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Contents November/December

Issue 1, Volume 1

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Get Your Travel On!

Travel agent’s personal ministry matches solo women travelers.

By Kelly Koepke

Features

There’s so much value in being able to travel.

– Jennifer Myers

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Departments

“The secret to a happy life is work worth doing.”

-Justice Sandra Day O’Connor

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32 Deb Redford

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Realtor

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CURRENT OBSESSIONS Vases of History..............10 Crazy for Conchos..........10 Inspired Listening............ 11 Book Review.....................11

BETTER LIVING Holiday Budgeting.......... 12 Authentic Native Jewelry?............................14 Sweater Blazer Style...... 16 Reverse Bucket List........ 18

33 Sam Adams

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Attorney

GIVING BACK

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Agnes Noonan................ 20 Microgiving....................... 21 Spotlights......................... 21 Bowling for Scholarships .................. 22 Get Involved.................... 23

Women Making A Personal Differenc e

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HOME SPACE Distinctive Southwest... 34 Buying a Home Solo?.... 36 Recipe: Biscochitos........37

HOLIDAY BUDGETING

TIPS TO AVOID THE FINANCIAL HANGOVER

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WELL BEING

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WHY NEW MEXICO? Jeanne Saxon.................48 New Mexico Woman

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On the Cover Jennifer Myers is on a mission to encourage solo women travelers.

Photo: Liz Lopez Location: Albuquerque

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Since 1995, the Buddy Walk has become the premier advocacy event for Down syndrome in the United States. It is also the world’s most widely recognized public awareness program for the Down syndrome community. In Albuquerque, the Buddy Walk is Rio Grande Down Syndrome Network’s largest fundraiser of the year, providing funding needed for RGDSN to fulfill its mission to empower individuals with Down syndrome and their families through advocacy, education and support. This year they celebrated 10 years of Buddy Walk in Albuquerque.

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from the Publisher

Inspiring New Mexico Women

We’ve all got a story to tell, and now we have a place to share it.

I’ve met some of the most amazing, strong women — women with grace and grit, who each have their own story to tell. .

-– Rena Reiser

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ello and welcome!

In your hands is the premier issue of New Mexico Woman! I’m so happy to have you join us as a reader. I hope that this magazine becomes a place where you feel inspired, encouraged and empowered.

In each issue, New Mexico Woman will feature positive stories of women making a difference in Albuquerque and beyond. A native New Mexican myself, I can proudly say that I’ve met some of the most amazing, strong women — women with grace and grit, who each have their own story to tell.

The forum to share those stories didn’t exist. That sparked my passion to create a space to celebrate New Mexico’s women. During the initial planning process, which started earlier this year, I came upon a quote by Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, that really pushed me onward. She says, “When I’m trying to make a tough choice, I say to myself, ‘Choose the bigger life.’” What does that mean in practice? Well, if you’re wondering whether you should go after that big promotion, make a major life move, add to your family or volunteer for a cause you believe in… choose the bigger life and go for it! I did!

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Vases of History From the day her husband brought her his stamp collection and asked if she could use it, artist Lynda Burch has created hundreds of art pieces with stamps and acrylics, using American postage stamps almost exclusively. See Lynda’s stamp collection in the Popejoy Hall Donor Lounge, 203 Cornell Dr. NE, Albuquerque, Nov. 20 to Jan. 20.

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Inspired Listening Load up your device with podcasts that entertain and motivate.

Here are a few staff picks.

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

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ABOUT THIS SHOW: Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of “The Happiness Project” and “Better Than Before” gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen’s co-host and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully. Part of The Onward Project.

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The Sheri + Nancy Show

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ABOUT THIS SHOW: Sheri Salata, executive producer of the Oprah Winfrey Show and former co-president of Harpo Studios and OWN, and Nancy Hala, Fortune 500 brand strategist and storyteller, take listeners on a “Thelma and Louise” style ride as they set out to rebrand and redefine midlife. The two fifty-somethings, friends for decades, have each reached a crossroads and are launching a daring quest to make the rest of their dreams come true. From getting in the shape of their lives, to calling in their soulmate men, they’ll take you behind the scenes as they enlist experts to elevate their lives to whole new levels in health and wellness, spirituality and happiness, romance and sex, friends and family, creativity and innovation, adventure and discovery, sanctuary and beauty, and money and abundance.

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That Sounds Fun with Annie F. Downs

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ABOUT THIS SHOW: Less like a podcast and more like coffee with friends, Christian author and speaker Annie F. Downs shares with you some of her favorite things: new books, faith conversations, restaurants, travel stories, musicians not to miss, and interviews with friends. Pretty much, if it sounds fun to Annie, you’re going to hear about it. Annie is a huge fan of bands with banjos, confetti poppers, her community of friends, boiled peanuts, and soccer. You’ll love the conversation in every episode, released on Mondays and Thursdays.

