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CONTENTS 5 From the Editor-in-Chief
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• We miss you and we want you back! pg3
7 From the desk of the Executive-Editor Substantial Man of the Issue 8 pg
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Mr. Roger Keyes Jr.
• On the Scene...pg11
12 Tying Fashion to Success
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Mr. Jamar Sampson, Owner/Lead Designer of QualiTies • MWBE Putting Our Words to Work...pg16
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Our Substantial Woman pg Mrs. Evelyne Del Billingslea
22 Mr. Jermaine McNair of NC Civil
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• "A Dream Deferred" Mr. Percevial Murphy...pg25
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A Voice for the Voiceless pg
An interview with Mrs. Deborah J. Monroe • Laying Their Solid Foundation...pg31
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Words from the Editor-in-Chief INSPIRED... I start this letter off as I do most with a heartfelt thank you. There would be no Substantial Magazine if we did not have readers and views like yourself, that enjoy reading about the successes of great people within our community. That same heartfelt thank you goes out to those featured in this issue and to those that have e-mailed me, called, texted and/or sent word through others that, they too have a substantial story to be told. Again I thank you because you are my inspiration. I assure you I’m not just saying that to be saying it. Take a moment and think about the word… Inspiration: something that makes someone want to do something or that gives someone an idea about what to do or create : a force or influence that inspires someone You all are my something that makes me want to continue to seek out stories, take photos, attend events, spend hours upon hours in front of my computer and on the phone; turn a 24 hour day into 27 just to ensure I have enough time to get whatever is needed done – done.
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This is why I thank you, not so much for what you have and/or have not done physically but simply because you have given value to Substantial Magazine. For me that is why you; our supporters, our features, our people are my inspiration to continue this very Substantial project. “We are substantial and so is our purpose.”
“For the Holy Spirit will teach you in that very hour what you ought to say.” Luke 12:12
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From the desk of the Executive-Editor photograph provided by Rene Thomas This brand of ours, Substantial Magazine, is really taking on a mind of its own! Since the re-launch of our new name and again building a brand; has really been a roller coaster ride! We have experienced plenty of ups and downs. But, it looks like we are finally turning the corner. In this edition, I’ve been fortunate to have my faith in building a successful business restored. There have been so many positive encounters with entrepreneurs, community leaders, or just all around positive influences that has provided a spark in me. While meeting with several of the persons featured in this edition there seemed to be a common topic of discussion when we spoke about our individual areas of business—cultural behaviors. The topic of how different cultures conduct business was very interesting. In the arena of publishing, to be a formidable opponent in the publication business we paid close attention to cultural difference in business. Up until this point the most I could probably say about cultural differences in business would be limited to where I prefer to get my hair cut, types of foods I like, or what clubs were “Jumping!” Now playing on a large field with a customer base which spans throughout the eastern shore; I realized the importance in noticing how different cultures do business. What I have learned is different cultures place different values on certain aspects of business. There are differences in the values cultures place on Valuing Time, Communication, or Business Norms. There is no way I or any one person can successfully balance all the differences when doing business with array of business associates. But, you can increase your awareness for knowing the differences exit. And that is a major step in the right direct on this playing field. I think there are some basics that can be applied to becoming successful in business such as being dressed appropriately for the occasion and arriving at a business meeting well-prepared. You will notice this issue we have really highlighted some “folks” that are excelling in their area and are breaking the stereotypes of minorities in business. They are well-prepared, well dressed, and even arrive on time! So help us share their success stories, patron their business, and begin to change the way bitness /biz·nis/ is done in our community. All of these stories are of people you can meet and support locally. Let’s see if the story goes beyond these pages. Showing your support is as simple as sending an email or calling to say congratulations on your success. I will be checking!!!!
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Substantial Man of the Issue Mr. Roger Keyes Jr. Age: 29 Education: BS Industrial Distribution & Logistics, MBA HR Management (2014) Hometown: Goldsboro, NC Marital Status: Single
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"Life's most persistent and urgent question is, what are you doing for others?" - Martin Luther King Jr.
