Malta Pride 2019

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SEPTEMBER 2019 The Malta Independent on Sunday

ELDERLY GAY PERSONS F HUMILIATION WHEN GO INTO RESIDENTIAL CARE Editor’s

NOTE nother year has passed and Malta Pride week is back in full force. As one of Malta’s top newspapers and portals, this year we have joined forces with Allied Rainbow Communities to celebrate diversity and continue to create national and community awareness.

This supplement includes a colourful variety on all aspects of the LGBTIQ+ community.

From the history of gayness in Malta to the community’s health needs – from chemsex to a transgender life without the flamboyance and much more.

Institutionally, a lot has been achieved over the last few years. But there is a lot still to be done, particularly in peoples’ mentalities. We look forward to the day when marking this day will be unnecessary. We are certainly not there yet.

I really hope that you find this supplement and the related stories we will be publishing on our portal (www.independent.com.mt) and social media pages fascinating.

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Peter* had tried to commit suicide several times. He tried hanging himself to the bed, took an overdose of pills and even tried to jump, but his mum stopped him just in time.

Today, Peter identifies as a gay man and is now in his late 50s, but growing up gay in post-war era was not easy.

Rebekah Cilia writes t was during this time that Peter, not being able to fit in, resorted to self-harm and attempted to end his life. Although Peter is now happily married, he is part of a community that is often overlooked.

Peter was one of the participants in a study

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exploring disparities within social and healthcare support in Malta concerning older Lesbian and Gay (LG) persons carried out by Christian Vella.

The study addresses a new phenomenon in gerontology termed “gayby boomers”. For the first time, society is faced with persons of the baby boomer generation who identify as gay, who have reached middle or older age, and are “out” and seeking recognition, understanding and integration in older age, like no other generation before.

Apart from identifying as gay himself, Vella started investigating the subject because he noticed that in Malta when it comes to older LG persons they seem to be “invisible”, not only in the wider community, but also within the LGBT community.

Events organised for the LBGT community are predominantly attended by younger people and although nowadays people are becoming more conscious, posters of events often only show young people with perfect and able bodies.

Although older people tend to prefer doing different things from their younger counterparts, Vella discovered during his research, that the older LG community like connecting with younger people as well, even if just for support.

As people age, their support network starts to diminish because unfortunately, their friends start passing away. Vella explained that if they make friends with the younger generation their support network can increase.

When asked about the

• 1973: Decriminalisation of homosexuality • 1999: First Xarabank programme on LGBT people • 2001: MGRM was founded • 2004: First Pride attended

by Louis Galea, Evarist Bartolo and Marie-Louise Coleiro Preca • 2004: Launch of National Gay Helpline • 2004: Accession: Aquis Communitaire • 2004: Drachma was founded • 2004: Gender Identity Recognition Act XVIII of 2004 • 2005: Transposition of Employment Framework Directive in Public Service

number of older LG persons, Vella said that although the number is not small, they are generally not visible, so the number is relatively unknown.

Originally, in fact, his research was set to inquire into the lives of LG persons above the age of 65. For gay men, this initial target population was not challenging to reach, however, the same could not be said for the lesbian group.

He believes that being a woman may have led to further invisibility because these people may have felt that they had not followed the norms of what society expects from a woman, like having a family and children. This could lead to more intense feelings of rejection and negativity not experienced by gay men.

One of the female participants of Vella’s study, aged 66, does not adhere to any labels and is totally against them due to their negative connotations. She does not identify as a lesbian although she is in a relationship.

Another participant identifies as an out and proud gay person, rather than lesbian.

“They still see being labelled gay as something really dirty and a taboo,” Vella noted. “They come from a time when in Malta being gay was a sin and even seen as mental illness.”

Many elderly LG persons also have an element of homophobia, Vella explained, because they have spent their lives hearing that being gay is bad. “They are mad at themselves, even perhaps at the younger generation for being too flamboyant.”

Research also shows that older LG persons are less inclined to seek healthcare

because in the past, due to discrimination and persecution, they never felt comfortable confiding in medical practitioners about their sexuality.

Peter recalled a couple of incidents, when interviewed by Vella, where he felt mistreated by healthcare professionals due to his sexual orientation. One episode was when he took his husband to the emergency department due to heart problems. He recalled the staff asking all sorts of questions regarding Peter’s relation to his husband. Instead of treating the ailment, they sent them to the GU clinic.

During his interview with Vella, Peter also said that there must be more visibility and understanding of the needs of older LG persons, specifically by those working in support services.

Vella spoke of how Peter was discriminated against and

Christian Vella.

• 2007: Transposition of Employment Framework Directive in private sector • 2008: MGRM petition for recognition of same-sex couples garners over 1,000 signatures • 2010: Launch of Position Paper: A Proposed Gender Identity Bill for Malta • 2010: We Are (University LGBTQ+ Organisation was set up • 2011: Marriage Equality Position Paper launched • 2012: Joanne Cassar vs Malta case put to European Court of Human Rights • 2012: MGRM refused to endorse proposed cohabitation legislation

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Elderly LGBTIQ: Government providing training for residential and day centre staff

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denied a male carer, and how at first an employee from the department informed him that since he was married, his partner is duty-bound to assist with his care needs, without even listening to his story.

Even though he was eligible for such services, being a person with disabilities, he was placed in a long waiting list, so in the meantime, he managed to find a male carer.

“Aġenzija Support did not accept my request, since I am gay, and under no circumstances was I to have a male carer. That means that it has to be a woman who washes me, it has to be a woman to help assist me with personal matters, an option which I could not accept,” Peter told Vella.

Vella noted that being gay does not mean you should be identified as a person who simply sleeps with men, but as a person in your own right. “It does not mean that every man a gay person sees he is going to jump on him,” Vella explained.

On one occasion, during a training seminar on the subject, managers of several residential care homes were asked if they have any LG residents and the feedback given was that they do not and that LG persons will

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enter in the future, as if they only exist in this generation.

“It is practically impossible that no LG persons live in residential care homes.

Probably they are hiding because of their safety. Once you reach older age safety becomes paramount,” Vella explained.

“Elderly LG persons want to be in a place where they do not have to hide, where they can tell their life story and not have to go back in the closet,” he continues.

Peter commented during the interview with Vella that “it is something natural for everyone to speak about their childhood [in care homes] and I would only be able to disclose only a little of it”.

All participants in Vella’s study hoped that given the option they would age-in-place, as they all dread the idea of being sent to a care home. Many of the participants said they would like the idea of having a care home just for LG persons.

One of the participants even proposed a little wing at St Vincent de Paul residence for LG persons, considering it is so big, so they could feel at ease.

When asked if this segregation further

perpetuates stigma, Vella said it took him a while to understand it too, but considering how these people might have been harassed in the past, they do not want to go through it again in the last years of their life.

Elderly LG persons are scared of being humiliated by other residents, who may have been the same people who harassed them in their younger years, Vella explained. Furthermore, a lot of the care staff in care homes are from third-world countries, where being gay is not accepted.

