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FEBRUARY 2017

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PAVING THE WAY

Central Oregon Boasts An Array of High School Programs

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WHAT IT TAKES TO RAISE

AN ELITE ATHLETE

The Beauty of Our Own Backyard

Health

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parenting magazine

Education

PAVING THE WAY

Central Oregon Boasts An Array of High School Programs

outside

WHAT IT TAKES TO RAISE

AN ELITE ATHLETE

The Beauty of Our Own Backyard

Health

Considering a Vasectomy?

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EDITOR’S NOTE

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pening the pages of this issue, I am thrilled by the beautiful images of some of our very own junior athletes. What an inspiration! Even more impressive are the families behind these guys – moms and dads who tirelessly shuttle kids to and from practices,

spend hard-earned money on gas, plane tickets and hotel rooms while supporting their child emotionally through the ups and downs of serious competition. Along the same lines, in this issue, we profile a very special 12-year old snowboarder, Elijah Pyle, whose words of wisdom are sure to touch your heart.

Believe it or not, it’s time to decide on which high school your eighth grader will attend next year. For those interested in attending somewhere other than their neighborhood school, please note the March 1 deadline for Area Change Request forms. For the younger ones interested in magnet schools, applications need to be turned in by March 24. Check out Lizzi Katz’s article on the array of high school programs in our area. Need a program to get your kids excited about reading? Oregon Battle of the Books delights and challenges young readers and offers competition for varying ages. Our Health section is brimming with information – learn about an important subject (if you’re finished having kids) – vasectomy. As Spring Break approaches, if you’re staying in Oregon, you’ll want to read excerpts from Kim Cooper Findling’s new book in Outside for some exciting staycation ideas. In Leaving the Nest, we’ll help you through the oft-uncomfortable subject of teen dating, and in Things I’ve Learned, City Counselor, Sally Russell, inspires with some good parenting sense. Lastly, don’t forget to check out the center of the magazine where you’ll find our first ever “Best of the Nest” ballot. This is your turn to support all your favorite local businesses. Fill it out and return it to us by March 1- we’ll let you know the winners in our next issue – thanks for voting and thanks for all your support!

Enjoy!

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CONTENTS UPFRONT

11 EXPERT Q & A 12 BY THE NUMBERS 22 PROFILE 25 CALENDAR

COLUMNS

32 HEALTH 35 CULTURE 37 LEAVING THE NEST 38 THINGS I’VE LEARNED bendnest.com

SECTIONS

16 FEATURE

Ever wonder what it takes to foster an elite

athlete? Lisa Nasr speaks with local families for a behind-the-scenes look.

28 OUTSIDE No plane ticket required — enjoy these kid-friendly destinations perfect for a Spring Break outing.

30 EDUCATION

A.P. vs. I.B. An in-depth look at the array

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of high schools in Central Oregon and all they have to offer.

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Q&A Dr. Elise Burrus

PEDIATRIC DENTAL ASSOCIATES

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My daughter will probably need braces, but the dentist has told us her gums need to be in better shape first.

How can I encourage her (already a teen) to make that

happen? She’s not making the connection between the

gums, the crooked teeth, and a long term healthy smile.

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A healthy mouth is essential prior to starting orthodontics.

If proper habits are not established before braces are

placed, the chances of long-term complications such as

gum disease, tooth discoloration, and enamel breakdown are much higher. Therefore, it is wise to wait for braces until the teen can effectively demonstrate and maintain good oral hygiene.

Teenagers can be known to have a “brush-off” attitude about tooth brushing. The most effective way to communicate with

your teen about the importance of oral hygiene is education and encouragement. Avoid nagging and hovering – constantly monitoring your teen will further push them to rebel. Use positive reinforcement with appropriate rewards, but try to avoid full-scale bribery. Subtle hints such as dental

pamphlets or pictures of attractive celebrity smiles left on their bedside or iPad will allow for individual exploration.

Most importantly, do not threaten your teen with the

punishment of a visit to the dentist. This can create an

unnecessary fear of routine care and will instill anxiety over dental treatments. Combining these approaches

along with the reminder that a beautiful healthy smile is worth the effort will give your teen the guidance they need to appreciate their oral health.

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I recently switched to Xylitol gum for my young children. Is this okay or should I try to skip

gum altogether?

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Xylitol, a naturally occurring sugar substitute, is clinically

xylitol cannot be metabolized by mouth bacteria, and thus, no acids are produced in the mouth that can cause tooth

decay. Although xylitol gum is a much better alternative than gum that contains sugar, studies show that it takes multiple doses of xylitol throughout the day to be effective at reducing cavity causing bacteria and preventing cavity formation.

This means your child would need to chew xylitol gum 3 times or more per day for it to have an anti-cavity effect.

However, frequent gum chewing can put unnecessary stress

on the jaw joint, especially in growing children. Instead of focusing on xylitol gum as a means of cavity prevention,

use it as an occasional treat for your older child to enjoy.

Gum chewing should be avoided all together for children under the age of four due to choking hazards.

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My toddler loves to brush her teeth but she refuses to rinse afterwards. We’ve already moved on to

toothpaste with fluoride. Do I need to go back to the fluoride-free baby toothpaste?

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No. The use of fluoride for the prevention and control of tooth decay has long been documented to be both safe

and effective. Therefore, it is important for children to be exposed to the optimal level of fluoride as soon as teeth

erupt into the mouth. For children under the age of three, a “smear” or “rice-sized” amount of fluoride toothpaste should be used when parents are brushing the child’s

teeth. For children ages three to six, use no more than

a “pea-sized” amount on the toothbrush. If the child cannot adequately “spit” after brushing, the parent should help to wipe the mouth of excess toothpaste. Provided that the parent is assisting and monitoring for use of the

age-appropriate dosage, ingestion of a miniscule amount of fluoride in toothpaste is harmless.

proven to be a natural enemy of bacteria. Unlike sugar,

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BY THE NUMBERS

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of these families get more pleasure from vacation than from possessions.

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SNOWSHOEING, SLEDDING AND SKATING. OH MY! WINTER ACTIVITIES FOR FAMILIES During the winter months, Central Oregon becomes an outdoor wonderland where families can enjoy endless opportunities for icy, active fun. This past January, record-breaking snow depths and freezing temperatures created some challenges for getting out there, but now that the roads have cleared, shake off the cabin fever and get in some fun with one of these winter-centric activities.

SKATE, SKATE, SKATE! Head to The Pavilion and enjoy hours of ice skating on Bend’s first and only full National Hockey League size (200’ x 85’) rink. Twirling your way around the Pavilion doesn’t have to break the bank - Bend Parks & Recreation offers three skate sessions that charge just $6 per person.

