SOCIETY Charlotte Issue 2 2016

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Contents Events 11 VIVA MOSCHINO!

SOCIETY Charlotte Team

The Perfect Charlotte Round

Publisher and Chairman Craig Moon cmoon@societycharlotte.com

Mint Museum

Editor Amanda Pagliarini Howard amanda@societycharlotte.com

12 Wish Ball

Make-A-Wish

Advertising Vice President Patricia Moon pmoon@societycharlotte.com

Society 13 W.I.S.H. Luncheon Make-A-Wish

Advertising Account Director Renata Coker renata@societycharlotte.com

60th Diamond Jubilee The Links, Inc.

Page Design and Production SPARK Publications info@sparkpublications.com

Gala 14 S.O.S. The Foundation

EDITORIAL

for Tomorrow

Roast 16 Oyster Novant Health Foundation A Community Star 17 Be YMCA of Greater Charlotte Holiday Gala 18 Jazzy Harvey B. Gantt Center Tuesday 19 Giving CLT Launch SHARE Charlotte

Hope Gala JDRF

Mint 20 Moulin Young Affiliates of the Mint & Vino 21 Verse Charlotte Mecklenburg Library Foundation

22 Annual Dinner Community Matters

The Patriot Gala The Patriot Charities

Business 23 NC Hall of Fame

Junior Achievement

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Contributors Dianna Augustine PPT Photography Joe Martin Justin Driscoll Jenn Baxter Copy Editor Jenn Baxter ADVERTISING DEADLINES

& Karats 26 Corks Hospice & Palliative Care

and Friends 36 Fellows A look at the Good lunches

Grand 27 Latour Tasting & Dinner

Et Cetera

Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend

Sweets for Survivors Market Your Mind

of Hope 28 Evening Charlotte Rescue Mission

Features Perfect 30 The Charlotte Round

A list of the best 18 holes

to Men 32 ATonyCall Porter

Issue 4: Beauty & Fashion July 14: Space Reservation July 25: Camera Ready

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Editor’s Letter

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Word on the Street

Male Models

Who are your local male role models?

7 Social Dossier 37 Philanthropy Calendar April, May, June

Word 38 Last With Tom Hanchett

discusses manhood

34 No Flash in the Pan The emergence of culinary fundraisers

CHARLOTTE

The Men's Issue Vol. 5 Issue 2

On the Cover

Cover Photo by Justin Driscoll See page 9 for a detailed list of items and where to find them.

Issue 3: Food & Arts May 19: Space Reservation June 1: Camera Ready

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Male Models | For our men’s issue, we asked readers who their local male role models are for our Word on the Street column. It got me thinking about some of my own.

I have had the great privilege of serving as a liaison or personal host at events for three of Charlotte’s greatest rockstars - Hugh McColl, Jerry Richardson, and Leon Levine. Had they been flippant with me, I would still hold them in great regard for their contributions to our city. Far from flippant, they were good-humored and disarmingly transparent (Hugh), thoughtful and warmly generous (Jerry), and engagingly conversational and considerate (Leon).

In my first editor in chief role for another publication, I reached out to Mac Everett to get his input before we launched the magazine. He was in the thick of things with the Wells Fargo Championship, but met with me anyway, thoughtfully discussing a magazine that didn’t exist yet and then went home and wrote a personal editorial for the first issue

on his early experiences trying to make a difference in Charlotte. It was clear to me how he was so successful in doing just that.

As the CEO for the Charlotte Regional Visitor’s Authority, Tim Newman had an incredible impact on this city in ways that are still serving us today. Tim is one of my biggest role models because he was a doer; and he “did” without stepping on people. He was accessible to anyone who wanted his ear and treated everyone like they mattered.

When the city he served ousted and publicly vilified him, he got up from under the bus he was thrown and quietly moved on.

Thirty years from now, when young people are aghast to hear about the injustices that faced LGBT people in our day, Matt Comer will be spoken of as one of the most thorough and reliable voices of activism in the Charlotte region. Matt knows how to fight without venom, and values fact and intelligent discourse over reactive mud slinging.

Editor's Letter

Finally, my greatest idol is Harry Swimmer. Despite his constant swirl of activity, he will drop everything to help anyone. He does it in big ways – with his Mitey Riders organization that offers special needs children free therapeutic riding at his family farm – and in small, behind the scenes ways for friends, family, and less fortunate strangers that could never offer him anything in return.

But the best thing about Harry’s generosity is that he and his wife, Marilyn have passed it on to their children. Because of David Swimmer, the homeless family I wrote of last month is now safe in their new home thanks to help from the community and David’s willingness to take them as tenants when literally no one else would.

But more than just signing off, David has made trips to visit with them, getting to know the family, teaching the oldest son how to care for a home, and helping to facilitate connections that will continue to improve their lives and ability to be

self-sufficient. On move in day, we all embraced each other and cried.

In the end, my role models all have this in common – they acknowledge a world outside of their own interests and make things happen to help it.

In service,

Amanda Pagliarini Howard

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WORD on the STREET In the spirit of our Men’s Issue, we asked some community leaders —

Who are your local male role models?

“Don Eng. He ran the mill I designed for when it was owned by Collins & Aikman. His leadership skills were straight forward, direct and honest. He knew the textile industry from the ground up and I believed in every word he said. He is someone I aspire to.”

Wesley Mancini, Wesley Mancini Ltd

Actually three local men come to mind. My grandfather, Rev Max B. Mcilwain who was the pastor of our church and the man that taught me that family and faith were important; John McAdoo, who was the owner of a local concrete finishing company and taught me the value of common sense and hard work; and lastly, one of my favorites is Hugh McColl, taught us all the value of vision, the arts and commitment to the community and Charlotte.

Jesse Cureton, Novant Health

"Former Governor and Senator, Terry Sanford, was President of Duke University when I was there in both undergraduate and graduate schools. We worked together on University issues and he became one of my role models. In Charlotte, I consider Harvey Gantt, Hugh McColl and Rolfe Neil as friends and mentors. We have worked together on so many civic issues over the years."

Michael Marsicano, Foundation for the Carolinas

Governor James G. Martin - A PhD in chemistry from Princeton. Professor at Davidson. Tuba player in the Charlotte Symphony. County Commissioner. United States House of Representatives. Governor of North Carolina. Senior Statesman. Citizen.

“Rolf Neill - I was very fortunate to have gotten to know Rolfe when I came to Charlotte over 30 years ago. But I knew Rolfe even before from reading his weekly columns as the publisher of the Charlotte Observer. His words are who he is. His sense of place and history and justice has had a profound impact on my life. I can only hope to live up to his standard.”

Robert Bush, Arts & Science Council

My father, Mike Allen, provided a work ethic to emulate. He possessed a passion for his work, his family, his faith and for others. My father taught me to appreciate the value of a dollar and to respect others because at the core all we have is our word and our name.

Clarke Allen, Clarke Allen Group

Bob Morgan, Charlotte Chamber of Commerce

“My local male role model is my dad, Wilfred Neal. He was a former executive for Duke Energy and post-retirement, he is now the CFO for the United Way Central Carolinas. He portrayed the perfect model of balancing career success with civic engagement and commitment to family. He was always very busy with work, but remained actively engaged in the Charlotte community and was always present for the important sporting and academic events. From a very young age, he instilled a strong sense of “giving back” and civic consciousness in my brother and me. His favorite quote for us: «To whom much is given, much is required.»

