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BIG BROTHERS BIG SISTERS
BE THE CHANGE
BIG BROTHERS BIG SISTERS GET CREATIVE DURING PANDEMIC
A lot of things changed during the Covid-19 pandemic, and Kansas Big Brothers Big Sisters was quick to adapt, allowing valuable connections to continue during uncertain times.
BBBS provides one-to-one adult mentors for children, someone who can invest time in them, encourage them in their education, healthy behaviors and provide a different perspective on life.
When Gov. Laura Kelly put the stay-at-home order in place in mid-March, the Bigs could only meet with their Littles virtually. Many of them got creative, using video chat to cook together, play games and make crafts. Built on face-toface interactions, BBBS wanted to make sure the pandemic did not interfere with continuing to foster these important relationships.
Big Sister, Kelly Watkins, and Little Sister, nineyear-old Genesis, went from meeting in person to finding other ways to keep in touch. During the stay-at-home order, Kelly dropped off goodie bags and notes of encouragement at Genesis’s home. Having been a match for more than a year and a half, Kelly knew to include her Little’s favorite items such as beef jerky and coloring supplies. For Genesis and countless other kids across the country, the pandemic meant a sudden absence of social time with friends who they would typically see at school. Kelly provided a constant touch point during what could have been a scary and lonely experience.
Genesis is a gifted athlete who treasures spending time with Kelly, especially fishing and kayaking. In fact, the entire Watkins family enjoys spending time with Genesis when they can. She has stepped fully into the role of little sister, pulling pranks with Kelly’s big kids when they are home from college.
“I’ve always thought about becoming a Big Sister,“ Kelly said, “I had the perception that I wasn’t qualified or didn’t have the time, but I’m so glad that I finally did. I never imagined how enriching the experience would be.”
Cheering from the stands of soccer matches and softball games, Kelly is one of Genesis’ biggest fans. A real estate agent at J.P. Weigand, Kelly has even taken Genesis on appointments with clients, introducing her to a potential future career. Many of the duo’s favorite pastimes are simply hanging out and spending time with one another.
BBBS has a continuous need for volunteers according to Haley Butts, volunteer manager, “And now we have an even greater need for mentors because kids have been sitting stagnant. Families are reaching out more than ever, looking for positive engagement for their children.”
"Mentors are just everyday people who live out a known reality: Relationships matter,” said Haley. For those interested in becoming a Big, there is no cost, and no requirements, except passing a background check and being willing to invest a little time in a child each month. Become a critical part of a child’s life by filling out an online inquiry form at kansasbigs.org.
“Our Bigs are serving our future community,” said Haley, “Youth are facing more challenges now than ever before, including social isolation and racial injustice. We are out encouraging our community to be the change you want to see.”
— Haley Butts, Big Brothers Big Sisters volunteer manager
12 Questions
WITH WARD POTTER LLC
With more than five decades of combined family law expertise, attorneys Lynn Ward and Tony Potter provide compassionate legal advocacy as they guide clients through changes in their families.
HOW HAS COVID-19 CHANGED FAMILY LAW CASES?
Lynn: It prompted court systems to embrace and implement much needed changes in the way hearings are handled by utilizing virtual platforms. This saves considerable time and expense to the divorcing couple and is an efficient way to resolve disputes.
WHAT IS THE MOST COMMON MISCONCEPTION ABOUT FAMILY LAW CASES?
Tony: That it has to be a fight. The issues are hard to deal with, stress and emotions are high, and it is difficult to be civil. However, making decisions in anger will not be best for you in the end.
WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT ASPECT OF A FAMILY LAW CASE?
Tony: Putting aside anger (even just for a little while) so you can make good decisions for your children and yourself.
IF YOU COULD GO BACK IN TIME, WHAT IS ONE THING YOU WOULD TELL THE PAST YOU?
Lynn: Don't focus on trying to please everyone. Do justice, love kindness and walk humbly—then you will find deep satisfaction in your work.
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE THING ABOUT THE WICHITA COMMUNITY?
Lynn: One of the things I love most about Wichita is that we are a richly diverse population within a relatively small area. We are diverse in nationalities, culture and work force.
