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GENDER BULLYING POWER POINT
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Hi, I’m __________.
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Whatis Gender? Let’s watch a video to get some clues.
Show video.
• What is a stereotype? (Labeling behaviors based on gender. Behaviors not the person.) • What stereotypes did you hear in the video? • Discuss that people are sometimes targetedwho are out of the norm. (ex: Riley)
Hi, I’m __________.
So then what is genderbullying?
People can bully boys or girls, but if someone bullies us based on being male or female (a boy or girl) it becomes a different kind of bullying. It is called gender bullying or sexual harassment. In this class today, we are going to refer to it as gender bullying. And it can happen online or offline.
Hi, I’m __________.
Here are some examples of gender bullying. • Telling a boy he plays like a girl. • Talking to a person and staring at his or her body. • Pantsing.
Can you think of some examples?
Hi, I’m __________.
There are three key wordsto help identify if something is gender bullying. Does anyone want to tell use what they think some of the words might be?
• Does the behavior make the person feel uncomfortable? • Is the behavior unwanted? • Is the behavior unwelcome?
Hi, I’m __________.
• Do you think boys can gender bully other boys? Let’s watch this video.
• Do you think adultscan gender bully boys or girls? Can you give an example?
There are three types of Gender Bullying. Can you guess what they are? • Visual –what you see. • Verbal –what yourhear. • Physical –what isfelt.
Watch this video and see if you can find the different types of gender bullying that are occurring. 1. Verbal comment
2. Unwanted touch
3. Being pushed into an wanted place 4. Verbal comment, staring at body, unwanted touch
Being gender bullied can affect the person it lots of ways. • physically ill • upset stomach • worried, fearful
• angry
• powerless • helpless • alone Can you think of some others?
Gender bullying can also make the bystandersfeel uncomfortable.
Anything you can see means just that.
It can be online or offline, pictures, drawings, gestures. • Posting a commenton Instagram. • Sending or photoshoppingpictures.
With sexual bullying, the focus is on things like a person's appearance or body parts.
• Words…comments, name calling. • Using words that refer to someone's sexuality in a derogatory way. Like calling something ‘gay’ to make them feel bad.
• What’s a rumor? Rumors are comments about somebody. The information may be true or a lie but they can hurt either way. For some people, it is easier to believe false rumors than the truth. It can be really hard to undo.
• And jokes or stories should never make fun of somebody or make you or anyone else feel uncomfortable.
Show video. • How do you think Jeremey is feeling? • What about Leah? • What bothers one person, may not bother another. • If it happens to you, it is how the behavior makes you feelthat counts.
Your body belongs to you and if anyone is • starring at you, • invading your space or • touching you or your clothing in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you have the right to tell them to stop.
What do you thinkthe expression “eye of the beholder” means?
Rememberthe 3 Us.
To help us understand this, let’s look at this picture. Everyone has their own point of view. Take a look at this.
How many of you see a face? Does anyone see anything else? Now take a look (click). This is an example of different points of view.
So that's why if someone is doing something that makes you uncomfortable, you need to let them know your point of view. It may not be theirs but it is yours and that is what counts.
Regardless of the situation, it is never the victim's fault. What do you think we mean when we say thatit is never the victim's fault?
Discuss. • Gender bullying is a crime. • Gender bullyingis a choice. • The victim is not the cause of another person’s choice.
If you are gender bullied, what could you do?
Some people try to ignore it.(Go to next slide)
• Somepeople try to ignore it but it does not solve the problem and it may get worse.
Talking point: If you are uncomfortable talking directly to the bully, you still can be proactive by getting support.
This harassment is unwanted. If you feel comfortable speaking with the bully, tell her/him a confident voice you want this to stop. How do you act confident? • Stand straight • Face the bully • Look him/her in the eye • Use an assertive voice (not quiet, not yelling) • Use “I” messages
Let’s look at the videos to see examples:
If you don’t feel comfortable telling the person fact‐to‐face then go to an adult or friend for support. (go tonext slide)
What if someone older than you is making you feel uncomfortable? Video • How do you think this student feels? • What could this studentdo? • Do you think somethinglike this could happen to a boy?
GetSupport. • It is unfortunate, but sometimes adults, teachers, coaches do things that make us uncomfortable. • Sometimes intentional, sometimes not intentional. • We need to tell another adult to make sure we are safe.
Remember, it is never your fault
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Alsoget support. Who can you tell?
There are a lot of people thatcan support us.
• Parent
• Teacher/Counselor
• School Administrator
• Friend
• NOVA
• We are also here to support you. We can go with you to tell an adult.
Remember the video we saw where students were being gender bullied in the school hallways? There were lots of bystanders who saw what was happening. Why didn’t anyone help?
Maybe they did not know what to do.
Let’s look at what we can do to become an Upstander.
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Ask if anyone has other ideas on what they could do to be an Upstander.
Everyone says together: This is about RESPECT!
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Talk about resources
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NOVA supports and empowers crime victims in Bucks County Support 24‐hours on the hotline Website for further support
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