Brides and Grooms 2010

The Essential Guide to Planning your Upcoming Wedding

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table of contents Countdown to a Fantastic Wedding . . . . . . . . 6

Invitations. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 82

Engagement Announcement. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9

Catering. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 84

Budget. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10

Cake. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 96

Venue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16

Wedding Announcement. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 100

Beauty. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36

Marriage License . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101

Attire . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40

Gifts. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 102

Flowers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50

Attendants Duties . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 104

Music. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52

Registry . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 106

Photography. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60

Honeymoon. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 110

Rings. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 78

Index . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111

Transportation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 80

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engagement announcement

he Missoulian publishes engagement announcements in its Sunday edition.

The announcements are considered news stories and may be edited or held for questions. Announcements without a photo will appear free of charge; announcements with a photo cost $40 and payment must be made when submitting announcement. The deadline is 5 p.m. Friday for publication two Sundays out.

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• Photos may be black and white or color. The size does not matter as long as they are sharp, clear glossy prints with the couple’s heads close together.

Photos may also be emailed in JPG format. No photocopies will be accepted.

Photos can either be picked up after the announcement has appeared in the Missoulian or mailed if a self-addressed, stamped envelope is enclosed.

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our wedding marks the first day of your married life – and your new financial life. And just like your relationship, communication is key to success.

“When you meet somebody and get married, one thing you hopefully do together is share some dreams of what you want in the future,” says financial expert Jean Chatzky, author of “The Difference: How Anyone Can Prosper In Even the Toughest Times” (Crown, 2009), such as buying a home. Setting those benchmarks is the basics of financial planning: What do you want to do, and how do you get there? Then, make saving every month a part of what you do to reach those goals.

“I like to do that with a Yours, Mine and Ours system of accounts,” Chatzky says. The gist: Determine what you need to both run your household and save for your goals, and each person contributes – from their own account into a shared account – the same percentage of income to get that number.

This gives you the ability to pay bills out of a joint account and leaves some autonomy for personal expenses.

To get a handle on your money, Chatzky suggests tracking your money – every dollar – for a couple of months. You’ll develop a roadmap of where your money is going and where you want it to go.

Hopefully that leads to more saving.

But don’t think you have to go from saving nothing to saving 10 percent of your income; start small, says Chatzky. What detracts some folks from saving is thinking they have to do so much, and if they can’t do that they do nothing. And that’s not where you want to be.

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reception and have it held in the University Center Ballroom. UM catering is available to provide the food and drinks and they have the flexibility of food choices to meet the needs of small and large weddings with full meals or light snacks.

In fact, several people have had both their wedding and reception in the Ballroom.

The multi-purpose room works well on summer days that are too hot as well as for increasingly popular winter weddings.

Renting the Ballroom includes a stage, tables, chairs, coat racks and a screen. They also offer special lighting and sound services.

But the Oval and the Ballroom aren’t the only places on campus for a wedding. Some smaller weddings, Earley said, can also be held at the Phyllis Washington Amphitheater right below the trail to the M, the Mansfield Library Mall, and the University Center Atrium. And while many who are drawn to the campus have a connection with the location, it is open to anyone who wants to get married or have their reception there, she said.

Another spot rich in scenery and history is the Northern Rockies Heritage Center

on the Fort Missoula grounds. With its wide open spaces, the Center can be the site of a historical or military themed wedding on the Parade Grounds – which includes acres of wide open, lush lawns or the more intimate South Lawn area with its courtly evergreens.

In addition, the historic and recently restored Heritage Hall, a 2,100 square foot area in the 1906 neo-classical building, is also a big draw.

Missoula resident Sydney Stauffer had her wedding reception at Heritage Hall in August of 2009. She said she chose it because of its historical qualities and the fact that it was an indoor/outdoor area which could meet the needs of all ages of guests.

“We wanted room for kids to blow their bubbles and have fun but we also wanted a place where the older people could feel comfortable,” she said.

The indoor/outdoor aspect proved particularly useful on that day because it rained during the time of the reception dinner and then the sun came out about the same time the meal was over – complete with a rainbow to greet everyone.

“Who would have thought it would have rained in August,” she said.

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Another plus to renting Heritage Hall, Stauffer said, was that they had it for the entire weekend from the rehearsal dinner on Friday to the goodbye brunch on Sunday.

For a downtown Missoula wedding, it’s hard to imagine one more centrally located than Caras Park. The site for many a community festival and a riverside view to boot, Caras Park offers both a large covered area and grassy hills and lawns for enjoying the sun.

Missoula Downtown Association (MDA) Assistant Director Julie Weaver said people who rent the park for weddings and/or receptions get tables, chairs, outdoor walls and a stage set up and then taken down by their staff. The dynamic area of the space and the openness of catering rules provides flexibility for use, she said.

“We don’t have any catering restrictions,” she said. “It’s a nice outdoor venue but you

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still have the canopy there.”

The wedding season for Caras Park typically begins in May and runs through the end of September.

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Ideally Weaver recommends interested couples contact the MDA for a reservation six to twelve months ahead of time as availability gets tight the closer to spring, although she said they can always call and check at any time.

Aside from the lack of catering restrictions, Weaver said people also like the fact that they get the park for the whole day without any scheduling pressure to get in and get out.

“Once you rented it, it’s yours for the day. If you want to get in and decorate at 8 a m., you can,” she said.

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questions to ask your church’s officiant

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1. If you and your fiancé have two different religious backgrounds, can you be married at that site? If you choose, can more than one officiant take part in the ceremony (one from each religion)?

