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Exquisite country estate! 12+ acre property abuts 350-acre Destruction Brook Woods and features a masterfully restored antique gem with every modern amenity imaginable! Guest quarters, versatile four-stall barn/stable, outbuildings . . . A cut above! Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200.

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Sprawling 9.2 acres of oceanfront with 300+ feet of private beach on Buzzards Bay. Nearly 4,000 s.f. of contemporary coastal living space surrounded by spectacular gardens and abundant wildlife. Visit https://issuu.com/sarahdupremaurer/docs/2_pavillion_way for an online brochure. Contact Sarah Dupre Maurer 508.889.4614 SOUTH DARTMOUTH | 1,224,900

Welcome home to this elegant custom built, Nantucket-styled centrally located in South Dartmouth. This beautiful home offers impeccable craftsmanship and architectural details and a fully-equipped in law. Contact Patricia Hottel 508.542.2030.

Sprawling ranch set on beautifully landscaped one-acre lot offering four/five bedrooms. Gunite swimming pool, detached barn. Stroll to Padanaram harborfront and the Village shops and restaurants. Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200.

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Country Colonial set on .75 acre offers 3,500 s.f. of living space including four bedrooms, fully finished lower level and two-bedroom guest/au pair apartment.

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ROUND HILL MANSION | $775,000

PADANARAM VILLAGE | $775,000

SOLD Beautifully appointed 3 bed, 3.5 bath home with 2,617 sq ft and deeded beach rights. Expert craftsmanship throughout and turnkey condition. Nearby Village shops and Harbor activities. Contact Maggie Tomkiewicz of Team MCM( 508) 995-2444

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WESTPORT | $499,900

NEW LISTING This meticulously cared for home is perched on nearly a quarter acre in the center of Dartmouth - a stone’s throw from Padanaram Village, shops, restaurants, Route 6 and I-195. Formal living room, three bedrooms, expansive finished lower level, and sunroom open to the private back yard. Contact Bethany Mello at 508.858.8313.

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Welcome home to this quintessential New England farmhouse located on picturesque Horseneck Road in Westport. It is situated on 1.7 acres of beautiful cleared land and within minutes of several sandy beaches, conservation trails and wonderful restaurants. This is the perfect country location! Contact Sarah Korolnek at 774-644-9156.

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This alluring property with 3.5 pastoral acres is surrounded by over 500 acres of conservation land sits across from Nonquit Pond with undisturbed views of the lush rolling hills of Fogland. This exquisitely renovated home provides the backdrop for year-round or seasonal living. Contact Roberta Burke 508.498.3285.

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NEW LISTING Great location! Adorable two-bedroom, two-bath cottage with 881 s.f. of open concept living space. Lush trees and greenery create a private back yard that is surrounded by the Buttonwood Brook and protected land owned by DNRT. Amazing potential. This home is being sold as is. Contact Sarah Dupre Maurer 508.889.4614

Fabulous Shingle Style home on Ricketson Point. Enjoy the private sandy beach and a minute walk to Padanaram Village.

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SOUTH DARTMOUTH | $425,000

NEW LISTING Land - 5.51 acre pastoral lot is bounded by stone walls - two adjacent estate lot parcels also available. Minutes to the villages of Russells Mills and Padanaram. Contact Alice Petersen at 508965-6938.

Two bedroom, 2.5 bath penthouse condominium with loft androoftopdeck.Communityamenitiesincludesandybeach, golf, tennis, heated pool and clubhouse. Contact Maggie Tomkiewicz of Team MCM 508.995.2444.

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NEW LISTING All the bells and whistles! Set on over 10 private acres this country club-like setting has it all. This four bedroom, four bath colonial is a must-see with pool, basketball court, barn... Contact Sarah Meehan at 508.685.8926.

MATTAPOISETT | $825,000

SOLD Desirable Mattapoisett Village opportunity! This Cannonville neighborhood property consists of a .85 ace which has a preexisting 1950s Gambrel Colonial with attached garage. Renovate this home or replace as you build your luxury home. Contact Roberta Burke 508.498.3285.

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NEW LISTING Adorable, two-bedroom, one-bath waterfront cottage on Hillers Cove in Harbor Beach. Fully insulated and Central AC. Call Sarah Meehan at 508-685-8926.

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IMPRESSIONS How we form opinions about others

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HOME Bay Club home is the standard of sophisticated living

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Exceptional country estate Rochester $1,995,000

Unparalleled views from Great Neck lot Wareham $659,900

Stunning oceanfront on Sconticut Neck | Fairhaven $1,550,000

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Welcome

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Heading Into Fall

he late summer season is behind us, so we pause and look forward to the wonders October delivers. Apples, cider, honey, and pumpkins; evening fires with friends—while surrounded by brilliant colors—marks the first steps into the holiday season.

As we prepare our homes for guests, plan family events, and set off for new adventures, we can’t help but recall the remarkable experiences we have enjoyed during the late summer.

October is an exciting month. The weather can be mild in New England but might deliver the first snowfall at the mountain tops. Meanwhile, nearly every community has its version of an old-fashioned country harvest festival,

drawing thousands of visitors to 4-H competitions, offering an opportunity to inspect live-stock up-close, and sample cheeses, wines, meats, and spirits. It is also a great time to shop and find hidden cottage industries that create beauty and

utility through creative genius.

There is an array of great times that awaits; many of the most beautiful locations we are familiar with, continue to offer pleasure: a walk along the ocean—waves crashing and spray flying, a hike to a vista located in the state of your choice, a lazy day shopping for the season’s bounty at a farmer’s market, then head over to a favorite vineyard and enjoy a bottle of wine.

This month you’ll find our travels provide superb experiences in fine dining, star-treatment at the finest hotels, and a list of suggested visits to lesser-known locations, offering eyeopening educational opportunities and the chance to quench literary thirst.

Yes, October is full of surprises, and we have enjoyed preparing this issue for your profound enjoyment. H NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | OCTOBER 2021 | 11

Impressions

Forming Opinions—

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he word impression is connected to the thoughts and opinions created during early childhood and adult experiences; it also includes the influences instilled upon individuals during the formative years by people closest to them.

Each unique personality is built on rewards, punishment, love, and rejection; unfortunately, memories of

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trauma also play a role and can have a detrimental effect in establishing adult behavioral patterns.