Vella believes that training and education for the staff are paramount but also when hiring people, they should be questioned on how they would deal with a LG resident. Small initiatives could make a big difference although progress will be slow, Vella noted.

“We need to educate the young... the elderly like me won’t change their minds, they will keep believing what they believe... it’s the young we need to educate,” one of the participants said of the elderly residents in care homes.

Having worked in a care home himself, and now having carried out this study, Vella said “I would be really scared,”

• 2013: Setting up of LGBTIQ Consultative Council • 2013: Launch of Rainbow Support Service • 2014: IDAHO Forum is held in Malta, co-hosted with Sweden • 2014: Constitutional protection for grounds of sexual orientation and gender identity • 2014: Civil Union Act passed in April with first Civil Union celebrated on the 13th June • 2015: LGBTI+Gozo was set up • 2015: Allied Rainbow Communities was set up

when asked how he would feel if he was in their shoes now.

Although everyone worries about the future because it is unknown, Vella noted that he would probably not like to live in an exclusive LG persons care home but would prefer to live in a gay-friendly home. “My reality is different from elderly LG persons today.”

Abroad, Vella explained, there exists an LGBT equality mark, whereby residential homes are audited to ensure LGBT persons are treated equally. The demand abroad for LGBT homes is huge, Vella said, as more are opening. Studies have shown that instead of going back into the closet some elderly LGBT persons may come out of the closet knowing they have a safe environment to live in.

Peter, as well as another participant in the study, believes that there should be better representation of the senior gay citizen, with Peter saying “we shouldn’t isolate ourselves and if there is a gay pride or something similar we need to be there and be shown on television so that we can be seen”. *not his real name

• 2015: Gender Identity, Gender Expression and Sex Characteristics Act Adopted • 2015: Launch of Trans, Gender Variant and Intersex Students in School Policy • 2016: Adoption of Affirmation of Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity and Gender Expression Act • 2016: Depathologisation of Trans Identities • 2017: Marriage Equality • 2017: Introduction of X Marker on ID Card and Passport

Over the past year, the Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity, Gender Expression and Sex Characteristics (SOGIGESC) Unit has collaborated with the Department for Active Ageing and Community Care (DAACC) to deliver training to staff responsible for both residential homes and day centres.

Government’s LGBTIQ Equality Strategy and Action Plan 2018-2022 includes a measure which aims to identify and address the specific needs of LGBTIQ, with a specific mention to older people, including those who are in care settings.

During this year, around 70 staff members of the DAACC attended a half-day training, Gabriella Calleja, right, head SOGIGESC Unit told The Malta Independent. Contact has also been established with St Vincent de Paul Residence and with a private residential care service provider to conduct similar training with their staff.

The SOGIGESC Unit will also be rolling out a poster campaign, over the next few weeks, aimed at enhancing the visibility of LGBTIQ older persons in such settings.

Calleja also noted that the Unit will also be working with civil society to provide workshops directly to the elderly, to promote inclusive and safe spaces for LGBTIQ older persons.

• 2018: Health coverage under the NHS introduced for Gender Identity & Sex Characteristics Related Conditions • 2018: Malta Pride (ARC) becomes a member of the European Pride Organisers Association (EPOA)

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A CATWALK TO STRUT FASHION, EQUALITY AND INCLUSIVITY hroughout history, many individuals from the LGBTQ* community have found a safe haven within the fashion industry which gave them the opportunity to better their life conditions and thrive creatively – enabling them to embrace who they really are.

This year Karly wanted to contribute to the pride week celebration by sharing her platform and empowering others through the medium of fashion.

The first event for Pride Week was the Pride Fashion Show, which took place at the Black Pearl on 6 September starting Pride Week full on with a bang. The Pride Fashion Show celebrated the local fashion scene with designers, models and artists who form part of the LGBTQ* community and their allies. The evening showcased looks by local

T Last year, KARLY MAY was the first open, Maltese transgender model to walk for three designers during Fashion Week.

She was also Malta’s Pride Grand Marshall, walking at the front of the crowd among thousands, celebrating diversity, love and pride. Giulia Magri reports Photography by Michael Camilleri

talents Carla Grima, Gabrielle Fenech, Gaetano, Herman Vassallo and Parascandalo. We met up with trailblazer and activist Karly May during preparations for the fashion show and to discuss the letter “T” in the LGBTIQ local community.

“Fashion has played a huge role in the process of constructing my identity and it was my first exposure to different ways of being a woman that weren’t necessarily rooted in conventions. Last year, through being the first open transgender model to walk during Fashion week, I found myself having a platform where I can share my experience in order to empower others. While I was proud and humbled, I did not want to be a headline-grabbing line. To this extent I decided to organise the Pride Fashion Show, which will see models from the LGBTQ* community share the stage

with cisgender models, who are our allies, walking for a number of local designers. Through this fashion show I want to offer a platform to others like me and promote a message of true inclusivity and equality.” She explained that fashion plays an important role in the LGBTQI community and pride itself and she questioned how it was never truly celebrated during pride. While preparation was a slight headache, chasing people and keeping up with deadlines, Karly was extremely excited and nervous to coordinate the fashion show, but she felt that her own experiences have helped her greatly.

Looking back, being the first open transgender model to walk on the runway, she recalls how it helped her come out of her shell, especially in her role of activism. “Looking back, I still remember all the doubts and fears

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regarding going public with my journey, at which point my friend told me that sharing my story could really inspire someone or help them with their own journey.” Karly has always been honest about her story and who she is, with family, friends and partners. “You cannot know me and not know my childhood, my journey, what inspired me and how I came to be the person I am today.” She explains that after speaking with her family, she began thinking back to when she was younger, how there was no one who she could relate to or be inspired by due to limited access to information and because many did not feel safe in sharing their experience.

“Growing up there was limited information about these matters, I had no idea what being a transgender person was and what it meant.”

Improving the transgender community by improving the local mentality “I know that even if I am part of a minority, I still grew up with some privileges that enabled me to take on this journey. I know that not everyone has the same conditions in life and therefore I don’t expect everyone to be as open as I am. I decided to take control of my narrative because when you do that, it will be easier to connect to people and through these connections many of the fragile

I know that even if I am part of a minority, I still grew up with some privileges that enabled me to take on this journey. I know that not everyone has the same conditions in life and therefore I don’t expect everyone to be as open as I am. misconceptions over the word transgender easily dissipate and it becomes easier to realize that there should be no difference between transgender and cisgender people.

We are trying to aspire to be the best that we can be.”

As times change, mentalities must also adapt and change. She expressed that the main step forward is education and awareness. Just as she

learnt what it meant to be transgender, her family grew and learnt with her.

She remarked that while Malta has the most progressive LGBTQI laws, there is still a gap between the spirit of these laws and the overall mentality.

“This is also due to historic factors.

The struggle for equality for the LGBTIQ community was mainly brought forward and focused around the LGB. Therefore, throughout the years there was less awareness and visibility of the transgender community. We have local NGOs such as MGRM, ARC, Drachma, LGBTIQ Gozo who do an amazing job on a variety of levels. I want to bring more awareness and also normalise the issue of being transgender by sharing my daily experiences, which show that we all go through the same struggles.