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The Productive Woman

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ABOUT THIS SHOW: A podcast intended to help busy women find the tools and the encouragement to manage their lives, time, stress and stuff so they can accomplish the things that matter most to them. Released weekly and hosted

by Laura McClellan. Laura is a lawyer, a writer, a productivity enthusiast and a tech geek. Married for 40 years to her high school sweetheart, with whom she’s raised five amazing kids, she’s passionate about encouraging women in their individual journeys. She says, “So many women feel inadequate, insecure, and overwhelmed in their roles as wives, mothers, workers, caretakers and citizens.

I don’t pretend to have the answers, but I love to share what I’ve learned, encourage other women, and see how we can help each other find peace and purpose in the roles that matter so much to us.”

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BOOK REVIEW

The Testaments

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Fans of “The Handmaid’s Tale” will not be disappointed in the long-awaited release of its sequel, set in the dystopian otherworld of Gilead. “The Testaments” takes place 15 years after the conclusion of “The Handmaid’s Tale,” a timely, and some might say prophetic, novel. In a patriarchal society, Gilead females are indoctrinated into an ideology of religious extremism, which includes using handmaids to populate society.

Told partly from the POV of the ruthless Aunt Lydia, we learn of her life prior to the founding of the regime. She describes a horrific account at a stadium where she and other educated women were taken during a moral cleansing, reminiscent of the Holocaust’s Vel’ d’Hiv Roundup.

The book opens with a quote from the 1876 novel, “Daniel Deronda”: “Every woman is supposed to have the same set of motives, or else to be a monster.” This tongue-in-cheek reference is noteworthy because it was penned by Mary Anne Evans, known by her pseudonym, George Eliot; the irony isn’t lost on me.

“The Testaments” may well be a reflection of the ideologies which define us. Prophetess or not, Atwood forces us to rethink our integrity as a society.

- Review by Beverly Allen Custer

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Budget for the Holidays, No Pouting or Crying

Tips to avoid the financial hangover.

By Nora Hickey

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he holidays conjure up many feelings — most pleasant and cozy. But, lurking beneath that good cheer is something even scarier than coal in your stocking. It’s the time of year when our budgets balloon because of holiday festivities and gifts. To avoid blowing your finances, we’ve come up with some easy steps to help you save.

BUDGET, BUDGET, BUDGET

“The best way to plan for holiday savings is to set up a budget,” explains LaMar Bratton, financial advisor at Northwestern Mutual. Make a list of every person you plan on purchasing a gift for, whether that is immediate family or your postal worker.

Next, figure out how much you plan to spend on each individual. “Making this list allows you to take a step back

Once you’ve figured out just how much you can spend, stick to the list.

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and see a total for gifts. Then you can ask yourself, ‘Is this where we should save? What are our financial priorities besides gifts?’” LaMar says. Once you’ve figured out just how much you can spend, stick to the list.

START EARLY

With your list in hand, get started shopping — the sooner the better.

“When you wait until December,” LaMar says, “that’s when the impulse buys happen.”

Another perk of starting early is having the time to do price comparisons. Look for stores that price match.

For example, Best Buy and Target will price match if an item is found for less elsewhere. Starting early can also save on expedited shipping costs.

BEWARE OF HIDDEN COSTS

We know that gifts mean more money spent during the holidays, but what about less obvious costs? If you plan to travel, watch for extra expenses in the form of baggage and seat fees, meals and transportation to and from the airport. With planning, many of these costs can be avoided. Also, look into

using credit card points or mileage rewards to purchase airfare.

Gift wrap, tags and cards can be costly. Get creative and re-purpose old newspapers, maps and other paper for gift wrap. Use the front of a received card to make a new, postcard-style one for someone else.

THINK OUTSIDE THE STORE

Instead of hitting the stores, make something! Knitted scarves, teacup candles, t-shirt bags and more are fun to make with instructions easily found online.

Of course, cooking is the classic way to anyone’s heart. “If your gift list is kind of large, make a big batch of cookies,” LaMar says. “People will appreciate it, and you will feel better about not tanking your finances.”

LaMar also recommends activityoriented gifts. “Organize some sort of volunteer event instead of hosting a Christmas party. You are giving back to the community, building a strong bond with your loved ones and not spending a lot of money.”

So, make that list, check it twice, and enjoy your holidays without a financial hangover!

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Real or Fake?

How to know that the native jewelry you’re buying is authentic.

By Nora Hickey

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hether you’re visiting Old Town Albuquerque or the Santa Fe plaza, you’re sure to see unique, stunning southwestern jewelry. Yes, the bright turquoise and silver look astonishing, but how can you tell if it’s the genuine article or an imposter?

With the help of Shane Smith (Navajo), a trained jewelry authenticator at Shumakolowa Native Arts, housed in the Indian Pueblo Cultural Center (IPCC) in Albuquerque, we’ll tell you how.

In the past, to test if turquoise jewelry was real, you could put a lit match to it. If authentic, the turquoise would remain the same unblemished striking shade of blue-green. If fake, the “turquoise” would show a brown scorch mark. Shane, who gives classes on native jewelry at the IPCC, grew up learning about these surefire ways to test turquoise. He also remembers the needle test, where a hot needle was pressed against the surface to see if it burned through, revealing the manmade material within.