2. If you and your fiancé were previously married, are there any restrictions?

3. What are the restrictions for flowers, dress, videographer, photographer, music, decorations?

4. Who else is scheduled before/after me?

Will I have time to take pictures?

5. Are separate dressing rooms available before the ceremony?

6. Can bird seed, rice or confetti be thrown?

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7. When can the florist and videographer set up prior to the ceremony?

8. How many guests can the church accommodate?

9. Does the ceremony site supply equipment that can be used for the ceremony?

10. Will the church have any special decorations or flowers displayed on your wedding day that may enhance or clash with the wedding?

11. Can I use my own musician(s) or vocalist(s)?

12. When does the marriage license need to be presented?

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questions to ask when choosing a reception site 1. W hat rooms are available and how many people can they hold? Is there a minimum number of guests required?

Is there a time limit and any overtime charges?

2. Are there any other events scheduled before or after me?

3. What wedding packages are available, and what are the associated costs? Are there any other special services you offer?

4. Is there an in-house caterer, or do I need to hire my own? If I bring a caterer are there adequate kitchen facilities or when can the food be delivered?

5. When do you need a final head count?

What if more or less people show up?

6. How much of a deposit is needed to secure the room? When is the balance due, and how does it need to be paid?

7. W hat is the cancellation policy? Is the deposit refundable?

8. How will the room be set up and decorated? What can the reception site provide, and what do I need to bring?

9. When can these things be delivered?

Are there any restrictions on decorating?

10. What color linens are available? Can you get other colors?

11. When can the band or DJ set up?

How much room do you allow for the band or DJ? How many electrical outlets are there for the musicians? If I don’t have a band or DJ, is recorded music available?

12. Is there a visible or secure place for gifts and the money box?

13. Who will be in charge of coordinating the reception?

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14. H ow many waitresses, waiters and bartenders will be available?

15. Is liquor allowed? Do you have a bar? Do I need to worry about a liquor license?

What are the bar options?

What is the cost per person?

Cost per bottle? If you don’t have a bar, can I bring my own?

16. Is there a room where I can put my personal things and change?

17. Where are the rest rooms?

18. Is there enough parking?

19. Is there handicapped access?

20. Does the facility carry liability insurance in case a guest is injured?

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“If you are not feeling any fatigue then you aren’t lifting enough weight,” she says.

Perhaps tantamount to the fitness is nutrition, which tends to be where most women go to dangerous extremes.

“Starving yourself or starting a crash diet to shed as much weight as possible just to fit into your gown is a really dangerous decision,” says Angeline Widmer, a certified health counselor in Milwaukee.

“Consuming fewer than 1,200 to 1,400 calories a day, for most women, causes the body to go into crisis mode and store everything as fat. Which is the absolute last thing you want to do going into your wedding day.”

Widmer recommends keeping a food

diary to make sure you don’t go above or below 1,400 calories a day. Stress eating is common during the wedding lead-up, and all of those unhealthy splurges consumed during moments of weakness really add up – and can sabotage your ultimate goal.

Widmer suggests swapping high-calorie snacks, such as candy, potato chips and ice cream with fresh fruit, pre-cut vegetables

57% of engaged women change their diet and nutritional habits before the wedding.

47% of brides increase time spent on their fitness routine and low-fat dairy.

“Weight loss and body toning don’t happen overnight so start early and don’t get discouraged if your progress seems slow,” Widmer says. “Developing these good eating and exercise habits will serve you well throughout your marriage. Being healthy for your entire life is even more important that being a size 4 on your wedding day.”

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Subtle Smokey Eye using tones of amber, gold and copper, paired with a glossy, neutral lip and sculpted cheeks.

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Before you blow your entire budget on one item at a high-priced makeup counter, pay a visit to your local drugstore.

“Waterproof mascara is a must for brides, and Maybelline Define-A-Lash is amazing!” says Martin. He’s also a fan of Aveeno’s skincare products, RoC Lifting and Firming Eye cream, Revlon Beyond Natural Smoothing Primer, Physician Formula: Organic Wear 100% Natural Origin Blush and CoverGirl Outlast Lipstains.

For silky, manageable hair, Ion Color Defense Intense Moisture Hydrating Treatment, available at beauty supply stores and online, is affordable and great, says Martinez. Keep in mind that many high-end products often come in convenient – cheaper – travel sizes.

spa basics

Consider these services a two-for-one deal: silky, radiant skin plus serious stress relief.

Six months prior, commence beautification with deep scrubs to cleanse and polish the entire body and algae wraps or purifying mud masques to detox and firm skin, advises Cornelia Zicu, chief creative officer of Red Door Spas. As you get closer to your wedding, start limiting the extraction included in your facials to reduce risk of irritation, and switch to lighter massage to avoid lingering soreness. A week before, treat yourself to a soothing herbal soak or milk bath, eliminate extraction completely, don’t use new products and slather on an extrahydrating lotion. This also is the time to apply your favorite, tried-and-true self-tanner – just be sure to thoroughly exfoliate beforehand so that the color goes on evenly. Fans of waxing can go up to the day before. “It shouldn’t sting for more than an hour and you’ll feel smooth and sexy for your honeymoon,” says Zicu.

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a storage area off-limits to shoppers; a sales associate brings the gowns to you in a private fitting area. “Open shops” display the dresses on the sales floor.

chic styles

It’s easy to get misguided by

the models you see in magazines.

