Giving Thanks & Giving Back

Giving Thanks & Giving Back By Deborah C. Gerbers

Whew… 2020 has been quite the year: a global pandemic, civil unrest and protests, tumultuous politics, and a general feeling of anxiety and unease. Being present, mindful and appreciative of all things positive can be helpful in changing our mindset to being more grateful for things we might overlook. With Thanksgiving around the corner, it is also a good time to not only reflect on what we are thankful for, but also to give more of ourselves to better the lives of others who may not be as fortunate.

Spend some time with family and

friends. Surrounding yourself with loved ones can brighten your mood and help us remember we are not alone! If possible, set up a socially distant coffee date with a friend, phone or video chat with a relative, grab some takeout for a home date for you and your spouse while the kids watch a movie, or meet up with an acquaintance for a kids’ playdate/ moms’ visit. Being around others and socializing is important for our human nature. It reminds us that we are surrounded by people who love us and are going through many of the same things we are.

Daily reflection can be a great way to start the day.

Try waking up a little earlier than usual to give yourself some time for a quiet cup of coffee, maybe some journaling, and peaceful prayer or meditation. Being mindful of the positives in your life can be helpful at a time when many things seem overwhelming and uncertain. Choose a favorite spot like a comfy chair, quiet home office or den, or under a warm blanket on the front porch where you won’t be disturbed should any little ones arise early and interrupt. All it takes is 20 minutes or so to gather your thoughts, be aware and grateful for life’s goodness, and get your thoughts on paper so you can revisit later. Do some good and give back. Look for easy ways to help out locally this Thanksgiving season. It can be helpful to keep in mind those in need as a way to be grateful for what we have. Consider sorting through closets and donating winter gear to Coats for Kids; your space will be weeded out and you’ll be helping clothe kids this winter. Look into Toys for Tots, as well, and give toys to be given to less fortunate children during the holidays. Get your kids involved too—encourage them to see how other kids can benefit from our kindness, and they’re likely to have fun picking out toys for gifts. Also check with your church or school for giving trees and adopt a family to buy much needed clothing, shoes and household goods for during this time. Nursing homes and hospitals have visiting restrictions due to COVID-19, but it’s worth it to check with the staff about window visits and making our elders smile with maybe some hand drawn pictures and bright, happy faces.

Thanksgiving is the time to be present, thankful, grateful and generous. Take time to remember your own blessings and goodness in your life and look for ways to give back that love and generosity to others in need. a