FAMILY SKATE

The special rate includes skate rentals so you won’t rack up extra charges for equipment. A parent or adult guardian must supervise all children.

PARENT-TOT-SKATE Need a slower pace for the little ones?

This session includes open skate and fun activities just for toddler and preschool-aged children. Skates are included in the special rate and an adult must accompany children.

CHEAP SKATES

Every Tuesday night, you and your clan can enjoy hitting the rink at a discounted rate and then kicking back and watching a hockey game après skate. As with the other session, skates are included and children must be accompanied.

A NOTE ABOUT HELMETS The Pavilion does not carry helmets for

rent or purchase - however, they are highly recommended for safety. Families are encouraged to bring their own - hockey, bicycle, ski or skateboard helmets are fine.

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HIT THE TRAILS If your family is yearning to get out of town, snowshoeing, skiing and sledding are just a short drive away.

If you aren’t sure which trails are best for your family, the Bend Parks and Recreation website has a “Winter in Parks” page with helpful information for finding the perfect activity and outing WINTER IN PARKS bendparksandrec.org/parks__trails/winter_outside February 2017

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FEATURE

It Takes a Village Insight into the journey of

an elite athlete

By Lisa Nasr

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Snowboarder Gabe Ferguson Photo by Aaron Blatt

here is one thing Bend turns out faster than microbrews – athletes.

Call it clean fresh mountain air or a town bursting with opportunity, athletic pursuits amongst kids these days are as diverse as the kids themselves. Being an outdoor mecca, Bend attracts families drawn to year-round recreation, often beginning as early as, well, learning to walk. Central Oregon is no stranger to athletic fame, as well, having nurtured the likes of Olympians Ashton Eaton and Laurenne Ross. In Bend, you’ll find numerous youngsters training three to four days a week, 10- to 20-hour weeks, and traveling year-round for some of those trainings, not to mention the competitions.

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what it takes in terms of commitment to reach that upper echelon.

Getting a Head Start

Teresa Cravens, whose son, Minam, is a 17-year-old accomplished alpine ski racer competing on the national level, explains that their family started skiing together when Minam was just 16-months old. Similarly, Lisa Capicchioni, mother to 11-year old climbing sensation Mira, recounts her daughter started climbing soon after she could walk, at around eight months, in part because climbing was something she and her husband enjoyed, but, “by two-years-old we would turn our heads and she would be at the top of the tallest pine tree she could climb.” The Capicchioni family got Mira into the gym

about two years ago and she’s been excelling in the sport ever since, competing on a national level, specifically at the USA Climbing Youth Bouldering National Championships in Madison, Wisconsin last year.

Bend locals, Branden and Jen Ferguson, whose sons, Ben and Gabe Ferguson, (now 21 and 17) are teammates on the U.S. Snowboarding team, say the boys got into snowboarding early on because their family’s bonding time was spent on Mt. Bachelor. (Ben won the silver medal in last year’s X Games in Aspen, Colorado, while Gabe placed 5th).

See What Sticks

Encouraging kids to try a variety of sports at a young age can help them see where their natural ability lies. Keith

“When a kid loves it, they live it. They want to be better and excel in the environment they enjoy.”

Skier Minam Cravens Photo by Gillian Rathbun Photography

Bleyer, Bend FC Timbers Competitive Director of Coaching and father to a 14-year old Timber athlete himself, is the first to proclaim that sometimes kids need to try a variety of sports and “see what sticks,” but that most importantly, “kids are participating because they enjoy it. The minute a kid isn’t enjoying it or is burned out, pull back. Give them a break.” Bleyer continues, “When a kid loves it, they live it. They want to be better and excel in the environment they enjoy.”

The try-everything approach was certainly embraced by soccer sensation, Kaley Kreutzer’s parents. At age seven, Kaley tried softball, soccer, flag football, gymnastics and swimming. One thing was clear - Kaley was a natural athlete who enjoyed the physicality of agility training. Upon moving to Oregon, Kaley joined the Bend FC Timbers and has since been accepted to the Olympic Development Program (ODP), which involves a commitment to practice sessions held in Portland. Currently at 13-years old, she also travels for monthly training sessions with the U.S. Soccer Academy.

Kaden and Grayson Barker, brothers aged 13 and 11, are fellow soccer enthusiasts who train with Bleyer and are both on ODP, as well. Their mom, Tisha, explains that, “At this point, they can’t get enough of their main sport.” While burnout is a concern of many families, the Barkers “manage it by taking family vacations that have nothing to do with sports: camping, hiking, and extended family trips.”

On the road

Frequent travel and time away from home are definitely concerns for parents of high-level athletes. Mira Capicchioni usually travels to competitions with her mother, Lisa. The travel time has been good for mother and daughter, “I usually go to all her competitions out of town and we have actually become a lot closer. When usually at about this age, the kids start to drift away and battle with their parents, we have a lot of fun and talk about everything on our long drives”.

“The boys are on the road training, competing and filming more than they are at home in Bend these days,” says Jen Ferguson. When they were young, we traveled with them. We would spend big chunks of time out in Colorado and in Mammoth to train and then travel to five or six competitions throughout the season. Now they mostly travel with the U.S. Snowboarding Team or with one of their sponsors.” Burnout has not been an issue with Ben and Gabe. “The thing is, they just love to snowboard.” Jen says, “They both know they can stop competing at any time. As long as they’re having fun, it isn’t an issue.”

With two other children at home, Kaley’s family utilizes a carpool to lessen the travel burden. Amanda, Kaley’s mom, shares that competing at this level, “can be overwhelming at times, and we have had to try and seek out advice from other parents who have had experience with their own child’s soccer opportunities.” Amanda admits, “It is hard sometimes to have to figure out logistics, especially without extended family living in Oregon.” The Kreutzers try to keep it fun for the whole family and have even made mini-vacations out of training sessions.

what about academics?

In addition, juggling school attendance and education can definitely present challenges for families, since most top-level athletes are required to be on the road during the school year. Teresa Cravens says, “Sports are a privilege, so we have always said, if grades slip, so do the opportunities to train/compete.”

Grades have not slipped, and now, as a senior, Minam trains 20 hours a week, and travel varies: “last year he missed 37 school days - this year, it will probably be more,” says Teresa.

The approach to academics varies among athletes, with some kids being directly accountable to teachers during travel, while others opt for homeschool or a full-time online education.

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“Sports are a privilege, so we have always said, if grades slip, so do the opportunities to train/compete.”

Climber Mira Capicchioni Photo by Lisa Capiccioni

while also doing part-time online classes. Gabe began traveling more at a younger age and moved onto full-time online school starting in middle school.”

much enjoyment they get out of being in a competitive environment, bonding with teammates, and playing through adversity, it’s well worth the sacrifice.”

