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Reeling from the loss of her mom, this rabbi created an online community for healing The long-running Nechama Minyan offers comfort to mourners via Zoom On Dec. 31, 2020, New Year’s Eve, Rabbi Geela Rayzel Raphael’s mother passed away from complications of COVID. In the height of the pandemic, a “Zoom shiva” was the only practical option to mourn her loss with family — and feel supported by friends. So Raphael reached out to an extensive network of rabbinical and cantorial colleagues in the hopes they could lead a service for the traditional seven-day shiva period. She explained that the week of prayer was so “supportive and uplifting” that she asked others to lead services for an additional 30 days (for a secondary mourning period called sheloshim) while she said Kaddish. “I had this idea that if we were going to do this for 30 days, I’d have 30 different spiritual leaders — rabbis and cantors — each leading the service so that it would be something different every night,” said Raphael, a Reconstructionist rabbi who lives in Philadelphia and is known as Reb Rayzel or Rabbi Rayzel. “It was just so wonderful to be together, even if we couldn’t be together in person. More and more people started to join me during the 30 days whose family member had passed away and they needed a place to say Kaddish. So I kept it going another month.” Another month grew into another month, then six months, then a year. Over time, more people started to join because either they or a family member had COVID or were seriously ill and wanted healing prayers for emotional and spiritual support and comfort.
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Rabbi Geela Rayzel Raphael (at right) created the Nechama Minyan on Zoom to say Kaddish for her late 94-year-old mother, Natalie Robinson (pictured above at left). Over the past two years, the minyan has continued nightly (except Shabbat and holidays) and has provided a communal space for roughly 1,000 people. The minyan is named after Raphael’s mother’s Hebrew name, which means “comfort.” Today, the Nechama Minyan, named after Raphael’s mother Natalie Robinson (whose Hebrew name was Nechama — meaning “comfort” in Hebrew), is nearing its two-year anniversary, and still going strong. The roughly hour-long service occurs every night, except on Shabbat and Jewish holidays, at 8 p.m. CST, and usually attracts anywhere from 10 (the minimum for a minyan) to upwards of 25 people from locales across the United States and Israel. The minyan’s main source of publicity has been word-of-mouth. Some participants attend regularly while others do so every so often (often for a loved one’s yarzheit) and still others drop in and out. And while the service changes nightly depending on who is leading, healing prayers and Kaddish are always the focus.
“At this point, the Nechama Minyan not only is something meaningful to me personally, but also is serving a wider cause,” said Raphael, adding that roughly 1,000 people have participated in the minyan, at least once, since it began on Jan. 1, 2021. “It is serving to connect people across denominational lines; people who need a place to pray, to grieve, to heal, to experiment with different forms and modalities of prayer,” she said. “It also serves as a ‘homeroom’ for those participants coming at the end of the day to check in on their lives and pray for healing and process feelings that arise during the day.”
Building a network of prayer leaders Raphael is actively involved in the Jewish Renewal movement, which seeks to reinvigorate Judaism with mystical, Hasidic,
musical and meditative practices drawn from a variety of traditional and non-traditional Jewish sources and others. Several minyan regulars, including some rabbis and cantors, are also connected to the movement and have helped Raphael by both showing up to ensure the count for a minyan and/or taking turns directing the service. As time has gone on, some of these clergy have mentored rabbinical students, Kohenot (female spiritual leaders) and lay leaders interested in leading the service so that now, says Raphael, the minyan has more than 150 volunteer leaders. “The Nechama Minyan is a forum for rabbinical and cantorial students to try out and hone their skills,” said Raphael. “It has become a lab for lay leaders to test their skills. I’m there most of the time, but when I can’t be, there are other people who have See SCHMOOZE on page 11A
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Fifty years ago, the first female rabbi was ordained
BY SHULA NEUMAN SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH LIGHT
Something radical happened 50 years ago. Judaism experienced a crack in the patriarchy when the first woman was publicly ordained as a rabbi. There had been private ordinations before, ordinations that weren’t recognized outside a small circle of people. But in 1972, Sally Priesand received the title of rabbi at Hebrew Union College in Cincinnati and paved the way for Jewish women to have access to a life denied them for generations. It took an additional 13 years before the Conservative movement allowed women to become rabbis. The Orthodox movement is still debating the issue, although Yeshivat Maharat in New York has been matriculating women to serve as spiritual leaders since 2009, including Maharat Rori Picker Neiss, executive director at the Jewish Community Relations Council. “I was in the right place at the right time,” Picker Neiss, 37, said. “We weren’t anything more than anybody else other than we were there when they were able to do it, and so we got to be part of it. There were women for decades, hundreds of years, many women who came before who had far more studying and work invested in the community who chose a different path because they saw no path forward in Jewish communal leadership.” St. Louis is rich with female rabbis, each of whom represents either the beginning of an era or an established practice. All of them recognize the significance of what began 50 years ago. Their combined experiences reflect how Judaism has the capacity to learn from women in the rabbinate and embrace what women offer, even if it’s been a bumpy ride along the way. When Rabbi Susan Talve was growing up in New York, the idea of her becoming a rabbi wasn’t even an option. But world and personal events prompted her to want to delve deeper into understanding her relationship with Israel and Judaism. When one of the rabbis from her family’s congregation encouraged her to apply to Hebrew Union College, Talve said she did so on a lark. “I had no model,” she recalled. “There were no women. I was a sophomore in college when Sally (Priesand) was ordained. She was a token, and I was not going to be a token in a patriarchal profession. I knew enough about feminism not to do that. And look what happens. God laughed.” As St. Louis’ first female pulpit rabbi (the first female rabbi in St. Louis worked at Hillel just a few years before Talve arrived), Talve, 69, has become aware of the importance of representation.
Creating a space for female rabbis locally Talve had her first child, Jacob, when she was an assistant rabbi at Congregation Shaare Emeth in the early 1980s. The idea of maternity leave was nonexistent, so by the time her second child came along, Talve was at a loss and decided to leave her job. “I didn’t think I could work anymore,” Talve said. “I didn’t think it was possible to be a nursing mother, give attention to my children and be a congregational rabbi.” It took the formation of Central Reform Congregation to bring Talve back to the pulpit. She credits the synagogue’s founders with intentionally creating a job that allowed her to be her whole self. “This new group were feminists like me, and they wanted it to work,” Talve said. “They wanted to create a space where women’s values were front and center. That I didn’t have to spend myself completely. We tried to create that base and be a model for other working parents.” As a result, a generation grew up seeing
Rabbi Susan Talve (above, at right) is shown in a 1981 Jewish Light file photo at Congregation Shaare Emeth with Rabbi Jeffrey Stiffman, Ida Stack and Marsha Grazman. Talve was an assistant rabbi at Shaare Emeth at the time. FILE PHOTO: DAVID HENSCHEL
The ‘feminization’ of rabbis
Maharat Rori Picker Neiss, executive director of the Jewish Community Relations Council, is shown in a 2019 photo at the 2019 Jewish and Muslim Day of Service. PHOTO: BILL MOTCHAN someone in a high- profile job who proved that women could be leaders and wives and mothers. But having women serve as
rabbis has done more than create role models for young women. It’s also changed Judaism.
“It doesn’t make sense for clergy to represent only 50% of the community,” said Rabbi Janine Shloss, 55, rabbi educator at Temple Emanuel. “Each of us brings to our role the experience we have personally and the experience we have with our family. To have that only be reflected through the male experience is not inclusive of a broader experience. “It’s not that men and women do things differently, but there is a different sensitivity and different set of lenses through which we look at the world.” Women’s influence in Conservative and Reform Judaism is evident in a variety of ways. The language in prayers is more gender inclusive; baby girls now have naming ceremonies that correlate to baby boys’ brit milah; and there are rituals that recognize every stage of a woman’s life cycle. See MILESTONE on page 9A
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Many jobs have their perks. But going to the White House to celebrate the Jewish New Year with the President, First Lady, Vice President and Second Gentleman of the United States? That’s pretty much a doozy of a perk. The White House is exactly where Ellen Alper, CEO of the National Council of Jewish Women St. Louis, found herself on Friday, Sept. 30, after being invited to attend the first celebration of this kind held there. She joined about 200 others at the two-hour celebration, which also included both Jewish Democrat and Republican legislators from around the country as well as dignitaries from all branches of Judaism. “It definitely was one of the highlights of my career, no doubt about it,” said Alper, who has been at the helm of NCJWSTL for 18 years. “It really was for me about the difference that NCJW can make in the world — that people seek us out, they want our opinion, and they want to work with us and collaborate with us. It makes you so proud to do the work that you do every day.” Alper explained that a couple of hours before the event, she had to take a COVID test at the White House COVID testing site. She was told that if she got a call in 20 minutes, the Secret Service would be taking her name off the guest list. “I was like, ‘Oh, my God, please don’t let my phone ring,’” she said. “Of course, an hour later, my phone rings and it’s a 202 number (D.C. area code). But it was some survey research company, thank goodness.” Around 11 a.m., she joined the other invitees who were lined up around the block to get into the White House. Most had come from the Northeast or D.C.-area; Alper was among a handful who actually flew in specifically to attend the event. Once inside, Alper said they were taken to the East Room, where First Lady Jill Biden, President Joe Biden and Second Gentleman Doug Emhoff addressed the crowd. “The Second Gentleman told stories about going to his grandmas for the holiday and how she burns the brisket,” Alper recalled. “Typical stories, and just as an aside, because you had to be a certain age to understand this one, he talked about
At left, NCJWSTL Executive Director Ellen Alper at the White House Friday, Sept. 30 for a Jewish New Year celebration. Above, Alper says the picture with President Biden is a selfie that he took — ‘he just grabbed our phone and took it-and included an extra 100 people or so,’ she said.
going into his grandma’s house and her telling the kids not to jump on the couches because she took off the clear plastic slipcovers for the occasion.”
Then came a surprise announcement from the President that violin virtuoso Itzhak Perlman would be playing live as the group left the East Room and were
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JCRC among organizers of ‘Interfaith Vigil to Save Children’s Lives’ At 4:30 p.m. Tuesday, Oct. 25, clergy representing many of the St. Louis area’s denominations will join together in an Interfaith Vigil to Save Children’s Lives to express their collective mourning of the more than 100 children who have died in the St. Louis region over the past four years due to gun violence. The vigil, which will be held at Mt. Bethel Missionary Baptist Church, 1600 Belt Ave., will kick off an Interfaith Gun Safety Initiative. The program will include the mourning rituals of various faith traditions and conclude with a candle lighting ceremony and refreshments. The public is invited but RSVPs are requested. Women’s Voices for Social Justice and the city of St. Louis have an existing program to provide gun locks free of charge for pick up at some fire stations and public libraries. A group of faith organizations have come together to expand this effort, by encouraging houses of worship to offer gun locks to their congregants. The Kansas City Division of the U.S. Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms is providing the initial inventory of gun locks. “We believe that houses of worship have a critical role to play in teaching our congregants about gun safety,” said Reverend
Rodrick Burton, senior pastor of the New Northside Missionary Baptist Church and vice president of the Ecumenical Leadership Council, in a statement. “I don’t want to console another family who has senselessly lost a child, a child whose death could have been prevented if a gun had not been so easily accessible.” Participating congregations will have access to gun safety programs developed by Everytown for Gun Safety, and materials from the Stop, Lock and Drop it initiative developed by the St. Louis Violence Prevention Coalition. Congregations can sign up to participate in the initiative at the vigil, or in advance by registering. Gun locks will be distributed at the event, and community partners will have information tables. “We know the power that is possible when communities come together,” Jewish Community Relations Council Executive Director Maharat Rori Picker Neiss said in a statement. “Our tradition teaches that to save a life is as if to save an entire world. If we can save one child’s life or prevent a single suicide, this initiative will be a success.” For more information about the vigil, contact JCRC Program Manager Elyse Picker at 314-4423874.
The Jewish Community Center will hold Beyond Pink, a morning of exercise, education and wellness, on Sunday, Oct. 30 at the J’s Staenberg Family Complex in Creve Coeur.
Beyond Pink at the J: morning of exercise, education and wellness The Jewish Community Center will hold Beyond Pink (formerly known as Pink Out) – a morning of exercise, education and wellness – on Sunday, Oct. 30 at the J’s Staenberg Family Complex in Creve Coeur. The J’s Beyond Pink event honors Ovarian Cancer Awareness and Breast Cancer Awareness Months and encourages participants to commit to being their healthiest healthy. This community-building event, organized by the J’s Sharsheret Supports STL program, strives to educate men and women in the community regarding increased hereditary cancer risks by sharing free support resources for someone facing a breast or ovarian cancer diagnosis. At Beyond Pink, participants can take part in any of the specialty or regularly scheduled fitness and wellness classes offered. The schedule this year includes two new classes, “Training for Life: How To?” which is for anyone looking to restart an exercise regime or begin exercising for the first time (held from 10 a.m. to 11:15 a.m.); and “Family Fitness: Staying Healthy Together” (a parent/child family class for children ages 6-12), from 11:30 a.m. to 12:45 p.m. Guests can also opt for a Zumba class from 10 to 11:15 a.m.
and a T’ai Chi class 11:30 a.m. to 12:45 p.m. Community partners will be on-site with information to share about hereditary cancer risks, non-medical financial assistance, clean skincare, nutrition and more. Participants can enjoy complimentary massage and snacks, register to win raffle prizes, and enjoy a health-focused morning with like-minded community. Sharsheret Supports STL educates the community, especially those of Ashkenazi Jewish ancestry, regarding the increased tendency this population has for carrying a BRCA gene mutation. One in 40 Ashkenazi Jewish women and men, carries the BRCA gene mutation. This is nearly 10 times the rate of the general population. Women who carry the mutation have up to a 75% risk of developing breast cancer and a 44% risk of developing ovarian cancer. Men can also carry and pass these gene mutations on to their families and have increased cancer risks. Beyond Pink at the J is free and open to the public. Pre-registration is requested, and walkins are welcome. RSVP at jccstl.com/beyondpink. For more information, contact Debbi Braunstein at 314-442-3266.
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Parkway North senior chronicles her eye-opening journey to Israel on video dles on Friday night because it was part of the trip I really enjoyed.
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Celia Weingart, 17, a senior at Parkway North High School, visited Israel for the first time this summer as part of NCSY through its four-week Jewish Journey program. The group of 50 she went with were mainly Midwesterners, coming primarily from St. Louis, Kansas City, Chicago and Minneapolis. Celia was one of several young people who agreed to chronicle her Israel trip by shooting a short video of the sights, sounds, people and places that most impressed her. The Israel video project was made possible by a generous grant from the Kranzberg Family Foundation. You can view Celia’s video at stljewishlight.org/ israel-videos. The Jewish Light sat down with Celia after her return to learn what resonated most about her trip. What stood out the most about the trip? The people I met. I made a huge group of friends because we were all on the bus every day for like two to three hours at a time and were doing all these activities together. What really stood out is that you’re meeting so many people that I would never have met, or maybe I knew but never talked to. Anything on the trip that was unexpected or a surprise? Because it was NCSY, it was run through the Orthodox Union. I knew it was going to be a more religious trip. What I wasn’t expecting was how much I enjoyed the more religious aspects of the trip. On Fridays and Saturdays, we would keep Shabbos and all the girls on Friday night would light the candles. I initially thought (the more religious aspects) would be something I put up with, but it ended up being something I really enjoyed and defined the trip for me. It was different for me, and I got to experience Israel in a different way. How did you celebrate Shabbos while in Israel? You had a choice, because we went from people who were already very religious before coming on the trip to people who were completely secular. You did have the choice: Did you want to com-
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Do you feel you connected more with your Judaism? Definitely, because for me, before this trip, I didn’t have a ton of Jewish friends. There aren’t a whole lot of Jews in my school. I don’t really know a lot of kids at my synagogue (United Hebrew). So it was really getting to experience (Israel) with my friends. Our advisers were also very close to our age, so it was people close to our age guiding you and showing you, yes you can live this wonderful and fulfilling life and still keep these traditions and rules that I think a lot of us thought would be restrictive, but it was really liberating. Was there a site or day on the trip that stood out? The big standout to me was the first day we went to the Kotel. I remember it very vividly because when we got into the old city and to the central plaza, they had us close our eyes. We walked through the old city and the first thing we saw was the Western Wall. I saw that, and that kind of defined what the old city of Jerusalem was to me. It was very moving.
Check out videos by Celia Weingart (above) as well as Brady Meyerson, Mia Kweskin, Yael Shaw, Ryan Hearst and Zoe Klevens as part of a new series supported by a generous grant from the Kranzberg Family Foundation. The Light engaged St. Louis young people, asking them to chronicle their Israel trip this summer by shooting a short video, or videos, of the sights, sounds, people and places that Did you make any Israeli friends? most impacted them. Visit stljewishlight.org/ Two of my friends and I, when we were israel-videos in the City of David for lunch, met these girls around our age who were on a trip stljewishlight.org/israel-videos with their youth group. They were from Israel, and we ended up talking to them pletely keep Shabbos or not? Some for two or three hours. That was really things were non-negotiable, like on cool, I loved it. We took pictures together. Friday night and Saturdays it was more I have their phone numbers. They taught formal clothing if you’re going to be out us some Hebrew. We taught them some in public. Going to services was sort of English slang. It was a wonderful time. non-negotiable. But for the smaller things, they were very flexible and most Do you want to go back to Israel and, of us ended keeping Shabbos because if so, what will your next trip to Israel our advisers were doing it and our look like? friends were doing it. It was just another I definitely want to go back. I think way to connect with people. For the most when I go back, I want to visit the places part, keeping Shabbos was going to ser- that we didn’t get to see a lot because we vices, making sure you were dressed only had so much time. In the north and properly, not using technology, not turn- mountains, I’d love to see more of the ing on lights. kibbutzim I didn’t get to see because we were going into the main cities. Haifa we Will you continue to incorporate didn’t get to see a lot, we just drove some of these rituals into your life in St. through, so I’d love to go back there. Tel Louis? Aviv we didn’t really do much in until the Something I want to continuing doing last day, so I’d like to spend more time is making it a tradition to light the can- there and explore.
