THISDAY STYLE MAGAZINE 6TH AUGUST 2023

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SUNDAY, AUGUST 6, 2023

BRIGHT “BASKETMOUTH’’ OKPOCHA

THE MAN, THE MYTH, THE COMEDIAN

EDITOR’S LETTER

COVER NOTE

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is name is Bright Okpocha, but to millions, he’s Basketmouth! Back in 2000, when standup comedy was still finding its footing in Nigeria, Basketmouth burst onto the scene like a comedic dynamo. Recently, he shared his unique approach to comedy, the fearless attitude he brings to the stage, and his latest gem, “LOL: Last one Laughing Nigeria,” now exclusively available for streaming on Prime Video

Society

VANESSA AND CHUKA TIE THE KNOT

Vanessa Oluwaseun Cole and Chuka Emmanuel Agili recently tied the knot in a glitzy wedding ceremony . Their families, the Coles and the Agilis, held the celebration at the VIP Marquee in Lulu Ama Sandfield, Rivers State. Before the big party, they observed a beautiful traditional wedding ceremony, ticking all the boxes of customary marriage rites.

EXECUTIVE EDITOR

Beauty beyond Colour

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EXECUTIVE EDITOR KONYE NWABOGOR 08111847087

Lifestyle & Fashion The Influencer Hacks For Bringing 8 Even The Most Basic Outfits

DEPUTY EXECUTIVE EDITOR OLUFUNKE BABS-KUFEJI 08111847086

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ASSISTANT EDITOR OROMA JUMBO 08113921062

10 6 Hollywood Stars Are Nigerians 11 Survivors 17 Is The Natural Hair Movement Dead? 18

VISUAL/SENIOR DESIGNER MATHIAS ARCHIBONG 07054965500

Fun Hangout Ideas for A Day Out with The Girls Fringe Fashion Is Back Here’s How To Wear It.

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GUEST CORRESPONDENT YOMI OWOPE

Are Dress Codes still Relevant?

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CONTRIBUTORS AZUKA OGUJIUBA DIDEE ETA AYO LAWAL BUKOLA AMOBOYE RUKY SALAKO KEJUO LEKAN

Six Foodie Bloggers You Should Be Following On Instagram

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PHOTOGRAPHER TY BELLO

21 The Modern Girl’s Survival Guide 22 9 Interior Design Rules Everyone 23 Should Know

Skin Bleaching Is Laden With Risks

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DIRECTOR, PRINT PRODUCTION CHUKS ONWUDINJO 08077092196

@thisdaystyle |

have always believed that the trend of skin bleaching is fueled not just by societal and cultural pressures conforming to beauty standards favouring lighter skin but also, more significantly, by some deep-seated insecurity. Yeah, because how else do you explain the desire to alter your look completely, even at the risk of your health? It is this insecurity that may sometimes blur our self-perception and dampen our appreciation of our own unique beauty. At this point, it is imperative to understand that beauty is an internal concept, and our skin tone is just a canvas showcasing our individuality. I will not even delve into the severe damage to the skin’s integrity and overall health, as it goes without saying. You should read the article- “Skin Lightening Is Laden With Risks, But It Still Thrives in the Nigerian Beauty Market—Here’s Why,” - especially if you are considering reversing the damages done to your skin from bleaching. It is an insightful article that provides comprehensive information on the effects of skin bleaching and how to change its consequences.

Still, on personal well-being, It is no longer news that the economic climate we find ourselves in demands us to be more resilient and resourceful. The “Modern Girl’s Survival Guide: Thriving Amidst Economic Downturns and Price Hikes” shares practical ways to navigate these challenging times while maintaining sanity and well-being. I am curious, though, how are you all coping with these current economic conditions? Remember, our capacity to adapt and persevere is what sets us apart as Nigerians. It may seem overwhelming at the moment, but I encourage you to hang in there and keep hoping for the best. Despite these hardships, I am optimistic about the future. The current situation is temporary, and I firmly believe brighter days are on the horizon. I am rounding this up with a subtle reminder of the importance of self-love and acceptance in a world that often tells us to be different. We owe it to ourselves to embrace our unique beauty. Stay safe, and as for life at the moment, you’ve got this. Keep striving and keep believing.

Love,

Konye

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Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

Vanessa and Chuka tie the knot Vanessa Oluwaseun Cole and Chuka Emmanuel Agili recently tied the knot in a glitzy wedding ceremony . Their families, the Coles and the Agilis, held the celebration at the VIP Marquee in Lulu Ama Sandfield, Rivers State. Before the big party, they observed a beautiful traditional wedding ceremony, ticking all the boxes of customary marriage rites.

Afterwards, the party continued at the same venue with a grand reception.

The who’s who of politics, business, and royalty turned up to bless the couple. As you’d expect, it was a glamorous affair.

To top it all, Wande Cole, Nigeria’s music star, was there, belting out hits and getting everyone on the dance floor.

BRIDE’S PARENTS TONYE & SYLVIA COLE

CHUKA AND VANESSA AGILI

GROOM’S FATHER, EMMANUEL AGILI

BENJAMIN AGILI AND SAMUEL AGILI

JUDITH AND BENJAMIN AGILI

BENE BENIBO AND RASORGE TARIAH JNR

EDDIE AGBAHON AND SAMMY COLE

MONIQUE TAWO

FEDDY ANABRABA AND PATRICK DELE COLE , OON

MR AND MRS. MAGNUS ABE

ONARI DUKE AND ADERONKE ADEYEMI

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ABIYE SEKIBO

NKECHI CHIZEA

HRM KING DISRAEL GBOBO BOB - MANUEL (II) AMANAYANABO

SINARI DARANIJO

DAYE HOSFALL AND HAPEE

JENNIFER

JOHN IWELUMO

KEMI AJUMOBI, TRACY WEST & IJEOMA OBI

REV. PAUL ANEKE

DAKUKU PETERSIDE

CONSTANCE IKOKWU

CHINWE EZEANYA AND BEKY ALAO

FRANCES IWUCHUKWU

CHUKA ESEKA

EMILOMO AND RICHARD AROROTE

HRM. FRANCIS ALAO AND BASORUN ENIOLA FAYOSE

ANGELA ADEGBOYEGA AND MARILYN RAPU

ISIOMA OKIWELU

EMEKA BEKE & AUGUSTA BEKE

IBI AND TOM FABYAN

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Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

Invest in Shoes A stunning pair of shoes can breathe new life into your basics.