SM: Tell Substantial who Roger Keyes Jr. is? Roger: Roger Keyes is a reliable, humble and funny guy. I am easy going, laid back and enjoy the simple things in life. Spending time with family and friends is very important to me, cultivating those relationships is a vital part of who I am. I am a son, brother, father and uncle as well as a proud member of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Incorporated. As the oldest of four, I make every effort to set a good example for my siblings to follow. My beliefs are that every man and woman should be afforded the basic necessities to live a normal life. SM: Tell us about a significant accomplishment? Roger: I began a career in mentoring with ReStart Behavioral Health and since then have mentored young troubled kids throughout the community. Mentoring has an impact not only on the child but on the family as a unit. The parents of a child I mentored continue to keep in contact, informing me of his progress. SM: You mentioned a current project you are working on can you share with our readers? Roger: Yes, I along with a few other partners have teamed up to create a behavioral healthcare program called Trinity Behavioral Healthcare. The core goal of our program is the promotion of independent living for persons with significant mental illness or substance abuse problems. Our practice strives to prevent unnecessary institutional placements. The objective is to provide individuals with the necessary
assistance to become productive citizens who are integrated into the community. Another project that I am apart of along with four other team members is The Silent Majority. This is a lifestyle company that provides marketing events for progressive individuals including events, concerts, and community service SM: Roger what's your take on success? Roger: In my opinion there is not one certain meaning of success; however I believe success can simply be defined as a triumph over any opposition, barrier or obstacle of life. SM: Tell our readers why you are substantial. Roger: Substantial is defined as making you feel full and satisfied. I gain the most satisfaction as a loving father to my daughter Amaya E. Keyes. She is a smart, beautiful and creative individual with a sweet spirit and a kind heart. I am also satisfied with the choice I made not to stress about, but overcome my struggles with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). New technologies are opening doors everyday allowing individuals to live a normal, active life. SM: Keep up with our Substantial Man of the Issue at: Facebook: Facebook.com/rogerkeyesjr Twitter: @IAMRogerKeyes Instagram: IAMROGERKEYES
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What to expect from Substantial Magazine Substantial Magazine strikes a balance between inspiration and information, traditional and digital, community and family. Through creative photography and the written word we celebrate the stories of the minority community. Substantial Magazine, the premiere minority magazine in Eastern NC, motivates and educates on the importance of living a SUBSTANTIAL lifestyle.
“We are substantial and so is our purpose.� We do amazing things on our jobs, in our communities and through our arts. Our accomplishments and body of work is extraordinary. Substantial Magazine is the tool by which we "toot our own horns." Our community is sophisticated, unique and bold in all that we do. For that we exist to tell your story. A wise man once said "If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way" that man was Dr. Martin Lurther King.
substance We want to share the future prosperity of the minority community through efforts such as increasing access to health care, job creation, revitalizing schools, and the development of underserved communities.
Not only do we want you to be substantial; we want you to dress the part. Find out about the latest fashion dos and donts. Look to Substantial magazine for fashion commentary, latest news about seasonal collections, and fashion tips/trends from our editors.
Look to this column to bring you the latest as it relates to financial advice and news. Substantial magazine will highlight raising entrepreneurs, successful business owners, and minority for and not for profits that are playing a substantial role in their commnities.
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From spoken word, to the latest in hip-hop news. Substantial magazine is teaming up with the best in the business to bring you a diverse reader experience as it relates to the arts. Here we will also showcase creative work of our readers and freelance photographers.
On the Scene
A few photos from events substantial magazine had the pleasure of attending.
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Tying
Fashion to
Success Mr. Jamar Sampson Owner/Lead Designer of QualiTies
This young man is dedicated and has a vision to change the lives of other young men around the nation. Jamar Sampson could very well be one of the most driven people you will ever meet. He views his failures as opportunities, and converts his doubts into motivation. Jamar: If someone doubts me success, I feel as if I just need to show them a little something more.
Jamar: To be completely honest, my mother first pitched the idea for the business after I asked her to sew a custom tie when I was in my senior year of high school. I did not take the gesture serious until a few months, many compliments, and a couple bowties later. As I started to become more interested in menswear and the idea of maturing into a wellrounded gentleman, I got to work on making the business a reality. The rest is history-in-the-making.
SM: Jamar is a 21 year old graduate of East Carolina University. He has a Bachelors of Science in Psychology and a minor in Business Administration. Jamar says he truly doesn't have a hometown. He grew up in Bamberg, Germany as a child and currently lives in Greenville, NC.
SM: How do the goals of your company align with the upward mobility of minority males in the communities you serve?
Jamar is the owner of QualiTies. A company with the main goal of empowering young people around the world to dress for success and feel good about what they are wearing. Jamar: With this in mind, we strive to create new fashionable ties/accessories for both unique style and professional purposes.� Our target market is high-school/college male students between the ages of 18-25. SM: Tell our readers how you came about the idea for Quali-Ties.
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Jamar: As you can see in our company objective, our business is the young man behind the tie (first and foremost). It is often the case where minority youth lack the mentorship/ guidance to learn about etiquette; needless to say men’s fashion. We believe that fashion is a language and we use this to communicate with the next generation. As the brand grows, we plan to do activities to reach our objective to mentor young men by partnering with non-profits to hold successful workshops, fundraising, and community events. SM: As with most new businesses, there are times when the journey to success seems overwhelming. What motivates you to keep pushing forward to make QualiTies the absolute best it can be?