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Two-part series at TI looks at voting through a Jewish lens Rabbi Amy Feder and Rabbi Michael Alper of Congregation Temple Israel will hold a two-part series on voting through a Jewish lens, taking place from 9:45 to 11:15 a.m. on Sunday, Nov. 6 and 13. The events will take place in person at Temple Israel, 1 Rabbi Alvan D. Rubin Drive in Creve Coeur. The first part is “How to vote Jewishly: A discussion on supporting Jewish values through our right to vote” on Nov. 6. The second, on Nov. 13, is “So what happens now? Jewish teachings about how we abide by the law of the land while continuing to fight for what we believe.” Participants are asked to try to attend both class meetings. RSVP by Friday, Nov. 4 at: www.ti-stl.org/VotingJewishly.
Leonard Frankel to receive Interfaith Partnership award On Oct. 27, the Interfaith Partnership of Greater St. Louis will celebrate these friendships and recommit to improving lives and strengthening community at its annual fundraising gala. This year’s theme is “Journeys to Friendship.” The public is encouraged to attend at Lambert International Airport Aero Event Space (Terminal 1), from 5:30 to 8 p.m. Interfaith Partnership will honor Leonard J. Frankel of Congregation B’nai Amoona and Nancy Remmert of Church Women United and the Women’s Interfaith Conference with this year’s Interfaith Achievement Awards for their years of service and activism in the St. Louis interfaith community. The event will include a Dialogue Hour, with opportunities to interact with one another in meaningful ways while enjoying elegant small plates, remarks from religious and civic lead- Leonard Frankel ers, and a lively cultural program featuring the St. Louis Community Gospel Choir. Tickets cost $100 per person. Sponsorships range from $250 to $2,500 or higher. Tickets and sponsorships are available at www.interfaithstl.org/celebrate.
Lecture will look at pogroms in Ukraine and the onset of the Holocaust
Washington University will present the 2022 Holocaust Memorial Lecture at 5 p.m. Thursday, Nov. 3 at the Clark Fox Forum in WashU’s Hillman Hall. The event is free and open to the community, but RSVPs requested at https:// humanities.wustl.edu/rsvp-2022-holocaust-memorial-lecture. This year’s lecture will feature Jeffrey Veidlinger, the Joseph Brodsky Collegiate Professor of History and Judaic Studies at the University of Michigan, who will discuss “The 1918-1921 Pogroms in Ukraine and the Onset of the Holocaust.” Veidlinger will drawing upon archival materials, including thousands of newly discovered witness testimonies, trial records and official orders to show how this wave of genocidal violence created the conditions for the Holocaust. The lecture is sponsored by the Silk Foundation. Veidlinger is author of “In the Midst of Civilized Europe: The Pogroms of 19181921 and the Onset of the Holocaust.”
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Rabbi Elizabeth Hersh of Temple Emanuel speaks outside of Lawton Heights United Methodist Church in Lawton, Okla. as part of a 2019 interfaith vigil. PHOTO: KAYLA STEINBERG
Milestone: Marking 50 years of women in the rabbinate CONTINUED FROM PAGE 5A The greatest impact, however, is probably the ability of women to use a Jewish lens to humanize life’s experiences. For Rabbi Tracy Nathan, a member of the faculty at the Saul Mirowitz Community School, that fact hit home for her when she gave a sermon to her congregation in San Francisco, where she was an assistant rabbi. “I had a miscarriage, and I talked about it in the context of the Rosh Hashanah haftorah: Chanah had been barren for many years before giving birth to the prophet Samuel,” Nathan said. “After the sermon, a flood of people talked with me about it, about their pregnancy losses. They were so grateful to be able to open up about it.” When Nathan eventually did give birth, she delivered another sermon about the concerns and hopes of anticipation of expecting a baby. “After the sermon, the senior rabbi (who was male) said to me, ‘I couldn’t have given that sermon,’ ” Nathan said.
Being held to a different standard Despite the empowerment of being able to touch people, nearly every female rabbi has felt the sting of being held to a different standard than her male peers. Several talked about how congregants address men as “rabbi” but call women by their first names. Others recall having congregants suggest that wearing pants detracts from a woman’s authority.
For the younger women interviewed, these experiences happen much less frequently than it did to the “first generation” of female rabbis, including Picker Neiss. For her, half of the Orthodox community doesn’t accept her status to begin with. As a result, she finds herself navigating the community as a symbol, rather than an individual. “It was an interesting experience to be simultaneously loved and hated before I even did anything,” she said. “In some ways, it makes me equally uncomfortable to just be loved. I am keenly aware of the fact that I often exist in people’s minds completely differently than I am as an actual human. What I represent to people and what I stand for, for people, is not actually related. And that’s been a hard process. What people are fighting about is not actually me, but some idea that’s in their head that I have come to represent for them.” Reform and Conservative female rabbis no longer have to negotiate having their smichas (rabbinic ordination) challenged. Rabbi Elizabeth Hersh, 56, senior rabbi at Temple Emanuel, said the relative speed with which women were accepted as rabbis aligns with what she loves about Judaism. “The Reform movement has opened the gates for respect for all humanity,” Hersh
Rabbi Amy Feder and her husband, Rabbi Michael Alper, serve Congregation Temple Israel. said. “The Jewish world has never stayed the same. If you look to Judaism in the time of the second temple and compare it to the Hasidic movement and then to now, no one would recognize Judaism. So the Reform movement has walked with us and encouraged us to change with the times, which is quintessential Judaism. Judaism is never stagnant.” As Hersh looks to the next 50 years, she expressed a hope for what all the rabbis interviewed for this story said: Drop the modifier before the word rabbi. That would also be a relief for Rabbi Amy Feder, 43, senior rabbi at Temple Israel. She said she’s tired of having to
explain some things to her congregants. “How many times have I had to say when I sign a ketubah that, traditionally, this would be signed by two Jewish men who aren’t related to you, she said. “But it’s OK that you have a woman rabbi signing it. “It would be great to define ourselves as rabbis and not as lady rabbis. And especially here in St. Louis. There are a lot of us here. I really do think in this town it’s pretty amazing that there are a lot of female rabbis and that should be something that we celebrate.”
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At the upcoming Heart & Soul Gala, Congregation Shaare Emeth will honor Drs. Vicky Fraser and Steve Miller w ith the Harr is Frank Communit y Ser v ice Aw a r d and Marilyn and Dr. Gary Ratkin with the Tzedek Award. The Harris Frank Community Service Award recognizes congregants who have demonstrated exemplary service to the congregation, St. Louis Jewish and greater St. Louis communities. The Tzedek Award ack nowledges members of the congregation whose lives exemplify the Jewish value of Tzedek (righteous action) both within the congregation and in the community at large. The gala will take place on Nov. 12. On Oct. 14, the University City High School Alumni Hall of Fame inducted 11 people, including: • Daniel Kaufer, ’77, (deceased), a neurologist specializing in the targeted and humane treatment of patients and families dealing with Alzheimer’s Disease and dementia. • Earl Kessler, ’59, an internationally renowned architect specializing in housing and sustaining communities in some of the most vulnerable places in the world • David Levi, ’77, an internationally recognized glassmaker. • Helene (Wagman) Sherman, ’62, a professor of mathematics education who has authored dozens of textbooks and articles. • Richard Stack, ’70, Founder of a food bank and communications specialist who has used his skills to write books and produce a documentary advocating for the end of the death penalty. The next induction of Parkway alumni into the Parkway Alumni Hall of Fame will take place on Nov. 12 at the Sheraton Westport Chalet Hotel. Silas Goldman, Parkway North High School class of ’99, is one of the 11 who will be honored. He is assistant vice president of operations at Vee Technologies, where he leads a team of 5,000 on population health research, healthcare innovation, and clinical delivery reform. Silas’ predictive diagnosis AI models are in use at several academic medical universities Susie Rubin joined the mindyKNOWS team as a concierge associate. mindyKNOWS is an independent concierge service for college families at Washington University. Rubin will assist parents with recommendations, referrals and custom deliveries for their students. She is a mem-
TOP ROW: Dr. Vicky Fraser, Dr. Steve Miller, Marilyn and Dr. Gary Ratkin, Daniel Kaufer, Earl Kessler SECOND ROW: David Levi, Helene (Wagman) Sherman, Richard Stack, Silas Goldman, Susie Rubin THIRD ROW: Harvey Brandvein, Marylen Mann, Sheila Greenbaum, Fran Levine, Dr. Sherman J. Silber FOURTH ROW: Dr. Ryan Fields, Beth Kodner, Ariel Ferman ber of Temple Emanuel. St. Louis Small Business Monthly named Harvey Brandvein, vice president of Wealth Management at Together Credit Union, a Best Wealth Manager-Top Finalist in the publication’s 2022-23 Best in Business, Business Owners’ Guide. Brandvein attends Shaare Emeth. Marylen Mann will receive the Outstanding Fundraising Volunteer award at the Association of Fundraising Professionals’ National Philanthropy Day Awards Celebration. The Nov. 15 event pays tribute to the region’s philanthropic and nonprofit community. It takes place at the Kranzberg Arts Foundation - ZACK
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Urban Ballroom. She and her husband, Frank Jacobs, are members of Congregation Temple Israel and Central Reform Congregation. Sheila Greenbaum and Fran Levine will be honored on Oct. 24 at the 77th annual awards ceremony for the National Conference for Community and Justice of Metropolitan St. Louis (NCCJ). The awards honor people who have embraced the tenets of NCCJ’s work to make St. Louis a community Bill Dauben where all people are valued and respected. Greenbaum is senior counsel at Capes Sokol and attends CRC. Levine is the former president of the Missouri Historical Society and is a member of Temple Emanuel. Dr. Sherman J. Silber was recognized as one of the “Giants in Reproductive Medicine” at the 6th IVF Worldwide
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Costco manager talks kosher options at new U.City store BY BILL MOTCHAN SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH LIGHT
There are 828 Costco warehouses around the world, including the new University City store. The U. City Costco, which joins 10 other 2022 openings, has some noteworthy Jewish roots. Its location at 8695 Olive Blvd. includes the former site of Torah Prep School of St. Louis, which moved in 2021. The co-founder of Costco was the late Jeff Brotman, a Jewish Seattle attorney. Brotman’s co-founder Jim Sinegal is a protégé of Sol Price, the founder of PriceSmart, who was also Jewish. For U. City area consumers, there is another Jewish connection in the new store. It will have an ample selection of kosher foods, according to Amy Becker, Costco
assistant general merchandise manager. “We will be carrying the same set of kosher items in the U. City location that we have in Manchester,” Becker said. “We’ll continue to monitor the sales at Manchester, but in talking to some of my associates, we think the majority of our consumers who keep kosher will move over to the new U. City location. We’ll watch things in Manchester and adjust accordingly but we are very aware that there is a strong market for kosher foods in U. City.” Becker said Costco will not carry fresh kosher meat, but there will be kosher meat products in the freezer section. “We’ll have kosher chicken, and our salmon is kosher,” she said. “We have a kosher London broil, and we’ll have Glatt kosher ground beef. We’ll also have kosher
wine in the warehouse when we open.” Costco’s website lists some 63 kosher pantry items and 73 kosher snack items. The store’s house brand, Kirkland, offers more than 60 kosher food items. The Costco management team understands the diverse makeup of U. City, Becker said. “It’s been very exciting for me to hear the excitement about the new location from the local Jewish community,” she said. “I don’t think I’ve ever had so many Costco members reach out to me about a new location before. Hearing from our members helps us make sure we are providing the items we need for the community.” There will also be seasonal inventory adjustments at the new store, including kosher tea biscuits in time for Hanukkah. Leading up to Passover, the U. City Costco
will stock shmurah matzah and about 20 other items that are kosher for Passover. Those items will be merchandised together. In addition to the standard Costco lineup of popular goods, the opening of the new store will include some goods not generally available in other warehouses. Becker said these non-food dry goods may include gaming consoles or designer handbags. Specialty food items in the U. City store will also include Asian foods, in a nod to the Asian demographic in neighborhood. The U. City Costco will open on Tuesday, Oct. 25. The opening time for all new Costco stores on their first day of business is 8 a.m. (Regular store opening time is 10 a.m.). Becker suggested shoppers arrive early to get the best selection of some of the unique opening day specials.
Schmooze: Long-running Zoom minyan offers comfort to mourners CONTINUED FROM PAGE 3A been trained to host and can help. What each prayer leader brings to the service also sets the tone of the meeting so that each one feels somewhat different than the last.” Over the course of several months, I attended a handful of the minyans; each was a little different, though all were welcoming. In addition to the evening liturgy, some leaders incorporate singing, davening and/or storytelling into the service while others lead the group through meditative exercises designed to help everyone wind down and relax. One by one, participants on the Zoom offer names of friends and relatives they want to heal, like 10-month-old identical twins Ace and Banks who were born prematurely. Both twins had COVID and seemed to recover, though Banks had to be hospitalized for seizures that still weren’t under control. Others remember their beloved deceased by reciting Kaddish, and sometimes share a short story to highlight a memory. And still others, like me, mostly listen with their video turned off. Even after the service is officially over, several stay on to catch up and visit. The empathy in this virtual community is palpable; clearly over time, regular participants have become close friends. “Nechama Minyan is a place where we witness and do not try to solve every feeling and problem that arises, although in our ‘oneg’ afterwards, we often try to help each other with advice and support,” said Raphael. “Nechama Minyan is a sign of the new paradigm whereby virtual communities can feel intimate and connected and durative and supportive.” She and others note however, that in no way does Nechama Minyan try to take the place of synagogues. “We support our members to stay connected to their own synagogue/temple, which is why we do not meet on Shabbat and holidays,” added Raphael. “We also help people find communities to go to for Shabbat and holidays.”
Why they come, and why they stay Rabbi Jay Weinstein, who goes by Rabbi Jay, joined the Nechama Minyan in January of this year after hearing about it through ALEPH: Alliance for Jewish Renewal, where he was ordained in 2008. He leads the minyan most Tuesdays but typically joins six nights a week and serves as one of five “Zoom gabbais,” who help with hosting if needed and ensure that everything runs smoothly. He says he remains involved for a variety of reasons. “I feel I’m giving back to the ALEPH rabbinical school where I went, and I feel like I am giving back to the community,”
and again. Barbara M. of upstate New York, who joined in March, found solace in being able to “relax and float” with the service after spending the day taking care of her ailing mother. Once her mother passed earlier this fall, she wanted a place to say Kaddish daily, but her synagogue doesn’t hold services every day. “It was easy to become part of this informal, loose-knit group of people who care about one another and more or less worship in a similar matter or are at least willing to try new approaches to old traditions,” she said. “As I go through the 11-month mourning period following my mother’s passing, I have others with whom I can share on a regular basis, if I wish to, my sorrow and my happy memories of mom. I also have the honor of Rabbi Geela Rayzel Raphael started the Nechama Minyan, which meets on Zoom. said Weinstein, spiritual leader of Congregation Simchat HaLev in Woodbury, N.Y., whose tagline is “Judaism fueled by love.” “I am a spiritual counselor in addition to a rabbi and have lots of experience with end-of-life issues, death and bereavement. I want to hold space for those who are in grief,” he added. “I also have met a lot of nice people, and I like Reb Rayzel and helping her.” Chaya Lerner, who was ordained through ALEPH as a rabbinical pastor (she also is a social worker and does pastoral counseling), first checked out the minyan in April of 2021 but started coming regularly that June, after a 12-story condominium building near Miami, Fla. collapsed, killing 98 people. Lerner, who lives in Miami, didn’t personally know anyone who was killed but through her work as a case manager with Jewish Community Services of South Florida, she provided counseling and grief support to those whose family members had not yet been found in the ruble. “I really didn’t have any place to say Kaddish,” said Lerner. “I had left my synagogue, and the community I daven in typically only meets on Saturday morning. I didn’t really talk about (the tragedy) — saying 98 people got crushed to death tends to put a damper on everything. But I really needed a place to bring my grief.” She found that place at Nechama Minyan, which she describes as a “warm and loving community” that has given her a safe place to grieve. “This strength helped me give my clients help in their bereavement,” said Lerner, who now leads the minyan once or twice a month and attends regularly. “I see myself staying with (the minyan) for a long time. It’s something I really enjoy. I’ve grown to care about the people who are ‘regulars’ and the kind, supportive, caring community we have created.” Those sentiments were echoed again
being able to bear witness for other people and learn about the people they love who have passed on.” Raphael readily admits she had no idea that when she began sitting shiva for her mother that it would turn into an ongoing minyan, with no end in sight, that positively impacts so many people. “Nechama Minyan was created out of one person’s need, but it is offered comfort and support to many,” she said. “Out of the ashes of my mother’s death, I now have so many new friends to help fill the hole in my heart that she left.” If you are interested in joining the Nechama Minyan, email Raphael at rrayzel@shechinah.com.
