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Crime down The number of criminal offences recorded in the Cardinia Shire dropped from 5010 in the 12 months to September 2021 to 4539 in 2022, a decrease of 9.4 per cent. For the year ending September 2022, the criminal incident rate per 100,000 residents was 3697.4 - the lowest the shire has seen in the last 10 years for that period. Meanwhile, the Victorian rate per 100,000 was 5217.5. STORY PAGE 3
Charges ‘never a prospect’ Friends of Casey ex-mayor Amanda Stapledon say she was burdened by the possibility of criminal charges despite IBAC’s commissioner recently saying that charges were “never a prospect”. Ms Stapledon is believed to have taken her own life shortly after draft copies of the corruption authority’s Operation Sandon report were sent to witnesses in January this year. IBAC commissioner Robert Redlich recently said he understood that Ms Stapledon’s lawyers had received the draft but Ms Stapledon hadn’t seen it. Kerril Burns, a close friend, believes that Ms Stapledon would have been briefed by her lawyer about the draft. Ms Stapledon also had been earlier told by contacts that she could be facing charges and possible jail and/or fines, Ms Burns said. STORY PAGE 5
A country Christmas A unique Christmas display is turning heads in Cora Lynn. The Barnes family has once again gone above and beyond to entertain passers-by on Nine Mile Road with a Minion and Grinch-themed haybale display. Each year, the whole family helps come up with the idea behind the Christmas theme with the hope of making people smile during the holidays.
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Fire devastation “She went to put the fire out and it was too late.” The children were unharmed in the blaze, however, their grandparents were taken to hospital to be treated for smoke inhalation. “They’re going through some procedures for the next week and then they will tell us what’s happening,” Mr Pakzad said.
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The main concern of the Sayyid family is how and when they will find a new property to live. Generous members of the community have offered unused furniture and food vouchers, however, Mr Pakzad said the most important thing is to find them a place to live. STORY PAGE 3
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Solaiman Pakzad said. Luckily, one of the adults in the house was there to quickly get everyone of the house. “By the time she realised there was smoke, it was just too much but she managed to get eight children, grandpa and grandma out of the house,” Mr Pakzad said.
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