REDEFINING LOVE

T&C TERMS & CONDITIONS

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ILUN 'S WORLD

REDEFINING LOVE WAS IT LUST OR LOVE?

Model: Alvin Ho Photographer: Charlotte Pang

Model: Athena Ng Photographer: Rachel Chu

T&C TERMS & CONDITIONS

Head of Creatives Brenda Tham

Editor in Chief Kat Tse

Head of Photography Erique Brown

Founded by Northeastern University student and lifestyle blogger Kat Tse, Terms and Conditions is a London and Hong Kong based magazine that aims to break down barriers and start conversations in the fashion and wellness world. T&C hopes to create an empowering community so that readers can engage and connect with each other while providing a platform to support small businesses. Terms and Conditions provides both digital content and printed issues, as well as hosts in-person events to bring the community together. Every printed issue will delve into a new theme in either the fashion or wellness world to showcase various perspectives on that topic.

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Redefining Love is the first issue and explores the idea of what love means from multiple perspectives while using the power of photography, makeup, and fashion to capture moments of vulnerability. The inspiration behind Redefining Love started from the team's own experiences with love. In the midst of brainstorming, the team wanted to recreate some of the moments they had personally felt while creating something memorable for the community. Some conversations and concepts that will take place include "what love means from different people", "how it's completely normal to miss someone you love" or how going through a break up taught one a lesson about the importance of self care and self love.

Special Thanks to: Canva Pro, Soho House Hong Kong, Soho House London, Northeastern University CAMD Faculty Team, Professor John Friar, Kosmicland, Lumiere Runway

CONTENTS

05 Hailun's World 13 Breaking Through 15 Lust or Love?

19 Dear Me, Tonight 25 Rose Tinted Glasses

27 Are You Feeling Out Of Place?

30 The Red Fabric 34 A Letter to Myself 35 Stories behind Small Business 39 Redefining Love Panelist 43 Editor & Creative Team Notes

"Please note that there is a crediting mistake on the physical print. Rachel Chu is the photographer for pages 3, 18, 37 & 39 and Calvin Kwok is the editor for those images. Thank you and apologizes."

Model: Hailun Xie Stylist: Brenda Tham Photographer: Erique Brown

TERMS & CONDITIONS Hailun's World

I hate him. I hate what he did to me, to us. But why can't I get him out of my head? why do I still care?

But within the midst of confusion and the blur of blindness, I started to realize it took two to make things work. I didn’t need him for my life to be complete.

It's been a month and all I still think about is you, it's as if someone pierced a hole in my heart, will this feeling ever go away?

As much as I don't like admitting it, I do miss you, I do care and I always will.

Denial is when she's delusional about what's happening and thinks that they can get back together which is why the makeup is more childlike and fun, it signifies hope - Brenda

This pain keeps me up at night. It robs my soul.

BREAKING THROUGH H I L

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Model: Hill Mak Photographer: Patty Kang

and they were all written in fantasies and they were all written in fantasies and they were all written in fantasies and they were all written in fantasies and they were all written in fantasies

LUST

Model: Athena Ng Photographer: Calvin Kwok

LOVE?

Thoughts on Love?

Love is knowing that they will be by your side no matter what. You want that person to be happy, want the best for them and want to give them the best

Love is continuous trust while growing together with your best friend. It is to always be on their side while never giving up. All coming from an engaged 27 year old with her high school sweetheart.

-Keannu

-Carrie

Love is just a feeling. It is nothing more than a chemical stimulant. It is only in your head.

However, in your heart, it's a double edged sword that must be wielded by two.

Love is cuddling together in comfy PJs at 10pm on a Friday night, watching and laughing about the newest reality show on Netflix.

-Anonymous

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Love is what you’re willing to do or sacrifice to make that person happy. It is an emotional roller coaster.

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True love is unconditional and you won't ever experience true love until you've finally realize that love isn't about proving to others that you care, but caring even when they aren't aware of your efforts for the sake of their happiness.

-Ghanim

Love is like a plant. Must be nurtured for a relationship to grow.

-Anonymous I want the carefree and supportive type of love. The love that won't restrict you, the love where you can grow. You can be naive without having to worry about whether or not your partner will cheat or lie to you because that's how much you trust and feel secure with that person.

Yes, some may say it's a fairytale and it's good to be skeptical but it's this type of love that I'm manifesting to have one day.