When forming an opinion, the mind recalls hardened facts, emotions, and all too often, negative familiarities that have been sculpted into our thoughts over the years, creating biases, and the need to feel we must conform, regardless of our true feelings.

Lying in wait, in the recesses of our minds, morsels of preconceived

notions quietly sit until they are needed to defend our egos or help with the alignment of societal norms.

In many cases, our impressions serve us well, while other times, they limit our ability to become open to new ideas and experiences. The result can cause individuals to grasp outdated notions of how they should behave—but worse, how they want to be perceived by others. Rather than be honest and let the cards lie as they may, such individuals believe they will face

WHEN FORMING AN OPINION, THE MIND RECALLS HARDENED FACTS, EMOTIONS, AND ALL TOO OFTEN, NEGATIVE FAMILIARITIES THAT HAVE BEEN SCULPTED INTO OUR THOUGHTS OVER THE YEARS, CREATING BIASES, AND THE NEED TO FEEL WE MUST CONFORM, REGARDLESS OF OUR TRUE FEELINGS.

criticism and ridicule for not falling in line.

Upon reflection, impressions and opinions seem to be connected.

Puritans, Damn Yankees, and lockjaw Southerners are a few names that create false images engrained into our vernacular; they also make false impressions of others. There are countless other slurs that come to mind but are better left unspoken.

Today’s society is attempting to correct the ills that have affected large segments of the population. Still, we must recognize that people have been underserved, harmed, and imprisoned by those in power for centuries.

Discrimination, slavery, poverty, and illness are humanity’s sins, and history has taught us that no group has been unaffected regardless of their color,

ethnicity, or religious affiliations.

Often, making impressions that too closely align with our ‘warped’ opinions cause us to insult and condemn others.

At first, some might experience a lift to their spirits, an elevation of self-worth; but, it is short-lived because there will be a need for another opportunity to cast doubt upon another and recreate similar feelings of superiority. Without intervention, the cycle is destined to continue, and these hurtful concepts will be passed onto the next generation.

To better ourselves is to contribute to peaceful existence and initiate selfanalysis of our biases and preconceived notions about others. We should allow fellow citizens to exercise their right to be free of other’s opinions and impressions and live their lives to the fullest. H NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | OCTOBER 2021 | 13

Home

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First In Class

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he most luxurious homes in today’s real estate market are also the most desirable; buyers demand prestige, premium amenities, seaside locations, and above all—privacy.

For these reasons, 19 High Ridge Drive, nestled on the grounds of the Bay Club in Mattapoisett, Massachusetts, will appeal to the most sophisticated families who value their time together and the pleasure that comes with watching their children and grandchildren grow and prosper.

This month’s preview home is dramatic in every way; it begins with a combined living space of over 10,000 square feet with six ensuite bedrooms. The master boasts a shower

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with two entrances, nine showerheads, two walk-in closets, and an expansive dressing room—with vanity, making this home undoubtedly the ultimate in opulent living.

The open floor plan with vaulted ceilings hosts a masterfully designed kitchen with expansive granite countertops, a 48" Miele refrigerator, Wolf cooktop, double Wolf ovens, a Fisher & Paykel dishwasher, and a Subzero beverage refrigerator.

Conveniently located off the kitchen is an impressive butler’s pantry fitted with a hammered copper sink and disposal, custom-built cabinets, and shelving, along with two Thermador refrigerators. From this prep station, there is easy access to both the breakfast area in the kitchen and the formal dining room through a swinging door. The spacious dining room has built-in cabinetry for crystal and silver in addition to a serving console.

Directly across the expansive hall is a formal living room with a fireplace and cove lighting.

The first level also includes two offices—one containing a fireplace, two family rooms—the larger one having a wet bar and fireplace. Although there is potential for the rooms to be reconfigured to the liking of a new owner,

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remodeling is not necessary to this move-in residence.

Accessing the everyday entrance, there is a hidden mudroom with a washer, dryer, slop-sink, and tons of storage, plus a halfbath nearby.

There is extensive use of oversized windows and French doors throughout the home, allowing impressive views of the mahogany deck, salt-water pool, and pool house. It is a delight to stand on one of the two balconies, study the magnificent old-growth, manicured lawn, and enjoy peacefulness in the early morning hours.

19 High Ridge Drive has a massive entertainment facility, inclusive of a professional bowling alley, putting green, and plenty of room for other games or high-tech devices.

On the upper floor, there is a state-of-the-art workout room and a second laundry.

The entrance to the property is enveloped by a canopy of trees adding privacy to the circular drive that connects owners to the three-bay attached garage having plenty of light shining through raised windows. With a 10 foot plus ceiling and clearspan layout, the possibilities are endless.

The grand entrance is startlingly impressive, with a doublewide door opening to a stately foyer with a view of a custom-

designed staircase, balcony, and a see-through view to the back yard. It is mesmerizing.

Offered for $3,500,000, this home has too many amenities to include in a feature of this size. It would be best to arrange a private showing to fully appreciate the time and effort of creating this customized home that will serve generations. H For more information, visit landvest.com, or for immediate attention, contact the listing broker, Joanna Dresser, at 617-584-6855.

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Travel

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here is a resurgence in travel, especially when it comes to driving to new destinations.

Traffic fills the interstates causing delays; but, it hasn’t prevented millions of families from making the great escape to discover exciting locations.

Our magazines have risen in popularity over the years, in part because we share local and regional experiences, but we also expand our horizons and venture into new territories.

We recently found interest in our publications from the Tri-State area of Connecticut, New York, and New Jersey.

It appears that we attract visitors from those areas. Whether for travel ideas or tapping into a segment of the population looking to purchase a new home where we dominate the luxury-living markets.

This month, we are pleased to share a recent trip to the West Hartford area. From exquisite hotel accommodations and fine dining to undiscovered museums and lush gardens, it is such a pleasure to find hidden treasures beyond our backyards and share our insights.

We hope you enjoy this special feature, and perhaps you’ll consider a road trip this month. H

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Explore

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The Delamar West Hartford Hotel Rises to All Occasions

BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY STEVEN CHAN

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hen traveling for business, pleasure, planning an event, or a quick get-away, knowing your expectations will be met ahead of time, is essential.

With this knowledge, the people behind Connecticut’s most famous hotel group provide what it takes to reach the highest level in hospitality, turning their guests into the most loyal in the industry.