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What to Look For Now, there are less destructive techniques to verify the authenticity of native jewelry. The first thing you should always do, Shane says, is ask questions.

“Avoid one answer questions like, ‘Is this real?’” Instead, ask about the type of turquoise being sold, where it comes from and who the artist is. “If they don’t have answers to those questions, then that piece may not be real,” he notes.

Often, simply touching the stone in question can reveal a lot. “Real gemstones are cool to the touch,” Shane says. Scientifically speaking, authentic gemstones are cooler than plastic or glass ones because of their high thermal inertia — in other words, gemstones take longer to warm upon being touched.

Shane also cautions buyers to beware of certain colors. “There’s no such thing as red or purple turquoise!” he warns.

The gemstone’s natural color comes in a range of blue and green, sometimes marked with brown or black veins of

the turquoise’s host rock. If you see brightly colored turquoise outside of this spectrum, it might be howlite, a white mineral that’s easily dyed.

How to Be Sure Shumakolowa, along with other reputable sellers, are wonderful resources for genuine jewelry. “We know the artists we carry, and have good relationships with them,” Shane notes. Look for other shops and markets that require similarly rigorous standards.

Finally, real gemstones and minerals will stay true to cost. To get a sense of price, visit the Shumakolowa store at the IPCC, or online. Above all, “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is!” Shane cautions.

Learn More

The Indian Pueblo Cultural Center hosts regular events on distinguishing authentic native work from imitations. To find out when the next scheduled workshop is, visit www.indianpueblo.org.

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The why’s and how’s of creating your

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By Robin Martinez

How to

“ Ta-Da” Find Clarity in Solitude

Plan a block of time to remember and reflect upon those experiences you’re grateful for or which were impactful. A quieted spirit is more conducive to self-examination.

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he pint-sized ballerina dances around the living room, tutu twirling in an impressive show for her family who has gathered to watch. One last flourish, a finishing pose and an excited, “Ta-da!”

These four little letters — Ta-da — convey so much! A goal met. A finished project. Pride in a job well done. Four little letters asking the unspoken question, “Did you see what I did?”

According to Statista.com, 79% of Americans have a social media profile of some kind — a platform to showcase the highlight reels of one’s life. Yet a recent study, published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, found a causal link between social media use and depression. Users of social media platforms, consciously and subconsciously, compare and contrast their lives with the lives of friends, acquaintances and even strangers. Such comparison often leads to dissatisfaction and discontentment, envy and resentment. One’s own bucket list, once a beacon of hope and excitement, now seems a monument to slow starts, squirrel chases and a summation of impossible dreams when compared to the accomplishments showcased by others.

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So why not flip the script? Rather than focusing on those experiences and achievements not yet accomplished, why not celebrate the successes already attained? Instead of focusing on the road ahead, take a look in the rearview mirror and consider compiling a reverse bucket list — a Ta-Da list, if you will.

Creating a list of life accomplishments is an exercise in gratitude, an exercise which can be done regardless of age, location, income or status. Whether young or simply young at heart, celebrating past successes, large or small, is a surefire way to replace resentment and anxiety with thankfulness and joy. The pleasant nostalgia of remembering the sights, smells and companions associated with the accomplishments is a side benefit!

Considering past achievements can also provide the impetus to face new challenges with confidence. When the future you desire seems impossibly far away, it’s easy to begin to feel hopeless and give up before even starting. Reverse bucket lists provide proof that it is possible to accomplish important goals.

A review of life milestones can provide the motivation and courage necessary to face the challenges ahead.

Write as if no one else will read it. If it’s significant to you, it’s worth celebrating.

Don’t fret because your accomplishments don’t seem as grandiose or unique as those of your social media sidekicks. Changed your own flat tire? Celebrate your self-sufficiency! Sixth-grade spelling bee champ? A monument to determination!

Love It and List It Maintain an actual list of accomplishments, big and small, and add to it as appropriate. First time to brave the supposed stigma of dining alone? Write it down!

To Share or Not to Share Before throwing your list out there on your own platform, consider your motives. If you’re hoping to impress the social media crowd, think again. There will always be someone who has done more, traveled further, accomplished bigger. But if you choose to share in hopes of helping someone else get past their “stuck,” your list might provide the needed motivation.

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WESST operates in six locations throughout the state: Albuquerque, Rio Rancho, Santa Fe, Las Cruces, Roswell and Farmington.

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Agnes Noonan What is WESST? As a non-profit, WESST offers consulting, training, and lending to anyone with the passion to start or grow a business. WESST is driven by its belief that expanding entrepreneurship is the most effective way to yield the greatest economic impact. Led by president Agnes Noonan, WESST is currently among a handful of economic development organizations across the country that hosts a network of Women’s Business Centers, with programs geared to aspiring or established women business

owners. “Our clients come to us from all walks of life for help with businesses of all types — retail, professional services, arts and crafts, restaurants and catering, construction, manufacturing, and bio-technology, to name a few,” Agnes says. Prior to joining WESST in 1991, Agnes served as a small business consultant in the United States Peace Corps in Costa Rica and as the Executive Director of the American Chamber of Commerce in Egypt. She’s passionate about personal and business financial literacy, and loves to read.