-Kat

Love is also about going on fun, spontaneous 1 am night adventures around the city, having conversations that go on for hours and having absolutely nothing to worry about when you are together.

-Kat

Model: Athena Ng Photographer: Rachel Chu

Break Up Tips?

"Do stuff that makes you happy. Fill your schedule so you don't even have time to think about the break up."

"Write everything you want to say to them on the notes app or audio record it."

明白了、放下了、等於得到......."

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"Listen to some Taylor swift and you’ll be fine."

"Just recently moved on from a break up, couldn't be happier."

"You once loved, so you let it go and end before it's gone to ruins."

"As much as you may not want it at first, no contact is hard but is the healthiest start to healing."

"It's ok to be upset and heartbroken. What you need to remember is not to let it consume you."

"Let yourself cry and feel upset for a while."

"The way I got over my ex was remembering he doesn't want you, so he is not worth your tears- he does not deserve to have this effect over you.”

"If it wasn't meant to be, it won't be, don't fight for something that never existed."

"There's no easy way to get over a break up but if you still have the HOPE that one day maybe you'll get back together, maybe he'll change, it can be so hard to get through the rest of the healing stages."

愛是一堂課，每個人都可以在一段關係中學到一些 東西。分手其實沒有那麼可怕，至少你有過" "

Models: Rachel Ochoa & Shaiyaan Habib Photographer: Patrick Zheng

Honeymoon Stage

And they say oh we’re still so young, what would we know about love, but when I see you, everything just falls into place. So wrap me in your arms and hold me tight tonight

Three Words, 8 Letters

Does he actually love all of me or is it the attachment and idea of being in love that he wants?

3 am Thoughts...

Maybe part of me took her for granted because deep down I don't think I deserve this love and I'll never understand why she'll ever love someone like me.

Dear Me, Tonight

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ROSE TINTED GLASSES We were once so close Train rides, drunk nights, laughter all the way But now you can’t even look at me the same way Didn’t think one month could change everything Thought you meant it when u said we were forever Candles light up and I still see your face I hate crying with my mascara on But these tears can drop to the ocean waves I know you said you’re here for me but you and I both know it’s different you used to be the one I could tell everything to but with your walls up, I can’t get through Blinded by these rose coloured glasses Followed my heart and it got me nowhere

And maybe I’m just emotional but I’ll always love you at your worst and best We were two worlds apart miles away didn’t mean I stopped loving you And I’m breaking all over again tonight Thinking if you still remember what we had babe, I miss you so much This pain won’t leave until you’re here with me I hate that things have changed And I’d wish we could again……. but maybe it’s better to love you from a distance

Model: Berna Lee Photographer: Calvin Kwok

Article

BERNA LEE ARE YOU FEELING OUT OF PLACE? Berna Lee is a meditation instructor and consultant in Chinese astrology and Fengshui. Her work and art background inspired her research passion for cultural astronomy and astrology within philosophy and spirituality. Dedicating in empowering individuals to find mental stability, while understanding the way cosmology has influence on contemporary consciousness.

Love, to me, is the warm fuzzy feeling of “being in place” physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It can be within ourselves as well as within the world around us. I would compare the feeling of “being out of love” with “being out of place”, as they both are encountered when one is not being present. This sweet spot could be geographical, in a relationship, a situation, or in our physical bodies.

Presence is the magic to give meaning to its existence. As attention goes where energy flows, presence becomes the most basic form of love with all that we do. Just like meditation, when we are “being here” body, mind, and soul and free from judgements, space arises to allow the experience to unfold into a magical flow. In my practice of Feng Shui and meditation, I choose to engage with presence to resonate beyond techniques.

With both practices complement each other, “play” motivates one to spark joy in our hearts, to make space in our minds and to make sense of the world. Range from stillness to movements, my curated sessions span from breathing to tea mediation, from peeling an orange, to walking and dancing, from Feng Shui in place to self-love and relationships. With intention, ordinary things can become extraordinary. Even taboo things can also become more visible and interesting when we choose to let go of society’s judgments. I hope the revolutionary spirit of practices I offer can be a catalyst for change to match our needs, as well as empowering people to choose their own path in the world that is life affirming. Speaking of play and taboo, it is a blast to curate one of my mindful “adult play” of the “Mindful Sex Siren”.