Delamar has four distinguished properties; Greenwich Harbor, Southport, Traverse City, and West Hartford. Each location has an individual personality while offering stellar ambiance and a superior level of satisfaction.

Before the end of the summer, I took a quick ride to the Delamar West Hartford Hotel for a three-day stay to share my experience. Upon arrival, I was immediately impressed by its location, beautifully designed interior, exquisite artwork, and a list of complimentary amenities and services; plus, other conveniences not often available at premiere locations.

The lobby is elegant, bright, and cheerful, complemented by a grand staircase that brides use for a magical wedding photo.

Everywhere you look, an extension of beauty and grace is found.

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impressions are relaxing ones. The hotel offers a full complimentary breakfast buffet, high-speed internet access, a fitness center with Peloton bikes, an electric vehicle charging station, valet parking, free admission to the New Britain Museum of American Art, and 24-hour concierge services.

There is more. At this level is a full-service florist sitting next to a men’s custom clothing company; servicing locals, guests, and attendees at the many weddings held at the Delamar West Hartford Hotel.

The property is home to the Artisan Restaurant, Tavern & Garden with a spa on the second floor featuring massage and facial treatments by Biologique Recherche and Valmont.

Naturally, there are multiple executive meeting rooms for corporate or special events and ballrooms offering the chicest venues for weddings, bar and bat mitzvahs, charity galas, or tradeshows. With catering provided by Artisan, menus can be customized for dietary or religious restrictions with prior notice.

A big attraction to the area this time of year is the arrival of parents and students to the many surrounding colleges, universities, and prep schools. When settling the children into a new environment, parents searching for ideal accommodations will find the Delamar a perfect choice.

Close to everything—especially an area known as the

A big attraction to the area this time of year is the arrival of parents and students to the many surrounding colleges, universities, and prep schools.

When settling the children into a new environment, parents searching for ideal accommodations will find the Delamar a perfect choice.

Blue Back Square & The Center—days are filled with shopping and exploring the arts and entertainment venues found close to your temporary home.

Do you need another reason to jump the border? Well, the Delamar West Hartford Hotel makes it irresistible with their special customized programs. One that catches attention is the ‘Connecticut and Neighbors Staycation.’ The hotel has a special offer to residents of Connecticut, New York, Rhode Island, Massachusetts, and New Jersey. An easy drive from anywhere, this offer is being promoted with a full 15 percent discount from the daily room rate.

What is most impressive about the Delamar is its people; they grasp the concept of complete satisfaction for every guest. They will do everything possible to make your stay memorable, and they will make you feel close to home while traveling. H Contact the Delamar West Hartford Hotel and their other properties at delamar.com for rates, special offers, or booking an event through the holidays.

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Dress for Success

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he moment you walk into Connecticut Custom Clothing Company, Bob DeGemmis, with his beaming smile, will make you feel like an old friend.

It is true; you’ll feel an immediate sense of familiarity; and, it could be the reason for his ongoing success.

DeGemmis has been dressing stars, celebrities, and political leaders for decades, while also serving the needs of business leaders, hotel guests, and the many grooms that celebrate their wedding receptions onsite or elsewhere.

Located off the lobby of the Delamar West Hartford Hotel, the Connecticut Custom Clothing Company showroom may appear small, but the refined taste and inventory speak volumes.

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The DeGemmis family started the company in 1916 and pride themselves as custom clothiers, shirt makers, and wardrobe consultants. The current proprietor—always smartly dressed, says much about the advice you will receive when you enter his shop.

In speaking to DeGemmis, we learned that his approach is to educate and make his clients look their best. “It’s not necessary to settle for ‘cookie-cutter’ clothing…[we] offer custom clothing made the old-fashion way; one at a time to your exact measurements.

Connecticut Custom Clothing Company is a remarkable discovery and worth a visit. The studio is located in the Delamar West Hartford Hotel lobby at 1 Memorial Road, West Harford, C.T. H For more information, contact dressedtotheninescustomclothing.com or call 860-236-4637.

Floral Design

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pon entering Lane and Lenge Florist at the Delamar West Hartford Hotel, expect to be captivated by the floral fragrances that fill the air.

Moments later, you’ll be approached by designer and stylist Cassandra Koerner who is beyond pleasant and extremely helpful in making the critical decision about purchasing a beautiful gift for someone you respect or love during your stay at the hotel.

The company has been serving the Greater Hartford area since 1912 and is owned by Robert Dinucci.

Known to be one of the finest floral providers for miles, Dinucci is the first choice for brides and grooms, and families that understand the importance of presentation and quality of products.

Passion, attention to detail, and craftsmanship keep Lane and Lenge Florist ahead of the curve and the choice of particular clientele. H Lane and Lenge Florist is located at the Delamar West Hartford Hotel, 1 Memorial Road, West Hartford, C.T. Contact laneandlenge.com or call 860-523-6220.

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Artisan Restaurant, Tavern & Garden in West Hartford Excels

BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY STEVEN CHAN

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ocated at the Delamar West Hartford Hotel, the Artisan, General Manager, Michelangelo Murina, and Executive Chef and Partner Frederic Kieffer are perceptive to their guest’s needs.

Upon being seated, it is immediately evident that these two individuals understand the importance of the kitchen and dining room seamlessly cooperating.

Through this effort, they orchestrate an evening that will accommodate hundreds of discerning visitors, all of who will expect an extraordinary evening.

The New England-inspired cuisine, with an international twist emphasizing fresh farm produce, is harvested from their lush gardens within the cityscape and supplemented by local and regional providers.

In a finely appointed dining room and an alfresco café surrounded by nature, there is a “comfortable elegance of country-chic…artful cuisine…craftsmanship, and sustainability,” as they described themselves.

Relaxed and comfortable, it takes a unique understanding of how to satisfy today’s food enthusiasts, and this is what Artisan excels at providing.

The main dining room—with its touch of intimacy, comfortably seats 50 patrons. Adding to the ambiance is the glow of low light and a dramatic mural of figs along the back wall (the work of Stockholm artist Jonas Wickman).

The genre of Artisan is further enhanced by a wooden bookcase that houses a collection of 18th century books and artifacts; in combination with the Gustavian-type furniture, the moment is sealed, and it is now time to enjoy the kitchen's offerings.