Whether it’s a pair of brightly coloured heels or the latest sneaker trend, your choice of footwear can make or break your outfit.

THE INFLUENCER HACKS FOR BRINGING EVEN THE MOST BASIC OUTFITS TO LIFE Do you ever glance at your wardrobe, see a parade of basic items, and sigh in exasperation? Don’t worry, you’re not alone.

Even with the most elaborate collection of clothes, we can all fall into the trap of feeling ‘blah’ about our seemingly plain outfits. But here’s the secret: it doesn’t have to be that way. Even the most influential fashionistas have their own go-to basics. What sets them apart is the art of styling. It’s time to unveil the influencer hack that will revamp your basics and inject a breath of fresh life into your everyday outfits.

DEL ONYII

Layer It Up Layering is an influencer-approved way to add dimension to an otherwise simple ensemble. A monochrome turtleneck under a slip dress or a shirt thrown over a tee can instantly elevate your look. Play around with lengths, textures, and colours. Remember, fashion is all about self-expression, and layering offers infinite ways to express your style.

NONYE UDEOGU

Confidence is Key Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, wear your outfit with confidence. Even the most basic ensemble can look fabulous if you wear it with assurance and a smile. Confidence is an accessory that never goes out of style!

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Fun Hangout Ideas for A Day Out with The Girls

By Bukola Amoboye

Looking for some fabulous ideas to plan an unforgettable girls’ hangout? Look no further!

Here are some exciting activities that will add sparkle to your get-together and create memories that will last a lifetime.

Mix and Match Fashion influencers know that the magic lies in the mix. Pair your basics with statement pieces or mix casual items with more formal ones. Try combining a basic white tee with a sequin skirt, or wear your everyday jeans with a glam top. The result? An effortlessly chic look that screams high fashion.

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Pamper in Style at the Spa Treat yourselves to a day of bliss at the spa. Indulge in some much-needed self-care, from rejuvenating massages and refreshing facials to luxurious manicures and pedicures. The spa is perfect for unwinding, sipping on refreshing drinks, and sharing intriguing stories with your besties.

NENESI IBRU-OKEKE AND MAKASHE IBRU AWOGBORO

OZINNA ANUMUDU

Statement Accessories When your outfit is basic, your accessories can take centre stage.

Statement pieces such as chunky necklaces, vibrant scarves, or wide-brim hats can turn the simplest outfit into a head-turner. It’s all about adding that pop of colour or an element of surprise that breaks the monotony.

Perfect the Tuck The art of tucking in your shirt can entirely transform your look. Whether it’s a full tuck, a front tuck, or the ever-popular French tuck, this simple hack can make your outfit look more put together while adding a dose of style.

Sail Away on a Boat Adventure For a unique and refreshing experience, why not go boat sailing?

Rent a boat or join a sailing tour and explore serene waters with your girls. Feel the gentle breeze, enjoy the picturesque views, and revel in the joy of being out on the water with your closest friends.

WANDOO

Conquer the Karaoke Stage Unleash your inner divas and

head to a karaoke bar or restaurant. Sing your hearts out to your favourite tunes while enjoying delicious food and drinks. It’s all about fun and laughter as you cheer each other on, regardless of your singing skills.

Groove the Night Away at a Dance Class Spice up your hangout by taking a dance class together. Whether it’s salsa, hip-hop, or even a Bollywood dance class, learning new moves with your girlfriends will leave you in fits of giggles and bring you even closer.

Savour a Wine Tasting Experience Embark on a delightful journey through the world of wine. Visit a winery or join a wine-tasting event

to sample a variety of wines, all while relishing each other’s company and discovering your preferred vintages. .

Attend a Live Comedy Show Laughter is the best medicine, and what better way to experience it than at a live comedy show?

Find a stand-up performance in your area. Sit back, relax, and giggle the night away with your besties.

Have a Movie Night Marathon: Set up a cosy movie night at home or rent out a private movie theatre.

Select your favourite films, whether classic chick flicks or actionpacked blockbusters and settle in for a movie marathon. Don’t forget the popcorn and snacks!

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Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

6 HOLLYWOOD STARS YOU PROBABLY DIDN’T KNOW

ARE NIGERIANS

By Bukola Amoboye

Many of us are probably familiar with Hollywood names like David Oyelowo (Selma, A United Kingdom), Chiwetel Ejiofor (2012, Half of a Yellow Sun), John Boyega (Star Wars, The Woman King), Uzo Aduba (Orange is the new black), etc. However, there are many more you never would have guessed. For some, their names would be an obvious giveaway, but you probably only know them by the characters they play on T.V. Here are six of your favourite Hollywood actors that are Nigerians!

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Cynthia Erivo

You might know her from her powerful portrayal of Harriet Tubman in ‘Harriet’ or her role as Belle in ‘Widows’ alongside Viola Davis. Born in London to Nigerian parents, Cynthia is an Emmy-nominated singer and actress. She honed her talent at the Royal Academy of Dramatic Art after quitting a music psychology degree. Cynthia earned an Academy Award nomination for her outstanding performance as Harriet Tubman and also wowed audiences with her singing prowess, earning a Best Original Song nomination for ‘Stand Up.’