Optimum energetic flow is achieved when one is “in place” holistically. Sensing or “ganying ” the flow in the body and in the physical place by being open to the experience of the interconnectedness of the whole of life. Far from the traditional “serious master” approach, my intention is to introduce practices of presence with “serious play”. From kids to adults, I believe “play” is the way we actively engage with creativity and love. While it could be daunting to keep reminding ourselves to choose the magical flow in every moment. Engaging with playfulness allows space to grow physically and emotionally without feeling limited.

While the physical placement of things in flow helps create a healthy container or environment, playful meditation helps to gain mindful strength in place by expanding the capacity in our own state of presence.

As society’s attempt to control women’s physicality, expressions or how we live our lives following the traditional values. The femme body and sexuality has been historically a tricky territory to touch on. I was once also torn by society’s judgements imposed on my supposed image, left me feeling trapped and lacking space to grow. Whether I was considered to be too young, too fat, too flashy, too much make up, too revealing or just because the fact that I am a woman in pursuit to be a scholar, a professional, or a Feng Shui master. A few years ago, upon coming back alive from a short term immobility of a sudden illness, I finally realized that it was time for me to take full ownership of who I genuinely am.

It was time to listen to my body and to take care of my needs. So as recovery, I took up dance for the first time in

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BERNA LEE ARE YOU FEELING OUT OF PLACE? Berna Lee is a meditation instructor and consultant in Chinese astrology and Fengshui. Her work and art background inspired her research passion for cultural astronomy and astrology within philosophy and spirituality. Dedicating in empowering individuals to find mental stability, while understanding the way cosmology has influence on contemporary consciousness.

my life for mobility. That’s when I started to engage in the style of Voguing and was inspired deeply by one of the categories in particular, the Sex Siren. Vogue inspired my practice with serious play. It’s empowering to witness, to battle and to be a part of the force that pushes against the constrictions of physicality, gender, and sexuality. Though it is not my nature to be aggressive, the attempt of sex siren and voguing dissolved a lot of my insecurities with my sexual expressions and my body. As a person who avoided dance since 2 years old (traumatized by my aunt’s husband teased me as a fat-ass ballerina), I surprised myself with this serious play. Not only did it become a core practice when I couldn’t sit still, it also became a form of meditation towards society’s attitude towards femme body and sexuality.

The intention of my Mindful Sex Siren session is not about battling for sex appeal. Rather, it is inspired to mindfully come back to the body as a sense of pride, to acknowledge the fullness and complexity of being femme.

To flaunt in celebration of all bodies is beautiful and deserving to be enjoyed. Bringing the awareness that sexual expressions are multifaceted and an active choice.

Our femme bodies are no longer a passive image that was immobilized or historicized. Just as meditation, love is to be present without judgement. Just as Vogue, we celebrate the autonomy of our own unique voices, while finding our ways back to each other in solidarity. To be in love is to be in place, and love is a magical place that feels like home.

Model: Berna Lee Photographer: Calvin Kwok

I am present, I am in place, I am unstoppable

Model: Alvin Ho Photographer: Charlotte Pang

Is it just me or does true, genuine and passionate love still exist out there?

Model: Elise Borja Photographer: Charlotte Pang

sometimes you won't be able to get an explanation as to why they fell out of love, but what you can do is to cry it all out and move forward.

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Letter to Myself

Lavinia Tam's advice on self love

I would say self love is a transition.

When you haven’t found yourself in self love, you might see yourself in other people’s eyes. In one’s life, many people might have praised you in every way to make you feel great.

But that might not be the best for you.

Not that you don’t deserve love and praise. You do, in every way.

Self love is different here.

This transition to see yourself, In your own perspective.

When you look at yourself, weirdly enough, it’s not praise you would see.

You'd realize there are many flaws in you.

Sounds bad at some point.

But self love means, you grew.

You understand these flaws.

You learn from the flaws. and you accept these flaws.

Soon, you find these flaws beautiful.

Soon, you find that you could improve because of them, and believe that the universe has made you, you.

You become unique.

Don’t follow people’s expectation.

Let your physical and mental health be supported through this transition.

You are loved, by you.

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REDEFINING LOVE PANEL TALK AN INTERGENERATIONAL DISCUSSION ON LOVE PRESENTED BY

T&C TERMS & CONDITONS

REDEFINING LOVE EVENTS

STORIES BEHIND SMALL BUSINESSES

In honor of T&C's first issue, we have decided to tell the story behind two creative entrepreneurs from Hong Kong: Sonder Ceramics by Oliver and Gordey.

