Bishop of the Diocese of Trenton: Most Reverend David M. O’Connell, C. M.
THE PARISH OF SAINT MARY A Catholic Community Proclaiming the Greatness of God in our Time
One Phalanx Road, Colts Neck, NJ 07722 Phone: 732-780-2666 Fax: 732-780-0394
Pastor: Reverend Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee Pastor Emeritus: Reverend Fr. William J. Bausch Deacon: John Wedemeyer
Trustees: Bill LaMorte Irene Weller
Parish Office hours Mon. - Thurs. 8:30 am - 7:30 pm Open Sunday 9 am - 12 noon. Parish Membership: New Parishioners are welcome to register at the office at any time. New Parishioner Orientation (quarterly) - will be held November 25, 11 am Contact Parish Office at parishoffice@stmaryscoltsneck.org Registration is required. Sacraments: Eucharist Detailed Mass times listed on page 2 Penance & Reconciliation Saturday 3 pm or by appointment. Marriage Contact the Parish Office one year in advance for information & guidelines. Baptism Contact the Parish Office for information & required paperwork three months in advance. There are no Baptisms during Advent or Lent, please plan accordingly.
Cohort 13 St. Catharine of Genoa 108 Middletown Rd., Holmdel
Saint Mary Parish One Phalanx Rd., Colts Neck
St. Gabriel 100 N. Main St., Marlboro
St. Benedict 165 Bethany Rd., Holmdel
Join us for THANKSGIVING DAY MASS Thursday, 22 November in the Church at 9 am. Start your day in thankful prayer!!
Join a small faith sharing group for the four weeks of Advent
Prepare for the coming of our Lord
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Mass Intentions for the Week November 19 - November 25 For * Requested by
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Please pray for the following members of our parish family who are ill:
Monday, November 19 – Chapel 9 AM Louis Stanziale * Josephine Bogacz Marian Kinlin * Tom and Angela Kinlin
Tuesday, November 20 – Chapel 9 AM Danny Gauthier * Treasure and Al Herman Rita Bausch Anderson * Jack and Rorie Coppola
Wednesday, November 21 – Chapel 9 AM The Presentation of the Blessed Virgin Mary Elizabet Bracco * Neil and Jane Slattery Cory Aufiero * Sheehy Family
Thursday, November 22 – Church 9 AM St. Cecilia; Thanksgiving Day Margaret Boyle * Aiello Family Renate Mueller * Heidi and Al Lohn
Friday, November 23 – Chapel 9 AM St. Clement I; St. Columban; Blessed Miguel Agustín Pro Martin Cronin * Freda O’Doherty and Family
Saturday, November 24 – Church 4 PM St. Andrew Dung-Lac and Companions Pro Populo Catherine Bowdish * Barbara Saake Elaine Shapiro * Coseglia Family
Sunday, November 25 – Church Solemnity of Christ the King
8 AM Vaughn Bigelow, Jr. * Tom and Angela Kinlin Arthur Thomas * Adele and Joe Velba
10 AM Deceased Members of the Mustillo Family * Gruenling Family Mary Jo Scibetta * Her mom & stepfather Ann Marie & Logan Dayton James Barron * Darryl Turkaly
12 PM Elena SanFilippo * Maureen Bauman and Marcia Grasso Grace Leidner * Kathy Woolston Maureen Bertodatti * Sharon Burlew
Baptisms after 12 noon Mass James Joseph Reuter Olivia Juliette Kelly
Kay Amatel Maurice Baker Irene Baron Eileen Beckley John Beckley Sal Castro Logan Dayton John DeStefano Lynette Colaco-Desouza Kaitlin Donahue Nagle Emily Gioacchini Susan Endlicher Bob Golar Edward Habrack Tom Hudak Kathleen Javaruski Carl Johnson Theresia Kopp
Bridget Korn Lori Lettieri Donna Lodi Vincent Loretta Pauline Madzin Leonidas Mavrookas Mary Joan McNamara Regina Moeller Walter Moeller Tere Nolan Martin Reddington Stellanne Scalia Owen Shoemaker Christine Shrewsbury Lauren Vinci Irene Weller Don Whitney
To add a family member to the sick list for 8 weeks, please call or e-mail the Parish Office. Thank you! 732-780-2666 or parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org
Lifelong Catechesis Week November 19 - November 25 READINGS FOR THE WEEK Monday: Rv 1:1-4; 2:1-5; Lk 18:35-43 Tuesday: Rv 3:1-6, 14-22; Lk 19:1-10 Wednesday: Rv 4:1-11; Lk 19:11-28 Thursday: Rv 5:1-10; Lk 19:41-44 Friday: Rv 10:8-11; Lk 19:45-48 November 25, 2018 - Solemnity of Christ the King Dn 7:13-14; Rv 1:5-8; Jn 18:33b-37 Questions for Deeper Reflections: Question for Children: Is it difficult or easy for you to tell the truth? How does Jesus help you? Question for Youth: Today we celebrate Christ the King. How much do you let Jesus' truth rule your life? How difficult is it for you to follow Jesus? Question for Adults: What is the truth for you? How do you live -Lifelong Catechesis the truth everyday?