WHERE IS THE BEST FOOD IN WICHITA?
Tony: Five Guys, hands down. Lynn: The best Mexican food is Molino’s, and you can’t beat The Taco Shop for a quick, cheap lunch.
WHAT IS DIFFERENT ABOUT PRACTICING LAW IN WICHITA COMPARED TO PRACTICING IN WESTERN KANSAS?
Tony: Practicing in Wichita allows me to focus my practice solely on family law. Practicing in Western Kansas usually requires a more generalized practice. But, that generalization gave me invaluable experience in areas like real estate and banking that I use every day in practicing family law.
WHAT HAS IT BEEN LIKE TO PRACTICE LAW IN WICHITA?
Lynn: My husband and I graduated from law school in May 1990, took the bar exam in July of that year and moved to Wichita the day after. We’ve been here ever since. The large community has allowed each of us to have separate legal practices in completely different practice areas. We have made wonderful friends with our clients and colleagues and enjoyed thriving legal practices. It has been a wonderful place for us to conduct our legal careers.
WHAT IS THE BEST NON-LEGAL BOOK YOU’VE READ RECENTLY?
Lynn: “The Book Woman of Troublesome Creek” by Kim Michele Richardson Tony: “The Obstacle is the Way” by Ryan Holiday
WHAT ACTIVITIES DO YOU ENJOY WHEN NOT PRACTICING LAW?
Lynn: Gardening, running, mentoring two high school girls and working with my ornery bird dog. Tony: Spending time with my wife and son, and being outside as much as Kansas weather allows.
IF YOU HADN’T BECOME A LAWYER, WHAT OTHER PROFESSION WOULD YOU HAVE CONSIDERED?
Lynn: Veterinarian. I love animals and grew up on a farm. Tony: That was not really an option because I wanted to be an attorney from the age of five.
WHO INSPIRED YOU TO BECOME A LAWYER?
Lynn: A college dean told the student body that history majors could go to law school. It was the first I realized that someone besides an accountant could be a lawyer. I quickly changed my major to history and the rest is history! Tony: My grandfather and great-grandfather were lawyers. I have always liked the idea of arguing cases and learning the law.
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REAL PLASTIC SURGEONS. REAL RESULTS.
AMY SPROLE, MD, BRUCE FERRIS, MD AND NATALIYA BISKUP, MD
Raising Awareness and Becoming Whole Again
Breast reconstruction surgery after a mastectomy is transformative. It helps a woman feel whole again, improving her appearance and restoring her self-confidence. Breast reconstruction is a physically and emotionally rewarding procedure for women who have lost one or both breasts to cancer.
Plastic surgeons can restore the breast, creating a natural-looking breast that mirrors the shape, size and appearance of the original one. It can also help women feel more balanced in terms of breast weight. Yet, many women who’ve undergone a mastectomy aren’t informed of their reconstructive options, or they have a hard time getting their questions answered and their needs met.
We recommend patients meet with a plastic surgeon early in the process to discuss all of their options, including:
• Two-stage reconstruction following mastectomy. A tissue expander is used in stage one. The permanent implant is placed in the second surgery. Sometimes immediate reconstruction with implants can be done at the same time as the mastectomy. • Reconstruction of the breast using tissue from another location on the body done at the same time as the mastectomy or later. • With a single mastectomy, the surgeon may reconstruct one breast alone.
A breast lift, breast reduction or breast augmentation may be recommended for the opposite breast to improve symmetry of both breasts. • Additional options exist for women who choose a lumpectomy or breast conservation option.
Patients make the choice to have breast reconstruction. If you or a loved one is diagnosed with breast cancer, make an appointment with a board certified plastic surgeon experienced in breast reconstruction to discuss your options. The plastic surgeon can then be part of your health care team. Angela discussed her experiences with cancer and breast reconstruction surgery with us and shares just how important it is to be your own advocate.
Explain your journey to breast reconstruction:
Angela: I had breast cancer, a lumpectomy and radiation about 10 years ago when I was in my late thirties, and it came back recently. Because I had already had radiation my only viable option was to have both breasts removed, and I knew I wanted to have breast reconstruction. I don’t live in Wichita, and I did a lot of research and got several opinions. I also talked with family members who recommended the Plastic Surgery Center. After my first consultation I felt at peace, and I knew I had found my surgeon.