Oliver and Gordey collaborated on an event called "WINDSPEED" back in March 19, 2023 at Hong Kong's K11 Atelier in Tsim Sha Tsui.

“WINDSPEED”focused on raising awareness on local bees and both artists have displayed their products and gave a speech on the day. This collaboration stemmed from their strong friendship, mutual love for bees and passion in making a positive difference in the environment. That being said, Redefining Love issue hopes to send out the message that love does not just have to be romantic, love can also be in friendships, love in one's self and for the community too.

Lumiere Runway is a Hong Kong and Los Angeles based production company started by Laurent Meler and Fionna Wong. Apart from the fact that Fionna Wong is from Hong Kong, Lumiere Runway also fell in love with the designers and the city's culture. " What also made us fall in love with the designers in Hong Kong were the traditions and creativity that this city and society could make them evolve into. We have found many brilliant designers and artists that have the potential to reinvent and modernize the perspective of being a creator in Hong Kong."

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Founders of Lumiere Runway, Meler Productions

Models: Laurent Meler & Fionna Wong Photographer: Rachel Chu

Friendship story behind WINDSPEED Event at Hong Kong K11 Atelier

Models: Oliver & Gordey Photographer: Calvin Kwok

Oliver from Sonder Ceramics is an old friend of mine. I remember we met in the summer of 2016. At that time, he was a very talented and experienced hair director. Undoubtedly, he has had a significant impact on my growth process. "Windspeed" is a very profound art experience. We hope to present an ecological process through various forms of art and continue to emphasize the importance of local bees. This event has successfully raised a considerable amount of funds, allowing us to build two "Bee Hotels" for schools in Hong Kong. The "Bee Hotels" were designed and made by a local carpenter. Through this project, students can observe the ecology of solitary bees up close at school. At the same time, the "Bee Hotels" allow solitary bees to nest, lay eggs and reproduce in bamboo tubes or crevices.

是一位老朋友。還記得我們結識在2016年的夏天。當時，他是一位非常出色及資深的髮型總監 毋庸疑，他對我的成長過程有著重大 的影響。「Windspeed」是一次非常深刻的藝術體驗。我們希望透過各種不同的藝術，從而呈然一個生態過程，並繼續推動和強調關於本 地蜜蜂的重要性。此活動我們成功籌得可觀的款項，容許我們建造兩所「獨居蜂屋」(Bee Hotel）給香港的學校。「獨居蜂屋」由本地木 工師傳設計和製作。透過此計劃，學生能夠在學校近距離觀察獨居蜂的生態。同時，「獨居蜂屋」讓獨居蜂鑽入竹筒內或孔隙內，築巢、 產卵繁衍下一代。 Oliver

Model: Oliver & Gordey Photographer: Rachel Chu

REDEFINING LOVE PANELIST July 24. Soho House | 76 Dean Street, London

Kiyoko Tsukabayashi ハーフ

As a Hāfu ( ) being half Chinese and half Japanese, Kiyoko was born and bred in Hong Kong but spent the majority of her childhood studying abroad in the UK. She is a graduate of London College of Fashion, majoring in Visual Merchandising and Branding. After returning to Hong Kong in 2018, Kiyoko fully invested herself in learning chakra healing practices, astrology, Feng Shui, numerology, and divination. After a long spiritual learning journey, today Kiyoko shares her knowledge and the other side of her persona with the world via her wellness platform “Kosmicland”. She focuses on bringing to light one’s subconscious, through higher self guidance to elevate one's overall well-being. KOSMIC is where Kiyoko shares her divine inspiration with the world by combining her creativity, and spiritual wisdom of Feng Shui and divination techniques.

Leanne Blu Leanneblu is a speaker, wellness writer and life coach.

Brought up in a traditional Chinese household, she experienced first-hand how societal expectations can limit potential and self-worthiness. She embarked on a journey of over 5 years to rediscover and rebuild a healthy relationship with herself and her family with healing and mindfulness practice, not to mention a tremendous mindset shift that set her free from how she was taught to be submissive and not to voice out as a girl. She then created Beyond the Label podcast to spotlight individuals who go onto nontraditional paths and the Blu Journal, a platform to advocate for selflove, mental health awareness and inclusivity. Her passion lies in supporting youth and female empowerment, speaking at schools to inspire, offering life coaching to help individuals reach their highest potential, and curating events to connect like-minded souls.