TRACY IFEACHOR

Adetomiwa Edun

AUSTRIAN LACE

ELIE KUAME

PATBO

FRINGE FASHION IS BACK - HERE’S HOW TO WEAR IT.

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Get ready to sway, shimmy, and shake because fringe fashion is back in a big way. No longer just a trend of the 1920s or the western world, it has been spotted on numerous runways, Instagram feeds, and style-savvy streets, making its case for a spot in our closets.

But the million-dollar question is: How to wear the fringe trend without looking like an extra from a Western movie or a Gatsby party?

The trick is balance. Pairing a fringe detail with understated pieces can create a look that is as chic as it is wearable. Try a fringe jacket with skinny jeans and a plain white tee or a fringe skirt with a simple blouse and heels. These combos offer a touch of trendiness without overwhelming your ensemble.

For those who love to make a bold statement, embrace the dramatic side of the fringe. Consider a fringe-hemmed party dress or a handbag with fringe detailing for a fun, flirty effect. Accessories are a safe way to dip your toe into the fringe trend. A pair of fringe earrings or a fringeaccented scarf can add just enough pizzazz to your look without going overboard.

This new wave of fringe isn’t confined to clothing either. Designers have been busy incorporating fringe into shoes, bags, and even jewellery, making this trend more accessible than ever. A fringed loafer or a fringetrimmed clutch can inject a playful yet sophisticated edge into any outfit.

The return of fringe fashion proves that style is about self-expression and having fun. It’s a trend that invites creativity, encourages movement, and promises a good time. So, don’t shy away from the shimmy of fringe.

Embrace it, play with it, and make it your own.

ADEPERO ODUYE

ADETOMIWA EDUN

If you’re a ‘Merlin’ fan, you’ll recognize him as Sir Elyan, Lady Gwen’s brother. Born in Lagos, Nigeria, Adetomiwa moved to London at the age of 11. His acting career skyrocketed when he became the second black actor to play Romeo at the Globe Theatre. He continued to impress with roles in ‘Law & Order: U.K.,’ ‘Bates Motel,’ ‘Lucifer,’ and more. He even voiced the character of Alex Hunter in the FIFA video game series!

Adepero Oduye

Starring alongside Cynthia Erivo in ‘Widows’ and playing Eliza in ‘12 Years a Slave,’ Adepero has left a lasting mark in Hollywood. Born in Brooklyn, New York City, to Nigerian parents, Adepero’s acting journey started with the award-winning short film ‘Pariah,’ directed by Dee Rees. She has since made guest appearances on shows like ‘Louie’ and ‘Law & Order.’

TALLERR MARMO

Tracy Ifeachor

JACQMEUS CYNTHIA ERIVO

MARTINS IMHANGBE

You may remember her as Lydia Bates in ‘Quantico’ or Aya Al Rashid in ‘The Originals.’ Tracy was born in England to Nigerian parents and pursued her passion for acting despite her father’s initial wish for her to finish her education. She graduated with honours from The Royal Central School of Speech & Drama and later starred in various T.V. shows, including ‘Dr. Who’ and ‘Strike Back: Vengeance.’

Gbenga Akinnagbe

If you’re a fan of ‘The Wire,’ you definitely know Chris Partlow, played by Gbenga Akinnagbe. Born in Washington, D.C., to Nigerian parents and raised in Maryland, Gbenga is an accomplished actor and an aspiring writer. He has starred in films like ‘The Savages and ‘The Taking of Pelham One Two Three’ and has even been published in The New York Times.

JIMMY CHOO

Martins Imhangbe

JIMMY CHOO GBENGA AKINNAGBE

Though not as widely recognized yet, Martins is making waves with his role as bartender Will Mondrich in the popular Netflix series ‘Bridgerton.’ A British-Nigerian actor, Martins earned an Ian Charleson Award nomination for his performance in the 2018 production of ‘Richard II.’ Raised in South East London, Martins has already made a mark in the theatre world.

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COVER

His name is Bright Okpocha, but to millions, he’s Basketmouth! Back in 2000, when standup comedy was still finding its footing in Nigeria, Basketmouth burst onto the scene like a comedic dynamo. Interestingly, his journey started with a passion for rap, which unfortunately didn’t go as planned, but fate had other hilarious plans for him. With a captivating mix of jokes, stories, lightning-fast improvisation, and razorsharp comebacks, Basketmouth’s talent shot him to superstardom in the comedy universe. Today, his name reverberates through nationwide households, a testament to his remarkable impact on the industry.

But Basketmouth’s brilliance doesn’t stop at comedy alone; he has successfully ventured into the world of acting as well. You might have caught him gracing the screens in various comedy series, shows, and more, proving that his talent knows no bounds.

Recently Funke Babs Kufeji had the pleasure of sitting down with the comedic maestro himself, where he shared his unique approach to comedy, the fearless attitude he brings to the stage, and his latest gem, “LOL: Last one Laughing Nigeria,” now exclusively available for streaming on Prime Video.

When you were growing up, were you always the funny guy amongst your peers, and did they ever suggest or say to you, “You should be a comedian when you grow up”? What was the “aha” moment when you realised you wanted to pursue a comedy career?

All my friends were pretty funny, so I didn’t realise early enough that it was a gift. It all started coming together in JSS1. We had a thing called wording, just like “yo mama”. When a few students identified me as having a bad mouth, the word spread quickly.

Not long after, my schoolmates started paying me 5 Naira to “word” students they had a fight with. It became my daily lunch money; I kept at it until SS1, and then I kind of lost interest in it.

