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Stassi grew up in West Springfield, Virginia, and graduated from Virginia Tech with a degree in communication studies. At 22, she married a man she had known since sixth grade and raised two children with him in Richmond.
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After her 29-year marriage ended in divorce, Laura Stassi started a podcast, “Dating While Gray,” where she interviews guests about dating, sex, avoiding scams and more. She receives emails from listeners all over the world. Stassi also published a book about finding love again.
Because she had loved writing since she was a child, she kept writing throughout her marriage, penning several nonfiction books for children (one about Pink Floyd), as well as articles for the Defense Health Agency and even the Beacon. Stassi and her husband moved back to Northern Virginia for another decade, but by 2012 he made it clear he wanted a di-
vorce. She said she was “naïve and in denial” that the separation was final, and continued to iron her ex’s shirts and help him look for real estate. “Divorce was not something you did unless it was just awful. And I just didn’t realize how awful he thought it was,” she said. See GRAY DATING, page 21
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By Margaret Foster When life gave writer Laura Stassi lemons, she didn’t just make lemonade; she created a popular podcast, wrote a book and created three radio specials, one of which will air on NPR stations this fall. After her 29-year marriage ended in divorce, Stassi, then in her mid-50s, found herself alone and living in her first-ever apartment, wondering how to start over. “After the split, I started thinking about where my life was. I wanted to start dating again, but I didn’t know how to do it. The last time I’d been single, telephone answering machines weren’t even invented,” Stassi said in an interview with the Beacon. While jogging on a North Carolina beach one day, a phrase popped into her head: “dating while gray.” With that tagline, Stassi started researching how older adults find love again. Today, she hosts the podcast she created, “Dating While Gray: The Grown-Up’s Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships.” On it, she interviews older adults about their dating lives. She retells some of those stories in her 2022 book, Romance Redux: Finding Love in Your Later Years, based on the first two seasons of the podcast as well as her own experience. Stassi was the keynote speaker at the Beacon’s 50+Expo on Sunday, October 20 in Silver Spring, Maryland.
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