Through this kind of awareness and education I hope to create a ripple effect that contributes positive societal changes.”

When asked what advice she would give to someone facing difficulty coming out as transgender, Karly understands that it is a big step forward to come out. “Looking back at my early 20s during my transition, I changed quite a lot, but I was also unhappy and angry constantly, growing up and not understanding what I was feeling.” She said that accepting yourself for who you are is the first initial step and to be honest

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with who you are. “My life is not perfect, but I wake up every morning and I am blessed to have my health, my close relationships and being comfortable in my own skin; things I would not have today if I remained angry and constantly taking out my anger on others.”

Pride is a celebration to enjoy your authentic self When asked to look back at the first time she attended a pride march, Karly blushed and said that her first pride was only a mere five years ago.

“It was not as big as last year’s, but it was growing already.” With a smile, she recalled how last year, as Grand Marshall, she was at the front of the march and was on the float. “It was so much fun, seeing all those people including my friends supporting the community. My mother also caught a bus to come to Valletta to support me and experience this celebration with me and my community. It was a truly happy moment.” She explained that the overall pride was a good and special feeling. “I truly hope it keeps growing. People do not need to form part of the community to support it; ultimately we all have friends, family members and co-workers, so you never know when you would have to support someone in the LGBTQI community. Moreover, this is a celebration of equality.”

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“I started volunteering and I became part of this organisation. Before MGRM, my life was very different. I was a passive teenager who wasn’t involved in activism. Joining MGRM and volunteering in the national Gay helpline, I became more active and keen on learning more about the situation both on a local scale and also on what is happening abroad. Nowadays this information is my bread and butter and the knowledge is ingrained in me now.

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One of the first websites which pops up on one’s web searcher when looking up “Gay rights in Malta” is the Malta LGBTIQ Rights Movement, better known as MGRM. For the past 18 years MGRM has been behind the biggest LGBTQ+ achievements on the local scene, and although the NGO is still in its teen years, it has seen many battles, losses and achievements; from the launch of the first National Gay Helpline, the first Pride March in 2004 and in most recent years Marriage Equality.

COLETTE FARRUGIA BENNETT is one of the first committee members of MGRM and till this day is working towards educating society on issues and challenges the LGBTQ+ community face, in hope to make life easier not just for the community but everyone else.

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fighting for.” She explained that the political message of Pride needs to remain present, that although Malta has advanced in laws and has become more accepting in the past few years, there are a number of countries where it is still a criminal offence to be homosexual and transgender.

“Our message for Pride would be to continue educating society and raising awareness; making life easier for those people facing a challenge with homophobia and transphobia.

Secondly, we want to raise awareness of HIV transmissions and the importance of medical and psychological care for those people living with HIV. The reality of living with HIV is very different to what it was in the 90s but it is still important to understand the transmission of HIV and STI’s.”

MGRM has helped me become an activist who is always keen to learn more about people Collette joined MGRM in 2001, when she was still a first year student at University reading a degree in social work. She remembers that before joining the NGO she recalls the birth of another organisation, Gay and Lesbian Civil Rights Movement. “I remember sitting in front of the TV watching the press conference and thinking finally people are coming together to speak about the LGBTQ+ movement!”

Although the group was short-lived, some members came together to create MGRM. “I started volunteering and I became part of this organisation. Before MGRM, my life was very different. I was a passive teenager who wasn’t involved in activism. Joining MGRM and volunteering in the national Gay helpline, I became more active and keen on learning more about the situation both on a local scale and also on what is happening abroad.

Nowadays this information is my bread and butter and the knowledge is ingrained in me now.” She explained that she feels privileged to have learnt so much about the community and to have had the chance to travel and learn more by attending numerous forums, trainings and conferences.

She explained that her own studies and research also looked into the LGBTQ+ community. Her first dissertation was about the visibility of bisexuals and lesbians in terms of how social workers view such populations

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and she explained that the eight-year gap between her first dissertation and her masters shows that there was an improvement in the attitudes towards LGBTQ+ people in society. “Over the years, many people have come to the MGRM offices to seek out support. We have seen so many people sit in this counselling space, young people telling us that their parents have been abusive or unsupportive. Now, the situation has changed; not that we do not have these people seeking support, but now we have parents seeking advice on how to support their son or daughter who just came out.

They come to us for support and a safe place to discuss what they are feeling.”

She said that while society has changed drastically, there are still many other changes to be done. There is still homophobia and transphobia which is still being worked on. Yet there is hope for the future. “We have had information sessions with Education Minister Evarist Bartolo and trans young people, alongside

numerous meetings with schools from different backgrounds to highlight more awareness on LGBTQ+ youths.

We also had the opportunity to train the psycho-social teams of Catholic schools; we don’t expect people to become experts but to know that if someone out there needs more support outside of the schools, we are here.”

Pride is showing solidarity among one another regardless of our gender and sexual orientation Colette explained that the meaning of Pride goes way back to 2004; although times have changed, they still march for the same reasons. “We wanted to be heard, counted and considered as equal citizens. As much as equality has improved, there are still inequalities and injustices taking place. Yes, we should celebrate, celebrate diversity, complement one another and come together regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation.”

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We were scared no one would show up: 2004 first Malta Pride Today, Pride March is celebrated among thousands − people from the LGBTQ+ community, allies, politicians and activists all come together to march for the political reasons and party to celebrate the achievements of the community. Yet, it was not always this way. Colette reflects back to when the MGRM committee first started thinking about hosting a Pride March in Malta. “Back in 2001, Pride March was a big thing abroad, but we were not sure whether the Maltese society was ready for a public demonstration of homosexuality!” She explained that in 2002 and 2003, while there was no Pride March, MGRM organised Diversity Week, a number of events to bring people together and promote more awareness on the community.

“We were a group of people with a lot of energy and very little experience but were good fun. We had also organised a ShOUT festival, which was an open air performance on stage with a variety of performances.”

In 2004, Colette and other committee members decided to plan the first Pride March. “We put up posters around Malta in the middle of the night!

I remember on the day there were quite a few police, as they did not know what to expect on the day; both from our side and the public.” She explained that they initially wanted to make a statement; apart from carrying a rainbow flag made out of balloons they also marched with a banner which read Gay Rights equals Human Rights.

Collette remembered feeling anxious and nervous on the day, not knowing what to expect from society.

“There were important people there who put their face out and stood by us, Minister Evarist Bartolo, Louise Galea, Marie Louise Coleiro Preca, Alternattiva Demokratika and Moviment Graffiti. There were more allies than the LGBT community itself and at times that was the running joke for the first few Pride marches. It was a frustrating feeling, although you would invite other LGBTQ+ people they would come up with an excuse, it was frustrating to always put your face out there and very few would follow us.