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We should focus attention on more pressing issues The reactions in the Jewish community to the antisemitic remarks of the rapper Kanye West are, sadly, all too illustrative. While West’s comments will have no impact on future of the Jewish people, they drew much attention, including multiple stories on the Light’s website. Do you know what will have infinitely more to do with the well-being of the Jews and yet receives little to no attention? Our ongoing failure to pass along our traditions and customs to our children. And yet, during this joyous Sukkot and Simchat Torah season, when Jews go sukkah hopping and eat and drink with friends or dance and sing with our Torah, how many families do not take part? Of the thousands of Jewish kids in St. Louis, how many do nothing for Sukkot, Hoshana Rabah, or Simchat Torah? West’s unpleasant words grabbed a lot of attention, but the real threat facing the Jewish people goes unremarked. If we want our people to flourish, we need to have more urgent concern for the dwindling transmission of our faith to our children than for the rantings of an entertainer. Matthew Grad St. Louis
Feeling unwelcome at one’s synagogue The Oct. 5 commentary, “Sins we have sinned by making people feel unwelcome at synagogues,” really resonated with me. Although it concerned the number of persons who have left synagogues because of a pattern of unkind remarks from rabbinic and volunteer leaders, the problems I encountered at my former synagogue were just as egregious — indifference and the fact of being ignored. Allow me to explain. When we first joined a Modern Orthodox synagogue several years ago, my wife and I were welcomed with open arms, including a goody package when we first became members. Everything went smoothly for the first year or so, and my wife and I were elated that we had joined. In fact, being the inveterate letter writer that I am, I had a letter published in the Jewish Light expressing our thanks for the kindness shown -- I even mentioned that if felt like my “home away from home”--and was even asked to read my letter before the whole congregation, which I gladly did. However, after we had been members for some time, I noticed a difference in the temperament of the other members, not all of them, but the overwhelming majority. For the most part, they became indifferent to me, and unless I initiated a conversation, they didn’t talk to me at all, or at most, extended a brief hello or a quick wave. I felt completely alone and isolated, like being on a desert island. This happened before services, during services, and after services, and when there were kiddushes and luncheons. I grew angry and frustrated as I knew I had done nothing to alienate them. I realized that I couldn’t continue to attend services at this congregation, and eventually withdrew my membership. My wife quit shortly thereafter for similar reasons. That said, I can certainly empathize with those who have left synagogues under such circumstances and hope they have found houses of worship more to their liking. My wife has joined another synagogue and is very happy. Me, I’m unaffiliated, and plan to stay that way. Gene Carton Clayton
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Is the Israel-Lebanon maritime deal as good as the Abraham Accords? BY JONATHAN S. TOBIN JNS
Let’s hope that both U.S. President Joe Biden and interim Israeli Prime Minister Yair Lapid are right about the deal they’ve struck with Lebanon. Biden is hailing the pact, which last week seemed to be sunk by Lebanese bargaining tactics and political pressure on Lapid, as a “historic breakthrough.” In a White House briefing, “senior administration officials” asserted that it was a win-win for both countries. Lapid echoed that claim in a press conference on Wednesday night, promising further that it would “stave off war” with the Hezbollah terrorist group that largely controls Israel’s northern neighbor. Also applauding the deal was Dan Shapiro, ambassador to Israel during the Obama administration. He disputed the avalanche of criticisms from Israel’s opposition parties and Trump administration officials about its being a one-sided surrender to Hezbollah blackmail and American pressure. According to Shapiro, it was actually more advantageous to Israel than to the Lebanese regime, its Hezbollah string-pullers and their Iranian paymasters. Some in the Israeli press who are eager to give Lapid a boost in the weeks before the upcoming Nov. 1 Knesset election have also been sounding hosannas about it. According to one piece published in Haaretz, the maritime agreement is “a bigger deal than the 2020 Abraham Accords,” which normalized relations between the Jewish state and four Muslim countries. Another mocked Likud leader Benjamin Netanyahu as having received a “masterclass in statesmanship and leadership” from Lapid. That article claimed Netanyahu would have jumped to sign such a deal if only he had been wise enough to make the same concessions as Lapid. We should discount this as partisan cheerleading in advance of both the vote in Israel and the American midterms. Yet, if the promises about peace, prosperity and security stemming from a new maritime demarcation line stretching out from Israel’s northern coastal border with Lebanon come true, then it truly would be cause for celebration. Jonathan S. Tobin Even if Lapid is correct only about is editor in chief of the idea that, in giving up rights to JNS (Jewish News one of the natural gas fields to which Syndicate). Follow Israel had a valid and exclusive claim, him on Twitter at: @ he has avoided a war with Hezbollah jonathans_tobin. and Iran, perhaps it was worth it. As one of the far-left Haaretz pundits put it while making extravagant claims for the pact, the Abraham Accords didn’t directly save Israeli soldiers from being killed. None of the countries that normalized relations with the Jewish state were poised to launch terrorist raids on Israeli facilities. Nevertheless, a more sober assessment of the deal that is being rushed through by Lapid in advance of the election, despite the dubious precedent of an interim government making territorial surrenders without a vote by the Israeli people or even by the Knesset, is necessary. Let’s recall that the only reason any of this happened was not because Israel had determined that appeasement of Lebanon was the only way to avoid a costly and unnecessary war in the immediate future. The impetus for concluding a negotiation that has been going for several years was the Biden administration’s desperation to do something to encourage an increase in production, and a lowering of prices, of oil and gas in the region. This energy crisis is the result of America’s opposition to Russia’s invasion of Ukraine, and the sanctions on the Vladimir Putin regime that have hurt Western economies, while doing little or no harm to Moscow. At the same time, Washington is also interested in making nice with Hezbollah’s patrons in Tehran. The hope is that the theocrats will then be more inclined to sign a new and even weaker nuclear deal that will allow Iranian oil to flow to the West. That is why, despite hopes that a confrontation with Hezbollah—which has threatened to attack Israeli facilities in the offshore fields—can be avoided, the comparisons to the Abraham Accords and the paeans to Lapid’s supposed genius are misplaced. A better analogy for this deal would be the ceasefires and
Hezbollah flags on the border between Israel and Lebanon, northern Israel on July 3. PHOTO BY AYAL MARGOLIN/FLASH90 monetary payoffs to Hamas that have mostly served to keep the peace with the terrorists running Gaza in recent years. No one would claim that the practice, carried out by both Netanyahu and the coalition led by Naftali Bennett and Lapid that succeeded him in June 2021, is any sort of a diplomatic triumph. It’s a payoff, pure and simple, which no one pretends means that Hamas recognizes Israel or the idea of the border separating Gaza from the Jewish state as an international boundary that must be respected. Israel allows money from Qatar to be funneled into Gaza for Hamas’s use in much the way that storekeepers in city neighborhoods dominated by gangsters pay off one group of criminals in order to ensure that they won’t be robbed or brutalized by the recipients of the bribe or other lawbreakers. It isn’t attractive or honorable, but it’s a way of ensuring short-term peace and quiet from terrorist missile barrages. Stripped of all the self-congratulatory rhetoric emanating from both Washington and Lapid’s camp, that’s all that Israel appears to be getting here. The basics involve an Israeli decision to completely surrender the rights to one of the gas fields—Qana—about which Lebanon put forward an utterly bogus claim rather than to split it. In exchange, Israel is being asked to believe that eventually it will receive from Lebanon a percentage of the Qana revenues. American officials are also assuring Israel that Hezbollah won’t profit from any of it. No serious person believes either promise will be fulfilled. Yet Jerusalem is supposed to be comforted by Biden’s promise that the U.S. will guarantee that the agreement is kept, as well as another vacuous pledge about ensuring Israeli security. Nor does it in any way, shape or form constitute a Lebanese recognition of Israel’s right to exist or a stepping stone towards normal relations. A ceasefire agreement accompanied by an economic payoff may be better than a war, though we shouldn’t assume that Hezbollah’s threats were credible, since both it and Lebanon stand to lose everything they value should they actually provoke an all-out conflict with Israel. But that shouldn’t be confused with peace. All of which makes plain that this is the traditional model of Middle East diplomacy that is predicated on pressure on Israel to appease its foes in exchange for meaningless promises and empty guarantees that it can’t possibly rely on. That is the opposite of the sort of diplomacy that the Trump foreign-policy team pursued—one based on building on the common interests of both Israelis and the Arab states in working together against Iran, and on the benefits of normal relations, including trade and travel. The formula adopted by the Obama and Biden administrations involves Israel’s giving up tangible assets in exchange for something that is called peace but is nothing of the kind. The Trump formula omitted the Israeli concessions and led to genuine progress towards peace, as well as tangible advantages for all involved. It remains to be seen whether the best-case scenario for the agreement will help, rather than hurt, Lapid or Israel. Nor is it clear whether it will achieve Biden’s goal of ingratiating an Iranian regime currently preoccupied with crushing its own people’s hopes for an end to theocratic tyranny. But even if it does temporarily buy quiet with Hezbollah, the notion that it is some kind of diplomatic achievement or in any way comparable to the Abraham Accords isn’t merely an exaggeration. Appeasement and buying protection from criminals only strengthen the forces that are committed to endless war against the existence of the Jewish state. That ultimately makes peace less, rather than more, likely.
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The missed opportunities of ‘Leopoldstadt’ Andrew Silow-Carroll is editor in chief of the New York Jewish Week and senior editor of the Jewish Telegraphic Agency. Follow him @SilowCarroll.
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Tom Stoppard is one of those playwrights who flatters you with his erudition. His 1993 play “Arcadia” dives deeply into the mathematics of algorithms and fractals. His breakthrough 1966 play, “Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead,” is a graduate school-level midrash — an alternate telling — of “Hamlet.” You leave the theater feeling smarter, and maybe just a touch self-satisfied, for just having kept up with the dialogue. It helps that Stoppard has always seemed to thoroughly absorb his interests in science, politics and literature before transposing them into drama and comedy. The characters seem to inhabit the worlds they are recreating onstage, rather than declaiming from a playwright’s overstuffed research files. That’s why I was so disappointed with his latest play, “Leopoldstadt,” which opened on Broadway earlier this month. It’s an epically scaled play about the Holocaust, centering on multiple generations of a prosperous assimilated Viennese Jewish family. As staged by the playwright and director Patrick Marber, it is never dull, but rarely compelling. As Austria becomes increasingly inhospitable to its Jews, characters debate Zionism, Freudianism, the price of assimilation and the persistence of antisemitism in the style of an earnest high school textbook. From the fin-de-siècle opening act to the final reveal about the unspeakable fate of most of the characters, it felt less like a play than a pageant — professional, effective, well-meaning — staged for a Holocaust museum. It feels churlish to insist that a play about the Holocaust do more to move or engage me. And yet the most memorable and justifiable works of what we inadequately call Holocaust art — Anne Frank’s diary, Art Spiegelman’s “Maus,” the exquisite 1983 Hungarian film “The Revolt of Job” — bear witness by transforming an inhuman era and unimaginable tragedy into something deeply specific and personal. Such specific-
An assimilated Jewish character based on a young Tom Stoppard, right, is confronted by a cousin who survived the Holocaust in Tom Stoppard’s play “Leopoldstadt,” now on Broadway. ity is the answer to philosopher Theodor Adorno’s famous dictat, “To write poetry after Auschwitz is barbaric.” It is also the opposite of what the New Yorker dance critic Arlene Croce once derided as “victim art” – that is, works that seem to exploit tragedy to make themselves critic-proof. Stoppard’s play is not exploitative, but intelligent and sincere. I understand why critics and audiences have found it moving, “brilliant,” “beautiful” and “prescient.” But I do feel what power it has relies on a story we know all too well — the very worst story in the history of the Jews — and not on the specificity of its characters or ideas. In the recent Ken Burns’ documentary “The U.S. and the Holocaust,” writer Daniel Mendelsohn discusses growing up in America and how little he heard about relatives who perished in Europe. “We had pictures of them. And on the back of every picture, my grandfather always wrote, ‘Uncle Shmiel, killed by the Nazis,’ or ‘Aunt Esther, killed by the Nazis.’ And I always wondered, why are there no stories about these people?” To his great credit, Stoppard set out to tell such stories. Stoppard, who is 85, famously discovered, or at least took seri-
ously, his Jewish ancestry only late in life. Long considered a quintessentially British writer, he is in fact the son of Jewish refugees who fled Czechoslovakia for Singapore in the 1930s. His father, whom he never knew, was lost at sea and his mother married a British Army major named Kenneth Stoppard. As Stoppard’s biographer, Hermione Lee, explains, his mother “never told her sons, either that she was Jewish or that most of her family had perished in the Holocaust. They would find out, very much later.” “Leopoldstadt” is a portrait — in essence, a resurrection — of an extended family like his own. That so many of the more than 30 characters on stage feel so generic is a pity. It is also a pity that the most compelling and particular story Stoppard has to tell — what it means to reclaim a Jewish identity that had been hidden behind a defensive moat of Englishness — is consigned to the all-too-brief final act of “Leopoldstadt.” The scene includes a callow British writer not unlike a young Stoppard, who is told by a cousin who survived the camps, “You live as if without history, as if you throw no shadow behind you.”
I can only imagine the Stoppard play it would have been had he centered his and his mother’s story: a son confronting his family’s hidden, tragic past; the costs and opportunities of eradicating one’s roots; the responsibility that comes with knowing, the guilt of surviving because of an accident of history and geography Those are deeply American Jewish concerns as well. Most American Jews did not by any means repudiate their Judaism during World War II, but, as historian Lucy S. Dawidowicz wrote, “The Jews who survived Auschwitz, Belsen and Maidanek were stunned by the normalcy of the world to which they returned. They soon noted that American Jews — notwithstanding those who had served in the armed forces — had lived through the war years in safety, without having made great sacrifices. It rankled the survivors that American Jews had not staked their own security to save the European Jews.” That is a serious charge, worth debating. It is in part the subject of Burns’ film. Their responses to the Holocaust shape American Jews’ attitudes toward Israel, toward their Jewish identities and toward their politics, especially when it comes to immigration. Perhaps there can never be too many primers on the Holocaust, no matter the medium. And it’s possible that American theatergoers 80 years after Auschwitz have only a passing knowledge of the Holocaust; there’s research to suggest they might. But a different play could have helped all of us, especially the children and grandchildren of American Jews who lived through the Holocaust and of those families that barely survived, to confront the shadows thrown by the past.
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Have you had enough of crime? BY MARTY ROCHESTER
Have you had enough? Have you had it with the daily reports of stolen cars, breakins, homicides and assorted other crimes committed in St. Louis and all across the country? Coinciding with this, have you had it with the bizarre excuses made for criminals along with liberal activists passing legislation promoting early release from prison, cashless bail and other lax law enforcement measures? Just to cite a few examples last month from two cities, Memphis and St. Louis: • Ezekiel Kelly, 19, went on a shooting spree in Memphis, killing four people and announcing his actions on Facebook. He had been charged previously with attempted first-degree murder but was sentenced to only three years on a lesser charge of aggravated assault and served only 11 months. • Cleotha Henderson, who was accused of kidnapping and murdering a Memphis schoolteacher last month, had served 20 years in prison due to a previous kidnapping conviction before being released in 2020. • D’Ante Carter, 38, of St. Louis, was arrested as an accomplice in the theft of 39 catalytic converters two years ago. Among the victims was an organization that helped disabled children. Carter pleaded guilty to a conspiracy charge and was sentenced to only nine months in jail. Shall I go on? I could cite the statistic
that two-thirds of prisoners released from federal prison end up committing crimes and returning to jail, as well as other statistics that debunk progressive theories that are sympathetic to criminals and only aggravate the crime problem. But I will stop here because most critiques of liberal nostrums about crime are well-known and are based on not just empirical evidence but common sense. There are, of course, some exceptions; that is, cases of decent citizens who made bad decisions based on unfortunate circumstances, cases of wrongful convictions, cases of inmates who do become rehabilitated and are model citizens once released, and other data that support progressive law reform proposals. However, most data support the views and concerns of conservatives and average citizens who are fed up with the rising crime wave. To understand why this is so, we need to consider the basic reasons why people obey laws in any society. The first is the threat of punishment for illegal behavior (the coercive motive). A second is the mutual interests that individuals have in seeing that laws are obeyed (the utilitarian motive). A third is the internalization of the rules by the members of the society or habits of compliance; people obey the law because that is what they have come to accept as the legitimate, right thing to do (the identitive motive). All these elements can operate to produce obedience to the
law. Consider for a moment why most people bother to stop at a stop sign at a busy intersection. One reason is the coercive element, the possibility that a police officer might be lurking around the corner and might stop them if they do not stop themselves. Another is the utilitarian motive, the possibility that another car might accidentally collide with their vehicle if they pass through the intersection without stopping. As powerful as these two motives are, the main driving force behind the inclination to stop at a stop sign is probably the simple habitual nature of the act, which has been inculcated as part of the “code of the road.” Even if one were driving through the middle of Death Valley in California, where no police cars or other vehicles were visible for several miles, there would be a tendency to stop if somehow one were to encounter a red stop sign sticking out of the desert sand. (Admittedly, one might be more likely to do a “rolling stop,” but few would simply speed on by and ignore the sign completely.) The point is that law and order can function to some extent even in the absence of police. Indeed, any society that relies primarily on coercive threats as the basis for order is terribly fragile. Still, police obviously are not an insignificant law enforcement agency, and to the extent we are undermining police, as we are doing today
J. Martin Rochester, Curators’ Distinguished Teaching Professor of Political Science Emeritus at the University of Missouri-St. Louis, is the author of 10 books on international and American politics. with “defund the police” slogans and hamstringing their use of force, we are weakening our legal system. We are also weakening the utilitarian and identitive motivations that support a legal system. It is especially habits of compliance that are at risk today, when there seems a total breakdown in law and order, with criminals feeling free to engage in smash and grab shoplifting sprees, carjackings, arson and other such activities, emboldened by liberal prosecutors and others who question the fairness of our legal system and the larger society and are willing to overlook so much crime. Recall the decline of crime in the 1990s was associated not only with adoption of tougher law enforcement policies such as “stop and frisk” but also implementation of the “fix broken windows” paradigm that signaled society would not even tolerate minor infractions if they had the effect of encouraging more serious criminal behavior. Such deterrents to crime are now gone. Until common sense is restored and we strengthen the foundations of law enforcement, we will continue to see an upsurge in crime in St. Louis and elsewhere.
