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Do you have or know an extraordinary Mom that deserves a special recognition this Mother’s Day? Enter her in The Journey’s Mother’s Day Giveaway for a chance to win her some well deserved pampering!
how it works: You will email us some information, including why you think your nomination deserves some recognition this Mother’s Day. We will then choose a first, second & third place winner. First place gets to choose which prize package she’d like. Second place gets to choose from the remaining two packages, and third place gets the last prize package.
how to enter: Email us the following information to email@example.com by May 1, 2013! 1) Your name, 2) Name of person you’re nominating, 3) Your address, 4) Your phone number, and 5) A few sentences about why your nominee deserves to win big.
prize packages: fierce & fashionable· perfectly pampered · domestic diva $100 Wardrobe
One Hour Massage
from Belk in Lufkin
by Carrie Love @ Expressive Images
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Philosophy Gift Bag
at Clear Springs or Auntie Pastas in Nacogdoches
Xtreme Glideliner Eyeliner Pencil
Full Hour Spa Facial by Ashley Conlon @ Studio 319
from Permanent Cosmetics by Lynanne (valued at $29)
Hair Cut & Style
$25 Merle Norman Gift Card
Pearl Necklace & Earring Set from the Pink Leopard Boutique
Apron & Recipe Box Set with Dessert Mix from Miss McGillicuddy’s
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$25 Olive Garden Gift Card
Dinner for Two at Cotton Patch
$30 Posados Gift Card
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10 oz Soy Candle
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t’s East Texas’ favorite event we all look forward to—rodeo season! And if you are one of those who do not own a pair of boots, it is now time to add that to your wardrobe. I h ave to a dmit, I was one of those for the first 27 years of my life. I lived without owning a pair of boots, but after getting involved with the rodeo, “I needed a pair.” Believe it or not, once I had them, they came in very handy! I wear boots all the time. All of this to encourage you to invest in a good pair of boots! We live in Texas; everyone should own a pair!
hard to give back to Angelina County. The Lufkin Hosts Lion’s Club spends countless hours of work and planning to put on the Angelina County Rodeo for us all to enjoy. T hen, after all the money is counted, they disburse those funds to organizations in the community.
Things to add to your to-do list this month: 1. Buy a pair of boots. 2. Get your rodeo tickets and buy a few truck raffle tickets. (stop by or call our office-we have raffle tickets)
One aspect of the rodeo that we at The Journey are able to be involved with is the 3. Read Jessica’s story! Rodeo Queen. This year, we had GREAT See you at the rodeo! applicants. It was a hard decision, but hands down, everyone chose the same applicant. We are excited to share Jessica’s [\WZa _Q\P aW] ;PM Q[ LMÅVQ\MTa WVM \W More important than the boots is the big watch; her future is so bright! STEPHANIE OLIVER picture b ehind the rodeo. It’s a g roup of PRESIDENT men who roll up their sleeves and work
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Home Tour: the Wells' Estate Decor & Design: Children's Art Wall Your Pantry: Eat Breakfast In the Kitchen: Meal Exchanges
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Giving Back: Gloria Russell Children's Ministry Community Leader: Lynn Hopper Calendar: Upcoming Events Inspiring Woman: Jessica Skipper On the Scene: April is Child Abuse Prevention Month
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Something Abundant: A Bride's Bloomin' Bulbs Relationships: Where's the Gauge on Your Love Tank? Stretch Marks: I've Been to This Rodeo Before.
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Fashion: Spring 2013 Trends Health: March for Babies Life Change: Jessica Williams Mothershed
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Join us for the 9th Annual Women in Red Luncheon. Join Woodland Heights Medical Center in celebrating the anniversary of Healthy Woman, a series of free monthly educational programs and interactive events. A local cardiologist will speak about women and heart disease. Also, Jane Jenkins Herlong will entertain with a funny, inspirational presentation that’s sure to motivate.
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If Â you Â are Â interested Â in Â saving Â time Â in Â your Â own Â kitchen Â with Â preparing Â meals, Â gather Â seven Â friends Â and Â start Â your Â own Â meal Â exchange. Â You Â can Â meet Â as Â often Â as Â you Â like, Â but Â most Â meet Â at Â least Â once Â every Â 6 Â weeks. Â Do Â you Â know Â someone Â in Â our Â community Â who Â could Â use Â a Â little Â extra Â help Â preparing Â meals? Â Maybe Â itâ€™s Â a Â brand-new Â mom Â w ith Â a Â little Â baby Â or Â a Â family Â who Â spends Â a Â lot Â of Â extra Â time Â dealing Â with Â health Â problems. Â Ask Â each Â member Â of Â your Â meal Â exchange Â to Â bring Â one Â additional Â meal Â and Â bless Â that Â family Â with Â the Â gift Â of Â multiple Â dinners Â to Â be Â used Â when Â they Â most Â need Â it. Â
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Make Â It Heat Â oven Â to Â 350Â°F. Â Combine Â chicken, Â artichokes, Â 1 Â cup Â Â mozzarella, Â parmesan Â and Â tomatoes. Â Beat Â cream Â cheese, Â milk Â and Â garlic Â powder Â w ith Â mixer Â until Â well Â blended; Â stir Â in Â 2 Â Tbsp. Â basil. Â M ix Â half Â w ith Â the Â chicken Â mixture. Spread Â half Â the Â remaining Â cream Â cheese Â mixture Â onto Â bottom Â of Â 13x9-inch Â baking Â dish; Â cover Â w ith Â 3 Â noodles Â and Â 1/3 Â of Â the Â chicken Â mixture. Â Repeat Â layers Â of Â noodles Â and Â chicken Â mixture Â twice. Â Top Â w ith Â remaining Â noodles, Â cream Â cheese Â mixture Â and Â mozzarella; Â cover. Bake Â 25 Â min. Â or Â until Â heated Â through. Â Sprinkle Â w ith Â remaining Â basil. Â Let Â stand Â 5 Â min. Â before Â cutting Â to Â serve.
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Gloria Russell Children’s Ministry… IKWUU]VQ\aZM[W]ZKMNWZKPQTLZMV he mission of Gloria Russell’s Children’s Ministry, ITWKITVWVXZWÅ\WZOIVQbI\QWVQ[\WQV[\QTTKPIZIK\MZ QV\MOZQ\aIVLKWVÅLMVKMJa\MIKPQVO\PM?WZL of God on a child’s level. Gloria Russell is a veteran of child evangelism with over 35 years of experience. Her love is evident when you hear her speak and children are drawn to her as she teaches. Statistics are staggering in that 2 out of 3 children, in our own community, have never heard the name of Jesus or about his love for them. The ministry is associated with Child Evangelism Fellowship (CEF), a national organization whose purpose is to teach the Bible to children and encourage children’s involvement in local Christian churches.