The New England-inspired cuisine, with an international twist emphasizing fresh farm produce, is harvested from their lush gardens within the cityscape and supplemented by local and regional providers.

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The Artisan’s menu changes with seasons as with availability; upon my visit, I was pleased to see the depth of choices of the day.

The appetizer list was impressive; some eye-catching small plates included; artisan seafood chowder loaded with clams, oysters, crab, shrimp, mussels, fennel crackers, and fingerling potatoes. A baked beet salad with frisée, apple, cranberry, pecan, and Baley Hazen Blue cheese. And, my favorite, a fantastic tuna crudo, plated perfectly with English peas, stracciatella, preserved lemon-mint oil, served with microgreens.

Over two evenings, I tired the Soeltl Farm goat bolognese pappardelle; herb-crusted halibut with sauce vierge, peewee potato and asparagus; lobster fra diavolo, made with homemade tagliatelle, fresh New England lobster, cherry pepper, tarragon, and marinara, and a prime Angus hanger steak in a shallot sauce along with a side of petite French fries.

Each tasting exceeded my expectations, and I was pleased

to see that all flavors and seasonings were described accurately.

On a personal note, if you enjoy a spicy dish, then the lobster fra diavolo is a wise choice.

In keeping with the adage ‘less is more,’ I decided that one dessert would be satisfying during my stay, and I opted for a raspberry SacherTorte with vanilla ice cream. Ah yes, decadent is a chocolate almond torte, with raspberry jam, chocolate ganache, and raspberry sauce; but, well worth the extra effort to burn the extra calories.

There are a large number of excellent restaurants in the West Hartford area. From the people I asked, each is passionate about their ability to satisfy; however, in this case, those looking for atmosphere, quality, and creative excellence, need not look further; Artisan is a wise choice for your next visit. H Artisan West Hartford is located at the Delamar West Hartford Hotel on 1 Memorial Road. For more information or a reservation, visit artisanwesthartford.com.

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Blue Back Square & the Center is an exceptional multi-block area devoted to those who take delight in being in the middle of the most inviting Main Streets in America. Very walkable, some areas are closed to traffic, making the hustle and bustle of window shopping safe and secure.

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Blue Back Square

& The Center Has It All

BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY STEVEN CHAN

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f you haven’t found the charm and excitement of West Hartford’s mecca of food, fun, and shopping, then pay attention to what we found.

Blue Back Square & The Center is an exceptional multi-block area devoted to those who take delight in being in the middle of the most inviting Main Streets in America. Very walkable, some areas are closed to traffic, making the hustle and bustle of window shopping safe and secure.

As you cross the street from the Delamar West Hartford Hotel, you will have entered the trendsetting shopping district that will have you wanting to visit every store within sight; but, it doesn’t end there, as you stroll, you’ll become undecided on where you’ll want to dine.

Upscale by design, all area restaurants share the hip and happening vibe that drives people from around the country to the affluent neighborhood.

Since COVID-19, the outdoor fine dining crowd is in heaven with the dozens of options that await.

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flavors and combinations of sauces.

For example, their Fruit De Mer offers favorites like Connecticut oysters, shrimp cocktail, Maine lobster tail, seared tuna with a Romesco sauce, and shallot vinaigrette—a true favorite.

They have daily selections of Fromage & Charcuterie, and of course, an impressive array of mouthwatering hors d’oeuvres, such as beef tartare, classic escargots, baked French brie, and torchon de foie gras.

WHO NEEDS PARIS?

It is not necessary to travel a long distance when in a few feet from your room, you can enjoy authentic French cuisine at Àvert Brasserie, 35a LaSalle Road. One of the many cafes you will find, it is the only one that will remind you of the cobblestone paths of Lyon.

Offering the most indulging French food—with a contemporary flair, the mix of classic recipes and modern interpretation, provides a new level of satisfaction in a relaxed and unpretentious environment.

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The chefs mix it up with an excellent selection of salad and authentic French onion soup with a baguette and gruyere gratinee.

Their Plats Principaux include trout

meuniere amandine, beef short ribs ‘Bourguignon,’ lavender glazed duck, and a locally harvested roasted cod.

For meat lovers, Àvert offers a choice of a hanger, New York strip, or centercut filet steaks. Àvert wine list is pleasing and remarkably affordable; for example, a favorite, Vueve Clicqout, is a mere $95 per bottle.

I highly recommend this remarkable restaurant; but know, you will also find a long list of others to try during your visit.

In all, West Hartford’s tony section of town has so much to offer that whether you have plans to stay, or are passing through, be sure to log this destination into your itinerary. H

Art Affairs — Connecticut’s Best Kept Secret —

The New Britain Museum of American Art

BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY STEVEN CHAN

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ocated on a sizeable estate in a residential setting, The New Britain Museum of American Art (NBMAA) is an oasis of culture, creativity, and diversity.

In January 2020, the museum focused on acknowledging women and giving them credit for their talent and inventiveness, representing a movement in contemporary society.

Their invaluable contributions are recognized through special exhibits, installations, and additions to their collection.

The NBMAA lot represents the major artists and movements of American art.

Today, they have over 8,000 paintings, works on paper, sculptures, and photographs, including the Sanford B.D. Low

Illustration Collection, featuring essential works by illustrators such as Norman Rockwell, Howard Pyle, and Maxfield Parrish.

Highlights include colonial and federal portraits, with examples

by John Smibert, John Trumbull, John Singleton Copley, Gilbert Stuart, and the Peale family. The Hudson River School features landscapes by Thomas Cole, Asher B. Durand, Martin Johnson Heade, John Kensett, Albert Bierstadt, and Frederic Church. Still life painters range from Raphaelle Peale, Severin Roesen, William Harnett, John Peto, John Haberle, and John La Farge. American genre painting is represented by John Quidor, William Sidney Mount, and Lilly Martin Spencer.

A significant but soon-to-end exhibition: New/Now Jennifer Wen Ma: An Inward Sea (closes Sunday, October 24, 2021). Worth noting, Wen Ma explores “…themes of utopia, dystopia and the human condition in immersive and participatory installations.

Much of her inspiration comes from the COVID-19

pandemic and the pain that followed.

Another fascinating exhibit is a massive work by Graydon Parrish, Cycle of Terror and Related Work. (ends Friday, December 31, 2021).