Brandon Neal, Wells Fargo

“My dad, Scott Jones. He is a bible study teacher, father, grandfather, top tennis player at Olde Providence, sales manager, and a friend to all. Essentially he works tirelessly to make sure everyone around him is cared for before himself no matter whether he’s known you 5 minutes or 55 years.”

Josh Jones, Jones & Hedges Custom Builders

“Bill Underwood mentored me when I was a newcomer to Charlotte in my late 20’s. He did what he said, a man of complete integrity. He was passionate about his life, his family and making an impact in the Charlotte community. He introduced me to other leaders, and encouraged me to take on community service as a young man. He encouraged me to take a stand on things that mattered, and not be afraid to speak up, even if it was unpopular.”

Mike Whitehead, Center for Intentional Leadership

“Leon Levine - his generosity is an inspiring character trait that I intend to emulate.”

Andy Dinkin, Coldwell Banker Commercial MECA

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Social Dossier

Kara and Greg Olsen

End Your Day at this Tight Pad Panthers’ tight end, Greg Olsen’s house in Longview is on the market.

The Old World style home that he and his wife, Kara, have lived in since 2012, recently underwent an extensive renovation by Kingswood Homes and features an open floor plan, 6 bedrooms, 5 ½ baths, vaulted ceilings, and a beautiful outdoor entertaining area with outdoor kitchen.

The Olsens are working with Giles Barker of Premier Sotheby’s International Realty, who is no stranger to representing pro-athletes here in Charlotte, as well as Miami and London.

The property is listed for $1,699,950 and can be seen on Barker’s website, www.dwellnova.com.

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Social Dossier

Tech Titans Apparo, the only local organization that connects corporate volunteers with nonprofits in need of technology solutions, hosted its annual ConnectivIT Cocktail reception on February 18. This exclusive event, held in the Duke Energy Vista, precedes the organization’s ConnectivIT fundraiser and brings together top tier sponsors of $10,000 and above to network with Chief Information Officers (CIO’s) and IT Business leaders. This year’s reception was a sold-out event with more than 30 CIOs and 125 IT influencers and leaders.

Darius Rucker

Bob and Lee Woodruff and honored vet and tribute speaker Dale Beatty and his wife Belinda Ilya Rubin, Luda Vaynshteyn, Stacey and Robert Frost, Yuriy Vaynshteyn

Laura and James Long, Jenn Snyder, Herm Edwards

Hootie and Heroes

Charlotte Stands For Heroes, presented by the Hood Hargett Breakfast Club, raised more than $100,000 for the Bob Woodruff Foundation, which finds, funds and shapes programs serving injured veterans and their families across the country, including here in North Carolina.

More than 1,000 guests attended the February 17 music and comedy fund-raiser at the Knight Theater featuring Grammy award-winning artist Darius Rucker and comedian, Sinbad.

Rob Gerden, Ebba Karlsson, Deion Martin, Raj Bharadwaj

Bidding on Blue & Gold Charlotte Preparatory School hosted its Blue & Gold Social – an annual volunteer-driven auction benefitting the School’s initiatives and events. In recent years, auction proceeds have provided extensive professional development opportunities to faculty and staff, allowed for the deployment of Smart Boards and other technologies in classrooms, purchased fine arts materials, and upgraded school signage.

Some of the popular items up for auction included tickets to Hamilton and Maroon 5, as well as vacation rentals and student art work.

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Say Ahhhhh at Om On the evening of January 30, the usually tranquil oasis on Fenton Place bustled with energy, music, lights, and attendees in celebration of Om Spa’s 10 year anniversary. The event brought out spa clients and supporters who enjoyed cocktails and heavily stocked goody bags. The spa was also showcasing its latest therapeutic offering, – Halotherapy, or salt therapy, which helps with a variety of respiratory and skin issues including asthma, sinus infections, COPD, eczema, acne, and psoriasis.

But be sure to get your appointment in advance – with the Carolina pollen season in full effect, a session in a salt room is like a breath of fresh air, literally. And Om Spa has the only one in town.

HopeWay Ball Organizing Committee -Rebecca Morris, Ellen Jones, Robbie Barnstorm, Kacie Blue, Nancy Blue, Neely Anderson

Allison Popp, Leary Scarborough, Ty Peebles, Meg Morrison

Blythe McAuley, Michael and Laurens Threlkeld, Caroline Graves

Hope for Mental Health HopeWay, which this year is opening a new Charlotte campus to meet the needs of adults and families living with mental illness, recently attracted a sell-out crowd of young adults to its first annual HopeWay Ball, a fundraiser and “friendraiser” to support its mission of providing patient-centered, holistic mental health care for the greater Charlotte region.

HopeWay’s continuum of care will include residential care, day treatment programs, vocational training and job placement services, with a goal of helping clients live successfully and independently in the community. To learn more, visit www.hopewayfoundation.org

Photo courtesy of Lumina News

Cameron Holtz, Claire Talley, Carolyn Hogue

Eric Montgomery, Felipe Gonzalez, Kimsioux Montgomery

Keep Paddling If you’re a lover of watersports, the outdoors, or a frequent visitor to the U.S. National Whitewater Center, than this event might be worth the drive for you.

The 6th annual West Marine Carolina Cup presented by Surftech will be the first major stop on the 2016 World Stand Up Paddleboard race circuit April 19-24, in Wrightsville Beach.

All races begin and end at host hotel, Blockade Runner Beach Resort.

Eight hundred paddlers are expected to start in three different races on Saturday, April 23 — the 3.5-mile Harbor Island race, 6-mile Money Island race, and 13.5-mile Graveyard race.

Competitors include Olympians, world-record holders, and champions in the disciplines of standup, prone, surfski, and outrigger canoe paddling.

Chris O'Donnell, DeeDee Watts, Karen Meadows, Michael Glinter

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Where to Find The items procured for our cover came from retailers, Bruce Julian and The Sporting Gent.

Located across the street from one another on Selwyn Ave, these two retailers cater to men who have a personal sense of style, unique to their side of the street. If we had to categorize their offerings, one could imagine a Bruce shopper chartering a yacht, while a Sporting shopper would be hoisting the sail.

Both stores have very strong principles about the brands they carry. It’s only made in the U.S.A. for the Sporting Gent. For Bruce, you can be fairly certain that if you can find it at a mall, you won’t find it in his store.

1. Cotton Pocket Square with covered pin back button by The Hill-Side, Bruce Julian, $45 for the square $1.95 for the button 2. Pheasant Bow Tie by Brackish, The Sporting Gent, $185.00 3. Cotton Toile Pocket Squares Handkerchiefs, Derek Rose of London, Bruce Julian, $45 for a set of 2

Photo by Justin Driscoll

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4. Superman Silk Pocket Square, Bruce Julian, $39.50 5. The PeeDee by Williams Knife Co., exclusive to The Sporting Gent, $375.00 6. Redfish Buckle, The Sporting Gent, $90.00 7. “Queen City” over the calf socks, DAPPER CLASSICS, Bruce Julian, $25 8. Record Player Cuff Links, Bruce Julian, $69.50 9. Jacob Bromwell Great American Flask, The Sporting Gent, $199.99

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VIVA MOSCHINO!

| Mint Museum

The Mint Museum hosted a private, members only preview evening of VIVA MOSCHINO – the first Franco Moschino retrospective in the U.S. The collection was assembled largely from two Chicago-area private collections, institutional loans, and the Mint’s own Fashion Collection, and focused on the Italian designer’s work between 1983 – 1994.