Today the situation is very different and Pride is a much bigger event, yet at times it has become more commercial, which can at times be problematic when highlighting the issues we are

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Community manager of Allied Rainbow Communities and coordinator of Malta Pride

I have to admit, I was saddened and a bit unprepared to hear the news that Dr Helena Dalli would be nominated for the post of EU Commissioner.

Somehow, I thought that, as long as the Labour Party would be in government, Helena Dalli would “watch over us”.

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From riots to rainbows or vice-versa? had the opportunity to meet her on a few separate occasions, and was always struck by her determination to keep moving forward and disregard those who want to keep Malta in the dark ages of inequality. Indeed, at ARC we feel that her tireless championing to push forward for true equality, in the face of populist adversity, is truly to be commended.

As I was still grieving over the news, my heart sank even deeper over the announcement that Dr Edward Zammit Lewis would be replacing her as the Minister for Equality. I thought to myself, “what can a man, who comes from a place of privilege, do for minorities if he is accustomed to being part of a majority?” However, to my positive surprise, in the days that followed his ministerial appointment, the LGBTQ NGOs were called up for a meeting to discuss the work being done and share our concerns.

In that hour, I was relieved to see the minister actively listening to our concerns and taking note to make sure there’s a follow-up action with the respective ministry or department. There was also a commitment from his part to support Malta Pride, a commitment that honestly took me by honest and happy surprise. Out of genuine delight, I asked the minister if he wanted to take a picture together holding the Malta Pride Flag, which I always carry around in my bag, to put on our social media before we part ways and continue with our day.

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Before I knew it, the news picked up a few angry comments and my spontaneous gesture suddenly became a national outrage.

Who knew that a symbol of a Nation and Diversity enmeshed in one flag would upset and offend so many? Setting aside the issue of tree-culling, the last time Malta saw such outrage was the AllWelcome campaign launched by the same ministry which included a rainbowcoloured sticker for businesses. Without going into the merits of that controversy, these rainbow colours, synonymous with the LGBTQ+ community, seem to be triggering a tantrum in this nation.

This brings me to the crux of the matter Are we really an LGBTQ+ friendly country? Many are quick to start their sentences “I have nothing against gays…” and then continue their sentences with sugar-coated homophobic or transphobic innuendos.

My conviction is that LGBTQ+ individuals in Malta are only tolerated as long as they conform to the terms and conditions imposed by a society ruled by straight men for straight men.

Anything outside of that is shameful, vile and wrong.

Do you see Maltese same-sex couples holding hands and being affectionate in public in Malta? (I’m still too scared of the looks I get and the risk I put myself in the moment I hold the hand of my partner of 11 years); have you had an openly trans woman as your supervisor?

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People are saying this [the flag issue] has gone too far.

I say we haven’t even come close yet to where we want to be. clerk or a cleaner “because that’s their place”, but will your respect remain as soon as a trans woman is empowered to take a managerial role over you?). Where you among those who called out Gabi Calleja, “too angry”, “aggressive” or “emotional” (because it’s OK for men to hurl insults and throw punches at each other but a woman who is passionate enough to put her neck on the line for the entire LGBTQ+ community is seen as unnecessary).

People are saying this [the flag issue] has gone too far. I say we haven’t even come close yet to where we want to be.

At this year’s Malta Pride we will be remembering 50 years since the Stonewall Riots happened in New York which birthed the Pride movement all over the world. I say our riots in Malta have yet to begin.

Happy Pride

Pride in dialogue MARIE-LOUISE COLEIRO PRECA Chair of the Malta Foundation for the Wellbeing of Society and President of Eurochild

Pride has become an event of celebration. The LGBTIQ+ communities in Malta have much to celebrate. What has been achieved in these past years is remarkable to say the least.

GBTIQ+ communities are today valued members of Maltese society and policies have been developed to support and empower LGBTIQ+ people on our islands, to thrive and reach their full potential within our society.

Among the LGBTIQ+ community there are persons who are either raising their own children, or who have adopted or fostered children. As a society, we have a responsibility to ensure that these children thrive and reach their full potential, like all other children.

To mark Pride Week, the Malta Foundation for the Wellbeing of Society will be signing a Memorandum of Understanding with the Malta LGBTIQ+ Rights Movement (MGRM) to reaffirm the working relationship that has been established during these years and also to celebrate the first anniversary of a joint project entitled the Rainbow Families Network.

This network was established to offer a safe space for LGBTIQ+ families and their children. Trans* young people and their parents have also been welcomed within this network.

These families come together in interactive and facilitated sessions to support each other, and above all, to empower their children.

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Network, children and their parents have the opportunity to share their experiences, that many a time reflect their fears and concerns. It is sad to realise that we are still living in a society where some of us still shun inclusion and respect, despite the significant progress that we have made.

Children participating in the Rainbow Families Network spoke about bullying at school.

They spoke about some educators who fail to address derogatory comments about their sexual orientation and as a result make them feel less protected and exposed. Children also spoke of how much they wish that educators, when speaking of families, would also include LGBTIQ+ families. They told us that school libraries should also have books that include and portray LGBTIQ+ families. One of these children expressly explained that in this way “all families feel that they belong”.

Quite a number of suggestions were put forward by these children and their parents. They aspired that more information is made available to them and that bullying should be effectively addressed, so that they will not be left feeling helpless. A student explained that she had not taken up physical education classes, as an option, out of fear that she would have to change

I believe that children raised by LGBTIQ+ people can thrive, if our society effectively upholds a culture of inclusion and justice in front of the other students, because of her wearing a particular type of clothing, which is different to the others.

Another important point, which was raised by these children, was that they would like to be given the choice to make more than one card during Father’s or Mother’s day. They explained that it is hard for them to stand up in class to ask their educators for this alternative, out of fear of being stigmatised.

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by LGBTIQ+ people can thrive, if our society effectively upholds a culture of inclusion and justice. However, for an inclusive and just society, non-violent dialogue processes are funda-

mental.

We need to be able to engage in dialogue with everyone, including those who oppose change.

We need to be able to listen to their concerns, even though, to some, these may sound irrational and unreasonable.

We need to respect each other’s opinions.

Just because someone’s opinion is different than our own, it does not mean that they are wrong The importance of dialogue is evident from the constructive discussions within the Rainbow Families Network and other opportunities where LGBTIQ+ issues are discussed. While I encourage LGBTIQ+ communities to celebrate the achievements in this Pride, may I also encourage all members of our society to foster inclusive and non-violent dialogue processes and to find the joy of engaging with each other, even if opinions may seem opposing and irreconcilable.

In the words of the American politician, Bill Bullard Jr – “Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge… is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world.”

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Equality for all EDWARD ZAMMIT LEWIS Minister for European Affairs and Equality

In the past six years, Malta has systematically strived for equality for LGBTIQ persons and is considered a model of best practice in the European region and beyond. This is by no means a coincidence. It results from political leadership and the sheer will to acheive equality for all.

ix years on, Malta tops ILGA-Europe’s Rainbow Index with a 90% score, yet our will to eliminate all forms of discrimination is as strong as ever. I shall not rest on this Government’s laurels and our excellent track record in this area of policy, as I know full well that policy must not exist in a vacuum and will not automatically transform social norms and customs. The mindset, perception and prejudice across social structures remain hard to change. That is the challenge before us, to forge a mentality revolution starting at grassroot level and addressing the whole social spectrum of Malta. As Minister, I will work relentlessly to that end and to eliminate all inequalities within society.