In other words what keeps you focused on your mission? Jamar: I was actually just telling a colleague of mine that being “Mr. QualiTies’, ‘The Bow-tie guy’, ‘the guy with the tie-business’ is about 20% glitz and glamour and 80% HARD work/rigorous times. What keeps me going is the support from the various communities I’ve lived in. I grew up in Bamberg Germany from ’97-05’, lived in Fayetteville NC from 05’ to 10’, and moved to Greenville NC upon graduating in 2010 from High School. I say that to say that I have received numerous texts, phone calls, facebook messages, twitter mentions, etc. from each of these communities telling me that I’m doing a great job and that QualiTies is going somewhere. When you hear from your best friend in 7th grade who you haven’t seen in over 8 years tell you that they will catch a plane to your web-shop launch party, you know that you have true support and have to stay focused. SM: What does the future of QualiTies look like; where do you envision it will be in five to ten years? Jamar: In the next five to seven years, you should be able to walk into our first shop. There you will be greeted by our customer-service representative with a smile and hear something like “Hello welcome to QualiTies, my name is ______ and I’ll be assisting you today. What occasion are you shopping for?...and so on” That’s all I can tell you all for now. You’ll have to see the rest pan out. However in the near future, you should see us launching our visual website by the end of this year leading to an official web-shop launch sometime in 2014. SM: If you had unlimited resources how would you grow your company? Jamar: Ooh, not sure if I can tell you all of that. Never know who’s reading this awesome magazine (haha) but I will tell you that you would see headlines about a young CEO strategically revolutionize the market for men’s accessories. About 30 million neckties are sold per year. I’m willing to guess that only a small percentage of those are hand-sewn and custom made to the customer’s specifications. I believe that can change. “The suit makes the offer but the tie seals the deal”, You can quote me on that one (jokingly). SM: What makes Quali-Ties standout from other companies with the same objective? Jamar: Simply put: Our vision and objective. Our cause is bigger than our product and that’s why our company is substantial. I would be lying if I told you there are not many other companies that make handcrafted accessories. Our difference is the reason we put so much love, care, and detail in our products. We believe that positive self-image leads to a better future and we are going to our job to provide. Every Single Tie, Every Single Time. SM: What three adjectives best describe your company’s commitment to improve the appearance and confidence of your clients? Jamar: I really like this question. I would have to say: Determined, Considerate, Enthusiastic SM: Final question, what would you say is the most important lesson learned that helped you overcome self-doubt and embrace how substantial you are as a young entrepreneur? Jamar: Honestly, self-doubt never really came into the picture with QualiTies. In my personal life, that’s a different story. What I had to learn is that it’s all cohesive. Jamar Ivan Sampson the student, entrepreneur, mentee, mentor, son, etc. is a great individual and that I will be great in anything as long as I put God first and seek His guidance. With the help of others to uplift me during hard times, and acknowledge the milestones I’ve already met, I have no choice but to recognize myself as SUBSTANTIAL.
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Putting Our Words to Work…
As defined by the English dictionary, to be a minority is to be a part of a group that is the smaller part of a larger group. It is to be a number or amount that is less than the majority of a whole. We hear the term minority referenced in many facets of American culture from people to politics, but in most instances, to be a minority means to be fewer in number and lacking in power and influence. Yet, an alternative definition of minority is simply to be different - to have qualities and characteristics that are unlike the majority. These differences can lead to differential treatment. The experience of minorities reveals this treatment can be adverse. However, to be different – to be unique – also brings value. It can create an advantage that reaps rewards. Minority (i.e.: ethnic minority, disadvantaged, disabled, and women) owned firms live in this paradoxical box. These businesses live in an environment where they are at once fewer yet greater, disadvantaged yet advantaged. In the marketplace, minority firms, also known by the acronym “MWBE,” are fewer in number as compared to majority firms. On average, they are smaller in size, generate lower gross receipts, and have fewer employees. Nevertheless, despite their status, these firms produced $661 billion in gross receipts and employed 4.7 million people with an annual payroll of $115 billion in 2002. In fact, the growth of these firms outpaced the growth of majority owned firms in all categories. MWBE’s continue to be the engine of employment in emerging and minority communities – a key tool to the creation of wealth and opportunity in disadvantaged communities, which leads to gains for the entire economy.* How do they do it? Tenacity. Ingenuity. Hope. These are just a few of the ingredients that make MWBE firms some of the most resilient, robust firms in our community. Like most small business owners, they are determined to succeed. And, with the economic advantage gained from the success of MWBE firms, the City of Greenville and GUC MWBE Program strives to provide equal opportunity in government contracting to help them succeed. In the last issue, you learned a little about the Program in my interview with Substantial Magazine. As a joint venture between the City of Greenville and Greenville Utilities, we have a vested interest in not only providing opportunity but supporting the growth and development of these firms as they support our local economy. As our Program mantra states, we are about “Putting Our Words to Work.” We are not just about talking the talk but actually walking the walk. Our latest stride is teaming up with Substantial Magazine to bring you “Who’s Who in Business powered by MWBE.” Each quarter, we will highlight MWBE partners whose successes are extraordinary examples of what it means to be of considerable value or worth – to be Substantial. Have we piqued your interest? Great! Stay tuned for our first installment in the next issue of Substantial Magazine. Here’s to Putting Our Words to Work….
*Fairlie, Robert W. and Alicia Robb. “Disparities in Capital Access between Minority and Non-Minority Owned Businesses: The Troubling Reality of Capital Limitations Faced by MBEs.” US Department of Commerce. Minority Business Development Agency. January 2010.
