Culture

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Grandma’s Bingo is back at Silver Moon Brewing! We host our famous bingo event every Sun, from 10am–1pm for good times and a chance to win some cold hard cash! 24 NW Greenwood Ave., Bend. Free. Senior Day Free admission to all visitors age 65 or older. March 16, 10am-4pm. High Desert Museum, 59800 S. Highway 97, Bend.

VOLUNTEER

16th Annual Community Baby Shower

SI Bend’s two-month-long baby shower is back! Mon-Sun, 7am-7pm. Through March 31. Jake’s Diner, 2210 NE Hwy 20, Bend. Free.

Humane Society Thrift Store - Vol-

unteers Needed For information contact: rebecca@hsco.org. Ongoing. Humane Society Thrift Shop, 61220 S. Highway 97, Bend. Contact: 541-241-3761. rebecca@hsco.org. Volunteer Here! Gratifying opportunity available! all aspects of daily horse care and barn maintenance for Mustangs to the Rescue. MonSun. Mustangs to the Rescue, 21670 McGilvray Road, Bend. Contact: 541-330-8943. volunteer@ mustangstotherescue.org. Free. Volunteer with Salvation Army The

Salvation Army has a wide variety of volunteer opportunities for almost every age. Ongoing. Contact: 541-389-8888. Volunteers Needed! Bird friendly or just curious? Volunteers are needed to help socialize and play with birds to help them to become more adoptable and possibly make some new (feathered) friends! Please email or call for hours and location, by appointment only. First Mon-Sun of every month, 10am-4pm. Second Chance Bird Rescue, 19084 Dayton Rd, Bend. Contact: 916956-2153. scbrwestcoastdiv.org. Free.

GROUPS & MEETUPS

A Course in Miracles This is a course in mind training. The training is to see from the eyes of love instead of fear. You will need the complete and annotated addition, but the cost is free for the class. The class is online. Sat, 9:30am. Contact: 760-208-9097. lmhauge4@ gmail.com. Free. Become a Better Public Speaker! Do

you struggle with public speaking? You’re not alone! Come visit Bend Toastmasters Club and learn how to overcome your public speaking fears. Wed, Noon-1pm. Contact: 503-501-6031. bend.toastmasters.club@gmail.com. Free.

Bend Parkinson’s Support Group

Monthly Meeting Parkinson’s Support Group Meetings third Wed, of every month at the Best Western Premier Bend. Patients and caregivers are welcome to join us. These meetings serve as a resource for educational and emotional support. Focusing on providing local services, bridging the gap between medical care and wellness. Fun and engaging! 2-3:30pm. Best Western Premier, 1082 SW Yates Drive, Bend. Contact: 541-668-6599. Carol@parkinsonsresources.com. Free.

Board Games Hosted by The Base Fri,

4-5:30pm. The Base at Franklin, 5 NW Franklin Avenue, Bend. Contact: 541-610-8826. hello@ baseatfranklin.com. Free.

ConnectW March Meeting Five steps to

giving and receiving higher quality referrals. March 16, 7-8pm. Embody, 5-week series Revive your

aliveness by inviting your body to remember the ancient joy and innocent playfulness of embodiment in a five week women’s circle. Wed, 5:307pm. Through April 7. Contact: 541-948-7015. soulinmotionbend@gmail.com. $150.

Game Night Let’s Play Left Center

Right Happy hour $4 Beer & Wine Wednesdays, 5-7pm. Zero Latency Bend, 1900 NE 3rd St STE 104, Bend. Contact: 541-617-0688. Zerolatencybend.com. Marijuana Anonymous MA is a fellowship of people who share our experience, strength and hope with each other to solve our common problem of marijuana addiction. Trinity Episcopal Church, 469 Northwest Wall Street, Bend. Contact: 541-633-6025. bendbeginningsma@gmail. com. Neuroqueer Meetup A safe place for neurodivergent, queer individuals to exchange with the goal of promoting exploration and sharing of experiences, as well as empowerment and connection to community. Every other Wed, 6-7:30pm. The Base at Franklin, 5 NW Franklin Avenue, Bend. Contact: 541-610-8826. hello@ baseatfranklin.com. Free.