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Make microgiving easier and more automatic with a “yes fund.”

By Amy Morton

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hese days, it’s not uncommon to encounter an opportunity for charitable giving on a near-daily basis. Perhaps your coworker is raising money for her child’s school or sports team. Or, maybe you see a plea for donations on social media.

It could be a Facebook birthday fundraiser for an animal rescue group, or a GoFundMe campaign for someone who’s facing financial hardship following an illness or death in the family.

Sometimes all of these “asks” can be overwhelming, and you can find your heartstrings pulled just as hard as your purse strings. But what if you put yourself in a position to say “yes” more often — and to more causes that you care about — by creating a monthly budget for microgiving? For as little as a dollar a day, for example, you could set up a “yes fund” that enables you to give a $15 donation to roughly 24 recipients each year. Simply create a recurring monthly transfer of $30.41 to a free online savings account — Capital One 365 or Ally Bank are two examples — and the money will be earmarked for the next “ask.”

Make it two or three dollars a day, and your impact goes even further, all without having to agonize over the decision to say “Yes, I can help,” to either people or organizations when you feel called to do something. The money is already allocated, and you just have to keep track of your gifts throughout the year so you don’t overspend.

And, if you think your microgiving won’t make that much of a difference, think again.

In 2018, donations from individuals totaled a whopping $292.09 billion, representing 68% of all charitable giving in the United States, according to GivingUSA.org. That far outpaced philanthropic gifts by either American foundations ($75.86 billion) or corporations ($20.05 billion). It is a host of individual Americans who give the most collectively, proving that small amounts can add up to billions of dollars.

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Executive Director, Greater Albuquerque Habitat for Humanity Builds housing for low-income families, averaging five to six homes built per year.

Women Build, a program of Habitat for Humanity, provides the opportunity for women to help build their communities.

Dr. Denise R. Ames

President, The Center for Global Awareness CGA provides books, educator resources and services with a holistic, globalfocused, perspective-taking approach.

Their most recent program, Turn, encourages lifelong, transformative learning to arrive at a place of personal and global well-being.

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Christine Glidden

Founder and President, Women to Be Women to Be distributes kits of underwear, washable sanitary pads and a reproductive health class to girls in Nepal, Mexico and New Mexico — keeping girls in school to provide them freedom, opportunity and dignity.

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It’s All About the Kids

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even years ago, the youth bowling league that Lucy Delmore’s granddaughter belonged to was at risk of disbanding. The woman who was managing the league at the time was moving out of state. Rather than lose the opportunity for the kids, Lucy stepped in to take over.

Youth league bowling coaches Karyn Coffey and Lucy Delmore

(Back row, from left) Coach Karyn Coffey, Alyssa Burks, Coach Lucy Delmore, Ryan Heaton, Rilie Delmore, Coach James Delmore, (middle) Jacob Delmore, (front row, from left) Destiny Gaps, Victoria Robinson and Xzavier Delmore.

Under the direction of the feisty Lucy, who the kids call Lulu, the league gained a strong advocate. Lucy has been involved in bowling for 45 years. Now, nearing age 70, she serves as a board member for the Central New Mexico United States Bowling Congress (USBC), and was

inducted into their Hall of Fame for Meritorious Service in August 2018.

But it’s not about the recognition, Lucy says. “It’s about the love and enjoyment I feel every time I help a bowler or make a new friend.

I have met some of the most amazing people, and I will always dedicate time to the sport of bowling.”

Her dedication is helping local youth earn money for college. She operates a sanctioned youth league at Starlight Lanes in Bernalillo.

Instead of keeping some of the money for administrative duties, as some league secretaries do, Lucy sends that portion of each week’s bowling fees to the USBC “SMART Fund.” The SMART Fund holds the monies in each child’s account until five years after their high school graduation. The young bowlers can earn more money for their accounts by bowling

in sanctioned league tournaments, placing in tournaments, logging high-scoring games and high-scoring series.

“Every single child gets scholarship money. No one goes without,” Lucy says. Lucy’s own granddaughter, now age 12, has earned about $1,200 in her scholarship account.

Five years after graduation, if the child has not used the scholarship funds for continuing education — including trade schools — the money goes back into the fund to help other kids.

Children age 5 to 18 can participate in Lucy’s youth league — even bumper bowlers. “We encourage them to have their own equipment, because it’s easier to improve when you’re using equipment you’re familiar with,” she says.

So, Lucy solicits donations of bowling balls, shoes and bags for her kids.

“It’s all about the kids,” she says.

Volunteers do not necessarily have the time; they just have the heart.