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HAVE YOU HEARD ABOUT THE MINORITY BUSINESS ROUNDTABLE? The Minority Business Roundtable (MBR) is a professional association of minority and women-owned businesses (M/WBE’s) whose mission is to foster supportive networks for the education, opportunity, and empowerment of its members and larger community. Through networking, leveraging, and supporting M/WBE firms, we are building a foundation for wealth creation, economic advancement, and community engagement. MBR is affiliated with the City of Greenville, NC, and Greenville Chamber of Commerce. The Minority Business Roundtable Mission Fostering supportive networks for the education, opportunity and empowerment of minority business owners. Learn more about the Minority Business Roundtable at http://www.pgpconnection.net/MBRNC/ Email: minoritybusiness@mbrnc.org
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Substantial Woman of the Issue Mrs. Evelyne Del Billingslea Age: 36 Education: B.A. East Carolina University (ARRG!!) Hometown: Washington NC Marital Status: Married SM: Who is Evelyne Billingslea? She is constantly evolving, but basically she is a quirky little ball of sunshine who enjoys helping others reach their full potential. Evelyne is the owner of Billingslea Media Group. Which is an online business that provides media related coverage such as Copywriting, Marketing, PR, and Event Management. Their aim is to provide quality and affordable services for small businesses and nonprofits that typically don’t factor in very large marketing budgets. Evelyne: I started Billingslea Media Group out of my passion for helping others. Because of my volunteer work, I was always meeting people in different industries who needed help creating more visibility for their causes, products, and services. I realized that there was a myth that PR, Marketing, and strategic Copywriting were only for large corporations. Every business, regardless of the industry needs efficient marketing coverage for people to be fully aware of what they do. There are so many creative ways to achieve that nowadays, and I wanted to be able to provide those services to help their businesses grow. SM: Do you find it harder being a female minority business owner? Evelyne: Yes; It seems to be much harder to get your message across and be heard as a female minority business owner. I refuse to be cut-throat in business, and unfortunately some people take your stance on morality in business and think that it is a sign of weakness. In the end, my work and my motivation behind what I do will speak for itself and prove to be successful. SM: What is your take on success? Evelyne: My grandmother always said “Whether you decide to be a Physician or a Garbage man, you be the BEST Physician or the BEST Garbage man that the world has ever seen”. Success is truly defined by your own personal goals. Some of us have huge tangible goals, but others may have goals that are much more subdued. Whatever your goal may be, whether big or small, success is when you can sit back and see all of your hard work come to fruition. SM: Tell us about some of your accomplishments. Evelyne: Out of everything I’ve done in my life, my biggest accomplishment has to be seeing my kids smile and tell me they love me every single day. They are a huge support system, and sometimes my biggest cheerleaders. It beats any award or accolade I’ve ever received.
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SM: If you could change one thing in this world what would it be? Evelyne: I would love to see every child in this world receive proper education. Education and exploration of other ideals and cultures can open up an endless world of possibilities. SM: What do you do for fun and what's something you can't live without? Evelyne: Cooking and Dancing-sometimes simultaneously; I can't live without - Coffee, Coffee, and more Coffee. SM: Evelyne tell us why you are substantial? Evelyne: I am substantial because I do things differently. My brain is constantly playing catch up with my heart and my passion, and it gives me such an intense craving to do more for myself and others. I don’t allow setbacks or shortcoming to limit me. I focus on my immediate goal and make it happen in my own way. I never allow outside forces to dictate to me how I operate in my business or professional life.
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“Caring is Sharing”; Another one of my grandmother’s mottos. You don’t have to go over the top to show people you truly care for them. What you choose to share from your life’s purpose will speak volumes. I never know what I will accomplish next. At the ripe age of 36, I still feel like this is just the beginning for me. SM: Keep up with our Substantial Man of the Issue at: Facebook: www.facebook.com/billingsleamedia Twitter: @evebillingslea Instagram: billingsleamedia
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A conversation with a true conversationalist... Mr. Jermaine McNair of NC Civil
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SM: Tell us about NC Civil? McNair: The future of our communities depends on their ability to function on the mainstream stage of business. NC CIVIL connects minorities to mainstream business whereas they don’t get exposed to that particular environment during their growing years enough to have any real connection to it as an adult. SM: What is the main objective or goal of NC Civil? McNair: The highly educated, the business owners, and the upper working class will never move into fallen neighborhoods and NC CIVIL believes they shouldn’t have to, nor should they be asked to even freely hang out in these neighborhoods. Mainstream enterprise is the only place where successful people are sure to go, so this is where our program is built. NC CIVIL participates in this mainstream business and provides young minorities opportunities to play a role in our process. SM: As with most new businesses and nonprofits, there are times when the journey to success seems overwhelming. What motivates you to keep pushing forward to make NC Civil the absolute best it can be? In other words what keeps you focused on your mission? McNair: Yes, the path can be overwhelming at times, but I don’t view it as a personal attack. It is funny to say this, but life can be viewed like a spoiled child that is used to getting its way. When you decide you want something different