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Moms, Dads & All Things Kid in Orange County™ SEPTEMBER 2017
Returns this October with “Kids Free San Diego” Big Savings for Families
For the 6th Year in a Row, Families Can Enjoy Special Deals at San Diego Hotels, Attractions, Restaurants, Arts and Culture Venues and More
During the entire month of October, more than 100 San Diego hotels, restaurants, attractions, museums and transportation companies will offer families with children moneysaving deals, so they can enjoy San Diego without emptying their wallets.
“Kids Free San Diego” provides families an opportunity to save during budget-conscious times with a variety of unique “kids free” incentives, ranging from complimentary attraction admission to meals, welcome amenities at area hotels and much more.
Consistently rated one of the top family destinations in North America, San Diego is home to world-class family attractions, a rich arts and culture scene, delicious Cali-Baja cuisine and popular activities like whale watching, golfing, surfing and kayaking. In October, after the summer beach crowds diminish, visitors to San Diego can relish in the region’s sunny weather and warm temperatures and enjoy a number of fun-filled fall activities for the whole family. Below are highlights of the 6th annual “Kids Free San Diego” month.
Big Savings at World-Class Family Attractions
Home to the San Diego Zoo, San Diego Zoo Safari Park, SeaWorld San Diego and more, San Diego is offering substantial savings this October with free kids’ admission to local attractions.
Kids, ages 11 and younger, are admitted free into the San Diego Zoo where families can explore Africa Rocks, the zoo’s newest exhibit highlighting Africa’s biodiversity. The offer is also valid at the zoo’s sister attraction, the 1,800-acre San Diego Zoo Safari Park, where guests can get up-close views of rare wildlife through safari-like experiences.
Offering one child, ages 3 to 9, free admission with one fullpaid adult admission, SeaWorld San Diego lets kids dive into Ocean Explorer, a new attraction featuring five rides, which opened
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May 2017. The same offer is valid at Dine with Orcas, and kids, ages 10 to 12, can participate for free in SeaWorld’s Dolphin Encounter and Dolphin and Beluga Interaction Programs with one paid adult participation (kids must be at least 48” tall to participate).
Kids can have a true Southern Californian experience at Belmont Park in Mission Beach, San Diego’s only beachfront amusement center where families can ride the historic Giant Dipper roller coaster, play mini golf or compete in a laser tag game. Children, ages 12 or under, receive one free child wristband with the purchase of each fullpriced adult wristband (height and safety restrictions apply).
Hotels Roll Out
the Welcome Mat for Kids
Located throughout San Diego, hotels ranging from budget options to luxury escapes are rolling out the welcome mat for kids this October. Kids can eat free at many hotels or receive special welcome gifts upon arrival at others.
With views of Point Loma and Shelter Island, Kona Kai Resort & Spa will offer kids a special welcome gift and a free meal at the hotel’s Vessel Restaurant and Bar with the purchase of an adult meal.
Opened in February 2017 in the center of downtown’s vibrant Gaslamp Quarter, The Pendry offers families a modern luxury getaway where kids ages 12 and under can enjoy a sleepover party with in-room movies (limit of two), snacks and candy and Kid’s Sleepy Time Spray from Spa Pendry. The “Kids Party Free in their PJ’s” package is available for every night booked in October.
At the family friendly Paradise Point Resort & Spa on Mission Bay, kids will be able to play for free on land and sea with a special “island allowance” worth $50. The credit can be applied towards the resort’s kid-approved activities including bike or paddleboard rentals, miniature golf, and more.
Kids Can Dig In on the Deals at San Diego Restaurants
After an enjoyable day around the city, parents can have a taste of San Diego’s emerging culinary scene while kids eat free at participating family friendly restaurants.
Located on the waterfront in downtown San Diego close to popular family attractions like the USS Midway Museum and Seaport Village, Carnitas’ Snack Shack at the Embarcadero offers kids, ages 12 or under, one free
“Kid’s Combo” with the purchase of an adult meal. Maximum of two kids per paying adult, the offer is valid at the Embarcadero location only.
With locations in Pacific Beach and Mission Hills, The Patio restaurant offers families a place to sit down and have a taste of San Diego’s seasonal cuisine. Children, ages 12 or under, can enjoy one free meal with every paid adult entrée.
Whether breakfast, lunch or dinner, families can enjoy a relaxed meal overlooking the waterfront at Buster’s Beach House in Seaport Village. While parents sip on a beer or specialty cocktails, kids can select any entrée, free with the purchase of an adult entrée.
Kids Learn and Have a Blast at San Diego’s Diverse Arts and Culture Venues
Kids have endless options to learn while they have fun at more than three dozen San Diego museums countywide that are offering free admission to all kids, ages 12 and under, in October. Here are just a few of San Diego’s many kid-friendly museums to discover:
Kids can get hands on with interactive activities, see a tank feeding and explore the wonders of the ocean at Birch Aquarium at Scripps in La Jolla, featuring more than 60 colorful habitats that include marine life, coral reefs, sharks, jellyfish and outdoor living tide pools. This interactive museum showcases cutting edge research discoveries on climate, earth and ocean science from Scripps Institution of Oceanography, UC San Diego.
Boasting great views of San Diego, Cabrillo National Monument in Point Loma is the perfect setting for families to explore the natural, historical and cultural history of the region. The best place to start is at the Visitor
Center, which offers exhibits, films and ranger-guided programs that offer insights into the history of Cabrillo. A short walk leads to the 1880’s restored Old Point Loma Lighthouse and a historic military building that exhibits the history of Fort Rosecrans. On the west side of the Point Loma peninsula, tidepools form during periods of low tide, exposing San Diego’s diverse ocean ecosystem.
Located in Carlsbad, the Museum of Making Music tells the story of American popular music and the people, historical events and innovations that influenced music making and musical instruments. Kids can travel back in time through galleries showcasing the evolution of musical instruments,
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hear familiar tunes in audio and video clips, get their hands on and play a variety of instruments and discover the innovative ways that the music industry has grown over the years.