An incredible recreation of the tragic events of 9/11, the study develops an untold story of loss and pain through a different lens. Improvising contemporary

elements into classical form, the artist captivates and holds the attention of his audience. Riveting, unimaginable, and a demonstration of outstanding talent, it is not to be missed.

The Delamar West Hartford Hotel has forged a meaningful relationship with the NBMAA and frequently hosts works and exhibitions at their West Hartford property on behalf of the museum. H The New Britain Museum of American Art is located at 56 Lexington Street, New Britain, C.T. For more information, contact nbmaa.org.

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Literature

Samuel Clemens; At Home in Hartford

BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY STEVEN CHAN

t first, the thought of touring The Mark Twain House & Museum might seem lackluster to some; but from experience, I can attest such an event is enlightening, informative, and quite pleasurable.

While waiting for our group to meet, a few of us made our way to an enclosed alcove where a photo of Samuel Clemens is hung near the words, “I have sampled this life.” This example is one of many of his reflective quotes found throughout the museum.

Inside the glass room, where artifacts and a detailed timeline are illuminated, guests are intrigued by the curious and multifaceted life the author enjoyed.

Visitors are often surprised by how complex Clemens was and how complicated his life had been.

Once together, our small group left for the hour-long tour. As we made our way to the residence, our guide shared details about the life of one of America’s most esteemed authors and orators, in addition to facts about his family that allow for a unique perspective of their happiness and 40 | OCTOBER 2021 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

unfortunate pains during their lives.

Located in Hartford, Connecticut, the stately home—while not up to Samuel’s expectations, was finished for them to move into on September 19, 1874. The estate is approximately 11,500 squarefeet, divided by three floors; there are 25 rooms in total; history tells that Mark Twain believed they were the “happiest and most productive years of his life….”

Yet, the family suffered great hardship and misery; financial issues forced the Clemens’ to move to Europe in 1891, the death of their beloved Susy took its toll, and they sold the home in 1903.

The home is fascinating; incredible detail in every way, the custom woodwork, the flow of the floorplan, and the design is brilliantly displayed; it was like going back in time and observing the Clemens’ home while they were out for the day. The Mark Twain Home & Museum is a valuable learning experience and is a trip worth planning. Mark Twain was a complicated, opinionated man, but was loved during and after his life. H For additional information or to make reservations, visit marktwainhouse.org.

Gardens

The Elizabeth Park Conservancy is a Worthwhile Journey

BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY BY STEVEN CHAN

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he Elizabeth Park Conservancy in West Hartford, Connecticut, is a member of the national register of historic places. Designed and created by a continuum of more than one hundred acres of formal gardens, ponds, green space, and paths, including a café and viewing area of the cityscape, the unspoiled natural habitat is calming and peaceful to the many thousands of daily visitors. However, if you were to ask what the Conservancy is most recognized for—worldwide, you would hear a resounding confirmation of its rose gardens.

Citizens and tourists flock year-round to the most expansive park of its kind. On any given day, the vast lawns are peppered with couples and families taking a break for lunch, throwing a ball, or tossing a Frisbee; with a sizable audience waiting for a string ensemble to begin an impromptu concert under an impressive canopy and stage.

Open every day and free of charge, the green space hosts special events, tours, lectures, and garden workshops from its many greenhouses. And, because of its picturesque backdrops, it is the first choice of wedding photographers recording a couple’s most memorable day and lays claim to one of the most photographed locations in all of the state.

A walk through the park is enlightening; the friendliness of fellow travelers is a pleasant reminder that civility and pride continue to be practiced. We find litter lining the streets and sidewalks in many communities; surprisingly, the Elizabeth Park Conservancy is exceptionally clean and well-maintained. It is a pleasure to see visitors make an effort to clean up after themselves and remove items unintentionally left behind by others.

The scenic ponds and fountains are lined with waterfowl, and the trees filled with songbirds; it is touching to see young children get excited by the sights and sounds of nature.

The Elizabeth Park Conservancy is supported by donations and special programs; this October, the park is sponsoring, Walk with a Doc in cooperation with the City of Hartford and UCONN Health.

The topic will focus on “Stay Fit for Life.”

If there was ever a place for celebration, contemplation, or to relax, this is the space you want to find yourself enjoying. H The park has many entrances, with its primary address being 1561 Asylum Avenue, West Hartford, Connecticut. For more details visit, elizabethparkct.org.

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Gamm Theatre OPENS ITS 37 TH SE ASON

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he Gamm Theatre, located in Warwick, Rhode Island, opens Season 37 after being dark due to COVID-19 and the restrictions.

The first show, A Lie Agreed Upon, is Artistic Director Tony Estrella’s adaptation of Henrik Ibsen’s An Enemy of the People.

The production will be the fifth presentation of an Ibsen, a variation of an Ibsen, or a play based on Ibsen.

The group staged (and Tony directed) An Enemy of the People in 2004 at the Pawtucket theater— to great acclaim, and in 2011 the A Lie Agreed Upon Gamm staged A Doll’s House, folunpacks like this: lowed by Hedda Gabler in 2014.

In 2007, members commissioned Springfield's future Radio Free Emerson (loosely based is looking bright; on Ibsen’s The Wild Duck) by Paul a new hot springs Grellong. It won the 2008 Elliot spa is about to Norton Award for “Outstanding open its doors New Script” from the Boston with hotels and Theater Critics Association. shops booming in (FYI, Grellong is a Brown grad anticipation who lives in L.A. and a producer of a blockbuster on Amazon Prime’s The Boys.) tourist season.

A Lie Agreed Upon unpacks like this: Springfield’s future is looking bright; a new hot springs spa is about to open its doors with hotels and shops booming in anticipation of a blockbuster tourist season.

The spa’s visionary chief medical officer, Dr. Thomas Stockmann, is being hailed as a local hero for turning the humdrum town into a must-see destination, that is, until he discovers the springs are toxic and insists on doing the “right thing.”

Inconvenient truths fight alternative facts, minority rights battle majority rule, and individual conscience clashes with economic interests in this powerful reinvention of Ibsen’s masterpiece. H The show runs from September 30 to October 24. Learn more by visiting, gammtheatre.org/season.

