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JANUARY 2022 // SHEVAT 5782 // ISSUE 72

THE HEALTH MAGAZINE FOR THE JEWISH FAMILY Nutrition Reinvigoration

Flavors of Fruit Enhance your Tu B’Shevat meal with Berry Blast Chicken and other fabulous dishes

Tu B'Shevat is the time to start anew

Those UTIs Keep Recurring

Laura Shammah’s guidance on dietary intervention New Column! Culinary Toolbox by Charnie Kohn Kitchen gadgets that make nutritious cooking more efficient and fun

What’s on Your Playlist?

How the right music amps a fitness workout— and gets results Inner Parenting Why is spending individual time with my child such a challenge for me?

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Turn Up the Volume

haya Tziry Retter’s engaging piece on choosing the right music for your workout brought a smile to my face. A few short years ago, when she still lived in Yerushalayim, I was a fortunate participant in her aerobics classes, which I recall as both invigorating and rigorous. A fitness instructor par excellence (who has since become a dear friend), Chaya Tziry has that knack of turning even the most arduous parts of the workout into a pleasure (Monsey readers, take note!). One of the highlights of her class, the focus of this issue’s fitness column, was her music—always kosher, always appropriate, and always the perfect beat and tempo to ease us through that particular segment. I didn’t realize then what I’ve discovered since reading the article—that each track was carefully selected to yield the right results, with a calculated system in mind. But I do remember the energy in the room as we ladies did our jumping jacks and high kicks to the beat of “Aish” (Yaakov Schwekey). That energy! (As we kept moving along at full speed, my mind was sprinting as well. Then in the process of co-authoring a book, with my thoughts in motion and inspired by the poignant lyrics, an idea for a title struck me. And so, a publication that now graces bookshelves in Judaica stores and homes the world over actually boasts a title that was conceived at that exercise class. Chaya Tziry’s piece brought memories of not only her workouts, but also of that moment when inspiration hit, and I found it interesting to observe how the idea evolved into a reality.)

f course, the power of music extends exponentially further than spurring on movement. (As a letter writer in this issue’s Springboard notes, it can do

wonders in sparking up the morning routine, especially on cold, dreary days. Tried and true!) In addition to its emotional benefits, much has already been said about music’s unique ability to penetrate the soul and impact our spiritual essence. The sounds and lyrics we listen to, especially on repeat, seep into our being—which is why Shira Savit’s piece in this issue’s Wellbeing is such an imperative read. Using the playlist analogy, Shira wisely conveys how the inner voices we choose to listen to impact our performance and wellbeing. Especially when we feel we’ve failed, she encourages turning up the volume of our “Self-Care Voice,” carefully selecting the kind of inner messages that will help us move forward and not keep us stuck in a self-critical cycle that breeds more failure and more harm. It’s all about the music.

s is conveyed in Perek Shirah, even trees and plants sing their unique shirah to Hakadosh Baruch Hu, praising Him for His wonders. Tu B’Shevat, when we gather around to enjoy the magnificent bounty Hashem showers us with, appreciating not only the beauty but also the life-giving, healing properties His fruits provide, is one great opportunity to express that gratitude. It’s our chance to sing our own song of praise for this particular blessing—and the many others that fill our lives. As we know, singing His praises and living in thanking mode helps facilitate more and more berachah in our lives. May all of us be blessed with many, many reasons to keep singing,

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CONTENTS

JANUARY 2022 SHEVAT 5782 ISSUE 72

Springboard

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Spiritual Eating

Torah Wellspring

Health Updates

WELL INFORMED

LIVING WELL

FYI

Community

Fitness

Feature

Cup of Tea

The Functional Dietitian

Compass

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Emotional Eating

Parenting

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82 THE BIG, BAD, SCARY APPLE By Shiffy Friedman A Tu B’Shevat spread featuring an array of breathtaking colors and textures arouses awe and pleasure for many. But for others, even nutrient-dense foods like fruits and vegetables can activate an irrational fear, often brought on by erroneous beliefs about their eating habits, appearance, and self-perception. How a “healthy” lifestyle may actually be unhealthy to your wellbeing.