Free Unique and Cool Ways for Kids to Explore San Diego
During October, kids can cruise, ride or cross into San Diego for free. From utilizing a unique pedestrian bridge connecting Tijuana and San Diego to sailing the San Diego Bay, children have many ways to explore San Diego.
Families traveling across the U.S.-Mexico border can now save time and money with the Cross Border Xpress (CBX), a unique pedestrian bridge connecting the Tijuana International Airport (TIJ)
with San Diego. When flying into TIJ, children 12 or under can get a free single trip ticket via Tijuana to San Diego with purchase of an adult ticket. The offer is not available online and must be purchased at CBX counters at the Tijuana airport and applies with proof of hotel reservation or activity from other Kids Free San Diego participating partners.
Kids can cruise around the San Diego Bay in style with San Diego Sailing Tours. The company offers a variety of packages for groups, individuals or private sailboat charters. Kids sail free with a full priced adult reservation.
San Diego Fly Rides offers kids the opportunity to discover San Diego on an electric bike. Families can either explore on their own or join one of the many guided tours offered. One child, age 12 and under, can ride for free with minimum of two paid adults per rental or tour.
A complete listing of “Kids Free San Diego” participants and their special offers are available at SanDiego. org/KidsFree. All offers are valid Oct. 1-31, 2017, and age limits and other restrictions vary by venue and activity. Visitors should check for complete offer details and terms at SanDiego.org/KidsFree before visiting any attraction.
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Club Literacy: Creating a New World of Words
BY JODY ROBINSON
In a day in age when most ten yearolds have their own cell phone, and are, at many schools, required to have their own laptop, the demand for true literacy is faltering; and therefore incredibly precious. So what are parents to do prior to age 10, when game apps and screen time take over, and many children’s love of books and reading falls by the wayside?
Tracey Pringle likes to think that instilling a love of literacy early on is the best way to develop lifelong achievers, and is betting her livelihood on it. With Club Literacy, Mrs. Pringle has turned a typical education center into a nurturing environment in which all children are encouraged and guided to reach their creative and academic potential. Dedicated to the development of lifelong readers, Club Literacy was
getting to build friendships with each other as they greet the world of letters. There is a special emphasis on multisensory activities in order to best match all students’ learning styles.
born out of two Bachelors degrees, one in Speech Communication, one in Early Education - and eight successful years in the trenches of public school, teaching Kindergarten through Fourth grade.
“My proudest moments have been seeing my own children develop a strong love of literature,” says Tracey. “I’m a literacy advocate, through and through.”
Credentialed in both California and North Carolina, Tracey also travels internationally to research effective educational techniques. Offering both specialty summer classes and a full lineup for the fall, Club Literacy is gearing up for another reading year. “We start with the basics - we’ll meet those ABC’s any way we can!”
ABC Club, for ages 4-5 introduces to club members through fun and exciting books, fairy tales, fables, poems, and parodies. Students enjoy
Specially designed for full and halfday kindergartners, Kindergarten Smart Start and Early Literacy both explore further the ideas and shapes of the ABC’s, building the foundation of reading readiness. Beyond simple recognition and sound links, students are provided with the opportunity to engage in cooking experiments, themed dress-ups, phonics games, creative dramatics, and even collaborate with the rest of the class to publish a class book. According to a 2013 study from the U.S. Department of Education, approximately 32 million adults in the United States can’t read. Stopping that trend before it starts, with tender, loving encouragement is a priceless gift, and Tracey and her team are proud to send students home with a wide variety of tools to succeed.
Kids progress through 123-ABC Math Journals and Book Bunch, where trueto-life mathematical situations are provided to explore and investigate. With reading, as with mathematics, the sooner a child can demonstrate their reasoning and illustrate their thinking, the stronger their confidence will be later on in school. “Many problems have multiple solutions, and by giving students the
chance to work through them, we reinforce phonic skills, and basic word sight recognition. Simultaneously, writing skills are strengthened!”
As a mom whose elementary-aged daughter has attended Camp Literacy’s summer camps and reading classes, I can personally attest to the fact that while what Tracey provides is a focused learning experience, she does so in an environment of fun and creativity - my daughter absolutely LOVES everything about being a part of the Club Literacy “family,” from the camaraderie and encouragement to the educational activities.
Tracey, a 2010 recipient of the WomanSage Award for her work in Child Development, loves nothing more than getting buddies together and working towards successand her Book Bunch is exactly that. “Their collective goal is to become great readers and writers, and by placing an emphasis on phonic skills and word recognition, students exploration of the worlds of pirates, mermaids, and sea monsters becomes an opportunity, not just a magic story hour.”
Connect with Tracey by calling (949) 717-6624 or visit www.clubliteracy.com
And before you know it - that child who would rather look at their smartphone will be saying the three little words every parent wants to hear (not “Mom, more dessert”). More. Books. Please.
Library Helps Teens Find Their Dream Job
The Orange Public Library and Orange Public Library Foundation are proud to present year five of our exciting S.T.E.A.M for Teens series of hands-on workshops. This year tweens (6th grade and up) are invited as well.
S.T.E.A.M. is an educational approach to learning that uses Science, Technology, Engineering, the Arts and Mathematics as access points for guiding student inquiry and critical thinking.
The end results are students who engage in hands on learning, problem-solving, learn to work in groups and develop a creative process. These are the innovators, educators and leaders of the future!
This year we kicked off our program on September 30th with “Exploring Quantum Mechanics with your Laser Pointer” presented by Dr. Justin Dressel from Chapman University. On October 28th we examine “Creative Concoctions“ by Elaine Benaksas Schwartz, Ph.D. from Chapman University.
On November 18th Patti Williams from Career Technology Education at Orange High School will present “Got Milk & More”. December 2nd will see Shannon Kane from Top Hat 8 Repertory showcase “Behind the Scenes-Live Theatre”.