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EvErybody lovES Phil Writer/producer Rosenthal featured at Jewish Book Festival
BY PATRICIA CORRIGAN SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH LIGHT
What was so special about Helen Rosenthal’s matzoh ball soup? “Nothing,” her son Phil says. In the second season of “Somebody Feed Phil,” Rosenthal’s Netflix show, he featured the dish in the New York City episode. In an interview from his home in Los Angeles, Rosenthal explained, “It wasn’t particularly special as a food in the world, but it’s the best thing my mom made.” That high praise landed the recipe for Helen’s 4-Star Matzoh Ball Soup in the pages of “Somebody Feed Phil the Book: Untold Stories, Behind-the-Scenes Photos and Favorite Recipes — A Cookbook,” by Rosenthal and food writer Jenn Garbee. The book features 60 recipes from the chefs whom viewers met during the first four seasons of the show, gorgeous food photos, and behind-the-scenes pictures and stories. Rosenthal, 62, will be happy to tell you more about the book at 7:30 p.m. Nov. 5 at a St. Louis Jewish Book Festival “bookend event” in the Jewish Community Center’s Edison Gymnasium at the Staenberg Family Complex. Ian Froeb, restaurant critic at the St. Louis Post-Dispatch, will interview Rosenthal.
Rabbi Brad Horwitz, chief Jewish engagement officer at the J, said the idea to bring in Rosenthal came from the festival’s committee members. “He’s open, and he’s relatable,” Horwitz said. “And he comes from a Jewish heritage, so there is that cultural connection.” If you haven’t seen “Somebody Feed Phil,” maybe you know Rosenthal as the creator of the award-winning TV comedy “Everybody Loves Raymond,” which aired for nine seasons. Fans will enjoy Rosenthal’s first book,
“You’re Lucky You’re Funny,” about his early life and the creation and growth of the show. Or perhaps you watched the PBS documentary series “I’ll Have What Phil’s Having,” the previous incarnation of “Somebody Feed Phil.” On his unscripted culinary-themed travel show, the personable Rosenthal travels far and wide to shop in city markets, meet people and learn about local cuisines. “My purpose is not just to eat and make a face,” he said. “I’m using food and my stupid sense of humor to show how great the world would be if we all could experience other people’s experiences. You go somewhere new and be nice, and what you get in return is a new perspective. Travel literally enhances your life.” Each of the book’s 22 chapters showcases the places Rosenthal has traveled, including Bangkok, New Orleans, Venice, the Mississippi Delta, Copenhagen, San Francisco, Marrakesh, Hawaii, Montreal and Dublin. In the first season, he visited Tel Aviv and environs. “I was thrilled with the food there,” he said. “It’s some of best on earth.” In that episode, he gleefully downs a fried eggplant sandwich, oxtail soup and a herring See PHIL ROSENTHAL on page 17A
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Jewish Book Festival starts with talk by former U.S. ambassador to Ukraine
Former Ambassador to Ukraine Marie Yovanovitch opens the 2022 St. Louis Jewish Book Festival.
Former U.S. Ambassador to Ukraine Marie Yovanovitch will be the keynote author kicking off the 2022 St. Louis Jewish Book Festival. The Jewish Community Center will host the 44th annual book festival from Nov. 6-13. At 7 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 6, Yovanovitch will be joined at the J’s Performing Arts Center by Professor James Wertsch of Washington University to discuss her new book, “Lessons from the Edge: A Memoir.” The festival will offer a diverse lineup of bestselling authors, investigative journalists, nationally known chefs, true crime events and more. Highlights include:
• Author Charles Bosworth Jr. and local criminal defense attorney Joel Schwartz, who will discuss “Bone Deep Untangling the Betsy Faria Murder Case.” • Investigative journalist and New York Times bestselling author Gregory Zuckerman, who will speak about “A Shot to Save The World: The Inside Story of the Life-Or-Death Race for a COVID-19 Vaccine.” • Star of the Netflix reality show, “My Unorthodox Life,” Julia Haart, who will discuss her bestselling book, “Brazen.” View the full lineup of more than 25 festival authors and a full schedule online at stljewishbookfestival.org.
St. Louis Jewish Book Festival event: Phil Rosenthal WHEN: 7:30 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 5 WHERE: Edison Gymnasium at the Jewish Community Center’s Staenberg Family Complex, 2 Millstone Campus Drive HOW MUCH: Single tickets cost $45 for one ticket plus a book or $60 for two tickets and a book. An all-access pass for the festival, which costs $118, does not include the book. MORE INFO: Ian Froeb, restaurant critic at the St. Louis PostDispatch, will interview Rosenthal. Rosenthal’s visit is a “bookend event” taking place a day before the start of the St. Louis Jewish Book Festival, which runs Nov. 6-13. For more information, visit stljewishbookfestival.org. ADDITIONAL FESTIVAL COVERAGE: Find more book festival coverage beginning digitally the week of Oct. 24 and in the Nov. 2 print edition of the Light).
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Documentia by CRC’s Benjamin Kaplan takes an artistic look at dementia, celebrating the memories BY BILL MOTCHAN SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH LIGHT
Benjamin Kaplan’s work ‘Documentia Englishhtown Raceway 1981.’ An exhibition of Kaplan’ work runs through Nov. 26 at The Kranzberg and he will give an artist’s talk at 3 p.m. on Oct. 22.
Artists often use real life experiences to inspire their work. That’s exactly the case for St. Louis multidisciplinary artist Benjamin Kaplan. He channeled the raw emotions of being a caregiver to family members. Then he used his creativity to develop a new exhibition called “Documentia” now on display at The Gallery at The Kranzberg in Grand Center. The exhibition’s name is a take-off on dementia, a subject with which Kaplan is all too familiar. In the past few years, Kaplan, who attends Central Reform Congregation, has witnessed his grandparents and his father suffer from memory loss. Documentia does not focus on the sadness of dementia but rather celebrates memories and senses, Kaplan said. “Here’s this super brutal disease and we as caregivers and family members undertake and walk this journey with our loved ones,” said Kaplan, 51. “My hope was to mine something positive and hopeful that maybe one could take Artist Benjamin Kaplan away. These works were helpful to me to begin the healing process.” members affected by dementia. The medium of choice for “It was a cathartic process to Art exhibit: Documentia is a series of digital dive into these stories and recolcollages. If you’ve ever created a ‘Documentia’ lections of mine and of me and my collage using paste and magazine dad,” he said. “The dad I rememclippings, this method uses tech- Work by Benjamin Kaplan ber was lost years ago and this nology. Kaplan said Photoshop WHEN: Through Nov. 26 was a nice opportunity to try to gives him control over the collage WHERE: The Kranzberg, reconnect with that virile and elements and simplifies his set of 501 N Grand Blvd St. strong guy that would take me to tools. He still sometimes creates Louis, MO 63103 ballgames and barhopping. Now collage components with rollers he is a shell of who he was, so it and print screens but using a lap- HOW MUCH: Free was kind of like having a time top computer allows him to auto- MORE INFO: www. machine to recall those positive kranzbergartsfoundation. experiences, a celebration of his mate the process. Kaplan said Documentia was org/events/documentia/ life rather than holding on to all of one of his most personal projects, this sadness and anger, which as because of the subject matter and close family someone who is grieving, I still do.”
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Israeli sculptor mounts new show at Grand Center BY BILL MOTCHAN SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH LIGHT
Noted Israeli sculptor Leon Bronstein’s work is on display in St. Louis in the Grand Center arts district at the Caitlyn Gallery, located on the first floor of the Angad Arts Hotel in Grand Center. The gallery is owned by Bronstein’s longtime friend and supporter Rich Winters, who introduced the St. Louis art community to the sculptor in previous exhibits. Bronstein lives in Ein Hod, an artists village in Israel. From March 2020 to May 2021, the Aronson Gallery at St. Louis University Museum of Art featured the artist’s work at the exhibit “Leon Bronstein: Between the Fantastic and the Real.” Born in Moldova in the former Soviet Union, he was trained as an engineer and worked as a watchmaker before forging a new creative path. While putting the finishing touches on the new exhibit, “The Time is Now.” Bronstein, 72, discussed his work with the Jewish Light. When did you get started in your career as a sculptor?
It was a big accident. We arrived in Israel in 1979, and I was looking for a job. I visited a plant that produced souvenirs for tourists. I asked for a job sweeping the floor or fixing machines. I told the factory owner I could make a sculpture. I went outside and found a big root of an olive tree, and in three hours I made a super-realistic sculpture. The owner told me, “Leon, you will work here as a sculptor.” No more sweeping floors.
very exact. Then I build the structure. That process is very creative. You never see the structure exactly like the drawing. How would you describe the style of your work? I’ve been working for 43 years in this field, and I’m always changing my style.
I’m looking for new forms and new possibilities to use this kind of material and to create something emotional. I have a story for everyone. Every sculpture I make has a kind of emotion present to me. And I am sure that people who will come to see it, they will have some kind of emotion.
‘The Time is Now’ Sculpture by Israeli artist Leon Bronstein
Did you have some experience creating objects from wood before that? Yes, I was always able to work with knives and the roots of trees. I always created things as a hobby, but I never had a chance to show what I could do.
WHERE: Caitlyn Gallery, first floor of the Angad Arts Hotel, 3550 Samuel Shepard Drive, in the Grand Center arts district
How have your tools progressed from a knife and tree root? Now I use clay and metal molds, air tools and an argon welder.
WHEN: 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. The gallery is open from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Wednesday through Sunday. HOW MUCH: Free
What is your creative process like now when you begin a new sculpture? I always begin with a pencil sketch [which are also on display at the St. Louis exhibition]. The sketches are very precise,
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Celebrity Jeopardy, ‘Reboot’ and new horror flicks among parents in a small town. They think it’s making their kids harm themselves and others. Then a real-life version of ‘Grimcutty’ starts attacking teen Asha Caudry, but no one believes her.” Virtual newcomer SARAH WOLFKIND, 22, plays Caudry. Wolfkind is the daughter of a Jewish father and an Asian-American mother. The supporting cast includes ALONA TAL, 38. You may recognize this actress, who was born and raised in Israel. Tal has had dozens of guest shots on American TV series since 2005. Her film work, however, has been in little seen, low budget movies. Tal plays a “Grimcutty” parent with an “interesting” son.
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St a nd - up c ome d i a n ILIZA SHLESINGER, 39, is on a roll. Last January, she and her husband, NOAH GALUTEN, had their first child. On Oct. 2, she was the winning contestant on “Celebrity Jeopardy” and will advance to the “winner playoffs.” Her sixth Netflix stand-up special, entitled “Hot Forever,” began streaming on Oct. 11. On the same day, her new book, “All Things Aside,” came out. It’s a mix of memoir and funny observations. Comedic actor IKE BARINHOLTZ, 45, also competed on “Celebrity Jeopardy” (Oct. 9) and he won, too. He and Shlesinger are in the same bracket and will compete against each other in the near future. That’s all I can report. The Celeb Jeopardy people deliberately don’t release info on contestants — when they will appear or reappear — until a week before they are on. I do know (leaked info) that comic writer BJ NOVAK, 44, will appear “sometime.” vvv “Reboot,” a Hulu series that premiered on Sept. 20, somehow flew under my radar. The main character’s “Jewish identity” is revealed in the third and fourth episodes (so stay with it). The 8-episode first season concludes on Oct. 25. The series was created by STEVEN LEVITAN, 60, who also created “Modern Family.” My review: “Reboot” is not a great series, but a good one, with a lot of good gentle humor. The set-up: Hannah Korman (RACHEL BLOOM, 35) writes a “reboot” script for “Step Right Up,” a hit sitcom that went off the air in 2007. The streaming channel Hulu likes Hannah’s script and approve a first “re-boot” season. What really grabs
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Paul Reiser and Rachel Bloom star in the Hulu series ‘Reboot.’ PHOTO COURTESY OF HULU them is that Hannah has made “Step Right Up,” a fairly tame broadcast network TV show, into something much more edgy and adult. It’s now a series that fits into a Hulu-like channel line-up. (Spoilers Ahead!) The reboot is in production when Gordon Gelman (PAUL REISER, 66) tells the channel that he still owns the rights to ‘Step Right Up.” Pretty soon, Gelman and Korman agree to co-head the reboot. Early on, we learn that Gelman and Korman know each other and have “a bad history.” Watch the series and find out if Hannah’s edgy approach, which the cast likes, can survive Gelman’s “old fashioned” comedy suggestions.
“Halloween End” opened in theaters on Oct. 14 and is still playing. Also, if you subscribe to the paid part of the streaming channel, Peacock, you can view it until Dec. 14. The film is the last part of a threefilm trilogy. As you might have guessed, Laurie Strode (JAMIE LEE CURTIS, 63) once again “battles” serial killer Michael Myers. Curtis/Strode has been fighting him since the original “Halloween” movie (1978!). Also in this film is KYLE RICHARDS, 53, who was a child actor in the original “Halloween” movie. Richards converted to Modern Orthodox Judaism when she married an observant Jewish man. Her sister married into the Hilton family and her niece is Paris Hilton.
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Well, October is the month in which a cascade of horror or spooky movies are released. Here are the chillers that I know have Jewish actors in them.
“Grimcutty,” an original Hulu film began streaming on Oct. 10. Here’s the official description: “A scary internet meme called ‘Grimcutty’ stirs panic
Phil Rosenthal: Writer/producer featured at Jewish Book Festival CONTINUED FROM PAGE 14A sandwich served with a shot of vodka. He visits a synagogue-theme eatery to sample the hummus. And he travels north to Akko (also known as Acre), where he spends time with Uri Jeremias, the chef who owns Uri Buri, a seafood restaurant. “He is such an inspirational figure,” Rosenthal said. “It’s like meeting Tevye.” Asked whether traveling in Israel affected how Rosenthal views his heritage, he said: “I am culturally and traditionally Jewish, but not religious. I am proud of Jews for
their many contributions, their culture, their philosophy and their values. I love the people, and I love that humor is a value.” Humor plays a big part in every episode of “Somebody Feed Phil,” and the book includes some of the hilarious back-andforth between Rosenthal and his parents on video calls he placed as he traveled. His dad, Max, died in June 2021; his mother, Helen, passed away in October 2019. “I have such a sense of joy that my parents lived long enough to see my brother Richard — he’s my producer — and me succeed with the show, working together in our lives and our careers,” Rosenthal said. “That gave them such naches.” Thinking again about his mother’s matzoh ball soup, Rosenthal recalled: “It was truly delicious, though a lot of her food wasn’t. She was a remarkable human being, one who came from one of the worst childhoods you can imagine, including time in a concentration camp. She was so cultured, kind and generous in other ways, but delicious food was not a priority for her. But this recipe is special to me because it comes from her.” At left: Phil Rosenthal, author of ‘Somebody Feed Phil the Book: Untold Stories, Behindthe-Scenes Photos, and Favorite Recipes: A Cookbook.’ PHOTO: TOM CALTABIANO At right, Rosenthal enjoys a meal in Tel Aviv while filming his Netflix show, ‘Somebody Feed Phil.’ PHOTO: RICHARD ROSENTHAL, IMAGES COURTESY OF SIMON ELEMENT, AN IMPRINT OF SIMON & SCHUSTER
“Hellraiser,” the 11th in a series of films dating back to 1987, began streaming on Hulu on Oct. 7. This film reportedly will “set the table” for a “Hellraiser” series on HBO that is in development. The plot is so detailed that I will not try to summarize it. Trust me, it’s a scary movie. Two Jews have big parts: ODESSA A’ZION, 22, and BRANDON FLYNN, 29. A’zion plays Rily McKendry, a recovering drug addict. Flynn plays Matt McKendry, Rily’s estranged brother. A’Zion is the daughter of well-known comedy actor/writer PAMELA ADLON, 56 (“Better Things”). A few years back, Odessa decided to use her middle name (“Zion”) as her last name. She’s co-starred in two short-lived series. Flynn’s ancestry was very hard to trace. It’s almost all-Jewish, but he couldn’t determine if the ancestor who gave him the name “Flynn” was Jewish or not. Flynn has said his family is Jewish and he’s tweeted nice Hanukkah greetings. He’s best known for playing Justin Foley in the Netflix series “13 Reasons Why,” which streamed for four seasons (20172020).
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At left, Agathe Bonitzer stars in ‘A Bottle in the Gaza Sea,’ one of two films featured the 14th annual Israeli Film Festival at Congregation Temple Israel on Oct. 30.
SATURDAY | OCT. 22
SUNDAY | OCT. 23 Art Exhibit & Reception with Tsila Schwartz & Mark Witzling
From 2 to 4 p.m. visit the Art Gallery located in B’nai Amoona’s Krupat Oberman Community Lounge to view the current exhibition featuring the works of Judaic calligrapher and artist Tsila Schwartz and abstract impressionist painter Mark Witzling. This exhibit runs through Dec. 4.