Bible lesson and work in a message to receive Christ. We started our Circle Clubs in public school a few years ago. In 2001, the Supreme Court voted to allow faith-based organization to have equal access to public school settings. Our clubs are active now in Lufkin, Nacogdoches, Diboll, Timpson and Woodville. Elaine Cameron, a new Circle Club Leader said, “I am in awe of how the children give their undivided attention to the story I am sharing for twenty minutes. It seems they pay attention to every word and are very eager to hear stories from God’s Word.”
We have a group of youth called “Homeland Teen Missions” who teach at our camps and do programs for local churches when requested. Special training is available for them to Gloria had a unique experience when she began her ministry. learn how to develop skills to become future church leaders She said, “One day, after moving back to Lufkin, I was in their local churches, as well as help us in teaching younger sitting under the hair dryer at the beauty shop and I read children in our mission. a scripture in a magazine that said, “Walk worthy of the vocation to which you are called.” Immediately, I started Our future success depends on our community helping us crying and feeling overwhelmed, understanding that God spread the message of Christ. We have purchased a campsite was speaking to me. I closed my eyes and prayed that I location in Colmesneil, Texas where we live on site. We now never again wanted to say no to what God wanted me to do Saturday camps that we call Victory Camp. Volunteers do. I got home, my face red from crying, and shared what are needed in many areas, and we provide quality training, had happened with my husband, Clifford. Within a few materials, background checks, and insurance. Our camps days, I received an invitation to attend a four month long, provide a beginning foundation of faith for these children CEF school. I thought that it would be impossible for me who might never receive it anywhere else; we are planting to go, but my husband encouraged me. He reminded me seeds for the future. that I was teaching a few children, but challenged me to think of how many more children I could reach if I We welcome groups or individuals to tour our facility. If attended this school.” From that time on, Clifford and I interested call: (936) 634-2582, Website: www.changinggenhave been partners in the ministry. Clifford’s role now is erations.com, Email: Gloria at firstname.lastname@example.org, maintaining the camp and property, coordinating events, Mailing Address: Children’s Ministry, 2472 FM 1745N, Colmesneil, Texas 75938. sound system, and our general manager.” Currently, our program includes leader training, youth training, Circle Clubs and Victory Camp. Using CEF current training materials, we will prepare your church volunteers to understand how to reach children, teach a
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LYNN HOPPER ynn Hopper is one those people in our community that makes Angelina County such a great place to live.
One very special program that means a lot to Lynn is the Family House. The special needs that many of the residents have don’t always allow for them to travel far. Their needs might require their family to have special access or sleeping quarters just for them to visit. Lynn says, “That is the beauty of the Family House graciously sponsored by Brookshire Brothers. Thanks to the Family House, that close family unit Over and over again, when doesn’t suffer. It promotes that family connection while making an individual, a family, or it feasible and manageable for families.” anyone for that matter is struck with tragedy in our One very time intensive program Lynn oversees is “Santa’s county, or if someone is Workshop.” This is a mail solicitation program requesting fundraising, we see Angelina +PZQ[\UI[OQN\[IVLN]TÅTTQVO\PMVMML[WN \PMQZZM[QLMV\[ County at its best. “I think Hopper says, “We have never had a year our needs haven’t if you talk to all the non- been met.” XZWÅ\ WZOIVQbI\QWV[ \PMa would say the same thing; time and time again, our needs are Lynn Hopper goes into work every day to do her job, and because she does, she makes our community a brighter place met,” says Hopper. for so many! Lynn oversees the community relations for the State Supported Living Center where she interacts with her residents and the community. Her main role is to link the two together. The way they do that is through three main events during the year, <PM)VOMTQVI+W]V\a*MVMÅ\:WLMWIVL\PM:WLMW0MZW Santa’s Workshop, and the Sunshine Golf Tournament.
Lynn has been at the State Supported Living Center since 1999. This will be the 9th year for the Lufkin Lion’s Club to have a rodeo hero. Lynn says, “Working with the Rodeo Hero has been a fun project to be a part of.” She remembers back before there was a rodeo hero. She explains, “As far back as our records show in 1994, the Lion’s club has always given our residents seats to enjoy the rodeo. It was always something they looked forward to and thoroughly enjoyed. I think enough of the members of the Lion’s Club recognized that and that’s when they came up with the idea of the Rodeo Hero.” Lynn describes her every day job as “opportunities meeting opportunities.” It is what keeps her motivated and excited to love her job after 14 years. She says, “People will come to us and want to put a program together for W]Z ZM[QLMV\[ WZ N]TÅTT a need for a resident, and I am the lucky one who gets to make that happen.”
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JESSICA SKIPPER essica Skipper is a senior at Diboll High School and this year’s Rodeo Queen. She has set many goals for her future, and her strong-willed personality will push her to achieve them all. Her drive and passion comes with endless hours of hard work, but Jessica is used to that. Her story of determination began at a very young age.