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Newport’s ‘Go-To’ Waterfront Destination Impresses

BY JAMES HOLDEN

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n integral part of Newport’s idyllic waterfront is the refreshed and newly opened restaurant and seaside bar —The Reef. Its enclosed dining room and lounge are only part of the excitement found at 10 Howard Wharf. The other draw attracting locals, sailors, and tourists is the harbor patio extending out among an impressive fleet of yachts, sunsets, and palm trees, creating a lovely location for fine dining or throwing back a couple of Dark & Stormy’s while the weather cooperates.

Surrounded by luxury, the genre at The Reef is a combination of old-world charm, contemporary décor, and indulgence. Since a soft-opening in May, The Reef has launched an internationally inspired menu derived from the seven seas. The kitchen offers a unique and thoughtfully curated spin on typical Newport dining.

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In addition to New England classics such as Newport lobster rolls and New England Clam Chowder, diners will be tempted by appetizers like coconut chicken satay, carne asada tacos, and tuna tartare timbale. The house’s lobster alla vodka, saffron scallops, and Mediterranean Salmon are tempting choices for a more substantive meal.

Taking part in the evolution of The Reef ’s culinary program, the restaurant has welcomed Jon LoPresti to its team. As director of culinary development, LoPresti has joined Stephanie Morris, Executive Chef; together, the duo will oversee and plan for the facilities’ brand and image.

Before joining The Reef team, LoPresti was the chef de cuisine at Newport’s Stoneacre Brasserie/Garden at Stoneacre and executive sous chef at the Grill at Forty 1˚ North, also in Newport.

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From New York, LoPresti has held positions at Laurel Links Country Club, Oceana, and The Water Club, and also brings vast experience from time spent at the Bullshead Bar & Grill and the

Bridgemhampton Inn Restaurant in The Hamptons.

The Reef can accommodate up to 500 guests in its coastalinspired venue for a memorable intimate dinner to large celebrations; its picturesque setting is perfect for casual come-as-you-are dining and drinking on its waterfront patios.

Another attraction to The Reef is Newport’s only waterfront restaurant with a dinghy dock and free parking for restaurant patrons.

Make the most of the season and head over to The Reef at 10 Howard Wharf in Newport, Rhode Island.

The Reef is open for indoor and outdoor dining Wednesday through Friday, 2-9 p.m., and Saturday and Sunday, 11 a.m. - 9 p.m. H For more information or to make reservations call 401-324-5852, or visit thereefnewport.com.

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Building Your Fortress P R O V E N M E T H O D S F O R S U P P O R T I N G N AT U R A L I M M U N I T Y

BY ROB SAINT LAURENT, M.ED

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ith fall and winter approaching and flu, colds, and COVID-19 variants weighing in the balance, it’s important to support the body’s natural defense shield.

An amazing creation, the immune system is a complex network of organs, cells, and proteins that work in concert to protect against harmful foreign bodies (antigens) and cell changes that can cause sickness. The body’s “innate” immune system is activated and immune cells such as natural killer cells will be triggered to destroy the invaders. If it’s a first encounter, the body’s immune cells will gather intelligence on the invaders so specific antibodies can be made that can begin fighting quickly upon a second incursion—called acquired or “adaptive” immunity.1 Research has shown that many different factors can affect the outcome of viral encounters, such as genetic susceptibility, age, viral load, and the route of infection.2 A person’s health habits and lifestyle also exerts a significant influence on immune system performance and outcomes.

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There is no magic bullet to a strong immune system. A basic, holistic approach will help promote the best internal environment for fending off infection.

Below are evidence-based ways of supporting healthy immunity that, together, can increase our odds of avoiding acute, and even chronic, illness.

GET MOVING

Moderate physical activity has been shown to positively impact one’s natural defenses. This was clear to researchers in the Journal of Sport and Health Science who examined multiple areas of exercise immunology involving more than a century of data, from 1900 to 2019.3 Bouts of moderate-to-vigorous intensity aerobic exercise of less than an hour have been shown to enhance not just activity of macrophages (a type of white blood cell) but “immunosurveillance,” or the ability of immune cells like natural killer cells to circulate throughout the body and get into tissues. Short sessions of moderate-intensity aerobic exercise were also shown to moderate stress hormones such as cortisol, which can sup-

press immunity, as well as keep levels of inflammation-causing cytokines in check. In other words, exercise can improve immune activity and metabolic health. Researchers say this can be especially valuable for obese people and those with a disease.

The research showed that immunosurveillance improved every time a person engaged in moderate physical activity. When exercise was performed on a regular basis, people’s health improved, experiencing less sickness and systemic inflammation— a “clear inverse relationship between moderate exercise training and illness risk.”

Habitual exercise also helps to keep the immune system functioning properly as a person gets older, delaying age-related dysfunction, or “immunosenescence,” that can increase risk of infection, autoimmune diseases, and other disorders.

To help make exercise a habit, try the buddy system for social support and accountability.

EAT LIKE THE MEDITERRANEANS

A healthy style of eating is modeled by people living near the Mediterranean Sea and has been observed to have a positive impact on immunity in research.

The Mediterranean diet is centered on monounsaturated (omega-9) fats like olive oil and (though not eaten traditionally) avocado; omega-3 fats, as from sardines and salmon; and fiber.

On the menu are fruits and vegetables, nuts, seeds, legumes, beans, herbs, and fish, as well as some poultry or other meat, red wine, and dairy.

As explained by registered dietician and nutritionist Jennifer McDaniel, co-author of Prevention Mediterranean Table cookbook, the Mediterranean diet is an anti-inflammatory way of eating that is rated highest by health experts in U.S. News & World Report polls for its friendly effect on the immune system, as well as its ability to reduce risk of heart disease, stroke, and Type 2 diabetes.4, 5 When we become injured or sick, there is an initial inflammatory response by our immune system. But if this effect is prolonged, as from eating inflammation-promoting foods containing refined flour, sugar, and trans fats, for example, our immune system can actually weaken and make us more susceptible to infection.

It’s been said that immunity begins in the gastrointestinal tract. Besides its higher polyphenol content, the Mediterranean diet positively impacts immunity because of its effect on gut health. Eating whole foods in the form of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains provide fiber that functions as a prebiotic in the gut, feeding friendly bacteria that keeps our microbiome in balance. Poor dietary habits and aging can offset this balance, causing long-term, low-grade inflammation that can lead to acute and chronic illness.6 By eating Mediterranean style, inflammatory cytokines can be reduced and the immune system (and overall health) strengthened.

