Sex Education Talks

By Cassie Beer, Director of Women’s Fund of Greater Fort Wayne

It’s that time of year: new backpacks, shopping carts full of school supplies, and adjusting to new schedules. As families transition back into the school year, there’s one important supply that should be on everyone’s list: open and comprehensive sexual education talks. Providing accurate and age-appropriate information about sexual health can empower teenagers to make informed decisions and navigate relationships responsibly. In this article, we’ll explore the importance of having these conversations and provide some tips for parents to make these discussions more comfortable and effective.

1. Normalize the conversation:

One of the first steps in having comprehensive sexual education talks is to normalize the topic. Create an environment where your child feels comfortable discussing sex and relationships without fear of judgment or embarrassment.

Let them know that you’re open to talking about any questions or concerns they might have.

2. Start early and build on previous discussions:

Ideally, sexual education discussions should start at a young age and continue as your teenager grows. Begin with age-appropriate conversations about body parts, boundaries, and consent. As they get older, gradually introduce more complex topics such as contraception, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and healthy relationships.

3. Use reliable sources and age-appropriate materials:

Ensure that you have accurate information to share with your teenager. Rely on reputable sources such as educational websites, books, or even consult with healthcare professionals. Use ageappropriate materials and language to convey the information effectively.

4. Discuss consent and boundaries:

Teach and model for your child the importance of consent and respecting personal boundaries. Explain what consent means and emphasize that it should be enthusiastic, ongoing, and freely given. Encourage open communication and establish the importance of consent in all aspects of their lives, not just related to sexual encounters.

5. Cover contraception and protection methods:

Discuss different types of contraception methods available and their effectiveness. Explain how condoms can help prevent both unwanted pregnancies and STIs. Educate your teenager about the importance of using protection consistently and responsibly.

6. Address online safety and healthy relationships:

In today’s digital age, it’s crucial to talk about online safety, including the potential risks of sharing personal information, sexting, and engaging with strangers online. Additionally, discuss healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect, communication, and setting boundaries both online and offline.

7. Encourage questions and active listening:

Encourage your child to ask questions and provide them with accurate answers. Active listening is vital during these conversations: your undivided attention, validate their concerns, and avoid judgment. Let them know that they can come to you with any questions or issues they may have in the future. Be open-minded and non-judgmental: It’s essential to approach these discussions with an open mind and a nonjudgmental attitude.

8. Follow-up and ongoing support:

Sexual education talks should not be a one-time conversation. Follow up regularly, checking in on their understanding, and addressing any new questions or concerns that may arise. Let them know that you’re always available to provide guidance and support.

By having comprehensive sexual education talks with your child as they head back to school, you’re equipping them with the knowledge and skills they need to navigate their sexual health responsibly. Research also shows that comprehensive sexual education lowers teen pregnancy rates as well as incidents of sexual violence. It may be uncomfortable at first, but trust that you are giving your child one of the best back to school gifts they can receive: accurate information, guidance, and support to make informed decisions. a