Bulletin for August 9, 2020

THE PARISH OF SAINT MARY A Catholic Community Proclaiming the Greatness of God in our Time One Phalanx Road, Colts Neck, NJ 07722 Phone: 732-780-2666 Fax: 732-780-0394 parishoffice@stmaryscoltsneck.org Bishop of the Diocese of Trenton: Most Reverend David M. O’Connell, C. M. Pastor: Reverend Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee Pastor Emeritus: Reverend Fr. William J. Bausch Trustees: Bill LaMorte Irene Weller Worship schedule inside.

Refer to website for more detailed information www.stmaryscoltsneck.org Deacon: John Wedemeyer

Nineteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time August 9, 2020

And those in the boat worshiped him, saying, "Truly you are the Son of God." Matthew 14:33

Mass for The Assumption Of The Blessed Virgin Mary Saturday, August 15, 9 am in the Church

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Mass Intentions for the Week of August 8 - August 16 For * Requested by Saturday, August 8 - 5 PM Church 5 PM Intentions of Leonidas Mavrookas * Suzanne Schlesinger William Gurkas * Rosalyn Gurkas Alfred Oliverie * Barbara Saake Sunday, August 9 – Church 19th Sunday in Ordinary Time 8 AM Pro Populo Christopher Laurito * Michele Telesca 10 AM Carl Pancila * Dickinson-Pancila Family Sergio Dos Santos and Fernando Ferreira * Dos Santos Family Edward McLeod * Una McLeod 12 PM Jack Duffy * Agnes Duffy & Family and Jim Schatzle & Family Eliodoro Felibrico * Anna Felibrico Monday, August 10 – 9 AM Chapel Anthony (Sonny) LaMorte * Ginny and Bill LaMorte Tuesday, August 11 – 9 AM Chapel Christine Volpe * Angela and Tom Kinlin Wednesday, August 12 – 9 AM Chapel Linda and Theodoor Damen * Damen Family Thursday, August 13 – 9 AM Chapel Connie Rega * Rorie and Jack Coppola Friday, August 14 – 9 AM Chapel Logan Dayton *Jeanne and Matt Cerbone Saturday, August 15 – Church Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary 9 AM Special Intention * Suzanne Schlesinger 5 PM Catherine Pancetti * Rev. Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee, Staff and Parishioners Mary Coppola * Maureen and John Logan Dayton, Jr. * Ann Marie Dayton Sunday, August 16 – Church 20th Sunday in Ordinary Time 8 AM Marilyn Newby * Mr. and Mrs. Franceschetti Helen and John Sionas * Eileen and Michael Stivala John R. Fitzpatrick * Fitzpatrick Family 10 AM Brian H. McKay * Carol and Frank Donahue Frank Viggiani * Rose Mary Viggiani Pro Populo 12 PM Michael Carroll * Diane Dragone Nelson Roman * Marilyn and Jim Cracchiolo Baptism after the 12 noon Mass Gianlucca Caggiano

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Please pray for the following members of our parish family who are ill: Marcela Abril Kathleen Amatel Fr Bill Bausch Eileen Beckley Janice Basilice Christen Chellis Blake Conley John DeSimone Kaitlin Donahue Nagle Tom Fadale Joann Feliciti James Fiedler Emily Gioacchini Edward Habrack Marian Higgins Tom Hudak Anton Kopp Theresia Kopp

Bridget Korn Lori Lettieri Donna Lodi Leonidas Mavrookas Mary Joan McNamara Walter Moeller Kevin O’Shea Stanley Rembisz Paola Richmond Abel Rodriguez Owen Shoemaker Victoria Slater Dominic Sozio Gerard P. Thompson Seneida Tomasetti Cecilia Vilca Lauren Vinci

To add a family member to the sick list for 8 weeks, please call or e-mail the Parish Office. Thank you! 732-780-2666 or parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Mass Intention Request ONLINE Available through the link below is an online form to request Mass Intentions for the remainder of the 2020 calendar. https://bit.ly/3dbHyip

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3 Lifelong Catechesis Week August 10 - August 16

Almighty and eternal God, those who take refuge in you will be glad and forever will shout for joy.