Get Involved: With over 75 years of history and nearly 35,000 works of art, The Mint Museum is widely recognized as an invaluable cultural and educational resource for the city, the region and the state.

mintmuseum.org | 704-337-2000 Photos by Joe Martin More photos at SocietyCharlotte.com

Ann Tarwater, Kitty Hall, Cynthia Haldenby Tyson

Berhan Nebioglu, Nicloe Crews, Rita Miles

Robyn and Todd Albaum

Liz Shuford, Lee Kennelly , Liz Hilliard, Clary Gray

Chiropractic Service Massage Therapy Waxing Thai Massage and Bodywork Therapy Halotherapy Skin Care Body Treatment and Wraps Spa Packages Reflexology Spa Courtesies Spa Etiquette

SALT THERAPY SPECIAL The first salt room or halotherapy suite in Charlotte.

Celebrating 10 Years of Service at Om Spa. Buy one salt room session and receive two additional salt room sessions free.

Can not be combined with other discounts. New clients only.

Shelly Landau, Stephanie Bissell, Kitty Pray

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The Wish Ball

| Make-A-Wish

The Make-A-Wish Central & Western North Carolina Chapter celebrated 30 years of granting wishes at The Wish Ball on February 12 at the Westin Charlotte. The annual fundraising gala is the Chapter’s largest event of the year, celebrating the 260 wishes granted last year, as well as the 273 wishes to be granted in the upcoming year. Hosted by WCNC’s Larry Sprinkle, the evening included a seated dinner, live and silent auctions, raffles, a wine pull, jewelry pull, musical entertainment and plenty of surprises for and from wish families.

Get Involved: Make-A-Wish® Central & Western North Carolina covers 51 counties and has granted more than 3,000 wishes to children diagnosed with a life-threatening medical condition since it’s inception in 1985.

Allisin Hensley, Melissa Ames

Andy and Ghazale Johnstong

Ken and Shana Fox

Lars and Julie Hedenborg

Mark Ledford, Taylor Holt

Parker, Alston, John, and Lori Gaillard

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Violet Spataro

Rachel Wood, Jaymie Nielsen

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W.I.S.H. Society Luncheon The W.I.S.H. Society – which stands for Women Inspiring Strength and Hope - honors the important professional and philanthropic roles played by the community’s most extraordinary women. Utilizing their talents, compassion, personal connections and leadership qualities, the W.I.S.H. Society Luncheon Honorees joined forces with Make-A-Wish to grant the wishes of local children with life-threatening medical conditions.

2015 honorees included: Betsy Pence, Christi Ratcliff, Daniele Donahoe, Emily Koloski, Jane Conversano, Jen Wetzel, Jessica Whitaker, Joyce Page, Kari Roberts, Kelli Storey, Michelle Rogers, Nanci Granow, Sara Barkat, Sharon LachowBlumberg, and Whitleigh Cook.

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Brittany Danahey, Lynn Petilla, Lorie Timber, Sandy Carlson, Mary Rineheart

Get Involved: W.I.S.H. Society Honorees are selected by Make-A-Wish by way of personal referral or nomination. A person may nominate a friend, family member or colleague - a woman may even nominate herself. Make-A-Wish looks for a dynamic group of women from varying industries, age groups and philanthropic passions.

Braylon Beam

nc.wish.org | 704-339 -0334 Photos by Dianna Augustine More photos at SocietyCharlotte.com Zoe Gillespe, Jane Rodewald

DJ and Krista Stout

60 Anniversary Diamond Jubilee Celebration | The Links, Inc. th

The Charlotte Chapter of Links Inc. celebrated sixty years of service in Charlotte, with its Anniversary Diamond Jubilee Celebration on November 14 at Foundation for the Carolinas. The event featured three floors of food, beverages, entertainment, and dancing. Proceeds from the evening benefit The Links Foundation, scholarships, and health and wellness initiatives.

Get Involved: The Links, Inc. is a volunteer service organization concerned primarily with enriching, sustaining and ensuring the identities, culture and economic survival of African-Americans and persons of African descent.

Roger and Natasha Denny

charlottelinksinc.org Photos by Dianna Augustine More photos at SocietyCharlotte.com

John and Debra Plousha Moore

Elizabeth Simpson, Daisy Walker, and Catherine Watkins

Sheraz Wylie, Elisa Ramey

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S.O.S. Gala

| The Foundation for Tomorrow

The S.O.S. (South of the Sahara) Gala was held on November 6th to celebrate the journey and growth of The Foundation for Tomorrow. The annual black tie benefit always attracts a glamorous crowd of young philanthropists and featured dinner, dancing, and auctions.

The Foundation was started by Charlotte native, Meghann Gunderman, after she spent time volunteering in a Tanzanian orphanage. Because of the high number of orphaned children, most are aged out of that system at age 5, leaving them vulnerable and without means to attend school.

Get Involved: The Foundation For Tomorrow secures quality education and emotional support for orphaned and vulnerable children so that they may reach their full potential and thrive in their communities.

Adam Hawthorne, Tara Hughes

Alice Lehman, Susan Bryson

Erika Becker, Rod Moskowitz

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Jennifer Jackson, Jordan McGee, Amy Pittinger

Grayson Walter, Lisa McKenzie, Juan and Keyla Sandoval

Jason Sehorn, Kathy Gunderman, Eric Skipper

Katheryn Bailey, Brinley and Will Huntley, Whitney Dana

Maggie Eastman, Chase Riley, Katie Scott, Lyndsay Cooper

Carolyn and Tommy Megremis, Alice Lehman, George and Deb Hanna

Suzanne Dillingham, Kristin Heinrich, Nicole Bailey, Kaitlin Rogers-Perez

Jennifer Fornelli, Rod Moskowitz

Meghann Gunderman, Elizabeth Hawthorne

Elizabeth McNabb, Cole Totton, Derek Owens, Madison McNabb, Carles Whitman, Louise Corder

Meredith Dolhare, Matt Elliott

Meredith Tomascak, Shelley Wilfong

David Smith, Brooke Spivey

Kellen and John Seymour

Bill Pettus, Donna Oxford

Rick and Monica Hancock

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Oyster Roast

| Novant Health Charitable Foundation

On October 23, Novant Health Charitable Foundation (NHCF) held their annual Oyster Roast at a private estate. The casual, outdoor event features spectacular food and live music to raise money for NHCF’s cancer services. Funds raised at the 2015 Roast will go towards the campaign for a new Heart and Cancer Institute – the first of its kind in our region.

Get Involved: Novant Health Foundation currently manages over 150 funds, both endowed and temporarily restricted, benefiting Novant Health hospitals, service lines and patients in the Charlotte region.

Alice Gallagher, David Page, Art Gallagher

Beecky and KD Weeks, Catherine Mulford

novanthealth.org Photos by PPT Photography More photos at SocietyCharlotte.com Brenda Wing, Kim Henderson, Donna de Molina, Kay Saville

Kay Saville, Bill and Judy Verross

Kathy Brown, Agnes Weisiger, Tara Conrad

Midge Barron, Teri Spears, Beth Handford

David and Terri Bradshaw

Lamar Pierce, Kristin Perrotta, Jackie Balsley, Fred Boling, Linda Matney, Jim Corcoran

Karen and Steven Johnson, Lori Dodson, Cathy Brown, Mary Wallace

Jesse and Angela Cureton

Stan Brookshire, Carl Armato

Ellen Meyer, Susan Woollen

Macy Stratton, Sarah Wrenn

Micheal Mayer, Hays Woollen, Paula Vincent, KD Weeks, John Henson

Laura Solitario, Christa Hurt, Audra Gallant

David Ibsen, Travis Commodore, Keenan Jones

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Be A Community Star Gala | YMCA of Greater Charlotte The Siskey Family YMCA “Be A Community Star” Gala was held November 7 at The Ballantyne Hotel with over 400 in attendance and 250 auction items. The event raised over $264,000, which will provide scholarships for children, families and adults to be able to attend the YMCA and participate in its activities.