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Traveling

Solo No Lonely Adventure

By Kelly Koepke

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he last thing Jennifer Myers expected when she put a notice on Meetup.com for women looking for travel companions was that 100 people would sign up the first day. She thought a few people might be interested, sure. But the response to her call for widowed, divorced and single women who want to travel but don’t want to travel alone, was overwhelming.

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This is really a way to do something that matters, and make a difference for these women.

- Jennifer Myers

able to travel. It’s easy to send people in New Mexico on ocean cruises or to the beach, or on river cruises. But we do as much land travel planning as water,” she says.

The first Albuquerque Solo Women’s Travel Club gathering happened in September 2018.

More than 50 people showed up to Jennifer’s storefront for food, wine and conversation about trips as diverse as day outings to Santa Fe, hiking in the Sandia Mountains, Alaska cruises and African safaris.

The group is now 350 members strong, including the woman from whom Jennifer took inspiration. Tami Wilhoit is a lively 60 years old, and credits Jennifer for changing her mind about solo travel. And Tami’s not alone. Forbes reports that nearly twothirds of today’s travelers are women and that an estimated 32 million American women travel alone every year. Estimates have women making up 53% of single

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“In 2017 a dear friend of mine lost her husband unexpectedly. I’d been having conversations with her about her upcoming travel dreams and helping her to create a plan. His death brought it all to a screeching end,” says Jennifer. “When she told me that she could never travel to her dream destinations because she and her husband had planned on going there together, I saw a genuine need. I recognized that as a travel agency owner I have both the platform and the tools to really make a difference for women like her.”

Jennifer owns and operates Albuquerque’s award-winning Expedia CruiseShipCenters. A former respiratory therapist, she says she’s still in the business of helping people breathe the air of exotic foreign lands, or discover closer destinations that represent the culmination of a lifetime of dreaming. “There’s so much value to being

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With each trip, I feel more confident.

- Tami Wilhoit

(unmarried, widowed or divorced) adults in the U.S., a big segment of the population.

Certainly, solo travel enables travel when, where and how you want, and travel companies are indeed seeing a big uptick in interest from solo female travelers. When the female members of the Facebook group Solo Travel Society (not affiliated with the Albuquerque Solo Women’s Travel Club) — more than 253,000 members strong — were asked why they travel without a companion, almost half (46%) pointed to the freedom, independence and ability to do what they want when they want. Another 22% said they weren’t willing to wait around for others, and 15% said they wanted to challenge themselves and gain confidence.

Since January, Tami has taken trips by herself to Mesa Verde, Ghost Ranch and Ojo Caliente, Zuni Pueblo, Ruidoso, San Antonio, Texas, and Colorado Springs, Colorado. “I came home from that one in a blizzard, but I found out I could do it and did it just fine. Being part of the club has given me the confidence to do these things by myself. With each trip, I feel more confident,” she says.

She’s also taken trips with friends, and friends of friends, most recently to the Caribbean island of Bonaire. In a few months, she’s traveling to Maui with friends. “I was going to go to the Bahamas in October, but never followed through for some reason. Now I know it was because of the hurricane,” Tami says.

“If not for Jen doing the Solo Women’s Travel Club, though, I would not have had the gumption and confidence to go and do anything by myself. Bless her for realizing a real need.”

Monthly events (except for summer) help match individuals like Tami with their travel interests, sometimes featuring travel industry speakers who present information on particular destinations.

There are never any sales pitches, and no expectation that if several women were interested in group outings, cruises or U.S. or international travel, they would book through Jennifer or her agency.

Instead, Jennifer sees coordinating the club as a calling.

“This is really a way to do something that matters, and make a difference for these women,” she says. “In fact, I’ve had other travel agencies contact me to ask for advice on setting up their own groups. But I’m really just making this up as I go! We’re also transitioning the group to a closed Facebook group because the logistics seem to work better than Meetup. We’ll be able to use the Facebook polls feature to gauge interest in specific destinations and timing for travel.”

Many of the group’s members are Tami’s age, averaging in their mid- to late-50s and 60s. There are some younger women, as well, including one woman in her 20s who is new to New Mexico and wanted people to do things with. Many women in the group are new to the area and are looking for both suggestions for activities and outing companions. Others, like Tami, have lived here their whole lives and enjoy sharing ideas.

“All the ladies talk about themselves, and everyone gets an idea of what they’re like. Everybody is unique, with their own circumstances. People find things in common and go do things together,” Tami says. “As women, it’s really hard to find people to do things with, and there are a whole lot of women who are suddenly alone but still want to travel. They do want a companion, though, and here’s a perfect way for everyone to talk, get together, and feel each other out about traveling together,” she notes.

To find out when the next ABQ Women’s Solo Travel Club meeting is, visit their Facebook page or Meetup group for more information.