out of life, the way you communicate that is by pursuing your goals. You must keep in mind that when you begin to pursue new goals, life is going to attempt to remain stubborn in giving you the old results, but do you give in to the child? No. You keep on showing it the sort of excellence you expect. Life will figure out how to give me what I want as long as I remain consistent and don’t allow it to shake me from my goal. Knowing this keeps me focused. SM: What does the future of NC Civil look like; where do you envision it will be in five to ten years? McNair: In 5 to 10 years I want to have built the first CIVIL Academy for Urban Development – an alternative school that takes all the different aspects of urban culture that hold the interests of our youth and use those aspects to provide lessons and coachable moments in everything from fashion to media, writing, photography, marketing, accounting & business, etc.. Our children like hip hop and fashion. We can use that to teach them the work ethic that goes into the fashion industry. They like music and dance that also fuels a vast industry. We can use that to teach them everything from production to photography, writing and journalism, image, marketing, and more. More importantly we can teach them how it relates to the world around them in terms of tradable value, so that they can handle it responsibly. The wealth of the hip hop culture is a new thing and it has been until now handled irresponsibly by young men and women thus far. We can do better. SM: If you had unlimited resources how would you grow NC Civil? McNair: If I had unlimited resources, I would be able to take my time and focus on the much larger projects, using every part of the process to involve the youth. The business world is a fast pace environment where you must move on ideas and opportunities quickly. I often have to take on projects without really involving the youth, just because it is a good opportunity to keep NC CIVIL on the stage of social relevance and I’m not the major card holder at the table. In these instances I just have to get on board. With unlimited resources, I would put on the large events that other companies would have to get on board or lose out on the opportunity. Then I could take my time and involve the youth extensively. SM: What makes NC Civil standout from other nonprofits? McNair: What makes NC CIVIL different is our working relationship with the private sector. We function on a platform where there are mostly private businesses. This way we remain in good contact with the strong values that substantiate the thriving center cities. Most community development programs tend to maintain their operations in the troubled neighborhoods. These children need a safe haven and these programs serve that great purpose, but this doesn’t do much to socialize the youth into the path of success. These organizations, for being so deeply entrenched in the heart of these neighborhoods, risk losing society’s standards and values, so to walk in some of these places, you might think you were on the corner by the language you hear and the behavior you might witness. It becomes another neighborhood hangout with better supervision. I think organizations that exist in the neighborhood are necessary and the effort they have given for so many years is nothing short of angelic. I just think it’s time we honored their efforts with something that can do more to help expand community programming into the actual path of progress. NC CIVIL is that next level in community development programming.
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SM: What has been one of your most difficult challenges as an up and coming nonprofit? And how did you manage to work through those challenges? McNair: The greatest challenge has been to try to keep up with the fast pace business environment and still take the time to involve the youth. Involving the youth is what makes NC CIVIL a community development program. Without youth involvement, I am just a marketer or a promoter. I’ve had ownership in the nightclub and entertainment field before and it’s something I love, but I think business without true community development is what has gotten America into the condition of poor values that we suffer from now. Maintaining the balance between community and industry is the challenge of our lives. It’s one that NC CIVIL has vowed to take on as our namesake. Many people don’t know that NC “CIVIL” is an acronym for Community & Industry Value Interactionist League and the idea of NC CIVIL is based on “social interactionism” theories. That is the sociology student in me coming out. For that I send a shout out to Pitt Community College for helping develop the sociologist in me. I’ll be transferring to ECU in the fall of 2014 to pursue my first degree in sociology. Don’t be surprised if you see Dr in front of my name in time. SM: We've come to know one another fairly well, thinking about the life you came from and how you started, if there was one piece of advice you could give yourself, and others, what would it be? McNair: Ooh! My life’s lesson? Whew! Here goes. I was sitting in a prison cell. Yep, and I was thinking about the huge car wreck that had become my life. It was like losing control and flipping a car several times, only to survive the wreck and walk away to look back at the crushed car like “Wow! I was in that car?” My life has suffered what looked like irreparable damage. I couldn’t fix it. No one could undo what I had done – not my mother or big brothers, not a judge in the land, even those who wanted to help. There was no fixing it. This upset me for weeks, but then it hit me. I have the power to do things on this earth that no man can reverse or take back . . . whatever I do, no one can undo. This was some heavy information for me to process, because it taught me my own power - a power equal to the most powerful men on the planet - the ability to do things that cannot be taken back or undone. The amount I had done was remarkable and all before the age of 25. Yet, I was still alive and it appeared that I had some more living to do, so the question was what might I do now. I started to look past the wrongs I’d done and look towards the great things I might do. So, here I am, aware of my power. I am substantial. SM: Thank you J. Stay tuned to nccivil.org, follow them on Facebook, and be on the lookout for more innovative ways to connect.