FILL IN THE GAPS

Certain vitamin and mineral supplements should be considered to support the immune system during cold and flu season. These include, but are not limited to: Vitamin C supports both innate and acquired immunity. As explained by the renowned Linus Pauling Institute (LPI), vitamin C may stimulate production of, and enhance the function of, white blood cells (neutrophils, especially). Research has shown vitamin C to increase antibody levels in guinea pigs and antiviral activity in a lab dish, and it may also protect immune and other nearby cells from immune system oxidants through its antioxidant functions. LPI advises that adults consume 400 mg per day of vitamin C from food and supplements.7 Vitamin D supplementation is imperative for people living in northern latitudes where ultraviolet light exposure is minimal during colder months; the vast majority of Americans are deficient. Vitamin D, or 25-dihydroxivitamin D3, is recognized as a “potent modulator of the immune system.” Vitamin D is considered a “Nutrient of Public Health Concern,” since low blood levels are associated with negative health outcomes.

Research has linked low vitamin D levels to increased occurrence and severity of COVID-19, as well as greater risk of upper respiratory tract infections, and that supplementing with vitamin D on a daily or weekly basis lowers risk of upper respiratory tract infections. Surveys show 94 percent of Americans do not get enough vitamin D. Since it’s difficult to obtain adequate vitamin D from food, however, LPI advises a supplement of 2,000 IU (50 mcg) per day for all adults.7, 8 Magnesium activates vitamin D, so it is essential to get enough in the diet. However, like vitamin D, many Americans are deficient in the mineral—about 50 percent of us.

Low magnesium can lead to a harmful immune response called a “cytokine storm” in which the immune system attacks healthy tissues and not the invaders. In new research in the peer-reviewed journal Missouri Medicine, investigators found that low magnesium and vitamin D levels were a common trait among most COVID-19 patients, concluding that vitamin D and magnesium should be given special consideration in fighting the pandemic.10, 11 Adults should aim for at least 400 mg of magnesium per day from food and, if necessary, supplementation.

Zinc is “critical for normal development and function of cells that mediate both innate and adaptive immunity,” states LPI. Like vitamin C, the body cannot make or store zinc. Not getting enough of the mineral each day can lead to ineffective immune responses, as well as oxidative stress and inflammation from altered cytokine production. LPI explains that while Americans consume about 12 mg of zinc each day from food, which meets daily needs, adults over 50 can be prone to mild deficiency which can have a significant impact on health. LPI recommends a daily multivitamin/mineral with zinc to cover daily needs.7, 9 NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | OCTOBER 2021 | 51

DE-STRESS

Psychological stress increases cortisol hormone production by the adrenal glands that, in turn, can suppress immune function.

While cortisol is usually anti-inflammatory and governs the immune response, cortisol levels can remain elevated during periods of chronic stress and increase inflammatory cytokines.

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Sleep soundly – Sleep rejuvenates the body, rebooting the immune system like a computer. But lack of quality sleep and even one night of sleep deprivation can raise cortisol.12 Both volume and quality of sleep are important, so limiting disruptors like phone screens and caffeine is essential, as well as having a consistent sleep schedule.

Relax – Engaging in meditation, mindfulness, simple breathing exercises, listening to music, and socializing with friends, can help reduce stress, as can taking up a hobby like gardening—shown to reduce cortisol levels in one study.

Laugh more – Research has shown a decrease in cortisol levels in response to laughter, as well as to general happiness and a positive outlook that led to reduced blood pressure and better immune function.

Get a pet – Research has also shown that animal companionship can reduce cortisol levels. In fact, one study showed that a dog can be more effective for stress relief and reducing cortisol than a human friend.

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ast summer, I noticed a dramatic uptick in chipmunk activity in the yard of my Strafford, New Hampshire home; I couldn’t remember seeing chipmunks in prior years, yet now, our yard was Grand Central Station for the little critters.

Chipmunks have boom cycles that follow banner acorn years. As many as 30 chipmunks can live on an acre of land. In turn, the owls, hawks, weasels, and foxes also thrive, so it makes sense that chipmunks rely on constant vigilance and speed to protect themselves.

One of the cute rascals ruled over our front yard; he staked out his territory and chased all the others away. I could not help but be impressed with his work ethic as he dashed back and forth with a jaw full of leaves or cheeks bulging with whatever chipmunks collect.

He had several holes across the lawn, but his most frequent destination was a hole in our stonewall. Walter, the name I gave him, loved the protection the sturdy structure offered.

When Walter took his infrequent frozen pauses, I admired his striped back, twitching tail, and curious eyes. Delicate hands brought seed to his mouth. I noted Walter’s fur had a small black beauty mark on his right hip—so touching.

My daughter and I gathered a dozen acorns and lined them up along the top of Walter’s inherited wall; the next day, they disappeared.

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I tried to imagine Walter’s underground lair. You can’t trust those children’s picture books that show the chipmunk reclining in an easy chair with artwork on the wall. The typical chipmunk burrow would have several entrances, a nesting chamber complete with a comfy bed of leaves, and several side storage areas.

Their elaborate tunnel system could range from 10 to 30 feet long. As chipmunks excavate their tunnels, they transport loads of soil in their cheek pouches and scatter them away from the hole. It is no wonder Walter ran back and forth so many times.

I counted Walter among my list of friendly neighbors until I saw him transporting a cherry tomato from my vegetable garden. I scolded him, “Hey Walter, that’s not for you!” One tomato, I may have willingly donated. But, upon further investigation, I found it was not just the tiny ripe tomatoes that Walter liked; he had also taken generous bites out of my larger green tomatoes.

It was too much.

Turning to the internet, I found a recipe for a simple potion of cayenne pepper, garlic, and water. It was purported to be distasteful to chipmunks. With artist-like strokes, albeit using a barbeque basting brush, I applied the concoction to my tomatoes. To my delight, Walter decided the tomatoes didn’t taste so good after all.

As the summer days waned, I wondered what plans

“Last summer, I noticed a dramatic uptick in chipmunk activity in the yard of my Strafford, New Hampshire home; I couldn’t remember seeing chipmunks in prior years, yet now, our yard was Grand Central Station for the little critters.”

The real Walter was not available for a photo, this is his stand in.

Walter had for the winter. No doubt they included the truckload of nuts he had stored in the tunnels under my yard.