How do you feel about your results?
Angela: I’m happy because when I look down, I don’t see a 12-yearold boy. I know the breasts don’t make a woman, and after having my kids I thought I was done with them. That isn’t actually the case, because for me I needed to take care of both the mental and the physical me after living through cancer twice. My experience with the Plastic Surgery Center was totally amazing. I knew they were my answer and still feel that way.
Do you have advice for people thinking about breast reconstruction?
Angela: Do a lot of research. Ask as many questions as you can. There is no dumb question. You need to be your own advocate and push for what you want, especially when it comes to your breast reconstruction. Know that it hurts mentally and physically, but everything gets better with time. Don’t be afraid to be your own voice. Remember that the doctors work for you. Meet with several surgeons and make sure you feel comfortable with your choice.
Women’s Health and Cancer Rights Act
This act helps women with breast cancer who choose to have their breasts reconstructed after a mastectomy. The law requires most insurance plans that pay for mastectomies to also pay for reconstruction of the removed breast, surgery, and reconstruction of the opposite breast for symmetry, prostheses, and treatment of any complications of surgery. The Affordable Care Act also has further protections stating health plans cannot limit or deny benefits relating to a pre-existing condition. Please check with your insurance company for further details.
You deserve expert guidance and exceptional results.
Plastic surgery involves many choices. The most important is selecting a surgeon you can trust. Expect exceptional results when you have your procedures performed by plastic surgeons who are certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery and who are members of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons like Dr. Ferris, Dr. Sprole and Dr. Biskup. These specially trained doctors have at least six years of surgical training and experience, with a minimum of three years of plastic surgery.
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Infertility, an OB/GYN Physician’s Perspective
Outside a cancer diagnosis or recurrent miscarriages, infertility is one of the most worry-provoking diagnoses in my office.
Defining infertility. Couples who are unable to conceive after 12 months of unprotected intercourse or insemination, or six months for those over age 35.
What are the factors? There are 3 main factors: Are eggs being made, is there sperm, and can they meet (in the Fallopian tubes)?
What is the process? Consult: If ovulation, or lack thereof, seems to be the problem (you are skipping periods or rarely having them) then some simple labs followed by certain lifestyle changes and then possible treatment. If ovulation is not the issue, we may proceed with a lab to test your ovaries, a semen analysis (because 40 to 50 percent of the time it’s him), and a special ultrasound called a hysterosalpingogram to evaluate anatomical problems with the uterus or tubes.
What can be done? Depending on the cause, much of the time ovulation induction by taking oral medications is all that is needed. However, if there are more extensive anatomical or tubal problems surgery may be needed. A referral to a reproductive endocrinologist might be indicated, especially if your ovaries are acting older than your age, semen counts are low, there’s extensive tubal or uterine disease or the above medications failed.
And finally, just take a prenatal vitamin while you are trying and see a doctor before spending money on any over-the-counter medications! If you know someone this might help, feel free to pass this along and share it and call College Hill OB/GYN for an appointment.
The physicians of College Hill OB/GYN provide comprehensive obstetric and gynecological care for women of all ages in every stage of life. Call today to schedule your appointment with one of our six female physicians at one of our four locations in east or west Wichita, Derby or Anthony.
Source: “Infertility Workup for The Women’s Health Specialist.” American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists.
Dr. Laura Whisler completed her residency in obstetrics and gynecology through the University of Kansas School of Medicine and Wesley Medical Center. She keeps busy with her husband and four children.
EXPERTS The Power of Clarity
BY GREGORY LAKIN, D.O., J.D. | CENTER FOR CHANGE One attribute I have consistently noticed with high-performing and high-achieving individuals is clarity, or the quality of being certain and focused. While we all want or need to change things in our lives, whether it be personal, financial or job related, unless we are clear in what we really want and need to change, we will continue to flounder and be dissatisfied. This just leads to more personal frustration and stress.