‘Trash or Treasure 2022’
Hoping that some items in your home are unrealized treasures? Take advantage of this opportunity to meet with experts from Kodner Gallery and find out – is it “Trash or Treasure” from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Proceeds benefit the Covenant Place Foundation, which supports programs and services at Covenant Place and Mirowitz Center. The categories are art, general collectibles, books/manuscripts and jewelry. The cost is $20 for the first item, $10 for the second. Register online at http://bit.ly/Register_ MirowitzCenter or call 314-733-9813.
TUESDAY | OCT. 25 NCJW coffee talk with Alan Light At noon, join NCJWSTL for the latest in its Coffee Talk series, this month featuring Alan Light, an Emmy-winning music journalist, author, and the co-host of “Debatable,” a daily music talk show on SiriusXM. Visit https://bit.ly/Oct22CT to register. For more information, email Chrissy Bellizzi at CBellizzi@ncjwstl.org or call 314-993-5181.
Interfaith Vigil to Save Children’s Lives
See related news brief on page 7A.
WEDNESDAY | OCT. 26 Jerusalem Report editor discusses Israeli Elections 2022
From 10 to 11 a.m., the Mirowitz center welcomes Steve Linde, editor of The Jerusalem Report, for an online discussion of the 2022 Israeli elections, its fifth election since 2019. Jewish Light Editor-in-Chief Ellen Futterman will introduce the program’s speaker. Free, but RSVP s are required to 314-7339813, or visit http://bit.ly/Register_MirowitzCenter.
THURSDAY | OCT. 27 What’s new for Medicare in 2023? From 2 to 3 p.m., Wilma Schmitz, St. Louis Region liaison and trainer for CLAIM (Missouri’s State Health Insurance Assistance Program), will discuss what’s new for Medicare in 2023 at the Mirowitz Center. This year’s Medicare Open Enrollment Period runs Oct. 15 through Dec. 7. CLAIM counselors are trained and certified by Medicare to provide unbiased counseling to Missourians. This program is co-sponsored by St. Louis NORC and Mirowitz Center.
FRIDAY | OCT. 28 Tech Tutor: Get organized
From 10 to 11 a.m. longtime Mirowitz Center instructor Larry Edison will lead a Tech Tutor session on digital tools to help you get organized. He will discuss using smartphone applications including setting reminders and using a digital calendar. Tech Tutor is supported by a grant from the Women’s Auxiliary Foundation for Jewish Aged. This Mirowitz Center event is free and open to the community. Register online at http://bit.ly/Register_MirowitzCenter or call 314-733-9813.
SUNDAY | OCT. 30 NHBZ all-you-can eat pizza night From 5-7 p.m., enjoy a dine-in buffet of delicious kosher pizza, pasta, salad, garlic bread plus a dessert and beverage. There are even movies for your kids. Prices are $15 for adults, $7 for kids ages 4-10, and free for kids ages 3 and under. The pizza cheese is Cholov Yisroel and pareve crusts are available upon request. Charge cards are accepted. For more information, call 314-991-2100.
Beyond Pink at the J: A morning of wellness and education See related news brief on page 7A.
14th Annual Israeli Film Festival
From 3:30 to 8 p.m. Temple Israel will host the 14th Annual Israeli Film Festival. Guests can enjoy two Israeli films as well as Israeli-style refreshments during the intermission. Guests are welcome to attend one or both films. At 3:30 p.m., the documentary “In Search of Israeli Cuisine” will be shown. The film features award-winning chef Michael Solomonov going on a journey through Israel (film is suitable for middle school and above). At 6 p.m. guests can view “A Bottle in the Gaza Sea,” about a friendship emerging between a Palestinian boy and an Israeli girl, originating from a message in a bottle tossed into the sea (suitable for high school and above). The festival is open to the community but RSVPs required: www.ti-stl.org/Films. A $5 donation requested.
‘Jews in Science’ series
Kol Rinah’s Jews in Science series continues at 4 p.m. on Zoom with a discussion on “What is Life?” with professionals looking at medical, Jewish and psychological aspects of this age-old question. First, participants will hear from a transplant surgeon, Dr. Ralph Graff, followed by Larry Friedman, who will discuss Jewish law’s views on when life begins and the issue of abortion. Then, Dr. Randi Mozenter will lead a group discussion about the psychological and behavioral impact of abortion legislation. Register online at www.kolrinahstl.org/form/oct-30what-is-life.
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STARTING | OCT. 30 The sacred language of our people: Hebrew for beginners
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Free and open to the community. Register online at http://bit.ly/Register_MirowitzCenter or call 314-733-9813.
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Beshert 101 — a workshop that will introduce the many Jewish customs that can add meaning to your wedding and your marriage. Plus, you’ll have the chance to meet other Jewish and interfaith couples who are in a similar chapter in their lives. Beshert 101 will provide a safe and joyful space for engaged (and almost-engaged) people of all gender identities, sexual orientations, races and religious backgrounds. Open to the entire St. Louis community. The workshop takes place from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. in the Kehillah Center at Share Emeth. For more information, email Rabbi Rachel Bearman at Rbearman@sestl.org. Register online at https://congregationshaareemeth. shulcloud.com/form/Beshert
Service of Hope for those with Memory Loss & their Caregivers’ Congregation Shaare Emeth welcomes the community to attend “Let There Be Light, Let There Be Love: A Service of Hope for Those with Memory Loss and Their Caregivers,” from 11 a.m. to noon. Rabbi Andrea Goldstein will lead this healing service dedicated to those members of the community struggling with Alzheimer’s and dementia and their caregivers. RSVP at https://sestl.co/lightlove or email Stacy Jespersen sjespersen@sestl.org.
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On Sundays from 10 to 11:15 a.m., from Oct. 30 to April 30, Shaare Emeth will offer a Hebrew for beginners class. This course will teach participants to read the prayers in Hebrew and understand the meaning as well. Registration cost includes the book and all supplies. The cost is $120 for members and $160 for non-members. Register at https://sestl.co/hebrew.
STARTING | OCT. 31 At Shaare Emeth: Wise Aging: Finding awareness within
Wise Aging is a six-session program, on Mondays from 1–3 p.m., Oct. 31 to Dec. 12, which enables participants who are retirement age and older to discover the possibilities for living the years ahead with joy, resilience and spirit. Wise Aging combines Jewish texts and practices with poetry, secular writings and heartfelt dialogue to challenge participants to develop their own sense of what it means to “grow a heart of wisdom.” This program is facilitated by Sharon Weissman and Debbie Bram at Congregation Shaare Emeth. The cost is $45 for members and $60 for non-member (includes Wise Aging book & all materials). Register at https://sestl.co/wiseaging
WEDNESDAY | NOV. 2
NHBZ Family Game Day
Get your game on and have fun with other families! All ages are invited to NHBZ’s Family Game Day from 1 to 4 p.m. There will be plenty of games to choose from or you can bring your own. Enjoy door prizes and yummy snacks. Raffle tickets for great prizes are available. Free and open to the community. For more information call 314-991-2100.
SUNDAY | NOV. 6 & 13 Two-part discussion on voting through a Jewish lens See related news brief on page 8A.
TUESDAY | NOV. 8 The ABCs of Judaism
Rabbi Ze’ev Smason will continue his “ABCs of Judaism” series from noon to 1 p.m. during this in-person talk at the Mirowitz Center. Free and open to the community. Register online at http://bit.ly/Register_MirowitzCenter or call 314-733-9813.
THURSDAY | NOV. 10 Learn about Harvey Kornblum Jewish Food Pantry and OFS
“UNITE!” with Sen. Jill Schupp
From 2 to 3 p.m., State Sen. Jill Schupp will speak at the Mirowitz Center about an initiative started by a group of 10 Republican and Democratic women currently serving in Missouri’s Senate. They found enough common ground to begin exploring, studying, and researching best practices to promote literacy – including writing and publishing a book, “You Can, Too!” Their book highlights all 36 women who ever served in the Missouri Senate. Free and open to the community. Register online at http://bit.ly/Register_MirowitzCenter or call 314-733-9813.
From 2 to 3 p.m. hear from Kristen Wild, president and CEO of Operation Food Search (OFS), and Erica Steen, director of the JFS Harvey Kornblum Jewish Food Pantry, as they share their unique perspectives, focusing on how food banks and food pantries partner to help meet the nutritional needs of thousands of local families, children and older adults. The Jewish Food Pantry just celebrated its 30th anniversary and OFS marked its 40th anniversary as a food bank in 2021. This in-person Mirowitz Center event is free and open to the community. Register online at http://bit.ly/Register_ MirowitzCenter or call 314-733-9813.
THURSDAY | NOV. 3
FRIDAY | NOV. 11
Online talk on how to declutter
Veterans Day 2022 salute
From 10 to 11 a.m. Design Consultant Linda Kusmer will lead an online discussion about how to declutter your home. This program is co-sponsored by Mirowitz Center and St. Louis Senior Kollel. Free and open to the community. Register online at http:// bit.ly/Register_MirowitzCenter or call 314733-9813.
Holocaust Memorial Lecture See related news brief on page 8A.
SATURDAY | NOV. 5 Beshert 101: A class for the engaged and soon-to-be engaged If you are engaged or anticipate being engaged soon, then you’re invited to
From noon to 1 p.m. join the Mirowitz Center community at its annual Veterans Day celebration. Monroe Ginsburg, commander of the Midwest Department of the Jewish War Veterans, will speak and salute those who have served in the U.S. armed forces. Then, at 1 p.m., we will gather together to view the PBS documentary, “GI Jews,” which highlights the profound and remarkable story of the 550,000 Jewish Americans who served their country in World War II. This program is co-sponsored by the Mirowitz Center, Jewish War Veterans and the St. Louis Kaplan Feldman Holocaust Museum. This in-person Mirowitz Center event is free and open to the community. Register online at http://bit.ly/Register_ MirowitzCenter or call 314-733-9813.
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VLADIMIR O. BEKKER, October 5, 2022 Beloved husband of Alla Bekker and the late Nina Bekker; dear father and father-in-law of Simon V. (Jennifer) Bekker of Springfield, IL. And Julia (Andrew) Croce of Collingswood, NJ; Dear grandfather of Naomi Bekker, Ilana Bekker, Leah Croce and Jeremy Croce; Dear son of the late Ovsey Bekker and the late Cherna Feldman; Dear brother of Tamara (late Anatoly) Frishberg; Dear uncle, cousin, and friend to many. A funeral service was held Sunday, October 9 at Berger Memorial Chapel, 9430 Olive Blvd. 63132. Interment followed at Beth Hamedrosh Hagodol Cemetery, 9125 Ladue Rd. 63124. The service was livestreamed at www. bergermemorialchapel.com. In lieu of flowers, we respectfully ask for any memorial contributions be referred to the American Cancer Society. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE KENNETH CHAPEL died on Friday, October 7. He was the dream husband of Annabelle Chervitz Chapel; the favorite father of Fawn Chapel (Alan Nemes), Paige Chapel (Rhian Lombard), Hal Chapel (Debbie Danielpour Chapel), and Craig Chapel (Audrey Sheldon Chapel); the adored ZZ (grandfather) of Rafi Nemes (Shira Kelin), Casara Nemes (Jonathon Leiner), Hody Nemes (Ariella Nadler), Kari Lombard (Rob Thunstall), Lucas Chapel, Hannah Chapel (Nick Schraut), Shayna Chapel (Aaron Cotton), Ben Chapel, and Jonah Chapel; and the sweet great-grandfather of Shaya, Halleli, Henry, Julian, and Emmett. Kenny was the loving son of Sam and Sarah Chapel. He was devoted to his late siblings Betty Chapel, Jake (Bessie) Chapel, Paul Chapel, Ann
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OBITUARIES INDEX Bekker, Vladimir O. Chapel, Kenneth Faintich, Carol A. Gimpelson, Nancy Lee
Orenstein, Herbert Stanley Arlene Levy Rosengarten Sale, Randa Sue
Goldstein, Marianne Collin
Schneider, Nadine Barg
Gordon, Sylvia
Schwartzburt, Beverly (Sher)
Halpern, Melvin Hapner, Meier (Mickey) Jacob Lefton, Bob
Simpson, Lillian Talisnik, Sarah (Sally) B.
Madden, Allen Gary
Tennenbaum, Karen Suzanne “Sue”
Mink, Viola Ruth
Zibit, Helen Tam
NANCY LEE GIMPELSON, October 10, 2022 Nancy (Nan) Lee Aleshire Gimpelson passed away with her husband Richard and her son Jonathan by her side on October 10, 2022. She fought galanty against the brain cancer from which she eventually succumbed. Born on October 31, 1946 in Columbus, Ohio Nan is predeceased by her parents William and Charlotte (Wilson) Aleshire. She is survived by her husband Richard, her sons and daughter in law Joshua (Megan Morris) and Jonathan, her grandchildren Charlotte, Graeme and Lucy and her brother and sister-in-law Michael (Jill) Aleshire. She will be sadly missed by her nieces and nephews Allyson and Jim Olivera, Ryan and Emily Aleshire, Kristin and KC Middendorf and Mitchell Schneider. Nan grew up in a hard-working family in Grandview Heights, Ohio. Her father was a truck driver until the age of 55 when he became disabled and her mother worked as a waitress beyond the age of 80. Nan had that same work ethic beginning when she was a teenager working during the summer at a nursing home. She then became a Registered Nurse after graduating from St. Anthony’s School of Nursing in Columbus, Ohio. Her nursing career took her to operating room jobs in Chicago and Fort Myers. She eventually made her way to St. Louis and was able to find a job at Mercy Hospital as an operating room nurse. One day an OB-GYN Resident named Richard stepped into the operating room and was mesmerized by these sparkling brown eyes and he knew she was beautiful even though she was wearing a surgical cap, mask and scrubs. He immediately found an opportunity to get to know her and realized she wasn’t only beautiful but sweet, kind and had a sense of humor. After dating for 2 years, they married and during that time period she was promoted to head nurse of the operating room. After several years she retired to stay home and raise Joshua and Jonathan. When the boys became old enough, she returned to work in Richard’s office and continued working there until he sold his practice in 2011 and began working for Mercy Hospital St. Louis. Throughout her life we were able to enjoy many family vacations, in addition at least 2 trips a year to visit Nan’s family during winter holiday and during the summer for the Ohio state fair. When Nan’s mother was diagnosed with colon cancer and could no longer care for herself Nan had her come live with us until she passed away. Nan had many interests and activities but her greatest joy besides the family was working in her gardens. Nan was truly a down to earth person, was kind to everyone and had many friends. She never forgot the humble beginning she came from. She loved her boys and her husband until her final days. God blessed Richard, Joshua and Jon for having a wife and mother so loving and
beautiful as Nan. A graveside service was held Wednesday, Oct 19th, at Bellerive Gardens Cemetery, 740 Mason Road. Memorial contributions preferred to Martha’s Hands, Unity Hospice of St. Louis, Mercy Hospital St. Louis, Shriners Hospital, St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital and Aish HaTorah of St. Louis. Visit bergermemorialchapel. com for more information. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE MARIANNE COLLIN GOLDSTEIN, June 16, 1928 – October 9, 2022, passed away peacefully in Creve Coeur, MO. Beloved wife of 56 years to the late Milton N. Goldstein; dear mother of Jeffry R. Goldstein, Paul J. Goldstein, and Amy B. Robinson (Goldstein); grandmother of Adam, Jason, Stefany, Ben, Elizabeth, and Emily; greatgrandmother of Charlotte, Miles, Aria, Andrew, Audrey, Aiden, Avalynn, Dagny, Estrid, Rune, and Emily. Her loving heart will be missed. Although small in stature, Marianne had a great sense of humor and large presence. She will always be remembered for her daily response of “whatever” to the daily challenges life brought her way. She was there to help others when possible, and her pet project was genealogical research and completing her family tree. Those who spent time with Marianne know she had a gift for writing poetry and remembering old song lyrics. When talking with someone, a word or expression might prompt her to break into a favorite tune before adding, “I can’t help myself.” Born in Nürnberg, Germany, she came to the U.S. in 1936 when eight years old. She grew up in Falconer, NY where her father established his medical practice. After high school, she attended Case Western University, and she earned her B.A. in Biology and husband Milton earned his Ph.D. They then moved to Memphis. TN where Milton was part of the research staff at St. Jude Children’s Hospital when it opened in the 1960s. A few years later, they moved to St. Louis, MO where Marianne raised her children and lived until her passing. Marianne was an active member of the St. Louis Kaplan Feldman Holocaust Museum’s Memory Project. Learn more about her at https://stlholocaustmuseum.org/survivorstories/memory-project/marianne-goldstein/. Memorial contributions can be made to the St. Louis Kaplan Feldman Holocaust Museum. SYLVIA GORDON, October 10, 2022 Beloved wife of the late William Gordon; dear mother of Sandra L. Anderson (Chris), Michael A. Gordon (Sondra) and Terry D. Gordon (Vicki) of Denver, CO; dear grandmother of Jennifer Maupin and Meghan Biedermann (Josh), Andrew, Bradley and Jacqueline Gordon and Kelsey and Patrick Gordon; dear greatgrandmother of William Anderson and Jayden and Carolyn Biedermann; dear sister of the late Frances Trattler (late Jerry), the late Gilbert Lieberman (Sandi) and the late Marilyn Farber (Edward); dear sisterin-law of the late Harlan Gordon (late Barbara) and the late Celeste Boraz (late Harold); our dear aunt, cousin and friend. A graveside service was held Thursday, October 13 at Chesed Shel Emeth Cemetery, 650 White Road. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions are preferred to the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation Gateway Chapter, 8251 Maryland Avenue, Ste. 16, St. Louis, MO 63105. Please visit bergermemorialchapel.com for more information. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE
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MELVIN HALPERN, October 4, 2022 Beloved husband of Meryl Halpern and the late Beatrice Halpern; dear father and father-inlaw of Scott Halpern (Elise), Barbara Saeks (Gary), Dave Halpern (Sue), and James Halpern (Ruth); dear grandfather of Brian, Todd (Jackie), Lauren (Simon), Jeff (Abby), Blair (Zach), Chloe (Zack), Bradley, Amy (Zak); dear greatgrandfather of Bria, Blakely, Henry and Benjamin; dear brother of Phyllis Citow (late Barry), the late Seymour Halpern (late Marcia) and late Harold Halpern; dear brother-in-law of Alan Weber (Marcia), David Weber (Valerie) and Randye Rosser (the late Claude). Our dear uncle, cousin and friend. A graveside service was held Thursday, October 6th at B’nai Amoona Cemetery, 930 North and South. Please visit bergermemorialchapel.com for more information. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE MEIER (MICKEY) JACOB HAPNER, 85 of Memphis, TN, passed away peacefully on October 3, 2022 at home surrounded by his family. Mickey had fought heart disease courageously for over 35 years, and his family was at peace knowing his suffering had come to an end. Mickey was born on October 1, 1937, in St. Louis, MO to Rose (Arky) Hapner and Max Hapner. He attended Soldan High School where he met the love of his life, Brenda Weinstein. Immediately following graduation in 1956, he joined the United States Air Force, where he served proudly in m a ny locations including Alaska, Maine, and Wyoming. He and Brenda were married for 66 years and settled in St. Louis, where they raised their four children. As an AF&AM Mason for over 50 years, Mickey served as the Worshipful Master in St. Louis and again in Memphis. He was a member of the Scottish Rite, American Legion, and volunteered for many years with the Boy Scouts as a District Commissioner. He will be remembered for his love of entertaining and making people laugh. Whether he was jumping out of a plane in a clown suit, showcasing his puppet “Farfelonis,” or using what his children coined “Mickey-isms”, like “upstairs in the basement”, he left a legacy that will never be forgotten. Mickey is survived by his wife Brenda, brother Lawrence, four children and their spouses, Howard (Edie), Marty (Jonna), Risa (Steve Baer), and Robert (Sara), his grandchildren, Brittany, Stephanie (Anthony Petron), Leah, Jonah, and Ezra, and great grandchildren, Lucas and Lili. He was preceded in death by his parents and his brother Barry. A funeral service was held at Berger Memorial Chapel on October 9 with Rabbi Karen Bogard. The burial followed at Chevra Kadisha Cemetery. The family would like to thank the community for their ongoing support. Messages of condolences can be sent to mickeyhapner@gmail.com. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE
