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Mental wellbeing: 10 ways to feel good about yourself
As part of this issue's focus on mental health and wellbeing, Lisa Drake, RTT, NLP, TLTPractitioner and Life Coach, from Rapid Change Hypnotherapy & Coaching Practice in Rochdale, shares valuable advice on how to increase your confidence and self esteem...
Sometimes we all get stuck in a pattern of thinking, which over time, will begin to diminish our confidence and self esteem, until we just don’t know how to sort it out. With this in mind, I’ve put together some tips to help you. Please note, this takes practise and will not happen overnight. But the mind learns by repetition and what you focus on - you get more of.
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1. LEARN TO LIKE YOURSELF
Other people will like you to the degree that you like yourself. Think of all the compliments you’ve ever been given – what we look like is just the wrapping. If you’re caught in the trap of thinking negatively about yourself, every time you catch yourself doing it, stop and change the thought into something positive.
2. FIND YOUR PURPOSE
Whether you know this or not, we all have a purpose in life. This is directly connected to what we love to do. Think about this – what did you love doing between the ages of 7 and 14? We weren’t just put here to find love – we’re here to understand our talents and use them.
3. PRACTISE GRATITUDE
Getting into the habit of looking for three things to be grateful for at the start of every day, no matter how bad things are, can really help to bring things back into perspective for you.
4. STOP TRYING TO BE PERFECT
Perfectionism is a form of self-sabotage as it’s like entering a race you can never win! You will constantly move the finishing line further and further, thus making yourself very unhappy and unsatisfied. Say to yourself “I am perfectly imperfect” and cut yourself a bit of slack.
5. SET YOURSELF GOALS
Without goals we can easily just drift along, feeling like we never really achieve anything or don’t even know where we’re heading. True, authentic happiness comes from setting your goals and moving towards them. The feeling of accomplishment, no matter how small the goal is, really gives a boost to your self esteem as you feel like you’ve achieved something.
6. PRAISE MORE AND CRITICISE LESS
Praise boosts our self esteem and criticism brings it down. Start by praising yourself at least once a day i.e “I’m a good person”, “I like myself” or “I did a good job”. Take it a step further and compliment someone else – when we compliment another person, it also boosts our own self-esteem, as long as it’s a genuine compliment!
7. DO SOMETHING KIND EVERY DAY
When we do good things for others, no matter how small, it makes us feel better for longer than if we bought clothes or shoes etc. Maybe let someone in front of you in the traffic queue, or give some change to a homeless person – just helping someone without expecting anything in return, really boosts your self esteem for longer.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOU
When was the last time you did something just for you? Maybe, just going for a walk, booking a massage or a reiki session, spending quality time with a good friend? All too often, we’re thinking about everyone else, that we totally forget to be good to ourselves. Plan in self-care at least once a month.
9. VISUALISE
Many successful people use visualisation all the time, as a way of helping them to reach their goals. Remember this, if the mind can see it, the mind will help you to achieve it. Think of how you would like your life to look. Make a big bold picture of this in your mind and hold it, for at least five seconds. Do this regularly and eventually your mind will accept it and you’ll find yourself doing certain things to move you towards it.
10. ACT CONFIDENT
Now I’m not talking about ‘fake it ‘til you make it’. But improve your posture and stand tall, practise making eye contact and smile. Learn to accept compliments…just simply say ‘Thank You’, even if you don’t believe it. Small changes in how you hold yourself can lead to bigger changes in time.
What one change are you going to make today, this week, this month?
Lisa Drake
LISA DRAKE – RAPID TRANSFORMATIONAL THERAPY, NEURO-LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING, TIME LINE THERAPY PRACTITIONER AND LIFE COACH
Rapid Transformational Therapy is a very powerful technique, which will get to the root cause of your issue, usually in just 1 – 3 sessions.
I can help you with various issues, some of these include:
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Smoking
• Low Self Esteem
• Motivation
• Sleep problems
• Public Speaking
• And many more...
For a free 20 minute, no obligation discovery call, please contact me. A year, or even a month from now, you may wish you had made that call!
Call: 07738 431 604
www.rapid-change.co.uk
Email: lisa@rapid-change.co.uk
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