Protect these soldiers as they discharge their duties.

Protect them with the shield of your strength and keep them safe from all evil and harm.

May the power of your love enable them to return home in safety, that with all who love them, they may ever praise you for your loving care.

We ask this through Christ our Lord.

PRAY for Military & First Responders SN Colton Boag, USCG LCpl Devon Francis Chrzan, USMC Lt. Col. John Anthony Coppola, US Army Major Douglas Coppola, US Army Lt. Mary Herman, USN SN Christian Houlihan, USN Ensign Jason Joseph Howe, USN SPC Michael John Mento, US Army PFC Nicholas Poskonka, US Army Captain Richard Savo, US Army 1st Lt. Adam Sjoholm, US Army 1st Lt. Ryan Tanguay, US Army SSgt Stephen Witherow, USAF LCpl Edward Zarzecki, USMC If there is a family member you wish to be placed on the list, please contact the Parish Bulletin at 732-780 -2666 or parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org.

GROTTO CANDLES The Grotto Candles are available for your prayer intentions.

Offering is $3.00 per candle.

READINGS FOR THE WEEK 10 Mon 11 Tue 12 Wed 13 Thu 14 Fri

2 Cor 9:6-10/Jn 12:24-26 (618) Pss Prop Ez 2:8—3:4/Mt 18:1-5, 10, 12-14 Ez 9:1-7; 10:18-22/Mt 18:15-20 Ez 12:1-12/Mt 18:21—19:1 Ez 16:1-15, 60, 63 or 16:59-63/Mt 19:3-12

Sunday, August 16 - 20th Sunday in Ordinary Time Is 56:1, 6-7; Rom 11:13-15, 29-32; Mt 15:21-28 Questions for Deeper Reflections: Question for Children: What is your favorite way to talk with Jesus? What words do you use?

Question for Youth: Do you trust that God hears your prayers? Do you believe that your prayer makes a difference?

Question for Adults: When you pray, how do you know that Jesus will really respond?- Lifelong Catechesis

Sanctuary Lamp Intentions ONLINE Available through the link below is an online form to request Sanctuary Lamp Intentions for the remainder of the 2020 calendar. https://bit.ly/37RKz5p

Sanctuary Lamp Consider donating the sanctuary lamp that burns in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament in the Church or in the Chapel in honor of a living or deceased loved one.

The suggested donation is $25.

Intentions are available in the Chapel August & September

Church John Grabowski Dickinson Pancila Family

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Andrew J. Macirowski Pastoral Coordinator for Worship & Music / Principal Organist Worship@stmaryscoltsneck.org Music@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Notes on Physical Distancing at Mass When attending Mass, whether it be for Sunday/Saturday, weekday, a funeral or wedding, it is important that the proper physical distancing guidelines are followed. What does this mean exactly? 

6 feet of space ON ALL SIDES between your immediate social cohort (family or others you spend plenty of time with) and others. When choosing a seat in a pew, this entails not sitting directly in front of, behind, or next to another person unless they are part of your group.

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Proceed directly to a pew when entering the nave; do not wander or socialize with others or block the aisles

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Maintain 6 feet of space when in line for Holy Communion.

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When Mass has ended, maintain that same physical distance as you and your family exit the church building.

Therefore we encourage our congregants to arrive early and use their best judgement when finding a proper place to sit, and thank them for your cooperation.

There is also a need for volunteers to clean the wooden pew tops after each Mass, both weekend and weekday. Many hands make light work and assistance is greatly appreciated.

Make a conscious decision to hang around people who inspire you to holiness.

Then, watch as you grow.

