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The saint and the soldier
Story and Photos by Joe Bollig One of Ray Bunten’s finest moments during his World War II service in Italy had nothing to do with the military. Here, Bunten holds a photograph of himself (kneeling, center) receiving a blessing from St. Padre Pio, along with another American serviceman, Art Lucchesi (kneeling, far right).
WWII vet recalls serving for a saint
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he fighting had moved north, so there wasn’t much happening around Foggia, where Private First Class Ray Bunten was stationed. It was 1944, and Bunten was at a B-24 bomber base about eight miles south of Foggia, in southern Italy. He was a truck driver, a cog in the war machine that supported the bombers flying north to pound Nazi Germany.
Saints alive
Most Catholics can only pray to their favorite saint. Ray Bunten served Mass for his. To hear how a young soldier crossed paths with a saint, go to: www.theleaven.com. The temporary base was literally in the middle of nowhere. Bunten had to drive through farm fields to get to the airfield, which had a runway consisting of linked steel mats. One day an Italian-American buddy, Joe Peluso, implored Bunten to use his connections to get transportation for a little joy ride up in the mountains. Peluso wanted to go to an obscure village where some kind of gee-whiz holy man lived, a priest named Padre Pio. Bunten had never heard of the village — San Giovanni Rotondo — or this Padre Pio. But there was nothing else to do, so he was game. Today, the 86-year-old Bunten lives in Vintage Park care facility in Gardner. The last thing he sees before he falls sleep, and the first thing he sees when he awakes, is
a photograph of St. Padre Pio on his wall. On his bedside table is a rosary containing a bandage from Padre Pio’s hands, given to him in 1945. Bunten and his precious relic will be at a 7 p.m. Mass on Sept. 23 — the feast day of St. Padre Pio, and Bunten’s birthday — at Sacred Heart Parish in Gardner. Archbishop Joseph F. Naumann will be the main celebrant, and pastor Father Joe Cramer will concelebrate. All are welcome to attend. There will be an opportunity to venerate the second-class relic. Bunten is a lifelong Catholic, born and raised in Carsonville, now Bel-Ridge, in St. Louis County, Mo. He didn’t even finish trade school when he was drafted into the U.S. Army Air Force and shipped to Italy. “When I landed in Italy, [the battle of] Anzio-Cassino was still going on, and at nighttime you could see the flares of the shells,” he said. The Germans retreated, however, and the war moved north. “I was very fortunate,” he said. “I never shot anyone, and no one shot me.” Turn to “former” on page 6
A third-class relic of St. Padre Pio is embedded in a medal attached to his rosary, but a second-class relic — a bit of a bandage that covered the saint’s hands — is contained within the crucifix. St. Padre Pio was known as a “stigmatist,” one who receives the wounds of the crucified Christ in his or her own body.
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THE LEAVEN • september 17, 2010
THE LEAVEN • september 17, 2010
LIFE WILL BE VICTORIOUS
Disciples share in the cross — but are never alone
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uring the last two weeks of August, my mother was able to visit me.
In my residence, there is a suite of rooms that was designed with the idea of a resident housekeeper. Located on the first floor, they are ideal for my mother because she does not have to negotiate any steps. On Friday, Aug. 20, I had a series of meetings during the day. In the evening, I was at the St. Lawrence Catholic Campus Center chapel leading a Holy Hour of eucharistic adoration with four men whom I had the privilege of ordaining to the diaconate the next day. Members of their religious community, the Apostles of the Interior Life, as well as their families and friends, gathered to pray with them as they prepared to accept the call of the church to serve as ordained ministers. Since I was not going to be around much of the day, my mother accepted an invitation to spend the afternoon and evening with my nephew and his family in Lee’s Summit. My mother loves to spend time with Dee Dee and David and their four children, who are full of life and the source of great entertainment to all the family. I arrived at my nephew’s home around 9 p.m. If you recall, we had a series of severe thunderstorms throughout the late afternoon and evening of that day. A little after 10 p.m., the power went out at my nephew’s house. This was a clear sign that it was time to head home. On the drive back to Kansas City, I was preparing myself mentally for coping with the probability that the electricity would be out at my residence. As I approached the house, I was surprised
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Sept. 17-20 Knights of the Holy Sepulcher Northern Lieutenancy’s annual meeting — Overland Park to see a cherry picker in my driveway. Branches from the large trees that surround my house were down everywhere. The utility crew was attempting to get the branches off the power lines on 34th Street that runs along the east side of the house. I breathed a sigh of relief when I saw that the exterior lights were on at the residence. However, I was stunned when I opened the door to the bedroom where my mother sleeps to see the room filled with branches and leaves. The bed and the carpet were covered with shattered glass. One of the tall trees on the west side of the house was either struck by lightning or the force of the wind snapped the top half of the tree. The wind had driven a large portion of the tree with great force into the window of the bedroom where my mother sleeps. I shuddered to think of what would have happened had my mother been in the bedroom at the moment the tree smashed the window. As I cleaned up the debris in the room, it sank in how fortunate it was that my mother had visited Dave and Dee Dee that day. When you think about it, every day there are so many opportunities, except for the grace of God, that we or some family member or friend could be seriously injured. On Oct. 2, we celebrate the feast of the guardian angels. Most days, we take for granted the protective shield with which God guards us. At the same time, we know that bad
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Sept. 17-20 Knights of the Holy Sepulcher Northern Lieutenancy’s annual meeting — Overland Park
Sept. 23 Mass celebrating the life of St. Padre Pio — Sacred Heart, Gardner
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Sept. 21-22 Ethical Review Board — Chicago
Sept. 25 Confirmation for the Latin Community — Blessed Sacrament, Kansas City, Kan.
Sept. 23 Teach class — Mundelein Seminary, Chicago
Lunch with Maryvale Institute leaders things do happen to good people. Just a couple of weeks ago the Sunday Gospel presented us with the words of Jesus to the crowds that were pursuing him: “Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.” Jesus does not promise his disciples that they will be immune to suffering. No, just the opposite: Jesus promises his followers a share in the cross. We know that discipleship means following Jesus all the way to Calvary. Yet, the Lord, on a daily basis, also manifests his love for us. He shields us from so many potential tragedies. At
Sept. 30 Teach class — Mundelein Seminary those moments, when God does ask us to share in the cross, he promises us that we will not carry our burdens alone, but that he will be alongside assisting and comforting us. If things are relatively serene in your life and the life of your family at this time, I encourage you to pause for a moment to recognize and thank God for his providential and protective love. If, on the other hand, you or someone you love is experiencing the cross in some form at this moment, I urge you to draw near to Jesus, allowing him to lighten your burden and ease your suffering.