Eventually, I picked a new one and entertained my classmates during break time. We didn’t know what standup comedy was; I was just having fun. Not long after I left secondary school, I was entertaining my friends at home with some made-up funny stories, and my eldest brother’s friend asked me if I had seen Eddie Murphy’s standup comedy show “Delirious’. I never knew Eddie was a comedian; I was only exposed to his movies. This was in 1995. He lent me the tape, and I started watching it. I thought to myself, “Bright, this is it!! This is what you must do; this is who you are.

They say artists are born. How helpful was your childhood in making you a standup comedian?

My talent made me a standup comedian; my experience as a child down to adulthood molded the entirety of my design.

You went into comedy over 20 years ago when comedy was still very new in Nigeria; how supportive was your family when you told them you wanted to stand up?

They were supportive; my dad asked me if this was what I wanted to do now. His only condition was that I would finish school no matter what.

BRIGHT “BASKETMOUTH’’ OKPOCHA The Man, The Myth, The Comedian

Before you went into standup comedy, you were a rap artist.

Tell us how it went and what made you choose comedy.

In 1995, five years before I started doing comedy, I was really into rap music under the name ‘Lyricist.’ I spent 17 years exploring rap and was part of a rap group called The Psychopaths with my brother Godwin, Dominic Umeri, Emeka Morka, Fred, and Kenneth Oliver Tutu. Our dream was to become a top rap group in Nigeria and beyond, but after a few years, university admissions split us up. We had a unique style mixing Hip-hop and Afrobeats, which is common now but was unusual back then. Unfortunately, people didn’t quite get it at the time, so I eventually switched to comedy.

It would be right to say your rap career didn’t take off like you would have liked, but what would it be if you were to choose between rap and comedy?

While rap music was my initial passion, comedy has become the cornerstone of my life. Faced with a pivotal decision, I ultimately opted for comedy, although it wasn’t my original devotion. The prevailing lack of appreciation for rap music during that time made the transition to comedy a straightforward choice.

Rap and comedy are worlds apart, but you have been a part of both worlds. What will you say the similarities are?

Both comedy and rap have intertwined in my journey, with rap being a passion I carried for 17 years before comedy took the spotlight. The inclination towards rap was evident in my early music pursuits with a group called The Psychopaths. While comedy became my life’s pursuit due to greater acceptance, the

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two talents may someday coexist. But, for now, comedy remains my primary focus, driven by a deep-rooted connection that dates back to my beginnings in the entertainment scene.

You are also an actor and producer, and your series “My Flatmate” has been one of Nigeria’s most successful comedy series. Tell us how it all began; where did the idea come from?

My first home in Lagos was in Iponri estate. At that time, I was one of the few entertainers established in Lagos, while others were scattered in different places. I offered my place to those who needed a stay in Lagos, and many now-celebrated comedians lived in that small flat. Sometimes, about 15 of us squeezed into a three-bedroom apartment. I liked working in close quarters, so one day, while sitting at the dining table with my friend Kayode Peters (KP), the idea for “My Flatmates” struck me. We found another friend’s cool apartment to shoot the show, and even though I couldn’t afford to pay for a location, set or even a proper camera, we pulled it off with what we had. KP’s resourcefulness helped us get cameras for a fraction of the cost, and despite challenges, the show ran for two years. We didn’t give up, and now the show is in its 7th season. It’s one of Africa Magic’s top TV shows, celebrated for its humour and strong comedic performance, making it a leading Nigerian comedy sitcom.

Comedy has come a long way in Nigeria. Can you tell us what your experience was as to what obtains now? Would you say it has gotten easy for new comedians on the comedy scene?

There’s always been a challenging path to success. However, there are certain advantages that social media has provided. You put out content, and it gets thousands of views in minutes, unlike in our day when we physically had to go to as many locations as possible to showcase our skills. The days you get instant and audible feedback. You could get booed off the stage. Now, you can delete and block any comment you don’t like. So, it’s gotten much easier, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy.

How did the growth of the Internet and social media contribute to growing your brand and exposing your content to so many people?

Social media is a global village that connects the entire world in one space. So, more visibility, more brand growth.

Do you do any special prep before taking the stage or taping a show, and so far, what has been your most memorable show and why?

Not necessarily, it’s different for every show.

Sometimes, I listen to certain music, but the genre is always different. It’s about the set and where I want to be mentally and emotionally.

Go through the set mentally and end it all with a prayer. That’s the only static thing…the prayer.

Are there lines as a standup comedian that you won’t cross, and do you think there should be lines that standup comedians shouldn’t cross when presenting materials to an audience?

The world has gotten very sensitive. There are many lines comedians are now forced to stay within the confines of to escape the cancel culture. But we will still say what needs to be said regardless.

We didn’t know what standup comedy was; I was just having fun.

Not long after I left secondary school, I was entertaining my friends at home with some made-up funny stories, and my eldest brother’s friend asked me if I had seen Eddie Murphy’s standup comedy show “Delirious’.

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How does it feel to be the host of LOL: Last One Laughing Naija, one of the most highly anticipated comedy shows in Nigeria, and what surprises or twists can viewers expect you to bring to the show?

It has been a genuinely thrilling experience showcasing the Naija style of comedy globally. It’s been an honour. Secondly, it won’t be a surprise or twist if I tell you now. So japa to Prime Video.

How important is it for you to showcase the diversity and richness of Nigerian comedy through the show?

Comedy has taken the back burner in past years. People don’t realise how much work it takes to make someone laugh.

Unlike music, where you sing along, comedy requires perfect synchronisation of skill and tactic; otherwise, the result will be disastrous. LOL is a diverse cast of comics trying to outdo each other with their varied styles, and that alone will showcase the richness of Naija comedy.

There’s always been a challenging path to success. However, there are certain advantages that social media has provided. You put out content, and it gets thousands of views in minutes, unlike in our day when we physically had to go to as many locations as possible to showcase our skills

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How will the presence of such a talented cast elevate the comedy experience for both the contestants and the viewers?