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OBITUARIES ROBERT EUGENE LEFTON, September 4, 1931 – October 6, 2022 Bob Lefton is reunited with Marlene, his beloved wife of 68 years. He passed away peacefully at home in his sleep on October 6, 2022. Many in the corporate world might say he was summoned by the great CEO in the sky for eternal leadership consultation after countless referrals from business leaders who preceded him. A lifelong St Louisan, Robert Eugene Lefton earned his Ph.D. in Psychology at Washington University in 1958. For his thesis, he studied the effects of stress from cigarette tars on the Swiss albino mouse. He willfully offered to read it or to recite one of his other favorite works, his Bar Mitzvah speech, to anyone interested in hearing either. Despite there being no takers, he faithfully continued his search. Upon graduation, he cofounded Psychological Associates, Inc. with Vic Buzzotta. Initially a clinical practice, they soon realized many of the principles they were using were relevant to businesses. They understood that empirically validated measurements and an emphasis on objective, observable behavior can lead to greater business results. This positioning of psychological principles changed the landscape of how businesses address leadership, organizational development, and talent management Bob was instrumental in creating the Dimensional Model of human behavior. He used it to evolve into a sage adviser whom countless businesspeople sought for his keen insight into people and leadership. He adeptly leveraged his skills as a consummate salesman and an excellent storyteller to translate the technical side of organizational psychology into meaningful advice that any businessperson could appreciate. Although he enjoyed claiming that his secret was a proficiency to dazzle people with his intellect and baffle them with his bull, the throngs who relied on his expertise knew otherwise. The most senior people in successful organizations from family businesses to global powerhouses consistently sought his counsel on leadership. Most of them also became friends, many among his closest. He connected with people so well because he liked and valued them. He was loyal, genuine, and valued long-term relationships. One of his many client turned close friends expressed a common sentiment upon learning of his passing by saying, “Bob was to me and my family, mentor, friend, and mensch.” Another offered, “the world was his friend.” Bob’s sense of loyalty extended to his staff. He felt a strong responsibility to his employees and was always concerned for their needs and well-being. He loved the opportunity to brighten their day by telling a good joke and the fact that they still smiled even when hearing some of his favorites again and again is a testament to the warmth with which he touched people. Above all else, Bob was devoted to his family. He was beloved husband of the late Marlene Rea Shanfeld; dear father and father-in-law of Jeff (Bry) Lefton, Cindy Lefton, and Brad Lefton; dear “Pawpaw” of Jessica and Katie Lefton; dear son of the late Rose Lefton; cherished brother and brother-in-law of the late Morris (the late Marlene) Lefton; dear son-in-law of the late Julius and the late Mary Shanfeld; dear brotherin-law of the late Sylvia (the late David) Siffer and Norma (the late Ash Finer) (the late Joe) Perll; dear half-brother-in-law of the late Irvin (the late Mignon) Shanfeld and the late Pearl Pat
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(the late Buddy) Fisher; dear uncle of Evan, Mike (Debbie), Amy Lefton, Hillary (Rich) Pandorf, Diane Baer, the late Alan Siffer, Martin, Steven and the late Marsha Finer. It would also be remiss not mention his everlasting love for his mother Rose’s three sisters and aunt and all of the cousins he cherished from their families (her sisters the late Lillian (Emil) Manne, the late Dorothy (Harold) Saks, the late Ethel “Pat” (Louis) Leve), her aunt, the late Sarah (Chiam) Goldstein). He never forgot their love and kindness during a difficult childhood in which his depression era mother was suddenly abandoned by her husband and left to raise two young boys alone. She placed them at the St. Louis Jewish Children’s Home as she sold dresses from the trunk of her car on consignment in a determined way to make ends meet. Without the loving support of the Iuster and Goldstein cousins, Bob could not have achieved the remarkable life that he enjoyed. A funeral service was planned for October 19 at Congregation Temple Israel, #1 Rabbi Alvan D. Rubin Drive, followed by interment at Beth Hamedrosh Hagodol Cemetery. Memorial contributions preferred to Palliative Care at Barnes Jewish Hospital, MERS Goodwill, National Council of Jewish Women St. Louis, or to the charity of the donor’s choice. Visit bergermemorialchapel.com for more information. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE ALLEN GARY MADDEN, October 10, 2022 Beloved husband of Shirley Neal Madden; dear father and father-inlaw of Jeffrey Madden, Robert Madden and Tracey (Victor) Ovsey; dear grandfather of Jonah Madden, Kara Madden and Lauren Osvey; dear brother of the late Mark Madden and the late Mike Madden; dear uncle cousin and friend to many. A graveside service was held Friday, October 14 at Chesed Shel Emeth Cemetery, 650 White Rd. 63017. Memorial contributions preferred to Ups for DownS, B’nai Amoona Congregation or a charity of your choice. Visit www.bergermemorialchapel. com for more information. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE VIOLA RUTH MINK, October 10, 2022 Beloved wife of the late Louis Mink; dear mother of Sandra Ellen Adams, Ronald J. Mink, and the late Pamela Jean Mink; dear step-mother of late Marilyn Datz; dear daughter of the late Oliver and the late Lottie Thomas; dear sister of the late Kathleen Thomas Johnston, the late Joyce Wavering , the late Dotta and Tom Laurie, the late Donna Estes, and Larry and late Francis Thomas; dear daughter-in-law of the late Chalel and Sophia (Serken) Mink; dear sister-in-law of the late Joseph and Ida (Novack) Mink; dearest grandmother, great-grandmother, aunt, cousin, and friend to many. A graveside service was held Sunday, October 16 at Chesed Shel Emeth Cemetery, 7500 Olive Boulevard. Memorial contributions preferred to Nusach Hari B’nai Zion, 650 Price Road, 63132. Please visit bergermemorialchapel.com for more information. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE
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HERBERT STANLEY ORENSTEIN died peacefully in his home on October 7, 2022, with his loving and devoted wife, Sue (Corn), nearby. Herb celebrated his 92nd birthday on October 2, 2022 and sang the “Happy Birthday” song along with his family. On September 29, he attended the wedding of his granddaughter, Elizabeth. Herb’s family believes that he kept himself alive so that he could attend the wedding and celebrate this joyous occasion with them. Having achieved his goal, he made the decision to let his failing body take its final rest. Herb was born in St. Louis, Missouri, in 1930 to parents Edward and Fannie Orenstein. He attended Soldan High School and Washington University and served in the U.S. Coast Guard. He worked in men’s clothing retail in cities throughout the Northeastern U.S. In 1967, Herb married Sue and her three children, Richard, Barbara, and Janet Essman. A caring and generous father, he raised the children as his own. He worked alongside Sue’s father, Melvin Corn, operating the St. Regis Hotel in St. Louis. In 1974, Herb and Sue purchased a fine gifts store in Clayton, renaming it Herbert’s Fine Gifts, which they operated for 22 years. Herb was an avid fan of all sports, especially major league baseball and football. For many years, he and Sue held season tickets to the St. Louis Rams. He was a sports and games trivia expert and knew minute details about the rules, history, and players of pursuits from basketball to billiards, ping pong to pinochle. He played softball on a team called the “Alta Kakkers”, bowled with the JWV and weekly poker games with his buddies. Herb and Sue enjoyed traveling together, experiencing varied local cuisines and cultures. Together they visited California, Texas, South Carolina, Alaska, and Australia. Their last vacation was in 2019 to Cape Cod, Massachusetts. In his final months of life, Herb was well-cared for by Sue, son Richard and daughter-in-law Vicki, whose nursing skills and caring demeanor were a blessing to Herb and his family. Herb spent a few weeks in rehabilitation care before returning to the Olivette home he shared with Sue for 55 years, where he took his final breath. Richard said, “All he wanted was to cross the finish line.” Herb was predeceased by his brothers and their wives, Lou and Frieda Orenstein and Julian and Pamela Orenstein. Herb is survived by his wife, Sue, son and daughter-in-law Richard and Vicki (Shaikewitz) Essman, daughters Barbara Essman and Janet Essman Franz and husband Paul, and adoring grandchildren Elizabeth Ogden and husband John-Christopher, Natalie Berich and husband Alex, Adam and Zac Franz, nephews and their wives Edward and Julie Orenstein, Michael and Anna Orenstein, and grand-nephews and nieces Nathan, David, Braham, Avi and Ellie Orenstein. A funeral service took place Wednesday October 12 at BERGER MEMORIAL CHAPEL, 9430 Olive Boulevard. Interment followed at Chesed Shel Emeth Cemetery in Chesterfield. Please visit bergermemorialchapel.com for Live Stream details. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE
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Continued from previous page ARLENE LEVY ROSENGARTEN, Passed on September 13th, 2022 Beloved mother of Jamie Young (Scott); Dear Grandmother of two beautiful grandchildren, Hayden and Berkley; Dear daughter of the late Norman and Celia Levy; Loving sister of Sandra Levy Krem; Dear Aunt to Michelle Krem Perris and her Husband Greg Perris; Great Aunt to Grant and Maren Perris; Dear Aunt to the late Natalie Gail Krem Trottier; Dear Great Aunt to Gabrielle, Spencer and Marissa Trottier; Carl Essen, devoted companion. She fought from ALS disease for three years with the same grit and will with which she approached all aspects of life. Arlene was an avid artist, loved going to her art classes to learn how to improve. Everyday she would carry her easel, canvases up the stairs with along with paints through the school halls. She would encourage her sister Sandy to practice everyday on some form of art, a way to improve. Arlene spent her career in the Ad specialty business starting in her twenty’s where she not only sold to her customers, but became friends with many, until the end of her life, doing what she loved. Arlene would type her words with her phone, then a voice would come through what she was saying, this way she stayed in contact with family, friends, and her business She was a volunteer in a variety of charitable causes, and serving others the best she could. Those who she has left behind will remember Arlene’s intellectual curiosity and insatiable desire to learn how to gain knowledge in many subjects. Arlene passed away peacefully , and will be dearly missed, may she rest in peace. Arlene was buried at Chased Shel Emeth Cemetery on October 3rd, 2022. Preferred contributions to ALS research, or Stray Rescue where she painted an animal of some kind to be auctioned every year RANDA SUE SALE, October, 11, 2022, Age 74 Beloved daughter of the late Fred R. Sale and the late Susan W. Sale, dearest sister of Dr. Scott R. Sale and “SIL” of Lori Z. Sale. Loving aunt to Jordan and Alex Sale. Niece of Bobby Sale Jester. Granddaughter of the late Else L. Weil, niece of the late Edith L. Rothschild. Lifelong friend of Kathy Sears and Patty Glaser. Beloved aunt, cousin and friend. Contributions in Randa’s memory may be made to The Independence Center of St. Louis, https:// independencecenter.org/donation-form/ NADINE BARG SCHNEIDER, October 11, 2022 Beloved wife of the late Joseph Schneider. Dear mother of the late Karen (Johnny) Kramer, Susan (Dean) Maes, Julie (David) Hawkins, Steven (Kim) Schneider, Joseph (Silvia) Schneider, and the late Michael Schneider. Loving grandmother of Dan (Rebecca) Graul, Coley (Dave) Huebler, Heather (Jake) Roberts, Holly (Keith) Steinbruegge, Tyler Schneider, Lindsay (Dave) Steele, Jonathan Schneider, and Katelyn Madden. Beloved greatgrandmother of Analiese, Chase, Vaughn, Thea, Cora, Maddix, Braylin, Ethan, Noah, Luke, Jacob, Olivia, and Miles. Dear daughter of the late Joseph and Yetta Barg, and daughter-in-law of the late Joseph O’Donnell and Elsie Schneider. Loving sister of Bertha (the late Jack) Dicker, and sister-in-law of the late Leo (Lupe) Schneider. Cherished aunt, cousin, and friend. A funeral service was planned for Wednesday, October 19 at Jefferson Barracks National Cemetery, 2900 Sheridan Road. Contributions in Nadine’s memory may be made to Lydia’s House (development@lydiashouse.org). A RINDSKOPF-ROTH SERVICE
BEVERLY (SHER) SCHWARTZBURT, October 5, 2022, passed away peacefully in Naperville, IL. Beloved wife of the late Allen Schwartzburt; dear mother of Rhonda (Dave) Ings, Liz Schwartzburt, Brandon (Sandy) Schwartzburt; grandmother of Shaun (Sarah) & Francesca Taylor, Samantha Schwartzburt and Eric Ings; great-grandmother of Jorja and Lincoln Taylor; dear sister in-law, aunt, cousin, and friend to many. Her loving spirit will be missed and yet she will continue to live in our hearts and dreams. Her quest to know truth led her to a new awareness and the assurance of heaven’s true home. Beverly’s central focus was her family, and she made a great difference for each of them. She partnered with her husband in their plumbing business. Bev helped others whenever possible, and her pet project was getting groceries for seniors at the Covenant House. She was a lifelong student of all things spiritual and was a leader in forming Spiraling Stairways, a spiritually based personal growth organization. Her enthusiasm and easy laugh touched all who knew her. Born in Peoria, Illinois, she spent most of her life in St. Louis, Missouri. A graveside service was held Wednesday, October 12, 2022 at Waldheim Cemetery, Forest Park, IL. Memorial contributions preferred to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital. LILLIAN SIMPSON, October 9, 2022 Beloved wife of the late Julius Simpson; dear mother and mother-inlaw of Leonard Simpson (Sherry), Sheri Kanterman (Ronald) and Brian Simpson (Jessica); dear grandmother of Joshua Simpson, Michael Simpson (Andrea), Lindsey Barenholtz, Jeffrey Kanterman (Rachel), Jay Kanterman (Preethi), Jill Kanterman, Jonah Simpson and Eliana Simpson; dear great-grandmother of Asher Simpson, Kirin Kanterman, and Maeve Kanterman; dear sister of the late Florence Tucker; dear daughter of the late Isaac and Clara Belenco. A graveside service was held Thursday, October 13 at Chesed Shel Emeth Cemetery, 650 White Rd. Memorial contributions may be made to the charity of your choice. Please visit bergermemorialchapel.com for more information. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE SARAH (SALLY) B. TALISNIK, October 5, 2022 Beloved wife of the late Harry Talisnik for over 60 years. Dear mother and mother in law Michael Henry (Terry) Talisnik and Evelyn (Robert) Talisnik-Misner; dear grandmother of Rachel Ann Misner; dear aunt, cousin and friend to many. Special thanks to Mary’s Caring Hands for the loving care given to Sally. A graveside service was held Friday, October 7 at Chesed Shel Emeth Cemetery, 650 White Rd. 63017. Memorial contribution preferred to the Holocaust Museum and Learning Center, 12 Millstone Campus Dr. 63146. Visit www.bergermemorialchapel.com for more information. BERGER MEMORIAL SERVICE KAREN SUZANNE “SUE” (NEE QUICK) TENNENBAUM, Born March 5, 1947, passed away on October 9, 2022 Beloved mother of Michael (Lisa) Tennenbaum and Stephanie (Bob) Rubenstein. Adored grandmother to Nathan, Rebekah and Hannah. Dear sister to Julia (Jerry) Stroessner, Mike (Pam) Quick and Allison (Steve) Schneider. Loved aunt of Jackie, Beth, Jake, Michelle, JW and Chris. Preceded in death by her parents William and Pamela Quick and brother Keith. Dear friend. Private graveside service. For more information, please visit www.rindskopfroth.com. Contributions in Sue’s memory may be made to the COPD Foundation, 3300 Ponce De Leon Blvd, Miami, FL, 33134 (www.copdfoundation.org). A RINDSKOPF-ROTH SERVICE
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HELEN TAM ZIBIT of University City and Webster Groves, Missouri, died September 23, 2022, after a brief battle with congestive heart failure. Born on a 3-acre farm in Des Moines, Iowa, Helen became the first in her family to attend college and graduate school: Drake University, B.A., 1950;Indiana University, M.A., 1955. Her lifelong commitment to mend and restore a broken world began with political activism and therapeutic social work, and extended to creating a world of beauty in her music, her gardens, her handiwork as a weaver and needleworker. Her homes were sanctuaries filled with collections of rare art and antiques, where friends and family were always welcome for tea. Her political activism began as Democratic Precinct Committeewoman and continued with campaigning and, most of all, in her generous and informed enthusiasm for discussions of current affairs. As a social worker, she attained distinction at Jewish Family and Children’s Services in University City, where she was appointed Director of the New American Program and awarded a scholarship for a 2-year postgraduate course in Psychoanalytic training at the Jewish Hospital. After 13 years with JFCS, she became a Clinical Instructor at the Child Guidance Clinic of Washington University, yet felt called to work with clients in therapeutic settings. For this reason, she established her own private practice, and also volunteered for 20 years in the University City Public Schools. In addition to her active life in St. Louis, Helen and her husband, Samuel Zibit (1913-2009), former Director of the St. Louis Jewish Center for the Aged, were energetic members of the Park Rapids, Minnesota community, where they summered annually in their Long Lake home. With her sisters and daughter, Helen was a regular chorister in the Hubbard United Methodist Church, where she was also Music Librarian. A gifted actress and vocalist, she starred in “On Golden Pond” and sang in the choruses of Gilbert and Sullivan productions by the Northern Light Opera Company. With her husband, she supported local senior citizen services and environmental groups. Helen spent her retirement years living independently at the Rockwood Senior Living community in Webster Groves, where she organized Book Clubs, game nights, singalongs, and the telling of life stories. In their tribute to her, the residents wrote: “May we display your concern for the world and be as sensitive to the needs of others.” Helen is survived by her sister, Barbara Curtis (Park Rapids, Minnesota), her daughter, Dr. Amy Jo Mandelker (Bleisch) (Princeton, NJ), her son, John David Mandelker (Ladue, MO), grandson Dr. Nicholas William Bleisch (Antwerp, Belgium), granddaughters, Alison (Mandelker) Royston (Nashville, TN), and Susan Mandelker (Manhattan, NY), and great-granddaughter, Rosalie James Royston (Nashville, TN), her stepchildren, Benjamin Seth Zibit (Astoria, NY) and stepdaughter, Trudy Zibit (Boxer) (Connecticut), three step-grandchildren, Daniel Boxer (Connecticut), Rebecca Cruz-Zibit (Geneseo, NY) and Joshua Zibit (Astoria, Queens), and by two step-greatgrandchildren, Evan and Hannah Boxer (Connecticut). A Graveside Memorial Service will be held on July 4, 2023, at the Hubbard Cemetery, Park Rapids, Minnesota. Please send donations to: • Living at Home, P.O. Box 465, Park Rapids, Minnesota • The Northern Light Opera Company, P.O. Box 102, Park Rapids, Minnesota • Friends of the Headwaters, P.O. Box 583, Park Rapids, Minnesota 56470 A RINDSKOPF-ROTH SERVICE
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In the early 1980s, older adults had far fewer resources. Community centers offered basics such as a hot lunch, simple crafts and bingo. It’s a much different world now, thanks in large part to Oasis, a national network that began 40 years ago in St. Louis. Marylen Mann, the founder of Oasis, saw a critical need and set about to solve it. “There was a lack of understanding of what aging is and what people are capable of,” said Mann, 85. “I believe in the value of education at any age, and I became aware that there weren’t many education opportunities for older adults here and around the country. “It seemed to me that we could have people live longer and better if we focused on three things I thought were important — intellectual stimulation and education, the opportunity to improve their own health, and volunteerism — not low-level activities like stuffing and addressing envelopes, but something meaningful.” Oasis, entering its fifth decade, has a 33-state footprint, spans 43 cities and has 370,000 members, said Paul Weiss, the group’s president. “We have about 800 partners, we have centers in eight cities and tutoring in 15 cities,” said Weiss, 55. “Our technology literacy program is licensed by municipalities and libraries, our health program partnerships are in multiple states, and we have a pilot project with the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services to do innovative volunteer programs to support low income caregivers in 23 states.”