This year’s program concludes on December 16th with “Cybersecurity-Learn What it Will Take to Keep us Safe” lead by Irvin Lemus from Coastline Community College.
All programs will be on Saturdays from 2:00- 4:00 p.m. All sessions will take place in the Orange Public Library & History Center Community Room at 407 E. Chapman Ave. in Orange, CA.
The program is widely popular so we strongly suggest registration. Please call the Welcome Desk at (714) 288-2418 or stop by in person to sign up. Refreshments and snacks will be served. Participants may enter to win a laptop at each session for a grand prize drawing.
This program is made possible through a grant from Southern California Edison and the Orange Public Library Foundation. We thank them for their support.
DESIGNING THE FUTURE
Modeling America’s Youth Through Boys & Girls Clubs of Capistrano Valley
By Jody Robinson
It has been exactly 157 years since the first Boys Club was founded in Hartford, Connecticut. Elizabeth Hamersley and Sisters Mary and Alice Goodwin were first to share the vision of enabled, successful youth, eventually stoking the fire to inspire the likes of former US Presidents, Postmaster Generals, and even the director of the FBI to form the Boys Clubs of America in 1956. Since then, the Club has undergone a second redesignation, upgrading its name to Boys & Girls Clubs of America in 1990. In total there are now organizations in all fifty statesserving, by totals from 2010, as many as four million boys and girls.
James Littlejohn, Executive Director of the Boys & Girls Club of Capistrano Valley, has certainly followed in the illustrious footsteps of those who came before him. Providing stimulating and challenging programs in order to reach their potential as productive, responsible and caring citizens has never before been such a daunting or rewarding venture, and James is preparing the South County to be a vanguard for the next 157 years of Clubs.
The notion of a productive future is wildly subjective, but James views his mission through a similar lens to that of a creative designer, achieving perfection “not when there is nothing left to add, but when there is nothing left to take away”, as Antoine de Saint-Exupery noted in his 1939 text, Terre des Hommes. This act of distillation has proven to impress upon its youth a sense of self-worth by minimizing the vast and oft overwhelming
scope of moral principles to a simple development strategy: academic success, good character, citizenship, and healthy lifestyles. One could spend all his time debating the merits of each facet of social, educational, or vocational leadership.
To that effect, James and his team in the Capistrano Valley are attacking all of the above, with tailored development programs from which their full time staff is seeking results. So how much does it cost? A better question in James’ mind is how much is it worth?
“No child is ever turned away due to lack of ability to pay,” says James. “More than 88% of our membership qualifies for the free or reduced lunch program which grants them scholarship opportunities. And all of our services are provided to our members for a single $70 annual membership fee.”
While at the club, members have the opportunity to choose the programs they wish to participate in. The only mandatory activity is POWERhour homework time. “Allowing our members to make positive choices helps
them to grow as a person and prepares them to become responsible citizens.”
The full time staff develop the Clubs’ programs, and are supplemented by volunteers; both part and one-time. Programs are geared towards the Formula for Impact. Like Saint-Exupery’s design strategy, the Clubs’ Formula is driven by select key positive youth development elements: High-Yield Learning activities and regular attendance. The outcome of Academic Success then, is graduated members leaving high school ready for college, trade school, military, or full-time employment. Registering to vote and engaging in the community with model character is a direct outcome of paring down the programs with Good Character and Citizenship in mind. Adopting a healthy diet goes hand in hand with the Clubs’ priority outcome area of Healthy Lifestyle - creating a lifelong commitment to fitness.
SOME OF THE OPTIONS KIDS HAVE TO CHOOSE FROM?
“Summer has a devastating effect on America’s kids, especially those who don’t participate in enriching summer activities,” says James. “Summer Brain Gain is hugely important to help keep kids on track in time outside the strict direction of schooling months. Youth aged 13-18 can explore a broad range of career areas,
match their interest to development clusters, and identify the skills and education they need for their decided path. We work with the Club to recognize members for extraordinary achievements - standing as ambassadors for Boys & Girls Club youth in a Youth of the Year role.”
Kids can also join the Keystone and Torch Club - both of which offer opportunities for small group leadership and service, maturing younger adolescents at a critical stage in their health, education, community, and social development. Sports like wrestling, tennis, basketball and indoor soccer are on the table tooand participants are exposed to vari ous activities designed to hone their decision-making and critical-thinking skills: learning how to successfully avoid and/or resist alcohol, tobacco, and premature sexual activity.
Want to help out, but not sure how to begin? “Any investment is a worth while investment”, James notes. “Ex pertise, financial, or just your time. Add your name to the list of men tors who have brought this program through the last 157 years.” Who knows? You might be that key piece in Saint-Exupery’s design koan: you add, the kids take away.
Connect with James and the Boys & Girls Club of Capistrano Valley by calling (949) 240-7898 or visit www.bgccapo.com
Preparing Your Kids for the Unexpected
With school starting back up, it is important to make sure that your children know what to do in case the unexpected happens. While no one likes to think about those situations, being prepared for emergencies is the best method to deal with them. Preparing your child can help whether they are with you or elsewhere in an emergency.
Aparents’ number one concern is to make sure that their child is safe. Thanks to reminders like National Preparedness Month in September and readiness programs, there are resources that are at your disposal to help your child learn how to react in the case of an emergency.
Here are some ideas to help teach your kids preparedness from a young age:
• Build a kid kit: in case you’re not home and something happens, it can be helpful to have an emergency kit ready that your child can easily access and is familiar with. Including items such as water, a flashlight, a favorite stuffed toy, a list of emergency numbers, etc., can make all the difference for your child when the time comes.
• Practice different scenarios: when you are driving in the car or even sitting at home, verbally running through possible scenarios of emergencies is a good way to practice with your child and help them figure out what to do. Even try running a fire drill at home so your kids know of multiple safe ways in and out of your home.
