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SUNDAY, APRIL 7, 2024

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n 1975, Mrs. Oloyede took her first steps into the world of broadcasting with NBC/TV. Little did she know, she was not just stepping into a studio but into the annals of history. By 1976, as a pioneer member of NTA’s Network News team, she shattered a glass ceiling by becoming the first woman to anchor network news on Nigerian Television. This landmark achievement wasn’t just a personal triumph; it marked a pivotal moment in Nigerian media, paving the way for countless women who followed in her footsteps.

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Lifestyle & Fashion The Survivors

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Movie Review: AFAMEFUNA

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Choosing Self-Care As A Lifestyle: More Than Just Bubble Baths

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This And That - Irresistible Fashion Pairings That Hit The Style Spot

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Age Gaps in Relationships: How much is too much?

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10 Early Signs Of Autism Every Parent Should Recognise

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Cool Girl Brands To Add To Your Wardrobe Now

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A Conversation with a Celebrity Interior Decorator

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Looks Like Everyone Is Wearing Black Lace

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What Shower Gel Type Are You?

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S yle EXECUTIVE EDITOR KONYE NWABOGOR 08111847087 DEPUTY EXECUTIVE EDITOR OLUFUNKE BABS-KUFEJI 08111847086

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SENIOR DESIGNER MATHIAS ARCHIBONG 07054965500 GUEST CORRESPONDENT YOMI OWOPE CONTRIBUTORS AZUKA OGUJIUBA DIDEE ETA AYO LAWAL BUKOLA AMOBOYE RUKY SALAKO KEJUO LEKAN PHOTOGRAPHER TY BELLO

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an you believe we’re already in the second quarter of the year? Time seems to fly by faster with each passing day. I do hope the rest of the year is off to a promising start for you.

Speaking of time, you should read the article - “Age Gaps in Relationships: How Much Is Too Much ? I found it particularly interesting.

Isn’t it fascinating how society’s perception of age gaps in relationships has evolved over time? I mean, just a few decades ago, it was almost scandalous for couples with significant age differences to be in the spotlight. Yet, here we are in an era where such relationships are becoming increasingly common. The article also rightly points out society’s double standard when it comes to age-gap relationships.

While men dating younger women often raise fewer eyebrows, the reverse scenario can still attract a fair share of judgmental glances.

I personally believe this just boils down to ingrained societal norms and expectations. People tend to feel uncomfortable or judgmental when they see something that doesn’t fit into the mould of what they consider “normal.” But let’s be real here—what even is “normal” when it comes to matters of the heart?

I’ve had conversations with individuals who have been in relationships with significant age gaps, and their insights were eye-opening. Many cited the comfort, stability, and wisdom that an older partner could bring to the table.

Some even argue that there are challenges that come with every relationship that has nothing to do with age. So what’s your take? Do significant age gaps truly matter in the grand scheme of a relationship’s success? And more importantly, how much is too much? It’s a conundrum, isn’t it? While age might be just a number, societal norms and personal preferences often come into play, making it a tricky conversation to navigate. I really would love to hear your thoughts.

I would also like to shed light on something very important—it’s April, the month dedicated to Autism Awareness. You know, it’s quite disheartening to see that awareness of autism in Nigeria is still woefully inadequate. Many parents and healthcare providers struggle to recognise the signs of autism in children, leading to delayed diagnoses and missed opportunities for early intervention. The good news is that if we work around that and add a bit of proper management, autistic individuals can lead fulfilling lives. However, there’s still much work to be done in terms of raising awareness, reducing stigma, and ensuring that individuals with autism and their families receive the support they need. This month, let’s all try to do our part to spread awareness and understanding about autism.

Every little bit counts. Whether it’s sharing information, supporting organisations that advocate for autism acceptance, or simply being more inclusive and compassionate towards individuals on the spectrum, it really would go a long way. Thank you .

How’s your Sunday going ? Best wishes for the week ahead.

May it be filled with positivity, productivity, and perhaps a few moments of serendipity. Remember to take each day as it comes, embracing the journey with an open heart and a curious mind.

Wishing you a lovely week ahead, filled with laughter, love, and endless possibilities.

Love,

Konye

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SURVIV

By Dr. Kemi DaSilva-Ibru

Dear Reader, Welcome to the WARIF Survivor Stories Series, a monthly feature, where stories of survivors of rape and sexual violence are shared to motivate and encourage survivors to speak their truth without the fear of judgment or stigmatization and to educate the public on the sheer magnitude of this problem in our society. The Women at Risk International Foundation (WARIF) is a non-profit organization set up in response to the extremely high incidence of rape, sexual violence, and human trafficking of young girls and women in our society.

WARIF is tackling this issue through a holistic approach that covers health, education, and community service initiatives.

WARIF aids survivors of rape and sexual violence through the WARIF Centre - a haven where trained professionals are present full time, 6 days a week including public holidays to offer immediate medical care, forensic medical examinations, psycho-social counseling, and welfare services which include shelter, legal aid, and vocational skills training. These services are provided FREE of charge to any survivor who walks into the Centre.

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I come from a family of six children, and I hold the position of the third child. Despite my father’s lack of formal education as a poultry farmer, he prioritised our schooling, ensuring we all completed secondary education and took the West African Examinations Council (WAEC) exams. He believed that after this, we could choose between pursuing higher education or vocational training.

Upon completing my secondary education with flying colours, my father was immensely proud. When asked about my aspirations, I expressed my desire to attend a Creative Arts Institution to pursue acting. Leaving my village for Lagos, I enrolled in an acting school I discovered on Facebook, opting for the boarding facility due to the absence of relatives in the city.

In Lagos, I found solace in the guidance of Mr. Ehis, the elderly proprietor of the acting school. His journey from humble beginnings to success resonated with me, fostering a sense of belonging.

Excelling in my studies, I garnered admiration from Mr. Ehis, who encouraged me to visit his office frequently.