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eb Redford is a local real estate agent with Coldwell Banker Legacy, who is genuinely invested in making a difference for her clients. As a retired nurse, Deb understands the importance of accountability and attention to detail. She and her husband have been buying and selling real estate for almost 40 years, and she became a licensed broker in 2018. Deb admits she may not have all the answers, but she surrounds herself with people she respects who are great resources. Her joy in serving others manifests itself in many ways, including being chosen as the 2002 Chevrolet National Soccer Parent of the Year — which earned her a Chevy minivan and a trip to Connecticut to see the U.S. Women’s team play China before they played in the Olympics in Greece.

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am Adams is repeatedly named as a top 250 female litigator in the country, and was previously selected as one of the Top 25 Southwest Super Lawyers® in New Mexico. Her practice focuses on litigation for business, government and non-profit organizations. Sam’s industry experience includes insurance, employment, education, health care, trucking and real estate. As a trial lawyer, Sam understands the value of good legal advice in advance of a trip to the courtroom. She serves on the UNM School of Law Alumni Board, the Albuquerque Bar Association, and as pro bono general counsel for New Mexico Legal Aid and the Domestic Violence Resource Center. She also teaches as an adjunct professor for the UNM School of Law. Sam enjoys traveling the world, crossword puzzles and long-distance running.

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“When building a custom home, I like to ask people what they love about their current home,” says builder Kay Beason (pictured lower left). “Then we work as a team to build their vision.”

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Buying a Home as a Single Woman

4 tips from a real estate agent.

By Beverly Custer

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ationally there is a growing trend among single women when it comes to purchasing a home: they are more than twice as likely as single men to do so, and in fact they prioritize home ownership above being married and having children, according to Bank of America’s 2018 Homebuyer Insights Report.

Whether you’re a young woman fresh out of college, newly divorced or simply looking to purchase a home for the first time, here are four steps you can take now to join in the rising ranks of single women home owners:

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Time for a reality check.

Terree’ Campbell, an Albuquerque real estate agent and owner of Campbell & Campbell Real Estate Services, advises women to assess their finances to see what they can afford. “Take a look at what it means to own property versus an apartment: what are you paying now for rent compared to what you would be for a mortgage payment?

Rental prices are high in Albuquerque. If you’ve got good credit and a stable job or income, you can own your own home.”

to a mortgage 2Talk banker ahead of time.

“Look at what you want to do, where you want to be, and know what you can afford,” says Terree’.

Mortgage bankers are the experts that will know the latest information about options and programs single women may have available to them. For example, first-time home buyers may be able to get into a house for zero down. “There are programs for teachers, and first responders, as well,” she says.

A mortgage banker can help you assess your personal debt-to-income ratio, and can advise you how much you’ll need for home ownership. Part of the process is reviewing your credit report, and getting you prequalified for a home loan.

“Some women may not be ready...their credit may not be in line, but they may be close,“ Terree’ says.

need to 3You’ll establish credit.

“If you have bad credit, it’s going to be a challenge, but it’s not impossible,” says Terree’, who has 21 years’ experience in the real estate business.

After the initial meeting with a mortgage banker and finding out where you stand financially, you’ll be advised to correct any issues you might have.

“Do you have lots of credit card debt? That’s something you’ll need to take care of. No credit?

I’d suggest getting a low-interest credit card, and pay it off immediately to establish credit.”

Speak with a 4 real estate agent.

There are certain amenities with condominiums.

Maybe you’re wanting to live in a gated community. Or be where you don’t have to take care of the landscaping, which may mean Home Owners Association (HOA) fees. A realtor will make you aware of these ahead of time.

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RECIPE

Cranberry Walnut Biscochitos

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ho else remembers spending hours in the kitchen with their grandmother, making traditional biscochitos for Christmas? Or maybe you remember someone “gifting” you a tin of the sweet cookies with a spicy bite, but telling you to return the tin so it can be used again next year.

Almost as stereotypical as the smell of roasting chile in New Mexico in the fall is the smell of biscochitos cooking in the winter. This recipe, provided by Celina Aldaz-Grife of Celina’s Biscochitos, expands on the traditional version with unexpected ingredients.

6 cups flour 1 tablespoon baking powder 1/4 teaspoon salt 1 pound lard, at room temperature (or vegetable shortening) 1 cup granulated sugar 3 large eggs 2 heaping teaspoons anise seed 1/2 cup fresh orange juice 2 tablespoons brandy 1 cup dried cranberries 3/4 cup chopped walnuts Cinnamon Sugar Mix 1/4 cup sugar 3/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon.

New Mexico’s State Cookie

Rich flavors of sugar, cinnamon and anise melt in your mouth.

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Preheat oven to 350°. Sift flour, baking powder and salt together. Cream lard with sugar and anise seed. Add eggs one at a time into cream mixture until blended well. Add orange juice and brandy to the cream mix in a steady stream while mixer is mixing the liquid into the cream mix. Begin to add flour mix to the cream mix a little at a time. Hands are the best for working the dough, however a mixer works fine as well. Your dough should have a nice consistency that isn’t too sticky, like pie crust dough.

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Fold in the cranberries and walnuts until evenly distributed.