• Place a call list in their backpack: it is quite a lot to ask your child to memorize every number they should call in case of an emergency. Typing or writing out an emergency contact list to use in case of emergency is an easy option. This can also help your child’s teachers in case they need to get a hold of someone when you are not available.
• Understanding when to use 9-1-1: make sure your child knows the difference between situations that require them dialing 9-1-1. Also,
practice how to recognize first responders such as police officers, firefighters and more with them so they know who will be there to help in an emergency (in addition to you).
These tips are a few of many that can help jumpstart your family’s preparedness efforts. It doesn’t have to be a scary experience for them or for you. Practicing disaster scenarios can almost play out like a game, but the important
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lesson is that when the unexpected does happen, the proper reactions are ready. For more tips and resources, look into the local preparedness program, ReadyOC
Thinking about these types of situations can be scary and stressful, but you will definitely thank yourself later for making sure that your child knows what to do in the case of an emergency. There is no way to tell when a disaster could happen but it is always best to be prepared.
ReadyOC is a public service campaign funded by the U.S. Department of Homeland Security Urban Area Security Initiative (UASI) aimed at educating and empowering Orange County residents, businesses and the community to better prepare for any kind of natural, health or man-made threat. Through www.ReadyOC.org, the goal is to get local residents and businesses better prepared for a variety of emergency situations that could impact the county, and also to offer opportunities for concerned citizens to get involved with area readiness efforts. Working together, everyone can make a difference in creating awareness, motivating preparedness and encouraging involvement.
Construction of the first ever
“50 MONKEY FERRIS WHEEL” has started at
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Cathi Decker, Executive Director of Friends of Santa Ana Zoo (FOSAZ), announced the construction of the “50 Monkey” Ferris Wheel at the Zoo today. It is the first Zoo in the United States to put in a permanent thatched-roof style wheel. Decker envisioned this idea at the end of 2010 when she returned from an IAAPA (International Association of Amusement Parks and Attractions) Convention. It took seven years before her dream would become a reality. Nestled between the Zoofari Express Train and the Conservational Carrousel, the 50 Monkey Ferris Wheel is the perfect addition for this local Zoo to present a total of three child-friendly attractions that can be shared and enjoyed by all ages.
The Wheel is expected to welcome as many as 65,000 happy riders per year, which, together with the Train and Carrousel, will generate a projected
game changing gross income total of close to a million dollars annually. Decker applied calculations based on her “synergy of three” (incremental ride increases based on a study of when three rides are together) strategy to compute these numbers.
“My goal is to increase our net revenue donation to help the Santa Ana Zoo’s visitors and animals including the 50 monkeys who live here at our Zoo!” said Decker. “I am grateful to our team of supporters who have gone above and beyond to bring my vision of a Ferris Wheel to our Zoo including FOSAZ President David Exline, Howard Hall, Kevin Jackson, Suzi Furjanic, Marie Rourke, Larry Breitenstein from Chance Rides and Gordon Nelson who procured our loan from US Bank.
Uniquely designed to spotlight the Santa Ana Zoo’s 50 monkey heritage, each fully-contained gondola will feature a description of an endangered monkey, furthering the
Zoo’s dedication to the education of environmental conservation through the preservation of endangered species. Educational graphics telling the story of Joseph Prentice and the Zoo’s requirement to house 50 monkeys at all times in order to maintain the land will be found along the loading queue-line walkway.
The 50 Monkey Ferris Wheel is expected be open by the end of the year and will run 7 days a week, 365 days per year (except on severe weather days and required maintenance days) from roughly 11 AM to 4 PM on the weekends; and 11 AM to 2 PM on the weekdays. Rides will last roughly 10 minutes. During special events, the Wheel will stay open for longer hours.
The Santa Ana Zoo is home to more than 260 animals, including 60 of the most interesting and engaging monkeys and several endangered species, like the golden lion tamarins. The Zoo is open daily from 10:00 am - 4:00 pm. The Santa Ana Zoo in Prentice Park is located at 1801 Chestnut Avenue, Santa Ana, CA 92701. For more information call 714836-4000 or visit www.santaanazoo. org. Follow The Santa Ana Zoo on Twitter and Facebook.
Kids Behaving Badly Is Your Child Out of Control?
BY KRISTINE EMERSON
As I write this, I am thinking of one poor mom (let’s call her Sarah) whose daughter, Kaitlin (her name is also changed) was in my son’s first grade class.
In the early part of the school year, her 6-year-old was often openly defiant and disobedient during play dates, after school at the park and even at drop off and pick up – so much so that other moms started steering their kids away from her daughter lest her bad behavior rub off on their little ones.
Sarah told me that in spite of her best efforts to control her behavior, her daughter responded by being even more willful and stubborn. But by the time
spring rolled around, Kaitlin seemed to be much better behaved and Sarah far less stressed. I wondered if her daughter had simply outgrown the bad behavior or if there was more to the story. So at the next play date, I asked Sarah what had changed.
Her mom said another mother with three willful children of her own had shared her experiences of dealing with “out of control” children and the simple child-rearing advice that made all the
Keep in mind that a more effective punishment is a learning opportunity. If they have hurt someone’s feelings, help your child make amends.
difference: Be consistent, exact discipline appropriate to the infraction and show your children that you love them even when they are behaving badly.
Be fair and firm
When it comes to disciplining a child, there are as many methods as there are parents and children. Which you choose is up to you. But for our part, my husband and I try to always be mindful that each child is different and so is each infraction and as such, the punishment should fit the crime. For instance, we will not discipline our child who has lied to us in the same way we would a child who didn’t do his chores.
No matter which mode of discipline you decide to employ for each kind of misbehavior, the most crucial factor is to always follow through on what you’ve outlined is the appropriate response –and do so immediately.
