Love Languages, what are they?

Here we are with the first month of the year now over, and well into February, which also holds a day dedicated to love; though, shouldn’t we express our greatest love for another, every day???

Gary Chapman began noticing patterns in couples he was counselling; he noticed they were misunderstanding each other’s needs, which then led him to write “The five love languages”, which describes the ways that people receive and express love. Understanding someone’s love language helps you show someone you care for them, and speak to their heart. We all express and receive love differently. Learning and understanding those differences can have a meaningful impact on your relationships. Whilst we may relate to most of these languages, one or two may stand out the most.

Uncovering your and your partners’ love language may create a better understanding of each other’s needs.

Words of Affirmation

This is expressing affection through verbal and written words of praise, or appreciation, including frequent “I love you’s”, words of encouragement, love notes, poems, kind uplifting words and pointing out what they do well.

Someone with this love language wants undivided attention. They feel most loved when you are completely present, just with them. This means putting down your phone, turning off the TV, and making eye contact as well as actively listening.

A person with physical touch as their primary love language feels love through physical affection, when they consent to it. Holding hands, cuddling, a massage or intimacy. They value the feeling of warmth and comfort; they simply want to be close physically.

This is when you go out of your way and do nice things for them such as:

• Making them dinner

• Giving them a cup of tea

• Helping with errands

• Tidying up things for them

If a person’s main love language is acts of service, they'll notice and appreciate the little things you do for them.

When a person values gifts, it’s a "visual symbol of love". It’s not about the value of the gift, it’s more about the thought. Taking the time to choose a gift, especially for your partner shows them that you know them They treasure not only the gift itself but also the time and effort the gift-giver put into it.

Love languages are a useful tool to improve how we communicate and express ourselves to each other, though, this is only one aspect to be considered. Need help creating more loving relationships? Individuals and couples are welcome. Phone: 0405 361 882 or reach out on FB: MariaChristina.Love Always with love, Maria Christina x

By Heenam Kim

ost women go through a menopause transition, “The Change”. It can be overwhelming experience for both women and their families. You go through bouts of depression, anxiety, and all of sudden you want to cry and become over sensitive. Often patients prescribed HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) drugs, or anti - depressant medication.

Unfortunately, they all have undesirable side effects, the most common side effects of taking HRT are weight gains, headaches or migraines, loss of hair on their head, the hair thins, also encourage cysts to grow fibroids, this happens because more estrogen is in the body. HRT is an artificial hormone going into your system, some people can tolerate really well, while others don’t. They are natural herbal formulas to treat your symptoms if you want to explore natural ways to manage your symptoms, you can either make an appointment with one of naturopaths or come and talk to Kim at the shop.

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