As the first semester ended, we were required to vacate the hostels for the break. Unable to afford the journey back to my village, I confided in Mr. Ehis, who generously offered me accommodation in his home until the start of the next semester. As a widower with a son studying abroad, he welcomed me into his household with open arms.

One day, while watching a movie in the afternoon at Mr. Ehis’s house, exhaustion washed over me, and I excused myself to rest in the bedroom. I drifted into a nap, unaware of how long I had slept, until I felt someone on top of me. Startled, I struggled as Mr. Ehis overpowered me, forcibly penetrating me despite my desperate pleas for him to stop. The pain was unbearable as he thrust forcefully, leaving me drained and traumatised. Afterwards, Mr Ehis pleaded, attributing his actions to the work of the devil, promising it would never recur. Threatening to disclose the incident to my parents, I was met with fervent pleas to keep silent. Alone in our shared room, I spent the entire day crying, consumed by fear and anguish, refusing to eat or engage with him.

The following day, I relented, opening the door to find Mr. Ehis offering a pill to prevent unwanted pregnancy. Despite his promises of remorse and extravagant gestures, including offers to facilitate

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further studies abroad, I rejected his advances. I refused to be entangled in a relationship that compromised my integrity and future aspirations, determined to preserve my dignity and await a love built on mutual respect and genuine affection in marriage.

About a week later, Mr. Ehis attended an event, and I accompanied him, riding with him and his driver. Upon returning to Mr. Ehis’s house after the event, he offered us drinks, insisting I join him despite my refusal, citing my abstinence from alcohol. Despite my reluctance, he assured me of its low alcohol content and encouraged me to drink.

As I consumed the beverage, I quickly realised its potency, feeling increasingly drowsy and disoriented. Despite my protests, Mr. Ehis persisted, urging me to consume more until I succumbed to the effects, falling into a state of weakness.

In my haze, I felt Mr. Ehis undressing me, his actions further robbing me of consciousness. I vaguely recall being laid on the couch as he assaulted me once again. Waking the next morning, I was confronted with the aftermath of the assault, experiencing soreness and noticing evidence of his violation. The trauma and pain were overwhelming as I grappled with the realisation of what had occurred.

I immediately reached for my phone, dialling my dad’s number and recounting the horrifying ordeal. He wasted no time, hastily boarding a bus to Lagos upon receiving my distressing call. Arriving in Lagos, my father swiftly made his way to the nearest police station, where he courageously reported the heinous crime.

Accompanied by police officers, my father confronted Mr. Ehis at his residence, leading to his arrest and subsequent detention.

Following this traumatic experience, my family and I were directed to the WARIF Centre for crucial medical examinations, laboratory tests, treatment, and vital psycho-social counselling—all provided free of charge.

Psycho-social counselling proved invaluable in helping me navigate the complex emotions I grappled with. Overwhelmed by self-guilt, blame, insomnia, mood swings, and anger, I found solace in the compassionate guidance of the Centre’s counsellor. Through counselling sessions, I began to shed the burden of self-blame, realising that the fault lay solely with the perpetrator. Equipped with coping mechanisms to address emotional and psychological trauma, I gradually regained a sense of control over my life.

Participating in group therapy sessions proved instrumental in my journey towards healing, as I forged meaningful connections with fellow survivors and found solace in our shared experiences. Within this supportive environment, I discovered a sense of camaraderie that helped restore my fractured self-esteem and self-perception.

Having completed my sessions at the Centre, I now approach life with renewed optimism. Inspired by my recovery, I have decided to pursue a career in psychology, aspiring to help others navigate their trauma and find healing. Meanwhile, legal proceedings against Mr. Ehis are progressing, and I remain hopeful that justice will be served in the upcoming hearings.

It has been a year and a half since the incident, and I can finally rest peacefully at night. Though I left the acting school behind, I embraced new opportunities, securing admission to study psychology at a prestigious university in Nigeria. I hope my journey serves as a testament to the resilience of survivors and the transformative power of support and determination.

I extend heartfelt gratitude to the dedicated staff and management of WARIF, particularly the Medical Team, for their unwavering commitment to aiding survivors of sexual and gender-based violence on their path to emotional healing. Your invaluable support has made a profound difference in my life, and I am truly grateful. Thank you! *Real name of the survivor changed for confidentiality

Dear survivor, please know that you are not alone and it is not your fault. Help is available.

If you have been raped or you know someone who has, please visit us at: The WARIF Centre 6, Turton Street, off Thorburn Avenue, Sabo, Yaba or call our 24hour confidential helpline on 0800-9210-0009 For questions or more information please contact: info@ warifng.org

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The Famous Igbo Apprenticeship System takes Centre Stage in

‘AFAMEFUNA: AN NWA BOI STORY’

By Bukola Amoboye

After a seemingly successful theatrical run in the cinemas, ‘AFAMEFUNA: An Nwa Boi Story’ finally landed on Netflix on March 29th and has since had everyone in a chokehold. With breathtaking performances, deliberate cinematography, and brilliant storytelling, Kayode Kasum made a movie that left an enduring impact on its audience.

SPOILER-FREE SUMMARY The plot takes us on an expedition into the famed Igbo apprenticeship system (IAS), which sees young boys from the Eastern part of Nigeria train under a successful business owner for several years before receiving “settlement” and getting launched into their own businesses. ‘AFAMEFUNA’ chronicles the journey of Afamefuna, a young boy from Eastern Nigeria, one of such boys sent to train as an apprentice under a successful businessman from his village. Years after his apprenticeship is over, he stands accused of murdering a former fellow apprentice. The past is revisited, secrets revealed, and the truth almost becomes a blur.

WHY WE LOVE IT This movie fully displays the beauty of Igbo culture: the heart and kinship behind the apprenticeship system, the beauty and rich texture of the language, the vibrant attire, behavioural patterns, values, etc.

The locations were so apt in depicting the apprentice lifestyle, bustling markets, the typical Igbo man’s house, and so much more.