Celina’s Biscochitos (www.celinasbiscochitos. com) offers a full range of traditional New Mexican biscochitos and uniquely flavored cookies for sale. Try their traditional cookies, just like your grandmother used to make, or any of their four custom flavors — green chile pecan, red chile, cocoa chocolate chip and lemon.

On a lightly floured surface, begin to roll out the dough. It should be ¼” thick. Cut out cookies and place on cookie sheet. Repeat this process until you run out of dough.

Bake until lightly golden to golden. It usually takes 7-12 minutes to bake. Let cookies cool for at least a minute and then dunk them in the cinnamon sugar mix. Place on a cookie rack until completely cooled. Makes 4-6 dozen.

In case you weren’t aware, New Mexico has a state cookie — the tasty biscochito, just like abuela (grandma) used to make. New Mexico designated the biscochito as the state cookie in 1989 to encourage traditional homebaked cooking, and was the first state to recognize an official state cookie symbol. A small anise- and cinnamon-flavored

shortbread cookie, the biscochito (called biscocho in southern New Mexico), was introduced by early Spaniards in the 16th century.

What does the name mean?

Biscochito is the diminutive form of bizcocho in Spanish, which basically means “biscuit.” The cookies are traditionally cut into flower, crescent moon or star shapes. Biscochitos are served

during special celebrations, such as wedding receptions, baptisms and religious holidays (especially during the Christmas season).

So, pour yourself a mug of hot chocolate, and enjoy a few biscochitos this holiday season.

Don’t let the fact that they’re made with lard dissuade you.

Holiday treats like these are meant to be savored!

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Dementia?

Don’t Go It Alone

BY Jennifer Myers

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he was in her late 70s the night her car got stuck in the sand somewhere on the West Mesa. She was alone.

The drive from her son’s house in Bernalillo after dinner toward her home in Rio Rancho was a trip Elsie Howell had taken dozens of times, but that night she became disoriented. After nearly 24 hours of search efforts by local authorities, family members and friends, a news station helicopter pilot found Elsie late afternoon the following day and delivered her safely to her worried family. Elsie would later joke about spending the night with the snakes and coyotes — but to her daughter-in-law, Jody Howell, that was the moment she knew that despite her own love and feelings of responsibility to care for Elsie, she was no longer enough.

Elsie died in January of 2018 at 92 years of age. The last five years of her life were spent in a nursing home. Jody served as her mother-in-law’s primary caregiver for 15 years, all the while unaware of the resources available to caregivers of loved ones living with dementia. She didn’t even think about asking for help. “I’d watched my grandparents go down this road and assumed it was just done this way.”

The symptoms started with Elsie forgetting to pay her bills. Eventually she stopped doing laundry and keeping her house in order. “It was a really slow progression,” Jody says, “but I knew it was serious when we realized that Mom wasn’t showering.”

According to the Alzheimer’s Association, 41,000 New Mexicans are currently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease — one of more than 100 types of dementia. That number is expected

I’d watched my grandparents go down this road and assumed it was just done this way.

- Jody Howell

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“It’s a progressive, chronic disease. We don’t know how to prevent, stop or treat it,” said Tina De La Luz, program director for the Alzheimer’s Association New Mexico Chapter. “We don’t have all the answers, but we have a lot of hope.” She recommends that family members reach out for help immediately upon their loved one receiving a diagnosis.

“The three things a caregiver needs to be successful are education, support and respite,” Tina says, “all things the Alzheimer’s Association can provide.” Since the level of care needed increases as the disease progresses, and an individual can live with the disease an average of 8-12 years, many caregivers do not realize how taxing the long-term experience can be. “Forty percent of primary caregivers who don’t take a break actually die before the loved ones they’re caring for,” Tina says.

For Jody, the caregiving process was both a blessing and a hardship. “It was a blessing to have that time with her. The hardest part was that I missed so much of my own kids’ lives in the process,” she says. “I should have focused on my own needs too. It probably would have been healthier.”

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NOVEMBER 3 DIAMOND DASH WEDDING SHOW

An elite assortment of the most preferred wedding professionals in Albuquerque all under one roof, ready to meet you! Breathtaking displays sure to help you envision the perfect celebration for your day. Plus, wedding swag and phenomenal show-only specials that can help you maximize your budget.

1 p.m. to 4 p.m.; $5-$10 Hyatt Regency Albuquerque 330 Tijeras Ave. NW, Albuquerque www.nm.pwg.com

NOVEMBER 14 COOKING INSPIRED BY GEORGIA O’KEEFFE

A chef will guide you through some of Ms. O’Keeffe’s recipes featured in the book, A Painters Kitchen: Recipes from the Kitchen of Georgia O’Keeffe by Margaret Wood. Ms. O’Keeffe had a unique perspective on food for the time, really appreciating simple foods that were in season and grown and handled with care. Margaret will also be on hand to share personal stories and insights into Georgia

O’Keeffe’s life, perspective on food and art, as she was her assistant for many years.