Professor Google told me that Walter would hibernate with a slowed heart rate and a lowered body temperature. But even in the deep of winter, he would arouse every few days to eat and then go back to sleep.

At several points this past winter, I wondered how Walter was doing. In mid-April, I caught my first glimpse of him.

“Walter, is that you?” I asked. He chirped and dashed across the yard. When he paused, I spotted that distinguishing black dot on his hip.

Chipmunks are generally solitary creatures. For a few weeks this spring, Walter allowed a second chipmunk in the yard. I even saw her using Walter’s tunnel entryways. “Walter, are you going to introduce me?” He ignored my question. I thought maybe I’d be hosting a chipmunk baby shower.

Midsummer, I hung a bird feeder from a tree branch.

Advertised as squirrel proof, it had wraparound wire fencing that allowed only small birds to enter. I filled it with sunflower seeds and enjoyed the visits of yellow warblers. One afternoon I noticed the seed level in my feeder was dropping rapidly.

Moments later, I caught Walter hanging upside down inside the fenced area, filling his cheeks with the last of my seed.

I abruptly took the birdfeeder down. “You ruined it for everyone, Walter,” I said.

Still, I admit I chuckled when he repeatedly returned to the branch where the bird feeder had been hanging, searching for that treasure trove of seeds.

Walter made me laugh again this week. I spotted him running across the yard with a long piece of grass caught in his foot. I was reminded of someone exiting the bathroom with toilet paper stuck to their shoe. I realized that Walter was a special friend, and there will never be a dull moment as I watch him prepare for a new season. H

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You may think it is strange If partners are arguing, then neither is listening, and both to use the word ‘choose,’ because are in pain. no one really wants to argue, The failure of a partner to show caring feelings produces but it happens. However, when a cycle of emotional re-injury. As pain is increased and partners make a coordinated intensified, the escalation occurs. Partners who are in pain effort they can eliminate tend to focus on their own experience and many of their disagreements. have difficulty considering the other persons Arguing between romantic partners may feelings; it is a selfish tendency that takes be common, but is neither necessary, helpful, place when people are in pain. nor productive; still, partners differences may Painful-venting session, Most couples don’t experience arguing have been part of the original attraction. as a choice; and so, to achieve this, the The most potent contributing factor to an known as an argument, option of whether or not to argue means argument is partner discomfort and pain. is destructive and only certain obstacles must be reduced. First, the Irritation, hurt, frustration and resentment insistence on being right must be dissolved. satisfying in the shortare examples. When some form of pain Debating accuracy about past events, judging has been triggered in one partner—often term because it provides a partner’s feelings as unreasonable, and unintentionally—a reaction is likely to also quick reduction of blaming instead of solving the problem is hurt the other partner. far from focusing on what went wrong and When both partners are simultaneously internal stress. But, in the deciding how to fix the problem. in pain the potential of an argument long-term, it produces A couple who keeps emotional intensity is high. low through self-control can succeed By venting their pain at each other, pain as unsolved at eliminating arguments and find partners generate an argument. The manner problems multiply. relationship bliss. of venting often includes blame and making With impulse control Painful-venting session, known as an the other wrong. argument, is destructive and only satisfying Most couples live with a mistaken belief and discipline couples in the short-term because it provides quick that if one feels hurt, the other is wrong. A may instead, opt to reduction of internal stress. But, in the longpain-venting session may be contrasted with term, it produces pain as unsolved problems a problem-solving discussion, which need have a problem-solving multiply. With impulse control and discipline not be hurtful or difficult. It is a controlled discussion. couples may instead, opt to have a problemdialogue instead of dramatic and intense. solving discussion.

Engaging in an argument is a choice, just as By taking turns listening to each other, anything we do; we ultimately decide in our they can lower their intensity. participation. It is about how or whether we Loving each other is well expressed through compassion for regulate the feelings and pain or avoid it. each other’s pain. Demonstrating care for the partner’s wellWhen unregulated, escalation is probable. In an argument, being adds to a strong loving relationship. Additionally, solving both partners are attempting to have their pain understood problems and being an effective problem-solving team builds and soothed at the same mutual respect and a deeper connection. H time. Gaining understanding is valuable but both partners Andrew Aaron, LICSW, is a sex and relationship therapist who can’t successfully achieve it simultaneously. practices in the New Bedford Seaport.

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The 34 evening and matinee concerts will include seven family-friendly kids

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These programs will also feature the Tanglewood Festival Chorus, under the direction of James Burton, returning to concertize for the first time since the onset of the pandemic. Symphony Hall will be festively decorated for the season, and patrons on the orchestra level can order food and drink from their caféstyle tables. H

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● Tenor Adam Diegel, who has received international critical acclaim for his powerful performance of Cavaradossi in Tosca at Glimmerglass Opera, will sing Turiddu. ● Mezzo-soprano Nina Yoshida Nelsen, a singer equally at home on opera and symphonic stages who has performed world premieres at Houston Grand Opera and Seattle Opera, and a Boston University graduate with a Bachelor’s in violin performance and a Master’s in Music (Opera), returns to Boston to sings Lucia; ● Chilean-American baritone Javier Arrey holds a Congressional Medal of Honor from the Chilean government both for his career and his work bringing opera to people without access to live performances. A veteran of opera productions and concerts alike, Arrey performs here as Alfio; and ● Grammy-nominated soprano Chelsea Basler, who has enjoyed a strong relationship with the company since debuting as an Emerging Artist in 2014 most recently voiced the ethereal Madeline in BLO’s operabox.tv production of “The Fall of the House of Usher” for BLO’s groundbreaking operabox.tv streaming service earlier this year, sings Lola.

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A fully live performance by the BLO is scheduled for two performances, October 1 and 3, 2021.

Composer Pietro Mascagni’s oneact verismo is a tale of love, betrayal, and death in a small Sicilian village.

Cavalleria Rusticana tells of four lovers that center on a returning soldier who finds his fiancée has married a different man. Seeking revenge, he seduces Santuzza, who suspects him of having an affair with Lola when he disappears after their time together. She, in turn, takes her revenge, telling Lola’s husband Alfio

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Both established and emerging artists will display in the [SOLO] Pavilion; selected Spotlight Artists will be found at the entrance of the Discoveries Collection, along with informative seminars specific to industry topics and trends.

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