The cast will be seen in a raw element different from what they put out online. People will be excited to experience that unscripted realness from them. It’ll keep the viewers glued to the screen.

What do you think the audience will enjoy the most about LOL: Last One Laughing Naija, and what do you hope they will take away from watching it?

The audience will enjoy watching their faves make a fool of themselves. The takeaway will be the resilience put up by whoever the winner is. It takes sheer determination not to crack a smile in a room full of some of Naija’s funniest comedians.

What role does laughter play in bringing people together, especially in a diverse, multicultural country like Nigeria?

Everyone loves to laugh. It’s good for the soul. Nigerians are naturally happy people, especially with the realities we face daily.

LOL will be another perfect escape to go and forget your worries.

It is better when watched with family and friends. Because laughter shared lasts longer.

How important is it for you to use your platform to give back and support local charities?

Very Important. Nobody lives forever, but people will remember your legacy, work, and how you made people feel.

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SURVIV

By Dr. Kemi DaSilva-Ibru

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Dear Reader, Welcome to the WARIF Survivor Stories Series, a monthly feature, where stories of survivors of rape and sexual violence are shared to motivate and encourage survivors to speak their truth without the fear of judgment or stigmatization and to educate the public on the sheer magnitude of this problem in our society. The Women at Risk International Foundation (WARIF) is a non-profit organization set up in response to the extremely high incidence of rape, sexual violence, and human trafficking of young girls and women in our society. WARIF is tackling this issue through a holistic approach that covers health, education, and community service initiatives.

WARIF aids survivors of rape and sexual violence through the WARIF Centre - a haven where trained professionals are present full time, 6 days a week including public holidays to offer immediate medical care, forensic medical examinations, psycho-social counseling, and welfare services which include shelter, legal aid, and vocational skills training. These services are provided FREE of charge to any survivor who walks into the Centre.

I am Tawa*, a 23-year-old lady, and this is my story.

I grew up not knowing whom my mom was. My dad informed me that she abandoned me at birth and never came back and no one had heard nor seen her since she left. I finished my secondary education despite the hardship I faced. My dad is a mechanic who repairs faulty cars in a friend’s garage. He struggled to make ends meet and we barely had enough to eat and I lacked motherly care.

After my final paper, I left Ibadan for Lagos in public bus. I did not know my destination or where I was going to pass the night but I was desperate to be successful in life and I knew my father could not afford to send me to the University and I needed to get a job and save enough money to fulfil my dream of becoming an International Fashion Designer.

I felt sorry that I did not bid him farewell but I knew he was not going to allow me go.

When I arrived Lagos, the driver dropped all passengers in the garage and I began to wander around the park hoping that I may see a friendly face to speak to but everyone seemed to be in hurry. At night, I sneaked into one of the buses and slept inside. I was surprised to have overslept such that the bus-owner returned in the morning and woke me up.

I apologized and explained my circumstances to him, he had pity on me and gave me money to find something to eat and he also showed the public toilet to get a bathe.

He told other sympathizers my plight at the park and they allowed me to sit with them during the day and to pass the night at the park.

About a week later, I began job hunting and while passing by a mechanic workshop, a man called me and asked what I seeking. I

explained that I desperately needed a job to survive, then he asked me to wait for him, that his wife needed a sales girl to assist her in her business. He took me along to his house and I did not see anyone in the house, then he put a call across to a lady and he handed me the phone to speak to his wife and I did and she asked when I wanted to resume the job and I responded immediately, and she agreed to employ me. I returned the phone to him after our discussion.

He ended the call and pushed me on the sofa, he forcefully removed my clothes and when I tried to shout and he used his hands to cover my mouth and inserted his penis into my vagina and raped me. It was a painful experience. He threatened to kill me, if I ever told anyone, then he gave me three thousand naira and asked me to go. As I was leaving, he called me back and collected the money, I pleaded with him

that I needed to get medication and I was bleeding because this was my first time of having sex.

He refused and I was infuriated by his callousness and I proceeded to look for the nearest police station, luckily for me, I found one and reported the crime and the officers promptly followed me to the perpetrator’s location and he was arrested.

Fortunately, I was referred to the WARIF Rape Crises Centre from the police station. I immediately accessed medical examination, treatment and psycho-social counselling. The counsellor commended me for reporting the case promptly. The psychosocial counseling provided by the counselor at the center helped me to answer some of the questions troubling my mind. The counselor assured me that the rape incident was no fault of mine but is entirely the fault of the perpetrator. I was able to cope with the emotional

and psychological trauma I experienced using the coping mechanism I was taught during my counseling sessions.

It’s been a year since the incident happened, the case was charged to court and the perpetrator was sentenced for crimes committed against me.

I was given shelter through the support of WARIF CENRE in collaboration with their partners.

Most importantly, the group therapy sessions have helped me overcome self-blame, guilt, mood swings, and loss of concentration.

I am faring well and currently enrolled in a fashion institute to fulfil my ambition of becoming a Fashion designer. I was recently given the award for the best designer in my class. All thanks to the WARIF Team, my life have been transformed! *Real name of the survivor changed for confidentiality

Dear survivor, please know that you are not alone and it is not your fault. Help is available.

If you have been raped or you know someone who has, please visit us at The WARIF Centre - 6, Turton Street, off Thorburn Avenue, Sabo, Yaba or call our 24-hour confidential helpline on 08092100009.

For questions or more information please contact: info@warifng.org

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Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

IS THE NATURAL HAIR MOVEMENT DEAD?