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‘Carry on the great tradition of faith’ St. Augustine Parish in Fidelity celebrates 150 years By Marc and Julie Anderson Special to The Leaven
FIDELITY — Not much exists here anymore. In fact, according to local historians, it’s unclear as to when the oncethriving community’s post office closed. Yet, travel north on U.S. Highway 75 a few miles past the Sac and Fox Nation’s casino, turn west in the direction of a communications tower, meander one to three miles through farmland and you will find an unexpected site — St. Augustine Church. Standing tall in the middle of a cornfield with nothing but farmland as far as the eye can see, St. Augustine is the fourth church building for this rural parish of just 37 families, a parish that has been celebrating its 150th anniversary throughout 2010, culminating in a daylong celebration on Aug. 29. The day’s festivities included a memorial service at the parish cemetery to honor the contributions of generations gone by (especially the early settlers who founded the parish). A Mass of thanksgiving was also celebrated by Archbishop Joseph Naumann and concelebrated by Father Balachandra Miriyala, the current pastor, as well as previous pastors Fathers Ron Cornish and Kent O’Connor. Abbot Barnabas Senecal, OSB, was also on hand to represent the many Benedictine priests who served the parish. Other events included a musical program by the religious education students, a historical slide show presentation, a dinner for more than 300 and a variety of children’s activities, including a makeshift train offering rides to passengers of all ages, including Father Miriyala himself. At the beginning of the Mass, the archbishop offered his congratulations to the parishioners. “It is a joy to be with you today and to celebrate this historic anniversary,” he said, adding that the parish was celebrating its anniversary in the shadow of its patron’s feast, St. Augustine, whose memorial the church celebrates on Aug. 28. He also told parishioners that during Mass he would be praying for everyone “to carry on the great tradition of faith planted here by your ancestors.” During the homily, the archbishop reflected on how “anniversaries are wonderful opportunities to recall beautiful memories of how God has blessed us” and shared how he thought it appropriate to begin at the cemetery and honor the legacy of those who planted the seed of faith here. When the parish was formed, he said, Kansas was not even a state and the nation was on the brink of the Civil War. Yet the faith was already flourishing here. “It was a beautiful faith, an unselfish sacrifice of those first families,” he said, who built the first church in 1865 and named the town Augustine in honor of
Father Balachandra Miriyala, pastor of St. Augustine Parish in Fidelity, incenses the archbishop during the offertory. Parishioner Jean Renyer (left) and former parishioner Janet Eubanks admire a quilt made by Renyer in honor of the parish’s 150th anniversary. The bottom portion of the quilt features names of families now in the parish cemetery, while the top portion features the names of all 37 current families. The quilt hangs in the back of the church and features photos taken of both the cemetery and church. Photos by Marc Anderson
Father Augustine Wirth, one of the first Benedictine missionary priests to serve the area. Elsewhere in his homily, the archbishop said, “Today is a time to allow ourselves to grow a bit nostalgic.” He invited everyone present to reflect on the generations of parishioners who have been baptized, received their first holy Communions, been forgiven through the sacrament of reconciliation, received the Holy Spirit through the sacrament of confirmation and joined their lives in holy matrimony, as well as all the friendships formed as a result of Christian discipleship. According to Father Miriyala, who is in his first year as pastor, this rural parish of just 99 people (including him) is a tightknit community, full of members committed to both the Catholic faith and each other. “They are so welcoming,” said Father Miriyala said. “Their faith is inspiring.” “They never miss church,” he continued. “That’s a great inspiration to me. . . . They’re very connected to their priest. They talk to me all the time and they know what’s going on in their church.
“They will sacrifice anything for the good of the church to bring as many Catholics here and to continue that tradition.” That tradition is one of which Evelyn Lierz is well aware. Together with parishioner Lois Bindel, she researched the parish’s history and authored a book commemorating the parish’s 150th anniversary. Presented to the archbishop at the Mass, the book was also on sale to parishioners. Lierz said she came away from the project with a deeper sense of gratitude for the parish’s small size. “We are a family. Both Lois and I have been parishioners our entire lives, more than 60 years each. Everybody knows everybody, and we all help each other,” Lierz said, adding she feels this rural parish’s dependence on the land has helped everyone to rely more on God’s providence as well as each other. “We are a farming community, and we rely on each other — that is, everyone in the parish — to help.” Annual picnics, for example, require each family to provide at least six fried chickens, Lierz said. And from second
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grade on up, every parishioner helps out in some way. “We always have children younger than first grade who want to help, too, so we let them,” Bindel said. “Everyone helps each other. I think that’s why we’re celebrating here today.” Apparently, Lierz and Bindel are not the only parishioners who feel the same sense of pride about the parish family of St. Augustine. David Wehner, who grew up in Kansas City, moved to the parish in 1982 when he was 14 years old. His dad had been a barber but wanted to return to farming. So, when a farm was put on the market, his father purchased it and moved the family into the area. Eventually, Wehner grew up and bought a farm himself just two miles from the church. Through the years, he’s been involved in a variety of ministries, including serving as a eucharistic minister and a parish council member. This year, as he worked on the anniversary committee, Wehner said he was filled with both a sense of gratitude and awe. “To dig deeper into the history and see what this parish has gone through — to see how they started and grew — gives you a sense that this place has had a lot of faithful people come through,” he said.
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THE LEAVEN • September 17, 2010
THE LEAVEN • september 17, 2010
Canon lawyer enjoys ‘detective work’ of his ministry By Kara Hansen Leaven staff
Kansas City, Kan. — It may be his first time living on American soil, but Father Joseph Arsenault, SSA, is feeling right at home in the archdiocese. “I’m delighted to be here and I have felt very welcomed and affirmed by both the clergy and the laypeople I have met,” said Father Joseph. “I’m looking forward to being a part of a great archdiocese.” Father Joseph was appointed to the tribunal office, which handles annulments, this past March. Father Joseph belongs to the Society of St. Augustine, a religious order that has been active in the archdiocese since 1997. Father Joseph was ordained a priest in 2000. “I was drawn to the charism of Augustinians,” he said. “I like that we come together in community through prayer and recollection and are empowered to go forward in service to the church. There’s a strong sense of community and family there that’s very important in the world today.” A native of Igonish Beach, Nova Scotia, Canada, this is Father Joseph’s first time residing in the United States. Prior to his current position in the office of canonical services, Father Joseph was working for the Canadian Conference of Catholic Bishops in Ottawa, Canada. He still does some work for that bishops’ conference, in addition to his work in the archdiocese. “When I was coming to the archdiocese, Archbishop Naumann looked at my background and felt I could be of help there [in the tribunal office],” said Father Joseph. Father Joseph is putting his licentiate in canon law to use in the tribunal office. He can often be found reviewing and rewriting documents pertaining to canon law and offering his opinion on such matters as requested. “I like figuring things out and doing the detective work involved,” said Father Joseph. “I like trying to figure out through the law how to best resolve the situation, as well as being of service to the church and the people, so the mission of God can be made manifest.”
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Father Joseph Arsenault, SSA, is working in the archdiocesan tribunal in the office of canonical services. One of the parts of his work Father Joseph most enjoys is acting as a canonical advisor to new religious communities. “NET (National Evangelization Teams) Ministries was in Ottawa at the time, and the group of ministers invited me over for dinner,” he said. “As we got to talking, it came up that some of the ministers had just been to a meeting with chancery staff about starting a new religious order, and they were in need of a canon lawyer. I’ve been working with them ever since.” When not in the office, Father
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Joseph can be seen helping out at parishes across the archdiocese, but particularly at St. Mary-St. Anthony and Holy Family parishes in Kansas City, Kan. “I enjoy being in contact with people and that’s really important to me,” said Father Joseph. “There’s been a great sense of welcoming here. The people I’ve met and come to know have been wonderful. There’s a real sense of prayerfulness in the life of the people of this archdiocese that I’ve not experienced many other places.”
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Curé Scouts earn Eagles LEAWOOD — Seven Boy Scouts from Curé of Ars Troop 395 here have earned the rank of Eagle Scout. Patrick Schissler, 18, held a baby equipment and clothing drive for Wyandotte County Crisis Pregnancy Center and built a food drive donation box for the Curé of Ars vestibule for his Eagle project. Drew Dusek, 18, built a table with three chess boards attached to the top for the Gillis Center for his Eagle project. Joseph Augustine, 17, built and installed three shelving units in the garage to organize toys and other items for the Boys Hope Girls Hope House for his Eagle project. Ryan Bingaman, 18, built and placed wood duck-nesting boxes in the Shawnee Mission Environmental Science Laboratory and in the ponds in the Leawood Homes Association for his Eagle project. Alex Fowler, 16, landscaped, refurbished picnic tables and benches, and repainted the safety curb for the Gillis House for his Eagle project. Paul Radke, 17, collected, repaired, and donated seven trombones, two trumpets, and a clarinet to the Kansas City Youth Jazz for his Eagle project. Brian Schaff, 15, constructed a stone grotto containing a statue of the Virgin Mary, surrounded by a landscaped garden, and placed a handmade mosaic sign at the entrance for Our Lady’s Montessori School in Kansas City, Kan., for his Eagle project.