This annual event for the Siskey Y will be held this year on November 5 at the Ballantyne Hotel.

Jeremy Galfield, Ruby Robinson

Get Involved: The Y is one of the nation’s leading nonprofits, strengthening communities through youth development, healthy living and social responsibility. To get involved in this year’s gala, contact Debbie Inman at Debbie.Inman@YMCACharlotte.org.

Michael and Linda Rose

Ann Haywood, Teresa Aken, Debbie Fugit

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David Schweit, Jessica Taylor

Michael and Laura McCarthy

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Jazzy Holiday Gala

| Harvey B. Gantt Center

As the Gantt Center’s major annual fundraiser, Jazzy is one of the longest running annual traditions in the Charlotte area that boasts excellence in the arts, culture, history and community; annually celebrating established arts patrons and community leaders.

The evening featured a sneak preview performance by the Dance Theatre of Harlem, and recognition awards to Dr. Yele Aluko, Dr. Shirley Houston-Aluko, Duke Energy, and leading historian and Smithsonian director, Lonnie Bunch III. Get Involved: Founded in 1974, Charlotte’s Harvey B. Gantt Center for African-American Arts + Culture exists to present, preserve and celebrate the art, history and culture of African-Americans and people of the African Diaspora through dance, music, visual and literary arts, film, educational programs, theatre productions and community outreach.

Lynda Bernard, Farah Saint Jean

Shirley and Yele Aluko

Ed and Tanya Franklin

ganttcenter.org | 704-547-3700 Photos by PPT Photography More photos at SocietyCharlotte.com Graham Miller, Patterson Maker

Robert and Beverley Graham, Arlene Ferebee, Jesse and Angela Cureton

Jill Dinwiddie, David Taylor, Jennifer Green

Joe Pierce, Kathleen Jamison, Kama Pierce, Jackie McWilliams

Jeff Bundy, Marty, Marcie, and Lila Kelso

LaFleur Paysour, Lonnie Bunch, Vi Lyles

James Bowden, Tammie Wade, Linda Brooks, Brenda Bowden, Wil Brooks

Harvey Gantt, Garcia Williams, Jonathan Green

Julie Faggart, Eva Hinson

Scott Provancher, Charles Winston, Catherine Austin

Bobby and Lydia Drakeford, Quinton Talley, Trena Drayton

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#GivingTuesdayCLT Launch In partnership with Heist Brewery, SHARE Charlotte kicked off its three-week campaign on November 10, with a goal of raising $2 million to be shared amongst 108 area nonprofits. Ultimately, the campaign soared past their goal, raising more than $4.2 million.

A staggering 4,185 new donors contributed to the local effort.

Through its signature campaigns #GivingTuesdayCLT and #summershareCLT, SHARE Charlotte raises awareness of local non-profits, and more importantly, the level of giving.

| SHARE Charlotte

Allen Davis, Kenya Smith

Kathryn Orr, Adam Rhen, Savannah Buck

Get Involved: SHARE Charlotte is a one-stop-shop to making a difference right NOW in Charlotte, with hundreds of ways to donate, volunteer and find a cause.

sharecharlotte.com Photos by Joe Martin More photos at SocietyCharlotte.com Hannah Levinson, Andy Goh

Kelly Brooks, Helen Kimbrough, LuAnn Ritsema

Hope Gala In November, Kerri Wallace and Cathy Diel co-chaired the 2015 Hope Gala, which honored Bank of America for their commitment to the organization.

Amongst the exciting fundraising opportunities throughout the evening, was a live auction item donated by country singer Eric Church for tickets to the Country Music Awards in Nashville.

The Hope Gala celebrates the advancement in research and contributes to the promising future for a cure for type 1 diabetes.

Get Involved: JDRF is the leading global organization funding type 1 diabetes (T1D) research.

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Cathryn and Conner Tarlow

Joy and Chip Dillman

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Moulin Mint

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On November 13th, the Young Affiliates of the Mint journeyed back to late 19th-century Paris for the Fall Ball 2015: Moulin Mint. The signature gala was a celebration of La Belle Époque, the golden age of Paris when art and culture flourished. The Moulin Rouge opened, the World’s Fair came to Paris, the Eiffel Tower was built, and the Impressionists finally gained the recognition they deserved.

Guests enjoyed French-inspired cuisine, an open bar featuring Tito’s Vodka, live music, and access to the Mint’s galleries. All proceeds from the event will be used to help offset the cost of providing tours of the Mint Museum to Charlotte-Mecklenburg students.

Get Involved: The Young Affiliates are a group of young professionals promoting and supporting the Mint Museum through cultural, social, leadership, and fundraising activities and events

Jennifer Nodine, Derek Eddy

Chip and Veronica Getzg

Jenna Rose, Shaneise Moore

Lauren Traudt, Jessica Del Veccio, Brittnee Kight

Kristin and Matthew Timmerman

Lauren Coley, Alana Maurer

Meggan Bushee, Whitney Feld

Rebecca Damron, Frank Mancuso

Amber Barefoot, Patrick Mapile

Arjun Nanda, Veronica Lommel

Brian Hayes, Elizabeth Hamm

Briana Phillips, Johnny Brenson

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Allison Purmort, Kate Hussmann

Tiffany Tyson, Andrew Howard

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Verse & Vino

Charlotte Mecklenburg Library Foundation

A favorite event amongst those on the fundraising circuit, Verse & Vino is the Charlotte Mecklenburg Library Foundation’s signature literary and fundraising event that engages readers, community leaders, and Library supporters.

The evening included book signing with guest NY Times bestselling authors – Chris Bohjalian, T.J. English, Gregory Maguire, Dolen Perkins-Valdez, and Karin Slaughter.

Get Involved: Created in 2012, the Charlotte Mecklenburg Library Foundation supports the Library’s programs and services through advocacy, fundraising and building relationships with others who share a passion for the Library’s work.

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Robbie Branstrom, Katie and Rebecca Morris

Susan Schwartz, Hope Levin

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Annual Dinner Community Matters: Insurance Partners of Charlotte held its fourth annual fundraising dinner at the Club at Longview on November 9, to raise awareness and funds for homelessness prevention and recovery in the Charlotte region. The nonprofit organization is focusing on the homelessness issue through its 2014-16 partnership with Charlotte Family Housing and Crisis Assistance Ministry.

Community Matters was formed in 2011, by a group of insurance and risk management professionals as a means of working together to make a difference in their community by partnering with one or two local charities each year. It has had a significant impact in a short time, raising more than $600,000 in its first four years.

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Kristy Rankin, Fran Lott

Priscilla Perry, Julie Lopett

Get Involved: Community Matters is a nonprofit comprised of insurance and risk management professionals who have joined together to make a difference in the community – one cause at a time.

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Kedar Bryan, Angela Matherly, Pat Bowes, Linda Pettigrew

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The Patriot Gala celebrated its 10th year on November 7th at Quail Hollow. Though the Gala is one of the highest ticket prices in Charlotte fundraising events, it remains one of the hottest tickets. The always sold out crowd brings politicians, dignitaries, and honored military guests.