Non-specific grief support group Small

support group (4-5 people) for those who need a safe space to share a grief difficult to share with one’s friend and family, longterm grief for a death, loss of relationship, loss from suicide, loss of health, loss of function, etc. Sun, 5-6pm. Free.

FAMILY & KIDS

Amelia’s World Puppet Show Join Amelia

Airheart Monkey & Miss Hannah for a fun & uplifting interactive zoom puppet show! All ages welcome, 3 & under please be accompanied by a sibling or parent/caregiver to assist with interaction. Message ACORN School of Art & Nature on Facebook to request the zoom link. Fri, 4-4:15pm. Contact: https://m.facebook.com/ acornartandnature/. Free. Baby Ninja Classes Cuties plus adults will bond and have a blast exploring soft obstacle ninja warrior courses, singing songs with hand gestures and movements, parachute play and bubbles! Wed, 9-9:45am. Through May 11. Free Spirit Yoga + Fitness + Play, 320 SW Powerhouse Drive, Suite 150, Bend. Contact: 541-241-3919. info@freespiritbend.com. $105. Birthday Parties $285 reservation fee for Kids Birthday Parties this includes: 12 free Kids Open Play passes (you may invite up to 18 kids, if more than 12 kids come, then it’s $10 per child) and 2 hour access to the gym during Kids Open Play and private party room Saturdays-Sundays, 12:30-2:30pm. Free Spirit Yoga + Fitness + Play, 320 SW Powerhouse Drive, Suite 150, Bend. Contact: 541-241-3919. info@freespiritbend.com. $285.

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Experience a wonderfully wizardry cooking class on March 14 at 6pm via Kindred Creative Kitchen.

Free teen volunteer event Mon, March 14,

5pm. BendTECH, 1001 SW Emkay Dr, Bend. Contact: 541-382-4682. info@campfireco.org. Free.

Friday Night Lights @ Hoodoo Ski

Area Come watch professional riders, listen to live music, and enjoy a warm bonfire with us @ Hoodoo Ski Area, Oregon’s night ride destination. Fri, 9am-9pm. Through March 25. Hoodoo Ski Area, 27400 Big Lake Road, Sisters. Contact: 541-822-3799. jenniferbreakingfree@gmail.com. Lift tickets vary.

Hoodoo Ski Area - Blow Off Work

Wednesdays Who needs work when you could be flying down a winter wonderland at Hoodoo Ski Area? Wed, 9am-9pm. Through March 30. Hoodoo Ski Area, 27400 Big Lake Road, Sisters. Contact: 541-822-3799. jenniferbreakingfree@ gmail.com. Lift tickets vary. How to Train Your Dragon March 11, 6pm.

Tower Theatre - Bend, 835 NW Wall Street, Bend. Free.

Intro to Lego Robotics Build a LEGO robot

and program it to perform exciting missions. Youth will learn how to create robots that can perform various tasks by using motors and sensors and will build programs that allow them to overcome challenges. Thu, March 10, 5-7pm and Thu, March 17, 5-7pm. Samara Learning Center, 230 NE Ninth St., Bend. Contact: info@campfireco.org. $100. Kids Open Play Our Kids Ninja Warrior gym is a wonderful space for kids to stay active and have fun! Sat-Sun, Noon-3pm. Free Spirit Yoga + Fitness + Play, 320 SW Powerhouse Drive, Suite 150, Bend. Contact: 541-241-3919. info@ freespiritbend.com. Kids Open Play 1-Pass $15 Kids Open Play 10-Pass $130.