CHIOMA CHUKWUKA

Once a powerful symbol of embracing one’s authentic self and challenging Eurocentric beauty standards, the natural hair movement ignited a revolution that empowered Black women worldwide

BEVERLY NAYA

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While it would be premature to declare the natural hair movement “dead,” there is no denying that there has been a discernible change in attitudes and practices surrounding natural hair. An increasing number of Black women seem to be opting for heat training or returning to relaxers, sparking debates on the reasons behind this evolving trend.

Once a powerful symbol of embracing one’s authentic self and challenging Eurocentric beauty standards, the natural hair movement ignited a revolution that empowered Black women worldwide.

Social media platforms became battlegrounds for celebrating coils, kinks, and curls, transforming how Black beauty was perceived. It was a liberating journey that encouraged self-love and acceptance, giving birth to a new era of Black hair pride.

However, we must recognise that societal attitudes towards beauty are everevolving, and personal hair care choices are no exception. While some may see this shift as a regression, it is essential to understand the nuanced reasons behind these choices.

One factor contributing to the transformation lies in the desire for convenience and manageability. Life in the modern age is often fast-paced, leaving little time for extensive hair routines. Heat training and relaxers offer women a way to achieve a smoother, more uniform look with less effort. Additionally, some may find it easier to maintain these styles in various professional settings, combating potential discrimination and prejudice regarding natural hair in certain environments.

Another key factor to consider is the

influence of media and pop culture.

Celebrities and influencers play a substantial role in shaping beauty ideals, and the natural hair movement’s initial momentum has faced some degree of commodification. The pressure to maintain a specific image, often influenced by beauty standards, can lead to individuals choosing more “mainstream” hairstyles.

Furthermore, the natural hair journey can be demanding, both physically and emotionally. The process of embracing one’s natural texture involves a learning curve, and not every woman may have the resources, support, or patience to navigate it. As much as it represents empowerment, it can also be a daunting path that requires dedication and perseverance.

Nevertheless, it is crucial to emphasise that these choices are deeply personal and should be respected. Women should feel empowered to make decisions about their hair without judgment or scrutiny. The evolution of the natural hair movement should be seen as a testament to the diverse experiences and struggles Black women face in their pursuit of self-expression.

To ensure that the natural hair movement remains relevant, it needs continued support and advocacy. Education is essential to dispel the myths and misconceptions surrounding Black hair, and diverse representation in media can help challenge narrow beauty standards.

Initiatives promoting self-love, inclusivity, and celebrating all hair types can reinvigorate the movement, making it more accessible and appealing to the next generation

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ARE DRESS CODES STILL RELEVANT?

or the longest time, our wardrobe choices have been guided by a set of rules known as the dress code. It’s an unwritten guide that whispers in our ears, suggesting what to wear at weddings, business meetings, or casual get-togethers— generally playing a vital role in mapping out our social interactions. However, the present-day narrative of individuality challenges its relevance. It begs the question: Are dress codes still as significant as they once were, or should our clothing choices reflect our personal style instead?

Dress codes have historically served as a safety net, a cocoon of comfort.

They ensure we are impeccably dressed for every occasion and wouldn’t stick out like a sore thumb in a crowd dressed in suits and ties while we turned up in Bermuda shorts. Dress codes embody the timeless virtue of respect for events and institutions, giving a warm embrace to the traditions that have sewn the fabric of society together. Moreover, in settings like offices, schools, and formal events, dress codes instil a sense of camaraderie and equality. There is no denying the charm of a uniform look that unites all and leaves no room for awkward differences. The values of dress codes are deeply ingrained in societal norms and traditions, rendering them indispensable.

However, as the narrative evolves, dress codes are not the only characters in the story anymore. In comes the protagonist of personal style. It allows us to script our own narrative, to say who we are without uttering a single word.

Personal style is the paintbrush with which we colour our canvas. It reflects our personalities, our values, and our individuality. Imagine your clothes as your chosen armour shielding your identity, empowering you to stand out in a crowd and say, “This is me.”

But let’s hit the pause button and rewind. Should the debate really be about choosing one over the other? Are we placing these two concepts - dress codes and personal style - on opposite ends of the spectrum, making it seem like we must choose between conformity and individuality? Or can there be a meeting point, a harmonious blend, or a mix of the two? The truth lies somewhere in the grey area, where we can negotiate a truce between the rigidity of dress codes and the flexibility of personal style. We could honour the essence of dress codes while infusing a bit of our own style, letting our true colours shine through. The next time you are at a black-tie event, you don’t have to stick to a sombre, plain tie. Why not wear one with a bright pattern or a quirky design?

EGO BOYO

JUMOKE ABAYOMI

It’s about finding that sweet spot where you fit within societal expectations while still being true to your uniqueness. Such a blend could lead to an exciting cocktail of uniformity and individuality, leading to a richer, more colourful social experience.

As we stride into the future, the relationship between dress codes and personal style will continue to evolve.

Dress codes have proven their mettle, and they still hold their ground. But personal style isn’t to be dismissed. It has emerged as a strong contender, a force reshaping the social dynamics of dressing. A perfect harmony between the two could lead to a society where rules don’t strictly bind us, nor are we floating adrift in the sea of individuality.

So, are dress codes still relevant? Absolutely, they are! However, their significance doesn’t eclipse the importance of personal style. It’s about understanding the syntax and semantics of dress codes and then adding a twist of our own, creating a language that truly speaks ‘us’.

Our clothing choices shouldn’t just be about conforming to expectations; they should also echo our unique personality and creative spirit. Our wardrobe is a canvas. Let’s paint it with the colours of tradition and a splash of personal flair.

MICHELLE DEDE

Dress codes have proven their mettle, and they still hold their ground. But personal style isn’t to be dismissed. It has emerged as a strong contender, a force reshaping the social dynamics of dressing 19

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Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

Skin Bleaching Is Laden With Risks, But It Still Thrives in the Nigerian Beauty Market— Here’s Why.