Money matters

All of these sports come with a price tag, but just what is the dollar amount? Keith Bleyer tells it this way, “a kid can have a year of traveling soccer or the family can have eight days in Maui.”

Academics aside, participation in sports at this level is not without financial burden. While some kids are fortunate to have sponsors, families are mostly responsible for their own expenses. Tisha Barker explains, “It’s definitely not cheap due to the travel expenses (hotels, meals, and gas). However, we do tend to take other teammates with us, and then that favor is returned. So we share the financial impact with other families. Being able to see how

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“When they were young, it was expensive,” says Jen Ferguson, “and maybe a bit of a sacrifice, but,” she continues, “both boys have been very lucky with sponsorships. At ten and six, they were sponsored by Burton and received all their equipment and outerwear, along with a travel budget. Now they are each making pretty good money from sponsorships and are able to cover all their expenses plus put some money away for the future.”

Mira Capiccioni with her team. Photo by Lisa Capiccioni

Kaley Kreutzer with her dad. Photo by Red Owl Photography

“We love the conversations, time together; wins and losses, all the lessons as a family.”

Gabe Ferguson at U.S. OPEN Photo by Aaron Blatt

Teresa Cravens says of their family’s commitment, “there is an enormous financial impact, but it is an impact which we gladly incur. We are involved in the sport and have incredible times with our son. We cannot buy this time back. We are very conscientious and educate ourselves as to how, when and why we spend our funds. We love the conversations, time together; wins and losses, all the lessons as a family.”

Onward and Upward

One theme rings true for these Central Oregon families: the culture of winning is not dominating the training of these young athletes. In fact, Keith Bleyer gives parents the advice of “de-emphasizing success but maximizing potential” because

Barker Family Photo by Red Owl Photography

it should be about experience and that “measuring kids on a performance base wears them down.”

“I know they miss home when they are away, says Jen, “but they have each other. They also have great coaches and so many good friends that also compete.”

Bleyer concludes, “In the summer, look around, the worst looking yards usually belong to the most dedicated parents because they have no time to trim the lawn.” Perhaps this wisdom translates to the dedicated ski and snowboard parents, as well, who haven’t gotten around to clearing their sidewalks lately, because they’re too busy shuttling and supporting their young Olympic hopeful.

Ferguson Family Photo by Dustin Lalik

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BESTof the

Central Oregonians are not only spoiled by continuous days of sunshine, outdoor wonders and a close-knit

community, we also boast some pretty unique local businesses that go that extra mile for families and kids.

Welcome to the first annual “Best of the Nest” Ballot! After two years of publishing Bend Nest, we are excited to provide you with the opportunity to make your voice heard. So, share the love and give all your favorites a thumbs up! Thanks for voting! ~ Bend Nest

Best of the Nest Ballot Categories Best Healthcare Professional s Best Pediatrician Best Children’s Dentist Best Children’s Orthodontist Best Children’s Optometrist Best OB / Midwife

Best of Education Best After-School Program Best Day Care Best Preschool Best Tutor Best Charter / Magnet Elementary / Private School Best Day Camp for Little Kids Best Day Camp for Older Kids

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PROFILE

Elijah at USASA National Championships Photo by Vast Action Photography

Humble & Hardworking The Evolving Story of Freestyle Snowboarder

Elijah Pyle

By Magdalena Bokowa

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Photo by Daniel Pyle

Elijah at Gerry Lopez Big Wave Challenge Photo by John Tapper

Elijah at USASA National Championships Photo by Vast Action Photography

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lijah Pyle is breaking stereotypes. The 12-yearold freestyle snowboarder is top ten in the nation for Boardercross, 11th for slopestyle, 21st for half-pipe and, most importantly—he’s a straight A student.

“I feel like there are some stereotypes with athletes that they may not necessarily be the smartest,” begins Elijah. “That maybe they’re just gutsy, but that’s definitely not the case. I know a lot of people that are really great at sports but also really smart.”

To say Elijah has athletic ability may be an underestimate. His current extracurricular schedule has him off the couch and outside seven days a week. From Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and Muay-Thai boxing to Mount Bachelor Sports Education Foundation programs (MBSEF), Elijah makes extra room for soccer, skateboarding and track in the warmer months. A seasoned athlete at a young age, he was third in the state last year for his age group in cross country running.

continues. “We threw a lot of things at the wall to see what would stick and…all of it did. He’s passionate, driven and hardworking, and the cool thing is that he’s the one driving the bus, directing us where to go. We’re just the Sherpa’s carrying the bags. Sometimes we forget that he’s only 12 because he acts so much older.”

“Snowboard is definitely my favorite. You feel very good about yourself when you land a new trick. You’ll get a similar feeling in running but its not as strong… at least for me. I love that rush. Sponsored by Burton Northwest and local brands like Skjersaa’s, BlackStrap and Snoplanks, Elijah says “I’m the best at snowboarding, I think, so it’s less frustrating and I have more fun.”

And it’s easy to see why. The long haired, wide-eyed boy looks like the typical snowboarder on the outside: a bit fidgety, he alternates between standing and sitting during our interview, clearly full of energy. But there’s something different about Elijah and it shows in the way that he pauses when answering questions. He is thoughtful and considerate, an aura of wisdom surrounding him, exuding a calm confidence. This clearly shows in his answer about why education is important.

“Just try and try, no matter how much it frustrates you.”

Taking cues from his MBSEF coach Coggin Hill, Elijah says his process for landing new tricks is all in the visualization and motion, followed by lots of practice. “If you do something like land it wrong, then it’s important to just remember what you did, and try and do it better the next time without forgetting the other components in landing it. Just try and try, no matter how much it frustrates you. It’s a lot easier when you’re calm when trying to land a trick.”

Laughing, his dad Dan Pyle, points to Elijah and says “I’m laughing that he says he leaves it because this kid will work over and over again until he gets it right. His determination level is unbelievable. He just keeps going.

“He has a real passion for what he’s doing, for all of it,” he

“Even though I really do love snowboarding and want to have a career in it, there’s definitely a big chance that it won’t work out and I’ll need academic success to be able to get the type of job I’d like to get.” When asked what that might be, he replies “some kind of work in the snowboarding industry but I’m not really sure yet.”

Perhaps this calmness stems from the almost daily dance he has with fear when performing tricks at high speeds which has him unruffled. With aspirations to go pro, Elijah Pyle is headed towards greatness, regardless of if he succeeds in snowboarding or soars in his academic career.

“Having fun snowboarding is the main goal,” he says, “but I also want to be like the pros, guys like Austin Smith and Ben Ferguson, because they’re good at what they do, but they’re also really nice guys. I want to be like that, a nice guy.”

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CALENDAR interactive science and play area, fine art, delicious food, beer, wine and so much more.