Jessica has always loved school. She lived in Houston with her mom and brother until she was in the third grade, and their lives changed forever. Her mom underwent a life-threatening back surgery to remove a blood clot that covered the entire length of her spine. Doctors had to scrape the blood off of each individual nerve, and each of those nerves was permanently damaged. To this day, her mom is paralyzed in the middle section of her body and lives with constant XIQV\PI\SMMX[PMZÅOP\QVOMIKPUWUMV\)OIQV[\ITT odds, her mother pushed herself to walk again. After surgery, Jessica moved with her mom and brother to Diboll so that her grandmother could help take care of her mom and provide for the family. Jessica enrolled in Diboll school and has been excelling in the classroom ever since. Jessica explains, “I have always liked school, but I have to work really hard to make the grade.” When she _I[INZM[PUIVIVL\PMÅZ[\\ZIV[KZQX\[_MZMZMTMI[ML [PM_I[ZXZQ[ML\WÅVLW]\[PM_I[ZIVSMLQV\PM class. She recalls, “I didn’t ever think I was good enough \WJMJ]\_PMV1[I_\PI\1KPITTMVOMLUa[MTN \W _WZSPIZLMZUISMJM\\MZOZILM[IVLÅOP\NWZV]UJMZ one!” Since her freshman year, she is in constant competition to keep that spot. She and her best friend OWJIKSIVLNWZ\PJM\_MMV\PMÅZ[\IVL[MKWVL[XW\[ QV\PMZIVSQVOJ]\[PMPI[XTIV[\WPWTLWV\W\PI\ until graduation. Even though Jessica spends hours studying and XZMXIZQVONWZKTI[[[PMÅVL[\QUM\WJMQV^WT^MLQV high school life. If her high school resume is any indication of her future, then Jessica will be a citizen who is determined to give back. For the past two years, she has served as the Drum Major for the Diboll High School Band. She says, “I have enjoyed learning to be a good leader and also learning how to follow.” She is also very active in many facets of 28THE JOURNEY APR2013
FFA. She is a member of the poultry judging team IVLQ[K]ZZMV\Ta\PMR]LOM;PMPI[IT[W[MZ^ML her community as a Drug-Free All Star and looks forward to continuing community service projects in college. After graduation, Jessica is committed to attend school at Texas A&M University where she plans to attain a Bachelor’s degree in biomedical science. She has visited College Station and the A&M campus several times for various FFA competitions. She says, “I fell in love with the town; the people were so friendly.” After graduating from Texas A&M, she plans to attend medical school. Because of her mom’s surgery and the constant doctor’s appointments and nurse visits, she became very interested in medicine at a very young age. She remembers, “I always liked to watch the health channel.” She is excited to see where this road will lead her. Jessica is very quick to point out that she would have no hope of being where she is today without the support of her mom, brother and grandmother. She says,” My mom never gave up and conquered all of the trials and tribulations that got in her way. She tells me often that I am the driving force behind her and that I give her the reason to keep pushing through. What she doesn’t realize is that she is that same driving force behind me. I have watched her struggle years and years just to get out of bed in the morning and keep going for my sake. I made a promise to myself in middle school that I would never let her down and that I would give my all to whatever I decided to pursue. She has impacted my life in the best way possible and given me everything I need to succeed in life.” Her brother, Jonathan Walsh, still lives close, and although he is grown and gone from the home, he attends all of her competitive events and is extremely supportive WN PMZ;PM[Ia[¹5aJZW\PMZQ[TQSMINI\PMZÅO]ZM to me.” Her grandmother has given so much to her family. She says, “My grandmother has lived with us nearly my whole life and taken care of me, my mom and brother.” The future is very bright for Jessica Skipper. She has high expectations for her college experience, but no one doubts she will meet them all. She laughs, “I’m strong-willed. When I put my mind to something, you can’t stop me!”
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A Bride’s Bloomin’ Bulbs <PQ[Q[\WUa.I\PMZ¼[OTWZa\PI\aW]JMIZU]KPNZ]Q\2WPV" will never forget the day our little family of three spent an unseasonably warm winter afternoon digging small holes in the muddy mess in the front ÆW_MZJML[WN W]ZVM_TaKWV[\Z]K\ML suburban tract home. A toddling Mycah even helped by dropping bulbs, one at a time, into the designated place, pointed out by her well-intentioned, but ill-informed mother.
March came in like a lion and April showers arrived as expected. By May, many of the neighbors already enjoyed many weeks of colorful blooms. We had nothing. Sorely disappointed, I wondered if I bought dud bulbs or if we had been hasty in planting them without reading the instructions. My brilliance wasted, Chris and 1X]ZKPI[MLINM_[PZ]J[IVLIÆW_MZQVO\ZMMWZ\_WVW\MVW]OP to accomplish the colorful scene in my mind’s eye for the space, it would be better than nothing. In the middle of summer, I noticed a tender plant beginning to poke through the mud and mulch. I spotted it as I knelt, pulling [\ZIaOZI[[NZWU\PMNZWV\ÆW_MZJML[/QLLa1KZI_TMLKTW[MZ\W inspect the new arrival. I called Mycah over to admire it and reminded her of the afternoon we spent tossing crusty bulbs into PWTM[<PQ[_I[ÅVITTaWVMWN \PMJ]TJ[OZW_QVO ?MLMKQLML immediately to water it gently.
house together, I pointed out the plant I so carefully nurtured. I loved how it welcomed our special guest, beckoning us to the front door. Mom inspected it for a moment, even taking its leaves into PMZÅVOMZ[1VIUWUMV\[PMTWWSMLZQOP\I\UMIVL[XWSM\PM truth in love. ¹7PPWVMa°\PI\¼[VW\IJ]TJÆW_MZAW]¼^MJMMV\MVLQVOI_MML º “What? No!” I refused to accept her verdict. She wasted not a single second. Kneeling down on one knee over my miracle plant, she tugged on it at the base. “Yes, Angie. This is a spindly, no good weed. And it’s a tough booger.” She continued to rock the base of it back and forth as her bent body pushed and X]TTML1TWWSMLWVQVPWZZWZI[ÅVITTa\PM\PQKS[\ITSITWVO_Q\P a mature root system, tore out of the dirt. “There!” she said out of breath, holding the poor thing like a dead [VISM;MMQVOUaPWZZQÅMLM`XZM[[QWV[PM[XWSMQVIKWUNWZ\QVO tone to cover her chuckles, “Awww, don’t worry. You just didn’t know any better.” Hebrews 6:7-8 says, “Land that drinks in the rain often falling on it and that produces a crop useful to those for whom it is farmed receives the blessing of God. But land that produces thorns and thistles is worthless and is in danger of being cursed. In the end it will be burned.”