The Equality Act and the Human Rights and Equality Commission Act, which are currently before Parliament, are a great step forward and I will leave no stone unturned to wipe out all forms of discrimination which, despite the Government’s best efforts, persist to this day.

Then again, while legal and policy reform are essential, changing societal attitudes is an ongoing process that requires knowledge, commitment and resources. That is

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Our experience has taught us that political leadership, coupled with civil society involvement, is crucial to ensure that any measures adopted address real issues and concerns and that they are effectively enforced and mainstreamed across all sectors.

why my Ministry has adopted its second LGBTIQ Strategy and Action Plan and set up a dedicated Unit to oversee its implementation. Strategies and Action Plans are very important for setting out the Government’s vision and commitments and for translating policy into social mores.

Their launch is usually an important step that embodies months of work and consultation with all stakeholders.

Nonetheless, that is when the real work begins. It is for this reason that I reiterate my commitment to strengthen the SOGIGESC Unit within the Human Rights and Integration Directorate and sustain the hard work as we pave the road ahead to ensure that the LGBTIQ Equality Strategy and Action Plan 2018-2022 is effectively implemented and has the expected impact.

As I take on this challenge, I want to put everyone’s mind at rest that LGBTIQ equality, as with the equality of all other minorities, will continue to remain high on this Government’s agenda as we strive towards 100%. In this regard, I thank my predecessor, Dr Helena Dalli, for her sterling work in setting up solid foundations for myself to build on.

I also thank all the stakeholders in the various ministries, agencies and departments as

well as civil society organisations who have contributed to the implementation of the various measures adopted thus far.

Our experience has taught us that political leadership, coupled with civil society involvement, is crucial to ensure that any measures adopted address real issues and concerns and that they are effectively enforced and mainstreamed across all sectors. As politicians we aim to improve the lives of our constituents, particularly the marginalised, but we also believe that respect for and recognition of human rights and equality benefits all of society. The exchanges that I had with civil society and NGOs alike have prompted me to go the extra mile with confidence and to work relentlessly to eliminate all inequalities in our society. Equality for all is a must.

Be who you are CHRIS FEARNE

Deputy Prime Minister

Social democracy always had a unique central driver – to legislate in favour of those whose rights are threatened or denied. Originally these rights were basic, political and economic.

s social democrats we struggled to make the market work in the interests of all, not the few. We developed an instrument, the welfare state, to widen the scope and institutionalise this drive for more economic and social rights. It turned out to be a formidable instrument which, in one form or another, has been adopted by all parties in liberal democracies.

Today, we continue to be at the forefront of striving to reach and achieving more and – of equal importance – different rights. As European social democrats we are championing rights which were not even on the radar of the founding fathers of our ideology. The rights of those having alternative sexual and gender orientations are among the most important ones.

In this respect, I am extremely proud to be part of the leadership of a government which in a few short years, brought about an epoch-making change. We pulled up the country from the humiliating, medieval depth of being one of two countries in the world without a divorce law to the height of having none other than the Economist run a headline reading, “Malta leads the way for gay and transgender rights in Europe” (2018).

We did not get here by accident or political expediency. A vision was in place and we knew how to prudently turn it into reality. Our journey had to start with granting basic legal rights to those with alternative sexual and gender orientations. By introducing same-sex civil unions we granted the right to love whoever one chooses, a right which was later solidified with the introduction of gay marriage. We granted lesbian women with

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Malta leads the way for gay and transgender rights in Europe donated sperm the right to get free IVF treatment. In the coming weeks, gay men will be able to donate blood.

From this sound footing, we addressed more deep-seated rights like that of transgender individuals, an even smaller minority, to determine their gender. We unlocked the dark and lonely jail which confined them and gave them the freedom to be who they wanted to be. And be equal to everyone else.

Great as these strides were, we also knew that they needed to be coupled with institutional change. Not to remain on paper, legal rights needed the right support. In this sense, I am fortunate that, along with my hat as deputy prime minister contributing to the birth of these new rights, I also wear that of health minister piloting many of these crucial changes in our hospitals and health centres to support them.

To start off with transgender individuals, we launched a specific policy addressing their particular needs. We changed legislation in order to entitle them to hormone therapy for free.

We also inaugurated the Gender Wellbeing Clinic in Mtarfa led by a multidisciplinary team of professionals. Over 100 individuals have already been given assistance. My ministry continues to work hard to aligning the increased demand for

services with the necessary clinic allocation and recruitment of specialist staff. We are also striving to develop services tailor-made for users’ needs. A clear example is the implementation of specific gynae clinics in the community for FtM transgender persons in July this year.

Perhaps HIV is not making the headlines as it used to. Yet we are not duped into thinking that the battle is over. Far from it.

Currently, we are working on various fronts. Broadly, a specific HIV strategy is being formulated with a focus on prevention, early diagnosis, early linkage to care and treatment. We envisage launching it for consultation later this year.

Concretely, the HIV treatment regime is already in the process of being overhauled. Self-testing HIV kits are now available both at the GU clinic and in local pharmacies. This brings Malta closer to adhering to the 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development whereby EU member states are committed to ending the Aids epidemic by 2030. We are looking at the feasibility of introducing PrEP for high risk individuals.

In this respect, there is already reason for us to be proud. The European Centre for Disease Prevention and Control (ECDC) report declares that Malta is the only country among 39 European and Central Asian ones, where every individual diagnosed with the HIV virus is treated.

Probably the greatest reward of politics is to see people leading better, healthier and happier lives as a result of one’s policies and decisions. Looking at the Maltese LGBTIQ community today brings a particularly big smile of satisfaction to my face.

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James Mifsud

FIRST SPONTANEOUS ‘PR HELD AT THE ORPHEUM Established in 2016, Lollipop events have attracted numerous groups of young, old, gay and straight to come together under one roof to dance. These monthly events have taken the Maltese gay-party-scene by storm and for many people these fun-themed parties are marked down in their diaries in advance. For the more recent generations of LGBT+ youths, such parties are advertised and discussed openly, but JOE FOUNTAIN and JAMES MIFSUD recalls a very different scenario of going out as an openly gay person in Malta in the mid 1980s. Joe, along with a few other eccentric characters, decided to take matters into their own hands and shake up the gay party scene at the time.

Giulia Magri writes Main photography by Alenka Falzon I came out at 18 years old, and at the time there was simply Potter’s in Paceville, a small bar where everyone went to. When I look back, although we complained there was not much going on, they were still good times, everything and everyone all in one place.” Joe reflected back to a time when it was still taboo and shameful to come out as gay in Malta, in fact no later after he came out, together with some friends, he moved to London. The scene and atmosphere in London was completely different from the island life he grew up in. The capital was buzzing with life, fashion, music and parties. “Although being gay in London was still a bit underground, it felt like it was the start of something bigger happening. Pride marches in London were political, especially after Margaret Thatcher’s controversial Section 28 legislation was being discussed.”