ASK THE DIETITIAN By Laura Shammah, MS, RDN I’ve tried many medications and nutritional supplements, but to no avail. Recently, my friend suggested I abstain from wheat and sugar, as these are considered culprits for recurring UTIs. I’m wondering what your take is on such a diet.

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FLAVORED WITH FRUIT By Yossi & Malky Levine How would you like to try a unique dinner dish in honor of Tu B’Shevat? Since Tu B’Shevat is all about the renewal of the trees and all things growing, we decided to experiment cooking with fruit in savory dishes.

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SPRINGBOARD

On More Hacks, Sleep, Drinking Habits, and More

The Most Important Tip Omitted Issue #71: Wellbeing Feature

The article on wellbeing hacks included many ideas for emotional quick fixes, but it left out the really potent, long-lasting tips, like strengthening one’s bitachon, for example, by listening to a short daily dose of emunah, such as by Rabbi David Ashear. (Although learning Shaar HaBitachon is the most potent de-stressor, I understand that it doesn’t work for every woman.) And, of course destressing through tefillah! Take some time to pour your 14

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heart out to Hashem, even in your own words. It will do wonders. In times of stress, it’s a great opportunity to connect to Hashem in a very deep way. Thank you in advance, M. Gottdenger

On Sleep Deprivation I must express my hakaras hatov to you for this fantastic magazine. I

have been an eager reader of your publication for about two years. I am very impressed with the information you give over to the frum mothers of our community—medical advice, mental health, parenting, and validation. I would like to get the recommended amount of sleep. However, two of my children, ages six and three, are frequently disturbing my night sleep, mostly from coming into my bed at night. I’ve tried charts, locking the door (they just bang), and bringing them back to their beds, etc. I am asking for two pieces of advice: How do I get my kids to stay in their beds?

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Question: Thanks for an enjoyable and informative magazine. You’ve covered the benefits of Bach remedies several times, and I’d like to know where they are available with a reliable hechsher.

Answer: It’s great that you’re inquiring about Bach remedies; I believe you’ll be amazed at their healing powers. The brand of Bach remedies called Healing Flowers is produced in Eretz Yisrael, with the hechsher of the Badatz Eidah Hachareidis. I’m not aware of all the locations where they’re sold, but health food stores in the tristate certainly carry this brand. To your health, Miriam Schweid, health consultant and kinesiologist

How do I make up for the lack of straight undisturbed sleep? (As much as I try to nap whenever I have a free moment, I do manage to squeeze in time to read Wellspring!) Thank you, Sara L. Chaya Shifra Sadoff, Sleep and Motherhood Coach, responds: Kudos for the effort you’ve put into trying to resolve your struggles around your children’s and your own sleep. You ask excellent questions, and the answers are long and nuanced, but I’ll try to cover as much as I can in this space. First, I’d recommend trying to figure out what your children are gaining from waking up at night. Often, kids who disturb at night may be seeking attention (some concentrated mommy time) or control (perhaps they’re feeling unsettled or lacking in 16

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autonomy). Find out what your child is seeking and try to give it to them during the day. Next, formulate clear expectations and consider what actions you might be repeating that unintentionally convey something else (such as allowing one more story or drink). Get your kids involved and let them own the process of change by talking about a bedtime routine, drawing pictures, and discussing the pros; share stories of kids like them who managed to stay in their beds the whole night. Start with small goals, keeping expectations low, and do give small, appropriate, and immediate rewards and consequences — both the positive and negative. Avoid unintentionally rewarding a behavior you want to change, such as cuddling or schmoozing with a child who comes out of bed. Also, ensure healthy sleep hygiene: a dark, cool, quiet room; a consistent,

age-appropriate bedtime routine; and appropriate exercise, sunlight exposure, and healthful foods during the day. In the meantime, there are a few things you can do to help you make up for your own interrupted sleep. First, a little acceptance goes a long way. As uncomfortable as sleep deprivation is, allow yourself to know that you still feel tired and to be okay with the discomfort. Make the most of your sleeping hours: If you tend to mouth-breathe at night, learn how to breathe through your nose, which is superior to mouth breathing and will help you sleep better. Watch your caffeine intake and be sure to limit it in the afternoon hours; similarly, avoid blue light and screen use for one to two hours before bed for a more restful sleep. Try adding sleep time during the day, either by going to sleep earlier or catching a nap. Even a few minutes of low-stimulation time with your eyes closed can give you a boost to get you through the next few hours. Hatzlachah!