Get Involved: The Patriot Charities raises funds to financially assist nonprofit organizations and local programs within the Carolinas concerned with the immediate welfare, care and support of our wounded military and their families.

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H.B. Smith, Cindy Stringham-Smith

Paul Kranz, Paula Broadwell

Stephanie and Jack Goins

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North Carolina Business Hall of Fame Junior Achievement of Central Carolinas

Each year, Junior Achievement (JA) partners with the North Carolina Chamber to present the North Carolina Business Hall of Fame event honoring the accomplishments of outstanding business leaders from across our state. Each Laureate is selected by a panel of business and community leaders for their significant contributions in building and defining the NC business landscape.

The 2015 honorees included Robert Barnhill, Barnhill Contracting Company; Dan DiMicco, Nucor Corporation, Susan Cameron, Reynolds American Inc. Â

Don DiMicco, Harvey Gantt

Susan Hughes, Donna Cooper

Stacey Partington, Shari Stroud, Ann Swann, Chrissy Barnhill

Elizabeth Edwards, Penny, Austin, and Sarah Barnhill

Get Involved: Junior Achievement is the nation’s largest organization dedicated to giving young people the knowledge and skills they need to own their economic success, plan for their future, and make smart academic and economic choices.

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Susan Cameron, Lisa Caldwell

Amy Kochan, Lindsay Giriunas, Beth and Steve Gress

Jacie and Jarod Latch, Hailey and David Kernodle

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Corks & Karats

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Hospice & Palliative Care hosted their 4th annual Corks & Karats Gala at Carmel Country Club in November. The fall fundraiser is known for its upscale cuisine and fine wine, along with extensive jewelry auction items.

The funds raised will help provide the highest-quality hospice and palliative care to anyone, of any age or diagnosis.

Get Involved: The mission of Hospice & Palliative Care Charlotte Region is to relieve suffering and improve the quality and dignity of life through compassionate hospice care for those at end of life, palliative care for those with advanced illness, and through community education.

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Kelly Schoeneck, Charlene Dumas

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Amanda Young, Julie Sass, Kellie Thomas

Kristina and Michael McCarter

Jim Rogers, Richard Rossman, Patty Blackburn

Kelly and Michael Wilson

Alison and Greg Hudson

Bill Freeman, Andrea Powell

Eric and Marcie Gram

David Dockerty, Sharon Mazurek

Martha Trammell, Christy Gisinger

Robin Buck, Nancy Cole

Pat Crull, Joanne Lane

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Latour Grand Tasting & Dinner Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend

In October, Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend welcomed Louis-Fabrice Latour to Charlotte for a guided tasting of 18 Premier Cru and Grand Cru Classé wines, including an exclusive preview of the 2013 vintage. Some of the wines offered had not been released to the public and were direct from their caves in France.

After the tasting and dinner, a live auction was held with 100% of the proceeds benefitting the Wine & Food Weekend’s recipient children’s charities – Pat’s Place and Council for Children’s Rights.

Get Involved: Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend brings together leading wine makers and chefs from around the world to celebrate and advance public knowledge of and appreciation for great wine and food, while making significant contributions to charitable organizations that benefit children and their families in the Charlotte community.

Charles Peach, Pamela Pearson, Phil Smith, Pam Furr

Taber Cathcart, Phil Smith

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John Clay, Elizabeth Rosten, Walter Dolhare

David Furr, Louis Fabrice Latour, Grant Thompson

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Market Your Mind, Not Your Body (MYM) Last fall, MYM hosted their first major fundraising event at Packard Place uptown. The event featured a large silent auction and lots of yummy treats prepared and served by sex trafficking survivors enrolled in the MYM program.

Several community leaders spoke of their belief in and commitment to the organization, including board member Tony Porter, who pens a special call to men on page 32.

Get Involved: MYM serves young women between the ages of 13 and 21 who have a history of, or are at risk for, domestic sex trafficking and commercial sexual exploitation, by offering a range of support, advocacy, career, education, and recovery services.

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Stephen and Cecilia Hipp

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Evening of Hope The 3rd Annual Evening of Hope was held in the fall at the beautiful banquet facilities of the Billy Graham Evangelical Association. The seated dinner for over 300 guests featured stories of hope and transformed lives from Charlotte Rescue Mission graduates and their families.

The Leon Levine Foundation committed to match, dollar-for-dollar every new and increased gift at the event up to $50,000. This grant resulted in The Mission raising over $200,000 at the event, surpassing previous years’ totals.

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Joan and Keels Dickson

Joey and Brittany Logano

Tricia Mears, Meredith Tomascak

Kirsten Wrinkle, Kim Lehman

Lisa and Ted Thompson

Get Involved: The Charlotte Rescue Mission provides a free 90-day Christian residential program for men and women who are addicted to drugs and/or alcohol and are predominantly homeless.

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Teresa Dufine, Kathy Leonczyk, Peggy Nelson, Mary Campbell

Lindsay and Chip Moore, Ashley Smith

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The Perfect Charlotte Round HOLE 6

A group of our readers put together their list of Charlotte’s best 18 holes of golf Compiled by Gray Howard Editor’s note: This list is solely based on personal opinions. No editorial consideration was given to any particular course and there were no advertising dollars associated with this article.

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hen my wife asked me if I would assemble a group of my golf buddies and put together a list of the best golf holes in Charlotte, I found it rather amusing considering she never lets me play anymore. While there was a time I averaged two rounds a week and a two handicap, I have now been married long enough to decode that when the response to proposing a Saturday afternoon of golf is, “Um, yeah, that’s fine,” it is not fine.

So when I started to compile this list and take a trip down memory lane, it was more challenging than I had assumed. First, I’ve played a lot of golf courses in and around Charlotte but since I tend to spend some time at the 19th hole it’s often hard to remember each hole in great detail.

Secondly, Charlotte has so many quality golf holes, picking the best 18 is very subjective. And lastly, I certainly didn’t want to offend anyone by not highlighting a certain hole - especially members at Quail Hollow and Charlotte CC. Connections there are held quite sacred!

So with that in mind, my fellow golf enthusiasts and I decided to format this article by picking the best consecutive golf holes in the Charlotte City limits, excluding the public golf courses. No offense to the public courses but this is Society magazine and I don’t think many readers are playing Renaissance on a regular basis. If you feel we got it wrong, I’d be happy to reconsider. I’m available most weekends and caddies tend to make the golf hole more memorable.

HOLE 1 Charlotte Country Club 373 YARDS | PAR 4 This is a favorite starting hole in Charlotte. You’re teeing it up at Charlotte CC, one of Donald Ross’s true gems. You walk out of the pro shop and the first tee is right there.

It’s not a terribly hard hole so it allows the golfer to ease into the round, which was Ross’s intention.

HOLE 2 Myers Park Country Club 425 YARDS | PAR 4 To ensure a Charlotte icon is included among the fine golf clubs here, why not go with the number 1 handicap hole at MPCC. It commands a booming tee shot to allow for anything less than a long approach shot to a beautiful putting surface.

HOLE 3 Carolina Golf Club 201 YARD | PAR 3 Hang onto your hat here. This is a classic Donald Ross hole that plays much harder than it should.

The green is really not that small.

However, since it sits out there on a little Pedi stool in a big open field it looks like it’s about 10 paces wild from the tee. Stay out of the front trap and remember to take your driver to the green for your next tee shot.