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Substantial Magazine talks with Mr. Percevial Murphy, writer and director of the play A Dream Deferred SM: Before we dive into the play, tell us a little about Percevial Murphy? Percevial: I'm from Rowland, NC. I received a Bachelor of Arts and a Master of Arts in English from East Carolina University. I also have a certification in Training and Development from North Carolina State University. Who is Percevial, I’m a writer, a runner (7 half marathons) and fitness enthusiast, a man of faith, a great friend, a mentor, an everyday hero and an introvert. The last two words I’ll explain in detail. It may seem a bit much to consider yourself a hero, but I strive to be a hero to those I am connected to and come in contact with. Being an everyday hero isn’t about invincibility; it’s about trying to make the world a little better each day. For a large part of my life I struggled with my temperament–being an introvert–which left me battling depression and severe anxiety. I have been told numerous times that I needed to re-invent myself. Now I understand that there’s nothing wrong the ways of an introvert. We are not self-centered or shy, but we need more time alone to recharge and prefer smaller, intimate social settings. Honestly I don’t think I could have ever attempted to put on this play without understanding this about myself because you have to know who you are to be successful. SM: Tell us about the play "A Dream Deferred"? Percevial: “A Dream Deferred” tells the story of a woman named Gardenia Miles, who has a dream to become a Gospel music singer, but she makes a mistake that defers her dream and destroys the relationships she has with two people she is closest to. SM: What was your inspiration for writing this play? Percevial: “A Dream Deferred” is inspired by the poem Dream Deferred written by Langston Hughes; it’s one of my most favorite poems. The poem poses the question “What happens to a dream deferred?” but doesn’t offer a definitive answer so I decided to write this stage play in an attempt to provide a possible answer. I also desperately want to inspire those who may be discouraged because their dreams have been deferred. SM: Are there any other projects you are working on that you would like to share with our readers? Percevial: In addition to planning additional showings of “A Dream Deferred” in 2014, I also want to create a short describing what it means to be an African American man in America today. The death of Trayvon Martin galvanized a large portion of the black community in a way we have not seen in some time. Through casual conversation with other black men, I discovered some common threads I want to use as content in a film to help our country better understand the pressure black men experience daily. SM: Tell our readers why you are substantial Percevial: I am substantial because the vision of my company steamNgen™ studios is not only to entertain but it is to educate and inspire. When people are educated they know how to do better when they are inspired, they have faith and hope that they can do better.
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Substantial Magazine is honored to feature Deborah Monroe; a survivor, author, advocate, motivational speaker, wife and mother. This 28 year old graudate of Virginia Tech University is a phenomenal woman. Her strength, courage and commitment to spreading awareness about child abuse and domestic violence was a story that we thank her for allowing us to share. As a survivor of childhood abuse and domestic violence Deborah has made it her mission to educate and spread awareness. Her journey started in the small town of Snow Hill, NC where she grew up along with her 12 siblings. During her childhood she endured years of sexual abuse. Deborah never said a word to anyone until many years later during her (early adulthood). SM: Understanding you are a survivor of both childhood and domestic abuse, please share briefly this history with our readers? Deborah: Abuse was something that I became familiar with all too early. By the time I was 7 I was sexually abused by two different people. These weren’t just one time events but something that occurred often. I didn’t tell anyone. Fast forward almost 15 years later and I find myself in an abusive relationship that would last for 3 years. The signs were there early on. He was very controlling, always wanted to know my every move; and then came the name calling and isolation from family and friends. He would have to approve my clothing and how I wore my hair. All these things would be mixed in with unfaithfulness, lies and betrayal. If that wasn’t enough the abuse turned physical. During many arguments (over unfaithfulness, if I didn’t iron his clothes right or if I forgot to order his pizza with thin crust), I would be slapped, punched, choked, head banged against the wall. I would be kicked out of his vehicle and told to walk home (at night). Sometimes on the way to visit friends, if we got into an argument, he would pull over on the side of the road, beat me and told me that I better act like nothing was wrong when we got to our destination. This lasted for a long time and when I finally decided to fight back, that’s when he used weapons. I remember being backed into a corner with a loaded gun (9mm Smith & Wesson) pointed to my head. I was told if I screamed, he would shoot me. During that moment, I saw my funeral; I saw family and friends mourning death, all with unanswered questions. Many nights after that, I couldn’t go sleep because I was afraid that he would kill me in my sleep. I remember times when I told him that I was going to go forward and tell people about the things he had done to me, he told me that nobody would believe me because of the “status” he held. I believed him and I remained silent and put on a mask as if everything was fine. SM: What made you speak out in regards to these experiences? Deborah: Although at first speaking out wasn’t the easiest decision, I knew it was crucial to do so. Many people, who are going through or have been through tough situations such as abuse, tend to feel as though they are the only ones who experience. Speaking out, I am able to reassure them that they are not alone. Also, speaking out, lets them know that there is a way out and you can recover from it.