These Are My Hacks Issue #71: Cover Feature

What a fabulous job you did with the hacks last month! I loved the ones you featured in the main articles, as well as the ideas that were scattered in the other pages. In addition to the rich content, I appreciate the creative flair and fun feel that your pages exhibit. Here are some of my best hacks for healthy living, especially in regard to raising healthier kids. First, I often prepare a ketchup-mayo dip along with cut-up veggies (mainly pepper strips) for when the kids come home from school. I know ketchup has

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The Doctor Is In

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Question: My neighbor was unfortunately recently diagnosed with the machalah of the large intestine. No one else in her family has this disease, and I’m worried because both she and I are 46 years old, and I always thought this disease only affected older individuals or those who had a family history. Is there anything I can do to find out if I am at risk?

Answer: You ask an excellent question. Cancer of the large intestine, also known as colon and rectal cancer, is the third most common type of cancer among both men and women in the United States. Its incidence is on the rise in younger people. Understanding your “modifiable” risk factors and your “non-modifiable” risk factors can help you gauge your risk.

Certain inherited syndromes, such as Lynch syndrome or familial adenomatous polyposis. (If there are multiple other members of your family who have cancers, this is a possibility.) A personal history of having already had a colon or rectal cancer in the past or having had certain types of colon polyps on a previous colonoscopy. A personal history of inflammatory bowel disease, such as ulcerative colitis or Crohn’s disease. Finally, Ashkenazi Jews have one of the highest colorectal cancer risks of any ethnic group in the world.

Modifiable risk factors Being overweight Not being physically active Smoking Moderate-to-heavy alcohol use (more than two drinks a day for men, more than one drink a day for women) A diet high in red and processed meats Non-modifiable risk factors Advancing age, especially over age 50 First-degree relatives with colorectal cancer

Talk to your doctor about screening. Colorectal cancer can often be found early on through screening, when the chance of cure is highest. The latest guidelines recommend starting screening for average-risk individuals at age 45. The gold standard is colonoscopy. Alternatives include flexible sigmoidoscopy with fecal occult blood testing, or stool DNA testing. Keep in mind, if anything is abnormal on one of the alternative screening options, a colonoscopy will need to be performed. Perel A. Baral, DO General Surgeon JOWMA, Preventative Health Committee

its downsides, but it’s incredible to watch how many more veggies the kids consume this way, and for me that’s a win. For getting the kids to fall asleep more easily, reading a short book together does wonders in our house. When read in a soothing, soft voice, My Mommy Loves Me, authored by your very own incredible editor, puts kids into the kind of calm mode that induces sleep, with a delicious, cozy feeling to boot. The text and images, especially toward the end, lend 18

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My toddler son is having trouble with the dietary switch to cow’s milk. Does this mean he’s lactose intolerant?

Answer: Your son is experiencing a very common issue. First, the transition to milk can be rough. Some kids can switch off mother’s milk or formula, right onto whole milk with no concerns. For many others, the transition comes with bloating, gas, and diarrhea or constipation. You can ease the stress by lengthening the transition process: mix three parts of their usual liquid nutrition with one part milk, then try half milk and half previous liquid nutrition, and finally, all milk. While lactose intolerance affects up to 85 percent of the world population, it’s much more common for young kids to have a milk protein allergy, which often resolves quickly. When you do choose cow’s milk, choose whole milk. If you choose a plant-based milk, my top recommendations are, in this order, pea milk (such as Ripple), calcium-fortified soy milk, or calcium-fortified almond milk. There are other plant-based milks that may also meet your needs. Health & happiness, Yaffi Lvova, RDN

Yaffi Lvova, RDN, is a dietitian and food enjoyment activist who encourages positive nutrition through writing, speaking, and Nap Time Nutrition, her video blog and podcast. Find out more at babybloomnutrition.com.