Old Mill District | $10 adv., $12 door., $36 family pack Oregonwinterfest.com

February 18 February 16-March 2

Parent & Seal Pup: Skate Together

Finding Fossils: Did Sharks Live in the High Desert?

LEARN This workshop for the whole

ACTIVE Step onto the ice and help your young “seal pup” find his or her ice feet! Together you will learn how to skate by singing songs, playing games and spending time together on the ice.

Participants are welcome to stay to skate during the parent/tot skate session after class.

The Pavilion | $35-$42 Bendparksandrec.org/the-pavilion

family offers a chance to dig deep and discover Oregon’s ecosystems of the past. Explore how fossils are created and what they can tell us about the earth for millions of years.

High Desert Museum | Paired pricing, $10-$15 Highdesertmuseum.org

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RUN A run just for aspiring princes and

Oregon WinterFest

FAMILY Come see the Old Mill transform

into a wintery wonderland! This celebration of all things winter will bring national music acts, a fire pit competition, ice sculptures, the OMSI Kids Area—an

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Black Light Blast

OUTSIDE Nighttime tubing under black

light runs. Price includes tube and unlimited runs. RSVP required as space is limited.

SHARC Sunriver Tubing Hill | $12 SROA members, $15 GA Sunriversharc.com

February 18

Scrapbooking with the Millers

CREATE What to do when it’s cold and blue? Scrapbooking with friends was a popular winter pastime. Gather around the fire to help cut out images from holiday cards, picture books and advertisements to add to your own collection.

High Desert Museum | $7-$12 Highdesertmuseum.org

WinterFest Hot Cocoa Run

February 19

princesses where kids race to make the best cup of hot cocoa! Part of Oregon WinterFest with different races for three age groups. Ages 3-10.

Les Schwab Amphitheatre | $15 or $5 with WinterFest entry Oregonwinterfest.com/hot-cocoa-run

OUTSIDE Activities will include snow-

Become a Jr. Snow Ranger

shoeing, winter safety, exploring snowflakes, wildlife tracking, winter ecology, and the joy of winter fun. The program mission is to inspire youth to embrace a life-long relationship with the winter

Oregon Winterfest Hot Cocoa Run February 18 - Costumes Encouraged!

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CALENDAR environment and to become stewards of the land. Also, March 12.

Mt. Bachelor | Free Discoveryourforest.org

February 20

Kids Rock Choir

MUSIC Kids ages 12 and under with only

one goal: to have a great time singing their faces off! No training, experience or long term commitment is required to join in. Each Monday.

Various locations | $10 Singbend.com/kids-rock-choir

February 20

Wonders of Wind Kids Camp

LEARN How is wind formed? Do winged

animals need wind to soar? Find answers to these questions and more in this day of exploration. Investigate how people generate electricity from wind and how it shapes some of our favorite landscapes.

High Desert Museum | $40-$45 Highdesermuseum.org

February 21

Fit Kids Dance & Play

ACTIVE—Kids will be introduced to different dance styles and rhythms, along with fun music and games. Ages 4-11. Repeats at various times and dates.

Juniper Swim & Fitness Center | $5 Bendparksandrec.org

February 25

Wildlife and Living History Family Free Day

LEARN Whether you’re three or 93, there’s something for everyone at the High Desert Museum. See birds of prey, the porcupine exhibit, a bobcat and more. Explore High Desert history and culture in their permanent exhibits.

High Desert Museum | Free Highdesertmuseum.org

February 25-26

Eagle Watch

OUTSIDE A day of fun for the whole family

with live birds of prey, wild eagle spotting,

raptor education, kid’s activities and more.

Kids can meet JR Beaver, Smokey the Bear and Larry the Lightbulb as well.

Round Butte Overlook Park | Free Oregonstateparks.org

March 1

Tween Dance & Yoga

ACTIVE An hour of yoga and dance, where tweens can let go and let flow! Class begins with flowing yoga moves that lead into dance movements and circle back at the end with slow gentle yoga. Repeats at various times and dates.

Juniper Swim & Fitness Center | $5 Bendparksandrec.org

March 3

Family Karaoke

MUSIC Featuring a music library of more

than 25,000 songs and a professional sound system. Hosted by KJ Tonya, this karaoke is open to adults and kids of all ages.

Explicit lyrics are removed from song library.

Looking Glass Imports & Café | Free Lookingglassimportsandcafe.com

Great location in Bend's Northwest Crossing Neighborhood!

Dana's Discovery Kids Preschool is dedicated to providing a high-quality preschool program for children ages 3-5 in a safe, clean and caring environment.

Join us for our Open House March 4th 2017 from 10:00am-12:00pm.

Raffle drawings, activities and cupcakes to go.

Register for the 2017/2018 school year with a friend and receive one free day of summer camp.

New families only. Tuition prepay specials available. Summer camps info will be available March 1st for ages 3-7. Its an established 30 year program.

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Redmond MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) COMMUNITY | A group of supportive

Oregon Winterfest Fire Pit Competition February 17-19

March 3-24

Book SmART

CREATE Art inspired by a storybook!

Students read an art-themed picture book to inspire creativity before exploring a variety of materials including paint, pastels, glue, scissors, markers and more. Ages 4-6, Fridays.

Art Station | $55-$66 Bendparksandrec.org

March 4

Saturday Stories

LEARN A fun early literacy storytime for the whole family. Ages 0-5.

Various Deschutes Libraries | Free Deschuteslibrary.org

March 18

Free Family Night

ACTIVE Elevate your family get-together to a whole new level of fun! Join in to combine swimming, fitness and fun as a family. Wind down before leaving with bedtime yoga and story time fitness.

Juniper Swim & Fitness Center | Free Bendparksandrec.org

March 18

St. Patrick’s Day Dash

RUN Gather your family and friends to run, jog, walk or crawl across the finish line. A family friendly 5K fun run to benefit

culture and science in these fun filled day camps at the High Desert Museum.

Explore exhibits from animal superheros to the Buzzsaw sharks of long ago.

High Desert Museum | $170 members, $195 non-members.

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April 4-25

Suzuki Guitar

MUSIC Taught by Central Oregon’s only

certified Suzuki guitar instructor, this class introduces youth to the joy of learning the Suzuki way! This highly successful method is internationally recognized for it’s early childhood focus.

Parent/guardian participation required.

Instrument not included. Equipment and materials are provided. Ages 3-4, Tuesdays.

Bend Guitar Lessons | $90-$108 Bendguitarlessons.com

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First Friday Splash & Fun

SWIM Mom, Dad! Drop the kids off at

JSFC and head to First Friday in downtown Bend! In the care of our trained, fun-loving staff, children can participate in a variety of exciting activities such as science experiments, crafts and games, create their own healthy snack and, of course, swimming!