“Make sure the punishment fits the crime by considering age of child, if it is a repeat offense, who has been affected or harmed and can there be restitution instead of a simple ‘grounding,’” says Kelly Klaus, LMFT based in San Juan Capistrano. “Keep in mind that a more effective punishment is a learning opportunity. If they have hurt someone’s feelings, help your child make amends. If they have broken something, let them earn money to repair the broken item.”
Parents should address their child’s negative behavior as soon as it happens. Ignoring the behavior sends the message that there are no consequences to their actions. In order to affect change, you have to stop and address their out-ofcontrol behavior right away – every time.
You might think that will mean that your child will constantly be in “time out” or forever lose privileges, but as Sarah discovered, the more often she corrected her daughter and remained consistent, the less frequently Kaitlin needed to be disciplined.
With consistency and discipline, remember that the single most important aspect of changing your child’s behavior is showing them that you love them unconditionally – even in the throes of negative behavior. It’s work and it takes time, but you’ll be rewarded with a more obedient, respectful child.
Are You Ready for a Furry Addition to Your Family?
BY KRISTINE EMERSON
When my husband and I were in the market for a new home, we often took the kids with us to view open houses. At the time, we lived in a house with a great deck for entertaining, but no yard for little ones to run around – and certainly no space for a puppy to play or do his business.
So as we pulled up, the kids would make sure to point out that each open house had a lawn – perfect for our new pet.
Now that we’ve been in our new home for over a year, we think we might be ready for a furry addition to the family. A dog can be a wonderful addition to a home, but there are a few things you might want to consider first.
The benefits
Pet ownership can be extremely rewarding. Dogs are awesome companions. Owning one also creates plenty of opportunities for the kids to practice responsibility and caring for others.
How does the breed and the specific animal you’re considering interact with children?
Certain breeds are known to interact better with children than others. It’s important to see how an animal behaves around your children before making it a part of your family. It’s important for not only for the safety and enjoyment of your children, but also the dog itself.
Do your research
Some breeds are more susceptible to certain health conditions. It’s important to educate yourself on the breed, so you can be aware of any potential issues.
Knowing the breed’s typical personality is also key. For example, Golden Retrievers tend to be super friendly, social dogs that thrive on attention. This breed might not be a good fit for a busy family on the go.
Find a good veterinarian and groomer
Ask around – friends and family who are fellow pet owners will be your best resource. You can buy most any product you’ll need to care for your pet overthe-counter (i.e. flea and tick shampoos, etc.), but you’ll need a vet for your pup’s
A dog can be a wonderful addition to a home, but there are a few things you might want to consider first.
monthly heartworm treatments and annual vaccinations.
Read up on some good practices for both potty and behavior training
Even if you adopt an older dog, the newest member of your family may need a refresher course on potty training. When introduced into a new environment, a dog can’t be expected to naturally know what your expectations are. If you need help, there are plenty of local trainers available. Again, look to family and friends for a “word of mouth” referral.
Is your family ready for a pet?
The most important question to ask – is your family able to devote the time and energy necessary for being great pet parents?
Pets of the Month
This handsome boy is named Juno and he is ready for fun! A lively three year old Siberian Husky, he enjoys outdoor activities and playing with his canine buddies. Juno gets along with family members of all ages and would thrive in an active household.
Four month old Nala is sweet kitty ready to make your acquaintance. This petite little girl loves to spend her days playing with toys and snuggling the other kittens. With her sleek coat and happy disposition, Nala would make a wonderful addition to the family.
Hi there! My name is Mr. Goodbar, but people like to call me Mr. Good Boy because of my great personality. I am a four year old Bull Terrier who loves to stay active and enjoys a good scratch behind the ears. If you’re someone who likes fun and giving belly rubs, we might just be the best of friends!
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Tori is a pretty momma kitty with so much love to give. After raising five rambunctious little ones, she is finally ready for a home all her own. Tori is affectionate and has a very easy- going demeanor. This super sweet girl is sure to steal your heart.
If you would like to know more about the animals listed here, please call the San Clemente/Dana Point Animal Shelter at (949)492-1617, or visit with them at 221 Avenida Fabricante, San Clemente.
300 Days of Summer in Sunriver, Oregon
BY JODY ROBINSON
There are particular places in the world where all the elements gather together to craft a certain slant of light during the summertime. Where the season lives bright in your imagination long after it turns. Sunriver, Oregon is one of those places. I’m almost certain that Ray Bradbury referenced it when he wrote Dandelion Wine, for no hours spent in Illinois could possibly have been as exciting as a single day along the Cascade Mountains. Truly, “summer gathered in the weather, the wind had the proper touch, the breathing of the
world was long and warm and slow. You only had to rise (...) and know that this indeed was the first real time of freedom and living.” (1.1)
Sprawling across 3,300 acres of pristine Oregon country, Sunriver is the home to a residential and resort community in Deschutes County. At 4,164’, its high desert boasts lush meadows, pine forests, and the blue courses of the Deschutes. With world class amenities such as kayaking, fly fishing, spa and fitness centers, golf, mountain biking, and music and art festivals, there is something for each and every member of the family.
One of the most popular and convenient whitewater rafting
outfitters leads tours through the Deschutes. Sun Country Tours (www. suncountrytours.com) includes transportation to and from the experience, all equipment, and expert guiding down the river’s popular Class III rapid, nicknamed “The Big Eddy.” A three hour roundtrip tour easily fits into a morning or afternoon, so there is plenty of time to rehash the adventure over lunch or dinner afterwards! Big Eddy sounds too intimidating for your crew? Choose from other adventures down the Deschutes or the North Umpqua. If you’d rather explore your virtual options, Sunriver VR (sunrivervr. com) rents virtual reality rooms for 1-5 players. Virtually go anywhere in the world: “hunt dinosaurs, battle
Sunriver Toyhouse
zombies, defend your castle gate.” With over 1,600 mind blowing games and experiences to choose from, the world is literally at your fingertips. Perfect for birthday parties, or just a special night out, Sunriver VR has the space and time to get you into some serious fun. And from $10, you’ll have plenty leftover to pay a visit to the Sunriver Toyhouse (www.sunrivertoyhousetoys.com). Your DIY vacation headquarters, the Toyhouse is fully stocked for any adventure you can imagine. Tubes, rafts, SUP’s, kayaks, bikes, jet skis. You name it, they have it. Let the river take you downstream, or paddle around its bends and curves. Plan a trip that keeps you near your river entry point, or stay out all day for a two, four, or eight hour float. If staying on trail is your preferred method of adventure, you can choose your own ride: tandem, mountain bike, cruisers or fully equipped touring bikes are
all available for the picking! The Toyhouse even has squirt guns for the kids and waterproof cameras to record their shenanigans.