The meticulous attention to detail in costuming added authenticity to the characters and made them all the more realistic.

Starring the likes of Stan Nze, Kanayo O. Kanayo, Alex Ekubo, Segun Arinze, and many more, the impeccable acting in this movie, especially by the leads, made it all the more worth it. It almost didn’t feel like a movie.

The unique complexities of each character and the abilities of the actors to depict them distinctly onscreen are quite laudable.

The expert cinematography accurately captured the movie’s highs and lows, drawing us in and keeping us engrossed the whole time.

Additionally, the screenplay deftly navigates the twists and turns of the plot, ensuring that audiences remain engaged from start to finish, special props to the screenwriters here.

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ON THE OTHER HAND While ‘AFAMEFUNA’ excels in many aspects, a few minor flaws are worth acknowledging. In certain scenes, background actors appear overly staged, detracting slightly from the authenticity of the setting. The inability of actors in certain scenes to be more creative in their bid to be passively active in a scene where they had no speaking roles was a little unsettling. While this does not significantly impact the viewing experience, it is a minor distraction in an otherwise impeccably crafted film.

OUR TAKE Nothing left to say except that “AFAMEFUNA: An Nwa Boi Story” is definitely a must watch and just might be Kayode Kasum’s best work yet.

KANAYO O KANAYO

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This And That

CHOOSING SELF-CARE AS A LIFESTYLE: MORE THAN JUST BUBBLE BATHS

- IRRESISTIBLE FASHION PAIRINGS THAT HIT THE STYLE SPOT

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mbracing self-care as not just an occasional indulgence but as a lifestyle is akin to putting on a pair of glasses that suddenly brings everything into focus. It’s a commitment to oneself, a pledge to prioritise well-being and happiness. This isn’t about spa days or indulgent treats; it’s about crafting a life that inherently respects and nurtures your well-being.

Typically, when we think of self-care, our minds often dart to images of bubble baths, scented candles, or perhaps a relaxing day at the spa. While these are delightful ways to unwind, self-care runs much deeper.

It’s about understanding and attending to your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.

At its core, self-care is an ongoing dialogue with yourself. It’s about checking in and asking, “What do I need right now to feel balanced and fulfilled?”

Sometimes, the answer might be as simple as an early night’s sleep or a nutritious meal. Other times, it might involve setting boundaries in relationships or pursuing a long-forgotten passion.

From classic combinations that never go out of style to unexpected duos that make a bold statement, there’s something magical about finding the perfect fashion pairing.

Whether you’re aiming for sophistication, edginess, or something in between, here are some irresistible fashion pairings that are sure to elevate your style game.

Mixing Metals

Forget the outdated rule about never mixing metals – in today’s fashion landscape, anything goes.

Mixing gold and silver jewellery adds a modern, eclectic touch to any outfit. Whether you’re layering necklaces or stacking bracelets, try to experiment with different metallic hues for a look that’s uniquely yours.

Sneakers and Dresses

Gone are the days when sneakers were reserved solely for the gym. Now, they’re a fashion staple that can be paired with almost anything – including dresses. Whether you’re rocking a maxi dress or a mini, adding a pair of sneakers instantly gives your look a laid-back, street-style vibe.

Implementing a Self-Care Routine

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The Self-Care Lifestyle Physical Self-Care: This is the most tangible aspect, encompassing activities that maintain or improve your physical health. It involves regular exercise, nutritious eating, adequate sleep, and seeking medical care when necessary. It’s not about punishing gym routines or fad diets; it’s about finding joy in movement and listening to what your body needs.

Emotional Self-Care: Just as we nourish our bodies, we need to nurture our emotional selves—practices like journaling, therapy, or simply allowing yourself time to experience and process your emotions. Emotional self-care is about being gentle with yourself, allowing room for all feelings, and seeking help when needed.

Mental Self-Care: Engaging in activities that stimulate and rest your

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mind falls under mental self-care.

This might mean diving into a good book, practicing meditation, or even challenging yourself with puzzles and games. It’s about keeping your mind sharp and giving it the space to rest and rejuvenate.

Spiritual Self-Care: Regardless of religious beliefs, spiritual self-care is about connecting with your inner self and finding a sense of purpose and meaning. Try meditating, spending time in nature, practising gratitude or exploring religious or philosophical texts.

Social Self-Care: Humans are social creatures, and nurturing relationships is a key aspect of self-care.

This doesn’t mean you must be the life of the party; it’s about engaging in meaningful and positive social interactions, whether deep conversations with a friend or participating in events of any kind.

Adopting a self-care lifestyle doesn’t require a radical life overhaul.

It’s about small, daily acts of kindness towards yourself. Start by identifying areas in your life where you feel neglected or unbalanced. Is it physical health, emotional well-being, or perhaps social connections?

Begin with small, manageable steps. If it’s physical health, perhaps start with a short daily walk or incorporating more fruits and vegetables into your diet. If emotional well-being is your focus, try setting aside a few minutes each day for mindfulness or journaling.

Remember, it’s not about perfection. It’s about making consistent, small choices that honour and respect your well-being.

One common misconception is that self-care is selfish. However, taking care of yourself actually equips you to be a better friend, family member, and colleague. You can’t pour from an empty cup, after all.

Another challenge is time. Many feel they’re too busy for selfcare, but it doesn’t have to be time-consuming. Even a few minutes of deep breathing or a quick walk can be immensely beneficial.

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Bold Blazers with Anything

A bold blazer can uplift any outfit. Pair it with jeans and a t-shirt for a smart casual look, or throw it over a dress for an instant touch of sophistication. Also, experiment with colours and patterns.

The blazer is the chameleon of the fashion world, adapting to any outfit with ease.

MAYA EKAH Tailored Pieces and Athleisure

Who says you have to choose between sophistication and comfort? With the rise of athleisure, it’s easier than ever to combine the two. Pair tailored pieces like blazers or trousers with sporty elements like sneakers or joggers for a modern, on-the-go look that’s both stylish and practical.

