Loneliness and Isolation

Never have we been more aware of what this means than during the Covid lockdown.

At the Cathedral, lots of us were told of people who might be in difficulty, so we phoned them regularly which we could only hope helped a bit - and anyway, it was lovely having conversations with people we might not have met so regularly in ordinary times and lots of friendships were formed.

The six Lunch Clubs were suspended, but the Hostesses of each would phone frequently, as would I. The Lunch Clubs began quite a time ago by Lesley Bridge, when she ran what is now Abbot’s Kitchen, for people who might otherwise be eating on their own. Originally on every Monday, now there are also two Lunch Clubs on the first and second Tuesdays each month, all for around 12 people. Each Lunch Club has a Hostess who will phone and remind people to come and tell me if there are any anxieties. I will then phone as well and if necessary alert the Clergy. I wish sometimes we could host a weekly Lunch Club like other Churches but that is not possible; however it may be easier to get to know people in smaller groups. I can also give people a lift if necessary!

The Lunch Clubs are not just for people on their own; couples are also welcome to attend. There are many people who, after a long involvement with the shop suddenly find a huge gap and, although lunch once a month isn’t the same, it is a group of people who will always be very pleased to see them, a meal to share and even a glass of wine!

It is very difficult when parents are getting older and decide to come and live nearer their children, having to leave longstanding friends, especially if memories are beginning to go. It can be hard to adapt to a new home especially if the children are working and cannot give the time to their parents that they all might like. In situations I am always delighted when members of the congregation ask if their Mum or Dad could come and join us.

There are ten Lay Pastoral Assistants who visit people who are ill or cannot get to church, and give Communion in their homes. We all try to be as aware of people who may be missing in church and follow them up as gently as we can. We very much need everyone to be aware and let us know of any anxieties they may have. If you have any concerns about anyone, please get in touch with us.

Cress Rayner