Keeping the kids busy can be a task when it comes to vacationing. Morning paddle and an afternoon ride? Or perhaps getting up close and personal with nature - like eye-toeye with a Great Horned Owl would satisfy their need for exploration and excitement. The Sunriver Nature Center has hands-on activities and exhibits that fit easily into a weekend vacation, and their staff of naturalists are more than willing to “keep your kids engaged and provide an exciting new perspective on the natural world.” Pair up the Nature Center with an evening at the Oregon Observatory, and you’ll have experienced the full range of a summer day in the great outdoors.
Sunriver’s elevation, pitch-dark surroundings, and crystal clear air make it perfect for stargazing. The Observatory boasts the largest collection of telescopes for public viewing in the United States, and when the historic eclipse was set to darken an enormous swath of the state at the end of August, they opened the roof to Sunriver- to the endless days of summer, and let the magic begin.
For more information on all the things to see and do in Central Oregon: www.visitcentraloregon.com
Sunriver Toyhouse
Sunriver VR
By Jody Robinson
Ihad been looking forward to the 2017-2018 school year for over a decade. It was the year that our son would be the 5th grade – the first year in which California students study American history. I had visions of showing him (and his 9-year-old sister) the places where all that crazy
American History Alive: From Fort McHenry to the President’s Front Yard
rebellion, revolution and nation-forming happened; places I had visited in the distant past and which I was eager to see again through the new lens of older eyes.
So we set about planning something more profound than a star-aligned school year: a fun-filled, educational family adventure that turned out to
be one of the most memorable experiences of our lives. It hit my husband and me the same way. We realized that we are in the midst of a very special window in time, wherein our children are old enough to really appreciate and understand what they see, and wherein they still think it’s pretty cool to hang out with their parents and, yes, wherein they are still subject
to our schedule and our whim. That window is a narrow one. We are determined to make the most of it.
We believed the historic weight of Washington D.C.’s Constitutional establishment and Baltimore’s rich founding settlements would prove to be a real boon to our kids’ elementary education so at the start of their sum-
mer vacation in June, our family headed east. First stop: Baltimore.
INNER HARBOR, BALTIMORE
Humanity is drawn to water. For survival, originally, then for industry and trade, and now, for leisure. Baltimore’s
Inner Harbor has been a haven for humanity since the city was founded in the 18th century. Named in 2009 as “the model for post-industrial waterfront redevelopment around the world” by the Urban Land Institute, the Inner Harbor in Baltimore is an attraction itself. Not just attracting ships for trade any longer, the waterfront was adapted as a focal point for public spaces, tourism, and housing. Now a historic port, the Inner Harbor is home to the National Aquarium, the Maryland Science Center, the Port Discovery Children’s Museum and a short ride away, the Maryland Zoo in Baltimore’s Druid Hill.
Boasting more than 16,000 animals, from sharks to sea turtles, the National Aquarium is a family favorite. Stunning exhibits attract guests from all over the world. A water taxi connects the harbor to attractions further off, including Fort McHenry and Fells Point. The renewal and transformation of the Harbor began in 1958, with the adoption and redevelopment of the 33 acre Charles Center by the City Council and Mayor Thomas D’Alessandro, and has continued since, directing the course of waterfront redevelopment with the successful additions of office buildings, hotels, and retail shops.
If the two-story dinosaur exhibits at the Science Center aren’t enough to keep the kiddos busy, and the pirate ships (ok, they’re really called tall ships) occasionally ported won’t suffice for the long days of summer, just head on over to Ripley’s Believe It or Not, and you’ll be talking about the world’s most interesting oddities for days.
REVOLUTIONARY INKLINGS
Founded in 1729 and 1790, respectively, the cities of Baltimore and Washington, D.C. hold much interest in the line that extends from the British settlement, through the war for independence, up until the battle of 1812; when at the Battle of Baltimore, the valiant defense of Fort McHenry inspired Francis Scott Key to pen what
Inner Harbor, Baltimore
would eventually be called “The Star Spangled Banner.”
A decisive victory won by the colonists on September 13, 1814, the soldiers defending the Fort repulsed an attack from both land and sea following the burning of Washington D.C. by the redcoats. Named after James McHenry, a soldier and physician who served under Washington and Lafayette during the War for Independence, the Fort is star-shaped and red-roofed. Touring with one of the Fort’s rangers, we discovered what it was like to be soldiers during the Battle of Baltimore, witnessed a re-enactment, took in a twilight tattoo ceremony, and even saw the Fort McHenry Guard performing drill, musket and artillery demonstrations.
Open year round, and just a cannon’s trajectory away from historic locations such as Harpers Ferry National Historical Park, Antietam National Battlefield, the USS Constellation Museum, and Gettysburg National Military Park.
GETTYSBURG NATIONAL MILITARY PARK
The site of yet another turning point in the tide of American history, Gettysburg, Pennsylvania serves as a reminder of the devastation the Civil War brought to the front porches, fields and gardens of its residents.
Every home turned into a hospital, and every farm a graveyard. Known as the “High Water Mark of the Rebellion,” the National Military Park now remains as a marker to honor the lives given for freedom under the Union cause. President Abraham Lincoln commemorated the park with his famous eulogy, reminding those who listened to “renew their devotion to the cause for which they gave the last full measure of devotion.”