Juniper Swim & Fitness Center | $11-$17 Bendparksandrec.org

Kids Center, a non-profit child abuse intervention center serving all of Central Oregon.

Deschutes Brewery & Public House | $35 Bendstpatsdash.com

mothers that come together on the third Tuesday of each month. The meetings consist of short inspiration videos, speakers and time to chat, ask questions and get support. A place to meet new friends and get encouragement on the journey of motherhood.

Community Presbyterian Church | Free Facebook.com/groups/centralormops

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Ladies Wine Night

Spend the evening unwinding and relaxing at Sip Wine Bar’s weekly ladies night. With tasty vino specials, a soothing outdoor fire and a soothing atmosphere, take some time out for yourself to enjoy Oregon fine wines.

Sip Wine Bar | $8-$12 glass with specials Sipwinebend.com

MARCH 17-18

King Louie’s The Portland Blues Revue

The harmonic sounds of blues and R&B come to the Riverhouse for two nights in March. Enjoy an all-star cast of soothing, soulful rhythms of Andy Stokes, LaRhonda Steele and Lisa Mann, a supergroup in their own right.

The Riverhouse | $48 Riverhouse.com

APRIL 1

Louie Anderson

COMEDY | Take a night off from the kids with a belly full of laughter with two-time Emmy award winner, Louie Anderson.

Dubbed one of the 100 greatest standup comedians of all time by Comedy Central, his career has spanned more than 30 years and delivers to fans an inimitable brand of humor and warmth.

March 22

Kids Camp: Around the World

LEARN—Discover other cultures around the world! Ages 6-8. Registration required.

Various Deschutes Libraries | Free Deschuteslibrary.org

March 27-31

Tower Theatre | $40-51 Towertheatre.org

Spring Break Kids Camps

LEARN Kids from kindergarten to fifth grade will have fun exploring nature, Spring Break Kids Camps at High Desert Museum

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OUTSIDE

The Beauty of Our Own Backyard

This Spring Break, explore something new with these fascinating daycations.

By Kim Cooper Findling

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pring break soon approaches, and with it, the old familiar questions: How shall we keep the kids occupied for a week of no school? What is there new to do around here? And what on earth will the weather be like? A new travel book released last fall, “Bend, Oregon Daycations: Day Trips for Curious Families,” by Kim Cooper Findling, details fun, one-day itineraries for families in a one- to two-hour radius of Bend. Here we excerpt two chapters of the book, which both visit a destination that should be weather- and family-friendly for Spring Break.

Camp Sherman Camp Sherman is a small, forested community at the base of Black Butte only 40 miles northwest of Bend but reliably delivering a peaceful, nature-infused, oldtimey getaway. This excerpt begins at the headwaters of the Metolius River.

It’s not every day that you see a river spring literally from underground, or as it appears, from a rocky, fern-covered hillside in the woods. The Metolius forms from underground springs and appears near Camp Sherman, before running its short 29-mile course to terminate at Lake Billy Chinook. The headwaters are conveniently accessed by a short, paved quarter-mile trail 28

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that also boasts a killer view of Mt. Jefferson. Depending on the season, you might see many people or none, but chances are you’ll encounter a mighty band of yellow-pine chipmunks accustomed to dining on visitors’ treats. (The kids will love them.)

As you watch the water trickle from the earth, consider that no one seems quite sure of its source. The presumption is that the source of the Metolius Springs is a basin on the other side of Black Butte, and that the eruption of the butte itself is what buried the river’s more obvious origin. But when we visited here when my daughters were small, they always insisted that there were fairies in these woods.

I like to think perhaps the Metolius is the work of those fairy kingdoms.

After your short hike to the magical beginnings of the Metolius, it’s time to go and see some fish. Just as the chipmunks at the headwaters are accustomed to bite-sized handouts, so too are the fish at the Wizard Falls Fish Hatchery. Directly north of the headwaters nearly 7 miles, the hatchery’s collection of green buildings and holding ponds is the birthplace of six varieties of fish; a total of 2.5 million fingerlings are distributed around the state from this location each year.

Changes in the weather alter the appearance of the hills. The best time to be here is just after a rain, when the amazing varieties of colors really pop. Snow can also be incredibly dramatic, and in spring, small yellow wildflowers paint their own line drawings on these beautiful mounds of earth. In any season, the hills contrast with the wide-open Eastern Oregon sky, which is often clear blue and dotted with white cotton-ball clouds.

Grab your quarters from the car—25 cents buys a fistful of fish food dispensed from vending machines to the kid’s hands so that they can toss, sprinkle or hurl it into a long cement pool to the mouths of hundreds of various-sized trout.

The rainbow trout, kokanee, and salmon will energetically leap and swipe at the scattered bits. It’s great entertainment for all ages.

Drive to the main overlook trail, which is a great place to start as it allows you to take in the entire incredible scene from a bird’s-eye view vantage point. Take some photos, and then stay awhile. The Painted Hills are like other places of almost impossible unearthly beauty that, despite magnificence, can inspire a drive-by kind of visit. Visitors say “oo” and “ah” and “wow” and “I can’t believe I’ve never been here,” and take a few pictures, get back in their car and leave. I encourage you to linger. Do the “oo” and “ah,” and then hold still. Let the energy of the place start to seep in. Feel how the wind

Mitchell and the Painted Hills Mitchell is a small outpost on the far side of the Ochoco Mountains, 82 miles north and east of Bend. This excerpt begins at the Painted Hills, near Mitchell, which is part of the John Day Fossil Beds National Monument.

A couple of years ago, I was invited to visit the Painted Hills with a group of Buddhist monks from Tibet. You can see a photo of them in their striking red robes with the Painted Hills behind them on my website (kimcooperfindling.com).

The Painted Hills are a geological formation so beautiful that it’s difficult to give them justice in words. Gentle mounds of red, pink, bronze, tan and black ash and clay are layered in uneven stripes, surreal and lunar in appearance. This area was once a river flood plain—a lush forest with a warm tropical climate that was home to prehistoric horses, elephants, camels and saber tooth tigers. Over time, layers of sediment of varying colors collected to form these beautiful hills, like the flowing water was laying down a painting to last for all time.

begins to clear out the other noise you brought with you.

See how the kids react to so much open space and sky and natural visual splendor.

My holding-still visit was on that trip with the monks. Watching them wander slowly around, doing nothing in particular but simply being there, made me do the same, and I saw things I might not have. How stark it is. How blinding, the sky. How really crazy surreal it is that these hills exist at all. How quiet it is. At the end of their visit, the monks chanted and rang bells and blessed the hills. I drove home in a contented daze.