When self-care becomes a lifestyle, its benefits ripple into every area of your life. You may notice improved health, more fulfilling relationships, and a greater sense of peace and contentment.

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Statement Accessories with Minimalist Outfits

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Denim on Denim

BISOLA AIYEOLA, AKAH NNANI AND BUSOLA KOMOLAFE

Once considered a fashion faux pas, double denim has now become a go-to look for the fashion-forward. The key to pulling off this pairing is to mix different washes and textures to create visual interest. Try pairing a light wash denim shirt with dark wash jeans for a classic yet contemporary look.

ometimes, it’s the small details that make the biggest impact. A minimalist outfit serves as the perfect backdrop for statement accessories. Think a simple black dress with a bold necklace or earrings, or a basic outfit with a vibrant scarf or hat. These additions add a pop of colour and infuse personality and flair into the outfit.

TOLANI SARAH The Power of Monochrome

Monochromatic outfits are not only aesthetically pleasing but also create a visually elongated silhouette. Pairing different shades of the same color can create a look that’s both sophisticated and striking. The key to nailing this look is to play with textures and tones to add depth and interest.

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Denim and White Top

There’s something undeniably chic about the simplicity of a white top paired with blue jeans. This iconic duo has graced the fashion scene for decades, and for good reason. It’s like the comfort food of the fashion world—reliable, comforting, and always in style.

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Age Gaps in Relationships:

How much is too much?

It’s an age-old question that constantly runs through the minds of lovers in similar situations and onlookers alike: What’s the ideal age gap in a relationship?

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here’s no denying the magnetic pull this topic has.

Indeed, the age-gap relationship is a scenario we’ve all seen and will continue to see—sometimes with a plot twist of disaster, other times blossoming into something unexpectedly beautiful.

So what would you say is an ideal age gap? 5 years, ten years, 20, 30?

Now, there’s a general rule for this.

The equation that determines whether an age difference is “socially acceptable”. It states that a person should never date someone whose age is less than half their own plus seven years. This sounds really easy, but the problem with it is that where love, sex, and romance are concerned, an equation can’t always provide the answer.

Desire and attraction are not the same as basic math.

Many would argue that if all parties are of consenting age and are able to fully and actively consent, then there’s no problem with age-gap relationships of any pairing. But much like the equation, this line of thinking doesn’t take into account extreme age differences, like an adult teenager and a sexagenarian.

People are typically fascinated by age-gap relationships because it’s easy to assume that there will be exploitation and imbalances of power more frequently, with many assuming that the older party holds all the cards.

This isn’t always true because while the older person in the relationship has the power of experience, the younger person has the power of youth.

Also in a society in which we are taught how to acquire, possess, and own before we are taught to love and liberate, there are submerged dynamics of power and exploitation in many relationships, regardless of the age of the participants.

Some people don’t think agegapped relationships are a big deal.

A 2008 study found that couples only face societal disapproval when their age difference is over ten years. Even

10 EARLY SIGNS OF AUTISM EVERY PARENT SHOULD RECOGNISE

significant age gaps tend to become less taboo as people get older, and it certainly matters at what age the couple met . If you date someone you knew when they were a child and you were a full-fledged adult, that’s somewhat uncomfortable.

While people certainly have a lot to say about women dating younger men, generally, society is more tolerant of the reverse pattern of men dating younger women. However,

While people certainly have a lot to say about women dating younger men, generally, society is more tolerant of the reverse pattern of men dating younger women

they tend to label the women in those relationships “gold diggers” or “trophy wives.”

Again, what would you say is an ideal age gap?

Most relationship experts say that a relationship age gap exceeding ten years often comes with its own set of issues. Each person in the relationship might find themselves at different life stages, which could lead to conflicts or misunderstandings. That said, every rule has its exceptions, and the diversity of human experience means there are no one-sizefits-all answers. Love, as they say, knows no age.

When seeking a partner, it’s important to be clear about what we desire in a person, not just their age.

A decade might be a good rule of thumb, but why limit the heart? In the end, it’s not just about the years between you and your partner but the mutual respect, understanding, and love you share. Whether it’s a gap of ten years or more, what truly matters is the connection you build, the growth you foster together, and the mutual journey of understanding and adaptation.

While people certainly have a lot to say about women dating younger men, generally, society is more tolerant of the reverse pattern of men dating younger women.

Delayed Speech Development One of the earliest signs parents may notice is delayed speech development in their child. While each child develops at their own pace, significant delays in speech milestones such as babbling, forming words, and using phrases by 18 months could indicate a potential concern.

or avoidance behaviours.

Lack of Eye Contact Children with autism may exhibit a lack of eye contact from an early age. Eye contact is a fundamental social cue, and its absence might indicate difficulties in social interaction and communication, which are hallmark characteristics of ASD.

Difficulty with Changes in Routine Routine and predictability are essential for many individuals with autism, and they may struggle with unexpected changes in their environment or daily routine. Even minor disruptions can cause distress or anxiety.

Repetitive Behaviours Repetitive behaviours, such as handflapping, rocking back and forth, or arranging objects in a specific order, are common signs of autism. These behaviours often serve as self-soothing mechanisms or ways to cope with sensory overload.

Difficulty with Social Interaction Children with autism may struggle with social interaction and may not engage in typical back-and-forth communication or play with peers. They may have difficulty understanding social cues, taking turns, or sharing interests with others.

Sensory Sensitivities Many individuals with autism experience sensory sensitivities, such as being overly sensitive to light, sound, touch, or certain textures. They may react strongly to sensory stimuli, leading to meltdowns

As we get into the month of April, so does the opportunity to shed light on Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). With World Autism Awareness Day falling on April 2nd and the entire month dedicated to autism awareness, it’s crucial to underscore the importance of understanding and acceptance. Autism affects individuals differently, but early recognition of its signs can lead to timely intervention and support. Here are ten early signs of autism that all parents should be aware of:

Fixated Interests Children with autism often develop intense fixations on specific topics, objects, or activities. They may become deeply engrossed in a particular subject and have difficulty shifting their attention away from it, even when prompted.