The origin of Oasis Mann, a member of Central Reform Congregation, has a background in philosophy and education. She is tenacious but also adept at schmoozing. Those were important assets for the leader of a fledgling organization that needed support and funding. She got it from the May Co. (now part of Macy’s) and its ubiquitous FamousBarr stores.
A file photo from the opening of OASIS. Marylen Mann is second from the right.
May executives were initially skeptical about the value of senior centers in retail stores. Mann convinced them that it would be good for business, cultivating an untapped customer base. It also proved helpful for the company’s image. Another key component for Oasis early on was a grant Mann obtained from the U.S. Administration on Aging. Oasis originated in St. Louis, but Mann found a lack of resources for older adults was a national issue. The first cities she expanded to were Cincinnati, Los Angeles and Baltimore. With the May Co. and, soon after, Anheuser-Busch as corporate
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“If you think about the cliché that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, it’s like saying you can’t teach an older adult a new skill,” he said. “People assume there’s a calcification of the human brain, but there’s a tremendous amount of elasticity in the aging brain.” By 2007, the success of Oasis became legend. Mann was invited by the U.S. Secretary of Health and Human Services to attend the U.N. Conference on Economics and Aging in León, Spain. “They used me to represent the best that the U.S. was doing for seniors,” she said. “No one else was doing what we were doing.”
A significant economic impact Oasis programs go far beyond the classroom. Other learning options include walking, biking and healthy living. Several courses focus on balance and avoiding falls, and two address living with diabetes. These subjects fulfill a need Mann saw as critical to address. “We weren’t giving people the opportunity to improve their own health,” she said. “If you had diabetes, the doctor would give you a diet and you went home and pretty soon you’d fall off the cliff. But Weight Watchers had a model I thought was successful. You get people together with the same issue and give them education and put them together, with the same goals in a weekly setting.” The group dynamic model continues to work well for Oasis health-related classes. Weiss said healthy living does more than improve the well-being of participants; it has a positive financial impact. “When older adults take exercise classes and fall prevention classes, they’re living a healthy life that disengages them from the economics of the health care system,” she said. “They delay a loss of function Marylen Mann holding the fall 2022 Oasis catalog, on the cover of the cataand dependence on health care, which is the biggest log is a 40-year-old photo of Mann (second from right) with Margie May. rising cost in America. Healthy aging equates to a healthier economy.”
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Volunteerism is the third key Oasis component, which manifests itself through a robust intergenerational tutoring program. Tutors are paired with children in kindergarten through third grade for weekly one-on-one sessions. It’s a commitment that requires training and work with underserved students. That may sound like a challenging assignment for a retired older adult. In reality, the tutors love it, and they provide an important educational supplement. Mann said tutors get as much out of the program as their students. “They are there because they want to be,” she said. “It’s amazing the relationships that develop. We’ve had some tutors for 30 years.” The average age of an Oasis tutor is 71, and there’s a 95% tutor retention rate, Weiss said. “We’re in 27 school districts and 260 schools doing tutoring in the St. Louis metro area,” he said. “We have over 2,000 tutors, and some tutors take multiple kids. The commitment and duration are amazing. The value of our financial impact is immeasurable. In tutoring alone, what it would cost to get that adjunct instruction in the schools is tens of tens of millions of dollars over the last 30 years of the tutoring program and it has been delivered virtually for free. “Many of the areas we’re in are the most challenged school districts. We were not getting a host of resources to those schools. So there’s this tremendous hidden economic impact of Oasis that I think would be unfundable by any other vehicle than older adults volunteering their time.” The Missouri History Museum will host a free program to celebrate Oasis and its accomplishments at 11 a.m. Nov. 8.“We Can Do Better for Older Adults: The 40-Year History of Oasis” will feature Mann, Weiss, and former Oasis president Marcia Kerz. Information is available at oasis.net.org/history.
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Beverly Chervitz is a former tap dancer, champion roller skater and accordion player. On, Aug. 27, she added bat mitzvah to her resumé. Chervitz actually took the bimah at Congregation B’nai Amoona for her second bat mitzvah (the first occurred the same week 32 years ago). The encore bat mitzvah marks the third at B’nai Amoona among Chervitz and two close friends, Lester Goldman and Rabbi Neal Rose. The idea for a second b’nai mitzvot came from a casual conversation a few years ago when the three were having dinner. Chervitz was an adult when she had her first bat mitzvah; Goldman and Rose celebrated their bar mitzvahs at age 13 in 1952. All three friends, who are 83, share the same month and year of birth: April 1939. At the dinner, Rose said: “I don’t know how we got talking about it, but one of us, maybe me, said, ‘OK, guys, we’re going to do our second b’nai mitzvot together.’ ” That got the ball rolling when Goldman was asked by his grandson Zachary Nathanson (son of
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my granddaughter Dea Kosmin-Rose in Winnipeg,” he said. “She asked, ‘Would you like to have your second bar mitzvah with me?› And I had been thinking about it, but I didn’t want to ask her. Before she finished, I said yes!” Cantor Nathanson helped prepare all three for their encores. That was especially useful for Rabbi Rose, who didn’t have a great experience on his first attempt when he tried memorizing the Torah reading. “I got up there and forgot everything,” Rose said. “So all these years, I had this great trauma about
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Now that I am a grandparent, I really look forward to having one of my grandchildren spend the night. Each of them enjoy the opportunity for some one-onone time. When they were little, the evening was spent reading books and playing with age-appropriate toys—trains, Legos, dolls, etc. But now my oldest grandchild is 9 and we can actually play games. He really enjoys ping pong, but hates to lose. I could let him win, but what fun is that? How can you teach a child how to compete and yet avoid the meltdowns when they don’t win? One key is to initially play games where luck truly determines the outcome. Chutes & Ladders is a perfect choice. Spin the dial and move your pieces. The game usually comes to a conclusion fairly quickly so that a second or third game can be played with a “new winner” being quite likely. Kids understand when luck and chance determine the winner. It’s OK not to like losing but a lot can be learned. Teach your child that it is normal to be disappointed See GAMES on page 9B
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The Henry and Gladys Crown Center for Senior Living is quickly evolving into a modern new facility, with Phase 1 scheduled to be completed early next year. Construction is in progress on a tower that will replace the aging Tallin Building and feature a new community center called Staenberg Commons on its first level. The complex began 55 years ago as the Delcrest, named for the street it sits on just south of Delmar Boulevard. Two things won’t change after the renovation: The facility will continue to serve high quality
Who were Henry and Gladys Crown? Arie Krinsky arrived in America from Minsk in what was then called Belorussia in 1893, with a horse, cart and a belief in the American dream. He came in search of a better life for his family. Krinsky changed his last name to Crown and worked in a sweatshop. His son, Henry Krinsky, was born June 13, 1896, in
Chicago, the third of seven children. He left school in the eighth grade at age 14. His parents were too poor to pay the 50 cents for his graduation photo. Like his father, Henry believed hard work would be his ticket out of poverty. It worked for the younger Crown, who started out working in low-wage jobs. He wrote letters to the presidents of 40 Chicago companies and asked for a job. He was hired by one. The head of a steel machine tool manufacturer was impressed by Henry’s imagination. Unfortunately, his youth was an obstacle in moving up to a more senior level. So Henry Crown opened his own busi-
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Gladys Crown and a former member of the Crown Center board of directors. “I was fortunate to spend time with him,” said Green, a St. Louis stockbroker. “He was inspiring, and I enjoyed his company. Everything he said, I learned something, and he wanted to share his experience with people whom he cared about, and I know he liked me. It was meaningful and valuable for me in my business career. He cared about people and cared about doing the right thing. He cared about what happened to the world.” Green said he would often go on walks with Crown and talk about current events, business and anything the colonel was thinking about. “Whatever was on his mind, he’d say to me,” Green said. “He trusted me and probably used that opportunity to vent a little bit. He like fishing, and I went fishing with him. He owned sports teams, but he wasn’t interested in sports. He was interested in Judaism.” Gladys Crown was also committed to giving back through philanthropy, Green said. But her primary role was making sure Henry was well cared for. “She was a very, very dynamic person,” he said. “She was never removed from his business. And when he went away to war, she ran the business. He left it in her hands. She took on a lot of the responsibility. Gladys made sure he wasn’t missing any meals. She didn’t care who he was talking to or meeting with. It could be a president. She’d say, ‘He’ll call back!
Henry, you finish your lunch.’ ”
Delcrest becomes Crown Center Henry Crown died in 1990, followed by Gladys one year later. She left a bequest that became the Henry and Gladys Crown Charitable Trust Fund. The Crowns gave hundreds of millions of dollars for grants in education, arts and culture, health care and community development. The Green family was instrumental in the Delcrest being renamed the Gladys & Henry Crown Center for Senior Living during a large capital campaign in the mid-1990s. Although the Crowns were based in Chicago, they frequently traveled to St. Louis for General Dynamics board meetings. They also had relationships with other Jewish businesspeople in St. Louis, including former Blues hockey owner Sid Salomon. Green said, “I was given the privilege when Mrs. Crown passed away, to being able to be a trustee for a certain amount of funds for charitable giving,” adding that the mission of Crown Center fits perfectly with Henry and Gladys’ philanthropic philosophy. “One of the basic important tenets of Judaism is to take care of our parents, and Crown Center just expands that principle,” he said. “Not everyone has children to help take care of them. Crown Center serves that function.”
Games: Parents and grandparents teach important life lessons to kids CONTINUED FROM PAGE 7B when one loses and model proper behavior. Giving the child an appropriate vocabulary to express their feelings helps. “Good game. Maybe I’ll win next time.” Or teach them to shake the opponent’s hand just like athletic teams do at times on television. Early on, it might be possible to play another game with a different outcome, but if a child is too upset, teach them to take a break, ask for a hug, or just give them some time alone to get themselves calmed down. As kids get older, many will choose to compete in team sports. Early on, I, too, favor those like soccer where gross motor skills are more important than fine motor skills. Soccer also introduces the concept of team — there is no “I” in team is a common phrase. It is only natural for kids to take losing hard after a soccer game. They understand that the winning team is likely more skilled. This leaves a child disappointed in
themselves—after all, they have been working hard at practice. Even they understand that these are not games where chance usually decides the winner. After a losing effort, hopefully the coach is positive — focusing on each player’s improvement. Parents can reward their child’s effort and point out the good plays their child made. It is even OK to ask a child what they learned or what they thought they could do better next time. But again, be careful. Self-examination, though valuable to learn throughout life, can be beyond some children’s capabilities at younger ages. Well, by now my grandson knows I’m a better ping-pong player than he is. After all, I’ve been practicing for 70 years. He’d know when I wasn’t really trying and if I let him win. I don’t slam too many. I just keep the ball in play and make sure he’s enjoying himself and not getting frustrated. And we always shake hands after the game, but that’s not the only shake we have. Usually, if we all manage our emotions well, we are off to the kitchen for a postgame milkshake.