Coming back in the early 1990s, Joe realised that nothing much had changed since he left. “Still the same bars and same people complaining how there was still nothing to do. With the experiences I gained in London, I decided to start organising some events.” Joe remembers how he and some friends began organising gay parties at a club in Xemxija called Natasha’s.

The first party had an attendance of around 30 people which by the third party alone had people waiting around the block to enter the famous Natasha’s. “The popularity of the party grew

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Joe Fountain by word of mouth. We organised so many parties, pantomimes and drag shows. Many people till this day tell me that those parties at Natasha’s were the best thing that could have happened at the time.” After a while Joe let go of Natasha’s and left it in the hands of Stefan Aquilina to organise.

Police had intervened the first ‘Pride’ party at Orpheum theatre just hours after it began Sometime in 1993/94, Joe decided to take the gay party scene up a notch and organise a big party at the Orpheum Theatre in Gzira, calling it Pride. Along with Aquilina and DJ Pierre Parnis, they began planning for the party. “I remember speaking to the owner of the theatre and he was not sure why of all places we wanted to rent his theatre. It was not the easiest of times, but it felt like we were doing something important and in some way we organised the first Pride party, even though police intervened just a few hours into the party, it was great fun.”

Joe noted that mentalities were beginning to change in the late 1990s, as more people began to stir away from their perception of what a stereotypical gay man looked like and acted. “Many of us did not fit the stereotypical gay man who was feminine or a transvestite, instead we portrayed to be what society’s idea of a man was and for a while that freaked people out. Also more girls began hanging out with us because we were cool and fun to be around, which made our groups bigger and more visible.” He said that the

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scene also changed drastically once drugs came into the picture; everything changed. Ecstasy broke down all the barriers of the past; straight and gay people began experimenting together.

Joe left Malta in 2001, and whenever he did come back between travels, he realised that not only more people were becoming tolerant but also that there was a proper discussion being held on LGBTQ+ rights and communities. “There were more educational discussions and a topic spoken about, it was a slow but a sold shift that was gradual. Looking back I would have never thought I would get married in Malta. The night the Equality Bill passed will be forever one of the most emotional nights of my life.”

Station to Station parties James Mifsud makes up one half of the popular Station to Station events. James and Joe go back many years and Joe is not just a mentor for James but also a family member. “Station to Station parties began early noughties and we had a blast. We were the club kids,” explained James. Recalling his memories, it

seemed like it was a great time and many people came together full of energy, ideas and a genuine wish to have a good time. “The idea for station to station was born from our travels, travelling to different places and gathering ideas to have a party themed from that country.” Each party had a different theme and was full of colour and character.

“It was surreal to see Malta finally gain LGBTQ+ rights. Seeing that made me realise that before that the community was living behind an invisible cage,” reflected James. He remembered that many people were not happy and that unfortunately many had passed away due to the fact that the community had no rights.

While Joe enjoyed reflecting on the fun and glamour of the party scene, he still highlights the importance of Pride and what it truly means. “It’s been 50 years since Stonewall riots, and while for a lot of people Pride is a party to celebrate in glitter and fun, there are still many LGBTQ+ communities abroad that are still unable to celebrate the achievements we have reached and that we should still continue to fight for them.”

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‘WE ARE JUST ANOTHER FAMILY’ When I tell a colleague I’m off to interview a samesex couple and their adopted son; he says casually: “They’re just another set of parents, the adoption process might not be easy – but really, so what?” Which may be a measure of how far in Malta we have come in accepting different family dynamics.

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Noel and Chris wish to extend a heartful thanks to the Portuguese team, their Adoption agency, the Malta Adoption Board and authorities involved in the whole adoption process. Photo by Gina Zerafa ewind a few decades it was very different when Noel and Chris Vella-Galea were growing up in Malta. The thought of them having a child one day without a maternal figure involved was incomprehensible. “Fortunately, times have changed, we both wanted to be parents from the get-go, and with changes in legislation in recent years it meant we were able to pursue our family dream,” adds Noel. “After our marriage, we moved into our new house and one night we discussed that rather than having an empty kid’s bedroom and a big house just for the two of us, it would be ideal for extending our family by seeking the possibilities of adopting a child.”

Following which, the couple describes the gruelling nine-month process to adopt their son Daniel from Portugal. “Absolutely every part of our lives was analysed, from finances to medical reports to psychological assessments, but at no point were we treated differently to any other couple wishing to adopt, aside from the fact we could only adopt within the EU from Portugal, since they permit same-sex couple adoptions.”

When a potential match came through for five-year-old Daniel, the couple waited anxiously as a month passed before hearing the outcome.

“Everything was moving very slowly, we kept waiting and waiting, and then we got the call we had been dreaming of, within three weeks we were on our way to Portugal to collect our son! Sadly, the home was being closed down and Daniel was the only child waiting for international adoption. Daniel had been well prepared with therapies and specialist support to aid a smooth transition to Malta and his new family structure. The team had also ensured that all judicial documents were available prior to Daniel’s departure. Daniel was very excited; he kept

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telling everyone he was going to have two papas and drawing family pictures! He still calls us Papa Noel and Papa Chris.”

There is a lot more acceptance of the couple and their family now than there was a decade ago, says Noel, who turns out to be the chattier of the two.“Ten years ago, everyone thought people like us were a pair of paedophiles. Gay men wanting to be parents! What else could we be? We had to be with ill intentions.”

We’ve spent the last few years trying to persuade people that’s not the case. We’ve spent a great deal of time getting people to understand we’re just another family “We’ve spent the last few years trying to persuade people that’s not the case. We’ve spent a great deal of time getting people to understand we’re just another family.”

Like many couples, Noel and Chris have clearly defined roles. Noel is the family organiser, breadwinner and manages a hectic workload. Chris is more flexible with his work and spends time tutoring Daniel to catch up academically and running him to his therapies. During his scholastic year, Daniel also attends the breakfast club, after school hours and summer school to enable

both parents to manage their full-time hours.

“As with every family, you have to strike a balance,” adds Chris, who is markedly more reserved than Noel. “As you can see, we are two very different people! But we have managed to make it work, we are still learning of course! When we first collected Daniel, it was all so surreal, and I was so nervous and protective of him, well we still are!”

I ask the couple if it took time to bond with Daniel. “Not at all,” states Noel. “He just blended into our lives as if he should have always been there, although there was a language barrier since Daniel was never exposed to English. We are so proud of him, he’s done so well to learn English within a year and now he understands Maltese very well.” To make this happen, the couple learned some Portuguese phrases and used a translation APP during the first month. As soon as Daniel started his scholastic year, he started to learn English formally.

When it comes to family life, Daniel is delighted to tell me about his cousins here in Malta and his nanna and nannus. Noel states their wider families and local community could not have been more accepting of their son. “At the end of the day, we are just another family, one that has been able to allow Daniel to live his life to the full. When he arrived he was so institutionalised he didn’t know how to play properly; now he spends hours playing with his friends, and he completely adores the sea!”