Limited Social Imagination Another early sign of autism is a limited social imagination, which refers to difficulties in understanding and engaging in imaginative play or pretend scenarios.

Children with autism may prefer solitary play or engage in repetitive play activities.

Lack of Social Understanding Children with autism may have difficulty understanding the thoughts, feelings, and perspectives of others. This can impact their ability to empathize with others and navigate social situations effectively.

Delayed Motor Skills In addition to social and communication challenges, some children with autism may exhibit delayed motor skills, such as crawling, walking, or coordinating movements. These delays may be subtle but can be indicative of developmental differences.

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BIMBO OLOYEDE ICONIC BROADCASTER

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n 1975, Mrs. Oloyede took her first steps into the world of broadcasting with NBC/TV. Little did she know, she was not just stepping into a studio but into the annals of history. By 1976, as a pioneer member of NTA’s Network News team, she shattered a glass ceiling by becoming the first woman to anchor network news on Nigerian Television. This landmark achievement wasn’t just a personal triumph; it marked a pivotal moment in Nigerian media, paving the way for countless women who followed in her footsteps.

But her journey was more than being a captivating presence behind the news desk. Bimbo Oloyede evolved into a multifaceted media personality – an independent producer, presenter, moderator, and compere.

In the late 1990s, her narrative took a compelling turn. She established The Women’s Optimum Development Foundation (WODEF), an organization that championed the empowerment of women across Nigeria. Her partnership with international bodies like UNFPA, UN Women, UNIC, and USAID underscored her commitment to gender equality and development initiatives. Leading The Global Fund for Women Network in Nigeria, she used her media influence to spotlight issues that mattered, weaving the stories of the unheard and the underrepresented into the national discourse.

Beyond the newsroom, her passion for communication took another form. As the CEO and Lead Consultant at the Strictly Speaking Academy, she has spent the last 25 years moulding minds – from students to diplomats, broadcasters to corporate giants. Her expertise in elocution and public speaking has not only polished numerous voices but also empowered them to resonate with confidence and clarity.

Bimbo Oloyede’s contributions to journalism has earned her widespread recognition, including a lifetime achievement award from the Wole Soyinka Centre for Investigative Journalism in 2015.

She recently turned 70, and we had the opportunity to speak with her about her career, her thoughts on the media today, and her plans for her 70s. trajectory. At the time, I was an assistant producer in How does it feel to have been a part of the broadthe drama department, and I had no idea that managecast industry for nearly five decades? ment was planning a new nationwide news programme It has been a very interesting experience. When I or that they were looking for fresh faces and voices. started, I had no idea I would still find broadcasting My performance as an emergency artist in 1976 was exciting at this age. I just didn’t think this far forward. pivotal to shaping my path and my future in the broadHowever, I cannot imagine not being linked to this cast sector. profession in one way or another because it is always evolving. The shape of your encounter may be similar, Now, reflecting on your career, what are some of but the content is always different. For someone like the most significant changes you’ve witnessed in me, broadcasting is continuous because projects I’m broadcasting? involved with or assignments I take on usually have an My love affair with broadcastelement of broadcasting embedded in ing has been in stages and phases. or attached to them. So, the broadcast I started as an assistant producer industry is an integral part of my life. before becoming a newscaster. At the The journey has been satisfying, too, time, television was black and white. because it has offered several opporBy the time I left after four years as a tunities within different facets of broadnewscaster, we were transmitting in My love affair with casting, and these have placed me as colour. I continued independently as broadcasting has a willing stakeholder, which also keeps a producer and compere but returned been in stages and me on my toes. to TV presentation 16 years later. I phases. I started started training in presentation and So, what moment from your early as an assistant public speaking, but I realised I could career did you believe was pivotal in producer before not answer some technology-related shaping your path? becoming a questions because I was not regular Being asked to perform in front of newscaster. At the in the studio. By the time I was invited the camera when my assignment was time, television was to Anchor the News at Ten on Chanbehind the camera changed my career

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nel TV, I had to learn how to use the teleprompter and how to get the most out of 3 - 5 minute interviews. Conducting live news interviews was a new skill which I had to learn. Other than that, it has been gratifying to watch Nigerian broadcasters catch up with international stations by the way they present live reports from all over the world.

Digital tools have also revolutionised broadcasting, and COVID-19 pushed the needle further in terms of their creative use. So many of these alternatives were unthinkable in the past. Young broadcasters have also taken on larger-than-life personas. They have created names for themselves in several ways, especially using social media platforms, so whereas we used to suggest that news anchors should not become newsmakers, these days, it appears that the public responds favourably to media personalities. I understand this development, but at the risk of being labelled ‘Old School, ‘ my observation is that sometimes the lines become blurred, and there seems to be a little confusion in the delivery as well as the public response. I applaud the idea of wearing several hats, but I think it is important for presenters to ensure that the cap always fits the occasion.

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context and background to why non-native speakers of English struggle with some sounds and created exercises to help them retain the correct sounds. I also included a CD, which, at the time, was a useful addition and supporting tool to sustain newly learned sounds.

How do you feel the educational landscape in Nigeria has changed with regard to communication skills?

I’m sorry to say there has been a downturn in our communication ability. The education sector may not realise how much this issue is affecting society generally, but I produced and presented a programme called ‘Strictly Speaking with Bimbo’ in 2021/2022 and interviewed a cross-section of people about the existing standard of written and spoken English. All of them acknowledged that standards had fallen and that it was causing an adverse ripple effect on recruitment, content, creative pursuits, customer care, industry, corporate landscapes and education.