HOLE 4 Carmel Country Club South 576 YARD | PAR 5 After a routine failed par save at Carolina’s 3rd, it’s time to get one back. Not so fast, the 4th at Carmel South is the ultimate risk reward par 5. The tee shot is fairly open, but position and length are key in order to have a go at the green.

With water all down the right side, it’s prudent to play it as a three shooter, but keep in mind the third shot is no walk in the park. That said, sometimes it feels better to knock it in the water from 200 plus yards then just 75. Give it a go!

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12 FOOT | PAR 2 While we are certainly overlooking the possibility that there may be many fine #5 holes at the private clubs in Charlotte, it seemed fitting to include perhaps the most unique of country clubs Charlotte has to offer. Therefore, we are giving hole #5 to Belle Acres (sometimes pronounced Belly Achers). Quite frankly, we don’t even know the difference between #5 and any of the other 8 holes.

HOLE 6 Carmel CC South 454 YARD | PAR 4 After the water ball at Carmel’s 4th and a few martinis at Bell Acres CC, let’s play this one safe.

This is a fantastic par 4 dogleg with water up the right side and plenty of bunkers. Don’t cut the corner too much and don’t go over the green, and you’ll be fine.

HOLE 7 Quail Hollow 570 YARD | PAR 5 If you don’t know this hole, you must be new to Charlotte. It’s a great par 5, with a creek running down the right side and a challenging tufted away green that slopes toward the creek, making it lightning fast.

As you’re walking down the fairway, look to your right and admire the pristine manicured yards.

HOLE 8 Carolina GC 505 YARD | PAR 5 Carolina’s #8 is special to some on this panel. This tee shot should be generous enough to land a 747, and hit well, allowing for little risk in going for a reachable green. Yet for

some of us, along with an albatross, it has also produced pulled tee shots into the left hazard so as to avoid the big block to the right and not break another windshield on Old Steele Creek Rd.

HOLE 9 Raintree Country Club North 221 YARD | PAR 3 To preface; Raintree’s South course is a fine track but the North course is not a favorite, probably because we’ve had so many good shots go out of bounds. That said, number 9 is a fantastic golf hole. It is a long downhill Par 3 that is guarded by a lake with the Raintree signature fountain. It is a large green but certainly an intimidating hole. We’d hate to finish there on the final day of the club championship.

HOLE 12

HOLE 16

Piper Glen

Carmel CC South

183 YARD | PAR 3

532 YARD | PAR 5

Many people talk about Piper Glen being too executive or corporate, but there are certainly some great holes out there. Hole 12 is a fantastic little par 3 that requires a great tee shot and a fantastic short game.

We wanted to include Carmel South’s 16th here, as this is a classic par 5, with water down the left and a semi peninsula green. If you’re leading the club championship down the stretch, you have to respect this hole.

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Charlotte CC

HOLE 17

404 YARD | PAR 4

457 YARD | PAR 4

Quail Hollow 192 YARD | PAR 3

If there’s going to be some feedback on this article it might be here. In our opinion this is a fantastic Donald Ross golf hole.

It’s somewhat tight off the tee but the real challenge is the elephant that is buried underneath the green. Some would say this is too tricked up, but I think this is Donald challenging us to be our best.

I know the 8th hole is the number one handicap hole at Charlotte, but we think it should be the 13th.

To quote the iconic line from the movie Animal House, “Thank you sir, can I please have another.”

HOLE 14

The 17th at Quail is just a classic par three with the earlier mentioned lake surrounding a large part of the green. A very challenging hole, but more importantly, if you are attending the Wells Fargo Championship, this is the green side tent you want to be in - top shelf booze!

Quail Hollow 345 YARD | PAR 4

HOLE 11

We felt it was important to include a drivable Par 4 in the mix, so it seemed only natural to include the 14th at Quail. This is a great little hole that is guarded by a beautiful lake. Stay right, avoid the bunkers, don’t go over the green, and a birdie could be in the cards. But don’t worry, if you miss the lake on 14, you have several more chances!

Charlotte CC 191 YARD | PAR 3 This is a favorite hole in Charlotte.

By this point you’ve somewhat digested the unbelievable chicken salad at Charlotte’s turn house and are ready to attack. Again, a very intimidating tee shot as it looks much longer than it is - a full carry over a beautiful pond - and they can tuck the pin to be nearly impossible, even to Jason Day.

HOLE 15 Quail Hollow 566 YARD | PAR 5

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HOLE 5 Bell Acres CC

We apologize for including so many Quail holes but… it’s Quail Hollow.

Perhaps if they tinker with it a little more this won’t be a problem. But as it stands the 15th is an awesome golf hole that requires a great tee shot, followed by quite a challenging second or third shot, and a tricky green. Here’s your chance for another water ball, so stay right.

HOLE 18 Piper Glen 514 YARDVPAR 5 I know many will disagree, but this is an exceptional finishing hole.

Presumably, if they were to hold a PGA or USGA event here, this would be played as a par 4. There is water all down the left side with bunkers down the right. The tee shot is challenging, but the second into the peninsula green is where it gets interesting. The only bailout is short right into a greenside bunker.

Smart golfers will tell you to take a little extra club and stay right, but clearing the right bunker will still present another water ball.

Don’t misunderstand, the 18th at Quail is a great finishing hole, but Piper Glen’s 18th played as a par 4, puts the icing on the cake.

To contact, disagree, or invite the author for a round, he may be reached at grady.k.howard@gmail.com ■

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a Call to Men Principles of Healthy, Respectful Manhood

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Written by Tony Porter, Author, Educator, Activist and Co-Founder of A CALL TO MEN Photos by Jeff Palmer

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s an educator, activist, author and co-founder of A CALL TO MEN, I spend most of my time – and have spent most of my adult life – thinking about and talking about what it means to be a man. I have worked with men all around the world for the past 20 years.

That’s a lot of handshakes, fist bumps, high fives and hugs. There are some wonderful aspects of being a man, like the pride we take in working hard, being providers, loving husbands, partners and fathers. But there are other aspects of manhood that are tripping us up.

Men’s violence against women is the leading cause of injury to women in this country. The Centers for Disease Control reports that almost a quarter of heterosexual American women have experienced some form of severe physical violence from their intimate male partners. The risk starts

early and crosses all socioeconomic boundaries.

A Bureau of Justice study found that 1 in 4 female senior students had experienced sexual assault in their time on a college campus.

I know that the overwhelming majority of men in this country don’t perpetrate violence against women. The majority of men are good men and a good man would not assault a woman. A good man believes women should be respected. A good man honors the women and girls in his life. A good man believes in equality for women.

So why is violence against women at epidemic levels and how does violence against women shape what it means to be a man today? One of the primary reasons is because the collective socialization of manhood provides the foundation for violence against women to exist.

Our society’s rigid definitions of manhood

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– definitions that have been passed down from one generation of men to the next – provide the fertile ground where violence can take root and flourish. Research by the World Health Organization shows that men and boys who adhere to rigid, traditional notions of gender roles and masculinity are more likely to report having used violence against a partner.

Far too often, we men and boys define ourselves by devaluing women and girls. We have been taught – and we teach our boys – to be tough, to be strong, to be courageous. We have been taught – and we teach – no fear, no pain, and to only express anger. We reinforce these teachings by telling our young boys that girls are weak and girls get scared. We do this through colloquial sayings and phrases so engrained in our culture we don’t give them a second thought.

“You throw like a girl.”

“Only little girls cry.”

“Man up.”