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Parish Office: 732-780-2666 parishoffice@stmaryscoltsneck.org Bulletin Deadline: Electronic format by 12 noon Thursday of the prior week (10 days before). parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org Bulletin Editor: Catherine Love Liturgical, Music & Worship Ministries Contact: Andrew J. Macirowski Worship@stmaryscoltsneck.org Music@stmaryscoltsneck.org Principal Cantor Contact: David Maliakel Adult Faith Formation & Religious Education Contact: Jim Bridges FaithFormation@stmaryscoltsneck.org ReligiousEd@stmaryscoltsneck.org Temporal Administration, Stewardship & Outreach Contact: Edwin A. Sevillano TemporalAdmin@stmaryscoltsneck.org
Sanctuary Lamps Consider donating the sanctuary lamp that burns in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament in the Church or Christ Chapel in memory of a loved one who has died or to honor a living person. These intentions are on a weekly basis starting with the Sunday, therefore a new request is published each week in the bulletin. The suggested donation for Sanctuary Lamp is $25.
Cards available to present. Upcoming availability
3 Those in Active Military Service
Lord, hold our troops in your loving hands, Protect them as they protect us. Bless them and their families for the sacrifices they make for us in our hour of need and give us peace. We ask this in the Name of Jesus, Our Lord and Savior. Amen
Pray for Our Military SN Colton Boag, USCG Chief Blake Conley, USN Lt. Col. John Anthony Coppola, US Army Major Douglas Coppola, US Army SN Christian Houlihan, USN Pvt Michael John Mento, US Army 1st Lt. Adam Sjoholm, US Army 2nd Lt. Ryan Tanguay, US Army Staff Sergeant Stephen Witherow, USAF Lance Corporal Edward Zarzecki If there is a family member you wish to be placed on the list, please call the Parish Office at 732-780-2666. Please include rank and branch of service.
The Parish Office is closing for Thanksgiving Wednesday, November 21 at 12 noon. Remaining closed Thursday, November 22. Reopening Sunday, November 25, at 9 am.