Let’s Talk About It Training with KIDS

Center Examine child development through a social, physical and developmental lens. You can attend this program online or in person. Registration is required. Register by using the “Register Here” link above. Masks are required at all in-person library events. Tue, 10am. Redmond Public Library, 827 SW Deschutes Ave., Redmond. Contact: 541-312-1032. lizg@ deschuteslibrary.org. Free. Little Leapers! Parent & Me dance class for 1.5 to 3-year-olds. Using Leap N’ Learn curriculum, Little Leapers captures the magic of first-times through dance for our littles dancers and their big people. Sat, 8:50-9:20am. Through March 19. Academie de Ballet Classique, 162 NW Greenwood Ave., Bend. Contact: 541-382-4055. dance@abcbend.com. $132.

Lucky Leprechaun 5k/10k run and

walk Grab your green gear and hop, skip, run or walk this chip-timed event! March 12, 10am-Noon. Sisters Depot, 250 W Cascades Ave, Sisters. Contact: 971-409-8461. runsistersrun1@ gmail.com. $35-$45. Mini-Ninja Classes Kids plus adults, come enjoy these upbeat movement classes! Free Spirit Yoga + Fitness + Play, 320 SW Powerhouse Drive, Suite 150, Bend. Contact: 541-241-3919. info@freespiritbend.com. $105.

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Moms + Groms Meetup Moms + Groms

is officially back @ Boss Rambler 3-6pm every Wed! Boss Rambler Beer Club, 1009 NW Galveston Ave., Bend. Free. Nano-Ninja Classes Kids will love making new Ninja Warrior buddies as they develop fundamental coordination skills through obstacle-based gymnastics and climbing challenges in these action-packed classes. Wed, 5-5:50pm. Through March 30. Free Spirit Yoga + Fitness + Play, 320 SW Powerhouse Drive, Suite 150, Bend. Contact: 541-241-3919. info@freespiritbend.com. $120. Private Birthday Parties Sat-Sun, 3-5pm.

Free Spirit Yoga + Fitness + Play, 320 SW Powerhouse Drive, Suite 150, Bend. Contact: 541-241-3919. info@freespiritbend.com. $335 2 Hour Private Access to Entire Facility Free Open Play Passes.

Thrifty Thursdays @ Hoodoo Ski Area

Hoodoo Ski Area, 27400 Big Lake Road, Sisters. Contact: 541-822-3799. jenniferbreakingfree@ gmail.com. $29. Twinkle Toes Tap Learn the basics of tap! Tue, 3:35-4:20pm. Through June 14. Academie de Ballet Classique, 162 NW Greenwood Ave., Bend. Contact: 541-382-4055. dance@abcbend. com. $61.

Viking Fest @ Hoodoo Ski Area

Get ready for a fun-filled day of lessons, stories and Nordic culture at Hoodoo. March 12, 9am9pm. Hoodoo Ski Area, 27400 Big Lake Road, Sisters. Contact: 541-822-3337. Lift tickets vary.

Youth Cooking Camp-Hogwarts Food

Calling all wizards! Mon, March 14, 6pm, Mon, March 21, 11am and 6pm, Tue, March 22, 11am and Wed, March 23, 11am. Kindred Creative Kitchen, 2525 NE Twin Knolls Drive, Bend. Contact: 541-640-0350. kindredcreativekitchen@ gmail.com. $165.

FOOD & DRINK

Adult Class-Caribbean Cuisine

March 11, 5:30-9pm. Kindred Creative Kitchen, 2525 NE Twin Knolls Drive, Bend. Contact: 541-640-0350. kindredcreativekitchen@gmail. com. $85. Elixir Wine Group Restaurant Join us for

an elevated dining experience. Featuring Chef Josh Podwils creating French-inspired food using the best ingredients sourced from Central Oregon. Dishes are paired with Elixir's portfolio of globally and locally produced wines. Book at Elixir Wine Company Reservations. Fridays-Saturdays, 6-9pm. Elixir Wine Group, 11 NW Lava Rd., Bend. Contact: 541-388-5330. Elixirwinegroup.com. $12-$40.