Having more clarity in our lives helps us focus on what’s important and know what actions and steps we need to take to be more successful. When those baby steps in the right direction are accomplished, we then feel productive, encouraged and more energized.
Here are some initial steps to help find more clarity:
1. Create some dedicated personal time and space to clear your mind and think about what is really important to you. This focused time may involve solitude and meditation or it may involve discussions with others and bouncing some ideas around. 2. After prioritizing what matters the most to you, determine what smaller steps are needed to move in this direction. It helps to write these steps down. These should be stairstepping, short-term goals so progress can be monitored and celebrated when accomplished.
3. Get rid of those things that don’t matter. By staying focused on those primary goals you continue to move forward. Eliminate distractions like TV, Twitter or constant notifications from your phone that disrupt your focus and attention. Those distractions that subconsciously scream for our attention aren’t deserving and create confusion and anxiety. They also rob us of our focus with self-defeating and competing thoughts.
4. Take action. Just doing something will help things become more clear. Do not wait for plans to be perfect or more clear, as that’s just a stall tactic. After completing a significant step, reassess then get moving again. Soon this action will become a habit. 5. Reflect on your progress periodically, every month or so: What have you learned about the process and yourself? Make adjustments, write them down and get moving forward again.
You will find that living with more clarity in your life reduces stress and the feeling of being overwhelmed, so envision a life with fewer distractions as well as less confusion and selfimposed stress. Having greater clarity opens a path to having more joy, happiness and satisfaction in our lives.
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Kyssed by King, Lip Filler at Kansas Surgical Arts
Q&A WITH BETHANY J. KING, M.D.
One of the newest lip fillers on the market is now available at Kansas Surgical Arts. Restylane Kysse from Galderma is formulated to enhance lips to a soft, round volume, producing beautiful results. Dr. Bethany J. King talks about what to expect with lip injections and answers common questions.
Q. How much lip filler do I need?
A. Most lips are nicely improved with just one vial. Some people’s lips require more than one vial to get the look they are aiming for. Sometimes the patient’s anatomy dictates that less than one vial should be used, and I can help you determine that. My goal is to prevent you from looking overdone.
Q. What do lip injections consist of?
A. The material injected is a clear gel called hyaluronic acid. This gel is “known” by your body because there are approximately 15 grams of this substance in your body right now. That’s why it is so well-tolerated. Over time, your body will break down the gel.
Q. How long do lip injections last?
A. Commonly with lip injections, people are satisfied for a year. Some are satisfied longer while others choose an enhancement injected again in six to eight months. This depends upon how much you originally had injected and how efficient your body is at dissolving the gel.
Q. How often does one need to get lip injections?
A. Most people get their lips injected once per year. It’s usually at around the year mark that you look in the mirror and realize, “Huh… my lips are not as full anymore. I think I’ll go back to KSA and have them done again.” Or if you are aiming for a fuller look initially, we strongly advise that you go one step at a time. Get your first vial. Live with it. Let the people around you become accustomed to it. Then have them injected again if you want to go bigger. I recommend waiting at least a month before the second injection.
Q. Are lip injections painful?
A. The lips are about the most sensitive parts of the face. There’s no doubt about that. However, at Kansas Surgical Arts we have a very strong, compounded, numbing cream that makes the process of beautifying your lips less painful than I have personally experienced with prior lip injections done before I came to Wichita. Most patients tolerate it just fine. And bonus, it’s just a few moments of your life for a beautiful, longlasting reward.
Q. How does Restylane Kysse compare to other lip fillers on the market?
A. Nearly any filler you have injected into your lips will be a version of hyaluronic acid. The different companies (like Galderma, Allergan, etc.) have a variety of different versions of hyaluronic in their lineups. The difference between them all is how hard or soft the gel is, how stretchy it is, if it draws water to it a lot or just a little. Restylane Kysse is specifically formulated for lips because it creates a soft, round volume that moves in a natural way with the frequent motion of your lips. Even though it has the ability to produce a range from subtly volumized to vavoom change if you want, your lips still feel soft. Most of our staff have been injected with Kysse by now, as have I. With my third injection, I am happier with my lips now than I have ever been.
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