But remember: What looks good on another woman might not be the best look for you. This is the time to play up your strengths! Here’s a look at some of the modern styles and fabrics brides are going for:

strapless gowns

Paired with a swooping neckline, these perennial favorites give any bride a slimming silhouette. These dresses work well for brides with sloping shoulders, which may cause spaghetti straps to fall.

a-line gowns

Taking the place of the princess ball gown, these modern gowns hug the body through the bodice then flare out below the hip, accentuating the waist.

sheaths and columns

With narrower silhouettes in vogue, brides are embracing these looks that drape the female form in sophistication. This style begs for vintage-inspired lace overlays, such as corded or Chantilly lace.

short gowns

Designers are rolling out higher hemlines for a fun, fresh look, which work great on their own or as a second, “reception” dress. Designer Amsale even has a whole collection of “little white dresses.”

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dramatically placed details; ornaments, mainly crystal and embroidery, are concentrated on bodices and hems. Consider these fabrics: Organza: A thin, sheer plain-weave fabric made from silk, its lighter feel makes it ideal for summer-style weddings.

Taffeta: A crisp, smooth woven fabric made from silk or synthetics that is known for its slight sheen and light weight. Thin enough for ruching, taffeta can add texture without bulk.

Tulle: A lightweight, fine netting that can be made from silk, nylon and rayon, which gives gowns stunning, flowing skirts.

Charmeuse: A lightweight fabric usually made from silk or polyester. It’s smooth, soft and drapes beautifully.

Chiffon: A plain, sheer woven fabric with a soft drape. It can be made from silk, polyester or rayon.

Dupioni: A plain weave using yarns to create a fabric with surface slubs. In silk, it has a distinctive rustic and sleek luster.

Georgette: A lightweight fabric usually made from silk or polyester that’s heavier and less transparent than chiffon. The fabric’s fibers are twisted, which gives it a springy quality.

Peau de Soie: Made from silk or polyester, this fabric is medium to heavy. Its dull luster is more flattering to curvier women than high-luster satins. Polyester peau de soie also doesn’t water-spot as easily as silk.

And don’t think you have to default to white, either. Shades of ivory and champagne are popular among brides looking for a nonwhite option, and they flatter most skin tones. White sometimes draws attentions to veins or makes certain skin tones appear jaundiced, which is why a bride might opt for one of the neutral tones, or even light pastels like pale yellow and pink. Colorful sashes and embroidery are another way for brides to add a splash of brightness to the big day. © CTW Features

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situations. Similarly, our little white dresses will cover all the bases.”

Designers say there’s value in these shorter gowns. Dallas-based Watters & Watters has found a following with its tea-length options, including a strapless lace dress with daisy pattern flowers and a knee-length slimmer style crafted of cotton lace with a grosgrain ribbon sash. The looks can be less costly than their full-length counterparts, too. Watters’ dresses retail for $2,600 and the shorter dresses fetch $700 to $900.

“We see a little more versatility with these dresses,” says Maria Prince, vice president of Watters. “The girls can have an opportunity to wear them again, say out on their first anniversary or to a summer party, which is appealing in this economy.”

Other designers say older brides, ladies who are beyond the need to express themselves in princess ball gowns, are also responding to the look.

“Those in their late 30s don’t want the typical dress worn by a 24-year-old,” says Paul Diamond, chief marketing officer of New Yorkbased Jane Wang LLC. “They appreciate the sophistication of these shorter gowns. These are also very good dresses for second weddings.”

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Jane Wang has offered shorter dresses for the past two years. The line will include two or three new looks for the spring collection along with its breakout two-for-one dress – a gown with a long skirt that can be taken off, leaving behind a cocktail dress. This convertible dress will target brides who want to switch sartorial gears from the ceremony to the reception.

Some lucky brides are buying two dresses – one for the ceremony and the other for the reception – to really kick up their heels as the party heats up. Both Tara Keely and Jim Hjelm have created gowns appealing to these brides. Edric Woo, head designer of Tara Keely, introduced the line’s first short dress in fall, a sassy beaded sheath style with tiered lace that’s been popular. For spring, he’s adding an ivory bubble short dress with floral tulle, and Francesca Pitera, designer for Jim Hjelm, plans to include two to three new silhouettes featuring baby-doll and bubble styles made from organza and silk satin with floral embellishments.

Mark Brower, designer of Vineyard Collection, has always incorporated a couple shorter gowns in the collection and going forward plans to add more styles as brides continue to pad their dress budgets.

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“[Shorter styles] are very much in demand,” says Brower, who will design two cocktail gowns with fuller skirts in bateau and halter styles for spring. “It is a big trend to have a more formal gown for the ceremony and then change into a less formal gown or a short dress.”

Should brides not find their ideal shorter gown, a number of retailers and designers are willing to customize existing long gowns to their taste.

“If they have a dress they like, we can cut it down for them,” says Jane Wang’s Diamond. “It happens once in a blue moon, but you have to do things like that in this higher end of the business.”

Designer Farah Angsana is debuting a new collection for spring, featuring embroideries and beading, and plans to offer such custom services to her customers, as well. Along with longer gowns, the line will offer a couple shorter looks constructed from silk Mikado to silk chiffon with silver embroideries.

“It’s part of customer service to make the brides happy and feeling special,” Angsana says.

Watters’ Prince said there’s no skimping when it comes to accessorizing these fresh frocks, especially for those younger brides.

“They want to show off their $700 Jimmy Choos and have fun from the getgo,” she says.

Wedding experts agree that there is even more of an emphasis on accessories when it comes to shorter gowns.

“There’s more pressure to have knockout accessories,” says Darcy Miller, editorial director of Martha Stewart Weddings. “Shoes become a statement – you can wear blue shoes, embellished shoes, all different kinds of high heels.”

Miller cautions brides to select veils in proportion to their dress.

“A mini dress would look great with a chic blusher, but you wouldn’t want a cathedral-length veil,” she says.