This truth in Scripture was certainly true of the state of my heart at the time. Living blissfully unaware of my impending (and perIn just a matter of a few weeks, the plant stood almost as tall as sonal) great and dreadful day of the Lord, I tended weeds where three-year-old Mycah, and the stalk expanded to a couple inches in He intended much fruit. Maturing from a child of God to a bride diameter. Most of the bulbs were a bust, but this one miraculously of Christ isn’t an easy process. We want the abundant fruitful life grew. Mycah and I tried to predict what type and color the bloom the Bible says is found in Jesus. But often we don’t take the time to might be. To save my life, I couldn’t recall what kind of bulbs we ZMIL0Q[?WZL\WSVW_I_MMLNZWUNZ]Q\1N _MÅVLOZW_\PQVW]Z bought, and the labels were long since gone in the trash. The element lives apart from Him, it may look like fruit, but in reality, it isn’t. When we don’t know any better, it is easy to nurture something of surprise made it all the more exciting. that looks like life to us. All the while, it is nothing more than a In a weekly phone conversation with my mom, I told her about VWOWWL_MML\WJMJ]ZVMLQV\PMÅZM1N _MIZMIN\MZIUI\]ZM the one miracle bulb that survived my gardening ignorance. She relationship with Jesus, we might have to learn some hard lessons--even is an avid lover of nature and always has a beautiful display of letting go of the very things that look like life in order to live the KIZMN]TTa\MVLMLXTIV\[IVLÆW_MZ[IZW]VLPMZ7STIPWUINIZU- abundant, real life as His bride. house. I described its appearance to her over the phone, thinking she might be able to tell me what type of plant we had. She couldn’t “Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that think of what it could be, but she was coming to visit soon. She you may love the LORD your God, listen to His voice, and hold fast to Him. For the LORD is your life…” (from Deut. 30:19-20) would look at it and identify it then. I will never forget as long as I live and breathe. On the day of her -`KMZX\MLNZWU;WUM\PQVO)J]VLIV\"/ZW_QVONZWUIKPQTLWN /WL\W\PMJZQLM visit, she got out of her car and hugged my neck in the front yard. WN +PZQ[\Ja)VOQM6QKPWT[.WZUWZMQVNWZUI\QWV^Q[Q\___[WUM\PQVOIJ]V We exchanged greetings and chatted. As we walked toward the LIV\UQVQ[\ZQM[WZO
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Where’s the G auge on Your L ove Tank? verything in our sphere of life centers on “love.” People will do the craziest things in the name of “love.” They will climb high mountains, cross \ZMIKPMZW][[MI[\ISMIJ]TTM\[\IZ\IÅOP\IVL even die on a cross! We use the word “love” to describe how we feel about our parents, our spouse, our children, our peers, our friends, or our God. We also use the word “love” to describe the way we feel about our favorite dog, a piece of pie, or a new car. It is somewhat confusing \WLMÅVM\PM_WZLTW^M_PMVQ\Q[ML\WKWUXIZM\PM_Ia we feel about our spouse as well as a piece of chocolate pie.
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What do you complain about most often? When you say to your spouse, “I don’t think you would ever touch me if I did not initiate it,” you are revealing that Physical Touch is your love language. When your spouse goes on a business trip and you say, “You didn’t bring me anything?” you are indicating that Receiving Gifts is your language. The statement, “We don’t ever spend time together,” indicates the love language of Quality Time. Your complaints reveal your inner desires. 1N aW]PI^MLQNÅK]T\aZMUMUJMZQVO_PI\aW]KWUXTIQVIJW]\ most often, ask your spouse. They will know.) What do you request of your spouse most often? If you are saying, “Will you give me a back rub?” you are asking for Physical Touch. “Do you think we could get a weekend away this month?” is a request for Quality Time. “Would it be possible for you to mow the grass this afternoon?” expresses your desire for Acts of Service. (Page 173-174) <WJMOQVÅTTQVOW]Z[XW][M¼[TW^M\IVS_MU][\[PW_TW^MQV IUMIVQVON]T_Ia1\Q[VI\]ZITNWZUM\W_IV\\WÅTTUa husband’s love tank by showing love to him in the way that I want love shown to me, but that is my language of love, not my husband’s. To speak his language of love, I have to know his language. Each of you needs to ask yourself the questions above and then share what you understand to be your love language. When you begin to speak each other’s TW^MTIVO]IOMaW]Z\IVS[_QTTJMOQV\WÅTT]XAW]_QTTJM IJTM \W [M\\TM KWVÆQK\ MI[QMZ IVL IT[W VW\ JM I[ MI[QTa offended or irritated by each other’s words and behavior.
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I’ve Been to This Rodeo Before. don’t have a lot of experiences with rodeos. I lived in Nashville for sixteen years and never attended one rodeo. (Do you “attend” a rodeo? It’s not like it’s a baby shower.) I’ve lived in Lufkin for three years, and I’ve been to three. Which means this town puts a lot of emphasis on all the rodeoing. (“Rodeoing.” Is that a word? Is it a verb?)
of stairs. Rodeoers have little patience with crippled people who get in their sight-line of dirt bike riders. I’m pretty sure someone threw a dill pickle at me. Later in the evening a clown made his way into our s ection. I’m afraid of clowns and spent the rest of the evening looking at my feet. He obviously smelled my fear. After refusing to dance with him for the umpteenth time, I was mocked by my section. I’m telling you, they see For the last three years I have tried to bargain, beg, me coming. plead and g amble my way out of attending the rodeo, but my family won’t hear of it and drags me kicking The second year I went my daughter cried until we and screaming anyway. It’s nothing personal. Rodeos bought her a light-up cowgirl hat. It cost more than just treat different people differently. Like for some my college education. By the end of the evening she people, rodeos treat them good; they go, they have had eaten so much junk she threw up in it on the w ay a good time, they come home, jump in bed and get home. I made her keep it out of principle. some shut-eye. The third year I went my children had outgrown their Rodeos treat me b ad. “cowboy clothes,” so before I even drove on to the parking lot I had spent a small fortune on boots, h ats Real. B ad. and shirts with snaps. I spilt a Coke in my lap, ruined a perfectly good pedicure when an eight year old’s b oot Rodeos see me coming all the way from the parking crushed my foot, and sat beside a man who “ brought lot. T he minute I step out of my vehicle, rodeo clowns, his home-made beef jerky.” cowboys, bulls, b arrel racers and vendors all send out some kind of signal. “She’s here! She’s wearing sandals! Don’t get me wrong. I’m g lad the She just got a pedicure! It’s on!” rodeo comes. I’m g lad clowns get to dance and muttons get busted. I will hear other people talking, “We went to the rodeo And just like everyone else, I buy last night, and it was perfect. T he weather was a breezy 100 tickets to win a truck - even 72 degrees. My child got chosen to go mutton-busting. though I’ve never won a thing in We were the 1 000th c ustomer and got a f ree thing of my life. But this year I’m doing nachos. We sat with two other families we know and things differently. I’m dressing the had the best time!” And I just want to cry. Seriously? kids, I’m signing them up to ride Because the last time I went it was 114 degrees and donkeys or whatever it is, I’m the only place the mosquitoes could get cool was inside buckling them in to the car and my shirt sleeves. My two children sat beside me and I’m going back inside. This year cried for two solid hours that they didn’t get chosen daddy is taking them! Because to go mutton-busting (And no. I didn’t sign them up, this momma can make her own because I don’t know what it is and it sounds perverted). nachos and she already lives I made my family of four split one nacho order, a large with a bunch of clowns. Coke and a cotton candy because all told the total was $573. And I do not ever, under any condition, see one Yee-haw. person I know; which makes me certain that everyone knows something I don’t.