Jon Leonetti

Online Mass viewing continues with the newest weekend Mass becoming available for Saturdays after 5 pm The Parish of Saint Mary - You Tube Channel (https://bit.ly/2SkpRET)

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Worship Schedule: August 15 - August 16 Twentieth Sunday in Ordinary Time Altar Server Saturday, 5:00 PM Sunday, 8:00 AM Sunday, 10:00 AM Sunday, 12:00 PM

EMHC

Reader 1

Reader 2

Cantor

Usher

William Hines Mark Hines

Susan Murphy - Alt

T Mullin

Charles Young

Diane Dragone

Anthony Mendoza Joseph Powell

Ashley Austin Daniel Austin

Joseph Flanagan - Alt

Anthony Bongiorno

Annette Raynor

David Maliakel

Michael DiScenza Ed Piotrowski

Valeska Yaninas Tesya Yaninas

Gregory Calderaro - Alt

Matt Yaninas

Barbara Schaflin

David Maliakel

Greg Penczak William Spence

NOT FILLED NOT FILLED

Lee Gesner - Alt

Alicia Mendez

Carl Simone

David Maliakel

James Dolan Joseph Rinaldo William Starce

EXPECTATIONS AS WE GATHER FOR MASS Enter via the front doors of the Church Each person is wearing their mask and to observe social distancing when entering/exiting, selecting a seat, & processing/recessing to receive Holy Communion. It will require all to come earlier than usual to search for seating that observes social distancing. Masks and Social/Physical distancing are required. There can be no physical collection of Stewardship Offerings; A designated box(es) will be placed in the Narthex/Gathering Space for the placement of envelopes or offerings. Thank you for your generosity. Missals, Missalettes, Bulletins, and other papers have been removed. Holy Water has been drained from all locations. Parish Clergy will distribute Holy Communion; we ask all coming forth to observe distancing front to back and side to side.

We have been advised that socializing before or after the Mass inside or outside is to be discouraged; clergy are not permitted to greet parishioners before or after the Mass.

NOTE: For those Catholic faithful that need to consider any possible health and safety risks involved with attending a public gathering the weekend Mass will be available online. see below Monday through Friday 9 am Daily Mass in the chapel in the Parish Hall.

Thank you for putting up with all of this so that we can re-convene our liturgical prayer and sacramental life in a socially responsible way.

For all parishioners: Congregating before and after Mass is prohibited, as per the bishop. There will be no children’s liturgy of the word dismissal. Volunteers are greatly needed to wipe down the wood of the pews after all Masses (weekend and

weekday). We will have a cleaning crew take care of the floors, bathrooms etc, but need this little bit of additional help. Please contact Andrew if you are able. At weekday Masses, no one is to arrive prior to 8:30 AM. All Masses will be in the Chapel in the Parish Hall. Exposition remains suspended for now. Private adoration of the Blessed Sacrament reserved in the tabernacle is welcomed and encouraged at any time.

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Quo vadis…

My Dear Parishioners: This weekend we celebrate the Nineteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time. Most of us will not have the experience of Peter—nothing in our human experience leads us to expect that we will ever walk on water! But that is not the goal of faith or of Christian living. Worship is. The real challenge is to see in this gospel the way we might encounter Jesus in our everyday lives—not as One walking on water, but as One who dwells in the other in need. In a sense, then, our paschal mystery living reverses the roles and we are the ones called to see Jesus in anyone who is calling out for help, anyone who seems to be “drowning” in the chaos of everyday living, anyone who cries out to be saved. In this reversed situation the homage doesn’t come to us for any good we might do, but our response to those in need is an act of homage of the God whom we serve in the other. It takes more faith to see Jesus in the other than to walk on water!

This, because it demands a great self-emptying on our part to see dignity in those in need. But this is also the glimpse of the life that comes out of our dying—serving another is an encounter with Jesus, the One who saves.

Next weekend we observe the Solemnity of the Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary, Saturday, 15 August. Mass will be celebrated at 9 am in the church. This solemnity is also the principal Patron of the Diocese of Trenton.

Let us pray in a special way for His Excellency, The Most Reverend Bishop of Trenton, and all those who serve the People of God in Central New Jersey. Through the intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary may we continue to grow in holiness and service.

Usually we welcome a visiting missionary as part of the Society for the Propagation of the Faith Missionary Co-Operation Plan. These missionaries inform us of the great work they are doing to spread our Roman Catholic Faith throughout the world. This year it has been decided to suspend these visits due to the pandemic. Let us keep them in our prayer.

Our 2nd module of Summer Intensive Religious Education is underway. Let us pray for the children, their catechists and their parents. Survey results from July session are both encouraging and helpful to assist in future planning.