REDEFINING LOVE PANELIST July 24. Soho House | 76 Dean Street, London

Kat Tse Born in Toronto and raised in Hong Kong, Kat Tse is a lifestyle blogger and current student at Northeastern University studying fashion and business. She's the founder of magazine Terms and Conditions, Red Carpet Event MC for fashion and entertainment company Lumiere Runway and a content creator on social media.

In the past, she interned at TVB's luxury lifestyle Information show Dolce Vita and has helped out with setting up fashion shows. As founder of Terms and Conditions, she strongly believes in the power of positive influence and hopes T&C can provide a safe space for individuals and the community to start conversations that matter to them. Whether that is body positivity insights, tips on how to become more centered or stories on fashion styles, she wants to be able to spread love, kindness, knowledge and encouragement to the world.

Minal Narayani Bhanshali A Master Teacher, Mentor and serial Alchemist, Minal Narayani is devoted to the co-evolutionary pathways anchored in collective remembrance; of empowered living, magnetic resonance and heart led relationship with the self and with all of existence. A multi-faceted healer, ceremonialist, speaker and curator, she blends shamanic sound alchemy, subconscious reconditioning work, Vedanta yoga and trance induced embodiment practices to enable spiritual warriors to transmute, embody and evolve.

Minal Narayani is the founder of the Temple of Alchemy, a modern day mystery school anchored in ancient wisdom traditions enabling radical reclamation, self-mastery and heart-led leadership through a bespoke journey for those unique souls who are rising at this extraordinary time.

ISSUE 2

EMBRACING HERITAGES

COMING SOON

E D I T O R ' S

N O T E R

edefining Love”—it's fascinating how these

two words can hold such strong feelings of transformation with hints of many unspoken stories to be told.

I hated the pain that came from the separation of a break up, let alone betrayal and love lorn feelings, but each ending opened up a new side, a new page, and new definition of love for me. Before my first break up, I did not think much about what I wanted from a partner. At the time, I thought I knew everything there was to know about love. I read many books and watched many movies, but my experiences were nothing like the stories I had read. Without many depictions of the aftermath of a break up, feelings of replacement or even the toxicity that love could hold, I was truly living a fairytale world that was brought by my own projection.

Soon after the pain subsided, I understood why self care and self love mattered, why boundaries existed and why I couldn't ever think logically when it came to love. More importantly, my perception of love changed.

The definition I knew as a 16-year-old girl expanded. As much as I didn't want to feel this way, I had developed trust and commitment issues. I'm still not sure if it's a good thing to be more cautious and less naive when it comes to love. In fact, at times I would find myself in constant battles between believing the best in people or being skeptical. But above all, I still genuinely choose to believe that love is real, it does exist in our world, and that vulnerability is key to developing flourishing relationships.

I hope Terms and Conditions' first magazine issue, Redefining Love, will showcase some of the moments I personally experienced, and that the feelings of loss, hurt, anger, sadness, and betrayal are all valid in the midst of figuring out what love is. And if anything, love should be celebrated, should be talked about more and not turned away from.

BRENDA THAM

Head of Creatives

Brenda Tham is one of many Creative’s in the Fashion world.

She’s a Stylist, a Photographer and Creative Director. She grew up in Kuala Lumpur, the city in the centre of Malaysia and moved across the world to London to pursue her passion in the creative world. Her work takes many forms but has a distinct identity of her culture embedded into it. As Head of Creative at Terms and Co., I hope my photos can depict the raw emotions and process we all go through when we experience heartbreak. I hope viewers can come to their own personal interpretation about the emotions they experience when they look at the photos as everyone experiences heartbreak differently. I hope people can resonate with the photos that I created and produced. Ultimately, for Redefining Love, I wanted to use the power of makeup to display what I believe the stages of heartbreak are in Denial, Depression, Anger and finally Acceptance.

Erique Brown is a London based photographer who loves to create abstract portrait that invokes different feelings for the world to see.

He also loves films and watching sunsets on hills.

ERIQUE BROWN

Head of Photography

CREATIVE TEAM

CONTRIBUTORS PATTY KANG Photographer

CHARLOTTE PANG Bristol Based Photographer

CALVIN KWOK Photographer

LAVINIA TAM Writer, Self Love Advocate

RACHEL CHU

Photographer

SAM WONG

Designer

PATRICK ZHENG

Photographer

BERNA LEE

Writer, Wellness Instructor

His opinion does not matter anymore.

I will dress up for myself. I will make my own choices.

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