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Program seeks greater engagement for parish vitality By Joe Bollig Leaven staff
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KANSAS CITY, Kan. — You’ve probably seen that commercial on TV — you know, the one with the guy who walks around with a cell phone asking, “Can you hear me now?” Communication is an important issue for a cell phone company — and for the church, as well. “The church, like any large organization, is often weak in its communication ability,” said Father Gary Pennings, vicar general and moderator of the curia. “We don’t always communicate as effectively as we should.” Sometimes parishioners simply don’t know how their parishes are doing. Often, the assumption is that if the lights are on and the doors are open, then everything is going great. But that’s not necessarily true, said Father Pennings. Some parishes have significant needs — sometimes related to programs, sometimes financial — of which parishioners may not be aware. This, in part, is why most of the parishes in the archdiocese will be conducting an offertory enhancement program this fall. Each participating parish will be assisted by the Cavan Corporation, a church development company based in Kansas City, Mo. The archdiocesan-approved program has three purposes: to make parishioners more aware of the state of their parishes; to encourage people to be more engaged in their parishes; and to invite them to increase their financial support of the parishes. In a letter sent to pastors in April, Archbishop Joseph F. Naumann noted the extraordinary legacy of pastoral growth and accomplishment by the people of the archdiocese over the past 160 years. He also asked that archdiocesan Catholics build on this legacy. “It is a challenge that we willingly embrace,” he wrote, “but it has been further intensified by the unprecedented financial turmoil and uncertainty that has been so prevalent during the past year — both nationally and here in northeast Kansas.” Parishes have not been immune to the economic downturn, said Father Pennings. “Right now we have a lot of parishes that are struggling,” he said. “Most have frozen their budgets to some degree or have limited hiring. Nonetheless, they still have costs that are going up, and for
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A new offertory enhancement program is designed to make parishioners more aware of the state of their parishes, encourage people to be more engaged in their parishes, and invite them to increase their financial support of the parishes. a lot of them their income has flattened or in some cases has dropped.” The goal is that each parish, through its own offertory enhancement program, will move toward firmer financial footing. “As a part of regional pastoral planning . . . [we’ve been] looking at how we can help the pastors and each parish to be in a stronger financial situation,” said Lesle Knop, archdiocesan consultant for stewardship and development. “After a lot of discussion by the College of Consultors,” she continued, “the Administrative Team, and the Presbyteral Council, it was decided that the archdiocese would offer this wonderful program to all the parishes in the archdiocese.” The program revolves around letters from pastors to parishioners. In the letters, the pastors inform parishioners about the good things going on in the parish, the things that need to be done, and a suggestion in terms of engagement in the parish — both in terms of participation and in offertory giving. The cost of the program is underwritten by the archdiocese, and the money stays in the parish where it originated.
“Every parish is a little different, so the program and the letters in each parish will be slightly different based on the parish’s needs and what the parish leadership sees as what is important for that parish,” said Father Pennings. “Obviously, in any parish we have people who are maximally engaged and others who are less engaged,” he continued. “Every pastor wants as many people as possible to participate in the life of the parish, and stewardship is far more than just financial contribution. It’s also about being part of the parish, of being engaged in giving your time and talent. But, yes, part of it is also financial support of the parish and the ministries the parish provides.” Most of the participating parishes will conduct the program in the fall, but Holy Angels Parish in Basehor conducted its program early, between July 15 and July 31. The parish had just completed a three-year capital campaign to build a new church, “People love to give in support of their parish and, when asked to give an incremental increase, many parishioners responded with a generous ‘yes,’” said Father Al Rockers.
At Holy Angels, 41 percent of households participated, and they committed to a weekly or monthly increase of 52 percent. Of families that contributed to the capital campaign, 73 percent increased their weekly gift by 41 percent. And of those who had no past record of giving (but may have given cash in the collection basket), 10 percent made a commitment of about $1,200 per year. “I think a lot of [its success] was because of Father Al,” said Larry Moore, chairman of the parish finance council. “He’s well-liked in the parish, and people respond when he indicated there’s a need. And this is a generous parish.” Knop believes the program will be successful in other parishes, too, because of the strong faith of archdiocesan Catholics. “We’re all part of a great Catholic community that is very rich in faith and eager to grow in love for God,” she said. “Some have more resources than others, so many give abundantly of their time and talent,” she continued. “Look what they have already given. They are ready to answer the question: What can I do to be a greater participant in the life of my parish to ensure its vitality — not only today, but also for tomorrow?”
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THE LEAVEN • september 17, 2010
What’s for dinner? Family time Research shows just how important family meals are to children
What helps families grow closer and build relationships? Here is what some had to say: “When growing up, I have fond memories of all nine children, Mom, and Dad sitting around our kitchen table. The first thing we always did was pray together, then we had to pass the food with everyone getting ONE piece of meat and Dad getting two! Dad certainly was the leader of our family!” – Karla Leibham, assistant superintendent of archdiocesan Catholic schools
By Kara Hansen Leaven staff
KANSAS CITY, Kan. — In the timehonored tradition of egocentric children everywhere, the first question my brother and I would ask our mom when we got home from school each day was not “How are you?” or “How was your day?” More often than not, it was: “What’s for dinner?” Sometimes we were happy with the answer (pizza!). Other times, not so much (stew). But really, the eating was only part of the equation at dinnertime. The rest was getting to sit down and spend uninterrupted time with one another, share what we had been up to that day, and maybe even eventually get around to asking my mom about her day. Family dinner is one tradition the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse (CASA) at New York’s Columbia University wants to ensure families are making a priority. And for good reason. Over a decade of research done at CASA has consistently shown that the more often kids eat dinner with their family, the less likely they are to use drugs, smoke, or drink alcohol. In fact, a 2003 study done by CASA found that teens who have dinner with their families two nights a week or less are twice as likely to take drugs, more likely to be “high stress,” more likely to say they are often bored, and less likely to perform well in school than teens who eat with their families 5 to 7 times a week. And yet U.S. families are making less and less use of the tradition of sitting down to meals together. According to a 2003 Gallup poll, just 28 percent of adults with children under the age of 18 report eating together seven nights a week, and 48 percent of families report eating together just four to six times a week. So CASA set aside a day to emphasize the importance of families eating their evening meal together. Started in 2001, CASA calls it Family Day — A Day to Eat Dinner with Your Children. “While the statistics on family dinner are incredible, the experience of setting time aside for family dinner is more incredible,” said Jacki Corrigan, archdiocesan consultant for the family life office. “It is in the midst of the meatloaf and potatoes that family members thank God for the gifts of his blessings and the nourishment he provides for our daily life.” “It is at the table that families reveal who they are, share their stories, give a glimpse of their hopes and dreams,”
“I always looked forward to camping, visiting relatives, and going on trips where we could have great pictures and stories. We recently went to a Catholic conference with my parents and siblings and hung out for the weekend, which was one of my most memorable family trips.” – Sam Meier, archdiocesan consultant for the My House office “When our children were still at home, not only did we have a family meal every night, we also always went to church as a family every Sunday morning and had a big breakfast afterwards. When the kids were in high school, not everyone was able to be home for the family meal, but the meal always happened regardless of how many were around the table. When the one who had practice or an activity did come home, I would sit with them as they ate. Sometimes we had to schedule ‘mandatoryattendance’ family meals — no dates or other events could interfere. Just recently, our kids bought us a new dining room table and chair set because of the fond memories they had growing up around the family table.” — Kathy O’Hara, superintendent of archdiocesan Catholic schools
Research has shown that the more often kids eat dinner with their family, the less likely they are to use drugs, smoke, or drink alcohol. And yet, U.S. families are making less and less use of the tradition of sitting down to meals together. she said. “They support one another and are there to share the load. They laugh and lighten the hearts of all family members. “In family,” Corrigan continued, “our bonds are strengthened by this time together. And thus, it is there in the family meal that they know each other more fully and are closer because of this shared experience.” As Catholic Christians, Corrigan said we have a rich tradition of the significance of sharing meals together. “In the Bible story of the Road to Emmaus (Lk 24: 13-35), we are told that the two travelers with Christ did not know who he was,” said Corrigan. “It was in the breaking of the bread that they knew him. So, too, it is in sharing our family meal that we better understand and know more fully the family that God has placed in our lives. It is in the breaking of the bread that we reveal ourselves more fully to those who love us.”