On that note, the family and I part ways, as they turn towards the beach to spend some quality time together, with one last closing comment from Noel:“For all those couples or single persons, irrespective of their sexual orientation, we encourage them to keep hope as the journey towards adoption is long, full of emotions with several challenges.

Try to keep your goal in mind, to provide a loving home for a child for a better future.”

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BUSTING THE MISCONCEPTIONS AROUND INTERSEX WITH TONY BRIFFA Forty-nine years ago, when Tony Briffa was born, doctors didn’t know whether she was a boy or a girl.

After numerous medical tests to determine her complete biological sex characteristics (chromosomal, gonadal and hormonal) doctors decided that Tony would be raised as a girl. She was named “Antoinette” and went to an all-girls school with her sister in the western suburbs of Melbourne, Australia. Dayna Clarke writes espite a childhood involving extensive medical interventions, lies and old-fashioned attitudes about what it means to be a girl, Antoinette succeeded in her professional and personal life.

However, after a life-changing experience, she decided to go public about her true self and that she was born biologically both female and male; that is, she was born with an intersex variation. The impact of this decision had significant consequences on her life but still led to her being elected as the first openly intersex public official in the world.

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Tony has been a public intersex human rights advocate for 25 years and has been on the board of the AIS Support Group Australia for 20 years (including seven years as president).

Tony is also one of two co-executive directors of Intersex Human Rights Australia and the Intersex chair of ILGA World.

Prior to arriving in Malta, Dayna Clarke spoke to Tony to explore common misconceptions circulating intersex.

Why is intersex something people are afraid or ashamed of discussing?

People sometimes fear what they don’t understand, but people accept intersex people when they know we are people born with biological variations that we can’t control. We’re just a natural variation in human biology. My own experience shows most people are very accepting of me despite my intersex variation. That’s why I’ve been elected three times to my city council and served my community as mayor, deputy mayor and councillor.

Why is the word hermaphrodite no longer appropriate to use for individuals?

Hermaphrodites are shown in pornography as having complete male and female genitals, but that is not what intersex is about. In fact, most intersex people have typical genitalia for their sex. Only approximately 25% of intersex people have what is considered to be atypical genitalia.

The protocol that doctors are using to “treat” Intersex was developed by John Money more than 40 years ago. Do you think the protocol being used has negative results? If so, why do you think it is still being used given the bad results (wrong sex is assigned, anger later in life)?

The medical community blindly accepted John Money’s treatment paradigm in the late 1960s despite it lacking evidence or peer review. When John Money and his research were discredited almost 20 years ago, medicine did not cease their destructive treatment protocol nor seek an evidence-based review. Instead, they buried their heads in the sand and continue to justify trying to “normalise” intersex babies and children despite

not having a medical need for their surgical and hormonal interventions. For example, why should doctors surgically reduce the size of a baby girl’s clitoris? There is no medical need to do that, so shouldn’t they wait until the girl is old enough to decide for herself if she should have her clitoris reduced in size?

Do you think doctors are responsible for educating parents about what options they have to “treat” their intersex child? Are they giving them adequate information?

Or do you believe doctors consider intersex to be a “medical emergency” that must be treated immediately?

Parents should be given access to peer support and accurate information about intervention options available and also the impacts of not having any intervention. The information provided should be impartial and objective and not frame intersex variations as a disability. Importantly, parents also need to be given time to make decisions and not forced to make quick decisions at such a confusing, stressful and emotionally charged time.

Do you think that Intersex is a societal issue that doctors are trying to treat with a medical solution?

There are times when intersex people need medical assistance, but for the most part, intersex people need community awareness and understanding about our existence.

Intersex people shouldn’t be modified without our consent just to fit societal expectations of what girls and boys should look like and how they should behave.

What should be the new, better protocol for dealing with intersex?

Do you think waiting is a better method? What are the negative and positive aspects of it?

The law should protect intersex babies and children from having their bodies modified for no medical reason. This includes protection for babies and children from being castrated, having their clitoris surgically reduced and having hormone injections. All of these interventions should wait until the child can provide con-

Tony Briffa sent. There are no negative aspects to waiting other than the child might decide not to have the intervention.

Is it true doctors assign intersex babies as female more than male?

The sex assignment for intersex babies is correct for the vast majority of cases, even though the assignment does not have to be surgically and hormonally reinforced. Most intersex people identify in their sex of rearing and are heterosexual. Some of us are gay, lesbian or bisexual, and some reject the sex they were assigned at birth. The sex of rearing largely depends on the intersex variation the child has.

There are over 40 intersex variations and there are spectrums of differences within each one.

Do doctors consult a geneticist to determine the actual sex of the baby, XXY, XO, etc. before proceeding with surgery? Wouldn’t that be more helpful in determining the correct sex of the child since the surgeries and hormone therapies are irreversible?

Some intersex variations are diagnosed at birth, some in puberty and some later in life.

When diagnosed at birth, doctors conduct a number of tests to determine the child’s chromosomal pattern, gonads and hormones. Sex can be assigned to a child without having to reinforce that assignment surgically. They wouldn’t raise a child as a girl if they have male genitals, for example, but if a girl has a clitoris that is slightly larger than the norm, she should not have to undergo surgery without her consent to erase any intersex traits. Surgical and hormonal intervention should only occur for a legitimate medical need and/or only when the person provides informed consent.

What kind of legislation or activism is taking place to increase awareness of intersex and to expand the rights of intersex individuals?

Malta is only one of a few countries that protect intersex

children from these medically unnecessary surgical and hormonal interventions. Many intersex organisations and activists work hard to promote intersex human rights, awareness of intersex people and our issues, and to reduce the shame and stigma many intersex people still face. We also work to support families and individuals with intersex variations.

How do laws that stipulate that marriage is between a man and a woman affect intersex people? Do you think that the recent acceptance of gay marriages in countries such as Malta is welcome news?

Laws generally recognise intersex people as being either female or male, rather than treating us as a third sex. That said, it is much more preferable for laws to be inclusive of all people irrespective of sex or gender. My wife is Dutch and the Netherlands was the first country to introduce marriage equality. We married in New Zealand in 2013 when they introduced marriage equality there. Previously, I was in a straight marriage, but all marriages should be legal. It shouldn’t matter if I am male or female to be able to marry my partner.

You have achieved so much, what’s in the pipeline for you now?

I am looking forward to being in Malta for Pride Week! After that, I will go to Geneva for meetings with the International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Association where I am a board member and chair of their intersex committee.

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knock-on effect is that you don’t eat for days, which is not good for you. The drugs concerned with chemsex culture are: Methedrone, GBH and crystal meth.

In chemsex culture, you get absorbed into the world of sex drugs and alcohol and you forget about food; nobody has an appetite when they are high on chems. JAMES WHARTON, the author of ‘Out in the Army: My life as a gay soldier’ and ‘Something for the Weekend: Life in the chemsex underworld’ and LGBT activist talks to Rachel Attard about his experience in chemsex and the consequences it has on the mind and body.