For me, this stop ended up being one of the major highlights of our trip. The entire battlefield is now a national park. You can walk the grounds and see it as the soldiers saw it. There are monuments on site from just about every state, because sons of just about every state bled there on that field. I cannot express with enough enthusiasm the experience of letting an expert historian and tour guide drive us around the battlefield in our own car, unfolding for us as he drove the events of those three heartbreaking days (visit www.gettysburgfoundation.org). The museum at Gettysburg
is one of the best I’ve ever visited, and that part of the country is unspeakably beautiful.
USS CONSTELLATION
The USS Constellation is actually the third in the line of American ships dubbed for the configuration of 15 stars found in the original flag of the United States. With its own proud and distinguished record, “Connie,” as her crew calls her affectionately, has almost 40 years of service - through the turbulent waters of the Arabian Gulf to Yankee Station on the coast of Vietnam.
The first Constellation was built by naval engineers Joshua Humphreys and Josiah Fox, 165 years before rivets were put to metal on the USS Constellation’s proud lines. Immediately put to the test, much like her predecessors, the USS Constellation sailed out of harbor straight into conflict, as the first U.S. airship to launch strikes against North Vietnamese vessels and bases in August of 1964.
For the eight years following, Constellation returned to the South China Sea seven times, conducting air strikes, engaging enemy aircraft, and naval targets alike. Sailing under the motto
Gettysburg National Military Park
Oriole Park at Camden Yards
LORD BALTIMORE HOTEL, BALTIMORE
An immense and stately red brick building, the Lord Baltimore rises 23 floors out of the streets of Baltimore. Established in 1928, the iconic hotel boasts 440 rooms and suites, combining the best of the city’s historical architecture with a modern, private-club aesthetic. Recently reimagined under the loving care of New York designer Scott Sanders, the Rubell Hotel owned Lord Baltimore is ready to romance the city once more. A family-owned business devoted to transforming architecturally significant historic hotels into affordable cultural hubs, Rubell Hotels has taken every inch of the hotel to the next level: from the modern 10,000 square-foot grand Calvert Ballroom to the French Kitchen; the lobby bar offering hand crafted cocktails from local distilleries, to pastry chef Mary Elizabeth Plovanich’s LB Bakery.
A diamond in the iconic grand dame’s necklace, the French Kitchen has taken a modern spin on classic dishes such as Pork Belly with Apple-Jicama Slaw, Coq Au Vin, slow braised duck, and Julia Child’s own favorite: Beef Bourguignon. Serving up breakfast, lunch, and dinner, as well as brunch on the weekends and specialty holiday meals, the French Kitchen’s new contemporary fare pairs splendidly with the famous and elegantly mirrored Versailles Room. Originally built in 1928, the classic landmark has hosted such historical luminaries as Martin Luther King Jr., and now offers an elegantly appointed respite on the dusty road to your next destination, or simply the next best place to staycation at home for a new generation.
Incomparable Accommodations
THE RITZ-CARLTON, PENTAGON CITY
Immersed in the history surrounding the cities of Arlington and Washington D.C., the Ritz-Carlton Pentagon City is the perfect place to dip your toes in the luxury comfort the hotel has to offer after a long day meandering Old Town Alexandria and Rosslyn, or Capitol Hill, the Pentagon, and Crystal City via the Metro’s Blue and Yellow Line, conveniently located just outside the hotel’s front doors. If you made the mistake (as I have before) in thinking that the Ritz-Carlton simply evokes a high class, five star experience for the businessman or couple travelling alone, rethink your association. Certainly, the hotel has all of that and more to offer its guests: stunning executive suites and signature Asprey bath amenities in every marbled tub.
But the Ritz also offers its vibrant services and amenities to families invested in an elevated travel experience. Bringing delight to the smallest member of your group, Ritz Kids engages your children to interact with their surroundings in a fresh and exciting way. Guided by wonder and playfulness, the program embraces four pillars of discovery: Water, Land, Environmental Responsibility and Culture. With coloring books, kid-friendly menus and even a scavenger hunt or two, rest assured that even the most luxurious hotel experience is perfect for your tiny tots too.
In a region where every facet of daily life is infused with the global community, fyve Restaurant Lounge features seasonally influenced dishes year-round. Highlighting regional specialties, and pairing its contemporary setting with a carefully selected wine list, fyve is the perfect spot for afternoon tea or cocktail classes. Wine down on Fridays (pun absolutely intended) with the hotel’s sommelier, beginning your weekend of exploration or ending that week of business meetings relaxed and ready.
If Your Teenager ...
… is spending countless hours posting and scrolling on social media, here’s some reassurance:
BY NADIA FARJAMI
I’m sure most parents are at least somewhat familiar with the various social media platforms (Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter) into which their teens invest a seemingly inordinate amount of energy and focus. I’m equally confident that many moms and dads likely view texting and posting selfies as a waste of time.
Social media was invented for the sole purpose of connecting people. Your teenager probably has friends across the country and around the world. Instagram and Snapchat are perfect platforms to share videos and photos - keeping the lines of communication open to deepen and maintain longdistance friendships. For example, I have a friend who lives in Italy and Snapchat has allowed us to stay connected through silly selfies.
Social media provides access to information, videos and imagery that cater to your teenager’s interests and can motivate him or her to follow his or her passions. For example, thanks to Instagram and the like your teen who loves to bake can experiment with cultural recipes and cooking tutorials from around the globe - and improve his or her skills through the
exposure. Via social media, your teen can explore a multitude of different hobbies that range from music, journalism, sports, or art to history, photography and more. Your teen can expand his or her depth and breadth of knowledge to flourish and literally find his or her passion just by tapping away on her or her cell phone.
Social media can allow teenagers to feel as though they a part of an (online) group. Even if your teen feels isolated around his or her classmates, scouting out online friends with similar personalities, interests and passions can help your teenager feel less ostracized and alone.
