowing us to capture our creativity and make it readily available to those who desire it.

perfect dress at the right price with minimal stress. For aspiring stylists and fashion entrepreneurs, I hope to offer valuable insights, guidance, and consulting to help them navigate their businesses. By sharing my experiences, I hope to make it easier for others to excel in their pursuits.

Ultimately, my passion for sharing knowledge stems from my love for people and my desire to see them succeed. I believe that providing valuable information and direction can help empower the next generation of business leaders and entrepreneurs.

Interestingly, our brides often returned after their weddings, seeking our assistance in finding outfits for other significant events, such as pregnancy shoots, baby dedications, destination wedding events, vacations, and social gatherings.

Can you also tell us about the journey of launching STYLE TERRAIN and how it complements the LAVISH brand?

Style Terrain was born out of our client’s demands and inquiries.

Many of our clients, like modern-day women, lead busy lives with packed social calendars, careers, and families. Fashion is essential to them but often takes a backseat due to time constraints. When our clients approached us seeking readily available outfits for their events, we wanted to refer them to a one-stop shop, eliminating the need to visit multiple designers’ stores or websites just to find one thing.

This is how Style Terrain came about. Our mission is to connect people with meaningful fashion that tells a story about our backgrounds, cultures, and DNA. We aim to bridge the gap between consumers and designers, providing a platform for emerging markets and African designers to showcase their work.

At Style Terrain, we prioritise connecting people with unique, handmade pieces that express their individuality. We stray away from mass-produced products that lack character. Instead, we focus on showcasing designers who infuse their cultural heritage, language, and storytelling in their creations. In today’s world, people seek fashion that reflects their personality and values. We cater to this demand by providing access to meaningful, authentic fashion.

Education seems to be an emerging part of your brand with the e-book and mentorship services. Why is sharing your knowledge so important to you?

As a lover of education and teaching, I’ve always been passionate about sharing my knowledge with others. One of the primary reasons I value knowledge is that, when I started my journey, there were limited resources available on how to become a bridal stylist or build a fashion brand. I had to learn through trial and error, and I believe that sharing my experiences can help others avoid similar challenges.

My father once said, “Experience is NOT the best teacher; experience is the most expensive teacher; other people’s experiences are the best teachers .” I’ve taken this wisdom to heart and am committed to sharing my expertise with others. My goal is to empower brides, upcoming stylists, and fashion entrepreneurs with the knowledge they need to succeed.

For brides, I aim to provide a self-help guide that will increase their chances of finding the

Your corporate background is impressive— Morgan Stanley, Accenture, PWC. How has your business experience shaped the way you run LAVISH? My experiences at Morgan Stanley and PwC provided invaluable insights into corporate culture, business operations, and effective leadership. I learned how to bring people together to achieve a common goal, fostering a sense of ownership and collective responsibility. One of the most significant lessons I took away from these experiences was the importance of leadership in uniting people towards a shared objective.

Additionally, I gained extensive customer service experience, a crucial aspect of the fashion industry. These experiences have significantly influenced the way I run LAVISH, from our internal procedures to our client interactions. The skills and expertise I acquired while working at these prominent corporations have been instrumental in shaping the foundation and operations of LAVISH.

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DENIM FINDING THE

GUIDE: PERFECT PAIR

Ah, denim! That timeless wardrobe staple we can’t seem to live without. Whether you’re running errands, heading to brunch, or stepping out for date night, denim always has your back—quite literally. But let’s face it: finding the perfect pair of jeans can feel like a quest for the Holy Grail.

With so many fits, washes, and styles out there, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. This guide will make your search for that dream pair feel more like a leisurely stroll than a wild goose chase.

outfit, as long as it aligns with your style.

4. Length Matters

Jeans come in various lengths, and knowing your preference can make a world of difference. Full-length jeans are timeless, while cropped jeans are playful and perfect for showing off those statement shoes.

If you’re on the petite side, a cropped or ankle-length jean can elongate your frame. On the taller end of the spectrum? Flaunt those legs in full-length or even extra-long styles paired with heels or chunky boots.

5. Stretch or No Stretch?

1. Know Your Body, Love Your Fit

Denim shopping is not a onesize-fits-all affair, and that’s the beauty of it. The first step in your search is understanding your body type and what styles work best for you—got long legs? Embrace high-waisted jeans to highlight them. Pear-shaped? Bootcuts and flared jeans balance proportions beautifully. Love showing off those curves? Skinny jeans or a snug pair of straight legs can accentuate your silhouette.

2 . The Rise of the Matter

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The rise of your jeans (where the waistband hits your torso) is a game-changer.

High-rise: Perfect for cinching the waist and giving the illusion of longer legs. Pair them with crop tops or tuck in your blouses for an effortlessly chic look.

Mid-rise: The happy medium, ideal for most body types and occasions. Think casual Fridays at work or lounging on the weekend.

Low-rise: Making a quiet comeback from the early 2000s, these are great for showcasing toned abs or a laid-back vibe. If you’re feeling bold, go for it!

3. The Wash Debate: Light, Dark, or In-Between?

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When it comes to denim washes, versatility is key. A dark wash is the ultimate multitasker, transitioning seamlessly from office hours to happy hour. Pair it with a blazer for a polished look or a leather jacket for some edge.

Light-wash jeans scream weekend vibes and casual brunches.

They’re great for summer and can brighten up your outfit instantly.

Meanwhile, a classic medium wash is like that reliable friend— never too much, always just right.

For a dash of fun, don’t shy away from acid-wash or distressed denim. A little rip or tear here and there adds personality to your

For comfort dressing, stretch denim is a lifesaver. It hugs you in all the right places and moves with your body. Ideal for busy days, stretchy jeans are perfect for anyone on the go. However, if you prefer a more structured, vintage vibe, opt for nonstretch denim. Though it takes a little breaking in, the payoff is a classic, authentic feel that molds beautifully to your shape over time.

6. Go Beyond Blue

Denim doesn’t have to be blue to be fabulous. Black jeans are a wardrobe essential—sleek, slimming, and easy to dress up or down. White denim is another classic, offering a fresh and sophisticated alternative, especially in warmer months. If you’re feeling adventurous, pastel or colored denim can add a fun twist to your outfit. Don’t forget printed and embroidered denim for those statement-making moments.

7. Quality Over Quantity

A good pair of jeans is an investment, so focus on quality over quantity. Check the stitching, fabric weight, and hardware. Premium denim brands may come with a higher price tag, but they often offer better fits, durability, and that luxurious feel. If budget is a concern, many high-street brands now offer excellent denim options, so shop smart!

8. The Denim Diaries: Care Tips

Once you’ve found the one, you’ll want to keep it in tip-top shape.

Avoid over-washing your jeans, as this can cause fading and wear.

Instead, spot-clean stains and air them out after a few wears. When it’s time for a wash, turn them inside out, use cold water, and skip the dryer to maintain their fit and color.

9. Style It Your Way

Denim is the ultimate blank canvas.

Pair your skinny jeans with stilettos and a silk blouse for a night out or go full-on casual with sneakers and a hoodie. Experiment with layers, textures, and accessories to make your denim look uniquely yours.

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