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Bridesmaid dresses may pop up in familiar places

enerally, you’d go to Victoria’s Secret to secure a little something for the honeymoon, but as it turns out, the land of lingerie has some items to adorn your bridesmaids, too.

No, we’re not talking negligees.

At VictoriasSecret.com, a “bridesmaid” will produce a list of the apparel line’s dresses that also could work for putting your pretty maids all in a row. You can do the same thing at JCrew.com, which will display dresses from the company’s Wedding & Parties collection

The dresses, most in solid colors but interesting cuts and shapes, look just as elegant as something you might have chosen from a boutique but don’t always include a hefty, handmade price tag.

From above-the-knee to floor-length gowns, from traditional and demure to the somewhat risqué, there are styles to fit your personal taste.

The basic rule is to just keep your eyes open wherever you shop. If you see a dress you like that will also fits your maids’ style, it just might be the one. A “bridesmaid dress” doesn’t have to be a bridesmaid dress.

And the best part? Your bridesmaids will thank you for choosing a dress they can feel comfortable wearing to other occasions post-wedding. No one needs to know where you went, unless you feel like bragging about your unique find.

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Lastly, if you need a bit help in the fashion department, pick up a GQ or look to some of your favorite on-screen guys to be your guide.

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Channel them and you’ll be good to go.

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finding the right sound

When it comes to choosing the right vendor, experts recommend looking for music samples and recommendations. “When you’ve found a vendor that seems like a good fit, ask to hear examples of each of these ensemble types, or listen to some recordings on your own,” says Michael Reavey, owner of Michael Reavey Music in Boston. “Even check out a live performance of a local group to get a sense of the sound that might work for you.”

Experts also recommend following up with past clients or references. “If you can talk to other people about their experiences with different bands and DJs, their descriptions can really help paint a clear picture,” Reavey says. “It’s sometimes hard to see past glossy marketing, but if a DJ or group comes with good word of mouth and can deliver in person, it’s likely you’ll feel confident with your decision.”

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can consider on cutting down on the ensemble they choose, such as booking a duo or soloist instead of a larger group.

the ceremony

For any couple choosing ceremony music, each should consider sound and song selection. While the organ is the easy choice for church weddings, string quartets can offer a very elegant and classic feel, Reavey says. To add a little dramatic flair, consider including a trumpet. Flutes also can be paired with a harp or guitar.

“Vocals can usually be added to any combination of musicians,” Reavey says.

“There are even chances for atypical ensembles, I’ve even performed ceremonies where the formal music is performed by a jazz quartet.”

According to Reavey, the most popular song for ceremonies is Pachelbel’s Canon in D. Other popular tunes include:

•“Jesu”

•“Joy of Man’s Desiring”

•“Ode to Joy”

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•“Here Comes the Bride”

•“Trumpet Voluntary”

But brides can always get creative, and the options are endless. However, some religious traditions do have musical restrictions, so arrange an appointment with the music director at your place of worship to help you select tunes.

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the cocktail hour

Reavey recommends these three options for cocktail music: 1. Have the ceremony musicians, for instance a string trio, perform classical or jazz selections during the cocktail hour.

2. Hire a different set of musicians to perform for cocktail. Jazz piano is usually a good bet.

3. Have musicians from the reception band or the DJ play lighter selections before the party gets going.

the reception

couple’s personal preferences. The selection available to couples includes everything from Salsa bands to ’80s cover music.

Couples can even include a combination of both band and DJ. “Sometimes, a couple hires a jazz trio to perform during dinner, then switches to a DJ for dancing midway through the event,” Reavey says.

Whatever your preference, find the music that’s best for you. It’s out there.

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brunch or reception, she said. If a couple is uncomfortable stopping the festivities to show the slideshow, it can be played in the background, on a loop, for guests to view at their leisure. Some couples run a slideshow on digital photo frames near the guest book or even in the restroom area.

Winikka cautions that slideshows should be “crafted in a meaningful manner.” They should be organized chronologically or by theme, and should feature photos that don’t embarrass anyone and are appropriate for guests young and old. The equipment used to display them should be tested beforehand to avoid any glitches.

And, Winikka agrees, there should be photos of more people than just the bride and groom.

“It’s great to see pictures of the two of you, but (guests) really are there to enjoy themselves with your friends and family, not just the two of you,” she said.

Photo slideshows can be created through various Web sites, for free or a small fee, and on common computer software such as Microsoft PowerPoint. You can rent a projector or audio visual equipment to show it.

Couples may create the slideshow themselves, or let a family member or friend do it. For those who aren’t good with computers, professional photographers can craft a slideshow that features artfully edited photographs and video clips. Rates can run from hundreds to thousands of dollars.

Phoenix videographer and disc jockey Cameron Carpenter, owner of Three Oceans Entertainment, says it can take a few days in the studio for him to put together a wedding slideshow. Some of his clients choose to tell only their love story, while others include photos of themselves growing up as well.

“It’s a neat way to watch somebody grow up right in front of your eyes, and that’s the big appeal for it,” he said. “For out-of-town relatives ... it kind of fills in those gaps.”

Some wedding planners are against the whole idea.

Cristina Verger, owner of Cristina Verger’s Tasty Thoughts, a high-end wedding planning and event design service in New York and the Hamptons, said she’s never done a photo slideshow at a wedding. www.bridesandgroomsmt .com

“I would discourage it actually because a slideshow, no matter how short, it really requires everyone’s attention, and you are interrupting,” she said. “... You have to stop to make everyone sit down and pay attention to the slideshow, which is kind of an imposition to your guests.”