There are more explicit sayings common among teens and grown men that use genderbased attributes to bully and discriminate.

“You are acting like a little b*tch.”

“Don’t be a p***y.”

I once asked a 12-year-old football player, “What would happen if the coach said to you, in front of all your teammates that you were playing like a girl?” I expected him to say he’d be mad,

sad or angry but instead he said, “It would destroy me!” I thought, Oh my God. If it would destroy him to be told he was playing like a girl, then what are we teaching him about girls?

Here is what I believe we’re teaching him: In defining manhood, our society has created what we call the Man Box, which contains many rigid definitions of manhood limiting who we are, what we’re expected to think and feel, and how we should regard women and behave towards them.

In the Man Box, men are taught to be dominating, so women must be submissive.

Men are strong, so therefore women are vulnerable and weak. Men are superior, so women are inferior. Men are in charge, which means women are not.

In defining manhood, men are taught to distance themselves from the experiences of women and girls – to develop a lack of interest.

This starts in the toddler years when boys are told things like, “you don’t want to play with dolls, those are for girls.” Around age 16 the culture of manhood gives boys permission to be interested in the experience girls in one primary area – sexual conquest. This is continually reinforced by society. Everywhere boys look they see women and girls objectified and portrayed in ways they can be “consumed” by men. Boys who have interest in the experience of girls outside of sexual conquest are far too often punished for operating outside of the Man Box. They are called derogatory and homophobic names, which further devalues women and girls.

Men who are abusive exploit this reality. While

well-meaning men may not hurt or degrade women, they have been conditioned to not intervene, to not interfere in the business of another man on behalf of a woman.

In reality, sexism and inequality not only hurt women, but imprison men. We are held hostage to the norms of the Man Box and it has a profound impact on men’s health and emotional wellbeing. When boys are told not to cry or feel, there are long-term lasting negative effects on their health and relationships. Research by the Harvard School of Public Health found that those who suppress their emotions are one-third more likely to die prematurely than people who regularly express what they are feeling. Issues of rage, anxiety, depression and unhealthy coping mechanisms can manifest. According to the Centers for Disease Control, the suicide rate is four times higher in men than in women.

Rejecting rigid notions of masculinity and embracing and promoting a healthy, respectful manhood prevents violence against women, sexual assault, sexual harassment, bullying and many other social ills, so these men make a positive contribution to their families, their communities and humanity at large.

My work, my hope, is that all men will evaluate what manhood means to them. I ask men to embrace and promote the Principles of Healthy, Respectful Manhood.

This is the work that’s in front of us as men.

For the women we love and care about, for our communities, for the betterment of humanity, but also for ourselves. ■

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No Flash in the Pan

In a time when top chefs are given celebrity status, several Charlotte organizations took them out of the kitchen and put them in front of their audience this fall. Whether it was for a competition, a demonstration, or to have the kids jump in to lend a recipe and a hand, these events used food to keep their fundraising efforts interesting and authentic.

Chefs for Kids’ Cancer COOKIES FOR KIDS’ CANCER An expansion of the Chef for Kids’ Cancer - New York City event that began in 2014, Chefs for Kids’ Cancer - Queen City was a fun-filled culinary event hosted by the national not-for-profit, Cookies for Kids’ Cancer (CFKC). Chefs from Passion 8, Heirloom, Summit Room, Fork!, and Flipside Cafe participated to raise awareness and support for new, improved, less toxic therapies for pediatric cancer.

Banner Burleson, Josh Jones, Sarah Smith, Scott Jones

Richard and Sonja Nichols, David Head

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Ebgee Lanum, Tracy Rush, Amy Christinbury, Kerri Norwood

Katherine Lesage, Kim Ewert

Rita Hardin, Megan Deblitz

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Educate Your Palate CLASSROOM CENTRAL Classroom Central brought back its popular Educate Your Palate fundraising event on November 12 at Discovery Place. New this year was The Coolinary Kids Challenge that paired popular professional chefs with aspiring young cooks to bring student recipe ideas to life. Eight students were selected after participating in a contest open to all kids within the six districts that Classroom Central serves.

Taber Cathcart, Karen Calder

Allison and Michael Hinshaw, Elizabeth Rostan

Jamie and Richard Morrow, John Linker

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Elizabeth Schmidt, Tracey Croner

Stefan Fencl, Amber Beecher

Raven Devault, Madeline Stokes, Evy Linker, Alyssa Gorelick

Robbin and Pat Riley, Cheryl Richards

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Miracle on Monroe COMMUNITY CULINARY SCHOOL OF CHARLOTTE (CCSC) The culinary job training organization put its mission on display for its “Miracle on Monroe” fundraiser in December. Students, graduates, and teachers assembled festive hors d’oeuvres, fresh baked goods, live cooking demos, and chef-driven action stations all to raise money for CCSC’s workforce development training and job placement program.

Anna Banks, Annie Hetzel, Meredith Banks

Chip Hood, Karen Dean

Linda Icard, Marilyn Sczech, Jill Adams

Lisa Archer, Rhonda York, Tom Crozier, Elise Barksdale

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Ron Ahlert, Dena and Robert Diorio

Jessica McVey, Missy Banks

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Epicurean Society Fall Reception JOHNSON & WALES UNIVERSITY EPICUREAN SCHOLARSHIP SOCIETY Ed Scarpone, Johnson & Wales graduate and executive chef of DBGB Kitchen & Bar in Washington, DC, was the featured guest at the Epicurean Society fall reception. Johnson & Wales University established the Epicurean Scholarship Society to provide scholarship support for students in its College of Culinary Arts and the School of Hospitality.

Members pay $2500 to join per year and in return are invited to a fall reception and spring dinner.

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Garret Lochner, Markella Calliagas, Jane Phillps, Pam and David Furr

John and Catherine Papas, Isabel and Stuart White

Robert Mock Jr, John Bowen

Vanessa Garcia, Beth Imscis Photos by Dianna Augustine

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Fellows and Friends

For Charlotte’s Leading Ladies and Gentlemen, the holidays always include one Good lunch This past December, the all male Good Fellows club celebrated their 99th legacy, a commitment to giving back to the working poor, and perhaps a anniversary. When the ladies sought to start their own version, Good Friends, little bit of competitive spirit, both groups raised more than $800,000 over two in 1987, they were more or less told not to bother. Thanks to perseverance, lunches in December.

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GOOD FRIENDS

Catherine Browning, Janet Bradshaw, Velva Woollen, Courtney Hyder, Joanne Beam

David Carroll, George Battle

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Philanthropy Calendar April Levine Children’s Gala Levine Children’s Hospital Saturday, April 2 7p.m.

Quail Hollow Club St. Jude Charlotte Wine Dinner St. Jude’s Hospital Friday, April 8 6:30p.m.

Bank of America Stadium Green Tie Gala UNCC Scholarships Friday, April 8 7:30p.m – 11:30p.m.

Omni Charlotte 49eralumni.uncc.edu Move It! Awareness Walk for Parkinson’s Parkinson Association of the Carolinas Saturday, April 9 10a.m.

Marion Diehl Recreation and Track www.moveitwalk.dojiggy.com Color A Brighter Future Breakfast Classroom Central Tuesday, April 12 7:30a.m. – 9:30a.m.

Bojangles Coliseum classroomcentral.org/cbf2016/ 2nd Annual Women for Courage Luncheon Jamie Kimball Foundation for Courage Wednesday, April 13 11:30a.m – 1p.m.

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May Tea Time in the Garden Wing Haven Gardens Sunday, May 1 4p.m.

