ADVICE

You probably already know if there is a history of certain illnesses in your families, or what allergies you may have. These things come up quite naturally as couples get to know each other so by the time you name the day you’ll have a pretty comprehensive idea of how fit you both are.

All the same, it is wise to book a general check up at least three months before the wedding dayto update your medical history and ensure that any possible unknown conditions are identified and dealt with.

Then youwill be well equipped toplan your married lives accordingly.

Your blood pressure, cholesterol counts, body mass index and any number of conditionsreally do affect not only whether you reach your wedding day fully fit or totally exhausted, but your state of health in the future.

And, don’t think screening for infectious diseases or genetic conditions is a waste of time because it is not. The point is none of us can be 100% sure of our family history,health wise. There are illnesses we may be unaware we are prone to or even might be carrying, which need to be identified.

Holding these consultations, either separately or as a couple,will prove you are mature and responsible enough to spend the rest of your lives together. They are as important as any other investment you make for your future. And they are an insurancethat you are entering married life prepared,as well as you can ever be,for what lies ahead.

◊ First, decide if you want your consultations as a couple or separately, do your research and book your consultation and screening with a doctor or clinic that you trust.

◊ Discuss how you think you would handle any unforeseen information that may arise from your consultations. Knowing that you have each other’s support will help you prepare any questions you have.

◊ When taking part in any premarital medical appointments you need to focus on your ages, family histories, blood groups and current physical and psychological health.

◊ Make a list of your concerns or questions in advance,and make notes of the information you receive. It’s easy to think you will remember everything you discuss, but nine out of ten people end up having doubts about the exact details of some of the information or instructions they receive.

◊ Be prepared for what you might think are very personal or seemingly irrelevant questions. It may seem surprising how different events in your medical history can link up to affect your current state of health, but that’s how it works. And don’t be tempted to edit your answers on subjects like smoking or vaping, diet, drink and drugs,or your sex lives. Everything you say is totally confidential and leaving out ‘the past’ or what you think doesn’t really matter could be a big mistake.You are not being judged and your openness will be respected.

◊ Finely, follow through on any tests you are advised to have, especially if there are certain conditions that run in your family. By acting now you are laying the grounds for your future health and that of the family you may have – a sure way to a happy, healthy marriage.