Christ Chapel: 11/25 -12/1, 12/2 - 12/8,& 12/16 - 12/22 Church: 11/25 -12/1
Thanksgiving is a time when we stop the normal routine of life and make a point of expressing our gratitude to God for all that we have. We gather together the people that we love and who love us — our families and friends — and share the good things that we have together. What does Thanksgiving mean to you? For what can you be thankful for this year? The word “Eucharist” means “thanksgiving.” How is the Mass like a Thanksgiving meal that you would share with your family? 2018 Catholic Diocese of Trenton
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Andrew J. Macirowski Pastoral Coordinator for Worship & Music / Principal Organist Worship@stmaryscoltsneck.org Music@stmaryscoltsneck.org
Giving Thanks The origins of our Thanksgiving holiday can be traced back to long before the “first Thanksgiving”. Early cultures such as the Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans had periodic feasts and festivals which paid tribute to their gods after a bountiful harvest. The Jewish holiday of Sukkot, commonly known as the “Feast of Gathering” or “Feast of Tabernacles” is a week-long celebration in late September / early October, which marked the end of harvest time and also serves to remind the Jewish people of the Israelite’s Exodus from Egypt, and their reliance on God for their journey, and to give thanks to the Lord for his goodness. The Native Americans also celebrated harvest time, and both the Separatist and Puritan settlers brought traditions of fasting in times of tribulation or penitence and feasting in times of abundance to give thanks to God. Saint Cecilia The feast day of Saint Cecilia, virgin and martyr, is celebrated on November 22. She was married to a nobleman, Valerian, and having devoted her life to God, sang to the Lord during her nuptials. She retained her virginity, having instructed her new husband to go and be baptized, after which he returned to find Cecilia in the midst of an angel, adorning her with roses and lilies. She often preached, converting many to Christianity, and consistently sang songs of praise to God (making her the patroness of musicians). She was martyred under the reign of Roman prefect Almachius in the 2nd century AD. The common story is that an executioner struck her neck three times, and she lived for three days afterward, continuing to preach, and praise the Lord.
Andrew J. Macirowski, Pastoral Coordinator for Worship & Music / Principal Organist
Children in grades 3-8 who love to sing! The children’s choir will sing on Christmas Eve at the 5 PM Mass. Rehearsals are the first 3 Sundays of Advent, following the 10 AM Sunday Mass. Email Andrew Macirowski, worship@stmaryscoltsneck.org, to sign up.
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Three weeks until Advent Penance and Reconciliation Service All are invited to participate in the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation at the parish Penance and Reconciliation Service held this Advent on
Sunday, December 9, 2018 at 3 pm. Sixteen (16) priest confessors will be available to you for your convenience to reduce wait times. To prepare yourself, please take some time out prior to attending the Penance & Reconciliation Service to examine your conscience.
Annual Colts Neck Community Ecumenical Service * Nov 20, 7:30 pm Â
The worship communities of the Parish of Saint Mary and the Colts Neck Reformed Church invite all to please join us at 7:30 pm on Tuesday, November 20 at the Colts Neck Reformed Church for a wonderful evening of worship, music, fellowship and Thanksgiving.
Worship Ministry Schedule: Thanksgiving & November 24 - November 25: Solemnity of Christ the King Altar Server
EMs of Holy Communion
9 AM (Church)
Reader 1
Reader 2
Greeter
Cantor
LWD
Usher
Thanksgiving Day Mass NOT FILLED NOT FILLED NOT FILLED
Susan Baker - Center Cup Gail Cargiulo - Organ Host Frank Baker - Center Host Monty Matrisciani - Tabernacle Host Louise Habrack - Organ Cup Susan Murphy - Tabernacle Cup NOT FILLED - Alternate
Charles Young
Bruno Savo
Margaret Caponegro Tina Repetto
Marybeth Jacobson