If a couple feels strongly about including a slideshow, Verger said she would suggest it be shown with no sound during the cocktail hour.

Carpenter and Winikka agreed that slideshows should complement the wedding activities, not make everything come to a standstill or delay the dinner, dancing or speeches. Both said that a good time for viewing is during dinner. “Before the fast eaters are done and starting to mingle around again, there’s a nice window there,” Carpenter said.

Slideshows also should be no more than 10 or 15 minutes, he and Winikka said.

Cocchiara said she and her fiance, Damien Glonek, 37, are horror movie fans who attended horror movie conventions as youngsters and eventually met at one of them. Their slideshow, she said, will likely include pictures of them in Halloween costumes and posing with the actors from some of their favorite scary flicks.

Not only will the slideshow be personal and a little nontraditional, it also will help them avoid something they truly dread: dancing.

“We don’t like to dance, most of our friends don’t like to dance, and we were trying to think of what type of entertainment we could incorporate in the reception,” Cocchiara said.

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59% of brides provided input on their engagement ring Source: Brides.com 2009 American Wedding Study

‘stacking’ trend in fashion,” Gizzi says. Color is being included in the wedding bands, too, if the bride has a diamond engagement ring; pairing colored rings may look too matchy.

Gizzi also notes that wedding bands are getting larger, too. Wide bands also work for engagement rings if the bauble is of substantial size.

And, of course, there is the groom.

“Grooms definitely are taking the ringshopping more seriously,” Gizzi says.

Just like their brides, grooms want to have the best. That is translating to more diamond wedding bands or bands with masculine details, such as those from Cartier and Scott Kay.

“They’re saying, ‘Hey, I want my personality to shine through my wedding band, as well,” Gizzi says.

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advanced notice for all guests to ensure the day is reserved.

Invitations?

Four months before the wedding the couple should order their wedding invitations with the goal to mail out the invitations to guests six to eight weeks before the big day.

However, we recommend that they don’t send them out less than eight weeks in advance for out-of-town guests. Couples should also make sure to include response cards requesting that guests respond no later than three to four weeks before the event.

How can couples personalize their own invitations?

Many couples love to feature monograms, quotes and photos, as well as unique colors and fonts on their invitations.

Considering this, the most important piece of advice that we can give is that when it comes to personalizing stationery do not overdo

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it. Pick just one or two elements that reflect one’s personal style, and keep it simple.

What should couples avoid when designing an invite?

Couples love to personalize all aspects of the wedding. However, we caution that couples avoid too much personalization.

Keep it simple by adding a monogram or meaningful quote. Don’t try to fit so many elements onto your invitations that it takes away from the beauty of the design itself.

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What you may not know is that this luxurious treatment maybe be less pricey than a buffet, according to caterers (see sidebar).

“There’s a perception that a buffet is cheaper, but it’s not, because you’re serving a greater quantity of food,” says Daniel Briones, president of the National Association of Catering Executives.

Unlike a buffet where some guests may heap their plates, everyone at a sit-down dinner receives a set portion. Caterers compensate for heavy buffet eaters by making more food available, which you have to pay for.

Bar service is often less costly, as well, since you can control how much wine is poured at the tables.

When selecting this sophisticated service, caterers say your best menu bets are the everpopular beef tenderloin and/or lobster.

Drawbacks: Some guests will undermine the seating arrangements to get their preferred spot.

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family-style dinner

If you enjoy informality, but want your guests to eat in comfort, passing platters of food at the table may be the answer.

It’s the middle ground between a buffet and being served by the wait staff.

“In family style service, you can control portions better than a buffet,” says Briones, who is director of catering at the Four Seasons Hotel in Philadelphia.

“You’re also giving guests a little more variety than one specific item,” he adds.

Best food bets: Italian, Southern with chicken and greens, or Asian, according to Briones.

“Anything that will sit well on a buffet would translate well onto a family-style menu,” he says.

Drawbacks: Some guests may not want to serve themselves. Some caterers provide wait staff, but that adds to the cost.

Family-style requires large, clear tables. If the settings include a centerpiece and several glasses for each guest, there might not be room for the platters, according to Briones.

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buffet

You may have visions of unattractive chafing dishes, heaps of steamed food and restless guests at a buffet.

Forget them.

Buffets have appeal, says Michael Lamando of Amici’s Catered Cuisine in Tampa Bay, Fla.

“If you are social and want your families to mingle, buffets are a good way to do it.” Presentation makes all the difference.

“You want greenery, flowers, pillars and accent materials that match the bridesmaids’ dresses,” Lamando says.

Hide chafing dishes with glass blocks and set the dishes at varying heights to escape the look of an all-you-caneat chain restaurant.

Best food bets: Salads, coated or crusted fish that doesn’t dry out, Italian dishes.

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fare, works well in buffets, too. “People like to take a little of a lot of different things; different curries,” says Angie Kemp, director of catering at The Dana on Mission Bay in San Diego.

Drawbacks: Buffet trays need to be refilled frequently so the food remains bountiful and appetizing.

Guests may not want to stand in line.

Best food bets: Asian, such as Chinese pot stickers and Japanese sushi are favorites among Stevens’ couples. In Tampa, Lamando’s guests prefer pasta stations.

“Guest choose their own pasta and sauce with a variety of toppings including shrimp, chicken, sausage and scallops, Lamando says.

Drawbacks: You’ll need a large room to accommodate the bar and separate food areas.

stations

Serve up adventure and personal stories when you feature a range of food stops, or stations, each with a different culinary selection.

Stations can reflect your heritage, say regional Italian cuisine, or how you met, maybe food from a vacation in Japan.