We can’t all visit the Painted Hills with monks, of course. But I think small children can be like little monks. If you’ve brought some with you, let them show you what is here. Maybe it’s a flower, maybe it’s a rock, maybe it’s a bird on the horizon, maybe it’s that they want to set up camp and never leave.

It’ll be something, I promise.

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EDUCATION Mountain View High Students

ACADEMIC VARIETY

UNDERSTANDING ALL THAT CENTRAL OREGON’S HIGH SCHOOLS HAVE TO OFFER

By Lizzi Katz

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ot sure what’s out there when it comes to secondary education in Central Oregon? While still focusing on general academic skills, our high schools are evolving as they strive to keep students engaged and prepared for an ever-changing world.

Local high schools offer a wealth of programs to challenge students academically, prepare them for college and introduce them to today’s career options. In addition to Advanced Placement (AP) classes, there are programs where students learn technical skills, earn college credits from Central Oregon Community College (COCC), and even earn an associate’s degree upon graduation from high school.

The three largest high schools all host incoming freshman nights. This is the best way to tour the school and learn more in-depth about each one’s unique academics, clubs and sports (Summit High School February 21 at 6 p.m., Mountain View High School February 22 at 6 p.m., Bend Senior High School February 27 at 6:30 p.m.).

If your student is interested in a program offered at a school outside their home high school, families must submit an Attendance Area Change Request (available on the Bend-La Pine website) by March 1. Jay Mathisen, Bend-La Pine’s Deputy Superintendent of Secondary Programs warns that transferring may be more difficult this year with all high schools being over capacity. Switching

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schools is only possible as space allows, and transfer applications for each school will be selected randomly.

Here’s a quick peek into some of the programs currently offered in our local high schools:

Bend La-Pine Public High Schools Bend High School, the oldest and largest of our schools,

with almost 1800 students, offers the International Baccalaureate (IB) Program. Here students follow an international curriculum and take in-depth classes with a world-view, and can opt to earn an IB diploma. Other programs include the popular rec/tech class (students learn real world skills in engineering, manufacturing and digital design while producing skis and snowboards), an award winning culinary arts program and Mandarin Chinese classes.

Mountain View High School has created a partnership with Central Oregon Community College (COCC) that allows students to earn their associate’s degree while taking most of their classes at the high school. Mountain View also offers an active Agriscience program through Future Farmers of America, and classes in Japanese and Mandarin Chinese, as well.

Summit High School offers 18 Advanced Placement

(AP) classes, including computer science. Students can participate in Project Lead the Way, a national three-class program in Engineering or BioMed, where students complete coursework along with project-based learning experiences. Summit has classes in journalism (includes working on The Pinnacle, Summit’s award winning newspaper) and Japanese. Here, also, the arts – theatrical, visual and music – are a thriving part of the Summit culture.

La Pine High School offers classes to help students

be successful in their rural community. In addition to college prep, there are classes in forestry, as well as a class on hospitality, tourism & recreation. Taught in partnership with Sunriver Resort, students visit the resort, learn about a wide variety of careers in the hospitality industry, job shadow professionals, build resumes, and even find seasonal employment.

PRIMARY EDUCATION Looking for something non-traditional for your younger child? These Bend LaPine Choice Options are by lottery process and deadline is March 24.

Bend High Student

Photos by Byron Roe

Looking for something outside the box? There are

alternative, virtual, charter and private high school options in Central Oregon. Contact these schools directly for more information and to schedule a tour.

Marshall High School is Bend-La Pine School district’s

alternative school. This small community (current enrollment is under 160 students) offers credit-deficient students a fresh start. Students receive daily academic support with classroom teachers as well as with peer tutors through Proficiency Lab (Pro Lab).

Bend-La Pine Online offers students full and part-time

enrollment online. While some students use virtual classes to earn their diplomas, the majority of students use the 200+ classes available to supplement their home or schoolbased education.

MAGNET SCHOOLS Amity Creek Magnet at Thompson School

(K-5th grades) Community focused learning where academics and social skills are taught with an emphasis on belonging, cooperation, togetherness and goodwill.

Bear Creek Elementary School (K-5th grades) A Spanish dual-language immersion program.

Highland Magnet at Kenwood (K-5th grades) Part of each day is dedicated to Scottish Storyline learning.

Juniper Elementary School (K-5th grades) Focused on the integration of technology in learning.

Rimrock Expeditionary Alternative Learning Middle School (REALMS) (6th – 8th grades)

Implements a curriculum that focuses on the real world, is interdisciplinary and problem-based with frequent fieldwork.

Cascades Academy is an independent K-12 private school located in Tumalo, just outside Bend. A small upper school (35 students currently are enrolled in grades 9-12) allows a close learning community. Students balance college preparatory curriculum with experiential learning, including opportunities for professional internships, service learning, fine arts, travel and outdoor education. Scholarships are available.

Westside Village Magnet School at Kingston

Trinity Lutheran School is a K-12 private school offer-

Bend International School (K-8th grade) learning about diversity with an international focus.

ing a college preparatory curriculum for families seeking a small learning community with a Christian framework. AP classes are available.

Redmond Proficiency Academy (RPA) is a tuition-free college preparatory charter school. The open campus and independent learning environments, including flexible class schedules, are designed to empower students in managing

Baker Early College is a tuition-free charter school,

(K-8th grade) – an inclusive K-8 school where students learn in a multiage environment. Westside Village school also focuses on community service and the outside environment.

CHOICE OPTIONS

Buckingham Elementary School

(K-5th grades) Science, Technology, Engineering and Math (STEM) Focus School

Elk Meadow Elementary School

(K-5th grades) Integrated Arts Focus School

Pilot Butte Middle School (6th – 8th grades) International Baccalaureate (IB) World School

which enrolls students full-time at COCC. If your student demonstrates readiness to be successful at the college level and is ready to leave the social environment of high school, this option gives students college credit from a community college while they complete their high school diploma.

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HEALTH

DONE HAVING BABIES?

A CLOSER LOOK AT VASECTOMY

By Annette Benedetti

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ou have had your babies and you love them with all of your heart, however, recently you have noticed that when your friend brings their newborn with them for a visit, after a couple of minutes of cuddling, you are ready to hand the adorable little guy back.

You are officially done having babies.

Now that you have made the decision to move onto the next phase of your parenting life (Goodbye diapers, hello adolescence!), what do you do? Going back to the days of condoms and the rhythm method sounds risky, and let’s be honest, those methods were less than reliable and may have even resulted in one of your wonderful tykes (shhhh, they’ll never know). You are ready to examine some serious and permanent options including the ever-intriguing vasectomy.

John Doe, whose name has been changed for obvious reasons, is a Bend resident who chose to have a vasectomy after exploring a variety of options with his wife. He says, “My wife and I were happy with our two kids. Things just felt right and we knew we were done.