Clarkson Garden, Wing Haven Florence Crittenton Services Annual Luncheon Tuesday, May 3 Noon – 1:00p.m.

Myers Park United Methodist Jubilee Hall Legacy Awards Leadership Charlotte Thursday, May 5 3rd Annual Catwalk to Camp Autism Society of NC Thursday, May 5 6:30p.m. – 9p.m.

Olde Mecklenburg Brewery Bet on the Bright Side Bright Side Youth Ranch Saturday, May 7 The Lodge at The Sanctuary 10450 Wildlife Rd. The Regatta Party Lake Norman Hospice & Palliative Care Saturday, May 7 6:30p.m.

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June Charlotte Swim Week Jill’s Wish & All We Want is Love Thursday, June 2 – Saturday, June 4 Olde Mecklenburg Brewery laceintl.com Kicking It With Cam! Celebrity Kickball Tournament Cam Newton Foundation Friday, June 10 Memorial Stadium

28th Annual Festival of Tables Salvation Army Women’s Auxiliary Friday, April 15 10a.m.

Sheraton Uptown Dancing With the Stars Carolina Breast Friends Saturday, April 16 7p.m. – 10p.m.

Booth Playhouse ConnectivIT Ball Apparo Saturday, April 16 Convention Center Sweet Escapes Community Link Saturday, April 16 7:30p.m.

The Mint Museum on Randolph 14th Annual Autism Aware Fare Autism Society of NC and Mecklenburg County Tuesday, April 19 For list of participating restaurants, visit – Autismawarefare.org Portraits of Courage Luncheon Thompson Child & Family Focus Thursday, April 21 11:30a.m. – 1p.m.

The Westin Family-Fun Puzzle Run Autism Society of NC Saturday, April 23 8a.m.

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A Place to Call Home Children’s Home Society of North Carolina Thursday, May 12 11:30a.m.

The Westin Blue Jean Bash Gala Habitat for Humanity Charlotte Saturday, May 14 6p.m. – 10p.m.

Founders Hall 3rd Annual Mosiac Awards Behailu Academy Saturday, May 14 6:30 – 10p.m.

The Summit Room Crown Town Throwdown Cornhole Tournament InReach Saturday, May 21 11a.m.

Old Mecklenburg Brewery Jimmie Johnson Foundation 5K Sunday, May 22 9a.m. start Newell-Rubbermaid Campus 8926 Northpointe Exec Dr. Huntersville, NC Oncology Charlotte’s Komen Golf Tournament Susan G. Komen Charlotte Monday, May 23 1p.m.

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Kids Rock! Gala Cam Newton Foundation Saturday, June 11 Dine Out for Kids Communities in Schools Tuesday, June 21 For a list of participating restaurants, visit cischarlotte.org

3rd Annual Casino Night Patriot Military Family Foundation Saturday, April 23 7p.m.

The Peninsula Club Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend Benefitting: Charlotte Concerts, Council for Children’s Rights, Pat’s Place Child Advocacy Center, Safe Alliance, and Second Harvest Food Bank of Metrolina April 27 – 30 Charlottefoodandwine.org 5th Annual Hearts for Rehab Carolinas Rehabilitation Friday, April 29 6:30pm Hilton Center City Broadway Ball Theatre Charlotte Saturday, April 30 7p.m.

The Big Chill The Sarcoma Stomp Paula Takacs Foundation Saturday, April 30 8a.m.

Christ Lutheran Church 4545 Providence Road sarcomastomp.org Bike LUCK Camp LUCK Saturday, April 30 7:30a.m.

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Last Word with

Tom Hanchett Consulting historian with Levine Museum of the New South

Local Community Issue most on your radar…Until recently, Charlotte was a national beacon for school integration, thanks to the landmark 1971 U.S. Supreme Court ruling Swann v Mecklenburg. Today, though, our schools are re-segregating, both racially and economically. CMS is in the midst of its regular reconsideration of pupil assignment policy. I admire the efforts of young leader Justin Perry (OneMeck.org) and others who are debating the best way to move forward.

author Sam Byrd of New York University.

Broader national/international issue most on your radar…As people with money, with choice, flock back to America’s cities today, it’s getting harder for a nurse, a police officer, a retiree on Social Security to find an affordable place to live. Charlotte has created some highly desirable mixed-income districts that are getting national attention. In both First Ward in uptown and brandnew Brightwalk on Statesville Avenue, subsidized and market-rate apartments mingle with middle-income and upscale single-family homes. Can we do more of that? In all parts of the city?

Charlottean who should be given a reality show…Quentin Talley’s theater company On-Q Productions creates some of the most exciting shows in Charlotte. He co-led a team that twice won the U.S. Slam Poetry title. And he regularly fronts a jazz combo. Even with all that talent, it’s always touch-and-go whether he can find funders, line up participants, and draw audiences…. Yep, just start those reality TV cameras rolling.

Local non-profit you would drop everything to help…I’m a big fan of the cultural connecting that Charlotte Folk Society does. The first Friday of each month, the old wooden pews at the Great Aunt Stella Center fill with listeners for a free concert showcasing a different homegrown music tradition. And afterward, song-circles and jam sessions help turn strangers into friends.

Best party/event you’ve been to in the last year…Taste of the New South, the annual fund-raiser at Levine Museum of the New South, always has excellent eats, intriguing entertainment and a diverse crowd of movers and shakers from across the spectrum of Charlotte. I’m looking forward to this year’s edition, showcasing the many Latino cultures that now call CLT home — in honor of our big current exhibit NUEVOlution. Did you know that Charlotte is the fastest growing Latino major metro in the U.S.?

Recent splurge purchase you treated yourself to…Can’t resist a bookstore! At Book Buyers used book emporium in Plaza Midwood, I just scored a vintage copy of Charlotte 23 with bios of bygone leaders from bestselling author Harry Golden to Civil Rights activist Fred Alexander. And at Levine Museum’s bookshop I bought The Sounds of Latinidad — an exploration of Latino music right here in Charlotte — autographed by

Charlottean you’d like to see run for Mayor one day…Garrett Tichy and Samantha White convene Charlotte Agenda Live each month. It’s a discussion salon (with beer!) which draws upwards of 300 folks, mostly in their 20s and 30s, to learn about this city and talk about how to make it better. If Garrett or Sam don’t run for Mayor one day, they’ll surely have good connections to whoever does.

Best meal you’ve had in a while…I write the Food From Home column for the Charlotte Observer, so I’m blessed with lots of memorable meals.

Recent discoveries? I think you’ll like Chaupaati on Highway 51 at 485, featuring informal “beach snacks” from India. And Cooking Pot African Kitchen on Independence, with savory stews and rice dishes from Nigeria.

Advice you’d give your younger self…

Read the newspaper every day, look at what people are arguing about, be aware of new things that are popping up in the city. Even if it doesn’t seem to apply to you, it will. Of course if I were young today, I’d be reading not just the Charlotte Observer but also one or two of the online news sources (Charlotte Five, Charlotte Agenda, QCity Metro). Plus the Charlotte Post. And Que Pasa Mi Gente or Hola Noticia or another Latino paper…

If Charlotte’s history has taught us anything…In this city of newcomers, it’s possible to dig in and make a difference.

From R.M. Oates who built the first textile mill, to Edward Dilworth Latta who built the first suburb, to Hugh McColl who built America’s biggest bank, Charlotte innovators have often come from elsewhere. So if you see something that gets you grumpy, get involved, make it better.

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