Although similar to buffets, stations are spread out. Each station has its own style, says Liene Stevens, owner of Blue Orchid Designs in Scottsdale, Ariz. This suits her clients’ interests in ethnic fare. www.bridesandgroomsmt .com

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different colors circling around each layer.

The cake had a simple elegance with its white frosting and floral arrangement.

“It was perfect,” she said. “The florist did a stand-up job and no one knew that it came from Rosauers. I had the cake of my dreams.”

For most weddings, the cake is the visual artistic edible centerpiece of the reception.

It’s elegant presence adorns the ceremony and is a staple of nearly all wedding albums.

Often cakes are made with exquisite detail, only to be slowly taken apart piece by piece.

“The cake is one of two centerpiece moments of a wedding,” said Bernice’s Bakery owner Christine Littig. “One is the moment when the bride and groom are standing up and saying their vows and the other is the cutting of the wedding cake.”

Littig said recently, brides are looking at more economical ways of getting the right cake for their wedding. She said some are reducing the number of layers and having additional layers of sheet cake hidden under the cake stand that can be served after the cake ceremony is finished and served to guests.

“We’re seeing brides who are much more budget conscious now,” she said. “We don’t have a problem with that at all. We like seeing less waste.”

Margaret Ambrose-Barton, a certified pastry chef and the wedding cake specialist for the Pearl Bakery, has been making wedding cakes for 20 years. She said with the rising popularity of national outlets publicizing wedding cake styles from Martha Stewart to cable TV shows, brides have seen more options.

“The people we see have a lot more elaborate designs because there is more exposure out there,” she said.

Jean Bauer, owner of Jeanne’s Cakes in Missoula said she’s seen a shift away from tiered cakes and more where the layers are stacked directly on top of each other. She’s also had more requests for handmade flowers which she creates with a mixture of marzipan and a sugar paste.

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The smooth, flat surface makes it easier to decorate but some find that it doesn’t taste as good as buttercream.

Bernice’s Bakery, in fact, does not use fondant frosting at all. Littig said their pastry chefs are trained to make cakes that look as good as a cake with fondant but are more edible and less wasteful. She said the only visible differences are their edges which are not quite as sharp as the rolled finishes of fondant, but are hardly noticeable.

“Our cakes look like fondants,” she said.

When brides come to them and find out that they don’t do fondant, Littig said, they are at first disappointed but most times overcome the disappointment when they see samples of what they’ve done before.

Bernice’s focuses on designing something that meets the specific aesthetics of the wedding party, she said.

“Brides are looking for something that makes their wedding individualistic,” said Littig.

Like Stauffer’s cake with real roses, Ambrose-Barton said she gets many requests for actual flowers on the cake. It’s particularly practical when the flowers can also be eaten.

“Nowadays, we tend to go to fresh flowers and so many are actually edible,” she said, adding that she’ll often add a thin sugar

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wedding announcement

he Missoulian publishes wedding announcements in its Sunday edition. These announcements are considered news stories and may be edited or held for questions.

Announcements without photos will run free of charge; those with a photo cost $40 and payment must be made when submitting the announcement. The deadline is 5 p.m. Friday two weeks before publication. The Missoulian also will publish photos of four- or five-generation gatherings for a $40 fee.

• Please type or print plainly.

• First and last names are required of all

persons mentioned in the announcement.

• Please make sure all names are spelled correctly.

• Photos may be black and white or color.

The size does not matter as long as they are sharp, clear glossy prints with the couple’s heads close together. Photos may also be emailed in JPG format. No photocopies will be accepted. Photos can either be picked up after the announcement has appeared in the Missoulian or mailed if a self-addressed, stamped envelope is enclosed.

P.O. Box 8029, Missoula, MT 59807 Email: mgerber@missoulian.com Toll free: 1-800-366-7186 or 406-523-5240 • Fax: 406-523-5294 Person completing the form ___________________ Person officiating____________________________ Contact phone number_____________________day night_______________________________________ Date of marriage_____________________________ Place of marriage_ ___________________________ Bride’s name________________________________ Groom’s name_______________________________ Her address_________________________________ His address__________________________________ Her mother’s name___________________________ His mother’s name_ __________________________ Her mother’s address_________________________ His mother’s address_________________________ Her father’s name _ __________________________ His father’s name_ ___________________________ Her father’s address__________________________ His father’s address___________________________ Maid/matron of honor________________________ Best man_ __________________________________ Bridesmaids_________________________________ Groomsman_________________________________ Ushers_____________________________________ Flower girl__________________________________ Ring bearer_ ________________________________ Bride’s education, employment:_ _______________ Groom’s education, employment:_______________ E-mail address_______________________________ Where will the couple honeymoon______________ Where will the couple live_ ____________________ missoulian.com

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marriage license

he bride and groom-to-be must go to the office of the Missoula County Clerk of District Court - 200 W. Broadway; M-F 8-5, except holidays (must arrive no later than 4:30 pm) and fill out a Montana Marriage Application Form.

The license can be used immediately and is good for up to 180 days. Bring proof of age (birth certificate, driver’s license, etc.). If the future bride is under fifty years old, she must provide Rubella Test results (unless she has proof from a doctor that she is not able to have children). The bride and groom must know their mothers’ maiden names and the state their parents were born in.

The bride and groom must also know the city, state, and county they were born in. If they have been married before, they have to state whether the former marriage ended by death or divorce, the county and state in which the divorce took place and the date of

dissolution. They must be 18 years of age or older. The fee is $53.00, payable in cash or with VISA or MasterCard only (no personal checks).

While you are thinking of official procedures, both the groom and bride need to change their wills and put the other’s name on properties that will be mutually owned.