I wanted to take ownership of this decision and to be the one to make sure our family dynamic didn’t change.

I felt like my wife had done her part giving birth to our two children. It was my turn.”

The decision to get a vasectomy shouldn’t be taken lightly. It requires surgery and is meant to be permanent.

Researching the procedure ahead of time and talking to at least one or two doctors is advised.

There are two ways that sterilization can take place: the incision method and the no-incision method. During the incision method, a local anesthetic is injected into the pelvic area and then an incision is either made on each side of the scrotum or one is made in the center, so the vas deferens (the tubes that carry sperm) can be reached. The tubes are then blocked, in some cases a small part of it is removed, and then they are tied off.

During the no-incision method, a tiny puncture is made to reach both tubes and then they are tied off, cauterized, or blocked. Stitches are not required.

Is a Vasectomy Safe?

The procedure is considered safe, however, as with any medical procedure, there is a risk. You should talk with a medical professional to determine whether or not the procedure is safe for you. The most common complication that arises is caused by an infection. Post-surgery you should call your doctor if you have any of the following signs:

Fever over 100 degrees F.

What is a Vasectomy?

Excessive pain or swelling.

Is a Vasectomy Effective?

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What are the Types of Vasectomy?

The following are answers to common questions that come up when considering a vasectomy:

According to information provided by Bend Urology, a vasectomy is a simple surgery that includes cutting and sealing the tubes that carry sperm into a man’s semen.

Closing off this tube prevents a man from being able to impregnate a woman. The surgery is reversible, but more complex.

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most effective birth control for men. It is important to note that it is not immediately effective because sperm remains beyond the blocked tubes until they are used up which takes approximately three months. Your medical professional should perform a semen analysis test to confirm that there are no sperm left in your ejaculate before having unprotected sex.

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Your doctor should provide you with a full list of signs and symptoms to keep an eye out for.

Is a Vasectomy Painful?

“I was surprised by the discomfort I experienced during the procedure,” says John Doe. “My friends who had had one, and the literature I read, made it sound like it was

painless. It was not. It is definitely bearable, but not painless at all. Still totally worth it though.”

You will receive numbing medication and/or sedatives.

Conscious sedation or local anesthesia will be used based on what your provider thinks is best for you. Both help minimize the discomfort you experience during the procedure.

“To awaken a love for God,

a desire for learning and service to others.”

What is the Recovery Time?

It typically takes a day or two of rest before patients are up and walking around. You should wait a week or so before performing any strenuous exercise.

What Does a Vasectomy Cost?

The cost of your vasectomy will largely depend on where you get it done and your insurance situation. According to Planned Parenthood, the nationwide cost of a vasectomy ranges from $0-$1000 (Sterilization for women can cost up to six times as much). If cost is an issue, look for a clinic that uses a sliding scale.

Prior to getting a vasectomy you and your partner should be absolutely sure you are done having children. It is also important to note that having your sperm checked post operation is important. While most accidents end up being looked upon as happy ones, the final check up is key to making sure you get the desired results.

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A WAR OF WORDS IS RAGING Bend-La Pine School District’s Oregon

Battle of the Books

By Annette Benedetti

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here’s a battle raging in schools all around Oregon, and it’s one that parents and children are likely to support. Oregon Battle of the Books debuts at the beginning of each school year when students are given the opportunity to begin their training, arming themselves with carefully chosen books. On March 11, all of their hard work and reading will pay off as the regional battle begins at Sisters Middle School where teams will fight for the opportunity to compete at the state tournament.

According to the Oregon Battle of the Books Handbook, the original idea for this unique reading incentive program came from a radio program sponsored by the Chicago Public Library in the 1940’s, which featured competing teams of students from different Chicago schools each week. In 1960, the concept was revived by one of the contestants from the show who had grown up to be a school librarian in Illinois.

It was eventually brought to Oregon in the 1970’s by librarian and author, Sybilla Cook. As word of the program spread, it began to be implemented in schools throughout the state, though not as a mandated program.

The handbook states that, “in 2006, with the encouragement of State Librarian, Jim Scheppke, Oregon Association of School Libraries (OASL) President Allen Kopf formed a committee to submit a grant to the Oregon State Library for a statewide Battle of the Books program. Upon receipt of the first Library Services and Technology Act (LSTA) grant, the committee moved forward with the statewide plan to be implemented in the 2007-2008 school year… and the Oregon Battle of the Books was born.”

Educational consultant and volunteer, Greg Heacock explains, “Oregon, [has] state-wide contests with most school sites around the state having playoffs beginning in late January and continuing through February, followed by seven regional contests—ours takes place in Sisters on March 11th—and a state contest takes place in Salem April 8th.”

Participating schools form teams with students in grades 3-5, 6-8, and 9-12. However, team members do not have to be all in the same grade. Once a team is formed, which can happen in a number of ways, including designation by the school librarian or friends pulling a team together, a team name

is chosen. Competitors are then given the reading list that can be found online at the Deschutes Public Library website. Each team is asked to read a set of books. Later, their knowledge and comprehension will be tested which will determine whether or not they continue on to compete in regionals.

The testing or initial “playoff” process includes answering in-depth questions about each book and its author in an effort to show a deep level of reading comprehension. Before regionals, teams that are moving on come together with parent volunteers, librarians, and teachers to practice and prepare.

Some of the books chosen for this year’s battle include: Ramona Quimby, Age 8, Matilda, The Unwanteds, and The Martian. The list of books is lengthy, and both the school library and the local libraries do their best to make sure they are always in stock. Public Services Manager for the Deschutes County Library, Heather McNeil says, “The way we support [the program] is that we carry multiple copies of all of the titles. We have fifteen or more copies of each title that students are required to read, and if the requests exceed what we have, we will purchase more.”

Students interested in participating in the 2017/2018 battle should connect with a teacher or librarian at their school. McNeil says, “It’s just really exciting to see kids so motivated and excited about reading a whole bunch of books and proving their expertise.

They love talking about the ones they liked and the ones they didn’t. It’s just wonderful to see opportunities to get kids talking about books.”

For a list of the required reading, visit the web page at deschuteslibrary.org/kid/ and check out the Books & Reading section. The regional battle will take place on March 11, from 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. at Sisters Middle School. Winning teams will go on to compete at the Oregon Battle of the Books State Tournament, which will be held at Chemeketa Community College Campus in Salem on April 8.

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A PARENT’S GUIDE TO TEEN DATING

By Angela Geiser

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n my family, there’s an old saying that the teenagers will always come home safe and sound and on time from a date because they know Daddy’s waiting on the front porch with a shotgun.