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SM: Explain the importance of not only sharing your story but the importance of spreading awareness on abuse? Deborah: Spreading awareness is so important because you will be amazed at what little knowledge others have when it comes to abuse. Many people don’t know that 1 in 4 women are victims of domestic violence and also that more than four children a day die as a result of child abuse. They also don’t know that they can be an abusive relationship without the physical aspect. Abuse also comes in the form as emotional, mental and financial. Too dig deeper, before a relationship becomes physically abusive, it is emotional/mental abuse FIRST. SM: You are the author of the book HURT NO MORE: The Healing Guide for Victims and Abusers. Tell us about this book and what motivated you to write it? Deborah: HURT NO MORE is very dear to me because I took a leap of faith to not only reach out to victims but to abusers as well. The book is a self-help guide for victims and abusers. There is so much out there for victims (as there should be) but, I also feel that if an abuser is strong enough to admit that they need help then the resources should be out there for them. I use my story as a blueprint throughout the book and HURT NO MORE is presented with both professional and spiritual points of view. SM: Tell us about some of your recent accomplishments. Deborah: November 2012: HURT NO MORE made the Barnes & Noble Top 10 Best Selling E-Books in the Domestic Violence genre. April 2013: HURT NO MORE was picked up by Tate Publishing Enterprises and will be releasing the Second Edition later this year. August 2013: I sold my first article, entitled “From Victim to Victor”, to Today’s Christian Woman Magazine. October 2013: I launched the SHOP TO STOP Abuse Online Store. There you can find clothing and accessories for women and men that promote survival and much more. All proceeds go towards helping to bring awareness. I also relaunched the PREVENT 1 IN 3 program. This program is offered through Victimize Me No More, to High Schools, Teen Outreach Programs etc. to help promote article and be a victim and/or know someone who is a victim of awareness and erase the statistic that 1 in 3 teens are victims abuse? to dating violence. Deborah: First, I would tell them that I know what it is like to SM: If you could change one thing as it relates to the minority want to leave but feel like you can’t. I know what it is like to community's prospective on dealing with abuse what would it want to change your mate but nothing seems to work. I know be? what it is like to love and dislike strongly at the same time. I know what it is like to lose yourself and family/friends all at the Deborah: If I could change one thing it would be change the same time. I know what it is like to cry and feel like nobody level of awareness and create more discussion on abuse. In hears you. I would then go on to tell them that they are not the minority community, we like to keep things swept under the alone and to stop blaming themselves. I would tell them to rug. This is a generational thing. What we don’t realize is that confide in a trusted friend and seek help. Come up with a safe when we do that, number one, it costs man people their lives escape plan and leave before it is too late. To the person who and secondly, it passes abuse down from one generation to the knows someone or suspects someone to be a victim, I would next. In order to break generational curses, we have to start say never leave their side (even if they try to push you away). having discussions about it and began the healing process. Research all you can so you can be more aware of the signs. More importantly, SEEK HELP!! SM: What advice can you offer to someone who may read this
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SM: Let's get to know Deborah; what do you do to relax and get away from your busy days as a Author, Advocate, Mentor, Motivational Speaker etc...? Deborah: To relax is definitely a gift. Spa days, arts & crafts, outings with my husband and son, dinner with friends and a good ole Duck Dynasty Marathon!!! SM: Name something you can't live without? Deborah: I know this may sound clichéd but I can’t live without God. It is through Him that I am able to go on. It is Him that gave me strength and peace I needed to forgive my abusers. It was Him that told me it was ok to love again. It is Him that gives me the strength and motivation to continue doing this. He gives me vision, patience, wisdom. He gives me everything I need to make this mission possible. But, if I can add something else it would be: Books, OLAY Skin Products and Sunglasses (I must have sunglasses). SM: Is there anything else you would like our readers to know about Deborah Monroe? Deborah: My husband (SSG David Monroe) and I were married on Nov. 12, 2011 and welcomed our son, Drew Alexander Monroe on August 16, 2012. I also have a stepson, David Monroe Jr. (DJ) SM: Tell our readers why you are substantial? Deborah: I am substantial because of the message I carry. It allows me to be a voice for the voiceless. It allows me to break barriers and step into territory that many are afraid to enter. This fearlessness is needed today. It is needed in our community. My message has turned into a movement and all these reasons are why I am substantial. SM: Find out more about Deborah and follow her at: Facebook Page: Victimize Me No More Facebook.com/VMNMore Instagram Page: deborahjmonroe www.shoptostopabuse.spreadshirt.com www.deborahjmonroe.wordpress.com
“It is better to stand alone, fighting for what is right than united with thousands, promoting something that is wrong” – Deborah J. Monroe
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Laying Their Solid Foundation Marvin Nelson Arrington Jr. and Melissa L. Alston, Owners of Nelson Arrington Completes 31 | Substantial Magazine
Meet Melissa Alston, Young Adult Business Consultant Entrepreneur and graduate of East Carolina University. She is the owner of G.L.O.R.Y. Solutions (God Leading Opportunities and Resources to You). The company provides several consulting and advisory services to the business community, with particular emphasis on small businesses of 1-25 employees. The services offered by G.L.O.R.Y. Solutions include seminars and workshops on business plan development and writing, grant writing, and other consulting services. G.L.O.R.Y. Solutions strives to lay a right foundation for a company and/or correct company foundations at risk. Our goal is to find the "problem(s)" and discover the "solution(s)". Meet Nelson Arrington, Born a leader, organizer and philanthropist Marvin Arrington Jr. resides in Greenville, NC. His mission is to provide a helping hand to local communities, organizations and businesses in his efforts to help empower, educate and encourage citizens of Pitt County and abroad. Mr. Arrington is an Alumni of East Carolina University with a Bachelor of Science Degree in Science and Technology with a concentration in Distribution and a minor in Business. Since 2004 to present Mr. Arrington serves as Chairman of the Little Willie Center Community Development Corporation; whose mission is “Empowering our Youth Rebuilding our Community and Reestablishing the Family Structure”. As a personal hobby, Mr. Arrington became a local Fashion Designer in 2008. He is the owner and operator of Nelson Arrington Clothing Line. He design and sale professional wear for men and women and can be followed on his fan page Facebook account titled: Nelson Arrington Fashion Designer. Since 2011 to present, he has served on the City of Greenville Human Relation Council; the most recent memberships include the Educational Chair of Minority and/or Women Business of Greenville, NC and