To help busy families take the opportunity to reconnect this Family Day — Sept. 27 — CASA has created a Web site where visitors can find place mat templates, recipes, games, conversation starters, a menu planner, and even a pledge to eat together that evening. Additional information is also available on the site regarding how to talk to kids about drugs and alcohol, recognize signs of substance abuse, and where to go for help. And if warming up food or eating out is more your style, say the CASA folks, no worries. That’s just as good from a relational perspective. What matters, they say, is talking with your kids and continuing to build relationships with them over time. For more information about Family Day, visit the site online at: http://casafamilyday.org.
“The Morrisey family has a tradition of eating dinner together Christmas Eve! Our two children and their significant others go to Mass with Patty and I at St. Patrick’s and then we head to the Plaza for dinner. Over the years, during the Christmas season, our children would ask us, ‘What do you want for Christmas?’ We figured out several years ago that the one need we have is to spend more quality time with our kids. We pick the restaurant and they buy the dinner. It has turned out to be an evening that we all look forward to. It gives us an opportunity to reflect on the past year as a family and be thankful for all the good things in our lives!” — Mike Morrisey, executive director of the Catholic Education Foundation “Our family tries to eat together at both breakfast and dinner most days, which is possible since our four kids are six and younger. We also do simple art projects together, go on one vacation each year, and work with the other family members to plan something special for birthdays.” – Gary Pratt, associate director/planned giving for the archdiocesan stewardship office
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Bunten belonged to the 345th Signal Wing Company, attached to the 49th Bomber Group. His rank was Pfc. — or “praying for corporal,” as he said with a laugh. By the time Bunten was arranging his little joy ride up the mountain, most Italians around Foggia were very friendly to Americans and rather pleased to be rid of the Germans. His commanding officer approved the day trip in response to Bunten’s request, but stipulated that he’d only allow it if a group wanted to go. So Peluso and Bunten rounded up a few buddies and headed off. The soldiers only had a vague idea as to the location of San Giovanni Rotondo, but they eventually found help in a nearby town in the form of an Italian count, who Bunten remembers as “always wearing knickers.” “He knew almost anything you’d want to know about San Giovanni, and he directed us around like a guide,” said Bunten. “He showed us where the church was, and we got to meet different people. We met this lady, Mary Pyle, who worked at the church.” Pyle was an expatriate American who had become such a devoted follower of Padre Pio that she had moved to San Giovanni Rotondo. The American soldiers, all Catholic, went to Mass and later met Padre Pio himself. He looked fairly ordinary, recalls Bunten, except for his hands, which were bandaged. The 57-yearold priest, who was born Francesco Forgione and then given the name Pio when he became a member of the Capuchins, was one of several friars who ministered there. “He was just like any priest as far as I could tell, but you could [also] tell there was something special about him,” said Bunten. In the days that followed, Bunten and his buddies made several trips up the harrowing mountain roads to see Padre Pio. They’d go to Mass, and then sometimes stay for a visit. Although the priest couldn’t speak English, some of the Italian-American soldiers could converse with him in his native tongue. Bunten attempted little more than a “hi” to Padre Pio, who would graciously acknowledge him, give him a smile, or pat him on the head. Padre Pio never ate much at meals and usually just drank a lemon drink. Padre Pio enjoyed joking with the Italian-Americans, however, and once teased Peluso about failing to get the food in his mouth when a spaghetti noodle clung to Peluso’s cheek. Padre Pio usually celebrated what was known in those days as a “low” Mass, which was usually comparatively short. But Padre Pio’s would last for two hours, said Bunten. Despite being in obvious pain, with tears, Padre Pio seemed to be totally absorbed in the Mass. “When he said the consecration, it was like he was in another world, living the whole thing,” said Bunten. Even then, there were stories of unusual things associated with Padre Pio, but Bunten didn’t witness anything out of the ordinary, except for the everpresent wounds on his hands, which had a lovely odor that he couldn’t quite define. Bunten would learn later that these marks — which a number of saints over the centuries have experienced —
LOCAL NEWS 7 Myrtle (Darling) and Hank Freschett, members of St. Pius X Parish, Mission, celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary on Anniversaries Sept. 7. The couple was married at St. Boniface Church in Walhalla, N.D. Their children and their spouses are: Pattie Freschett, Atlanta; Mary and Frank Gilman, Leawood; and Susan and John Ludwikoski, Leawood. They also have five grandchildren. A family dinner and celebration took place Aug. 4 in Amelia Island, Fla. Kenny and Jackie Breymeyer, members of Most Pure Heart of Mary Parish in Topeka, will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary on Sept. 17. The couple was married at St. Bernard Church, Wamego. Their children and their spouses are: Marcy and Rusty Weekley; Adam Breymeyer; and April and Greg Meier. They also have four grandchildren. Joan and Joe Desch, members of Christ the King Parish in Topeka, celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary at a family gathering on Sept. 12. They were married on Sept. 30, 1950, at Holy Name Church, Topeka. Their children and their spouses are: Joleen and Roger Aeschliman, Joe and Patty Desch, Janelle Moses, and Jerilyn and Ed Rodgers, all of Topeka; Jay and Mary Desch, Overland Park; and Jeremy Desch, Brisbane, Australia. They also have 14 grandchildren and two great-granddaughters. They are planning an anniversary trip to Australia in October.
Ray Bunten kept a photo album with pictures of his visits to St. Padre Pio. One group (top) that visited in November 1944 was: (from left) Joseph W. Pelulso, James A Graycar, John Winn, Art Lucchesi, and Ray Bunten. Bunten and Lucchesi (center photo) served Mass for St. Padre Pio. The saint’s Masses were always crowded with Italians from the town and area and with American servicemen. were called “stigmata,” and were wounds that replicated those of the crucified Christ. Bunten and the others continued to make trips back to see Padre Pio, including a very moving visit in which he and fellow American Art Lucchesi served Mass for him, until their unit was transferred to southern France. But before they left, Pyle gave Bunten and some others bandages that had wrapped Padre Pio’s wounds. The last time Bunten talked to Padre Pio, he asked him to watch over his family, and the priest said he would. Over the years, Bunten gave small pieces of his bandage to family members until only a very small piece remains. He developed a strong devotion to Padre Pio and never tired of sharing his story. Recently, Bunten moved to Gardner to be closer to his daughter, Barbara Hermansen, a member of St. Paul Parish
in Olathe. One day he talked about his relic with a member of the Knights of Columbus who also belonged to Sacred Heart Parish in Gardner. The Knight told Father Cramer about it, who, in turn, asked Bunten if he was willing to permit the display of the relic at Mass. Bunten was happy to give his permission. Bunten was only 20 years old when he met the priest, but he never forgot Padre Pio, who died on Sept. 23, 1968. When he was canonized on June 16, 2002, Bunten wasn’t surprised. “I feel like I’ve been blessed to have the opportunity to meet a man like him,” said Bunten. “I think he kept me on the straight and narrow.”
James H. and Dolores (Barrett) Finley, members of Sacred Heart Parish, Shawnee, celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary on Aug. 26. The couple was married in New York City. Their children are: Carol Bristow, James “Bub” Finley, Linda McDonough, Mark Finley and Michael Finley. They also have 12 grandchildren and 12 great-grandchildren. They celebrated with dinner at the Hereford House followed by a cake reception.