If teachers upgrade their speaking skills, students and pupils will be more fluent and capable of better self-expression. Let us accept that mobile phones have also reduced our ability to converse. Even at social functions, people would rather engage their phones than the people sitting near them. It’s a vicious circle. The young read and talk less. Some become teachers, instructors, civil servants or technocrats who are already less able to communicate. They engage with their kind, who are in the same boat.

Unless they deliberately decide to improve their communication skills, which is sometimes difficult when you are an adult, they rise with their limitations, and so the cycle continues.

Coming back to the education sector, the children are also hampered by a lack of communication with their parents, who have very little time to converse— that is if they see the need for conversation. So, who is going to teach the children?

You founded The Women’s Optimum Development Foundation (WODEF) in the late 90s. What was that about?

We registered The Women’s Optimum Development Foundation (WODEF) in January 1999 as a non-governmental, non-profit making organisation because the need to focus on gender concerns was very apparent. In the late nineties, some colleagues and I were producing and presenting a TV magazine programme for women called Crystal. We had spent some time interviewing various women on different developmental issues, and the gaps were appalling. Our programme did not attract much advertising because it seemed the issues we discussed were too serious, and advertisers seemed to have different expectations from women’s programmes, so eventually, I established WODEF, hoping that the international community would support some projects. It was envisaged that we would utilise various media platforms to create awareness and promote Looking back, change about issues affecting women in parsome things that ticular and society at large, but the irony was seemed so serious that most international funders were not keen on are perhaps not so supporting media projects. That did not deter us earth-shattering from providing information on health, education after all. These days, and other aspects of human rights and women’s I think I will be more development. We were also able to promote the adaptable and more involvement of women in politics, governance, willing to adopt new trade unionism and other democratic activities, mindsets. as well as provide practical media training for them to compete effectively at all levels.

Looking back, what project or initiative are you most proud of in your work with UN agencies and international organisations?

I’ll have to go back to 2001/2002 when we used TV and radio drama to highlight various issues like violence against women, corruption and conflict resolution. We produced 26 episodes of a TV Drama called Tightrope, which was supported by USAID OTI, The Ford Foundation and the NTA. After corruption was discovered in a big company, a woman was selected to head the organisation, and the programme shows how she fought against corrupt elements to turn the company around. 13 episodes were later re-engineered for radio and then recorded in English and Hausa. UN Women, then UNIFEM, also funded a joint TV project called Trauma, which was a collaboration between WODEF and Project Alert. It focused on common challenges associated with violence against women.

There was also an award ceremony called Rare Gems, which acknowledged the efforts made by women, men, and organisations to promote women’s development using the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs) as the benchmark. We held ten ceremonies between 2000 and 2015 and awarded 100 recipients. Unfortunately, some of them have passed on, but many have proved their value time and time again by participating in the nation’s development. Some are still active in the development space.

You are also an author. What inspired your book “STRICTLY SPEAKING: Pronunciation Made Easy”?

Strictly Speaking was published some years ago as an answer to a request expressed by clients during training sessions. Good speech and pronunciation depend on continued practice, and clients were concerned that they would forget the sounds of English after their training. I decided to write STRICTLY SPEAKING to give some

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How did you, at your peak, balance the demands of a high-profile career in media with your personal life and family?

Fortunately, I was married to a man who was a TV producer, so he understood the nature of my work, and since I was self-employed, I was also able to plan my schedule to my advantage. In addition, I did not return to active News anchoring until 22 years after I left the NTA. By that time, all my children were adults and away from home. Even when they were young, there were reliable helpers in those days, so most of the time, I was able to cope.

Do you believe it’s easier on women in media these days?

What advice would you give young women aspiring to enter the broadcast industry today?

In some ways, it is easier for women in the media these days because there is a much wider choice of platforms on which to operate. Technology has made it easy for us to choose where we want to play, and if you are creative, you can come up with many options on several platforms. Where we may still need to close the gap is in decision-making positions in newsrooms. For young women aspiring to be broadcasters, I would say that they should know the rules before breaking them. They should learn the fundamentals and become thorough professionals before they start stamping their individual styles on their delivery or adding their personal characteristics. I think they should also understand that individual preferences can still be accommodated without lowering standards. So, be professional first and then branch out.

Turning 70 is a milestone – how do you view this new chapter in your life?

I think it’s time to try new things and perhaps do some things differently, too. Looking back, some things that seemed so serious are perhaps not so earth-shattering after all. These days, I think I will be more adaptable and more willing to adopt new mindsets. There are still many things to learn, and hopefully, there is time to learn them.

Looking at your journey, what would you say to your younger self at the start of your career?

I would probably advise my younger self to be more deliberate about planning the phases of my career. I would tell myself that

goal setting has clear benefits and that although God’s grace may be sufficient, leaving things to chance may not be the best strategy.

Consequently, I would advise myself to be less interested in the moment and more concerned about the future. I would also advise myself to embrace personal growth and development; especially learning to be more aware of self and how we not only affect our internal and external environments, but are also ultimately personally responsible for both.

How do you think your work has influenced the next generation of broadcasters?

I am often approached by young broadcasters who tell me that watching our early news bulletins inspired them to want to do the same. It is satisfying to know that we have influenced them in such ways. I am also pleased when they tell me that their parents would not have supported their bid to become broadcasters or journalists without their having us as reference points. It is good to know that our generation made the right kind of impact as professionals, thereby paving the way for others to follow.

What are your plans or goals as you step into your 70s?

Just before my 70th birthday, I launched a 100 Million Naira Cancer fund to raise money for cancer research and the treatment of cancer patients in public hospitals. I hope that members of the public will join me in making this a reality so that we can buy equipment and accessories that help ease the discomfort of cancer patients. I would like the benefits to be widespread and accessible, irrespective of financial standing.

I know that there are people who have cancer but have neither access to treatment nor any hope of sustainable care. I have spoken to relevant stakeholders, oncologists, and health practitioners, and I have heard that new cases are being diagnosed at an alarming rate every clinic day in all public hospitals. I am therefore convinced that I must do something significant to make life more comfortable for cancer patients.