IX FOODIE BLOGGERS YOU SHOULD BE FOLLOWING ON INSTAGRAM

Calling all foodies and Instagram lovers! If you’re a food enthusiast looking to explore new and practical recipes or want to spice up your Instagram feed with delicious delights, we’ve got you covered! Get ready to tantalize your taste buds with these six amazing food blogs you absolutely must follow:

By Bukola Amoboye

TOLANI TAYO OSIKOYA

TOSIN SAMUEL

Tolani Tayo -Osikoya - @diaryofakitchenlover

Prepare to be enchanted by @diaryofakitchenlover! Tolani TayoOsikoya, a charismatic chef, food blogger, and influencer, has amassed a whopping 1.1 million followers on IG. Her delightful personality shines through as she shares mouthwatering, practical recipes.

Oh, and did we mention she also collaborates with celebrities, divulging their favorite food secrets? Plus, her kitchen interior inspirations are to die for, whether it’s indoors or outdoors. Join her 1.1 million “besties” and get ready for a flavorful journey!

Tosin Samuel - @tspices_kitchen

For an explosion of Nigerian and African culinary wonders, look no further than @tspices_kitchen! Tosin Samuel, the genius behind this blog, serves her 372k followers with an irresistible blend of Nigerian flavours. Her enthusiasm while explaining recipes in detail makes it a joy to follow. And hey, she’s recently started a Sapa food series, offering budget-friendly meal ideas amidst economic challenges. Who said deliciousness couldn’t be affordable?

Jamila Lawal - @jamilaolawal

Ready to savour both continental and intercontinental dishes and traditional Northern Nigerian meals? Then join 114k fans in admiring @jamilaolawal! As a public health professional and nutritionist, she’s got the perfect balance of delectable and healthy recipes. And guess what? She’s also the host of Maggi Diaries on YouTube, adding even more flavour to her already impressive portfolio.

JAMILA LAWAL

IFY MOGEKWU

Ify Mogekwu - @ifys.kitchen

With a whopping 1.4 million followers, @ifykitchen is a food blog sensation! Ify Mogekwu takes you on a culinary adventure across the continent with detailed and practical recipes you can easily try at home. From kitchen hacks to cooking your favourite dishes to perfection, she’s got it all covered.

Abisola Olasupo - @theabisola

Take a nostalgic trip down memory lane with @theabisola! Abisola Olasupo’s delightful blog showcases homemade Nigerian dishes that will warm your heart and tingle your taste buds. Whether you’re seeking inspiration for exciting food combinations or just a creative way to spice up your regular meals, this blog is a treasure trove of culinary brilliance.

Bukie Akinmade - @thekitchenmuse

Looking for a comprehensive food blog that caters to all tastes and preferences? Say hello to @thekitchenmuse! Bukie Akinmade a charismatic YouTuber and food influencer who serves up a delightful array of recipes, drinks, snacks, kitchen hacks, and even ideas for the little ones. Whatever your dietary goals or cravings, she’s got your back!

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ABISOLA OLASUPO

BUKIE AKINMADE

Skin bleaching in Nigeria isn’t exactly a new fad. Over the years, the practice has deeply permeated our society, with its effects reverberating in various facets of life. What was once a mere cosmetic preference has evolved into a cultural phenomenon driven by societal pressures, beauty standards, and a deeprooted desire for a fair complexion. It’s further fueled by easy access to skin-lightening products, which often lack sufficient safety regulations, enabling them to penetrate all socio-economic strata.

The roots of skin bleaching in Nigeria can be traced back to historical, cultural, and societal influences. Historically, the colonial era introduced a Eurocentric beauty standard that glorified fair skin, leading to the belief that lighter skin equates to higher social status and attractiveness. Additionally, the media and advertising industries have perpetuated the idea that fair skin is more desirable, further fueling the popularity of skin-bleaching products.

Advocates of skin bleaching argue that it offers individuals a means to enhance their self-esteem and confidence by conforming to societal beauty standards. It is believed to provide an opportunity for advancement in various spheres, including career prospects and marriage prospects.

Others argue that certain bleaching creams contain ingredients that may provide short-term benefits, such as reducing acne or hyperpigmentation. However, the cons of skin bleaching far outweigh any perceived benefits. Firstly, the chemicals used in bleaching products, such as hydroquinone and mercury, can have detrimental effects on the skin, including thinning, scarring, and increased sensitivity to the sun. Prolonged use can lead to irreversible damage, such as skin discolouration, uneven pigmentation, and premature ageing. Moreover, the psychological toll is significant, as individuals may develop a distorted self-image, low self-esteem, and an unhealthy obsession with achieving an unattainable standard of beauty.

If you have been affected by skin bleaching and wish to reverse its effects, it is crucial to approach the process with patience and care. Here are some steps to consider: Education Educate yourself about the dangers and consequences of skin bleaching. Understand that beauty comes from embracing your skin tone and practicing self-acceptance.

Consult a Dermatologist Seek the guidance of a qualified dermatologist who can assess your skin’s condition and recommend suitable treatments. They may suggest chemical peels, laser therapy, or topical creams to help restore your skin’s health and balance.

Skincare Routine Establish a skincare routine that focuses on nourishing and protecting your skin. This may include gentle cleansers, moisturisers, and sunscreen with a high SPF to shield your skin from further damage.

LOVE THE SKIN YOU ARE IN

Embrace Natural Remedies Explore natural remedies that can aid in skin rejuvenation. Ingredients such as aloe vera, turmeric, and Vitamin C have been known to promote skin healing and even out pigmentation.

Patience and Persistence Reversing the effects of skin bleaching is a gradual process that requires commitment and patience. Results may not be immediate, but with consistent care, your skin will gradually regain its natural beauty.