And, if the bride is going to assume her husband’s name, she should make changes on the following items:

• Social Security • Wills Card • Insurance Policies • Driver’s License • Pension Plans • Car Registration • Property Titles • Voter Registration and Leases • Passport • Charge Accounts • Employer or • Subscriptions School Records • Club Memberships • Stocks and Bonds • Post Office

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In tough times, it’s key to pinpoint what’s important. For registries, that means choosing the right range of items that you’ll love using and guest will love giving. Here’s how to do it

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endors and venues get a lot of attention during the wedding-planning process, but not not to be underestimated is the importance of the bridal registry on the engaged couple’s to-do list. While some couples may put it off, as it feels less pressing than booking the caterer or florist, others hightail it right out to the stores to get registered in anticipation of the long lines to return unwanted engagement gifts.

The reality of registering, though, is this: There is no right way or wrong way to do it.

However, following a few strategies for registering enables couples to formulate a thoughtful, well-crafted list that ensures they’re receiving items that they don’t just need and want for married life but ones they’ll actually use. Of course, there’ll always be that one crazy family member who buys you [insert awful gift], which you never would have asked for in a million years, but for the most part, attention to detail in one’s registry will provide sound guidance for the bulk of guests.

a quick look back- and ahead

The bridal registry wasn’t always the high-tech, finely polished machine of today. In her book, “Brides Inc.: American Weddings and the Business of Tradition” (University of Pennsylvania Press, 2006), author Vicki Howard traces the origins of the registry back to 1924 and what were then known as “gift suggestion departments.”

Howard explains that in those days the department store, which was all about service, created these departments as a way to make sure couples didn’t get duplicate gifts by tracking what people bought for them and providing guests with gift suggestions From there, magazines and stores started providing pre-printed lists of the things couples should have, and, voila, the modern-day registry was born. www.bridesandgroomsmt .com

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Today, stores, magazines and wedding Web sites provide registry checklists for couples. They are good guides, says Jana O’Leary, a spokeswoman for Target, but the suggestions are not requirements. There is no one-size-fits-all approach for couples seeking to register because much besides the desire for china has changed, as many couples live together prior to marriage and others are waiting longer to be married.

Because of that, “they are more specific in the things they register for and in what they like and need for their life,” says Millie Martini Bratten, editor-in-chief of Brides magazine.

identify what you want & need

Some couples may feel overwhelmed by the amount of “stuff” the checklists suggest a couple needs and thus not know where to start. Jessica Pennington of St. Joseph, Mich., felt that way. As the owner of wedding coordination firm Stella Event Design, she has seen other couples walk down the dark path of registering for “everything” because the thought they had to. “Everything is presented to you as, ‘This is what you need to register for,’” Pennington says.

Bratten suggests analyzing your lifestyle, what you like and what you want when you begin the process, in addition to looking to your personal interests.

While this is a “wish list,” it’s not a mandatory list for guests to buy from. They, too, are using it as a guide, and the more indications of style and what you’re looking for (more cocktail plates than dinner plates, for example), the easier it will be for them to purchase something that will fit into your registry | brides & grooms 2010 107

lives should they not buy something on your registry. Not only that, but thoughtfully choosing the items you want means you’re more likely to get them.

Bride-to-be Noelle Livreri chose the lessis-more approach because she and her fiancé are both in their 30s, live together and know their lifestyle very well. “We were more frugal than other people,” she says. “We didn’t take the approach that ‘this is your chance to get anything you want.’ We did not register for stuff we are not going to use.”

Livreri polled her married friends for suggestions; Pennington suggests using the checklists as a starting point and writing in your specific needs. Of course, there may be things you don’t want now but maybe will in the future. Consider those things, but keep it in perspective. If you’ll use something, scan it.

If not, save up for if and when it becomes a must-have.

pick a few locations and check them out

Krissy Tiglias, home editor for TheKnot. com, suggests couples register at two or three locations. “One is too limiting, and anywhere above four to five is too many for guests,” she says. “You want to make it as easy as possible for them.” Tiglias also suggests choosing stores with wide selections and ease in ordering (online and by phone). Check out a store’s return policy, as well. Some couples also consider locations of the stores, as some guests may be unfamiliar with online ordering and prefer to buy in person.

Livreri, who lives in Cambridge, Mass., did a lot of research on where to register before she and her fiancé took the plunge.

“We did dry runs,” she says, something Bratten also suggests: “Make it a little bit of a learning process,” she says.

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and, finally, register

But first, a reminder: “This is about you as a couple,” says Anna Post, author of “Emily Post’s Wedding Parties” (Collins Living, 2007). “I did once have a man ask if he could register for a fancy electric shaver,” Post says. “There’s nothing technically wrong with it, but your guests won’t want to get it for you – that’s a personal item, not for the two of you celebrating your life together.”

Keep your guests in mind and register for a wide range of price points and items.

The little stuff – such as can openers, wooden spoons and tea towels – are often items people will put together in gift baskets for showers. The big items are things colleagues, bridesmaids and other groups like to go in on to purchase for you.

Also, register for enough things. “We do suggest you register for more gifts than there are guests,” Tiglias says. She cites all the prewedding events that will eliminate gifts from your registry, such as the shower(s).

Speaking of pre-wedding events, Bratten recommends refreshing your registry prior to the wedding to make sure there are still enough items on there for purchase; the majority of the gifts are bought just 48 hours prior to the wedding, she says. Visit your registry throughout the engagement to see when it needs touching up.

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pressured or stressed. And remember, you’re picking out your presents here – it can’t be that bad, so enjoy it.