What is Chemsex? How would you describe it for those who never heard the word?

Chemsex is defined as the use of specific substances before and during the act of sex, typically by gay and bisexual men. The substances used are designed to increase libido and reduce inhibitions. Chemsex parties are usually attended by multiple men and can last for days.

How did chemsex originate? Do you find chemsex everywhere or is it mainly in metropolitan cities?

It is for the most part a metropolitan phenomenon. In the UK, the capital of chemsex culture is South London. But it exists in other cities, too, just not at the same scale. To counter that, though, there is a thing called ‘chemsex tourism’, which is basically when gay and bi-men travel to big cities (London) from where they live and then find a party on Grindr or something for them to attend.

What makes this interesting is when the weekend is over, they go back to those smaller towns and villages, with the come

Did you consume any drugs or alcohol between Monday morning and Friday?

Not usually, and that’s a really fascinating aspect to chemsex culture; people will hold down a regular life through the week, but then return to the culture every Friday or Saturday. But, when things get problematic, the use can overspill into the week, and it might start to impact on your job and life.

This seems somewhat inevitable.

down symptoms of a heavy chemsex weekend, but find there’s no culturally-competent support services available to them, like there is in London.

Why do you think chemsex is more popular with gay men?

It should be said that historically, people (gay and straight) have always used drugs to enhance sexual sensations/experiences; Victorian opium dens for example. However, this movement is different. I will not hear the argument that ‘straight people do this too’, because the fact is it is nowhere near the same in terms of numbers and uptake.

In Clapham, south London, on a typical Sunday afternoon, there will be literally hundreds of gay men packed inside random peoples’ living rooms participating in this activity.

Why? It’s a complex answer. But I could summarise by saying, a lot of gay men love sex – and why shouldn’t we?

We are all adults, and sexual liberation for gay men as always been fraught.

Additionally to this, in the moment, the drugs are extremely pleasing; they make you feel great. It’s important I don’t sound like somebody who is encouraging this, because I am not, there are many come-down consequences to the drugs, but in the instant, at the point of applying the drugs to the activity, they provide a very satisfying stimulus. It’s hard to overlook that – even when you are battling through the midweek on a dreadful comedown – the drugs are that powerful (and addictive) that for many, it’s worth riding the storm as it were, to the weekend when they can be used again. And the last part of that jigsaw is often trauma. All of life’s worries disappear when you are as high as a kite on crystal meth on a Sunday morning surrounded by lots of hot naked men. And, who are we to judge men who have found an escape from that trauma, if only for a weekend?

How did you get involved in the chemsex world?

Like most people, a friend of a friend, right place right time.

When I asked this question to the men I interviewed for my book, Something for the Weekend, I was astonished how similar everybody’s answer was. In summary, the pattern was that each had some sort of minor drug-use element to their weekends. Perhaps some used cocaine, others were users of MDMA (which has always been a party drug in the clubs on the gay scene).

Then, at some point somebody offers somebody a different drug, the person likes it and it goes on from there.

For me, I was caught in the trap net because I was desperately searching for connections. I was 27 and had just come out of a long-term relationship. I had been married for five years.

Suddenly, I was a single gay man living in London. So, when I went out to access other gay men – my community – because chemsex culture was by then a thing, it was only a matter of time before I was introduced to it. Of course, many gay men come across it, and perhaps decide it’s not for them, and some actively avoid it, but others try it, they find they like it, and they then return to it. It doesn’t take long for that pattern to become problematic, and that’s when we see the serious consequences attributed to the culture. I left the culture two years ago, when I left London.

Who is James Wharton?

I’m 32 years-old, an Iraq war veteran and originally from North Wales.

Where you scared to tell your family that you were gay?

I wasn’t scared, but that doesn’t mean I wasn’t full to the brim with apprehension. I had already come out to the soldiers I served with in the army, and back then (before Facebook and iPhones) I was able to hold this double/secret

Everybody in chemsex culture takes Viagra, it’s just a thing. Some of the drugs that feature in the culture make it hard to withstand an erection, Viagra helps that life away from my family in Wales. But, when the time came to tell my parents while I was visiting home on leave from the army, all the stress of keeping my sexuality a deep secret throughout my childhood returned, and the whole thing was very traumatic.

Have you ever had a relationship with women? Were you married?

No. I was married to a man.

When did you come out?

I came out in the army at the age of 18. I wrote a book about this in 2013 called Out in the Army.

In the book you said that you use to spend from Friday to Sunday with no food - just drugs and alcohol? How did you manage to survive that and what type of drugs are we talking about here?

Well, here lies one of the consequences to chemsex culture. If you get absorbed into the world of chemsex, which many of us do, you forego food; nobody has an appetite when they are high on chems. The

Where you able to function at work for the whole five days?

Not really. If I made it into work on Monday, I may have only had a few hours sleep and all the drugs would still be very much in my system, impacting on concentration. Colleagues used to comment that I looked tired, or that I seemed a little spaced out. I know I used to come up with some random bullshit stories as to why I looked the way I did or why I was late/needed Monday off work.

Why did you repeat it every single weekend?

No, what I said was that in the moment of taking part in chemsex I felt amazing. It scratched my itch. But then in the days following I would have to endure the come down consequences. People act differently in come down, and depending on what drugs you have used, the come down might be different. I know people who have been sectioned to protect themselves during heavy crystal meth comedowns, which is terrifying. Others, I know can take a 12 hour sleep, and double espresso and be able to get to work for 9am on a Monday.

How many men will there be in one apartment?

Chemsex can be solitary, between a couple or with multiple participants. There’s no rule.

In the book you say that people used have sex with complete strangers.Where you scared that you might be infected with any STDs? Gay men are educated people where sexual health is concerned. We grew up very much in the knowledge of how important it is to look after your sexual health. It is true that although chemsex culture in London is extremely popular, HIV rates are continuing to fall.

We gay men are in control of our sexual health, and I’m very proud to be from a community

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that treats this matter the way that it does.

In the book you said that you used to take Viagra.Why? Everybody in chemsex culture takes Viagra, it’s just a thing. Some of the drugs that feature in the culture make it hard to withstand an erection,

Viagra helps that.

You have now recovered from the drug and alcohol addiction.What is your message to gay men who still feel that they belong to the chemsex world?

There’s no point me telling people to stop doing what

they are doing, because that’s never going to be helpful, and actually, who am I to lecture?

But, to those who feel they would like a break, or to step away, my advice would be to get support, explore others areas for fulfilment in your life, and don’t give yourself a hard time if you fail occasionally.

What do you think countries like Malta should do to educate LGBT+ communities that chemsex is not good for your mental and physical wellbeing?

Communities need to become more open minded and sensitive to the lives that some

gay and bi men lead, and encourage dialogue to exist so that people can talk about these issues, free from judgement.

Communities that are judgemental to people within them that may be engaging in chemsex need to first deal with their own education around the reasons why some people are engaging in it in the first place.