I am doing this because some members of my family have struggled with cancer, sometimes winning and sometimes losing, but thankfully, in those trying times, when we reached out to friends, we received the help we needed to cope with the situations, one by one.

I think it is our turn to help. I also plan to formally present a new book on public speaking and presentation. It is a natural progression from the books I have written on speech and pronunciation. This will mean I will still coach and conduct training because I imagine my book will challenge people to step up their game. My experience in public speaking and presentation spans five decades, so I have learned a thing or two in both areas.

Reflecting on your life and career, what are you most grateful for?

I am grateful that God has been with me every step of the way, and I am grateful that my mother was an awesome critic. She constantly advised and encouraged me. I am also grateful that my husband supported my ideas and that my children kept me actively engaged in the creative space. My grandchildren are also becoming interesting task masters! Their questions are unbelievable. I am really thankful and blessed that my work and performance over the years have received positive responses from members of the public and that I have been accepted into the living rooms of so many people for so many years.

Finally, what message would you like to leave for future generations aspiring to make an impact in media?

The media is a very powerful tool that is still evolving in Nigeria. I would like future generations to make more impact in the areas of development and promoting solutions. We know that people want to consume certain things, and we understand what sells, but something has to be said for what the country needs and what people need, even if they don’t know it.

Media practitioners should commit to proffering solutions and they can do this in so many ways. If the will is there, the way will be found.

I would also like to remind them that they met a living entity and they should be proud of our profession. There was something that they keyed into so they should ensure that they add value to it, even if they don’t practice for a long period of time. Those before them left a legacy, and they should do the same. The media space is bigger than the individuals who populate it, even if it is peopled by practitioners. Don’t exploit the sector for selfish gains. Leave it better than you found it so those coming after you will also find a vibrant industry.

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Sunday, April 7, 2024 Vol. 22, No. 10552

Sunday, April 7, 2024 Vol. 22, No. 10552

COOL GIRL TO ADD BRANDS TO YOUR

WARDROBE NOW

Desirée Iyama @desireeiyamaofficial

If social media has revolutionised one thing, it’s how we discover new fashion brands. Scroll through Instagram, and you’ll find a treasure trove of labels catering to the modern woman’s chic and directional tastes. From vibrant prints to timeless silhouettes, these Instagramfamous brands are worth adding to your wardrobe for their unique offerings.

Desirée Iyama, founded in 2016 by the eponymous designer, embodies sophistication, femininity, and playfulness.

With a keen eye for detail and a penchant for clean silhouettes, Desirée Iyama’s ready-to-wear clothes and bags have captivated a growing community of fashion enthusiasts. Drawing inspiration from Western influences, the brand’s designs strike the perfect balance between timeless elegance and contemporary flair, making them a wardrobe staple for the modern woman.

KADIJU @kadijuofficial Lagos-based KADIJU is on a mission to redefine sartorial beauty through maximalist creations and conscious production practices. By combining stock fabrics with recycled materials and embracing local craftsmanship, the brand not only minimises waste but also supports Africabased manufacturing and artisanal workers. Each piece exudes confidence and feel-good vibes, reflecting their commitment to mindful consumption and sustainable fashion.

Rendoll @rendollofficial Founded in June 2019 by Nigerian Fashion and Beauty Entrepreneur Reni Abina, Rendoll is more than just a clothing brand—it’s a celebration of individuality and self-expression. Rendoll pieces, featured in esteemed publications like British Vogue and Harpers Bazaar, exude confidence, femininity, and body positivity. Each garment is meticulously crafted by skilled artisans, ensuring both quality and fair wages—a testament to the brand’s commitment to ethical fashion.

Kai Collective @kaicollective London-based Kai Collective, helmed by popular fashion blogger Fisayo Longe, has taken the fashion world by storm with its vibrant prints and distinctive silhouettes. The brand’s meteoric rise, from being featured on Beyoncé’s website to gracing the cover of ELLE, is a testament to its global appeal. The Gaia dress, a sheer kaleidoscope of colours, has become an iconic piece, earning Kai Collective a loyal following among fashion-forward women, particularly young Black women, seeking attainable luxury with a touch of wow factor.

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Andrea Iyamah @andreaiyamah Since its inception in 2011, Andrea Iyamah has been synonymous with bold colours, modern femininity, and retro-inspired silhouettes. Drawing inspiration from travel and nature, each garment tells a story of adventure, authenticity, and cultural pride—an irresistible combination for the Andrea Iyamah woman who embodies spirit, mind, and style.

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From Set Design to Home Makeovers

ANDERSON EDEWOR

A Conversation with a Celebrity Interior Decorator Renowned for his spellbinding transformations and dazzling creations, Anderson is the go-to maestro for celebrities seeking to elevate their spaces. With a wizardry that turns discarded items into breathtaking decor pieces, he’s not just designing rooms; he’s crafting experiences.

As the visionary behind S.ea.consulting, his ingenious concepts come to life with him merging sustainability and style into every stitch.

Describe Yourself.

Organised chaos because I love so many things and creating balance to meet perfection Inspiration behind Unconventional Design Approach I would say it is the urge to be different and staying true to my vision as an African artist.

On Meeting Clients I have never really thought about this, but I am guessing through referrals, social media platforms or experiencing a project On Design Approach Our design approach has always been designing for less through upcycling….

On Material Sources We are proudly made in Nigeria, so we source 95% locally.

On Design Style We are eco designers, and our design style is greatly influenced by our clients’ imaginations.

Our job is to bring it to reality.

To Young Aspiring Designers My advice is to identify a strength and capitalise on it. We can’t all be contemporary artists.

Interior Design Forecast?

Afrocentric design is already back, so I see more African-inspired places with more personality.

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Dealing with Local Production?