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rom Hollywood to Hawaii, Florida to France, couples travel all around the world to their dream honeymoon spot. But when it comes to planning a wedding getaway, couples need to consider all things basic: budget, time, season and destination.

While honeymoon specialists have worked with budgets from as little as $1,500 to as large as $20,000, couples should typically expect to spend between $4,000 and $6,000 on a honeymoon, says Linda Martindell, destination specialist and owner of Totem Travel in Kirkland, Wash. To fit the vacation within your budget, Martindell recommends asking the right question: What will we remember in 10 years?

“It sounds glamorous to travel first class, but people rarely take pictures of an airline seat, and if an extravagant suite means only a weekend getaway that may not be the right choice,” she says. “Most couples will remember their honeymoon forever, so think time together, think pictures, think new experiences and go from there.”

To begin planning your honeymoon, discuss budget and vacation priorities. Find a travel professional to bounce ideas with. “Ask a professional travel agent where you can get the best value for your dream honeymoon,” Martindell says. “By discussing budget first you can avoid being caught up in the excitement of unrealistic destinations and a

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travel agent may suggest options you never even considered.”

Make sure to plan early to get the best deal and value for your money. If you procrastinate, you may find your favorite resort sold out or airfare out of your price range.

If you’re on a tighter budget, domestic destinations may seem like the best fit, but according to Martindell with airline fares today, they’re no less expensive than Mexico or the Caribbean. “An all inclusive resort or cruise can be less expensive than a local trip when you consider the cost of meals, activities and entertainment,” she says. “We’re seeing prices from about $200 a day for lodging, meals, drinks and activities.”

And while traveling in the off-season is appealing, it might not be worth the savings.

“The shortest lines and lowest rates are in off season but that may not be a bargain if it’s snowing in Paris or raining in Tahiti,” Martindell says. “Then again you can get great weather and low rates during certain times of year such as Hawaii in May or the Caribbean in early December.” Fiji and New Zealand also offer great value, as the dollar is strong in those locations.

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Dawn Alicia Photography . . . . . . . . . .

Dax Photography . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Deschamps Photography . . . . . . . . . .

Kristine Paulsen Photography . . . . . .

Logan Photography . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Maureen Roy Photography . . . . . . . . .

Mike Williams Photography . . . . . . . .

Nkauj Ntsuab Photography . . . . . . . .

Radiance Unlimited . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Sepp Jannotta Photography . . . . . . . .

Yellowstone Photo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

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91 15 86 85

72 65 64 68 62 70 65 61 63 75 74 69 67 71 73 68

planners

Celtic Connections for Every Situation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Meetings Northwest . . . . . . . . centerfold Random Task Engineers . . . . . . . . . . . . 8

registry

Caffe Dolce . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Caffe Firenze . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 Dillard’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Southgate Mall . . . . . . . . . . . . centerfold

honeymoon

rehearsal dinner locations

Escape Tours . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 110

El Cazador . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 Jaker’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21

invitations

specialty products

Noteworthy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83

jewelry

Alara . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 112 Barney Jette . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Silpada Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79

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Just Wrap It . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 102 Lisa Archer Silks . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45

transportation

Beach Transportation . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Classy Carriages . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Dollar Rent-a-Car . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Royal Limousine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

81 81 11 80

Alberton Gorge Ranch . . . . . . . . . 21, 31 American Legion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Belton Chalet . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19, 21 Best Western KwaTaqNuk . . . . . . 21, 25 Bigfork Mountain Lake Lodge . . . 22, 34 Bitterroot Banquet & Ballroom . . . . . 22 Bitterroot River Inn . . . . . . . . . . . . 17, 22 Broadway Inn . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 Caffe Dolce . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 Caffe Firenze . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 Camp Paxson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22, 24 Caras Park . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24, 30 Conrad Mansion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 Couer d’alene Resort . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Daly Mansion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 The Davenport Hotel . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 Doubletree Hotel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 El-Mar Gathering Place . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 Emmanuel by Blue Mountain . . . . . . . 25 Fairmont Hot Springs Resort . . . . . . . 18 Hampton Inn Kalispell . . . . . . . . . 25, 29 Hellgate Elks Lodge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 Hilton Garden Inn Kalispell . . . . . 25, 35 Hilton Garden Inn Missoula . . . . . 23, 26 Holiday Inn Downtown at the Park . . . . . . . 26, 58 Il Villagio Park . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 Izaak Walton Inn . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 Kandahar Lodge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 Linda Vista Golf Course . . . . . . . . . . . 26 Lolo Community Center . . . . . . . . . . . 26 Lost Horse Creek Lodge . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Marshall Mountain . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27, 32 MCT Center for the Performing Arts . . . . . . 28, 34 Mission Mountain Resort . . . . . . . 29, 33 Missoula Convention & Visitor’s Bureau . . . . . . centerfold Montana Harley-Davidson . . . . . . . . . 28 Montana Island Lodge . . . . . . . . . . 29, 55 Northern Rockies Heritage Center . . 29 Ogren Park Allegiance Field . . . . . . 29, centerfold Orchard Homes Country Life Club . 30 Quality Inn . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22, 30 Ranch Club . . . . . . . . . . . . 30, centerfold Robbins Roost . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 Rockin’ TJ Ranch . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 St. Anthony Parish Life Center . . . . . . 32 Snowbowl . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Staybridge Suites . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Stevens Ranch . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Swan River Inn . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 UM Stadium Club . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29, 33 UM University Center Ballroom . 33, 34 Western Montana Fairgrounds . . . . . . 33 Whitefish Mountain Resort . . . . . . 28, 33

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