Youth Cooking Class-Eclairs and

Cream Puffs March 12, 5:30-9pm. Kindred Creative Kitchen, 2525 NE Twin Knolls Drive, Bend. Contact: 541-640-0350. kindredcreativekitchen@gmail.com. $50.

BEER & DRINK EVENTS

Cross Cut Warming Hut: Locals’ Day!

Tue, are Locals’ Day. Crosscut Warming Hut No 5, 566 SW Mill View Way, Bend. Fried Chicken Thursdays Flights Wine

Bar, 1444 NW College Way Suite 1, Bend. Contact: 541-728-0753. flightswinebend@gmail. com. $30. Growler Discount Night! Enjoy $2 off

growler fills every Wed, at Bevel! 911 SE Armour Rd. Suite B, Bend. Contact: 831-245-1922. holla@bevelbeer.com. Free. Locals’ Night Mon. Silver Moon Brewing, 24 NW Greenwood Ave., Bend. Locals’ Day Come on down to Bevel Craft Brewing for $4 beers and cider and $1 off wine all day. There are also food specials from the food carts located out back at The Patio! Tue. Bevel Craft Brewing, 911 SE Armour Rd. Suite B, Bend. Contact: holla@bevelbeer.com. Free. Monkless to the Mountain The moun-

tains are open - you know what that means?! Monkless to the mountains is back! 11:30am9pm. Monkless Belgian Ales Brasserie, 803 SW Industrial Way, Bend. Contact: 541-797-6760. alyssa@monkless.com. Wine Wednesdays Happy hour all day on Wine Wed. Come in for discounts on glasses, beers and apps! Noon-9pm. Flights Wine Bar, 1444 NW College Way Suite 1, Bend. Contact: 541-728-0753. flightswinebend@gmail.com.

TRAINING GROUPS & ATHLETIC EVENTS

Bend Area Running Fraternity Mon,

5pm. Avid Cider Co. Taproom, 550 SW Industrial Way, Bend. Contact: bendarearunningfraternity@gmail.com. Free.

Cascade Lakes Brewing Pub Run

Come join the Bend Marathon and Cascade Lakes Brewing as they launch the new 26.2 Brew they created just for the marathon! March 9, 6pm. Cascade Lakes Brewpub, 1441 SW Chandler Ave., Bend. Free. Dodgeball Wed. Through March 9. Boys & Girls Clubs of Bend, 500 NE Wall Street, Bend. $8. Planet Fitness Home Work-Ins Planet

Fitness is offering free daily workouts via livestream! The best part? No equipment needed. Get your sweat on at least four times a day. Valid even for those without memberships! Visit the Planet Fitness Facebook page for more details. Ongoing, 4-5pm. Free. Redmond Running Group Run Find the

Redmond Oregon Running Klub on Facebook for weekly run details. Thu, 6:15pm. City of Redmond, Contact: rundanorun1985@gmail.com.

OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES & SKILLS CLASSES

Wildlife Tracking Workshop Come learn

the basics of wildlife tracking in the Pacific Northwest. March 13, 9am-3pm. RSVP for address, Bend. Contact: info@nighthawknaturalistschool.com. $55.

HEALTH & WELLNESS

2022 Intuition Training! Having your

intuitive gifts tuned up is so helpful in navigating life’s challenges. This is a 12-week class, every Wed, 7-9 pm. Ongoing, 7-8pm. Contact: 510220-2241. chylton2010@yahoo.com. $599. 40-Day Winter Rest & Recharge Weekly

meetings will be a combination of floor-based yoga, breathwork, meditation and discussion. Tue, 7-8:15pm. Through March 22. Contact: 541550-8550. namaspayoga@gmail.com. $40. Bend Pilates Bend Pilates is now offering a full schedule of classes through Zoom! For more information visit bendpilates.net/classes/. Ongoing, Noon-1pm. $20. Bend Waves Water Polo The Bend Waves