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SPRING Â 2013 Â TRENDS
Spring Â is Â here Â and Â the Â new Â Spring Â Trends Â are Â in Â full Â bloom. Â The Â new Â gorgeous Â Spring Â 2013 Â fashion Â trends Â are Â fresh, Â feminine Â and Â will Â bring Â liveliness Â to Â any Â wardrobe. Black Â & Â White: Â The Â black Â and Â white Â combo Â
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is Â one Â of Â the Â hottest Â trends Â this Â spring Â season. Â Â This Â color Â combo Â has Â been Â around Â for Â generations. Â Â Black Â & Â white Â is Â versatile, Â classy, Â timeless, Â ]VQ^MZ[ITTaĂ†I\\MZQVOIVLMI[a\W_MIZ5WZM than Â likely Â this Â trend Â is Â already Â in Â your Â closet Â without Â even Â purchasing Â any Â new Â pieces. Â The Â easiest Â way Â to Â wear Â this Â combo Â is Â to Â use Â the Â black Â and Â white Â wardrobe Â staples Â you Â already Â own. Â Pair Â a Â white Â top Â (bonus Â if Â itâ€™s Â striped) Â with Â a Â black Â pencil Â skirt Â or Â accessorize Â a Â white Â dress Â with Â black Â pumps. Â
Pastels: Â I Â have Â always Â loved Â the Â femininity Â
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of Â pastels Â and Â how Â they Â look Â so Â springy. Â This Â spring, Â look Â for Â soft Â green Â (mint), Â lavender, Â pink, Â yellow, Â coral, Â peach, Â and Â light Â turquoise. Â To Â keep Â this Â trend Â from Â looking Â too Â juvenile, Â pair Â pastels Â with Â naturals Â like Â white Â pants. Â Pastels Â arenâ€™t Â for Â everyone, Â but Â a Â little Â color Â never Â hurts, Â and Â there Â are Â small Â ways Â you Â can Â make Â this Â trend Â work Â for Â you. Â Try Â adding Â a Â pastel Â stateUMV\VMKSTIKMIVLMIZZQVO[\WaW]ZW]\Ă…\
Dots: Â Polka Â dots Â are Â back Â in Â a Â big Â way Â and Â are Â a Â great Â print Â for Â spring. Â As Â with Â all Â classic Â prints, Â polka Â dots Â have Â been Â around Â for Â quite Â some Â time Â and Â are Â so Â sophisticated. Â There Â are Â so Â many Â ways Â you Â can Â incorporate Â polka Â dots Â QV\WaW]ZLIQTaW]\Ă…\[<PMUW[\JI[QKIVL simple Â way Â of Â adding Â the Â polka Â dot Â print Â trend Â QV\WaW]ZW]\Ă…\Q[_Q\PaW]Z\WX[\ILLI polka Â dot Â sweater, Â blouse, Â shirt, Â or Â tank Â top Â with Â a Â pair Â of Â skinny Â jeans. Â Florals: Â <PQ[[MI[WVÂź[Ă†WZIT[KWUMQV[WN\
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pastel Â colors Â and Â vibrant Â hues. Â F lowers Â radiate Â femininity Â and Â liveliness, Â and Â they Â look Â so Â pretty. Â )Ă†WZIT\WXTWWS[JMI]\QN]T_Q\P[WTQLKWTWZ JW\\WU[1N \PMĂ†WZITXI\\MZVQ[UWZMWV\PM bright Â side, Â pair Â the Â top Â with Â darker Â pants, Â jeans Â WZI[SQZ\1N aW]IZMPM[Q\IV\\W\Za\PMĂ†WZIT \ZMVL[\IZ\JaXIQZQVOIĂ†WZITX]UXWZ[KIZN \W aW]ZW]\Ă…\
Bold Â Stripes: Â Stripes Â are Â a Â classic Â trend Â and Â
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are Â easy Â to Â pull Â off. Â Whether Â thin Â or Â thick, Â black Â or Â white, Â horizontal Â or Â vertical, Â stripes Â are Â here Â to Â stay. Â Pair Â stripes Â with Â solids Â or Â with Â IJZQOP\Ă†WZITXI\\MZV1N aW]ÂźZM]VKMZ\IQV about Â stripes, Â why Â not Â try Â this Â trend Â with Â a Â new Â bag Â or Â bracelets.
Jessica (Jess) is a 28-year old brunette born and raised in Lufkin. She is in love with fashion and wearing high heels, even though sheâ€™s 5â€™10â€™â€™. She graduated from Stephen F. Austin with a Fashion Merchandising degree. She and her husband live in Houston with their 2 dogs, Bella and Bentley. She is an assistant buyer for a department store in Houston, Texas. She and her sister-in-law, Jo, have their own fashion blog where they share their love of fashion on a budget.
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ocal business leaders and family teams are working with the March of Dimes to prevent pre-term birth and give more babies a healthy start in life.
This year, Mitchie Kinney has once again taken of the role as the March for Babies Chair. Kenney is also a proud March of Dimes 5Q[[QWV5WUSVW_QVOÅZ[\PIVL\PMRW]ZVMaWN PI^QVOIKPQTL_MMS[ early and weighing only 1lb and 14oz. Her commitment to the good health of moms and babies is personal and meaningful. March for Babies is the largest annual fundraising event for the March of Dimes, which will celebrate its 75th anniversary in 2013. More than 4 million babies are born in the United States each year, and the March of Dimes has helped each and every one of them through research, education, vaccines and breakthroughs. As March for Babies Chair, Kenney will play an integral role in raising I_IZMVM[[IVLN]VL[\WIL^IVKM\PM[KQMV\QÅKZM[MIZKPIVLML]KI\QWVIT programs at the core of the March of Dimes efforts to prevent preterm birth and birth defects. 3MVVMa [Ia[ ¹5a _WZS _Q\P \PM 5IZKP WN ,QUM[ Q[ I ZMIT PWVWZ · especially during the Foundation’s milestone 75th anniversary year. March for Babies gives everyone in our community the chance to work together for stronger, healthier babies and make a difference in the lives of millions of babies.” She continues, “I can’t think of a more important cause than healthy babies. As a community leader in education, I know that preventing preterm birth can help our bottom line by lowering health care costs.” Kenney explains, “Premature birth is the leading cause of newborn death. In Angelina County, one in eight babies is born premature, and that’s just not acceptable. It takes leaders in our community working together to ensure moms have healthy pregnancies.” Last year, the Nacogdoches March for Babies raised $55,000. East Texas residents can sign up today at marchforbabies.org and start a team with co-workers, family and friends. Last year, more than 500 people attended the event -- which will be held this year on April 27 at Pecan Park in Nacogdoches. If you would like to volunteer or get more information, please contact Mitchie Kenney @ 462-3168 or mitchie1125@ yahoo.com. For the latest resources and information, visit marchofdimes.com or nacersano.org. Find us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter. The March for Babies is sponsored locally by Eastex Glass and Mirror, Nacogdoches Dental and PineyWoods Pediatrics.