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Dering Sprague
T Mullen
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David Maliakel
NOT FILLED - Center Cup Dawn Reinhardt - Center Cup Dolores Addler - Organ Host Edward Moskal - Center Host Maria Gerbino - Tabernacle Host Helen DeCerce - Organ Cup Maureen Geiger - Tabernacle Cup Mary Aiello - Alternate
Richard Gerbino
Matt Yaninas
Mary DeSalvatore NOT FILLED
David Maliakel
Melissa Widmeier
Sunday, 10:00 AM (Church)
Valeska Yaninas Tesya Yaninas Alessandra Zilinski
Leigh Gavinelli John Orrico Greg Penczak Jack Zumba Charlie Gavinelli Allan Ryan Vince Cerulo Jamie Steiner NOT FILLED
Irene Weller - Center Cup Sandra Montefusco - Organ Host Lee Gesner - Center Host NOT FILLED - Tabernacle Host Patricia Balbo - Organ Cup Patricia Gesner - Tabernacle Cup NOT FILLED - Alternate
Dan Mazzeo
Michael Zarraga
Donna Murphy Anna May Schellenberger
Magnificat Choir
Maria Greenstein
Sunday, 12:00 PM (Church)
Allen Montefusco Christopher Montefusco Tommy Zita
James Dolan Joe Mancino Joseph Rinaldo William Starce NOT FILLED NOT FILLED NOT FILLED
Saturday, 4:00 PM (Church)
Sunday, 8:00 AM (Church)
Fernando Pinguelo
John Grabowski Jim Davis Bob Lind Frank Sikorskas NOT FILLED NOT FILLED Michael Boliver George Watts James Pifer Jim Boliver NOT FILLED NOT FILLED NOT FILLED
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Dr. Jim Bridges Pastoral Coordinator of Faith Formation and Religious Education FaithFormation@stmaryscoltsneck.org ReligiousEd@stmaryscoltsneck.org
Confirmation Prep Grades 7 & 8 Next few sessions The infancy narratives are arguably the most beautiful and intriguing passages in the Gospels. Within these narratives we encounter the Gospels of Matthew and Luke in miniature. Journey with us as Dr. Jim Bridges guides us through an exploration of the compositions casting light on their theological purpose. From the child in the manger to the Magi’s search for the infant Jesus, the evangelists create two unique narratives that reveal the importance of Jesus of Nazareth. Come experience the narratives that captured our imagination for nearly 2000 years. Part One Sunday, December 9, 7:00-8:30 pm or Monday, December 10, 10:00-11:30 am Part Two Sunday, December 16, 7:30-9:00 pm or Monday, December 17, 10:00-11:30 am In Madonna Hall
Why not join a faith sharing group this Advent? All materials are provided. Groups meet once a week during Advent, either at the parish or in your home, depending on each facilitator’s schedule. No fee. Materials available at Agape & the Parish Office. New and past facilitators please check in with your interest for this year. New facilitator training available. Please contact: faithformation@stmaryscoltsneck.org Please consider this wonderful way to ready our hearts for the coming of our Lord and Savior!
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Group
Time
11/18/2018 11/25/2018 12/2/2018 12/9/2018
A No Class B A/B
5-6:30 p.m. Thanksgiving break 5-6:30 p.m. Advent Penance service
ATTN: 7th and 8th Grade Confirmation Students and Family There will be a wrapping party to wrap presents for the two families sponsored by the Confirmation classes on Wednesday, December 12 from 7-9 pm in the parish hall. All are welcome and service hours will be awarded. Please bring your service sheets. Pizza will be supplied but we need a firm head count. Students in Group A should email Mrs. Farrow at rmcfarrow@hotmail.com and students in Group B should email Mrs. Cowles at mc3515@att.com to confirm your child's participation. Thanks to everyone for your donations. We had a great response. If you haven't had an opportunity to drop off your donations, you may do so at the wrapping party. Thanks very much!
2nd Grade Students and Families Several families were unable to attend the meeting on November 6. Therefore, an extra First Penance review & practice for any children needing or desiring it, has been scheduled for Tuesday, Dec. 4, at 4:40 pm. The Tuesday 2nd grade classes will participate as part of class. Those Summer Intensive students needing review are welcome. It will only last about 15 minutes.