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Pediatric Nutrition

themselves toward this goal. To help kids wake up and enable a smoother morning routine (so vital for everyone’s wellbeing), I turn on music when they wake up. It’s amazing to watch how it puts everyone (including myself) into a moving mode. And last but not least, charts, charts, charts. Incentives (in moderation) really help the kids get places. And the more positive the atmosphere is in the home, the more physical and emotional health becomes possible, with the help of Hashem. Thanks again, Shaindy G. Monsey, New York

My Cup of Tea Issue #70: Cup of Tea

The Kislev issue was the first issue of Wellspring I ever purchased and I was quite impressed—impressed enough that I just had to let you know. What caught my eye, initiating the purchase, was the topic “How to Be a Lamp Lighter.” I was thrilled to find your magazine to be full of gems. I, for one, was not surprised by the findings of sleep deprivation as sleep is more necessary than food. What does surprise me is how little others, including many healthcare providers, seem to understand this, and was gratified that your audience is informed. However, I was most delighted to find a kindred spirit in Avigail Gimpel and her approach to ADHD. Avigail understands the importance of asking “why?”—my absolute favorite question! She also understands that there are many contributing factors that cause the observable issue, which is diagnostic gold. As a developmental audiologist who specializes in catching otitis media (middle ear fluid), I wish parents understood what should be so obvious— that something is causing the fluid, and that that something is immune/gut-brain related 90 percent of the time. The gut-brain connection is more widely researched—and therefore accepted—in relation to ASD, but it should be a consideration with any developmental or health issue. Sadly the “common

cold” is often dismissed for being common, as Avigail noted. Worse, middle ear fluid is often unidentified as parents rely on a child crying in pain as the red flag. So not only does the child have an ongoing health issue, but they are also suffering sensory deprivation on top of that.

become when they’re fed a diet of processed, artificial junk food laden with food coloring and the likes. It’s incredible to observe how children calm down instantly when they’re fed nutritious, wholesome foods and the junk is removed from their diet.

I can relate to Avigail’s frustration when people seek her advice and then reject it. This was what made me interested in the topic that initially caught my attention.

Many thanks for a great publication,

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The main concern with drinking water is regarding large meals, but ideally one should set aside time between meals to drink water without any food. If you drink a couple of glasses of water when

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I was very impressed to read about Avigail Gimpel’s great work regarding ADHD. I believe the article should be sent to all schools and yeshivos, enlightening educators and mechanchim who really want to do their best to help their students but are often highly uninformed, especially about the dangers of medication. However, there was one factor that exacerbates ADHD symptoms, which Avigail failed to mention in her interview, and I believe it’s vital for parents and educators to have more awareness about it. From my decades of experience in working with ADHD children in the resource room, I’ve realized how profoundly diet impacts behavior. In addition to taking note of how most children who are put on medication go downhill and how it literally ruins their lives in the long term, I’ve seen time and again how agitated and restless children

When to Drink Issue #71: Sample

I find that I drink much less water than I used to as I don’t have enough time to drink my day’s fill. Thank you, C. S.

Thanks for an exceptional magazine. While I don’t consider myself a health nut, I enjoy reading about wellness and wellbeing and your magazine provides a lot of food for thought. I especially enjoy the roundtable discussions facilitated by Shiffy Friedman as they gives a lot of perspective from different age groups and types on real-life topics. I actually saved the Yom Tov issue with the marriage tips so I can review them every so often… Regarding drinking water according to the Rambam’s guidelines, please advise if this refers to only full meals, or even snacks (like a fruit, yogurt, or cake).

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Libby Silberman’s lab column is always a fun and fascinating read. I was especially intrigued last month regarding drinking at the right times. I’d love to follow it as it feels right and makes so much sense. I do have some questions. What is the verdict on coffee? I really like to have something with it (such as chocolate or cake) and I’m not ready to give it up. And what about tea or other beverages? Do they have to be drunk on their own at the correct intervals? Thanks and much hatzlachah,

Only Water or All Beverages?

L. S.

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Binyamin Katz, trial participant, responds:

Thanks for your beautiful magazine! I enjoy reading it cover to cover.

As I understand from the Rambam’s teachings and Rabbi Ishayek’s book,

diluted wine, milk, yogurt, or soup are considered partial foods and can be consumed during a meal. Coffee, tea, or any other beverages are considered liquids and should be served 20 minutes before eating or only in small quantities during a meal. While a meal is generally understood to be more than just chocolate or cake, I believe the same problems arise when digesting any foods. Water dilutes the saliva and stomach acids and prevents efficient digestion. So the detrimental effect will be less significant— but detrimental nonetheless. And while it may sound difficult or even impossible to eat without drinking or to have a piece of cake without coffee, if you try it out for a few weeks, it will start to feel natural, and the urge will disappear.