Water Polo Club strives to create well-rounded water polo athletes who have character in and out of the pool. We introduce the sport and develop young players — as well as groom more experienced athletes — to compete at their highest possible level. Mon-Fri. Through June 1. Juniper Swim & Fitness Center, 800 NE Sixth St., Bend. Contact: steve.cook@bendwaves.com. Bend Zen Meditation Group Bend Zen

sits every Mon, evening at 7pm. Arrive at 6:45pm to orient yourself and meet others. 6:458:30pm. Brooks Hall at Trinity Episcopal Church, 469 Wall St., Bend. Contact: bendzensitting@ gmail.com. Donations accepted. Capoeira: A Perfect Adventure Become

your own hero. Text 541-678-3460 for location and times. Tue-Thu, 7:10pm. High Desert Martial Arts, 2535 NE Studio Rd., Bend. Contact: 541-678-3460. ucabend@gmail.com. $30 intro month. Coaching Group Build your dream life while connecting to a supportive, motivating community. Mon, 6-7:30pm. Contact: 914-980-2644. meadowlarkcoaching@yahoo.com. $15-$25. Diabetes Prevention Workshop Join us

as we get active, lose weight and feel great together! Tue, 9-11am. Through July 12. Contact: 541-876-1848. Free.

Dream Interpretation Group Your inner

consciousness is trying to communicate with your conscious mind all the time. Every other Tue, 6-7:30pm. Contact: 541-639-6246. michael@naturalwayofbeing.com. Free.

Drop In Monday Meditation - open to

all Come join us in the beautiful gardens for meditation and healing! Mon, 6:30-7:30pm. Blissful Heart Wellness Center, 45 NW Greeley Ave, Bend. Contact: 510-220-2441. cathleen@ blissful-heart.com. Donation based.

In-Person Yoga at LOFT Wellness &

Day Spa In-person yoga classes at Bend’s newest yoga studio! Tue-Thu, 5-6pm. Loft Wellness & Day Spa, 339 SW Century Drive Ste 203, Bend. Contact: 541-690-5100. info@loftbend. com. $20.

Love Thy Camp Yoga Studio Classes

in Tumalo Love Thy Camp has opened a small(4 yogis max) yoga studio in Tumalo! MonFri, 9:30-10:30 and 11:30am-12:30pm. Love Thy Camp, 20039 Beaver Lane, Bend. Contact: 541948-5035. info@lovethycamp.com. $20 Drop-in.

Mommy & Me Breastfeeding Support

Group Thu, 6-8am. Central Oregon Locavore, 1841 NE Third St., Bend. Free.

Overeaters Anonymous (OA) Meeting

Zoom meeting Password: 301247. For more information: centraloregonoa.org/. For assistance, call Terri at 541-390-1097. Sun, 3-4pm. Contact: 541-390-1097. oacentraloregon@gmail.com.

Sound Yoga & Gong Bath Meditation

- Westside This experiential yoga class explores vibration through movement, music and meditation. Wed, 6-7:30pm. Through March 16. Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Central OR, 61980 Skyline Ranch Rd, Bend. Contact: 808783-0374. Kevin@soundshala.com. $15-$20.

Sound Yoga & Gong Bath Meditation

Eastside This experiential yoga class explores vibration through movement, music and meditation. Wed, 6-7:30pm. Through March 16. Hanai Foundation, 62430 Eagle Road, Bend. Contact: 808-783-0374. Kevin@soundshala.com. $15-$20 suggested donation (no one turned away for lack of funds).

Tai Chi for Health™ created by Dr.

Paul Lam This two-day per week class is appropriate for anyone who wants a slower Tai Chi class or those dealing with chronic health conditions. Mon-Wed, 8:45-9:45am. Oregon Tai Chi, 1350 SE Reed Mkt Rd Ste 102, Bend. Contact: 541-389-5015. $55-$65.

Tai Chi with Grandmaster Franklin

Tue-Thu, 9:45-10:45am. Grandmaster Franklin, 61980 Skyline Ranch Rd, Bend. Contact: 541797-9620. arawak327@gmal.com. $80.