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The Woods family: Rusty, Cooper, Vicki and Rinley. Rinley’s Journey: Rinley Grace Wood was born, September 13, 2011, weighing 7 lbs. 5 oz. The Woods were told they would have their daughter back in 30 minutes. Minutes turned into hours and that’s when the trouble began. It was reported Rinley’s heart was not functioning properly. She was immediI\MTaIQZÆQOP\ML\W<@+PQTLZMV¼[0W[pital in Houston and admitted to a special cardiac ICU for infants. She was diagnosed with a rare congenital heart defect, Ebstein’s Abnomaly. Other complications set in. Her labored breathing caused her \WJ]Z[\IPWTMQVPMZZQOP\T]VO<PMÅZ[\ few days were touch and go. She is stable for now but will require an open heart surgery called the Cone procedure or may VMML IV IZ\QÅKQIT PMIZ\ ^IT^M \W KWZZMK\ \PMLMNMK\:QVTMa_I[ÅVITTa[\IJTMIVL released to go home. Today she is closely monitored by her wonderful pediatrician Amy Huggins and <@+PQTLZMV¼[0W[XQ\ITKIZLQWTWOQ[\<PM Woods try to live each day as normal as possible and thank God for the blessings of their two children.
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JESSICA WILLIAMS MOTHERSHED y own personal story of life trials and experiences surrounds struggling with being overweight, dealing with bullying because of my weight and overcoming it all through the mercy and g race of Jesus Christ. Looking from the outside in, you would see a young, happily married woman and successful hairstylist who seems to have it together, but there are major struggles who have made me the person I am today.
order to meet new potential clients, I took a part time job at a local restaurant as a waitress. I worked there only a few months, then quit as my planned had worked.
My business took off to a g reat start! While I was thinking I worked at the restaurant to grow my clientele, God had bigger plans for me being there. Working in that restaurant for those few short months had led me to someone who would forever change my life. He was new to town, had moved here for college and just so happens I have dealt with weight management for as far back as I can he needed a hairstylist. A month or so had passed after leaving remember. Being overweight and g rowing up in today’s society is the restaurant, and he contacted me in regards for a haircut. He not easy. I have always felt that I never measured up, and I just soon became a regular client. wanted to be normal. Growing up in a family like mine, with all of the love, support, guidance and attention I was given, it would Just two short years into my career, I took a big step and started take a lot to break a person. During my elementary school days, I working for myself at a local hair salon where I am still working attended my church’s private school. With the classrooms being a today. I have made some g reat friends there and we are like a large lower number of students, everyone pretty much got along. In family. A special friend I work with jokingly told me, “You come R]VQWZPQOP1\ZIV[NMZZMLQV\WX]JTQK[KPWWTIVL\PI\Q[_PMZM1ÅZ[\ to work here, and you will soon get married. Not to mention it will encountered bullying because of my weight. I was never really probably be one of your clients!” I was in no condition to fall in singled out, but with each hurtful word, a seed was planted in my love. I did not like myself; I still had all of the baggage weighing mind. I knew I could choose to ignore it or believe it, but the more me down emotionally and physically, literally. Another friend I these instances happened, the larger my seed grew. I lived a long worked with encouraged me to try Zumba. I made up my mind. I time believing lies of what others would say about me and not what was tired of living like I did and feeling the way I felt. I owed it to God says of me. My teenage years were spent doubting myself and myself to at least try Zumba! That began my weight loss journey. unhealthily worrying what others thought of me; this was the most Through it all, I began to look at myself differently and, most importantly, love myself. The number on the scale continuously painful and humiliating time in my life. went down, and I was able to shop at stores I once could not. I I waited anxiously for high school g raduation. During this time, I noticed people had changed their attitudes towards me when all wondered when it would all end. I went through numerous diets, along it was my attitude towards myself has changed. During this but never stuck to them. I would take diet pills and lose weight but time, I began dating that special client of mine and months later ÅVL Ua[MTN OIQVQVO Q\ JIKS XT][ UWZM ?PMV JIL \PQVO[ _W]TL he asked me to marry him! happen, I would look to food for comfort. I had a toxic relationship with food as I would feel better eating something verses dealing God sent Lance into my life at just the right time. Lance has taught with a problem. It was a vicious cycle. I did not love nor respect me to love myself, he has been the friend I have needed and has myself, so why should others? I treated every relationship in my supported and loved me just the same along the way. I have found peace with my past and have learned where to put my security. I life as people were against me. cannot change my past. I thank God for my past because it has led I g raduated cosmetology school and began working as a hairstylist. me to every part of me that I am today! Our own past experiences Hair just so happened to be something I was g reat at and I found and hurts are for our own growth. In life I believe everything we great satisfaction with making others feel good about themselves. go through is to help build someone else. I am thankful that God 1 _I[V¼\ KWUXTM\MTa KWVÅLMV\ IVL Ua KTQMV\MTM _I[ [UITT [W QV has allowed me to share my story in hoping it will help someone.
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[PWXXQVOKKM[[N]TTa_Q\PaW]ZKPQTLZMV â€™m Â not Â a Â big Â shopper. Â I Â donâ€™t Â get Â excited Â shopping Â for Â clothes Â or Â shoes Â or Â food. Â I Â just Â donâ€™t Â like Â to Â shop. Â Period. Â But Â since Â we Â enjoy Â eating Â at Â home, Â we Â occasionally Â have Â to Â shop Â for Â groceries. And Â hereâ€™s Â a Â secret: Â When Â I Â go Â grocery Â shopping, Â I Â usually Â enjoy Â bringing Â my Â 3 Â kids. Â Usually. Â We Â make Â one Â major Â grocery Â run Â each Â week Â that Â takes Â about Â an Â hour Â in Â the Â store. Â When Â our Â kids Â were Â about Â 2 Â years Â old, Â we Â began Â letting Â our Â kids Â walk Â (out Â WN \PMKIZ\_Q\P][WVOZWKMZa\ZQX[)\Ă…Z[\Q\_I[W]\WN VMKM[[Q\a [QVKMJa\PM\QUMW]ZĂ…Z[\JWZV_I[\PM[MKWVLKPQTL_I[[Q\\QVOIJW]\ well Â enough Â to Â ride Â in Â the Â front Â seat Â of Â the Â cart. Â However, Â we Â soon Â realized Â we Â enjoyed Â it. Â The Â kids Â have Â more Â fun Â getting Â to Â explore Â instead Â of Â being Â cooped Â up Â in Â the Â cart.