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you wake up, a couple in between meals, and then a couple more in the evening, you’ll most likely not be thirsty while you’re eating and this will satisfy your daily needs. Water can sometimes also satisfy those snack cravings so you might not even need to snack if you opt for water instead. Like most things, if you stick to a daily plan for a couple of weeks, it is habit-forming and becomes easy to maintain.

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SPIRITUAL EATING By Rabbi Eli Glaser, CNWC, CWMS

Don’t Confuse the Means for the End

In Ohr Gedalyahu, Rav Gedalya Schorr zt”l offers a fundamental message regarding the month of Shevat, specifically, Tu B'Shevat: not to mistake the means for the ends. As we discussed previously, Hashem created human desires to bring us to engage in necessary actions.

For example, the desire for food leads us to eat, which is the essential avodah every person needs to perform in order to survive. As Rav Schorr explains the Rambam in Hilchos De’os: “If man eats [to nourish his body] in order to serve Hashem, then his eating is [itself considered] avodas Hashem.” However, if we mistake the means (desire to eat) for the ends (using food as nourishment for our bodies), we end up engaging in indulgence instead of directing our desire toward the purpose for which it was given. We misuse and abuse the precious gift Hashem bestowed upon us, showing ingratitude to our Creator as well as harming the body He granted us for use during our time in this world. This is one of the basic battles the yetzer hara places before us every day—and a primary lesson of Tu B'Shevat. We are to appreciate, enjoy, and marvel at the wonderful fruits Hashem provides every year. We should value the sweetness, texture, and incredible wisdom in even a simple date. But we should also see the fruits for their true purpose: a component in the fuel that energizes our bodies and to therefore be eaten in moderation and in control. If we get carried away with the taste itself, eating with abandon, we lose sight of the purpose, mistaking the means for the ends. This conflict exists in many aspects of our lives besides for food, and we must try to continually maintain the correct focus.

For example, suppose a Jew who doesn’t know much about halachah wants to show off his lavish new home. He buys a most expensive mezuzah to put on his front door in time for the extravagant party for his friends. With almost a hundred people fitting into his living room, he unveils the humongous mezuzah affixed to his front door. Eyes widen and mouths drop at the sight of such a piece of artwork—until one person takes a closer look and notices that there is no parchment inside. He asks the homeowner, “What happened? Wasn’t there a piece of klaf with some writing on inside it when you bought it?” “Sure there was,” the homeowner answers. “But I didn’t need those instructions anyway, so I discarded it.” Upon realizing what he’s done, his previous desire to show off his wealth is overpowered by his embarrassment. The founder of Yeshivas Aish HaTorah, Rav Noach Weinberg zt”l, whose yahrzeit is on 11 Shevat, emphasized this point, as seen in Ahavas Olam, the brachah before Krias Shema. We ask Hashem to instill in our hearts the ability to understand, learn, teach, guard, perform, and fulfill all the mitzvos. We ask that our eyes should see clearly and that our hearts should be attached to His commandments and be unified to love and fear Him. For what purpose? So that we should not feel inner shame for all eternity—by mistaking the means for the end.

Rabbi Eli Glaser is the founder and Director of Soveya. He is certified as a Nutrition/Wellness Consultant and Weight Management Specialist, with 25 years of coaching and counseling experience, and is maintaining a 130-pound weight loss for more than 16 years. Soveya has offices in Lakewood and Brooklyn, and works with clients via phone and Skype around the world. For more information or to make an appointment, contact Soveya at 732-578-8800, info@soveya.com, or www.soveya.com.