10 a.m. to 1 p.m.; $90 Santa Fe School of Cooking 125 N Guadalupe St., Santa Fe santafeschoolofcooking.com

NOVEMBER 16 MARGARITA CRAWL

Create memories that will last a lifetime! Fun time with hundreds of people, and dozens of margaritas to purchase at a discount at multiple venues. The first 100 people get free gifts! Age 21+ event, photo ID required.

2 p.m. to 8 p.m. $20-$25 Venue TBD, Albuquerque facebook.com/ barcrawlunlimited/

NOVEMBER 21 6TH ANNUAL HOLIDAY DESIGN COMPETITION & AUCTION

Women in Design: NM is calling on local artists to create a custom wreath or a set of four ornaments to be auctioned for charity at our holiday event!

All entry participants receive complimentary tickets to the event. With good food, raffle

items, music, charity and design, what more could you want in an evening?! All proceeds go directly to benefit New Day Youth & Family Services, a group focused on helping the homeless and runaway youth of Albuquerque with job training, education, shelter, therapy and life skills.

5 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.; $5 El Vado Motel 2500 Central Ave. SW, Albuquerque facebook.com/ womenindesignnm/

NOVEMBER 29DECEMBER 1 20TH ANNUAL RIO GRANDE HOLIDAY SHOW

This festival takes the turkey when it comes to New Mexico’s Thanksgiving weekend traditions! Kick-off holiday shopping while supporting artists.

Shoppers can find the most memorable and original gifts, whether it’s a whimsical piece of pottery, a handmade leather belt, one-of-a-kind jewelry or a striking piece of fine art.

10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Friday and Saturday, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.

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Celebrating 25 Years in Business

LIGHT AMONG THE RUINS

The ruins of Giusewa Pueblo and San José de los Jemez Mission will be decorated with hundreds of farolitos.

Each evening’s program will include traditional Native American flute music and Jemez Pueblo dancers performing between two illuminating bonfires. Arts, crafts and food available for purchase.

5 p.m. to 9 p.m.; $5 Jemez Historic Site 18160 Highway 4, Jemez Springs nmhistoricsites.org/jemez

DECEMBER 6-8 JOY: VINTAGE MARKET DAYS

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antiques, art, vintage home goods, recycled and upcycled items and handmade treasures.

10 a.m. to 4 p.m.; $5-$10 Expo New Mexico 300 San Pedro Dr. NE, Albuquerque vintagemarketdays.com

Certified Architectural Color Consultant, Jennifer Smith will save you time and money by choosing the perfect colors for your home or office.

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DECEMBER 7 TWINKLE LIGHT PARADE

Albuquerque’s brightest celebration, the Twinkle Light Parade. This family-friendly holiday event will roll through Historic Nob Hill, and will feature hundreds of floats, marching bands, cars, bikes and, of course, Mr. Claus.

5 p.m.; Free Nob Hill, Central Avenue from Washington Street to Girard Blvd., Albuquerque cabq.gov/culturalservices

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DECEMBER 14 HOLIDAY HOME TOUR

Delight in the spirit of the Holidays as six Santa Fe residents, including New Mexico Governor Michelle Lujan Grisham, open their homes for the 4th annual Santa Fe Woman’s Club Holiday Home Tour. A self-guided tour of a diverse collection of residences, all festively decorated.

Proceeds benefit the Woman’s Club Scholarship Fund.

10 a.m. to 4 p.m.; $25 The Santa Fe Woman’s Clubhouse 1616 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe www.sfwcholidayhometour.org

CHRISTMAS IN NEW MEXICO

A spectacular performance presented by Baila! Baila! Music, song and dance with the traditional Southwestern flair that has been cultivated in our state over the generations, as well as unique segments saluting Christmas traditions from around the world, will delight theatre-goers of all ages.

7 p.m. Saturday, 2 p.m. Sunday; $20-$32 National Hispanic Cultural Center 1701 4th St. SW, Albuquerque nhccnm.org

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| SEPTEMBER 24, 2019 | ALBUQUERQUE 1 Val Romero (WMAD Founder) and John Zeuli.

2 Building relationships and supporting collaboration with Women Make a Difference. Val Romero (WMAD Founder) Vicki Finnegan, Sarah Fredrickson, Chauntal Andrews and JoAnna Johnston. 3 Sarah Fredrickson and Chauntal Andrews, new BFF’s at the WMAD Happy Hour.

4 WMAD Founder Val Romero and Sydona Anderson-Fernandez.

5 Los Colinas Village hosted the Women Make a Difference happy hour in September. Attendees included Catherine Lind, Loretta Dunivan, Women Make a Difference Founder Val Romero, Jan Schouw and Maria Dernocoeur.

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Even the fast-food places advertise green chile on their menu! I was raised in Phoenix, but came to Albuquerque from San Diego, California, in 1992. It reminded me of Phoenix, but had four seasons and snow. I’d never been around snow before! I remember, on a visit back to San Diego, I told my friends there that the state drink of New Mexico must be a margarita — because you can order one almost anywhere! For fun, I enjoy exploring the landscape and Route 66.

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