While meant as a joke, the story says something about parents’ age-old concerns for their teens when they begin to date. The old worries about teen pregnancy, tarnished reputations and broken hearts still apply, but today there are new risks due to rising rates of dating violence and sexually-transmitted infections (STIs). What can a parent do to make sure their dating teens are happy and safe?

We caught up with two experts on teen relationships and sexuality and asked for their tips on setting guidelines for kids entering the dating game. Lynn Ponton, University of California San Francisco professor of adolescent psychiatry and author of The Sex Lives of Teenagers and The Romance of Risk, and Nancy Brown, a developmental psychologist and education projects manager for Palo Alto Medical Foundation, both agree: Parents should set the stage for safe dating long before their child becomes a teen.

Model Healthy Relationships

Being a good role model to our kids as we interact with our spouses and others is the first step toward ensuring they’ll develop healthy connections as teens and adults, Ponton and Brown say.

Talking about relationships once they reach school age is step two. Parents should inquire about their children’s friendships, Ponton says, asking questions like: “What makes a relationship work well? Which parts are stressful?”

Share your values, but be sure to ask your child what he thinks creates a healthy, loving relationship. When your kids are preteens, it’s time to bring sex into the discussion. Besides biology, bring up some of the risks and moral considerations. It’s much easier to talk when your kids become teens if you began the dialogue years earlier.

“When you start talking to them about sex when they’re 11, it allows them time to figure out what’s important to them,” says Brown, a mom of two who has worked with teens for 27 years. “Plus, preteens can be more open to our suggestions.”

Hold a Family Meeting

When you think your child will be dating in a year or so, it’s time for another talk. “Say, ‘I want us as a family to decide how we’re going to handle this,’” Brown says. “‘Let’s think about it for a few days and meet on a Saturday to talk it through.’”

“Discuss with them what they’ll do if they start to feel unsafe,” says Ponton. “America has the highest rate of date rape in the world, and the statistics are very high among teens and young adults.”

Make sure they know never to meet someone alone that they encountered online.

Talk Safe Sex

When your teen starts dating, it’s time to discuss specific safe sex methods. If it’s hard to bring up, TV and movies can help.

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Discuss curfew, group and private dating, whether you want to meet their date first and how they’ll inform you of their welfare and whereabouts while they’re out. Mom, Dad and the kids should all participate in the meeting and be open to others’ ideas.

When your teen is in a serious relationship, talk to both teens if possible, and make sure they realize the gravity of sexual intimacy, Brown says. A sign that they’re ready for intimacy may be that they can discuss the risks with each other, use long-term protection and go together to the clinic to get it.

Brown says parents should be clear about their own views on sex. If you think it should be reserved for marriage, say so. But realize that parental influence on teenagers is limited and that you have a duty to provide the information they need to stay safe no matter what they choose.

Some parents may want to address the risks directly, such as by placing a box of condoms in the bathroom. Others may be uncomfortable even mentioning birth control and STIs, but they should tell their teens where they can get the protection they need.

Make sure your kids know that teenage sex isn’t as widespread as they think, Brown says. Only 20 percent of kids ages 14 to 17 have had sex, according to the California Health Interview Survey. Thinking that everyone else is doing it can push kids to become sexually active.

Besides looking for signs that your dating teen is having unprotected sex, parents should always be watchful for signs of abuse, Ponton and Brown say. Jealousy and possessiveness are common red flags. If their boyfriend or girlfriend regularly puts them down, has power over them, controls their choices or threatens them harm, parents need to step in.

If the teen can’t work out the problem or you suspect genuine abuse, encourage your child to end the relationship.

Teens can get defensive, so parents should broach the subject gently, Brown says. Remind them of activities and friends they used to enjoy. Get them to see how their life has lost balance and how it can be better.

Dating, after all, should be fun. Offer teens a chance to get to know different people and help them build social skills they’ll use in even deeper relationships later on.

Angela Geiser is a mom of two teens. This article first appeared in Bay Area Parent magazine.

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THINGS I’VE LEARNED

A conversation with City Councilor

Sally Russell How are kids today different than when you were a kid?

The intense scheduling, in school, sports and otherwise, leaves very little independence and unstructured time. This limits children’s ability to learn how to make small decisions on their own; they don’t learn how to grow from making small choices and learning from their small failures.

I grew up exploring the natural areas all around my home, climbing trees, chasing baby lambs, falling off logs, playing softball and reading lots of books… pretty unstructured day to day and very creative.

As kids, had to decide together what we wanted to do every day and then make it happen.

Do you have a role model?

My mother and father were very different role models, and both were important. My mother was a driving force and ultimately her curiosity, vision and unwavering determination resulted in the Columbia Gorge National Scenic Area, something future generations will enjoy forever.

However, she wasn’t always paying attention to what her children needed.

On the other hand, my dad was always available and present, and always forgiving. Besides, he was an absent minded professor with a wickedly creative humor, who wrote us stories and made sure we knew we were loved.

So the blended role model is something I certainly aspire to.

What did you learn from your parents about parenting?

The value of leading by example. Even though there were many things I didn’t want to do, or simply wasn’t interested in as a child, much of what I saw and experienced as a child through my parents influenced how I formed my values and make decisions today.

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They insisted on integrity and honesty. Even if I sometimes question whether it is serving me in the moment, I never have to look back and remember how to cover a lie or half truth; just tell the truth, stand by what I believe, and bravely take whatever criticism comes my way.

How is holding office like being a parent?

Communication and finding common understanding can be a huge hurdle between a parent and child. With my daughters, I try my best to listen and ask questions.

Even so, sometimes we all get frustrated and cranky!

The same is true between my colleagues and with the public. We all work from such varied backgrounds and value sets. The more I work in elected office, the more I think that finding a common ground of understanding to work from is THE next breakthrough in governing.

Otherwise, we just entrench in what we know, and ignore the others… not a good recipe for good policy, as our country has been experiencing intensely recently.

If parents were to, “ask not what the City can do for you but what you can do for the City” what would that be?

It’s true, often people expect the City to be responsible for things that actually could be accomplished faster and more effectively if they themselves would work to find a way to resolve their issue or complaint. It IS like leaning on your parent to solve a feud with your best friend instead of having the courage to stand face to face and resolve it yourself.

And more often, that’s how to get a better, much more satisfying lasting outcome anyway!

What do you hope your children learned from you?

Taking responsibility for the greater world around you – friends, community, planet. A strong work ethic – if you do the work to educate and inform yourself before making a decision or taking a stand, you are more likely to understand the impacts of your actions and/or words, which serves you and others in unlimited ways.

I asked my daughters what they learned from me as a mom?” Isabelle’s answer: “To be thorough in my work, napping and going to bed early is fantastic, and just accepting frustration and using it to fuel my work.”

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