While I agree that social media can be a time consuming pastime, I like to think that the time we teens spend on social media might not be as completely meaningless as our parents might have us believe.
Nadia Farjami is a sophomore at St. Margaret’s Episcopal School in San Juan Capistrano.
Announces the Third Installment of the Harry Potter Film Concert Series with Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban™ in Concert
Audiences will experience the next chapter of the Harry Potter Film Concert Series with a 90-piece live orchestra performing the entire score live to picture from Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban October 6 & 7, 2017 in Segerstrom Hall.
The Harry Potter Film Concert Series returns to Segerstrom Center for the Arts with Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, the third film in the Harry Potter series. On October 6 & 7, the acclaimed Pacific Symphony will perform the magical score from Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban while the film plays in high-definition on a 40-foot screen. The Harry Potter Film Concert Series, which is another magical experience from J.K. Rowling’s
Wizarding World, kicked off in June 2016 with Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone and is scheduled to include hundreds of performances across more than 35 countries around the world through 2018.
Tickets for Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban start at $49 and are available online at SCFTA.org, by calling (714) 556-2787 and at the Box Office at 600 Town Center Drive in Costa Mesa. For inquiries about group ticket savings for 10 or more, please call the Group Services office at (714) 755-0236.
Photo courtesy of Warner Bros.
Love On The Floor Live Dance Tour
Cheryl Burke
Saturday, October 21, 2017
Professional dancer and television host Cheryl Burke is launching a 30-city tour titled, LLOVE ON THE FLOOR. The live dance show kicks off its national tour on October 17 at the McCallum Theatre for the Performing Arts in Palm Desert, California and runs through November 19 with the show’s final performance in Englewood, New Jersey at the Bergen Performing Arts Center. LOVE ON THE FLOOR will make its Orange County debut with a one-night-only performance on October 21, 2017 at Segerstrom Center for the Arts.
LOVE ON THE FLOOR, a highly creative dance show in four acts, will feature Burke, a two-time Dancing With The Stars Mirror Ball champion and
Emmy-nominated choreographer. Burke starred for 19 seasons on the top-rated ABC program. In addition, Meryl Davis and Charlie White, the 2014 Olympic Gold Medal-winning Ice Dancing duo will star alongside Burke on the tour. Davis was the Mirror Ball winner for Season 18 of Dancing With The Stars, with White placing fourth in the same season. Davis and White made history by becoming the first American team to win an Olympic Gold Medal in Ice Dancing when they struck gold in Sochi.
Tickets for LOVE ON THE FLOOR start at $49. They are available online at SCFTA.org, by calling (714) 556-2787 and at the Box Office at 600 Town Center Drive in Costa Mesa.
Yappy Hour Returns for Tail Wagging Fun at The Ritz-Carlton, Laguna Niguel
Yappy Hour, The Ritz-Carlton, Laguna Niguel’s monthly cocktail party for canines and their companions, returns this season for tail wagging fun. Dapper dogs, haute hounds and classy canines are invited to party with other pups and pooches and lap up libations such as bacon, chicken, and beef-infused water and the
ever popular house-made dog biscuits, while their companions relax with a glass of Mutt Lynch Unleashed Chardonnay, Merlot Over and Play Dead, or Chateau d’Og Cabernet Sauvignon. Cocktails, beer and a savory selection of barbecue items are also available for purchase. As part of the resort’s Community Footprints program, proceeds from Yappy Hour will once again benefit The Veterans Initiative™ of Canine Companions for Independence.
With a dramatic increase in wounded veterans, The Veterans Initiative™ provides an opportunity for veterans to regain their independence through the support of Canine Companions for Independence assistance dogs.
Situated atop a seaside bluff with panoramic views of the Pacific Ocean and more than three miles of sandy beach, The Ritz-Carlton, Laguna Niguel is continues to redefine the guest experience by creating distinctive and unforgettable moments that instill memories that last a lifetime.
For more information, call the hotel directly at 949-2402000 or visit www.ritzcarlton.com/LagunaNiguel.
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Gracie Barra, Dana Point Spotlight on:
By Jody Robinson
Self development. Discipline. Self defense. Character development. These are all traits any parent would want to instill in their children and the main reasons why my husband and I chose to enroll our son and daughter (then ages 5 and 4) in Gracie Barra Jiu Jitsu in Dana Point several years ago.
Open since December 2009 in the Blue Lantern Plaza (at the corner of PCH and Blue Lantern), the Gracie Barra Jiu-Jitsu studio specializes in self defense and Brazilian Jiu-JItsu for men, women and children of all ages.
Since they started the program, our kids (now ages 10 and 9) have truly thrived in the encouraging, fun atmosphere and in interacting with his fellow students and the instructors. What is particularly nice for the class is that
there are often three “coaches” on the mat throughout the 50-minute class, so all the students receive individualized, personal attention. All of the instructors I’ve witnessed are incredibly patient, supportive and seem to have an affinity for teaching their art to children.
Led by Professor Fernando Nassif, the instructors here are dedicated to teaching martial arts at its prime form providing the best training experience possible. All of the Gracie Barra instructors undergo the ‘Gracie Barra Instructors Certification Program ‘ – an intense training to review and enhance their teaching skills and methodology. The classes are run using curriculums and teaching methods developed by Gracie Barra founder Carlos Gracie Jr. and, most importantly, the instructors have their students goals in mind all the time.
“Jiu-Jtsu is truly a tool for each team member to discover his or her own strengths and grow from their weaknesses and we are here to help them,” says Professor Fernando. “We pride ourselves of teaching Jiu-Jitsu for everyone,” he adds. “Martial arts can become a lifestyle that will improve your overall well-being as well that of your entire family.”
Connect with Professor Fernando by calling (949) 388-8886, stop by the studio 34085 Pacific Coast Hwy in Dana Point (in the Blue Lantern Plaza) or visit www.gbdanapoint.com