Gasp! Â A Â 2 Â year Â old Â helping Â you Â shop Â for Â groceries? Â Trying Â to Â buy Â food Â with Â three Â young Â children Â swarming Â at Â your Â feet? Â Never! Â But Â it Â can Â be Â done. First Â of Â all, Â prepare. Â I Â NEVER Â walk Â in Â without Â a Â complete Â grocery Â list. Â I Â canâ€™t Â remember Â what Â I Â need Â if Â Iâ€™m Â without Â the Â kids, Â so Â it Â sure Â _WVÂź\PIXXMV_PMV1PI^MPQOPXQ\KPML_WZL[Ă†aQVOI\UMNZWUM^MZa direction. Â If Â the Â kids Â are Â old Â enough Â to Â read, Â give Â them Â a Â small Â list Â of Â their Â own Â with Â a Â pen Â so Â they Â can Â check Â off Â what Â they Â put Â in Â the Â basket. Â If Â theyâ€™re Â not, Â tell Â them Â about Â how Â many Â items Â you Â expect Â to Â buy Â and Â they Â can Â try Â to Â count Â it. Set Â the Â expectations Â before Â you Â arrive Â at Â the Â store, Â and Â BEFORE Â you Â pull Â into Â the Â parking Â lot. Â This Â goes Â for Â anytime Â you Â take Â them Â out Â in Â public. Â Once Â you Â get Â to Â the Â parking Â lot, Â the Â excitement Â (or Â grumbling) Â sets Â in Â and Â they Â wonâ€™t Â hear Â a Â word Â youâ€™re Â saying. Â Iâ€™ve Â found Â it Â helps Â to Â have Â the Â kids Â share Â what Â they Â think Â are Â good Â â€œrulesâ€? Â for Â where Â weâ€™re Â going. Â And Â some Â are Â quite Â amusing. Â I Â make Â sure Â ones Â like, Â â€œLook Â with Â your Â eyes, Â not Â your Â hands,â€? Â â€œBe Â sure Â you Â can Â always Â see Â me,â€? Â and Â Âš;\IaWVaW]ZNMM\6WKZI_TQVOWV\PMLQZ\aĂ†WWZÂşIZMKW^MZML Getting Â out Â of Â the Â car Â at Â the Â store Â used Â to Â be Â one Â of Â the Â scariest Â things Â until Â I Â realized Â the Â parking Â lot Â already Â has Â these Â great Â yellow Â lines Â that Â children Â can Â easily Â see Â and Â stand Â on. Â All Â 3 Â of Â my Â children Â pile Â out Â of Â the Â van Â and Â wait Â for Â me Â on Â the Â yellow Â line. Â There Â are Â also Â some Â cool Â handprint Â magnets Â you Â can Â buy Â for Â your Â car Â so Â the Â kids Â have Â somewhere Â to Â put Â their Â hand Â while Â they Â wait Â for Â you Â to Â unload, Â but Â I Â personally Â donâ€™t Â need Â any Â more Â handprints Â on Â my Â car Â and Â the Â yellow Â lines Â are Â cheaper. Inside Â the Â store, Â stick Â to Â your Â list. Â I Â explain Â to Â the Â kids Â ahead Â of Â time Â that Â we Â are Â not Â going Â to Â go Â down Â any Â aisles Â in Â the Â toy Â section, Â and Â since Â Iâ€™ve Â always Â stuck Â to Â that, Â they Â donâ€™t Â ask Â again. Make Â them Â feel Â valued Â the Â whole Â time. Â When Â one Â of Â my Â children Â is Â making Â poor Â choices Â in Â the Â store, Â itâ€™s Â usually Â because Â heâ€™s Â bored, Â so Â I Â give Â him Â something Â to Â do. Â For Â my Â non-reader, Â Iâ€™ll Â point Â to Â the Â exact Â item Â I Â need Â and Â sheâ€™ll Â get Â it Â and Â put Â it Â in Â the Â basket. Â For Â the Â older Â kids, Â Iâ€™ll Â tell Â them Â what Â words Â to Â look Â for Â and Â they Â get Â to Â hunt Â for Â it.
What Â happens Â when Â they Â do Â misbehave? Â Because Â they Â will. Â Itâ€™s Â the Â same Â thing Â that Â happens Â at Â home Â when Â they Â disobey. Â I Â wonâ€™t Â leave Â the Â store Â right Â then, Â because Â thatâ€™s Â probably Â what Â they Â want. Â We Â are Â shopping Â for Â the Â family, Â and Â they Â are Â all Â expected Â to Â help Â by Â being Â respectful. Â If Â itâ€™s Â something Â minor Â like Â my Â son Â having Â trouble Â keeping Â hands Â off Â the Â groceries Â (or Â off Â his Â siblings),I Â have Â him Â hold Â onto Â the Â basket Â until Â I Â see Â heâ€™s Â regained Â control Â of Â himself, Â which Â means Â he Â walks Â with Â us Â and Â stops Â with Â us Â but Â doesnâ€™t Â quite Â get Â the Â freedom Â the Â other Â 2 Â get. Â If Â itâ€™s Â a Â more Â serious Â offense, Â I Â take Â the Â children Â to Â a Â restroom Â stall Â and Â correct Â the Â behavior Â as Â we Â would Â at Â home. Â I Â remember Â one Â time Â my Â \PMVaMIZWTL\PZM_IVITTW]\Ă…\WV\PMĂ†WWZQV?IT5IZ\0M_I[ TaQVOWV\PMĂ†WWZWVPQ[[\WUIKP_Q\PPQ[JIKSIZKPMLIVLPMILIVL legs Â high Â in Â the Â air Â and Â his Â voice Â grunting Â and Â screaming. Â I Â ignored Â the Â behavior Â till Â he Â stopped Â (boy Â were Â people Â staring Â by Â then!), Â then Â we Â went Â to Â the Â restroom Â to Â talk Â about Â it. Be Â familiar Â with Â Code Â Adam. Â Youâ€™ve Â probably Â seen Â the Â big Â blue Â stickers Â on Â the Â entrances Â to Â buildings. Â Code Â Adam Â is Â a Â â€œmissing Â childâ€? Â safety Â program Â in Â which Â employees Â are Â trained Â to Â follow Â 6 Â steps Â when Â a Â child Â is Â missing Â in Â a Â store. Â When Â youâ€™ve Â got Â a Â few Â small Â children Â tailing Â you Â in Â a Â busy Â store, Â itâ€™s Â possible Â for Â them Â to Â lose Â sight Â of Â you. Â I Â remember Â a Â scary Â day Â in Â Wal-Mart Â when Â my Â middle Â child Â followed Â a Â different Â cart Â out Â of Â the Â produce Â section. Â He Â was Â gone Â many Â minutes. Â I Â had Â enough Â time Â to Â tell Â a Â bakery Â worker, Â walk Â the Â entire Â grocery Â department Â twice, Â and Â go Â to Â the Â front Â Customer Â Service Â booth Â and Â back Â to Â produce Â before Â someone Â found Â him. Â When Â I Â explained Â what Â my Â son Â looked Â like Â to Â the Â worker Â at Â the Â front Â of Â the Â