The Vance Stance / Structural Re-

C CULTURE

Editor’s note: This is the second in a new monthly column from Dr. Jane Guyn, inviting locals to ask questions about intimacy and sex. Look for the column the second week of each month.

Dear Dr. Jane,

How would you approach the matter of a couple who have gone an extended period without sex, and then when initiated, it’s just awkward because nobody knows what to do? More specifically, the lower libido partner may be waiting for the higher libido partner to make a move, while the higher libido partner is hesitant for fear of another rejection. —Feeling Stuck

Dear Stuck,

As I mentioned last month, sexual concerns between loving couples are very common. A recent study found that 50% of American couples have sex one or fewer times per month. Many of my clients have gone years and years without any physical intimacy at all, not even hand holding, hugging, touching or kissing.

When you’re in this situation, it’s tough to get naked together again. I really understand that. If you’re the higher libido person, you probably feel rejected. If you’re the lower libido person, you probably feel inadequate. This isn’t a winning combo. Because of this, lots of higher libido partners decide to “wait it out.” They want to see how long it takes before their partner makes a move. This seems like a good idea, but it usually makes things worse. As time passes, the lower libido partner (who may feel relieved at the beginning) will feel more and more pressure, and therefore less and less interest in sex. There are lots of good reasons for this that we’ll talk about in the coming months, but for now, you’re wondering how to get things moving again. I recommend one of two plans.

Plan A: Ice Breaker Sex

Use Plan A if it’s been a hot minute since you had sex—maybe 6 - 8 weeks, but in general you’re OK in the bedroom—just less frequency and passion than you’d like. You’re both super busy with the kids or work and stress is running high. Overall, your sex life isn’t completely DOA.

Ice Breaker Sex is sex that both of you consent to (and even desire) because you want to feel close again and to get things to a better place. You’re feeling awkward since it’s been so long. But last time you had sex, even though it wasn’t mind blowing, it could have been a lot worse.

The key to Ice Breaker Sex (and any sex) is to talk about it openly. Tell your partner that you want to feel close. That you know the sex isn’t going to be amazing this time but that you want to reconnect. Take it slow. Check in with each other. Lower your expectations. The goal here is to get started. No pressure. You’re looking for nothing more than good enough. Laugh about it and make a plan for a better experience ASAP.

Plan B: Stalemate Sex

Use Plan B if it’s been more than two months since you had sex—or if your partner has had sexual trauma, pain or is nervous about sex. Discuss your desire to feel closer; that your interest in sex is an interest in them—not just sexual gratification or “getting it.”

With Stalemate Sex, your goal is to remove any expectation of penetrative or invasive sex from the conversation. Start with long walks, maybe holding hands. Listen to them talk about how they’re feeling. Tell them you love them and how attractive they are to you— and not just the sexual parts. Start kissing—slowly without pressure. Maybe rub your partner’s head and touch their hair. Spoon with your clothes on. Watch Netflix and really chill. Slow down completely but keep touching and being together in loving ways. Don’t “power through” or “get it done.” That’ll make your partner shut down even more.

Unless you’ve been on a crazy long work trip, sex is going to feel awkward after a hiatus. It’s kind of like going back to the yoga studio after all the crazy COVID stuff. Just like in yoga, be mindful of the situation and make a plan that’ll help you get better without getting hurt. This is going to take time. Figure out which plan to use, take a deep breath and start talking. You got this. xoxo

Dr. Jane

PS: Get help from a professional.

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—Dr. Jane Guyn (she/her) is a wellknown relationship coach who received her Ph.D. in Human Sexuality and is trained as a Professional Sex Coach and Core Energy Course. She works to help women and their partners release shame and increase confidence in themselves. Her work is in the area of intimacy and sex, as well as fears and/or abuse issues related to sex, plus a variety of other issues that may arise from any relationship. She’s the author of the Amazon #1 Bestseller, “Too Busy to Get Busy” and has been passionately married to her best friend for over 30 years. You can find her at howtofixmysexlife.com.