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Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

Sunday, August 6, 2023 Vol. 22, No. 10307

THE MODERN GIRL’S SURVIVAL GUIDE:

9 INTERIOR DESIGN RULES EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW

THRIVING AMIDST ECONOMIC DOWNTURNS AND PRICE HIKES

Whether you are a seasoned decorator or just starting to explore the world of interior design, there are some fundamental rules that can elevate the aesthetics of any space. From selecting the perfect colour palette to mastering the art of furniture arrangement, understanding these interior design principles can make a world of difference in creating a harmonious and inviting ambience.

These timeless tips will serve as your trusted guide to achieving a captivating and well-balanced home interior.

Picture this: you’re sitting in your favourite café, cradling a skinny mocha latte that’s now alarmingly more expensive. You peruse the morning paper - a flurry of price hikes, fuel costs soaring, and economic forecasts that would make anyone’s heart race. But you, a modern girl navigating these challenging times, aren’t rattled. You’ve got this, and here’s why.

NAIRA

SCALE AND PROPORTION

material, or motif—running through each piece to unify the space.

CULTIVATE A SIDE HUSTLE

Embrace the Art of Budgeting

Function First Design should not only delight the eye but also serve the resident.

Prioritize purpose and comfort, ensuring that every piece of furniture or decor in the room serves a useful role. Try to consider each room’s function first before deciding on its aesthetic.

First things first, a well-planned budget is your superpower. Begin by tracking your spending. Yes, even that extra shot of espresso or the occasional splurge on those gorgeous heels. Make use of mobile apps to help keep a tab on your expenses.

When every penny counts, a comprehensive, real-time overview of your finances is a game-changer.

Prioritise and Downsize

Do you really need that monthly subscription to a Pilates studio when there’s a plethora of free YouTube channels? Could you downsize your data plan or perhaps even try a minimalist wardrobe? Prioritise your needs over wants and let go of nonessential expenses. This doesn’t mean you’re compromising your lifestyle; you’re merely adapting smartly to the new economic reality.

Ride the Green Wave

With fuel prices soaring, there’s no better time to embrace a greener lifestyle. Swap your car rides for cycling and short walks when possible, use public transport, or consider carpooling. Not only will you save a pretty penny, but you’ll also be doing Mother Nature a big favour.

Invest Wisely

Investing might seem counterintuitive during a financial squeeze, but it’s a crucial part of financial resilience. Consider lowrisk investment options that offer slow but steady growth. Remember, the key to successful investing is diversification, patience, and research.

Cultivate a Side Hustle

Ever thought about monetising your passion for baking or your knack for graphic design? A side hustle can provide an

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HAVE A FOCAL POINT

Respect the Rule of Odd Numbers The rule of three, five, or any odd number is a fundamental design principle. A trio of vases, an odd number of picture frames, or an asymmetric furniture arrangement can lend intrigue and dynamic energy to your spaces. This rule is all about creating visual tension that can captivate the eye.

PRIORTISE AND DOWNSIZE

additional income stream and even serve as a creative outlet, a win-win situation during stressful times.

Embrace DIY and Upcycling

Get creative with your resources. A torn dress could be the next trendy crop top.

Leftovers from dinner? Hello, creative lunch.

Embrace a DIY lifestyle and the art of upcycling. You’ll be surprised by the amount of money you can save.

KNOW YOUR COLOUR WHEEL

EMBRACE THE ART OF BUDGETING

Cultivate an Abundance Mindset

Lastly, remember that economic downturns are temporary. While it’s essential to be practical and cautious, don’t let money fears consume you. Cultivate an abundance mindset, practice gratitude, and remember that money is a tool, not an end in itself.

Navigating an economic downturn is not an easy feat, but armed with these strategies, you’re not just surviving but thriving.

Remember, it’s not about curtailing your lifestyle but about evolving it in tune with the changing tides. It’s your game, girl. Now go out there and own it!

LIGHTING IS ESSENTIAL

SMART MONEY WOMAN

MIX IT UP

Know Your Colour Wheel Grasping colour theory is pivotal in the realm of interior design. The 60-30-10 rule is a classic: use 60% of a dominant colour, 30% of a secondary colour, and 10% of an accent colour for an aesthetically pleasing palette. While adventurous souls may venture into more complex colour schemes, beginners should stick to monochromatic schemes for a foolproof start.

Mix it Up Why restrict yourself to a single style when you can harmonize a variety? Feel free to blend old and new, rustic and modern, eclectic and minimalist, as long as there’s a common thread—be it colour,

Scale and Proportion Keep a watchful eye on scale and proportion. Too many large pieces can overpower a room, while an abundance of tiny objects can make it feel cluttered. Strike a balance between large, medium, and small items, ensuring that each piece complements the others in the room.

Light is Essential Never underestimate the power of good lighting. It can accentuate, create mood, and even transform the overall ambience of a room.

Layer your lighting to create a warm, inviting space. This includes a blend of task, accent, and ambient lighting.

Negative Space is Your Friend Remember, every inch of your space doesn’t need to be filled.

Negative space—or ‘breathing room’—can bring balance and emphasis to the design elements you want to highlight. It’s okay to leave some corners or walls bare; it’s the pause that gives the melody its beauty.

Break the Rules Perhaps the most paradoxical rule is this: don’t be afraid to break the rules. Your home is a reflection

of your personality. Don’t let stringent guidelines stifle your creativity.

If it makes you happy, it has a place in your space.

Have a Focal Point Every room needs a focal point that immediately draws the eye.

This could be a piece of furniture, an artwork, a feature wall, etc. This gives the room a sense of direction and can help guide further design decisions.

NEGATIVE SPACE IS YOUR FRIEND

FUNCTION FIRST

RESPECT THE RULE OF ODD NUMBERS

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