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Essential resources for older adults in the St. Louis Jewish community Adult Day Center at the J
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2 Millstone Campus Drive St. Louis, Mo. 63146 314-442-3248 Ashley Stockman, MSW, Director
Adult Day at the J (ADJ) offers quality programming by promoting cognitive stimulation, physical engagement and socialization, while also encouraging individual growth in an inclusive and supportive environment. ADJ offers two unique tracks: IN (aimed at supporting young adults with disabilities) and CONNECTIONS (aimed at supporting aging adults with cognitive impairments, physical impairments, or just looking to increase opportunities to socialize). Each program is expressly designed to assist participants with achieving individual goals through interactions within a group setting. Offering a broad range of activities throughout the day our programs operate within the ADJ facility, and expand throughout the J’s Staenberg Family Complex as well as the greater community. In addition to the benefits experienced by participants, our services provide critical respite and support for caregivers and families. Key features & services include: • Recreation and Therapeutic Activities • Sensory Garden, Daily Exercise & Intergenerational Programs • RN Health Management and Individualized Care Planning • Door-to-door Escorted Transportation • Kosher, Nutritious Meals (Breakfast, Lunch and Snack) • Open Mon - Fri 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. • Licensed by the State of Missouri • Funded by VA, Medicaid, Dept. Mental Health, Aging Ahead vvv
Covenant Place
8 Millstone Campus Drive, Suite 2000 St. Louis, Mo. 63146 314-432-1610 email: jdenison@covenantplacestl.org website: covenantplacestl.org Joan Denison, President & CEO
Covenant Place offers 353 one-bedroom, affordable, independent, senior living apartments, conveniently located on the Jewish Community Millstone Campus. Enjoy up-todate apartment amenities, ample closets, full kitchens, convenient laundry facilities,
resident social and recreation areas, transportation to grocery and outings, and beautiful outdoor patios and courtyards. Your worry-free living experience includes: 24/7 emergency monitoring, on-site night and weekend staff coverage, affordable housekeeping and laundry services, and service coordinators to connect you with community resources and services. Covenant Place residents may participate in the many programs, classes and resources offered at the Mirowitz Center, located on the first floor of the Covenant Place II Cahn Family Building. An array of exercise classes, art, music, lifelong learning, and entertainment provide opportunities for engagement and fun! Also located at the Mirowitz Center: Washington University Physicians Primary Geriatric Care Clinic, RPI Therapy Services, Royal Banks of Missouri, and St. Louis NORC. (NOTE: Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, some Mirowitz Center programs are offered online and on telephone, in addition to in-person classes.) Residents may participate in the Aging
Ahead, subsidized weekday meal program and enjoy a delicious, affordable meal in a social setting. Covenant Place has an active Tenant Council, which plans and sponsors resident events and programs – a great way to get involved and meet your neighbors. Covenant Place Ambassadors are residents who welcome new residents and help you to integrate into the community. Housing is open to adults aged 62+. Income eligibility limits apply. A new wait list will open for the fully renovated Covenant Place III building in fall 2023; for more information, or to be notified when the waitlist opens, please visit our website, call or email: info@covenantplacestl.org. Start your next chapter of engaged living in this warm and welcoming community. We look forward to meeting you! Howard Rosen is Board Chair. vvv
Crown Center for Senior Living 8350 Delcrest Drive St. Louis, Mo. 63124 314-991-2055 email: rschenberg@crowncenterstl.org website: crowncenterstl.org Nikki Goldstein, Executive Director Randi Schenberg, Community Relations Director
Crown Center is a vibrant and engaged community in which all seniors thrive. Contact Crown Center or visit our website for up-to-date information about programming and policies, including “Crown on the Road,” bringing meaningful opportunities and creative endeavors to senior adults. Watch for upcoming details about our new Staenberg Commons community space and Crown Center Phase 1 Apartments, opening in early 2023. See our listings for Crown Center’s Kosher Dining and Home Delivery Program. Sally Altman is Board President. See RESOURCES on page 16B
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As a 4th generation family-owned and operated company, Victor Shade Company has proudly served the Greater St. Louis area since 1908! We provide residential and commercial custom-made shades, shutters, and blinds with superior customer service. We are also the only full-service cleaning and repair shop in the St. Louis area. As a Hunter Douglas Gallery, we offer you a full range of products and options to fit every budget, style, and taste. Visit our showroom to see, touch, and feel full-sized products. In addition, Victor Shade will come to your home for a free in-home design consultation. Let us show you why we are your best choice for window treatments! 10100Page PageService AvenueDr. • St. Louis, MOMO 63132 11477 • St. Louis, 63146 314-428-7979 •• victorshadecompany.com www.victorshade.com 314-428-7979
Chesed Shel Emeth Burial Society & Beth Shalom Cemetery serve the St. Louis Jewish community and fulfill a sacred trust to honor the memories of those who rest within our cemetery grounds. We are committed to maintaining, restoring and enhancing our cemetery grounds and facilities and to provide a safe, secure, serene setting for prayer and reflection. We contribute to community efforts to ensure that the indigent are provided with a proper Jewish burial. We further preserve our sites, graves, monuments and archives for the benefit of future generations and to facilitate educational, historical, and genealogical opportunities and inquiries.
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For over 135 years, Rindskopf-Roth Funeral Chapel has been dedicated to providing dignified funeral services to the St. Louis Jewish Community. We offer a variety of funeral services ranging from traditional funerals in accordance with Jewish Law to memorial services and cremation. We also offer funeral pre-planning. Owned and operated by the Roth Family, our caring family staff members are committed to providing the utmost personal guidance and compassion while tailoring services to the wishes of the families we serve. 5216 Delmar Blvd. • St. Louis, MO 63108-1093 (314) 367-0438 • www.rindskopfroth.com
United Access, celebrating 25 years in St. Louis, is your one-stop-shop for rentals, sales, and servicing of wheelchair accessible vehicles. Our passionate staff will assist you with your mobility needs, demonstrating a variety of solutions including new and pre-owned wheelchair accessible vehicles, scooters and power chairs. In addition to purchasing a vehicle, we specialize in short- and long-term rentals from our two St. Louis locations 9389 Natural Bridge in North County and 980 South Highway Drive in South County. Visit our website or call to make an reservation. 9389 Natural Bridge Rd • St. Louis, 63134 980 S. Hwy Drive • Fenton, 63026 314-989-1010 • unitedaccess.com
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With a choice of rental apartments and accommodating floor plans, The Gatesworth provides the very best independent lifestyle exclusively for seniors. With no entry fees, our apartment living at The Gatesworth is a great way to maintain your independence and take advantage of the peace of mind and camaraderie of a thoughtfully planned community. Experience retirement living nothing short of exceptional. The Gatesworth is now welcoming new residents and would love to get to know you. Call or visit online.
Safe, healthy and vibrant! Bethesda, which has been providing senior living, care and services to the St. Louis area seniors and their families for 133 years, was among the first in the area to offer COVID-19 vaccinations to our residents, patients and staff. Bethesda is comprised of retirement communities (i.e. - Bethesda Barclay House in Clayton, located on Brentwood directly across from Shaw Park), assisted living, skilled nursing, post-hospitalization rehabilitation, Memory Support, and in-home services. Bethesda is a locally owned, nonprofit, nondenominational organization, and our experienced professionals are ready to help. Check out our website and Facebook pages to learn more.
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With towering trees and a park-like landscape for in-ground burials, New Mount Sinai is the only Jewish cemetery in St. Louis with a Community Mausoleum. Serves the entire Jewish Community. Permits burial of cremains and nonJewish burials. Feel free to drive or stroll through our 2.5 miles of paved pathways. Call or email to schedule an actual or virtual tour. Open dawn to dusk. Current photos on Facebook and Instagram. Established in 1850, and listed on the National Register of Historic Places.
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Eric S. Mann MD, PhD, FACS is a board certified Ophthalmologist and Retinal Surgeon with over 25 years of experience. He specializes in the treatment of age related macular degeneration and diabetes in the eye, the two most common causes of blindness in the western world. New developments now allow both prevention and treatment of the type of AMD that causes severe damage to the eye. The Retina Group, Ltd, PC is committed to providing the highest quality of care to our patients and we look forward to speaking with you. 2821 North Ballas Rd • St. Louis, MO 63131 • 314-835-9400 4550 Memorial Drive • Belleville, IL 62226 • 618-632-8100 theretinagroupltd.com
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Parc Provence — a licensed skilled nursing community — proudly serves the St. Louis region. Our community offers its residents and their families exceptional care for dementia and Alzheimer’s disease through dedicated, person-centered support. As a community of well-being, Parc Provence empowers senior adults by promoting individual physical and cognitive abilities. Our staff is led by an experienced team of medically-trained professionals. From an administrator who has over 30 years of nursing experience to medical directors who serve as leading authorities on gerontology and dementia at Washington University, our staff provides unrivaled care 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Please call for more information or to schedule a tour. 605 Coeur de Ville Drive • Creve Coeur, MO 63141 314-542-2500 • parcprovence.com
The RTG Team has a combined 100+ years of experience in the Real Estate market. We are dedicated to you, our client, and your objectives. We do not just sell homes; we Bring Your Dreams Home! Whether it is Buying or Selling, our goal is to make this process as easy and seamless for you as possible. Call us today to discuss your options in Buying and Selling in today’s market.
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AccuCare Home Health Care of St. Louis was founded in 1994 by Jacque Phillips, RN, BSN, and is locally, family RN-owned and RN-managed, and is dedicated to providing seniors with the finest private, in-home health care. Treating clients as they would care for their own family is the driving force that allows AccuCare to provide exceptional care, delivered with compassion, integrity, and dedication. AccuCare provides a custom care plan for each client with 24/7 RN Oversight. In addition, our caregivers can assist with essential everyday needs, transport clients to appointments, perform light housekeeping, meal preparation, provide respite care to families, and more. 1185 N. Price Rd. • St. Louis, MO 63123 314-692-0020 • accucare.com
Transitions for Senior Living is a family-owned service with over 10 years of experience. Our team has done the legwork, so you don’t have to, researching and understanding the difference between all the senior care options. We meet with families, get an understanding of the physical, cognitive, financial, and social care needs, pare down the choices and personally walk you through the entire process -- completely free of charge. So, whether planning ahead or in crisis-mode, give us a call give us a call.
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At McKnight Place, we cater to our beloved residents and their families by providing the very best in senior living, each and every day. Our commitment to a higher standard of care and personal attention remains steadfast. We are always here to help our vibrant residents continue to thrive and pursue their interests. We’d love to hear more about your wants and needs. Call us today for more information or to schedule a tour. 3 McKnight Place St. Louis, MO 63124
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The Grande at Chesterfield is an assisted living and memory care community tucked away in the West County town of Chesterfield. Our thriving community offers the level of care and security you expect, along with boundless opportunities for a truly fulfilling life. Our location is just as convenient as it is quiet, so you’re never far from whatever you need. Pharmacies, doctors’ offices, grocery stores, and hospitals are all just a short distance away. 16300 Justus Post Rd. • Chesterfield, MO 63017 636-489-1193 • thegrandeatchesterfield.com
M1 Bank is a boutique bank with a Purpose Driven Model. M1 understands that the ability to establish and maintain highly respected and high-performance relationships on a National Level provides the opportunity to consistently provide and maintain the most competitive deposit rates and cash management platforms in the country, along with fee FREE ATMS, anytime anywhere in the world. We welcome you to come and experience our Mission 1st, Purpose Driven Culture at any one of our current and expanding locations throughout the St. Louis Region. M1 Bank: Banking on a Mission committed to supporting our Jewish Community here in St Louis and across the globe! Clayton Branch • 314-721-2265 • 112 S. Hanley, Suite 120 • Clayton, MO 63105 DesPeres • 314-626-6788 • 11697 Manchester Rd • Des Peres, MO 63131 www.m1bank.net
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The Grande at Creve Coeur is a senior living community specializing in memory care. Tucked away in the West County enclave of Creve Coeur, our thriving community offers the level of care and security you expect, along with extensive support programs to ensure residents enjoy as fulfilling a life as possible. From the art room and the gym to the expertly prepared meals and available fully furnished apartments, everything we do is guided by a desire to foster a sense of serenity and satisfaction in those we serve. 450 N. Lindbergh Blvd. • Creve Coeur, MO 63141 314-717-0943 • thegrandeatcrevecoeur.com
Jewish Community Employment Services: offers individuals who are unemployed or transitioning into a new career with career counseling, job development, job leads, resume and cover letter writing, job searching skills and interviewing strategies. The office is located at the MERS Goodwill Lippman Center at 2545 South Hanley Road, St. Louis, MO 63144. For more information about the program or to team up as an employer offering positions to the public, please contact Mark Morgan at 314-646-2257, or email at jewishemployment@mersgoodwill.org.
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Emily Stein MacDonald is a fifth-generation funeral director who joined her father, Richard W. Stein, at Berger Memorial Chapel in 2009. As a funeral director, Emily provides compassionate, caring guidance and support to families in their time of need. Alana Shapiro specializes in providing sensitive, personalized counseling to individuals seeking information about preplanning funeral services in her role as Advance Planning Director at Berger Memorial Chapel. Richard, Emily, Alana and the staff of Berger Memorial Chapel are honored to provide thoughtful, professional service to the St. Louis Jewish Community. Conveniently located in Olivette, Berger Memorial Chapel is a locally-managed and locally-operated funeral home that has been serving our Jewish community since 1896.
Conveniently located in Chesterfield, The Willows at Brooking Park offers the ultimate in retirement living, where luxury meets value. This not-for-profit community provides abundant opportunities for residents to improve their physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. The Willows coordinates with Jewish Family Services to provide spiritual support with Rabbinic visits, High Holiday celebrations, and Jewish learning opportunities. They offer a monthly Sabbath Gathering and Torah Study. Call today to set up a virtual tour of their spacious Apartment Homes and modern Villas.
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Setting the standard in assisted living and memory care for over 30 years. Our vibrant community is ideal for senior adults who still wish to live independently but may benefit from a little help to enjoy full, active lives. We offer the amenities and services you want, along with true, all-inclusive rates that are simple, predictable and worry-free. Our community features large suites and single bedroom apartments with kitchenettes, as well as beautifully landscaped gardens, outdoor spaces and walking paths.
Please call for more information or to schedule a tour. 3 McKnight Place • St. Louis, MO 63124 314-993-3333 • mcknightplace.com
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Essential resources for older adults in the St. Louis Jewish community (continued from 10B) Crown Center’s Kosher Dining Options: 314-412-4350 (Circle@Crown Cafe) 314-991-2055 (Crown Dining Program) www.crowncenterstl.org/cafe www.crowncenterstl.org/catering
Circle@Crown Cafe (Mon-Thurs, 8am2pm, Friday, 8am - 1pm) offers an affordable, delicious seasonal menu of breakfast and lunch specialties that can be enjoyed by the entire community. Call to place your order or learn about the café’s catering options. Certified Kosher Dairy/Vaad Hoeir of St. Louis approved. The dining program at Crown Center for Senior Living has always been a place to enjoy a freshly prepared, nutritious and delicious kosher meal. This affordable program is for those 60 and older and available to Crown Center residents as well as community older adults. Home delivery and curbside pickup options are available for those who qualify. For more information about the program options, please call Crown Center at 314-991-2055. Meals are catered and served from a Vaad Hoeir approved kitchen. Funding is provided by Aging Ahead, Meals on Wheels America, Jewish Federation of St. Louis and Crown Center. See our listing for Crown Center’s Kosher Dining and Home Delivery Program. vvv
Crown Center — Kosher Dining and Home Delivery Program At Crown Center for Senior Living 8350 Delcrest Drive St. Louis, Mo. 63124 314-991-2055 website: crowncenterstl.org Katie Garland, Client Services Director
The casual, relaxed setting at HJ’s Café makes it the perfect place to enjoy a coffee, attend a cooking class, or meet-up with friends for a meal. Amenities include: patio dining, counter seating and TV screens. Catering and carry-out are available. NOTE: Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, HJ’s Café is temporarily closed. Please check our website or call for updated information. Howard Rosen is Board Chair. vvv
hospice. JFS also supports residents living in group homes for adults with varying intellectual and developmental abilities. JFS chaplains help to reconnect residents with their synagogues and they build strong relationships with the staff in congregate care communities, helping them to become more culturally sensitive to Jewish residents and their needs. vvv
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10950 Schuetz Rd. St. Louis, Mo. 63146 314-993-1000 email: info@jfsstl.org website: jfsstl.org
The Chaplaincy Program provides spiritual care for the Jewish community of the greater St. Louis area, offering connection, compassion, and support during both joyful and difficult times. JFS’s community chaplains provide a comforting presence and a listening ear, offer end-of-life support and bereavement care, and build bridges to Jewish tradition. They create relationships through individual visits and spiritual counseling as well as through Shabbat celebrations, holiday gatherings, discussion groups, and study sessions. Chaplains visit the diverse members of the Jewish community, especially reaching out to those who are unaffiliated, isolated, and disconnected from Jewish life. JFS supports residents in a variety of eldercare settings including nursing care, assisted living, memory care and rehabilitation centers, retirement communities, hospitals, and home
8 Millstone Campus Drive, Suite 2000 St. Louis, Mo. 63146 314-432-1610 website: www.mirowitzcenter.org Joan Denison, President & CEO
Washington University Geriatric Primary Care Clinic, Washington University Weight Management Program and Clinic, RPI Therapy Services, Royal Banks of Missouri, and St. Louis NORC. NOTE: Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, the Mirowitz Center is offering a mix of in-person classes with a variety of programs, classes and special interest groups offered online and on telephone. Call, email or check out the website for program information. Howard Rosen is Board Chair. vvv
Pathways Hospice & Palliative Care
The Mirowitz Center, located on the first floor of the Covenant Place II Cahn Family Building, is your place to connect with programs, classes, events and services that enrich your life. Open Monday-Friday 8:30 a.m.-5 p.m., with some evenings and weekend programs, the Mirowitz Center focuses on meeting the interests of baby boomers and older adults. Stop in and meet-up with others, enjoy health and exercise programs, interesting speakers, multi-generational activities, use a game table to play with friends, watch films on our 14’ movie screen, pick up a new read or video from the St. Louis County mobile library, try your hand at an art class, meet people with similar interests! Classes and programs are offered at nominal fees or at no cost and there is no required membership fee to participate. Also located at the Mirowitz Center:
14805 North Outer 40 Road, Suite 160 Chesterfield, Mo. 63017 636-733-7399 website: pathwayscomfort.com
Pathways Hospice & Palliative Care is accredited by the National Institute for Jewish Hospice and is part of the Delmar Gardens Family, dedicated to providing quality care to the members of our Jewish community. Through a process which helps identify essential hopes and needs, we enhance end-of-life care by drawing on traditional wisdom and guidance to enhance quality of life choices consistent with personal beliefs. The Pathways’ team is available to provide comprehensive support in partnership with patients and families. It is a sacred obligation to care for those we serve by contributing to wholeness, comfort and peace. vvv
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The dining program at Crown Center for Senior Living has always been a place to enjoy a freshly prepared, nutritious and delicious kosher meal. This affordable program is for those 60 and older and open to Crown Center residents as well as community seniors. Home delivery is available for those who qualify. For information on qualifying, call Crown Center at 314-991-2055. Meals are catered and served from a Vaad Hoeir approved kitchen at Crown Center and Kohns. Funding is provided by Aging Ahead, Meals on Wheels America, Jewish Federation of St. Louis and Crown Center.
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