Last week our parish finance council had its quarterly in person meeting. We completed our review of the Fiscal Year; reviewed the budget for the current fiscal year; reviewed the Annual Catholic Appeal and Faith to Move Mountains Diocesan Campaigns; Sunday Stewardship Offerings during this pandemic and as we move forward. I am grateful to these bona fide parishioners for their counsel and expertise.

We will continue the weekly broadcast Mass for the coming months as His Excellency, The Most Reverend Bishop of Trenton has extended the dispensation from the obligation to attend Sunday Mass. We continue to rigorously enforce participation norms as we gather for Mass each week. Thanks to all for their cooperation.

Have a great week. Let us remember one another in prayer. Peace. Father Jeff

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Faith Formation Office Dr. Jim Bridges Coordinator of FF/ Adult Catechesis

Julia Cullen Coordinator of FF/ Elementary RE

Rose Farrow Coordinator of FF/ Youth Catechesis & Service

FaithFormation@stmaryscoltsneck.org ReligiousEd@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults have not been baptized into the Catholic Church, have been baptized but have not yet received the

sacraments of Confirmation and Eucharist have been baptized in another Christian Church

& would like to become a member of the Catholic Church The RCIA is a conversion journey - a time for learning, sharing, bonding with others and living your faith more deeply. To learn more, please contact Faith Formation. faithformation@stmaryscoltsneck.org

YouthRE@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Spiritual Direction Sr. Pat Schladebeck, LPC and Trained spiritual director is is offering spiritual direction on Zoom or FaceTime. She will also offer counseling on Tuesdays and Thursdays, again through zoom or FaceTime. The offering will be $60 for both but she will also offer reduced Rates for those who can’t afford it. If you are interested you can call her on her landline and leave a message as to when and the number you can be reached. Her number is (732) 704 -3951

CATHOLIC APPS Laudate (Free) - includes Daily Readings, Podcasts, Saint of the Day, Rosary and Chaplet, just to name a few.

3-Minute Retreat (Free) – Loyola Press’s app, for a peaceful prayer experience that guides you on a replacement bite-sized retreat using Scripture passages, soothing music, and reflection questions that you simply can pray at your own pace.

CATHOLIC RADIO STATIONS

August Dear God, I pray that my children would be people of integrity (being the same person when no one is looking). Keep them from the faulty belief that you can be one person online and another in reality. Keep them from an obsession w i t h image. May they find their identity in You. COL 3:9-10

The Catholic Channel on Sirus XM channel 129 Solid Catholic Talk EWTN Sirus XM channel 130 DOMESTIC CHURCH CATHOLIC RADIO Broadcasting from Trenton talk radio for Catholic life and faith. Tune your radio to 1260 AM, 89.3 FM, 1580 AM or 91.9 FM

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Temporal Administration, Stewardship & Outreach Edwin A. Sevillano TemporalAdmin@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Sharing Our Treasure August 2 - 18th Sunday in Ordinary Time Weekly Sacrificial Stewardship

$ 15,504

Envelope Contributions

$ 9,314

Electronic/Online Contributions

$ 5,778

Loose Contributions

$ 412

Avg. Contribution per Household this week $ 51.68 # of Contributing Households # Registered Parishioner Households

292 1,080

Building & Mortgage Reduction Fund $ 3,439.32 (Our monthly mortgage payment is $6,289.04)

https://giving.parishsoft.com/smcn Sign-in for our Online Giving system to make your parish offerings from your bank account or Credit Card!

To set up an online giving account please visit

THANK YOU for the Sacrificial Stewardship Offerings as we support the ministries, programs and facilities of our parish. May God Bless you for the sacrifices that you make.

2020 ANNUAL CATHOLIC APPEAL UPDATE

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Should you require our assistance setting up your new account, please call the parish office at 732-780-2666.

You can also download the ConnectNow Giving App for

As of 27 July 2020

Parish goal: $75,000 Total raised: $46,965 Percentage of goal: 63% # of Donors: 189 Payments received: $41,386 Average gi : $248.49 Thank you to all parishioners who have already made a pledge. If you have not https://www.dioceseoftrenton.org/aca-donate-page

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Stewardship Prayer Loving Father, you alone are the source of every good gift. We praise you for all your gifts to us, and we thank you for your abundant generosity.