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Quo vadis… My Dear Parishioners: Today we celebrate the Thirty-Third Sunday in Ordinary Time. On this second-to-last Sunday of the liturgical year we begin to play out the last climactic rhythm of the paschal mystery. This Sunday we consider the end of this world as we know it—dying. Next Sunday we consider the triumph of Christ and what comes to all of us who live in conformity with the Word— everlasting life. Dying and rising. This is what the whole liturgical year is about. This is what the whole Christian mystery is about. There is alot at stake in this gospel—it’s not a future for our progeny but for ourselves. We have been faced with a choice throughout our journey during this past liturgical year: to be rooted in this world or in the words of Jesus. Our choices do make a difference. The Colts Neck Reformed Church will be hosting this year’s Thanksgiving Ecumenical Service on Tuesday Evening, November 20 at 7:30 pm. Deacon John will be the homilist. Please join us for Mass on Thanksgiving Day at 9 am. It is important for us to take time to give thanks and praise to God for all the blessings in our life. Please consult the bulletin for details Next weekend the Universal Church celebrates the Solemnity of Jesus Christ the King, the final weekend of our liturgical year. I am very grateful to all those who assist in preparing our Worship. The Sacred Liturgy is the most important part of parish life. It is our fundamental experience of Christ in the Eucharist that gives purpose to every other aspect of our common life as a parish. This
precious gift of God which we have in the Eucharist enables us to work for justice in our world and to be instruments of mercy and forgiveness. We will need to call forth additional parishioners to serve as Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion as well as Altar Servers. These ministries are a tremendous service to our parish. Let us pray that more parishioners will prayerfully discern this participation and that more parents will responsibly support their children in learning more about becoming altar servers. Many thanks to all those who have participated in our Thanksgiving Food Drive for the Poor & Needy. Our parish response continues to grow each year. May we strive to see the face of Jesus in all, especially the poor and needy. Participation in our Fall Clean up is necessary in order to help manage our 25 acre campus that is our spiritual home. The details are outlined in the bulletin. Many hands make lighter work. Please mark your calendars for Sunday, 9 December 2018. This is the date for the Advent Penance & Reconciliation Service. It is a time when we will welcome a new group of children to this sacrament. It is also a time for us to come together in preparation for the great Solemnity of Christmas. I am grateful to all of the priests who serve as confessors for this service. During these days, please allow some extra time when driving around town, especially the weekends, as some businesses experience high traffic and a swell of patrons. Have a great week enjoying the Thanksgiving Holiday with your family. Let us remember one another in prayer. Happy Sunday. Peace. Father Jeff
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Sharing Our Treasure Thirty-Second Sunday in Ordinary Time November 11 Weekly Sacrificial Stewardship
$14,975
We are upgrading our Online Giving system.
Envelope Contributions
$10,508
Electronic/Online Contributions
$ 3,264
Loose Contributions
$ 1,203
As a church that seeks to serve, we want to provide you the convenience of being able to give the way you want, whenever you want.
Avg. Contribution per Household this week $36.53 # of Contributing Households # Registered Parishioner Households
377 1,264
Additionally, because of your contributions, we were able to send $500 to the appeal for Human Development. Please remember The Parish of Saint Mary in your Will and Estate planning. THANK YOU for the Sacrificial Stewardship Offerings as we support the ministries, programs and facilities of our parish. May God Bless you for the sacrifices that you make.
Increased Offertory Program Within the next couple of weeks you will receive a Summary Report detailing the results of our Increased Offertory Program. Several weeks ago we began this program and we are beginning to see signs that our Sunday offertory collections are growing through the generosity of many, many parishioners. Thank you so very much to all who have chosen to participate in this very important program. Your generosity shows your willingness as faithful stewards to be a part of the ongoing missions of The Parish of Saint Mary. Those who have not returned their commitment card yet, please do so as soon as possible.
Thank You!
Getting started is easy—just visit our website, www.stmaryscoltsneck.org When you participate, your gift will transfer directly into the parish bank account. And you won’t have to remember to write a check or stop by the ATM on Sundays! Plus earn cashback, miles, or points when using your credit card! Also if you still want to place something in the offertory basket, just pick up our “I GAVE ONLINE” cards at the Parish Office and use that at collection time. NOTE: Current online donors will have to log in and create a new account, set-up a new recurring gift with ParishSOFT Giving, and cancel their account with the Legacy System. No worries, old and new donations will be merged in your parish contribution record for the end of year tax statement Parish Fall Clean-Up Saturday, December 1, 9 am-1 pm Join us to PICK UP leaves and branches from the parish grounds before the winter months. Please bring rakes to the event. Adults with equipment to cut fallen branches, leaf blowers, and shears/ loppers are needed. Two Hour Shifts & Community Service HOURS Available. Group Leaders needed & National Honor Society leadership hours available. For more information or to sign up contact: Edwin at TempAdmin@stmaryscoltsneck.org
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Next AGAPE Sunday, November 25 after the 8 & 10 am Masses Join fellow parishioners after Sunday Masses for donuts, bagels, coffee/beverages and fellowship in the Parish Hall and outside in the courtyard (weather permitting). Agape is also an opportunity to meet ministry leaders, sign up for programs and learn more about parish life. Empty Bowls Light Up a Memory The Vatican Cookbook Pancake Breakfast Tickets in Parish Office
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New Parishioner Orientation November 25, 11 am Madonna Hall During orientation, new parishioners meet with parish staff and ministry leaders to gain important information about St. Mary Parish, parish life and how to become part of the parish community. This is a great opportunity to meet other new parishioners and ask all your questions. Attendance is mandatory for those looking to become parishioners at the Parish of St. Mary. Please Contact the Parish Office if you wish to attend 732-780-2666
Advent Pancake Breakfast
December 16, 2018 Hannah de Groot, a senior at Penn State University and active parishioner is very involved in Penn State's THON-- a 46-hour dance marathon, held in February, benefitting childhood cancer. For more information see Four Diamonds https://www.fourdiamonds.org To help in raising money this year she is conducting a clothing drive. The clothes will be processed by A&E Clothing Corporation which specializes in processing used clothing and goods based on the weight of the contribution. There will be a collection box in the Gathering Space to receive donations from Nov. 19 - Dec. 14.