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TORAH WELLSPRING By Rabbi Ezra Friedman

Branch Out Living with a giving mindset facilitates joy, connection, and fulfillment

Tu B’Shevat, when we celebrate the renewal of the trees, is the time to explore the connection between them and us, people. In Devarim (20:19), the Torah teaches, “For man is like a tree in the field.” While the comparison between a human being and a tree can be understood in many ways, let’s explore one connection that holds the key to joy and fulfillment. 26

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Hakadosh Baruch Hu created this world miretzono leheitiv, from His desire to facilitate good. As a merciful Creator, He fashioned the briah as a means through which to give. While the ultimate good that we will eventually receive is in the World to Come, He showers us with much tov in this world, as well. Since Hakadosh Baruch Hu, the embodiment of chessed, created us in His image, each of us possesses this worthy attribute. We are all driven by the koach of giving, of

being mashpiah for others, of being there for them. The part in us that constantly desires to give to others, known in the sefarim as the koach hanesinah, emanates directly from our chelek Eloka mima’al, perpetuating the giving that Hakadosh Baruch Hu engages in at all times. If we look at life from this perspective, we notice how Hashem orchestrates constant, countless opportunities for us to exercise giving. As social creatures, being surrounded by people, especially those more needy than us, enables us be on the giving end. In marriage and parenting, the opportunities abound, as well. Through the many relationships we maintain throughout life, we are offered considerable chances to keep giving. In childhood, of course, a child in a healthy environment is constantly on the receiving end, his physical and emotional needs provided to him by his loving parents. However, the underlying purpose for all that receiving is for the child to grasp how to eventually give to others, to grow up and emulate the ways of Hashem, the embodiment of giving. His Kind of Giving Since Hashem is the ultimate Provider, his concern is entirely focused on the receiving party. The more I give in this fashion, the more alike I am to Him. The less my goal is to receive something in return—be it recognition, control, love, etc.—the closer I come to my tachlis in this world, operating from the Divine place inside of me. In a world where narcissism has probably reached its climax, this

kind of giving is becoming more and more extinct. The masses are, for the most part, supremely self-centered, stepping on anyone who gets in their way of obtaining or acquiring their goal. People engage in self-aggrandizement and grooming their ego, operating under the faulty assumption that this is how they’ll aquire more happiness. But as ironic as it sounds, the more one engages in giving, the more happiness and meaning he enjoys. When I’m busy focusing only on myself, I end up feeling a frightening sense of aloneness, of loneliness, a disconnect from the rest of the world. Especially as Yidden, sharing a collective neshamah with the entire nation, we have an incredible need to feel connected to others. We want to feel companionship, love, camaraderie. The more we engage in giving with an increased focus on the receiver and a decreased focus on what we’ll receive in return, the more satisfying and beautiful our life becomes—in this world and the Next. One of the people with the longest lifespan in recorded history, who recently died, was asked how he merited such rare longevity. He answered, “Because I lived a life of loving and giving to others. This has been the essence of my life.” When we switch our mindset from “What can I get from others?” to “What can I give to others?” we immediately experience an improvement in how we feel. Giving with the other in mind instantly fills us with a sense of meaning and connection. It’s always a good idea to give, but the kind of giving that really facilitates these positive effects are when we’re fully focused on the receiving

party. Those whose needs weren’t fully provided—who weren’t on the receiving end of true giving early in life— may have a harder time with this type of giving, but it’s certainly an endeavor worth working on. As elementary as it sounds, so much depression, loneliness, and anxiety can be resolved when our focus shifts from receiving to giving. Where Giving Begins Becoming focused on giving to others—be it a kind word, a smile, or the help they need—does not imply that we deprive ourselves of our own needs. On the contrary, citing the words of Mishlei, Rav Eliyahu Dessler zt”l teaches that “gomeil nafshi ish chessed,” one who gives to himself is the quintessential man of chessed. While this may seem counter to our preconceived understanding of giving, it is actually the only way to become a true giver. We practice becoming more giving by learning to give to ourselves. What does that mean? There’s a significant disparity between giving to ourselves and taking from others. To be self-centered, to see only ourselves, to draw from others constantly—that’s not gomeil nafsho ish chessed. Giving to myself is being kind to myself—seeing myself in a positive regard, tending to my needs, in order to feel full so I can give to others. There’s an age-old dispute between mainstream thought, specifically the psychology-based perspective, and Torah hashkafah questioning the concept of real giving. Can giving be entirely altruistic or is there always an underlying motive? Their argument is that a motive is

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If we look at life from this perspective, we always present, even when it’s not apparent. Even in an extreme example where an individual risks his life to jump into ongoing traffic in order to save the life of a child, they posit that beneath this benevolent deed lies the adult’s understanding that he won’t be able to live with himself knowing that he didn’t do his all to save the child. Even in such a scenario of sacrifice, they point toward the ulterior motive that centers on the self, not the other. This is in extreme contrast to our hashkafah, which posits that an individual does have the potential, through self-development, to reach a place of true giving.

notice how Hashem orchestrates constant, countless opportunities for us to exercise giving.