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Leaving a legacy
Planned giving initiative rolls out to a great start Stories by Bob Hart
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ANSAS CITY, Kan. — It’s the kind of results that suggest something’s being done right. Just one year after the Archdiocese of Kansas City in Kansas launched an initiative to promote opportunities for remembering the church in individuals’ wills, seven parishes and two schools have crossed a significant milestone. By adding more than 80 new names to the Catholic Legacy Society, members of which have notified the church of an estate gift, those parishes and schools are at the forefront of a movement led by the Catholic Foundation of Northeast Kansas (CFNEK) to increase awareness of leaving bequests and planned gifts to the church. “Many people say they would like to leave a gift to their church in their wills,” said Gary Pratt, CFNEK associate director of planned giving. “One of the main reasons people have told us they’ve done so is that they were asked. We’re trying to help people experience the joy of making a commitment for that sort of gift to their church.” In a nation where only 30 percent Annual meeting of adults have leThe Catholic Foundagal wills and only tion of Northeast Kansas 7 percent provide will hold its annual meetfor charities within ing and dinner on Nov. them, the message 4 from 6 to 8 p.m. at is an important one Savior Pastoral Center in to communicate. Kansas City, Kan. James “We want to K. Kelley, president of the develop a culture International Catholic where it is the norm, Stewardship Council, rather than the exwill be the speaker and ception, that Cathoaddress the impact of the lics respond in faith planned giving initiative through charitable and its potential benefit bequests,” Pratt for the Catholic Church in said. northeast Kansas. The planned giving initiative was three years in the planning stages. It was rolled out in a pilot phase that started in July 2009. The second phase, currently underway, targets Topeka, Lawrence and the Southern Region of the archdiocese. “We’re doing it in phases, but anyone can jump ahead in line by showing interest,” Pratt said. In the pilot phase, parishes and schools were asked to meet eight criteria in 12 months to show they had an ongoing plan to increase planned gifts. The criteria included an endowment fund with a minimum of $5,000 and the formation of a committee to meet regularly and organize the effort. Of the 110 parishes in the archdiocese, more than 40 have already set up endowment funds. All 110 have received information on how to promote planned giving, and future phases of the rollout will concentrate on Johnson and Wyandotte counties, followed by Atchison, Nemaha/Marshall and Leavenworth. “I’m really proud of all our parishes who take the long view with their funds,” said Lesle Knop, CFNEK executive director. “It is so important that we continue to provide for our future generations, just as our predecessors did for us with the beautiful churches we’re enjoying now.” Knop said the encouraging early outcomes of the initiative are the result of those who recognized a need a few years ago. “I give credit to the leadership of the archbishop and the initiative of our board members, who began discussing a planned giving initiative more than three years ago,” she said. “When we talk about all these good things happening now, we’re talking about the fruits of good stewardship.” For more information on Catholic bequest giving and endowments, or to register to attend the CFNEK annual meeting, visit the Web site at: www.CFNEK. org, or call (913) 647-0325.
FAQ
(Frequently Asked Questions) What is an endowment fund? An endowment is a permanent investment of gifts from which the income earned will be used to support a particular parish, school, or ministry. Only the income or interest earned is available for distribution, so the donor’s original gift is never spent. As a result, endowed funds provide a perpetual, supplemental source of income for such things as the enhancement of programs and ministries, facilities maintenance, tuition and teacher assistance, etc. By planning today, endowments protect parishes, schools and ministries from changing demographics and increasing expenses. An endowment is designed to be perpetual. All or part of its income may be distributed, but the principal would not be accessible except for investment. In that way, endowment funds provide a vehicle through which individuals make
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outright or planned gifts that will have an everlasting impact on their parish. In time, the income generated by the gift will far exceed the original donation. What are some things an endowment fund is not? • It is not a long-term savings plan that can be spent when a big expense arises. • It is not a capital fund. • It is not an alternative to the Archdiocesan Deposit and Loan. Why should an individual put money into an endowment instead of savings? • So as to leave a legacy gift that will be felt for generations • To create strengthened financial viability for a parish into the future • To enable a parish to benefit from returns on stock market investments • To help the recipient plan for increased operational expenses • To ensure the protection of the donated assets Why use CFNEK? • First, because it provides professional investment choices employing Catholic
socially responsible and market competitive investments • Next, because equity portfolios are available to fit the risk tolerance and investment goals of the institution establishing the endowment. • Fixed-income investments are also available through the Archdiocesan Deposit and Loan (D&L). Catholic Foundation investors receive an additional 0.5% on their D&L investments. While this money is working for investors, it provides working capital for other archdiocesan parishes and institutions to keep borrowing costs low. • Through the CFNEK, a donor’s constituents have access to a gift annuity program and donor-advised funds, and the beneficiary can use the CFNEK’s resources to develop a planned giving program on the local level. • Finally, the funds entrusted to CFNEK are overseen by the archbishop, assisted by a board comprised of lay Catholic professional women and men from throughout the archdiocese, ensuring that the funds will be managed and used as intended by their donors.
The little parish that could
AVERLY — Surely setting up a parish endowment is best left to the big guys, right? The parishes with thousands of members? Think again. The smallest parish in the archdiocese is St. Joseph in Waverly. With just 31 families and lacking any sort of cash infusion from a single, major donor, the parish has successfully set up a parish endowment fund. What’s more, it also recently celebrated the dedication of a brand-new, fully paidfor parish hall, following a capital campaign and building effort that brought together nearly the whole town — Catholics and nonCatholics alike. “We are doing a lot with just a little,” said Father Marianand Mendem, pastor. “All of these parishes have a strong future.” Indeed, Father Mendem’s other rural parishes — in Burlington, Westphalia and Emerald — have all taken on major capital campaigns or maintenance/remodeling projects as well. Back in Waverly, the small and mighty relish their long histories and look to the future with hardearned optimism. “We’re in solid financial shape, and looking to only improve on that,” said parish treasurer Carol Robbins.
The parish council of St. Joseph Parish, Waverly, is comprised of: (from left to right) Carol Robbins, Marc Lee, Marie Drumm, Doug Henry, Father Marianand Mendem, Curtis Graham, and Kenneth Combes.