Madonna Hall 8:30 AM to 12 noon
Join us for a great community event featuring hospitality, great food, crafts and a few special guests... Tickets: $5.00 in advance *$10 at the door Children ages 5 and under free **Tickets are for sale in the Parish Office. On-line sales open. Want to help out at this year’s breakfast? More info contact the Parish Office
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‘Tree of Love’
“Light Up a Memory”
The Tree is up this weekend ! Purchase individual gift items for individuals from tags that are placed on the Christmas Tree of Love. Parishioners may take as many tags off the tree as you desire. Return gift under the tree with the tag firmly attached by Dec. 2nd.
“Light Up a Memory” has become a beautiful Christmas tradition at St. Mary’s and is now in its 11th year, thanks to the support of an enthusiastic community. It is heartwarming to see the hundreds of lights sparkle during the Christmas season. For a contribution of $10.00 per light, people are invited to sponsor a light in memory of someone deceased or in honor of a living person. All of the names will be inscribed in the Light Up a Memory book, which will be displayed in The Parish of Saint Mary Gathering Space. A lovely card of acknowledgement is provided with each $10.00 donation.
Please do not go over the value noted on the gift tag. Thank you, for your generous support. To help contact: Deb debstan2@aol.com
Christmas Sponsor-A-Family Purchase gifts for a family. You select the size of the family you wish to sponsor (2-6 people). Several families or a group of people can sponsor a larger family. Gifts per person are usually a value of $50 and based on a list of needed items prepared by the family. This program adopts families from Aslan Youth Ministries, The Center in Asbury Park, Family Resource Associates and the Highpoint School. The goal is to sponsor families in need at Christmas. If you, your family, your neighbors, coworkers, or friends would like to sponsor a family in need this holiday season, please contact co-chairs: Sue Levine infoman46@aol.com Kathy Maher wamaher2@aol.com
Thank you! To Victor Scalici of Scalici Farms and Greenhouse for donating the beautiful mums for the front of our church.
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There will be a tree Lighting Ceremony on Sat., Dec. 15, after the 4:00 Mass, with music provided by St. Mary’s Choir. Refreshments will be served in the Gathering Space after the ceremony. These “memories” will glow until the feast of “Little Christmas” on Jan. 6. The deadline to reserve a light is Monday, Dec. 3, so call the parish 732-780-2666, Molly Aiello 732598-6808 or Freda O’Doherty 732-577-9541. Everyone is welcome to participate in this wonderful tribute to our loved ones.
The Vatican Cookbook “Holy Ravioli! Cookbook reveals the Vatican’s favorite recipes … hard not be enchanted.” – NPR From the elite protectors of the Popes and Defenders of the Faith for more than 500 years, a unique collection of exceptional recipes from simple to sublime, everyday staples to holiday feasts.
For sale at the Parish Of ice and at Agape on November 25. A perfect gift for cooks and foodies! Get your copy in time for the holidays. Only $35.