Well, I will say the issues we face daily bring out the best in us, so I enjoy dealing with S.ea. home as a manufacturing company.

Number of Celebrity Home Projects?

Hmmm, maybe 3. I was on the Burna boys project, Timaya, Rema and a few others like Timi Dakolo’s studio, Melrose loft by iamdodos, etc

Challenges with Contractors?

Timelines...... definitely timelines, but overall, I think we are doing great …

Best Project so Far? The best is yet to come, but I enjoyed SEE Lagos, Timayas House, and the boutique hotel called S.EA.experience. The reason is that we had creative freedom to design.

REMA’S HOME

REMA’S HOME

TIMAYA’S IKOYI PENTHOUSE

STILL BROKE STORE

SEE LAGOS

MELROSE

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Sunday, April 7, 2024 Vol. 22, No. 10552

LOOKS LIKE EVERYONE IS WEARING BLACK LACE

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JENNIFER OSEH

lack lace, traditionally associated with evening wear and lingerie, is seeing a renaissance, adorning everything from street-style outfits to high-fashion gowns. The allure of black lace lies in its versatility and the balance it strikes between revealing and concealing, which adds a layer of mystique.

Celebrities and ‘It’ girls have been spotted embracing this trend, each redefining how it should be worn.

The versatility of black lace is its strongest suit. It can be styled in an array of silhouettes - a full-length gown for a formal event, a lace top paired with rugged jeans for a casual outing, or even lace-accented accessories for those who prefer subtlety.

What sets this trend apart is its ability to be both edgy and elegant. Black lace can create a romantic, vintage look reminiscent of Old Hollywood glamour or a bold, contemporary statement that challenges traditional fashion norms.

Another remarkable aspect of the black lace trend is its inclusivity. It transcends age, body type, and personal style. Whether it’s a Gen Z or a much older fashion lover in her golden years, black lace serves as a unifying fashion element that is both flattering and forgiving.

However, styling black lace requires a bit of know-how.

For a daytime look, pairing a lace top with high-waisted trousers and a blazer can tone down the risqué element.

For evening wear, it’s all about letting the lace speak for itself - minimal accessories and a pair of classic stilettos can create an effortlessly chic look.

As with any trend, there are critics. Some argue that black lace is too bold and too revealing. But fashion is about self-expression, and black lace offers a canvas for individuals to express their femininity, strength, and individuality in a sophisticated yet bold manner.

WHAT SHOWER GEL TYPE ARE YOU?

By Funke Babs Kufeji

The Moisture Maven If your skin thirsts for hydration like a plant in the Sahara, you’re a Moisture Maven. These shower gels are infused with ingredients like shea butter and almond oil, turning your shower into a luxurious spa experience. They leave your skin feeling like it’s just had a long, rejuvenating drink.

The Exfoliating Enthusiast Do you seek the thrill of transformation? Then you’re an Exfoliating Enthusiast. With components like jojoba beads or apricot kernels, these gels are superheroes in buffing away dead skin cells, revealing the fresh, glowing skin underneath.

DOVE GENTLE SCRUB SHOWER GEL

ANGEL OBASI

Ever pondered what your shower gel says about you? Much like your favourite coffee or the go-to playlist you jam to, the type of shower gel you reach for can reveal a lot about your personality. From the bubbly world of scents to textures, let’s find out what your shower gel type says about you!

ESPA BERGAMOT AND JASMINE SHOWER GEL

L’OCCITANE EN PROVENCE VERVEINE AGRUMES SHOWER GEL

The Fragrance-Free Fanatic Simplicity is your mantra if you’re a Fragrance-Free Fanatic. Ideal for sensitive skin or those who prefer a no-fuss routine, these gels are unscented, ensuring a gentle, irritation-free shower experience.

The Aromatherapy Lover Are you a soulful sniffer who loves a scent-sensational shower experience?

These gels are infused with essential oils like lavender, eucalyptus, or rosemary, turning your shower into an aromatic oasis. They’re not just about cleaning; they’re about elevating your mood, reducing stress, or invigorating your senses.

The Anti-Bacterial Warrior The Anti-Bacterial Warrior finds solace in these germ-fighting gels. Packed with ingredients like tea tree oil or triclosan, they provide a thorough cleanse, ensuring you step out feeling ultra-clean and protected.

KIM OPRAH

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LAURETTA EDOZIEN

The Fresh and Zesty Explorer If you find yourself gravitating towards shower gels infused with invigorating citrus scents like lemon, lime, or grapefruit, congratulations – you’re a Fresh and Zesty Explorer! You thrive on adventure and love the feeling of a burst of energy in the morning shower. Like the refreshing scent of your shower gel, you bring a zing to every situation, making you a joy to be around.

The Sweet and Fruity Girl If your shower shelf is filled with shower gels boasting sweet and fruity fragrances like strawberry, peach, or coconut, you’re a Sweet and Fruity Girl! You have a zest for life and love indulging in the sweeter things. Your positive outlook and infectious energy make you the life of the party, and you’re always ready to brighten someone’s day with your sunny disposition.

The Sophisticated Sensation Seeker If you prefer shower gels with complex and sophisticated fragrances like sandalwood, oud, or amber, congratulations – you’re a Sophisticated Sensation Seeker!

You have a refined taste and appreciate the finer things in life. Your attention to detail and impeccable style make you stand out in any crowd, and you’re never afraid to take risks or try something new.

MOLTON BROWN FIERY PINK PEPPER BATH AND SHOWER GEL

THISWORKS DEEP SLEEP SHOWER GEL

PROTEX-PROPOLISANTIBACTERIALSHOWER-GEL-900ML

The Seasonal Chameleon Do you switch up your shower gel depending on your mood? You might be a Seasonal Chameleon! You embrace change and love experimenting with different scents to match the vibe of the moment. Your adaptable nature and versatility make you a valuable asset in any situation, and your friends admire your ability to go with the flow.

IDIA AISIEN

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