12 CLASSIFIEDS THE LEAVEN • SEPTEMBER 17, 2010 Employment IT and Web specialist – The Archdiocese of Kansas City in Kansas is seeking a skilled professional to support all computer and technology needs for the chancery offices. Duties include: providing technical support on hardware and software issues; maintaining network; and updating Web site. Ideal candidate will have a strong knowledge of computer systems, Web site maintenance/design, and superior communication skills to assist users with hardware and software issues. General knowledge of infrastructure requirements and components of local area networks and Internet required. A bachelor’s degree in computer science or 3 - 5 years of experience in computer management required. A complete job description, application and benefits information are available on the archdiocesan Web site at: www.archkck.org (click on the human resources tab). Interested individuals should mail cover letter, resume, and application, by Sept. 27, to: Archdiocese of Kansas City in Kansas, Office of Human Resources, IT Search, 12615 Parallel Pkwy., Kansas City, KS 66109, or send, via e-mail, to: kthomas@archkck.org. Parish music director/organist - Our Lady of Unity Parish, Kansas City, Kan., has an immediate opening for a part-time organist/music director for the churches of Sacred Heart and St. John the Evangelist Churches both located in Kansas City, Kan. Jobs include playing at 1 - 3 Masses per weekend, rehearsing with cantors, directing a small choir, and coordinating the music minister schedule. Competency in both organ and piano is a requirement. An interest/ ability to build a successful, comprehensive music program for the parish is ideal. There is the potential for this being a full-time position if this person could also be the music teacher for the parish school. Qualified candidates should send an e-mail to Fr. Kent O’Connor at: oluparishkck@gmail.com or call him at (913) 677-4621 to set up an interview/audition. Call center representative – We are looking for telephone professionals seeking top pay and benefits. Prior phone experience preferred. We are growing and need quality people to grow with us. To apply, visit the Web site at: www.cobraguard.net (click on ‘Jobs’ link at the bottom of the page), or forward your resume, via e-mail, to: HR@cobraguard.net. EOE. Administrative assistant/transportation - For Catholic Charities of NE Kansas’ Foster Grandparent Program to provide the coordination of all functions and reports related to the transportation program as well as providing administrative office support to all aspects of the operation, including managing the database, administrative tasks and recordkeeping. Prior administrative office experience and transportation coordination background required. Must have a valid driver’s license with clean DMV and KBI records and be able to pass DOT physical with drug screening. Comprehensive knowledge of Wyandotte County streets and highway system. Familiarity with KDOT grants and FMCSA reporting and working with older adult population are preferred. Send cover letter and resume detailing transportation and administrative office experience, via e-mail, to Charlotte Melson at: cmelson@catholiccharitiesks.org. Application deadline is Sept. 30. Full time; great benefits. EOE. Legislative assistant - The Kansas Catholic Conference is seeking a legislative assistant to work in its Topeka office. Responsibilities include: meeting with state representatives and senators; submitting written testimony at committee hearings; speaking on behalf of the conference at various functions; and significant clerical and administrative office support. Candidates must be a practicing Catholic with a robust knowledge of the faith and Catholic social teaching; have a strong interest in public policy and the legislative process; be flexible and the willing to work long hours during the legislative session; possess strong verbal and written communication skills; and have demonstrated proficiency in Microsoft Office programs. An undergraduate degree is necessary — academic concentration and work experience in a related field is preferred. This is a full-time position with benefits. Submit resume and cover letter to: Kansas Catholic Conference, P.O. Box 2473, Topeka KS 66601. Office assistant - Full-time position available. Customer service preferred. Must have good working knowledge of Microsoft Word and Excel. Good computer skills a must. Starting pay is $9 per hour. Send resume, via e-mail, to: clientservice@steamstar.net.
Accompanist - St. John LaLande Church, Blue Springs, Mo. Keyboard accompanist with strong organ/piano skills needed for several weekend Masses per month plus occasional special liturgical celebrations. Knowledge of Catholic liturgies preferred but will train. Submit resume and references, via e-mail, to: mverstraete@stjohnlalande.com. Music director - St. John LaLande Church, Blue Springs, Mo. Responsibilities include: preparing music for weekend Masses and special liturgical celebrations; directing and accompanying on organ/piano parish choirs (vocal and handbell) and cantors; conducting music rehearsals; and cultivating music ministry within the parish. Responsible for recruiting, training and scheduling cantors, choirs and instrumentalists. Requirements: strong organ and piano skills; excellent leadership, interpersonal and communication skills; knowledge of Catholic liturgy and liturgical music. Preference given to candidates with experience leading volunteer musicians. Salary commensurate with experience. Submit resume and references, via e-mail, to: mverstraete@stjohnla lande.com. St. Joseph Early Childhood Center - Is seeking a part-time infant teacher from noon - 5 p.m. and a full-time toddler teacher from 9 a.m. - 6 p.m. Experience preferred. Must have a positive attitude, and be patient, creative, and fun-loving. Salary dependent on qualifications. Call Susan Brown at (913) 248-4585. Part-time bowling machine mechanic - St. John’s Catholic Club, Kansas City, Kan., is looking for someone to maintain a six-lane house in the church’s men’s club. All late model 1960s Brunswick equipment. Call Kenny at (913) 788-9758. Financial representative - Due to the success and growth of the Knights of Columbus, we are adding financial representatives in the Kansas City and Emporia areas. This position is ideal for a determined, high-energy, high-expectation, professional, selfdisciplined, independent individual desiring to serve others, yet earn a better-than-average income. We provide top-rated financial products to our members and their families and will provide excellent benefits and training. For information or an interview, contact John A. Mahon, 307 Dakota, Holton KS 66436; or call (785) 364-5450.
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St. Joseph of the Valley and St. Lawrence churches, Leavenworth, will sponsor a night at the drive-in, featuring the movie “Up,” on Sept. 18 on the lawn at St. Joseph of the Valley Church, 31151 207th St. The evening will begin with a Mass at 5 p.m., followed by the movie. The cost is $10 for parking. Concessions will be available. All are welcome. Father Tom Hesse will celebrate the archdiocesan monthly pro-life Mass at 8 a.m. on Sept. 18 at Sts. Cyril & Methodius Church, 44 N. Mill, Kansas City, Kan., followed by a rosary procession to an abortion clinic four blocks away. Eucharistic adoration is available for those not processing; Benediction concludes services at 9:45 a.m. The Curé of Ars Singles will host a harvest moon dance from 7:30 - 11:30 p.m. on Sept. 18 in the school cafeteria, located at 9403 Mission Rd. Leawood. The cost of $15 includes food and drinks. For information, call (913) 631-6873 or (913) 633-2403. A memorial liturgy for deceased loved ones will be held at 8 a.m. on Sept. 18 at Curé of Ars Church, 9401 Mission Rd., Leawood. The bereavement ministry will have its monthly meeting following Mass in the Father Burak Room. For information, call (913) 649-2026. The Cathedral of St. Peter, 409 N. 15th St., Kansas City, Kan., will host a fall festival from 5 - 9 p.m. on Sept. 18. A Mexican dinner will be served in the parish hall. There will be raffles, bingo, and children’s games. For information, call Jim or Julie at (913) 321-1286. A symposium, entitled “Awaken the Dreamer,” designed to respond to global issues such as climate change, poverty and economic crisis, will be held from 8:45 a.m. - 2:30 p.m. on Sept. 18 at St. Pius X Parish hall, 5500 Woodson, Mission. A rosary and Mass will begin at 7:50 a.m. Lunch will be provided, and child care is available. There is no cost to attend, but registration is required. For information or to register, call (913) 722-3228 or send an e-mail to: awake thedreamer@gmail.com. The “Halfway to St. Patrick’s Day,” an auction benefiting the Colleen Conway Holloway Scholarship at Notre Dame de Sion, 10631 Wornall Rd., Kansas City, Mo., will be held from 6 - 10 p.m. on Sept. 18 in the school gym. For information or to purchase tickets, call (816) 942-3282. The Seton Center will host “An Evening as a Child,” an adult-only benefit at 6 p.m. on Sept. 18 at the Overland Park Convention Center, 6000 College Blvd. The event will include games and activities, dinner, and a live auction. Tickets cost $50 per person. For information, call (816) 581-4722 or visit the Web site at: www.setonkc.org.
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St. Therese Church, Richmond, will host a parish dinner from 11 a.m. - 2 p.m. on Sept. 19. The cost is $8 for adults; $5 for children 10 and under. Carryouts are available. St. Joseph Parish, 306 N. Broadway, Leavenworth, will host a roast beef dinner and bazaar from 11:30 a.m. - 3:30 p.m. on Sept. 19.
The Gospel choir of Our Lady & St. Rose Parish, 2300 N. 8th St., Kansas City, Kan., will present “Keep On Keepin’ On,” a celebration of African-American history through Negro Spirituals, at 3 p.m. on Sept. 19. The Knights of Columbus will sponsor a free soccer challenge competition for girls and boys ages 10 - 14 at 3 p.m. on Sept. 19 at the Eisenhower soccer field, 2901 N. 72nd St., Kansas City, Kan. “The Life and Spirituality of Dorothy Day,” a one-day retreat, will be held from 9 a.m. - 4 p.m. on Sept. 19 at Marillac Center, 4200 S. 4th St., Leavenworth. The cost of $45 includes lunch. Scholarships are available. For information or to register, call (913) 7586552. Sacred Heart Church, Sabetha, will host its annual picnic on Sept. 19. A family-style chicken and ham dinner will be served, beginning at 4:30 p.m. The cost is $8 for adults; $4 for children. There will also be bingo, cards, a cakewalk, games and a farmers market. St. Joseph Church, Lillis, will host a fall picnic on Sept. 19. A brisket dinner with all the trimmings will be served from 4:30 - 7 p.m. The cost is $7.50 for adults; $4 for youth; children four and under eat free. There will be a cakewalk, bingo and chance book drawings.