Everything we have, and all that we are, comes from you. Help us be grateful and responsible.

We commit ourselves to being good stewards. Help us develop and share your gifts with others as you have generously shared yourself with us.

COVID - 9 Precautions Martha Mary Guild’s Annual Clothing/Linen Sale will NOT be held this year.

As a precaution for those that volunteer to help preparing for and running the sale the MM Board has CANCELLED the sale for 2020.

We look forward to the next Sale in Sept. 2021!

We welcome all your generous donations to Saint Mary Parish.

As a reminder, loose cash offerings at Mass cannot be traced to any individuals and therefore not considered for end of year statement of charitable contributions.

We suggest to ALWAYS use your offering envelopes or to sign up for online giving at https://goo.gl/w4oTes. Alternatively there are blank envelopes available in church where you can fill in your name so your donations can be properly posted to your account. If you are not receiving envelopes or if you have any questions, please contact the parish office at 732-780-2666 x310.

Thank you for taking this matter into consideration!

We make this prayer through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, now and forever.

Amen (Daniel Conway, Advancing the Mission of the Church)

GIFT CARD SCAM ALERT Please be aware of fraudulent emails or text messages claiming to be from a pastor or a representative of the archdiocese asking you to purchase gift cards to help the poor or sick. Such fraudulent activity should be reported to the State of New Jersey Cyber Crimes Unit at (609) 584-5051, ext. 5664, or online at www.njsp.org/division/ investigations/cyber-crimes.shtml Please note: Official electronic communications from the parish will always come from the @stmaryscoltsneck.org domain.

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Catholic Charities News You’re invited to the Catholic Charities inaugural Guardian Angel Benefit of Hope virtual event on Wednesday September 30, 2020 from 6:00 to 7:30 PM.

Story: Charlie Brown and Snoopy are sitting in a chair watching TV. Charlie Brown holds the remote and turns to Snoopy and says “Wouldn’t it be nice if life were like a DVD and you could fast- forward through the crummy times!” Nice indeed, but not realistic.

Ask someone who has weathered the storm of a spouse’s unemployment or depression.

Ask parents who have accompanied their son or daughter through a long-term illness and multiple hospitalizations.

Within the sacrament of marriage and, as Pope Francis calls it, “the vocation of the family,” disciples of Jesus Christ are called to love one another as God loves us. We are called to have courage in good times and bad, in sickness and in health. In Matthew’s Gospel, let’s not forget, Jesus gets in the boat. When we love each other that’s where we belong. (See The Joy of Love, The Word Among Us Press, 2016, pgs. 51-72.)

Practice being still and silent this week. Find a time each day to sit and be still. Practice silence. This is how we hear God’s voice, in the midst of a storm, saying to us, “Take courage! It is I. Do not be afraid” (Matthew 14:27). Rev. Msgr. Richard La Verghetta

This fun and entertaining virtual fund raiser, hosted by comedian Joe Piscopo, will feature entertainment, a silent auction, basket raffles, giveaways and a Super 50/50 raffle. Catholic Charities Diocese of Trenton, inspired by our Catholic faith, provides trauma – focused specialized counseling, addiction treatment, domestic violence services and help meeting basic needs for over 100,000 people each year, regardless of their religion. The celebration is an opportunity to hear stories of the transforming impact Catholic Charities makes on our community.

There is no charge to attend the event but, we ask that you register at www.catholiccharitiestrenton.org/ GABOH2020. Hope you can tune in.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you for your support and please call, if you know of someone in need of our services. 877-871-7551 or 609-8717551.

Healing After Abortion: Do you know someone who is carrying the grief of a past abortion? There is always hope. The pain and sorrow of abortion does not need to endure for a lifetime. A “Day of Prayer and Healing” offers the opportunity to experience the love and mercy of God and to respond to His invitation to begin the journey of healing the wound of abortion. For upcoming dates, locations, and confidential registration, or just to talk to a Sister, please call the Sisters of Life at (866)-575-0075 (toll free) or reach us by email at hopeandhealing@sistersoflife.org.

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