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currently serves as NC Pitt County Commissioner for African American Heritage Council. Substantial Magazine had a chance to sit down with these two very driven individuals and have a conversation about business but more importantly their relationship. SM: How the two met... Alston-Arrington met at church. After attending the same church for a few months, Arrington asked Alston out to a Sunday lunch, Alston accepted. Alston and Arrington flourished into an ongoing friendship. This God lead friendship evolved into a mind blowing business partnership as Alston was introduced to Arrington’s family non-profit, The Little Willie Center. Alston went heart and head first in supporting the family business. Facilitating meetings after meetings, co-chairing projects after projects. Alston-Arrington begin creating a powerful bond. Soon Alston-Arrington were no long just casual church friends and business partners but a God-breathed relationship. Since July 2006 Alston-Arrington have been tried by the fire and now have been purified and made suitable for one another. On August 26, 2013 Arrington asked Alston for her hand in marriage. Guess what people? Alston said, “YES”. SM: How important faith was in the way they conducted themselves while dating? Arrington-Alston know without a shadow of a doubt if they were not saved they would not have been in this relationship so long. Also they would not have been able to see the potential and get past all the disappointments and pitfalls. The word
encourages them in Romans 8:28 (All things work together for the good of those who love the Lord) They waited 7 years for this day to be evident that the” good” would manifest. SM: Do you think your believes help you push beyond the hurtles that come with stating a new business and planning your future as a couple? Alston-Arrington: Not only do you have to have a relationship with God, you have to know the word of God to help you deal with life challenges and hurtles. If God is not first in the equation we believe that relationships will not have the victory when challenges come personally in business or in ministry. Arrington: I knew God told me to start this clothing line but I had no formal training. I learned through the library, research, textbooks, mentorships, trial and error. At the time not having adequate finances I needed to make a decision. Was it for me to go on or stop, let alone having a major asthma attack that caused an even greater set back after being hospitalized. Arrington’s traveling, promotions and productions ceased for about 8 months. It was during this greatest challenge when Arrington realized that he himself needed to be complete. He was doing ministry and business so well he had not taken the time to pay attention to his own health and well-being. At last he started to see and feel that it was time to settle down and restructure. Now putting business in its perspective place he can enjoy business development, planning and reorganizing. Arrington now understands the essence of balance in “work and play”. He first hand discovered not letting business clothe him, but let him clothe his business. All these hurtle were overcome. SM: How important is friendship to your overall relationship both personally and professionally? Alston-Arrington: Friendship is one of the pillars of our foundation. We understand that friendship is the bond of our attachment. Keeping this understanding at the forefront is what allowed our relationship to stay cultivated. We were able to consistently relate to one another, discover one another, respect each other’s work ethics and opinions, shortfalls, failures and fears. We are able to encourage one another and pull from each other’s strengths. Professionally we are able to support each other’s goals, we help polish one another. It’s just like dressing up. Just like Arrington has to match the right tie and I have to match the right shoes with my wardrobe, through friendship we have to be able to professionally and mentally dress and address one another. "Professionally and personally we have to be suitable for one another" Arrington says. SM: About Nelson Arrington Completes and some of their accomplishments? Nelson Arrington Completes fashion line has been showcased on several runways. In 2009, they appeared in
the Phantom of the Hair Opera Fashion Hair Show at the request of Dallas Nixon in Greenville, NC. In 2011, his revolution line appeared in the Columbia, South Carolina’s WINK Magazine Summer issue and later took the crowds by surprise during the Crystal Aiken (from Sunday’s Best) Concert Hair Show fashion segment sponsored by Impact Magazine in Greenville, NC and Charlotte NC Fashion Week produced by Arrington’s mentor Anthony Simons. On October 21, 2011, Arrington held his first Fall Benefit Fashion Show at the City Hotel Bistro in Greenville, NC to assist the Greenville Homeless Shelter and My Sister’s Closet and launched the premier issue of Complete Magazine. The name “Complete” is a testament to Arrington’s ability to complete your whole wardrobe and his spiritual journey of becoming complete. Finally in 2012 Arrington presented in four additional runway events: Columbia Style Week Columbia, South Carolina June 6, 2012; Atlanta International Fashion Week Atlanta, GA, July 2728, 2012; Baltimore Fashion Week Baltimore, MD, August 17-18, 2012; and lastly Charlotte International Fashion Week Charlotte, NC September 14-15, 2012. The entire 2013 year Arrington has been rebranding, restructuring and planning for the next 5 years of his clothing line. SM: When asked what advice they would give to couples who are trying to balance their relationships while pursuing their entrepreneur spirit they said? Young couples need to be able to have a fervent prayer life, divine connection with God, be open minded, honest, and strategic planners. Committing themselves first to God will allow them to hear clearly and gain the wisdom to be entrepreneurs. Alston-Arrington believes when you can hear you can see. Most blind people can still see, they see with their ears, vice versa. Having to lay it all out on the table, pray about it, think and strategize is the best way for all things to come hand and hand. Ask the Lord on your blue print to “marry” your business vision and the vision of your relationship.