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“Coping With Grief,” a sixsession program for those grieving the loss of a loved one, will be offered from 6:30 - 8 p.m. on Mondays, beginning Sept. 20, in the Romero Chapel at Good Shepherd Parish, 12800 W. 75th St., Shawnee. For information or to register, call Bernadine Asher at (913) 5635304.
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A novena in honor of St. Thèrése will be prayed nightly at 6:45 p.m. from Sept. 23 - Oct. 1 at Sts. Cyril & Methodius Church, 44 N. Mill, Kansas City, Kan.
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The Our Lady of Guadalupe Society at Queen of the Rosary Church, 7023 W. 71st St., Overland Park, will host its annual taco dinner from 1 - 6 p.m. on Sept. 24 in the parish hall.
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Holy Family Church, 513 Ohio, Kansas City, Kan., will host its annual Slovenefest on Sept. 25 on the parish grounds. The evening will begin with Mass at 4 p.m., followed by a Slovenian dinner, live music, dancing, games, and a silent auction. For information, contact Richard Schutte at (913) 669-3677 or the church office at (913) 371-1561. The Johnson County Unos will gather for Mass at 4:30 p.m. on Sept. 25 at St. Pius X Church, 5601 Woodson, Mission. Dinner will follow at Applebee’s, 6800 Johnson Dr., Mission. A Virtus class in Spanish will be offered at 10 a.m. on Sept. 25 at All Saints Church, 229 S. 8th St., Kansas City, Kan. For information, call (913) 371-8101 or visit the Web site at: www.virtus.org.
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A charismatic retreat, directed by Father Dennis Wait, will be offered at Sanctuary of Hope, 2601 Ridge Ave, Kansas City, Kan., from 8:30 a.m. on Sept. 25 to 1 p.m. on Sept. 26. For information or to register, call (913) 649-2026.
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The Daughters of Isabella, Little Flower Circle No. 503, will say a rosary for sick and deceased members at 1 p.m. on Sept. 26 at Rossiter Hall, 204 S.W. 8th, Topeka. A business meeting and social time will follow. Lt. William Fitzsimons Assembly fourth degree Knights of Columbus of Christ the King Parish, 3024 N. 53rd St., Kansas City, Kan., will host a Salisbury steak dinner from 10 a.m. - 2 p.m. on Sept. 26 in the Father Davern Hall. The cost is: $6 for adults; children eat free.
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The archdiocesan pro-life office and the Respect Life Committee at Sacred Heart Parish, 5501 Monticello Rd., Shawnee, will host an evening of prayer with the Sisters of Life at 7 p.m. on Sept. 28 at Sacred Heart Church. The Sisters will present “Transforming the Culture through Prayer,” followed by a singing of the Chaplet of Divine Mercy and Benediction. Are you looking for an opportunity to volunteer with a great organization? The Keeler Women’s Center, a ministry of the Benedictine Sisters located at 2220 Central Ave, Kansas City, Kan., is seeking volunteers to assist women who want to learn to speak English or to read and write. Commit to one, 90-minute session per week tutoring one-on-one in the Easy English program. Literacy volunteers are also needed. Training and materials are provided. For information, contact Sister Carol Ann Petersen, OSB, at (913) 906-8990. St. James Grade School, Kansas City, Mo., is hosting upcoming reunions for the classes of 1958, 1959, 1960, 1961, 1962. For information, send an e-mail to: adonaldson@kc.rr.com. El Centro, Inc., will offer classes in home improvements, including electrical, HVAC maintenance, windows and doors, siding and gutters, insulation and airflow, drywall and painting. The classes are free and open to the public. All classes are held at 650 Minnesota Ave., Kansas City, Kan. Participants are asked to preregister. For dates and times of classes, call (913) 677-0100. Do you or your loved one need support to break free from pornography, infidelity, or lust? The My House Men’s Group provides prayer and accountability for sexual integrity. Sam Meier, MA, LPC, is available for men’s groups and counseling; call him at (913) 647-0378, or send an e-mail to him at: smeier@ archkck.org. The My House Women’s Group provides hope and healing for women who are dealing with their loved one’s struggles. Contact Beth Meier at (913) 647-0379, or send an e-mail to her at: bmeier@archkck.org. The Serra Club invites all men of the archdiocese to pray with them to increase vocations to the priesthood and religious life. Meetings are held at noon on every second and fourth Wednesday of the month at the Hilton Garden Inn, 520 Minnesota Ave., Kansas City, Kan. For information, contact Jim Conrad at (913) 432-4162, John Muehlberger at (913) 441-5061, or Bill Peters at (913) 894-6967. Calendar items must be received nine days before the publication date. E-mail submissions are preferred; send to: jennifer@theleaven.com. Submissions may be mailed to: 12615 Parallel Pkwy., Kansas City, KS 66109.
14 COMMENTARY
THE LEAVEN • septermber 17, 2010
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“In family, our bonds are strengthened by this time together. And thus, it is there in the family meal that they know each other more fully and are closer because of this shared experience.” Jacki Corrigan, archdiocesan consultant for the family life office See story on page 6
twenty-fIFth WEEK IN ordinary time Sept. 19 TWENTY-fifth SUNDAY IN ORDINARY TIME Am 8: 4-7; Ps 113: 1-2, 4-8; 1 Tm 2: 1-8; Lk 16: 1-13 Sept. 20 Andrew Kim Taegon, priest, martyr, Paul Chong Hasang, martyr, and their companions, martyrs Prv 3: 27-34; Ps 15: 2-4b, 5; Lk 8: 16-18 Sept. 21 matthew, apostle, evangelist Eph 4: 1-7, 11-13; Ps 19: 2-5; Mt 9: 9-13 Sept. 22 Wednesday Prv 30: 5-9; Ps 119: 29, 72, 89, 101, 104, 163; Lk 9: 1-6 Sept. 23 Pio of Pietrelcina, priest Eccl 1: 2-11; Ps 90: 3-6, 12-14, 17bc; Lk 9: 7-9 Sept. 24 Friday Eccl 3: 1-11; Ps 144: 1b, 2abc, 3-4; Lk 9: 18-22 Sept. 25 Saturday Eccl 11:9 — 12:8; Ps 90: 3-6, 12-14, 17; Lk 9: 43b-45
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How much is peace worth to you?
eace, pennies, and plenitude — over the next several months, it’s my hope that these three become close friends.