While this appears to be a disparity of opinion between us and them, there is essentially no argument here. A creature that’s composed strictly of chomer, Earthly substances, only wishes to receive. With a focus on the self, he has no capacity to truly give. This is our ego, whose nature is to constantly want to get. Even when the ego gives, it’s because he wants to receive something in return. But we Yidden are more than our ego. Our most powerful component is our chelek Eloka mima’al, whose entire essence is of giving—the direct opposite of the ego. This is the element in us that is a part of Hashem, who’s the Tachlis hashleimus, perfectly whole, and therefore there’s nothing He needs from anyone; He only wants to give. This is the element that the mainstream world simply cannot grasp. Thus, this argument is not an argument at all. Perhaps it’s true that our animalistic self always wants something in return, but when we operate from our chelek Eloka mima’al, we tap into the kochos that are exclusive to our 28

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Maker. We can start exercising this “giving muscle” by engaging in small deeds of kindness without expecting anything in return, such as doing it without anyone else’s knowledge, thereby climbing the ranks toward true giving. To give without expecting anything in return doesn’t mean that we can’t enjoy the act of giving. It doesn’t mean we can’t engage in

kindnesses that are pleasurable for us. On the contrary, when we give right this becomes one of our greatest pleasures in life, and we find ourselves attracted to giving because the joy is so great. True pleasure in giving comes not from me seeing an opportunity to give as an opportunity to receive a good feeling; it emanates from me seeing someone whose day/life I

can now improve/brighten and from the act of giving I derive such pleasure. I’m deriving pleasure because I’m fulfilling my tachlis of becoming more and more like the One who created me, becoming more and more connected to the place in me that’s eternal.

In the passage where the Torah references our connection to the trees, the Yidden were issued a warning not to cut off fruit-giving trees “because man is like a tree in the field.” Just like a tree who stands in the field and keeps giving fruit, we are giving beings. More fruits and more

fruits “lehanos bahem bnei adam,” providing more and more joy for others. When we distance ourselves from the narcissistic mindset of the times, focusing intently on “How can I become more of a giver?” we will start reaping the beautiful fruits that true giving provides.

Rabbi Ezra Friedman welcomes questions and comments on this column. Please write to rabbiefriedman@wellspringmagazine.com.

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UPDATES By Esther Retek

A Lifetime of Education The benefits of schooling extend into old age While it’s always a good time to receive a boost of motivation regarding school and continued education and the toil it may entail, there’s no better time than now—at the crux of the long winter stretch. So here goes: Initial findings of a study published in NeuroImage:Clinical reveal powerful, long-term benefits of education. Although most people are eager to pursue a good education so they can embark on a successful career and learn life skills, the effects of good education and extend all the way into old age. According to the team of researchers of the University Research Priority Program “Dynamics of Healthy Aging” led by Lutz Jäncke, certain degenerative processes are greatly reduced in the brains of educated individuals. Their brains are better able to compensate age-related cognitive and neural limitations. To come to this conclusion, the researchers followed more than 200 senior citizens for over seven years. Study participants were examined using magnetic resonance 30

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imaging at regular intervals. Based on complex statistical analyses, the researchers were able to show that academic education had a positive effect on age-related brain degeneration. The study revealed that over the course of seven years, older people with an academic background showed a significantly lower increase in typical signs of brain degeneration. “In addition, academics also processed information faster and more accurately— for example, when matching letters, numbers of patterns. The decline in their mental processing performance was lower overall,” summarizes study author, Isabel Hotz. With the connection so clearly established, it becomes incumbent upon us to continue our learning journey so that we can age in good health, with the help of Hashem, and maintain keen cognitive skills. By engaging in and facilitating Torah learning throughout our lifetimes, we can do our part to prevent not only spiritual stagnation, but mental decline as well.

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