store, Â he Â said Â heâ€™d Â just Â keep Â an Â eye Â out. Â Only Â when Â I Â got Â back Â to Â the Â produce Â section Â where Â a Â friendly Â UW\PMZ_I[_I\KPQVOUaW\PMZKPQTLZMVLQL\PMaĂ…VLUa[WVQV\PM clothing Â department. Â The Â store Â should Â have Â immediately Â locked Â the Â exterior Â doors, Â and Â I Â shouldâ€™ve Â known Â to Â insist. Iâ€™m Â pretty Â sure Â my Â kids Â most Â look Â forward Â to Â playing Â with Â the Â small Â toys Â in Â the Â checkout Â lines. Theyâ€™ve Â been Â good, Â and Â theyâ€™ve Â done Â their Â jobs, Â so Â I Â usually Â give Â them Â a Â choice Â to Â either Â play Â with Â those Â little Â trinkets Â or Â go Â sit Â on Â the Â bench Â if Â thereâ€™s Â one Â nearby. Â By Â now Â in Â the Â checkout Â line Â weâ€™re Â all Â tired, Â so Â I Â usually Â pick Â up Â a Â small Â pack Â of Â gum. Â Thatâ€™s Â why Â my Â kids Â look Â happy Â when Â we Â leave Â the Â store. Your Â job Â doesnâ€™t Â end Â when Â you Â get Â into Â the Â car, Â and Â neither Â should Â theirs. Â Let Â the Â children Â know Â ahead Â of Â time Â that Â they Â need Â to Â help Â the Â family Â by Â unloading Â the Â grocery Â bags. Â As Â I Â pull Â the Â bags Â out Â of Â the Â car Â at Â home, Â I Â set Â the Â lighter Â ones Â to Â the Â side Â for Â the Â youngest Â child Â to Â bring Â in. Â She Â can Â make Â her Â own Â trips Â in Â and Â out Â and Â I Â donâ€™t Â have Â to Â wait Â on Â PMZMIKP\QUM)VLĂ…VITTa\PIVS\PMU 1_WZSNWZXZIQ[MIVLUaSQL[ do, Â too. Â If Â they Â get Â a Â special Â hug Â and Â recognition Â in Â front Â of Â Dad Â for Â being Â good Â in Â the Â store, Â theyâ€™ll Â do Â it Â again Â and Â again. Happy Â shopping! Â
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WHY I LOVE BEING A MOM
MELANIE RUSHING-SALDAÑA or stirred the brownies with their toes. My boys bring out the best in me. They bring out the best in us, which brings me to a very important point. I am so fortunate to have a husband that goes above and beyond to also be a wonderful dad. I am so thankful to him and to Miss Maggie Carlin, Sladen and Sloan’s “other mom” while I am at work. I could not do my Monday through Wednesday gig if it was not for her. And as far as being a good mom is concerned, I had a wonderful role Jerry and I were very happy as newlyweds and young profes- UWLMTUa[MTN1IU_PW1IU\WLIaJMKI][MWN \PM[IKZQÅKM[ sionals in Lufkin. We could and would leave in a moment’s my mom (and dad) made for me. VW\QKM\WPWXIÆQOP\\WUMM\]X_Q\PNZQMVL[?M_W]TL[TMMX until noon on Saturday mornings and still may never leave the Thanks to God for a fascinating husband, two wonderful kids, house. Sometimes the hardest decision that we had to make and this opportunity to be called “mommy!” There is no place was where we would go for dinner. Little did we know how that I would rather be right now than where I am. Like I said much our lives would change (for the better) with the birth of earlier, I love my boys—all three of them. Sladen in January 2009. hen I married my husband, Jerry, eight years ago, we both knew that we wanted children. We didn’t really know when, but he knew he wanted four and me, well, two. However, after several visits and dinners with my best friend who has three kids, he quickly decided that two wasn’t such a bad number after all.
Wow! The love that I had for that baby is indescribable. How can someone love someone so much in such a short amount WN \QUM';]ZM1_I[VMZ^W][IVLY]M[\QWV[LLMVTaÆWWLML my mind: Could I do it? Could I be a good mom and still keep my work schedule of four days per week? Could I show my baby just how much I loved him after 5:30 during the week and on the weekends? Would I be a good wife and mother? )LUQ\\MLTa\PMÅZ[\NM_UWV\P[_MZMZW]OP 1_I[[KIZMLWN M^MZa\PQVO 1TQSMUW[\ÅZ[\\QUMUWU[TIQLI_ISMI\VQOP\ listening to my baby breathe. I had to hold him just right, feed him as close to a schedule as I could, and let him sleep in his own bed (beside me) without any blankets just as Dr. Fidone had asked me to do. Doing all of this while hardly closing my eyes throughout the day or night. (Hey, nobody ever told me about all of that!) This is someone who thrived on 10 hours of sleep each night. I was slightly overwhelmed to say the least. )[1ZMÆMK\WV\PQ[\QUM1ZMITQbM\PI\1_W]TLVW\PI^MUILM it without a few of my close friends, family, and coworkers. When Sloan came in October 2011, things were so much more natural for me. Now, that is something that I do recall hearing: “Things are so much easier with the second one”. I suppose with a newborn and a 2 year old, I was too tired to lay awake at night and listen to every breath sound. And so what if the XIKQÅMZPQ\\PMÆWWZ1_W]TL_QXMQ\WNN WVUa\[PQZ\IVLUW^M on. And, hey, if Sloan actually tee-teed twice in his diaper instead of once, he lived. I learned to “let go” a little, and I think that it allowed me to be a better mom to both of my children. (Oh, and no, I will never know just how easy that third “girl” would be!) I love every minute that I have with my boys. I look forward to the morning hugs and giggles, and I eagerly anticipate the afternoon kisses. I would not trade in my taste-testers in the kitchen for anything. Besides, the people that I am baking for never even know that my kids have double-dipped the beaters 50THE JOURNEY APR2013
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