By a happy coincidence, two September celebrations fall on the same day this year, on Tuesday the 21st. Since it’s the third Tuesday of September, it’s this year’s opening day of the regular sessions of the United Nations’ General Assembly — and is designated by the U.N. as the International Day of Peace. It’s a time “to commemorate the ideal of peace among all nations and people,” according to “The Book of Days,” by Guen Sublette. September 21 is also World Gratitude Day. Its promoters encourage people to experience “the emotion of gratitude within” and share it with others. “Realizing that these feelings are simultaneously being experienced by other groups and individuals all over the world can create a universal, lasting bond of kinship,” notes Sublette in her book. These two celebrations got me to thinking of a story that I’m sure is familiar to you. Sadako Sasaki was a two-year-old Japanese girl back in 1945 when the atomic bomb was dropped on her hometown of Hiroshima. She survived the blast and seemed to be living a normal life until she turned 12. After falling ill, her parents rushed Sadako to a hospital, where she was diagnosed with “atomic poisoning.” Her leukemia was the result of radiation that was stored in the bodies of those who survived the “Flash,” as the people of Hiroshima referred to the bomb blast. One day Sadako’s friend, Chizuko Hamamoto, came to visit in the hospital
and presented her with a piece of paper carefully folded into the shape of a crane. Chizuko said, “I read a fable that the crane supposedly lives for a thousand years, and any sick person who folds a thousand paper cranes will get well. So, let’s get started!” Chizuko then taught Sadako how to fold a crane out of a piece of paper. Curiously, Sadako began to feel better as she folded the cranes. As the days wore on, Sadako folded more and more cranes, which soon began to fill every space in her hospital room. Some days she could barely finish a few, due to fatigue; on other days, though, her fingers seemed to fly as she assembled the cranes. Eventually, though, the leukemia took its toll. According to one version of the Sadako’s story, she folded only 644 cranes before she died. At that point, Chizuko and other classmates got together and folded the remaining paper cranes to reach one thousand, threaded them into a wreath and placed it on Sadako’s body. These classmates then raised money to build a Children’s Monument in Hiroshima’s Peace Park as a reminder to what the “Flash” had done to that city’s children. Today, a figure of Sadako, with a golden crane perched on her outstretched hand, stands on a large granite pedestal. At its base are these words from the children: “This is our cry. This is our prayer. Let there be peace in the
world.” (Adapted from an entry in Brian Cavanaugh’s “Sower’s Seeds That Nurture Family Values: Sixth Planting.”) So, where do the pennies come in? I’d like to propose that each of us set a goal of collecting a thousand of them from now until the end of the year. These pennies are a substitute for paper cranes. (I looked online at how to make one. There were some 25 intricate steps to its assembly and, with my rather clumsy fingers, I’d be lucky to make one crane by the end of the year!) One thousand pennies for peace. With a little over 100 days until 2011, that means ten pennies a day. However, just dropping ten pennies at once into a jar, bowl or piggy bank wouldn’t be very motivating. Therefore, add one more step: As you go through your day and become aware of a blessing, show your gratitude for it with a penny. Look for three blessings in the morning, three in the afternoon, three in the evening and then one more right before bed. Doing this for the next 100 days (or so) will change your heart, vision and behavior. Imagine going through the holiday season focused on blessings rather than on hectic schedules, long lines or overloaded gift lists. By the time New Year’s Day rolls around, you’ll have collected at least $10. I would suggest donating that to a cause that will promote peace — whether it be an organization that works for world peace or a local group that helps hurting people achieve peace of heart. Oh, by the way, there’s one other celebration on Sept. 21: the feast day of St. Matthew. As a tax collector, I have a sneaking suspicion that he’d be all in favor of my daily tax of “pennies for peace.”
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Good stewardship: a state of heart
hen our oldest daughter was still in her preteens, she declared that she wanted to be an actuary when she grew up. Once I figured out what it was that an actuary did, I was not surprised by her admission. She had been a “bean counter” from an early age, even improvising a ledger in a small spiral notebook for tracking credit entries (her weekly allowance) as well Twenty-fifth sunday as the occasional in ordinary time debit (when her Lk 16: 1-13 father and I had to borrow a little cash!). Her aptitude for accounting has since guided her career path as a corporate auditor and is matched only by her skill in bargain hunting. Her shrewdness in financial matters surpasses even my penny-pinching abilities, serving her well in these challenging economic times. Today’s Gospel about the “crafty steward” has always intrigued me. Why would Jesus hold up as a model a servant who engaged in probable
“Prepare a full account of your stewardship.” Luke 16: 1-13 embezzlement of his master’s property and some rather shady manipulation of his accounts? From Jesus’ perspective, the point here is not the steward’s immorality but his astuteness. The accountant, recognizing the signs of his impending dismissal, takes quick and prudent action. By rewriting the debtors’ invoices, he enhances his master’s reputation for
generosity, and he makes use of material goods to build relationships that will benefit him in the long run. God has not only provided for my family’s needs but has blessed me with all sorts of resources, tangible and intangible. The older I get, the more I realize the importance of gratitude, proper perspective and prudent action when it comes to God’s gifts. I am called to be thankful, especially for the gifts that I don’t recognize to be gifts at the time. The blessings God bestows aren’t simply for my benefit — they’re given to demonstrate God’s generosity to others. Life isn’t about accumulation of “stuff” — it’s about building relationships with people and taking wise but practical action on their behalf. Ultimately, good stewardship isn’t about the state of the economy: it’s about the state of one’s heart.
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KELLY — He once was lost, but then was found. Organizers of the annual Kelly Youth Rally had been trying to get Tony Melendez to appear at their event for four years. The day of the rally, however, it looked like he was going to be a no-show. “We’ve been praying hard to get Tony Melendez,” said Father Arul Carasala, as he introduced Melendez from the stage. “He was driving here, and he lost his way. He almost ended up in Nebraska.” “I did drive to Nebraska,” retorted Melendez. Melendez discovered that wireless Internet drops off in most of the bucolic Nemaha-Marshall Pastoral Region. He, his family, and his Toe Jam Band were lost indeed. Finding the place where he was supposed to perform — an anonymous patch of pasture — would take some amazing grace. Fortunately, the searchers sent out by rally organizers found him and brought him to the rally site, located in a pasture near Kelly. “All of a sudden, we saw a black truck pass us,” said Melendez. “I said, ‘Guys, they drive fast here.’ He was our guide. I don’t know if I could have ever found [this place otherwise].” Melendez, who was born without arms, gained fame while playing the guitar with his feet for Pope John Paul II in 1987. Since then, he has travelled to many events as a performer and motivational speaker. For the greater part of the event, Melendez was practically a one-man show, as he played songs both sacred and secular. In between numbers, he talked about God, faith, hope, and overcoming adversity. This year, the 13th annual rally attracted more than 430 junior high and high school youths from 17 parishes in the Nemaha-Marshall Pastoral Region. It concluded with a Mass celebrated by Archbishop Joseph F. Naumann. The theme of this year’s rally, “Jammin’ with Jesus,” was inspired by Melendez and his Toe Jam Band. Melendez was not content to merely entertain the teens. His style was participatory and, at various times, he had them giving each other high-fives and hugs. “Do what I sing,” he said at one point. “You are my hands. Let’s see how well my hands help me.” So he asked them to untie a shoe (not necessarily their own), reach out and touch someone’s shoulder, and hug someone four rows in front or behind them.
Featured performer Tony Melendez was almost a no-show at the Kelly Youth Rally. But once he got there, he kept the crowd rocking with a mixture of spiritual and secular songs. At one point he stopped for a question-and-answer period, flipped and caught a pencil with his right foot, and even caught a frisbee with his mouth, like a dog. He could “throw” it, too — with his mouth — pretty far. There were a lot of other silly things. But there were a lot of serious things as well. “I played for Pope John Paul II,” said Melendez. “He jumped off the stage — it wasn’t as high as this one — and he came over and kissed me. He somehow put the word ‘hope’ on my forehead.” “Somehow, people became inspired by a guy with no arms playing the guitar with his toes,” he continued. “It sent me around the world. If Tony Melendez can string a guitar with his toes and hold a pick with his toes, maybe you can do more. Say you’ll try. Maybe one day you will. I pray for that in a big, big, way.” Melendez has written an autobiography, titled fittingly enough, “A Gift of Hope: The Tony Melendez Story.” He shared a little of what it is like to grow up disabled and then to overcome his limitations.
“As a little kid, my father used to say, ‘You can do it,’” said Melendez. “I was seven or eight — maybe younger — when I knew I could do things with my foot that some people couldn’t do with their hands. I learned how to tie a knot, string a guitar, and drive a car.” He has never been angry with God because of his disability. “I’ve been asked that several times,” said Melendez. “You know, I could never be angry with God. The reason I have no arms is because a medicine was given to my mother when she was pregnant. I was born in Nicaragua. In the United States, they have more [drug] controls, but in Nicaragua they just handed them out.” “I can’t blame God for something God didn’t do,” he continued. “I’d love to hold my son, and wipe my own face. But [my disability] is the reality. You, as a person, have got to be strong. You might say, ‘Oh, I can’t,’ but you can — for your own sake and for others. You are very much an example of love.”
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